Connecting with Inner Power

Posted on June 18, 2013 by Sen.

Love in the absence of power becomes dysfunc-

tional as does power in the absence of love, its
just that a person who is imbalanced towards
the nature of love is usually seen as the victim
while a person who is imbalanced towards power
is seen as a cold-hearted jerk or something evil
they are both being negative because of
their imbalance, one is not worse than the other,
just differ flavors of negativity, its just that the
person imbalanced in love gets a lot of sympathy
while the power-imbalanced person doesnt. If
you are getting a lot of sympathy from people
and are surreptitiously enjoying it (or finding re-
lief in it), or if you like entering into a state of
self-pity, it shows that there is something very imbalanced in your state of being you can give your-
self the balm of seeing yourself as the good person who got victimized, and subconsciously get a
high from it, but it doesnt do anything to make your life more functional. There is also the constant
propaganda, in many teachings, that reference love as the ultimate solution to all evil (evil is just
another word for imbalanced behavior), however the reality is that a balance between love and power
is what ultimately creates the dissolution of imbalance love alone is ineffective, just as power alone
is ineffective, towards dissolving negativity.

Each of us, being created in life-energy, has access to the nature of love (light nature) as well as the
nature of power (dark nature), and no-one is an exception. Its just that the realm of physical living
can create a lot of imbalances based on physical design, and until one becomes aware of ones ability
to find conscious balance, the tendency is to keep fueling the imbalances that seem to be imposed.
For example, consider a lion and a deer, the lion by its physical design is a predator and thus a soul
inhabiting this body is very likely to get imbalanced towards power, while a deer is physically designed
to be docile, depending on its meekness to protect itself by running-away from danger at the slightest
hint of it, and a soul inhabiting this body would very likely become imbalanced towards over-sensitivi-
ty/meekness in fact, even the physical features, or the looks, of a lion are threatening whereas
the looks of a deer are endearing/tender. In fact, its very common to compare people, who are imbal-
anced towards power, with lions (or some other predator), while people who are imbalanced in love
(over-sensitive/meek) are compared to a rabbit or deer. This is just an analogy to give you an under-
standing of how the physical body, that you inhabit, can have a certain design that causes you to be-
come imbalanced towards a certain nature, of power or love.

If you take this perspective one-level higher, and think about the non-physical realm, it can be imag-
ined that the balanced source energy is split into two streams the dark-natured stream and the
light-natured stream. Creations stemming from the light-natured stream, including souls, are polar-
ized in an imbalance of love, whereas creations stemming from the dark-natured stream are polarized
in an imbalance of power. Why should a balanced source create two imbalanced streams? Basically,
for the experience of a conscious understanding of your nature of balance/wholeness its required that
you have an experience of imbalance without experiencing imbalance you cant ever know, or ap-
preciate, what balance/wholeness is, just like you cant know what sweet is until you know what sour
is, you need contrast for realization. Imbalance is not a mistake, its a requirement towards the expe-
rience of conscious-balance, and in that sense imbalance has a value to serve. Irrespective of your
current imbalance, and irrespective of the physical proclivities you may have in your current body,
you can bring forth a balance in yourself (balancing the light and dark, or love and power aspects)
through your awareness/consciousness no-one is doomed to imbalance, its just that it takes a cer-
tain level of awareness to work on conscious balance; if youve reached a point where you can be
aware of your imbalances it would mean that you have enough awareness to bring forth a conscious
balance (if you are willing to, without making excuses).

Freedom requires connection with power

It can be said that its not love that brings freedom, it is power that does. Love is required to temper
your power so that it does not get out of hand. If you feel like you dont have a sense of freedom in
some area of your life, that you desire, its simply an indication of a lack of connection with inner-
power. For example, lets say that you are addicted to smoking and find it to be like an imprison-
ment, its an indication of powerlessness, you can be a very loving person but that will not help you
find freedom from the addiction, whats needed is a connection with power. To cite another example,
lets say that you are highly attracted to a person, but you also see that the attraction is not serving
any purpose (or may be its dysfunctional), and you feel like you are becoming a prisoner to this at-
traction, it would be an indication of powerlessness on your part. The only way you can come out of it
is by connecting with your inner power to a point where it over-rides the pull of attraction. To be stuck
in situations like financial instability, where you constantly feel powerless because of financial lack, or
aspects like social anxiety, where you feel powerless towards other people (and their behavior or
judgments), is all an external manifestation, or externally induced experience, resulting from the re-
flection of the lack of inner-power (the outside is the reflection of the inside).

Love is a great healer, but its not very useful in contexts where you need to find your freedom. To try
to use love to solve everything is a very narrow-minded approach, or a rigid approach, that will have
imbalanced consequences. When I talk about the state of allowing, a lot of people take it as some
pointer towards love, they start equating it to some technique about trying to love everything that
arises, and so they come back stating that I cant be okay with a lot of things that arise, though I
keep trying to be okay, trying to be loving towards it all in truth, the state of allowing is an open-
ness towards the balance of dark and light aspects in you, which means that it cant just be about
connecting with love. Being open to what arises, doesnt mean that you have to be loving towards
what arises, so if hatred is what arises then allow that aspect in you without guilt, without justifica-
tion, and if agitation is what arises in you then allow this agitation, without trying to force peace,
without trying to get loving. Allowing is an inner work, to allow something in you doesnt mean that
you have to take external action towards it, for example, you can allow a huge load of anger/hatred
towards someone, internally, without suppression, without needing to exhibit an action like throwing a
tantrum, or things, at that person. Allowing a feeling/thought within you, doesnt mean that you will
take action on that feeling/thought the allowing is just a way to bring forth a balance of energy
within you, caused by a release of imbalanced momentum, so that your actions can then come from a
balanced place.

There are some people who try to practice the state of allowing as some technique to find relief
from their imbalances. Of course, the state of allowing is ultimately going to bring an inner balance
and thus a relief from the momentum of imbalances, however if your attitude is one of I just want
relief then you are already operating from a very powerless place, and hence cannot truly connect
with openness (state of allowing). When I read some comments that go along the lines of I am try-
ing to allow, but I dont seem to get any relief from my fears/agitation, it seems apparent that the
they are simply using the concept of allowing without connecting with the attitude of true allow-
ing. The attitude of true allowing is when you stop caring about the end-result of finding relief, or
finding anything extra-ordinary, when you stop wanting an escape, when you can allow yourself to be
fully in the presence of pain/discomfort without needing a cop-out, when you can stop asking for
peace and are willing to allow agitation in its fullness, when you can stop seeking assurance and can
be fully allowing of uncertainty (the fear of it) and if you really understood this attitude you would
never say I tried, but I am not getting it, because your attitude would be to allow even this aspect
of not getting it. It takes a connection with inner-power to allow anything to be without cringing to
its influence, and even if you cringe you can allow that without getting identified with this reaction.
Connecting with power is an internal choice

If the state of allowing is not giving you a taste of your power, as a being, it just means that you are
not really in sync with the attitude required for openness. Of course, if you cant let go of defending
your powerlessness then there is nothing that can be done for you when you start defending your
powerlessness, you are making an internal choice to side with it, it becomes an excuse, it becomes an
internal belief, it becomes a habit, an addiction, which you are not willing to let go of though you keep
saying that you want to let go of it. Without making a commitment towards letting go of defending
your powerlessness, you cant really internalize the teachings towards finding balance. There is no
force that can over-ride your sense of inner-power, once you make a choice towards, and thats what
true freedom is there are people who feel helpless to their fears, to their anger, to their attraction,
to their passion, to their external situation, and in all of this is the indication of a disconnection with
inner-power.

