Need to communicate

Brenda Everall <beverall31@hotmail.com> Thu 2016-07-28 2:09 PM Brenda Everall

<beverall31@hotmail.com> Reply| Today 2:07 PM Ed Sokolowsky
(esokolowsky@sympatico.ca) Sent Items You forwarded this message on 2016-07-28
2:09 PM Tronya and I were just down to Grandma's. We attempted to visit with
Grandpa but found out that he was kept in hospital when Grandma told us. Apparently
an email was sent to my mother. My mom doesn't constantly check her email, especially
when she isn't expecting one and extra especially when you hadn't been communicating
with them thus far and were promising to work with me instead. So it's been confusing
to find out what's going on but it seems that my mom did sent a message telling us that
Grandpa was in hospital but that we hadn't seen the message yet to know that you had
emailed my mother instead of me. It seems as though you are intentionally generating
conflict and confusion. So Tracy showed up 3-4 minutes after Tronya and I arrived at
Grandma's. She stood back and said nothing as Trony and I talked to Grandma. I
recorded the conversation to protect Tronya and I from any allegations that might get
made about us because I have to protect myself & loved ones where possible in convos
because of the treatment we are receiving from you and/or your family. When Tracy
walked in, she walked into me and Tronya having a conversation about family alienation
with Grandma. Grandma was not crying or upset and was actually trying to lie to us. We
were attempting to hold her to account about what she was saying and then we could
feel that Tracy was judging the situation that she had walked in on as an assault of some
sort which it was not. We told Grandma we loved her, we were gentle with her, but we
deserve answers and respect at the same time. I've seen Aunt Brenda ridicule and/or
scold grandma severely in the past and I hope that neither Tronya or I will be accused of
that sort of behaviour because we would never treat our Grandmother like that. We were
merely trying to get straight answers, which we are well intitled too. If Tracy took
Grandma away because she felt that Tronya and/or I were being 'abusive' to any degree
then the video recording that I have will prove otherwise. I just want to be sure that the
situation won't be exaggerated or misconstrued to be something that it's not. I've learned
that I have to nip issues in the bud when it comes to dealing with you and/or your family
so that they won't be exaggerated and spiral past the point of understanding or
correction. When it became clear that Grandma didn't want to cooperate we simply left
her alone and kissed her goodbye. I asked if Tracy had anything to say and she say 'no,
i'm only here to get the DNR order' and I did smugly reply with 'well let's make sure we
have that' and tracy responded with 'the hospital asked for it' and I said 'it's the most
important thing right now, I'm not doing this, goodbye.' then I heard Tracy say 'pardon
me?' but I kept walking to get away from what was going to be obvious conflict. When
tracy first walked in to Grandma's she didn't say hello she simply stood there with a sour
face on so I said hello and she said hi. It wasn't friendly from the onset. If Tracy expects
respect she needs to give it herself. The last time I saw Tracy she was much kinder when
entering the house. I wonder what has changed to make her bring such a negative vibe
upon entry this time when I happened to be there with my sister. It felt like more of this
alienation behaviour that I'm accusing you and your family of displaying which has to be
dealt with at a meeting that is yet to be arranged. I'm confused, alienated & desperate for
understanding & communication. All I'm receiving from you and your family is malice
and negativity. I do not feel love, cooperation or a want for peaceful resolution from you
or your family. It seems that Grandpa is dying now and you are alienating us away from
Grandma. I've really and truly had enough of you people and will work with
professionals to get to the bottom of everything. You are making me sick and ruining my
life with this chaos. Please stop! Also, please do not attempt to be a victim. I am not
harassing you. If you want me to stop communicating with you please just say the word
and I won't bug you any further. I am simply trying to work together and to get some
honest answers from you as you said you were willing to work with me. If I'm wrong in
any regard, please correct me because I would very much appreciate to learn that things
aren't really as they seem. I wish you all peace, love & understanding and may God bless
you and keep you through these trying & difficult times. Although we are facing
adversity I have faith that all can work out in the end. Please stop this campaign against
me and my family, especially my father, now. Brenda
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Everall <beverall31@hotmail.com> Today 1:37 AM Thread of emails between me and
'them'. Brenda Everall <beverall31@hotmail.com> Today 1:30 AM

