Statement of Fact

April 12, 2017

My Grandfather died on August 11, 2016. I have several grievances about his final weeks and the care
that he received or didn't receive.

1. My Grandfather had two adult children. My dad, Donald, their son and oldest child and then
also my Aunt, Brenda.

2. Brenda was my Grandfather's Power of Attorney.

3. When my Grandfather was making his funeral plans he adamantly and repeatedly stated that he
wanted to die at home. My Grandfather trusted his daughter Brenda to set up the arrangements
for him to die peacefully at home.

4. I eventually became the primary caregiver for my Grandfather.

5. As I would tend to my Grandfather's needs I constantly felt opposition Brenda. I did what I
could to work with her, however, it seemed that she was manipulating people to conform to her
own agenda. Brenda was always setting up secret meetings with service providers and making
arrangements behind the backs of the rest of the family.

6. Brenda continuously confirmed to the family that she was making the appropriate arrangements
for Grandpa to die at home, however, it always seemed that she was attempting to get him set
up with hospice services.

7. I am not opposed to hospice services should a person consent to such, however, my Grandfather
never consented to these services, to the best of my knowledge, and he always re-iterated his
wish to die at home.

8. As time went on, I couldn't deny that Brenda was meeting with various people from CCAC
and/or the Family Health Team and that the goal seemed to be to get my Grandfather into
Hospice.

9. I was excluded from a meeting with CCAC employees, Brenda, and her Daughter Jennifer from
Toronto, even though I was on the property at the time. I ended up walking into the meeting and
found everyone present discussing Hospice. My Grandfather's anxiety was through the roof. I
asked questions and was minimized. Finally, I voiced my concerns to the CCAC employees,
one of whom was Dennis ????, and I can't remember who the other lady was, and I told them
that I felt there was family alienation occurring and that I didn't feel that arrangements were
being made as per my Grandfather's wishes. I told everyone present that my Father wishes to be
an active participant in the care of his parents but that any efforts he makes are minimized,
ridiculed, or rejected by his Sister, Brenda. My Grandfather insisted that he wanted my Father
to be part of his life and his subsequent care so Dennis gave me a business card and told me that
my Father will be considered in future communications regarding the care of my Grandfather.

10. Even when a meeting was set up to include my Father, with Heather Campbell, there would be
long periods of time where my Aunt and Heather would have secret conversation away from the
 rest of us. I specifically told Heather that I felt that her secret conversations with my Aunt
seemed to be collusion between the two of them and that I did not appreciate it. Heather
minimized my allegation. (Another time, on her way out of Grandfather's house, I stopped
Heather to tell her how that I felt there was alienation occurring within the family, however, she
just brushed me off with professional jargon.)

11. The collusion between my Aunt and the various service providers heightened. Eventually many
of the PSW's, the Nurses/RPN's, and CCAC &/or FHT employees would come to treat me with
disrespect and refuse to work with me even though I was providing the care to my Grandfather
in their absence and was the only one to know what was happening with him on a regularly
consistent basis. It seemed that everything had to be communicated through my Aunt as she
wielded her Power of Attorney status. In my opinion, my Aunt was more concerned with setting
up the services that my Grandfather didn't want and socializing with his service providers as
opposed to giving him any hands on care herself. My mother and I did 95% of the care for
Grandpa, under intense duress, until he was transferred to hospice.

12. My Aunt's Husband Ed was particularly immature when dealing with me on a consistent basis.
He was always trying to provoke me with snide comments or childish looks of conceit or
malice. I found this to be shocking behaviour from him and realized that he could've never been
the man that I had thought he was historically. I lost a lot of respect for Ed Sokolowsky during
this period.

13. Ed Sokolowsky seemed to attempt to set me up to appear as though I was failing my

Grandparents somehow. One day I had the central air in the house set perfectly after struggling
to control Grandpa's breathing in the humidity. Uncle Ed came in and messed around with the
thermostat, unnecessarily, and then told my Grandmother that I had it set wrong. It took me
quite a while to get the temperatures stabilized after he left. He returned another time soon after
and messed with it again, though there was absolutely no reason to do so. He wasn't there nearly
as often as I was so I'm not sure why he would fiddle with things when he knew that I was on
top of Grandpa's health in every way. I consulted with Grandpa regularly about everything in
the way that he was feeling and the temperatures were working for him. I just don't understand
why this type of behaviour was occurring. No one knows what happened, but eventually, my
Grandmother had to have a new thermostat installed. Ed's behaviour seemed very intentional to
me. Ed would also randomly come in and re-arrange my Grandparents medications after I had a
system going that worked for everyone. I was there everyday to administer the medications yet
Ed would walk in and figure he knew best at any particular given time of the day or night. Then
there was the several times that he intentionally talked down to me.