It never feels good to indulge in powerless behavior, it saps your energy, it drains your sense of confi-
dence, it degrades your character, it hacks away at your integrity and leaves you feeling miserable to
say the least. And yet, a lot of us, constantly, keep choosing to connect with behaviors of powerless-
ness. If you look at it, aspects like jealousy, seeking approval, chronic complaining, playing the blame
game, self-pity, defensiveness, power-games (seeking control through imposition), emotional needi-
ness, are all aspects of powerless behavior. If something can influence you to the point where you
lose your sense of stability, wisdom and character, it shows that you are not fully connected with your
sense of inner-power. When you are truly connected with your inner-power, nothing can influence you
in a manner of creating instability.

When I say that connecting with inner-power is a choice, its simply a direct pointer to the fact that
ultimately its up to you to make the choice to connect with an attitude of power which eventually al-
lows you to integrate the nature of power in your being. You can visit as many therapists as you want,
you can have as many spiritual retreats, but in the end unless you make an internal choice to get in
touch with the attitude of openness, aligned with power, you cant come to a place of freedom within
you. Inner freedom in its true sense is a freedom to exist without being influenced into instability by
any force. You cannot become free of the dark and light nature aspects of living, but you can become
free from becoming unstable under their influence. You can feel anything, and you can think any-
thing, without getting lost to its influence, always having a space of freedom that allows you to re-
main stable and objective.

The cost of connecting with inner-power

A reality of life is that everything has a cost attached to it, you cant get something for nothing you
need to let go of something in order to get something, there is no such thing as having the best of
both worlds. This is the reason why I talk about the ordinariness of life, nothing is a perfect condi-
tion, nothing is extra-ordinary because everything has an aspect of dark nature along with light na-
ture. This includes finding inner freedom or finding a balance towards the state of power. There is a
cost attached towards finding this balance, and the cost is the loss of imbalanced drive. You may
think that losing the imbalanced drive has to be a good thing, but thats a relative perspective be-
cause one can say that having an imbalanced drive can allow for a lot of thrills and excitement, and
losing it can feel like a real loss. A balanced drive has very different feel than an imbalanced drive, it
lacks the punch, rather it has a very neutral sense, its not dull but its not exhilarating either, it
lacks the dreaminess and even the deluded innocence, rather it feels very objective.

For example, in a state of imbalance, the feeling of being attracted to someone can be very exhilarat-
ing, it creates a drive or a motivation that stems from the desire to be with this person accompanied
by a lot of delusional thinking about how perfect life can be with him/her, the heart feels upbeat the
brain feels a constant rush of all the good feeling chemicals (especially from aspects of anticipation),
and it can all feel really great. However, before you know it, you start feeling powerless to this attrac-
tion, the object of your attraction starts having a power over you, the fact that the attraction feels so
good also becomes the reason why you feel this helpless pull towards wanting the object of attrac-
tion its just like how a drug addict gets hooked to the amazing feeling of high that he/she feels
every time the drug is injected, eventually feeling helpless towards wanting that feeling/sensation. As
you can see, everything comes at a cost, in this case the feeling of attraction comes at a cost of loss
of power/stability. You can start becoming needy, anxious and restless, owing to the obsession with
your object of attraction, and motivations can stem from this place of powerlessness, eventually re-
sulting in some form of an imbalanced reflection.

To stay true to your balance you have to make the choice of letting go of all motivations that are dri-
ven by the state of powerlessness this has to be your attitude, the internal choice that you make ir-
respective of the consequences. If you feel powerless towards something, you would have to make
the choice to let go of being pulled by its force in a very conscious manner it can/does feel painful
but if you are afraid of dealing with pain then you cant find inner-freedom, because you will give up
your power the moment pain arises. As you stay with this attitude of letting go of being pulled by the
force of powerlessness, soon enough all the drives, that are rooted in imbalance, start losing their
momentum this is how you find a connection with power at the cost of letting go of the excitement,
drama and fascination, of the imbalanced drives.

Some of the common drives that can get rooted in imbalance are as below
 Sexual drive being fascinated by aspects of sexual attraction or energy
Drive for adventure fascinated by the high of risks and on-the-edge activities
Emotional attraction fascinated by the emotions instigated by the object of attraction
Sensual drive fascinated by sensual indulgence mostly in the form of taste and smell
The drive of discipline fascinated/addicted to the aspect of suppression and control
The drive of intellect fascinated by aspects of thinking/reasoning/philosophizing
The drive of aggression fascinated by gore, violence and rage (found as the basis for the suc-
cess of most gore based video games)
The drive for success fascinated by the high of achievement and recognition

In a state of low-awareness, people are just lost to different kinds of drives, its like they are driven
by these drives like a robot. A higher level of awareness is to realize how helpless/powerless youve
become to the drives, and usually this awareness can come through when you are suffering from the
imbalance created by the drive. As you grow further in awareness, you can no longer give in to a
drive, you can no longer continue fueling the powerless behavior. This is usually when you might start
looking for ways to find inner freedom, to gain your sense of stability, to overcome the suffering cre-
ated in this place of helplessness. The most direct way is to go through a phase of release where you
consciously let go of connecting with the pull of the drive, without suppressing it in you, this basically
what the state of conscious allowing is. The release allows for the momentum, of the drive, to ebb
away, and the drives no longer have a pull over you, enabling you to stay true to your sense of power
and wisdom.

Losing power based on deluded thinking

If you think that something is extra-ordinary, its very likely that you will have a sense of powerless-
ness towards it. When you have a sense of extra-ordinariness towards something its quite a given
that you are rooted in some form of a delusional thinking, because in reality everything is deeply ordi-
nary (simply because everything has a mix of light and dark). This sense of extra-ordinariness can
come from a place of innocence, ignorance, low-awareness or just an unwillingness to see reality, as
it is, out of fear. When you give something an extra-ordinary status, you become powerless to it and
your actions take a slavish, or servile, flavor, thus losing the sense of inner-freedom. This is when
you start feeling imprisoned, and can start losing your sense of character, integrity, esteem, responsi-
bility and reason, going deeper and deeper into the enslavement.

A realization that is bound to set in, as you grow in awareness, is the deep ordinariness of life not in
a negative sense of feeling dull and drab, but in an objective sense of seeing reality in its wholeness
of light and dark. You can then no longer hold on to delusional thoughts about anything or anyone
no feeling, no idea, no person, no object, creates a sense of extra-ordinariness in you. When nothing
feels extra-ordinary to you, nothing can influence you towards instability. However, this sense of ordi-
nariness cannot just be a conceptual idea that you use as some protective mechanism to feel superi-
or/good about yourself, neither is it meant to be some philosophical outlook towards life, it is some-
thing that you naturally come to understand, in your being, as you find inner-freedom through the
state of allowing.