Hi. I feel very alienated by you and Uncle Ed. Further, I am feeling very threatened by
Uncle Ed's repeated behaviour towards me. I admit today that I did allow him to briefly
trigger me, however, I quickly regained my composure and immediately removed myself
from the situation to keep the unnecessary upset away from Grandma and Grandpa. I
cannot continue to feel exploited, alienated and threatened when I visit my
Grandparents. You finally say that we need to work together but you only say that you
want this since the nonsense last week when Grandpa was administered
hydromorphone. I believe that the mishap with Grandpa's medicine calls for a criminal
investigation to be quite honest. It's quite obvious that I'm being actively alienated since
that event and I will let you push me around like this (once again when I'm simply telling
the truth). I felt like you were manipulating me at the time that you asked for me to call
you the day after the even but I agreed (once again) to work together at your odd
request, especially since I had been calling for that sort of cooperation for so long in the
first place. You have made no attempts to work together besides an email where you give
me some basic info whereby you didn't seem to be as forthcoming as you could've been.
You just say what you thought you needed to in attempts to manipulate me. The tears,
the whining, the apologies, the compliments. It's all so typical! Then you have the big
meeting today and you blatantly ignored me and circumvented me. You pulled in the
drive way and could obviously see me, my daughter and my grand son on the front deck
and yet you ignored us on your way into the house. I asked you if you consider this
working together and you ignored me. I felt that you would be confrontational if I
attempted to go down because of how you were acting. I had a major panic attack. When
I regained composure my daughter, my grandson and I walked down to see Grandpa
because that is specifically what they walked up here from town to do. Services aren't
supposed to be provided before 11am...but this never even mattered enough to you to
enforce even though it's what Grandpa, Grandma, Angel and myself have repeatedly
called for. At any rate, all hell was breaking loose and my and my daughter and my
grandson were being painfully alienated and they did not get to visit with Grandpa
except as he was leaving for hospital even though we sat in the porch for a long time
waiting to see him. Whatever the case, my family loses out on time with Grandpa
because you can't communicate and no one knows what is going on. It gets hard to plan
and then when my family is there at the same time as yours you or members of your
family alienate us. We feel nothing but malice and animosity from you and/or your
family. When I spoke to Angel today I told her that I am being alienated from my
Grandparents and that I will be contacting Sue the social worker. Angel told me that she
believes that Sue is coming to meet with the family this week. If this is true could you
please let me know the time and date of this meeting so that I can attend? I would like to
mediate some issues with you as it is obvious that we cannot work together. I do intend
to hold you fully accountable for your actions Aunt Brenda. I recorded our
conversations, especially our most recent phone calls last thursday. You continue to
abuse your power and I do not believe that you are acting in the best interest of my
Grandparents while you treat me and my family such unbelievable malice. Enough is
enough. Uncle Eddie attempts to intimidate me almost every time I see him and I find
that the attempted intimidation is escalating to that of actual threatening behaviour.
Please govern yourselves according hereon. Things have become very serious. I intend to
speak out. You have hurt this family beyond repair and, in my opinion, you are doing all
you can to speed up Grandpa's dying process. I'm beyond disgusted with all that I've
witnessed from you and your alleged Christian family. God sees everything and that is
my only justice in all of this. Please let me know when the meeting with Sue is and
remember that you say you want to work together and that you're willing to meet with
me in the best interest of reducing animosity. I would like to play the audio recording at
our meeting. It's brief and won't take to long. Did you let Grandpas family know that he
had an anxiety attack that sent him to hospital? Grandma told me but you haven't and I
had to tell my Dad because no one had told him. Have you told my Dad that Grandpa's
health is rapidly declining? Do you think he deserves to know considering Grandpa was
in fine shape the last time Mom and Dad were over to have dinner with them. Have you
told my Dad about Grandpa falling out of bed today? I doubt you have because you
haven't even paid me the courtesy of updating me since Grandpa came home from
hospital. All I know is that your vehicle is still there at this time of night and so I assume
that even though I've been the one to spend the night with Grandpa whenever it was
needed up until this point, that you are now assuming this task? Why? We have lots to
discuss. Perhaps you could tell Sue it may have to be a two part meeting. I would like to
discuss a plan for Grandpa and Grandma and I would like to discuss this active
alienation that I am feeling when we attend the meeting. If you can't set this meeting up
I'll give sue a call myself. Either way, we need professional mediation and I will not stop
until I get some peaceful resolution. What you are doing is very wrong in my most
humble opinion and we must all account for our actions. I know you well and in my
experience you stew and get hell bent on revenge. Please do not bring any further harm
to me or my loved ones, especially when we truly have never done anything to you.
Thank you. (PS. I have audio recordings, images, videos and regular statements, of fact
posted to a website. I have given you all opportunity to be fair and decent and you
continue to force me to defend myself. Please simply cooperate, do the right thing and
stop forcing me to move forward in exposing your behaviour. I have not wanted to fight
with you in any way, shape or form and I've tried my very best to communicate with you
and to work with you in the best interests of Grandma and/or Grandpa. You constantly
alienate me and treat me like crap. I have it all detailed. Every single event. I have told
others in the community who are ready to help me to stand up to you. You cannot think
that I haven't been documenting & safeguarding myself and my family for a long time.
Why must you force this? Please, just stop this already. You have hurt so many people
already. I'm sick. I'm tired. I'm hurt. I'm alienated. And for what? Like I said...God sees
it all. We all make choices. I encourage you to make better ones.) Nothing in this email
should be misconstrued so as to be considered threatening. I mean no personal harm to
anyone. I wish for peaceful resolution. If I am found to be incorrect on any points or
facts please correct me accordingly (and in writing) as I do not intend to spread false
information. Brenda
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Ed Sokolowsky <esokolowsky@sympatico.ca> Tue 3:23 PM Mornings are best for
us...please us know...I too believe we should be communicating on what is best for Dad,
based on everyone. ab