14. I am able to understand the basics of medicines and overall health. As such, I was the one to
consistently dispense medications. Many family members trusted me and relied on me for this
task, seemingly, my Aunt and Uncle included. I do not understand why then, my Aunt and/or
my Uncle would arbitrarily dispense medicines, or needlessly mess around with the medicines,
on random occasions, behind my back. My Aunt and Uncle are intelligent enough to dispense
medicines from a blister pack, but in my opinion, they were out of their league beyond that!

15. As per my Grandfather's wishes, I was helping him with a natural approach to beat his Cancer.
Eventually, my Aunt made me stop the natural regimen until we could get the foods approved
by his doctor. I felt this was absurd, however, the doctors eventually approved the diet. Even
though we had seen success, the stall in waiting for approval from the doctors seemed to hasten
 his decline. By the time we re-started the regime his health was already failing and we didn't
have time to get back on track before he died.

16. My Aunt administered, or authorized the administration of, a narcotic to my Grandfather that he
did not want or need in my opinion, though he did have a prescription for such on hand in case
his pain heightened. . I feel that my Grandfather's health declined rapidly at this point, and so
did he.

17. I was wearing myself thin with the care of my Grandfather and yet it seemed that services were
only being set up for my Grandmother. She would have up to 3 PSW's visit her in one day while
my Grandfather had only a Nurse/RPN that visited once a day, at most, in most cases.

18. As the time got closer and it was obviously that my Grandfather was dying, the alienation that I
felt from the various Service Providers was through the roof at this point. They were flat out
appearing to set me up as an incompetent caregiver and they were stressing me to the maximum
by not telling me the things I should've known, as his primary caregiver, about my
Grandfather's care.

19. I began to have a problem with one RPN (or RN or whatever) specifically. Her name was
Angel.

20. Angel personally involved herself into my family matters. She stopped her vehicle one day to
tell me who was inside my Grandparents home. She said she wanted to warn me and she
entertained me while I discussed how I'm being alienated. After this day, however, Angel would
seemingly collude against me and make things as difficult for me as she could. Angel was a
very rude and abrupt woman, in my opinion, and she most definitely made my life more
miserable than it had to be at an already stressful period.

21. I eventually had to call my Mother and Father to come help me with my |Grandparents care. It
seemed that my Aunt was only available to help out on the odd day but never through the
nights. This was left up to me and when I felt that I could no longer handle it, my Parents
dropped everything in their lives and transitioned into my Grandparents home to help me until
he was eventually shipped away to hospice, against his will.

22. It seemed to me that my Aunt was attempting to lead others to believe that she was the primary
caregiver for my Grandfather, even though I was the main primary caregiver all along. I hope
she wasn't receiving a fund or other like supports for a job that I was doing. She can have all the
accolades, I just want the truth!

23. I was making regular statement so fact that I intended to share with my family so that we could
all stay on the same page with Grandpa's care. I never got to share these with anyone beyond
my immediate family as my Aunt gave me the run around with her email address. I was also
caring for my Grandfather and was stretched for time but I tried my very best to communicate
the issues that I was experiencing.

24. My Mother and I were, more or less, responsible for Grandpa's care in the final days. It was
exhausting. No services had been set up for Grandpa to die at home. At this point all the talk
was about sending him to hospice. I was still trying to respect my Grandfather's wishes so I was
treated like an outcast by Angel and Brenda as they seemingly had other plans for him. I want to
 know why no services, beyond that of a hospital bed and an RPN were set up for my
Grandfather. Why was he eventually transferred to hospice against his repeatedly stated will?
Why did my mother and I have to break out backs in the final days because no services had
been arranged for him in his home? Why?

25. The night before my Grandfather was sent to hospice he was experiencing pain in his abdomen.
Brenda, my Mother, and I took my Grandfather to the Picton Hospital. Usually, in my
experience, Picton Hospital has generated exceptional care. Not in this instance. We were told
to leave Grandpa at the hospital for tests and whatnot and to return home for some rest. After
some contemplation, we did just that. When I left my Grandfather we left him with the concerns
that he was holding urine and that he had suffered a potential stroke. We were re-assured that
they would find out what the issues were and that we would be contacted when my Grandfather
was ready to be sent home. I woke up in panic that morning feeling that something was wrong I
asked my Mother to drive me to the hospital and she informed me that the hospital had just
called saying that Grandpa was being held in a geriatric chair and that he was screaming from
the top of his lungs. I went to the hospital immediately. When I walked in I saw the most
despicable thing of my life. I am still brought to tears and panic when I recall what I saw upon
entering the hospital. I saw my Grandfather, sitting only in his underwear in a locked chair. His
arms were flailing in the air and he was screaming from the top of his lungs. He was alone, left
sitting across from the Nurses Station. The poor man was out of his mind with pain and anxiety.
I was told that he would not be getting out of the chair until he calmed down. How do you calm
a person down when they are freezing cold, in pain, overly anxious, and more-or-less
abandoned? I eventually did get him calmed down and they were releasing him when I asked
what it was they found wrong with him. The doctor informed me that he Grandpa hadn't been
evaluated for what we brought him in for. At that, a scan was wheeled into room and it was
revealed that Grandpa was holding water. He had been holding this water all night long! The
doctor then gave me morphine tablets and another medication to help empty the bladder and
continued rushing us out the door. We were rushed out the door so quickly that I had to return
to the Emergency Department from outside to have the bleeding stopped from the IV removal.
The nurse apologized profusely. My Aunt eventually showed up at the hospital as we were
getting ready to leave. I can never erase from my mind how I found my Grandfather sitting in th
hospital that day. It's just so shameful. I recorded what I speak of!