You can love without having a sense of awe towards the object of love, you can have an interest with-
out being lost of the interest when you can do this it would mean that you have a balance between
love and power, in yourself. To be lost to love is weakness, and it is delusional, and it does bring forth
an eventual crash. True balance is when you can be attached and detached at the same time, its not
a paradox, its just the natural state of being when you have an inner balance you are not powerless
to your attachment and you are not powerlessly trying to detach either, you dont detach from a place
of fear but you can detach at will when needed and you dont get into the emotionally-leeching expe-
rience of smothering someone/something with your attachment. To be lost to love can be a beautiful
experience until it starts revealing the degrading effects of your powerlessness. In a state of balance
you will lose the innocence, and spark, of blind love but you will have the wisdom to attract stable re-
lationships which are not draining to your functionality as a being this includes relationship with
your work/expression, with your sensitivity, with your mind, with people, or life in general.

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41 Comments
Markus
June 18, 2013 at 6:05 pm

Good post, Sen. Will you follow up with one about the dark side of this imbalance, too? That is, one
who is overly attached to power or control, but less connected to love? My experience lets me relate
to this post, Id be curious to read your view of what the dark-natured person might be in this con-
text.

Fingaladinga
June 18, 2013 at 11:01 pm

What you said about allowing as a practice as opposed to an attitude, when I am in the middle of a
layer of detox, sometimes, I can feel my mind trying to turn it into a technique, to get it just right, to
TRY to be aware, or allowing, as opposed to just doing it. Sometimes it takes a while, but when I
eventually do realize that Im being sucked into this, it usually goes away immediately and the differ-
ence between my inner wholeness and my negativity becomes much greater, until the layer subsides.
So what youre saying is that your inner wholeness is not something to actively USE to dissolve the
negativity, but something to connect with while the intensity of your negativity does what it is trying
to do anyway, which is leave the body.

Also, just to get it right. Your imbalances ARE naturally trying to leave the body, but its your ego, not
you, that wants to hold onto them to fuel itself, but because you can take the ego to be who you are,
you eventually find that it is YOU who is trying to hold onto the imbalances?

Even though my old fears/hates/angers are taking a while to deal with, I have gained enough aware-
ness to not attract any new fears into my life; the last one happened two years ago, when I devel-
oped a fear/hatred of music (which I used to really love. I still do, but if I listen to certain songs I
used to enjoy, it ends up not being worth it, like trying to eat an electrified ice cream cone). I blamed
my brothers friend because he lived with us for six months and would drum on EVERYTHING, ALL
THE TIME, despite the fact that we told on a constant basis him it was getting on all our nerves, and
we couldnt kick him out because he literally had nowhere else to go (which doesnt surprise me). I
also developed fears of many many other sounds because of this guys behavior (and my high mind
momentum of course), and I thought my life was over until I found your site. Even though I still curse
him out once in a blue moon, in moments of intense negativity, I am on the path to forgiving him, be-
cause hes not smart enough to realize what he was doing (you can ask anyone I know).

Just like you said in other posts, sometimes it feels like I am nearing the end of my detox (it feels like
it has hit auto mode, but Im not sure, but I mean to not worry about that), only to be struck by an-
other suffocating layer of negativity. I have been detoxing for quite a few months now, but every once
in a while, I do find myself getting swept up in the negativity and blaming and cursing the outside for
the way I feel, feeling frustrated that these feelings STILL exist, and wondering if it actually does
have an end, or if life is just jerking me around. This usually happens after a period of relief, though I
am almost always aware of the fact that I am simply being swept up in the negativity during these
moments, even during the actual moment its happening (though sometimes I end up just getting an-
gry that i got swept up again beating myself up for being negative, and fearing that I have delayed
the release EVEN MORE!). I never really get stuck like this for long though (not anymore) and after a
good several minutes I can usually allow the intensity to subside.

By this point, it feels like there are two people in me. One is the real me (the wholeness) and the oth-
er is a spoiled child tugging and kicking my leg and screaming what it wants at the top of its lungs. I
indulged this little brat for ten years, and that whole time thought that was who I was!

And maybe this is not quite accurate, but I like to imagine this aligning process as a jug filled with
water. The water represents the imbalance, and the tipping of the jug to let the water spill out repre-
sents the decision to align with balance. The water spills out, not all at once, but goes GLUG GLUG
GLUG. Each GLUG is a layer of imbalance getting released, and the space before the next GLUG is the
period of relief. Since each GLUG is more or less the same in intensity/amount, based on that alone it
can be hard to tell when it is nearing the end; but sooner or later, inevitably, it runs out of water com-
pletely.

Im not exactly sure why I felt the need to write all this, since there is not a whole lot in the way of
questions, but once again I would like to say that your words have helped to put a whole new per-
spective on what Im going through, and help to get/keep me on a better track. So thanks again!

Michael
June 19, 2013 at 1:13 am

This post helped further solidify the ordinariness of life for me. Ive been able to point out the
light/dark in every situation I could want or imagine. It may be helpful for people who are newer to
the site than me:

Current: Unemployed and home all the time. (light) No real responsibilities, can sleep late, can do
what I want, no distractions from this process. (dark) Incredibly boring, same few activities repeat-
ed over and over, very little money, and am isolated.

Imagined Future: Employed for 40 hours a week. (light) I am occupied, I can meet new people, I
can get money, and leisure activities would feel more rewarding. (dark) I would have to get up early,
I cant do whatever I want, work may not be that great, and leisure plans would revolve around the
work schedule.

I am afraid of the feeling behind the balance though, because I keep thinking there will be consistent
boredom, or at least the flavor of ho hum to everything, regardless if you were on a cruise ship or in
the lake with friends (just referring to fun in general, because the cruise isnt more extraordinary).
The only reason I wonder is because Im not there yet, so even if I asked a million more questions, I
still wouldnt really know. The feeling you describe seems like an emptiness, even though I know the
external isnt going to give you a lasting good feeling, so it seems pretty confusing.

Markus
July 2, 2013 at 6:33 pm

Michael: I am afraid of the feeling behind the balance though, because I keep thinking there will be
consistent boredom, or at least the flavor of ho hum to everything

This sounds like someone whose old pattern is to rely on the external for joy. The difference is not
that you will enjoy things less, rather that you will not be pulled by the possible joy as the strongest
motivation. You make choices with wisdom instead of delusion.

The feeling you describe seems like an emptiness, even though I know the external isnt going to
give you a lasting good feeling, so it seems pretty confusing.

Far from being empty, it feels richer to me. When each experience or activity is done with intent and
awareness, one gets more out of it. If one simply goes to work or cleans his house because he must
(and does so while wishing he were elsewhere), he is not living right now. If I go to work or clean my
house because it is the right choice today (and am present in the experience), I am living in the now
experiencing life. With this attitude, almost anything can bring satisfaction. Satisfaction is no longer
limited to things that will give a short-lived high.

If I could tell my 19 year-old self what a typical day in our life looks like now, he would probably get
quite depressed. Now I would not go back to the delusional imbalance of my youth for anything. Then
I enjoyed life because I did this or that, or somebody liked me. Now I enjoy life because I am alive
and aware. It matters little what I do or what somebody else thinks about it. Does that help answer
your confusion?

Anonymous
June 19, 2013 at 8:56 am

Best thing i have read so far (and i am an ardent reader)!! So relevant.

Anjali
June 19, 2013 at 10:03 am

I picked up the main idea in this post ie ability to watch our thoughts or drives as a detached observ-
er.Then picking up the conscious will to take the balanced approach towards the fleeting thought pat-
terns.We have a power to be powerful or powerless.I really liked your deeper understanding of the
concept of allowing.Thanks very much for sharing such profound truths in a simpler and easy to
comprehend words which were considered very extraordinary earlier.

Best Wishes!

