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Rachel Penner
Research Paper 2
COMM365
March 2, 2013
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The issue of wives taking, or not taking, their husbands surnames after marriage
continues to be an issue fraught with power and gender dynamics, despite living in a time thats
been called the end of men (by author Hanna Rosin) in North America. Its an issue Ive been
following since 2006, and one I see as a telling symbol of gender equality.
In an article on surname changes, journalist Andrea Grimes frames it this way: If the
fight was over, your husband would be clamoring to take your name, and husbands are not
clamoring to do that. That to me is a great illustration of why it is important for women to keep
While precise stats dont seem to exist, various sources agree the percentage of women
keeping their names peaked in the 90s around 23 per cent, falling to 18 per cent in the 2000s
(most studies looked at marriage announcements in newspapers) (Pappas, 2011; Angyal, 2013).
Recent estimates suggest roughly 90 per cent of women today take their husbands names (Doll,
2012).
Just as disturbing, or possibly more so, is a recent study that found 71 per cent of
Americans agreed it was better for a woman to change her name upon marriage, with 50 per cent
The power of naming has historically belonged to men, particularly for those influenced
by the Genesis account of Adam naming the animals. Yet in a post-feminist world where
womens choice is supposedly supreme and women have the power to name themselves, why are
the majority still choosing two identifiers (surnames and the use of Mrs.) based on their
spousal relationship?
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I believe it is, in part, because of the two ways society has framed the discourse around
married surnames. First, it is a choice that only wives make, not husbands. Second, it is a choice
between two extremes: be an individual (keep your name) or be part of a collective (take his
name). Those who hyphenate attempt to bridge this divide, yet hyphenation can result in
awkward or lengthy surnames. And unless the children and husband hyphenate their names as
well, the womans surname still stands alone, thus separating her from her family even as she
The three waves of feminism saw women challenge and rewrite their prescribed gender
roles. But society has been less accepting of men who have tried to do the same thing. Women
can wear pants, but can men wear dresses? No, because maleness is still the default, and for a
And so, the post-marital name choice is, for all intents and purposes, restricted to woman.
How often, if ever, is the husband asked what he will do with his name? When no one is talking
about the mans choice, when the man keeping his name is not only the default its also not even
up for debate, then we are living in a discourse that forces spousal relationships into a power
hierarchy based on gender, with the man assumed to be on top. When men who do take their
wives names are exposed to state attempts to prevent them from doing so, we are part of a
When women today behave like women in the 50s, their behaviours are often placed in a
positive light because those behaviours are freely chosen. In the article about surname
changes, a businesswoman says changing her name at marriage wasnt a bow to traditionalism
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or a passive acceptance (Pappas, 2011). The nature of the choice has changed, because any
Feminist professor and writer Hugo Schwyzer blogged about his wifes choice to take his
Theres a lot to criticize about a simplistic I choose my choice! feminism. Our choices
are never made in a vacuum; rather, they are mediated by a host of complex and
frequently sexist cultural influences. This is why we should always discuss options and
explore alternatives. In the end the fact that [my wife] chose was modern; what she
chose wasnt. Whether theres any inconsistency there is the sort of thing feminists can
and will continue to debate for years to come. (Schwyzer, 2012, emphasis in text).
However, writer Clementine Ford is more cautious about calling women taking their
husbands names a feminist act. To me, that seems like another disingenuous attempt to
reinforce unequal social codes by masquerading them as something progressive (Ford, 2013).
I believe this post-feminist theme around choice is, in some ways, a guise to make
women feel powerful in instances where they dont actually have power. Where is the power in
choosing to keep or give up your name after marriage, when that is the only choice you have and
I believe the growing trend of women taking their husbands names demonstrates that
one feature of the post-feminist era is a backlash against women, a massive change back
In her 1993 book Fire with Fire, Naomi Wolf says this backlash is a natural human
response to a threatened and real loss of status (Wolf, p. 14). Men are not being asked to
share power, the way, in a good marriage, they are being asked to share the housework. They
When men start asking what theyll do with their names after marriage and when men
and women start challenging legislation preventing men from changing their names as easily as
women do, then we will have entered a new wave of feminism, one where men are brave enough
to not only allow women power but also abdicate some of their own.
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