26. My Grandfather was in so much pain that morning after bringing him home from hospital. I
knew it was the end. I couldn't bear to see him suffer so I didn't hesitate with medicating him. I
gave him a full dose of seroquel (even though I despise this garbage) and I gave him plenty of
morphine, whether authorized or not. I knew he would settle down once the pain and the
anxiety were under control but I also knew this would be the end of his full cognizance. I called
my kids to say goodbye to their Grandfather before the effects of the medicine put him in to a
final stupor.

27. It suddenly seemed as though the service providers and my Aunt were in full gear at this point
to transfer Grandpa to Hospice. I was burnt right out. I had no say in the matter so I eventually
gave up and had to agree to the transfer in Grandpa's best interest. After all, there was nothing
set up at his home, the service providers weren't working with me, I was sick and tired myself,
the alienation was just so overwhelming and communicating with his doctor was simply a
bloody nightmare. Dr. Connell has a lot to learn about dignity for dying patients if you ask me!

28. I approached Angel when the arrangements were being made to transfer Grandpa to Hospice. I
 told Angel that I was able to get Grandpa calmed down in situations where others couldn't and
that as his primary caregiver I was requesting to ride in the patient transfer vehicle with my
Grandfather. Immediately, Angels tone concerned me. In a very enemy-like tone, Angel said
that she thought that my Grandmother should take the ride with my Grandfather. I told Angel
that this was not in either of their best interests as my Grandmother was able to easily provoke
my Grandfather into anxiety whereby he would lash out at her in confusion. I told Angel that
intentionally generating that sort of conflict in the final days isn't good for either of my
Grandparents. I further told her that he would likely feel betrayed if he woke up while being
transferred to Hospice and that since I was literally the only one that Grandpa would respond to
positively in crisis that I should be with him in his best interests. At this point, Angel asked me
why I was yelling at her. I told her that I wasn't yelling. Angel said yes you are. I said no,
Angel, I'm not. At that, Angel rose to her feet and yelled at me in front of my Grandparents and
others present. Angel told yelled, very unprofessionally, for me to 'stop this'. Then Angel
abruptly left the house. On the front porch, she stopped to talk with my Aunt, where I heard her
bad mouthing me to my Aunt.

29. At this point, I had no doubts that I was actively being set up by at least Angel and my Aunt. I
told everyone at my Grandparents home that I had had enough. I informed them that I got
Grandpa's pain and anxiety under control, that he was resting well, and that I would attend
hospice at 11pm every night from then on to sit with him through the nights as I had done all
along. I gave instructions that I did not wish to speak with family at Hospice and that when
someone showed up in the morning to take the day shift, that I would leave promptly without
conversation.

30. Before I went to hospice on that first night I made a public Facebook status stating that I felt set
up by the involved service providers.

31. My Mother called to tell me that she received a phone call telling her that if I made another
Facebook status that it would be considered a threat and that I would be forbidden to see my
Grandfather in Hospice.

32. I was controlled and oppressed as I cared for my Grandfather in his final days. I did what I
could to ensure that his wishes would be honoured, but at the end of the day, his Power of
Attorney, failed to ensure that that would happen for him, in my opinion.

33. I believe that Brenda Sokolowsky orchestrated a campaign whereby she sought to overthrow
the final wishes of my Grandfather and in doing so she alienated me and my Immediate Family.
Brenda Sokolowsky colluded with others to achieve such an agenda. I believe that Brenda
Sokolowsky is criminally responsible for the inappropriate care that my Grandfather suffered in
his final days, if not weeks.

34. Services should have been arranged for my Grandfather to pass away at home. Besides a
hospital bed and some help from service providers I did not see much in the way of home
assistance. I should not have had to nearly kill myself in honouring my Grandfather's final
wishes because of this sort of incompetence. I did the care, I did the meds, I did the worry. My
Aunt appeared to cause drama and revel in the attention she received as her Father passed away
while utterly disrespecting his final wishes. It's damn disgusting if you ask me!

35. At the very end, my Grandfather expressed his remorse to me for trusting my Aunt. He asked
 me why I thought she was so stupid. Then he told me to go get his red car from her house. He
put it together in the end, but by then, I had to tell him that he couldn't help me from the
position he was in and that he had to go to a higher place to do so. He promised me he would
help me tell our truth somehow, someway, although it is my hope that he is finally resting in
peace.

Sincerely,
Brenda Everall