Prema
June 19, 2013 at 10:42 am

Thank you Sen for this article, I cant tell you how timely this is; everything that youve said res-
onates with me. I now feel quipped to make the necessary adjustments to create authentic balance.
Youve opened my consciousness to the fact that everything is deeply ordinary I look forward to al-
lowing that concept to grow and establish itself in me. Blessings and peace, Prema

Mark
June 20, 2013 at 2:31 am

Outstanding Sen. Thank you for your helps and this article. I can start consciously with any objects
that i feel powerless to it. If true balance is a state where everything is ordinary, that would be an
ideal state for me, nothing can beat the calm, peaceful joy when I am connected with my being. But I
am also afraid of feeling dull of everything though. One question Sen, for a guy, I am quite thin, and I
am sure that this physical body that I inhabit is a sign of powerlessness, just like you said. When I am
connected with the sense of power in me, or I can when I have reached true balance state, will my
physical body change along with the change of my awareness and reflecting my balance of power ex-
ternally through it?

Priya
June 20, 2013 at 9:08 am

thank you sen. very timely post.

Ankush
June 20, 2013 at 3:10 pm

simply brilliant. After reading this article I was able to sense what true freedom reallly is. Neither su-
pression nor identification with state of mind. really eye opening. Thanks a lot for your splendid work.

Tino
June 20, 2013 at 6:57 pm

I love this post by you Sen. For a few months iv been struggling to get into this space of total allow-
ing. I always wondered to myself whether i was doing it right, but the evidence was clear that i
wasnt. For instance, you mention that when one is aligned with the state of allowing, there will be no
dont in you that you are on the right path, and i was feeling a lot of dout, and very shifts in my per-
ception of reality. But since reading this post, i realised that my problem lay in an imbalance towards
light nature, and i had no idea what dark nature was, so i couldnt integrate into my awareness. And
judging from some of the comments, it seems people were a bit confused about the dichotomy, and
the essence (love and power) of light and dark nature, and how they integrate. But this post has
cleared it up for me, i understand now, and now i feel the integration happening in my awareness.,
even as i write this comment. I know my journeys just beginning,and it will be a bit challenging, but i
have comfort knowing i am on the right path. I couldnt thank you enough

Waltz
June 20, 2013 at 8:05 pm

A couple of days ago, I felt something shift in me. I understood at that time that it was simply my
being who became disidentified with the babbling of the mind. For quite a while, I was able to stay as
this space of relaxed awareness, and it felt really great, really freeing.
But now mind has come back into full control and I cant seem to reach that place anymore. Every
time I sit to stay as relaxed awareness, its just my mind trying to no longer identify with itself, and I
cant simply allow this to be. Then I realize its just the mind trying to be allowing, which gets me
even more frustrated and I try even more.
Ive fallen into this loop, and its being very hard to go back :/
Any help would be appreciated.

Michael
June 20, 2013 at 9:50 pm

Waltz, youre not regressing, its just that you got this taste when your momentum was low and
now that more has come up to be released, you cant feel the place you tasted. I was pretty relaxed
last week, then more came up and I feel quite sluggish and get cramps all over my body. Not pleas-
ant, but I know whats going on, so theres not much reason to worry.

Mark
June 21, 2013 at 1:52 am

Waltz,

Actually you dont need any help, continue allowing whatever is arises, either thoughts or emotions.
Understanding or clarity indeed liberate you from the delusional mind, belief, or perspective. But re-
member, you had been lost in identification for years, the mind is still having its momentum, so this
feels like you are having a regression or stuck feeling, but the truth is, you are not. Its just that you
aware of this pattern even more and get the understanding of it, you see though it, so the release is
happening faster, the ego is suffocating, thats why it keeps spewing those thoughts, its harmless,
but quite obnoxious. I also experienced this kind of situation for a while, but recently life helped me a
lot with all the events, the thoughts/emotions that was quite intense, now has reduced in intensity. I
also got some understanding from the events and Sens blog. Keep reading Sens article, you will get
a lot of understanding from it. Only you can help yourself by consciously allowing, be patient, life will
assist you.

Viraj
June 21, 2013 at 9:25 am

Hello Sen,

How are you?This is a very nice post.I wanted to ask you a few questions.I have a bit of fear and anx-
iety momentum left in me.Earlier I spent days deliberately facing my fears.I have been doing this for
years.The reason was I thought I was making progress in reducing my fears.Though this has worked
to some degree,its not helping me now.My mind produces guilt if I lose my power to fearful thoughts
and bullies me to go and face them deliberately.This has been happening a lot since past few weak-
s.About fear momentum,I am still not comfortable with it when it arises.However after some 10-20
minutes it quickly loses its hold over me.Also my sensitivity is getting balanced slowly but sure-
ly.What is your opinion about the guilt that I experience?Also I am taking things very slowly and
things have improved from worse to manageable since last year.Sometimes I feel like I am the only
one going through this and I feel very disconnected from everyone.Again Thanks!

Marcy
June 21, 2013 at 1:27 pm
Sen!May I summarise your teachings?It is to allowing everything that comes from within,witness it
and let go.Eventually learn from the wisdom which comes along.Take balanced decisions pertaining to
your set up and move on!Importantly we are here to learn and enjoy life!Am I right?

Sen Post author

June 23, 2013 at 9:25 pm

Marcy, the need for simplicity should not come from the mental need for a technique to hold imple-
ment allow, witness and let go, can easily become some kind of a mental technique (as some pro-
tective mechanism) that you start executing blindly, and thats never the point of what I infer by the
state of allowing. The deal of allowing is to be open to what arises in you (emotionally or in your
thoughts) without trying to fight it, without suppressing it, or getting over-identified with it, irrespec-
tive of whether its dark-nature (like a strong feeling of fear, sadness) or light-natured (like over-ex-
citement), simply allowing the momentum/intensity to come up in this openness. The momentum will
keep getting released in this state of openness so that you can reach a place of inner-stability free of
past momentum. From this place of stability you will have the freedom to operate on wisdom instead
of operating by the pull of the imbalanced momentum (of emotions or thoughts), the way of living
from wisdom while operating from the place of inner-freedom is what I call balanced living of course
the two core elements of living is growth and enjoyment, its not just about enjoyment and its not
just about growth, a balanced mindset is aligned with both these aspects without suppressing either.

Mark
June 22, 2013 at 1:52 am

I have read this article for a few times already, and I finally grasp the importance of this inner power
and the concept of allowing. Turns out that I was still clinging to the relief after release some times,
so thats why I sometimes feel that nothing is getting released. And I can feel the glimpse of inner
power, its like I dont care about it, but not because of fear of the pain or the fear of fear, its like this-
is-meaningless feeling, nothing special, and I can feel something that is indestructible force, the force
of stillness, calmness, though its just a glimpse, but I can relieve for a while that I made progress.
And like Sen said, its completely up to us whether to we want to connect with our inner power or not.

Questioner
June 23, 2013 at 4:23 pm

Sen,

Ive always thought once I finally get enlightened, then I will be able to truly love, to be in true
peace, happiness, sense a true energy of life, vitality

Its what most of other spiritual teachers has told when you listen anyone of them, be it Mooji,
Adyashanti, Tolle or Osho they all talk about the state of (out-of?)mind that is described always as
something EXTRAORDINARY they describes the deep peace, the deep sense of unity, and the vitali-
ty, and much stronger sensory feelings which allows to enjoy everything much better&deeper etc.

