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In Philippine custom and tradition, courtship is more subdued, discrete and indirect
compared to Western Cultures. This practice which dated back to the Spanish time strictly abides
to conservative norms set by the society for pursuing a woman. Traditionally, a man cannot just
approach a lady and ask for her name or address. If a man sees a woman she likes, he should
seek the help of a mediator or tulay in Tagalog, to ask the permission of the girls father if he can
visit her in their house. Harana or serenade, sending love letters and paninilbihan or servitude
are just some of the traditions being practiced by traditional Filipinos.
Today, although a lot of traditional courting practices are still being observed, there are
modifications and evolutions that have been made that give the traditional Filipino courtship a
modern version.
Now, the modernized courtship in the Philippines
revolves on the liberalism of Filipinos. With the influence
of Western culture through the intervention of modern
technologies, modern courtship these days is going fast.
Our very own Harana turned into a song dedication on
radio, love letters evolved into text messages, and
pamamanhikan later becomes a family dinner in
restaurants-making the traditional year-long courtship
turned into weeks, days or even a couple of hours.
With the advent of new technologies, little by little the
Philippine courtship becomes cheaper and cheaper
literally. In just a few hours of conversing through sending text messages and e-mails, one can
easily find a partner. With just a peso, (barely a peso since theres text promos now a days) the
courtship is being done.
No wonder relationships these days dont stay long compared before. This is because in the first
place, the foundation of the relationship is not strong. Now, you can just easily approach a lady
walking on the street and ask for her phone number. A few talking and flirting on the phone will
give you an instant boyfriend/girlfriend. You could even see couples having their first dates holding
hands and PDAs (Public Display of Affection). things that are completely forbidden in the context
of traditional courtship.
How to court a girl in our generation? Here are some of the tips:
Sincerity to Filipinos is measured not by saying what is right but by doing what is right.