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Brenda Everall <beverall31@hotmail.com> Tue 1:47 PM i'm getting this emails ok..
thanks for the info & no there is no date for a meeting yet.
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Ed Sokolowsky <esokolowsky@sympatico.ca> Sun 07-24 Sent from my iPad Mom was
saying you would like to have a family meeting......do you have a date? Ab
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__ Ed Sokolowsky <esokolowsky@sympatico.ca> Sun 07-24 Hope you are getting these
emails....Dad has a low grade fever, so he is an antibodic to be taken once a day, 3 hours
after supper. He will start his anxiety meds after the antibodics run out in 6 days. Thank
you again for the great job you are doing. Ed and I are leaving Mon till Tuesday night.
My cell phone number is not n the counter if you need me. ab

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_ Ed Sokolowsky <esokolowsky@sympatico.ca> Thu 07-21 Uncle Ed didn't realize
which email...best one is esokolowsky@sympatico.ca....yes we need to communicate. AB

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Brenda Everall <beverall31@hotmail.com> Thu 07-21 Hello again This morning I asked
Uncle Ed for an email address because I had not received a reply on this one. Uncle Ed
stated that my email was returned last night. I see no evidence of this. Can I
communicate with you through this email or not? I need to be able to effectively
communicate with you regarding Grandpa and his best interests. Please respond.
Brenda
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____ Brenda Everall <beverall31@hotmail.com> Tue 07-19 Hello I am just checking to
see if this email address is the one you still use before I send anything further. Brenda

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Email from my cousin when I cut ties with the family years ago because of drama and
alienation. We are only in touch now because my Grandpa is sick.