So, how it comes when Tolle tolds about his experiences, like, for example, about how he enjoys na-
ture or silence (he always spokes about it in a very enthusiastic manner, always describing it as some-
thing very very very beautiful) it means that he is deluded? Or when Osho talks about the pure joy
of dancing and singing is he deluded too? They are talking about something which seemingly has no
dark side of the coin which is delusion according to your view What is the dark nature elements
in peace, joy, silence the states of consciousness these teachers pretending to be living ALL THE
TIME, 24 hours a day? So are they deluded, or maybe there really is a possibility to live the life, in-
habiting only (or mostly) the light nature aspect of it? For example, why its not possible to love with
a feeling of awe, with a feeling of extraordinariness towards your beloved one and still be connected
to your inner power, be independent? From what you wrote, it really turns out that life has to be
something grey and dull it will be stable and neutral ONLY then? Ive always thought otherwise
when one becomes more stable/peaceful/enlightened, he will experience life much stronger, with
more vitality, it will become more colorful, not grey Is it really that there is only 2 sets of life:

1st Life set: strong positive emotions and strong negative emotions (i.e. rollercoaster ride
2nd Life set: weak/unimpacting positive and negative emotions/thoughts, neutral, dull state and
stability/peace/wisdom

To me, it seems, that Tolle, Osho, Mooji and actually many other common people has found a third
way to live with strong stability/peace/wisdom but also at the same time with strong vitality and
positive emotions joy, happiness AND extraordinary experiences

Sen Post author

June 23, 2013 at 9:13 pm

Questioner, Ive never referred to the state of balance as neutral/dull, neither do I call it a place
lacking vitality, I talk about stability and ordinariness but it doesnt mean dullness, I call it a state
where you can operate from wisdom without the motivation of imbalanced drive. To me deluded
thinking and imbalanced drives are over-excited states that are contrary to the state of stability,
and these states are present in people who keep clinging to some concept of extra-ordinariness, in-
cluding several students/followers of the teachers that you mentioned the teachers themselves may
be balanced, but the way they use some words can delude the students (because the students dont
have a first hand understanding of whats being talked about). There are innumerable seekers who
spend years trying to get the experience of extra-ordinariness that they imagine the teacher is talk-
ing about, their imagination of extra-ordinariness keeps them stuck.

Just imagine, how you would describe an elephant to a blind man you can describe it in the most
extra-ordinary ways like a poet, or you can describe it in a very objective way. I prefer describing the
journey of balance in a very objective way, thats just my way of teaching. If it resonates with you its
fine, if it doesnt you would have to pursue something that resonates with you in your current aware-
ness. I am not saying that the teachers who are more poetic are wrong, its just that their way of
teaching is different the only problem with poetic teachings is that they can easily delude a seek-
er, just like how a blind man can get a very distorted image of an elephant if the a poet describes it to
him. But all teachings have their place, there are people with different levels of awareness that need
different types of teachings, you can only resonate with a teaching that talks to you at a level that
you can understand based on your receptivity and awareness.

The Buddha talked about the Middle path, he didnot talk about extra-ordinariness. He talked about
the end of suffering (psychological suffering) but he did not talk about endless bliss there is a dif-
ference between no psychological suffering and endless bliss. There is a story when a woman
came to the Buddha with her dead son and told Buddha I know you an extra-ordinary person, and
you can bring my son back to life, and give me my joy back, the Buddha told her that he would re-
vive her son if she could bring a few grains of rice from a household in which there has never been a
death. She went around looking for such a household, but she couldnt find one, every household had
experienced some form of death at some point. She came back to Buddha saying that it was not pos-
sible to find such a household, the Buddha said In the same way, its not possible for me to do some-
thing thats not aligned with the nature of life, I am not extra-ordinary. Death is a part of living, and
you cant feel joy about death (unless you are forcing it in some suppressed way), but death is un-
avoidable (the birth of new requires the death of the old, if nothing died there would be huge imbal-
ance), even if you are enlightened you will still feel sad about the loss of someone (if you dont it just
means you are disconnected with your sensitivity due to some deluded suppression) of course you
can call sadness also as extra-ordinary in which case I have nothing to say, it would just be the
choice of words. In the state of balance you are not lost to sadness just like you are not lost to joy,
thats what stability is its not dullness, its just balance.

In a state of stability you are no longer prone to aspects of psychological suffering because you have
no resistance to the true nature of life (the light and dark nature elements of life, the yin/yang as-
pects of life), but that doesnt meant that you are just clinging to bliss (pure light nature). Of
course, some teachers can describe the state of no psychological suffering as bliss, but, like I said,
it can give a very deluded picture to the mind a student. Growth is an inherent nature of life-energy,
its not static, its nature is keep growing or moving forward. In the state of balance you are free of
psychological suffering, but that doesnt mean that you are free from the nature of growth and
growth always involves change, contrast, relative-improvement and challenge. If you imagine that
you will reach a place where you can sit forever in the lotus position in eternal bliss, you are yet to
have a clear view of the reality of life the only problem is that a lot of teachers seem to allude to
such a state based on their extra-ordinary words. If you look at Zen teachings you will see how they
emphasize on the ordinariness of life, one of the core Zen teachings is Chop wood, carry water, be-
fore enlightenment, chop wood, carry water, after enlightenment (Tolle refers to these teachings
many times, so I dont see how Tolle can be a proponent of some state of extra-ordinariness).
Adyashanti also talks a lot about the deal of ordinariness, he never says that hes experiencing an ex-
tra-ordinary bliss (in fact, in many teachings he talks about how most students are stuck in this
wrong idea), he just talks about how all experiences have their place the lows and the highs. The
only difference between an unconscious state and a conscious state is the absence of delusion, the
connection with reality.

Just consider this simple reality change is permanent, nothing is static in life, change can bring joy
but change also involves loss, and since everything is prone to change nothing is extra-ordinary or
perfect, everything dissolves. The most amazing beauty turns into a withering state of decay with
time, how extra-ordinary is the beauty if its so temporary in its presence? Again, its just the way
things are described someone can describe the same thing in a very beatific manner, but I would
rather describe it the way I see it. I see life in a very objective manner, and I call spade a spade, but
you can call spade as a beautifully shaped, sharp tool, that is used to enjoy the amazing experience
of digging sand the difference is the poetic nature of how its described. When I say life is ordi-
nary I dont mean life is drab and boring, I am just being objective about the reality of life which is
an interplay of yin/yang or light/dark, you cant have light without dark (light depends on dark to
know its identity, joy depends on sadness to know itself as joy). The more aware you become the
more likely you are to see the reality of life as it is, and after that its upto you how you describe it
you can call ordinary as extra-ordinary if you so wish, its just that the highest amount of deluded
thinking, and deluded actions, happen under this imagination of extra-ordinariness (the communists
in China were sure that communism was the solution to everything, for them the idea of communism
was extra-ordinary, which they thought would solve everything and bring absolute order and peace,
they killed millions based on this delusion thats the problem with delusion of some perfect state,
its easy to make spirituality into one such idea).

Questioner
June 24, 2013 at 9:35 am

Sen,

I dont talk about endless bliss but about a living thats basically connected only to light nature. And
I can find many qoutes from Tolle and others which indicated that they are living this reality of light
nature almost only (or mostly).

For example, in one interview Tolle was asked, if he had experienced some negative emotions in last
years. He could remember only one time when he felt a small wave of irritation when he saw a larger
dog biting the smaller one and the owner of larger dog did nothing to stop it. And at the same time
Tolle talks about that in the background of his being there is always deep peace and joy (sometimes
stronger, sometimes weaker but always).

Well, if peace and joy is ordinary for you, then OK, for me as a person who has lived mostly in anxi-
ety it seems extraordinary and rather anxiety seems ordinary so its really just a play of words.

But isnt the constant joy and peace a light natured state? If it is, then these teachers are experi-
encing MOSTLY light natured state of mind, and their only dark natured elements are such very rare
moments maybe, like Tolle described about the dog.

How about you? Arent you experiencing constant joy and peace? Isnt it light nature? I dont talk
about the nature of events in external reality of course, also Tolle has to experience deaths of a
close people, I understand it, but I talk about internal state of mind and if you can just be lightly
sad (with peace still in background) in such cases which for many other people seems very tragic,
and all the other time you are joyful and peaceful, vital and energetic, etc, then to me it seems a liv-
ing which is connected mostly to light nature of mind. Just like there are also many people who are
living mostly in dark nature of mind depressions, heavy anxieties etc. Just in the case of living
mostly dark nature, we are saying these people have imbalances, but in the case of living mostly light
nature (like you or Tolle) they arent imbalances, are they? Maybe thats just the life streams truth
that its actually a positive force and thus to people who are not resisting to it, are opening an un-
balanced possibility to live out mostly light nature states of mind Or Im not understanding some-
thing here?

Sen Post author

June 24, 2013 at 1:00 pm

Questioner, basically the way I use the words dark nature and light nature are very specific to my
way of explaining I dont use dark nature as something negative. I use the term imbalance to
refer to the negativity. Some teachers, and some writers, can use the term dark nature to refer to
the dark forces which is their term for referencing beings who are imbalanced in dark nature, and
they use the term light nature or feeling the stream of light as reference to indicate the state of
balance.

The way I use the term light and dark is similar to the chinese reference of yin and yang
there is a Chinese symbol which indicates a circle, half of which is white, half of which is black/dark,
and in the white half there is a black dot, and in the black half there is a white dot this symbol es-
sentially describes balance. The symbol states that the light and the dark are two nature of life-en-
ergy, and light nature contains aspects of dark, and the dark nature contains aspects of light, and in a
state of balance both these natures are complementing each other, they are in sync and hence one
experiences a peace that comes from non-resistance to the nature of life, thus being balanced to-
wards the nature of life. Its possible to create a sense of peace through suppression of dark-nature
this is what I would a peace thats imbalanced in light-nature. And its possible to come to an unwa-
vering peace through the state of balance between light and dark. The peace that I experience, or
what Tolle, or any other teacher talks about, comes from a state of balance between the yin/yang as-
pects, or light and dark aspects, that happens from allowing both these aspects fully, without resis-
tance this peace, or joy, can be called balanced peace or balanced joy, it has a different flavor to
the peace created by suppression of dark nature where you find peace by trying to escape the influ-
ence of dark nature (like by taking drugs).

I use the term ordinary to reference this place of balanced peace simply because its a clearer way
to explain that one comes to this peace by letting go of the need for extra-ordinariness as long as
there is a need for extra-ordinariness there will be resistance to allowing aspects like the low-states,
when they arise, and hence there will be resistance to allowing an integration of the light and dark so
that balance can happen within. In the state of balance, nothing has an intensity to it, joy doesnt
neither does sadness, thats why I use the reference that nothing feels extra-ordinary, everything
has an aspect of lucidity to it its a joy, but its a balanced-joy. There has to be some way to distin-
guish the imbalanced-joy (the ones present in a deluded person who gets ecstatic when some events
gain happen (because he thinks hes got something extra-ordinary) and then gets deeply depressed
when some events of change happen). You say that anxiety looks ordinary to me, but if that was
true then you would have no problems allowing anxiety fully and be free of its grip, the fact is that
anxiety looks extra-ordinary to you because of the strong momentum that it has in you, and you may
be trying to escape it by trying to suppress it its also true that your perception of finding some ex-
tra-ordinary state of peace is whats keeping you from allowing whats arising in you right now, be-
cause you feel frustrated with where you are and your fantasy of the balanced state causes you to get
even more frustrated. Dont worry about how the balanced state will look like, just find out for your-
self through working towards inner-balance by allow the light and dark aspects fully in you. Until you
find out for yourself, it will just be an imagination my imagination of what I thought I would find,
and what I did find were very different. The pointer that I emphasize on is that you cant find inner-
balance as long as you keep trying to suppress the dark nature aspects in you, its just not possible
balance can never be found through suppression of either light or dark, its found in the integration of
both.

The problem with someone who has an imbalance towards light-nature (and these are usually the
people who have strong anxieties) is that they are constantly trying to interpret teachings from their
place of imbalance, and hence they keep seeing it from their lens of imbalance for example, a per-
son imbalanced in light-nature would imagine wow, it would be so amazing to have this peace and
joy, without this nagging fear, without this sadness and loneliness, but the teachers is not really talk-
ing about that kind of a peace, the teacher is talking about a natural peace that comes when you are
willing to allow the dark aspects like fear, sadness or feelings of loneliness, with no resistance (just
like how you can allow joy without resistance) and thus allow for the imbalanced-momentum to be re-
leased, so that a state of balance can get established the state of balance is not indicated by the ab-
sence of dark, but by the allowing of dark along with the light. Tolle refers to the same state as al-
lowing what arises in the present and Adya refers to the same when he says Its not freedom
from, its always freedom to (essentially meaning that balance is not gained by seeking freedom
from something, but from the freedom to allow everything, be light or dark, thus reaching non-resis-
tance, this non-resistance is the foundation of openness that I talk about, which is felt as the back-
ground of unwavering peace).

Mata
June 24, 2013 at 3:35 pm

Wow! Great post Sen. thx

Yin
June 25, 2013 at 8:59 pm

Great post, and great questions Questioner, and in turn great response Sen. I too have read a lot of
other teachings, and often wondered how they fit in regards to each other, and that helps.

Thnx

Questioner
June 25, 2013 at 10:29 pm

Thanks, Sen, you bring clarity as always.

Its interesting that some intuitive voice in me said already before I red your answer: dont try to
imagine the state of balance so much, just see it for yourself!

Ive been practicing the allowing some half-year now, also listening BrainEv (currently 3rd disc), it has
brought me to just a bit calmer and a bit more stable state of mind, yet I notice there are still many
imbalances in my thinking and high mind and also emotional momentum. Its like coming and going
in circles when Ive seemingly seen through one aspect, then comes the other one, then the next
one, etc, until the first one returns after a while.

Im not sure Im really allowing. Maybe my allowing is most of the time just very refined suppress-
sion mechanism of the mind? I know, I shouldnt worry about it, and allow even possible suppression,
but still How to differentiate a real allowing from the minds faked one (actually a suppression)?

Ophelia
June 26, 2013 at 6:43 pm

Sen,

Many thanks for your insights throughout your blog which have proved to be incredibly useful to me. I
think you have referenced Mooji in past posts; can you recommend any of his books or teachings?

Thank you,

Ophelia

Pavlo
July 4, 2013 at 8:46 pm

Greetings dear Sen,

The way I see power and love in my journey toward

Wholeness is that they seem to be one in the same. By
saying that I mean that love to me is openness, allowing,
and non resistance which are essential in instigating the
release of accumulation and momentum but more importantly
, the sheer definition of Openness, Allowing and non Resistance
is love itself. As the power of
Allowing grows, the release becomes more intense and so
the feeling of fear associated with conscious release, over time
becomes more fleeting and less intense. Again, I can only reference
these words as they pertain to my reality in this journey thus far.
The more open and allowing I am of the release, the more that
love and power seem to be one in the same.

I guess thats what Oneness really means, that they ARE one
in the same, but the underlying true identity of all is indeed
Love, Joy and Peace, our true nature
Anyone can find this out for him/her self, its available to all of us.
All these words WILL lead to this understanding but its also
important to emphasize that there is an inner work requirement
that is unavoidable and quite necessary in order to reach freedom
and once you sense your freedom the journey doesnt stop, it
continues.

Michael
July 6, 2013 at 5:09 am

Markus: I can get an idea of what it may be from your perspective, but of course having not had it
yet, I can only project guesses. As for the understanding in your first little chunk, I do get that. How
long did it take you to go through the phase of release? Im about 5 months and the external is un-
earthing a lot of things in the form of people and because of the feelings they bring up, my ego is go-
ing No, no, no, so its a tough time and quite disorienting. I can only assume that this is the final
strong breaking point required, so Im looking forward to getting through it. When cleaning your
house is there any *groan, I dont wanna do this in it? The boredom Im experiencing is quite excru-
ciating, so its a bit hard to see a reality that doesnt contain a decent amount of it. it feels like what
Im doing isnt my life, as if the activities Im doing have to belong to someone else. Does that make
any sense?Thanks for the reply, I appreciate it.

Markus
July 8, 2013 at 5:36 pm

Michael, last summer I was in the midst of another round of my wake up call. I struggled terribly and
did not know what to do. As an answer to my need and more importantly, a willingness to give up
my own ineffective mind/ego response I found this site. Am I through the release? I dont know
the drama is gone, the hyper mind is now calm, the need to be liked is mostly gone. So mind momen-
tum has nearly run out. Maybe it will trickle along for a while yet. That is ok. After all, if it must hap-
pen, what better use of my attention is there, anyway?

There were indeed breaking points that stand out. A shift that put to rest an old habit that led to suf-
fering, or opened greater awareness of the truth about something in my life. It does feel confusing
maybe our being is shedding the old for the new, but the mind cannot deal with it at the moment.

When cleaning, to keep that example, at first I resisted. Maybe there was another chore to do, or a
hammock that ought to be used. Id then think why clean? with the idea of light and dark nature, to
make it a choice. By choosing to clean, it becomes my now will I live it well, or be absent-minded
and miss the experience? This is what makes daily living richer for me.
Also, if the outside reflects the inside, why would I not clean? Im cleaning up my mind and being, my
home reflects this to me. Some days the hammock wins, or some other choice. No judgement, just
choose something and do my best right now.

j
July 7, 2013 at 8:51 am

hi sen,

Ive been hit with an insecure moment thru a relationship.

at first I felt lost but later as I calmed, realized that it was that neediness in me thats still running in
the deep core of my subconscious.
and was able to allow feelings of neediness(fear).
as well as feelings of helplessness towards this attraction.

my question is, sometimes when I stand firm towards this helpless attraction n momentum has low-
ered, I feel indifferent towards my bf. and then another worry/fear kicks in: if I become indifferent,
how will the relationship sustain?
Id also feel: what is the whole purpose of having a relationship? it suddenly feels like he is my room-
mate.

this lasts briefly, idk if this is what balanced relationship feel like, but it definitely feels like.. like Im in
a relationship out of responsibility. because it throws out that wanting feeling.

so if I start treating him like a roommate, and lets say that Ive also allowed this fear of him being
like my roommate n reduced my momentum a lot. how will the relationship sustain ?
If i let things go and not really care, wouldnt this give some sort of me being too lenient message?
and become doormaty?

is this low momentum? or is this my mind made indifferent state, out of fear of intimacy?

its confusing.

Questioner
July 10, 2013 at 7:50 am

Sen,
you have wrote that when one has strong enough awareness that he can see the negativity like he
sees his hand then he has a capacity to let go, allow, release it.

Am I understanding right if Im able to detect most of negative patterns (thoughts and emotions) in
my mind, then Im already able to start to allow it irrespective of the fact that Im still getting
sucked in those thoughts and emotions, still more or less believing them and getting identified with
them?

Basically my question how strong un-identification should be before one can start really (productive-
ly) allow? My concerns is that if Im trying to allow the negative flow while Im still getting identified
with it, then I will end up not releasing, but reinforcing it. Because identification reinforces the nega-
tivity, right?

This is confusing me long time and it seems Im a bit stuck on this although have gone through some
part of release, and seem to be a bit more stable overall. I seem to be like dual one part of my
awareness are able to detect the negativity and (seemingly) differ itself from it, but the largest part of
my awareness (I think, at least some 80%) is still identifying with it. Should I keep developing under-
standing (that Im not the mind), keep seeing through mind tricks at this point, until I feel at least
majority shareholder (51%) of my awareness belongs to awareness itself, not mind, or am I able
to already jump of the cliff to allowing?

I see contradictions in which youve wrote regarding to this topic for example, in one article you
say: first you have to become unidentified from mind, see that you are the space/awareness, before
allow; in other article (or answer to comment) you say like this dont try to find an escape from
negativity in understanding that youre not it. So, how it is: should one clearly see (and, if necessary,
remind himself many times) that he arent the negativity/resistance, or is this reminding just another
another quick relief strategy? (but Mooji also says, that it must be reminded many times, that one is
not his mind)

Michael
July 10, 2013 at 3:51 pm

Questioner, the contradictions may appear as such if you dont look at all the points separately and
then put together what they all mean.

In the first point, of course you have to become a little bit unidentified with the mind, which is basi-
cally what happens at the very beginning, the light bulb over your head as it were, where you real-
ize that your mind isnt you.

In the second point, what is meant is that although you are not the negativity, dont go Im not the
negativity as some sort of cop out of facing it. You will have to face everything you suppressed in un-
consciousness. Just because you are not the negativity, it doesnt mean that the process wont be
painful at times.

You dont need to remind yourself that youre not the negativity, your mind may end up saying that
(as mine did/does sometimes), which is fine, if it does, allow it do to so without trying to put the
proverbial leash back on. If youre consciously telling yourself that youre not the negativity or some
sort of Its all good schtick, then youre trying to blanket the seriousness of the problem. In a way
its not really serious, it just requires a maturity and authenticity to go I made some patterns in un-
consciousness, now I have to face them for them to be dissolved (of course you dont repeat that,
its an unsaid basis for why youre doing this)

I have not listened to or read anything from Mooji, but dont take everything you read from a teacher
as some holy grail. Lots of what they write makes sense (like what Sen writes makes the most sense
to me), but there are things that dont make sense to me, such as other planets and mainly after
death stuff, which is fine. In addition to that, there was some stuff that didnt make sense to me that
he wrote that eventually did (as my awareness/introspection abilities grew). Just dont swallow any-
ones line whole, you need your own reasoning abilities as well.

A little addition onto that last paragraph, in the past month or so, I started making YouTube videos
talking about this sort of thing (mostly just my view on different things relating to it). I dont mind-
lessly parrot things I read and I dont go according to Eckhart Tolle.. unless Im talking about a
certain thing he said that I possibly resonated with or found interesting. Just like I dont talk about
Law of Attraction, I blatantly state LOA is what I believe in, but I have not experienced it for myself
enough yet, so I will not make a video about it until I have experienced it more, Im not going by
third party experience.

The way that a lot of people go about that (if they were to make videos, Im sure the same holds true
for regular speaking or writing) is they read a bunch of stuff they find interesting and start repeating
it back to people. Something that religious people do is they read the Bible and a hundred websites
quoting and parroting the Bible and then go on thinking theyre a wise teacher. How do I know that? I
was one of those people 3 years ago who made videos about Christianity. Of course my words were
hardly original, as the whole basis of modern day Christianity (or at least the extremism I was in-
volved in) is to be spoon fed a doctrine as the absolute truth and then try to justify your life accord-
ingly.

When I reply to people on here (and I only answer questions that I have wondered and then under-
stood myself) I try to mix my own experience into the answer. If someone asked How do I slow
down my mind? I could go Be aware of it which would of course be of no help, because they
wouldve read that 5 minutes prior in an article and didnt get it, which is why they posted the ques-
tion.
A better answer and one that I would give would be something like You slow down your mind by re-
moving attention from it. Thoughts are fueled by your unconscious attention, which is why people feel
so helpless to their minds pull when theyre not aware of it. I started this back in February and would
start off by either sitting in the bath or on the couch for 30 mins to an hour with my eyes close and
just let my mind drift without giving it much thought. If it wanted to be angry, I allowed that, if it
wanted to be noisy, I allowed that. After about a month, it seemed to go on autopilot and I would be
like that during most of the day. After about 3 months of that, I let go into total openness, which was
allowing everything. I had read about openness plenty before that and still didnt have a knowing
instead of just a scholar type of knowing, kinda like memorizing definitions. You cant force openness,
you can only come to it after youve had a decent time building up your awareness and when the defi-
nition becomes a knowing, which happens automatically.

Questioner
July 14, 2013 at 9:41 am

Thanks, Michael,

it seems I found an answer myself.

There is no direct, rigid recipe for all cases. Of course, its great if one have so high awareness that he
is able to not only detect thoughts but also immediately understand that he is not them, and when
one clearly sees the idioty of an obsessing thought he is disidentifying from it automatically, and also
allowing it automatically.

So, the understanding/disidentification is the most easy (with less suffering) and very effective way to
reduce a momentum.

However, such disidentification cant be pushed out of fear of the thought at best, such attempt can
only give a temporary relief, but then youve already got in dance with the thought(s) and can be
sure theyll return soon again, probably, even with more powerfull pull.

So if one disidentifies from the thoughts naturally, without struggle, without aim to escape some-
thing, its great its a blessing. But, if one arent able to do that yet, he can still just try to allow
even while partly identified because the fact that one is able to detect thoughts is an indicator that
he has some connection to awareness, he is not lost in mind completely (even if he believes the
thoughts/suffer). It will be harder, and there IS a risk to get lost to momentum sometimes, and one
can remind himself the truth but with understanding that its not meant as an escape mechanism.
Chuck
July 31, 2013 at 9:35 pm

Sen,

Thank you for this mind opening article. Just before reading your posts Ive been stuck in my mind
and realised Ive bookmarked your Dont try to get rid of your ego post. After revisiting some
months later with a heightened awareness, it really makes sense how consciously allowing it to be
can transform the pull of the ego-mind!

You are not your mind is what brought me back to heightened awareness.

Anyways, I would like to ask a question about this article I hope you can enlight me on:

While reading your post, Ive realised Im very powerless to the thought of being financially stable.
From what Ive learnt, it is also true that I am fascinated, or always dream-thinking what money can
buy. I think this stems from a imbalance of love.

Quote
When I say that connecting with inner-power is a choice, its simply a direct pointer to the fact that
ultimately its up to you to make the choice to connect with an attitude of power which eventually al-
lows you to integrate the nature of power in your being.

I feel a great sense of lack in this area, I tend to avoid it and procrastinate (play games) when the
thought of this comes by.

Does this mean I have not genuinely made a conscious choice of connecting to my inner-power?
When I try, it feels like, Im pushing or forcing/efforting. This is where Im confused. (and this process
saps my energy, and get stuck back into my ego-mind)

Cheers,
Chuck

Chuck
August 5, 2013 at 12:37 pm

Just a follow-up:

I think I have answered my own question.

Reading more articles on this site has not only inspired right action, most importantly it has allowed
me to connect to my being.

I brought myself to a state of allowing with the FAQ as a guide.

All these random thoughts and emotions came up. I just didnt try to control it anymore, I didnt
even try to let go. It felt really weird and confusing at first, but it felt great in a way that Im free
from the shackles of the mind for once!

Well, I believe it is a gradual process and Ill just let the financial situation as it is right now.

Im just curious how many old emotions will come up. It really helps me to learn more about myself.

Cheers for all this Sen.

Seeker
August 9, 2013 at 6:02 am

sen,

whenever i seem to attract love, it seems as though i am an accessory in an anothers life. i am al-
ways available and the other is always busy. so the power to decide or take actions rests solely with
the other person. i am always waiting around.
is this my ego which feels that i am not doing anything worthwhile and being too available? also love
subdues my character. i realise by reading your posts that i am quite powerless and have been able to
reduce my bodily reaction to quite a degree. but my mind is fearful and is trying to protect itself from
future hurts by trying to be aloof and disconnected.
this has happened once before in life and caused me a lot of misery because i was unable to find my
power, have gotten over that, but is it fair to believe that what is happening will help be come to bal-
ance in love.
relationships with seemingly no future will sort themselves and my mind will stop figuring out ways to
protect itself and believe in the fierce grace of life?
i always wish there s more to life than having so much free mind time, and work shapes up beautiful-
ly.. if i stay allowing will this eventually work out?
hope to see ur revert.

Sen Post author

August 10, 2013 at 1:38 pm

Seeker, there are basically two types of personalities the light tinted ones and the dark tinted ones.
Even in a state of balance one has to work with his/her personality (a balanced light tinted personali-
ty, or a balanced dark tinted personality). A light tinted personality is usually the submissive, the giv-
er, the leaner (the one leaning in) with an energy of warmth, love and tenderness. A dark tinted per-
sonality is usually the dominant, the taker, the pillar with an energy of power, coldness and solidity.
An imbalanced light tinted personality becomes an imbalanced giver, and leans too much entering
into needy behaviors. An imbalanced dark tinted personality becomes too cold, or become imbalanced
taker (thus becoming exploitative). From your description, it looks like you have a light tinted person-
ality, and you need to balance out on it in terms of balancing towards some element of power/dark-
nature. You will remain a light tinted personality, but you can function in a balanced way without feel-
ing this sense of powerlessness, or without getting exploited (or attracting abusive relationships). This
post basically talks to the light-tinted personality types who are imbalanced towards their light na-
ture.

Dont try to use a forced aloofness as some means to protect yourself, rather you need to work on
releasing the momentum of neediness, anxiety of loss, pull of attraction, emotional hurt (created
from the desperate need for love/support/connection) through the state of allowing (you can read this
post FAQ on the state of allowing) when you are no longer pulled around by the momentum of
your emotions, you can live your light-tinted personality nature in a balanced way. Basically, dont try
to suppress these painful emotions when they come up, just allow them fully so that they can release
their momentum, and dont try to use some forced coldness/detachment/numbness as a means of
protection.

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