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their life and this is largely influenced by their past experiences and support system. In the
following interview of my mother she discusses being a caretaker to my grandmother until she
passed away a year ago. She first discussed some of the experiences my grandmother had in the
past in regards to her encounters with the hospital. My grandmother was born in the 1930s, so
the healthcare system was quite different when she was younger. She gave birth to 8 children,
all under anesthesia and requiring a week stay in the hospital. Her eldest child was born with
cerebral palsy, and when she asked the doctor what his impairments would be she was told her
would never walk or be able to live a functional life. The nature of my grandma was that she
would not be told what her son would not be able to do, and today he is a father and completely
independent. This stubbornness can be a positive characteristic but can also make working with
the health care system frustrating. Despite this attitude, my grandma was not unfamiliar with
going to the hospital, whether it be during my grandpas experience with cancer and passing
away or delivering communion to sick parishioners from her church. Despite her familiarity
with the hospital and health care system, she was very against being in the hospital herself.
The reason for my grandmas hospital visit was initially an elective surgery to remove a
bowel obstruction. She was having some pain in her intestines and upon going to the doctor she
was told that she had a small obstruction that could be removed laparoscopically. If this surgery
is never performed the patient would most likely face more serious issues down the road, so she
elected to have it done. Risks of bowel obstruction surgery include blood clots, infection,
respiratory issues, and several others (Boniface 2013). Unfortunately, many of these risks
caregivers. The fact that my mom works in the health care system as a dietician and that my dad
is also a doctor helped her a lot with understanding the diagnosis and why things were going
wrong. However, there still seemed to be several issues with communication, especially with
making sure that everyone in the family was aware of what was happening. Something that
stood out to my mom when asking her about the experience was that she felt technology in
health care was becoming a barrier to making a personal connection with the patient. She also
felt that my grandmas personality of being very stubborn and difficult at times was not helpful
to her in establishing relationships with nurses. It also didnt help that she had so many different
doctors and caretakers that there was really no consistency. Something that everyone felt helped
to make her seem like more of an individual was bringing in pictures of her with her
grandchildren, children and husband. Such a lengthy stay in the hospital made grandma seem
much more frail and defeated than she truly was as a woman. Toward the end, she was having
respiratory issues that caused her to be on a ventilator. Nurses felt that they were able to look at
all the pictures of her before her hospitalization and see what a large support system she had,
which gave them something to talk to her about though grandma was not able to talk back.
After a few months of being hospitalized, and having one complication after another,
grandma was finally stable enough for her to move into a nursing home. However, during this
time she had a respiratory issue and began to code, but she was very adamant that she did not
wish to be resuscitated. It was something she was at peace with, and the family respected her
wishes, even though they did not expect that to be the outcome. After grandma passed my mom
was in shock, because all along she had been hopeful for a recovery and had put in so much time
to be with her. She didnt feel that grandma had inadequate treatment, or that there was anything
more she could do but this was because she understood the risks. She mentioned that she
couldnt imagine being in a situation like they had been in with having no medical background or
family member to explain what was going on. When reflecting on the experience in regards to
the health care professionals that she came in contact with, there were no extreme feelings either
way. She explained that some nurses were just there to do their job and not make a personal
connection, but others went out of their way to make grandma a little more comfortable.
When discussing the Kubler-Ross stages of grief, I first asked about what grandma
seemed to have gone through during her hospital stay. It seemed that what stood out was the
anger, depression, and eventual acceptance that it might be her time. In a letter to the editor
written by Eugen Bannerman in response to Kubler-Ross and the stages of dying he described a
possible sixth stage as the stage of being angry at God for not letting you die (Kessler 2004).
This stage also appeared to be displayed by grandma, which at the time was difficult for my
mom and her siblings to understand. All along they were all so focused on her recovery and how
they could help her return to her previous life, but grandma would still bring up how at times she
felt ready to die. They felt that this stemmed from that fact that her husband had passed away a
few years prior, and they also thought she was being dramatic at the time. It was only after she
passed that my mom was able to realize that she shouldnt have discounted that acceptance of
I next approached the subject of how mom has dealt with the loss of her own mother, and
how the experience itself moved her through the stages of grief. She recalls her primary emotion
to be shock, because she had watched her mother go from very healthy and active to so frail in
such a short period of time. She had never doubted that her mom would recover from the
situation, and it was all a lot to process. The other emotion that came to mind was a feeling that
she was lucky to have spent to much time with her at the end. She lived a few hours away, so
before this time it was rare for them to see each other besides holidays and special events, though
they talked on the phone frequently. My mother is both a very religious and practical person, so
she never felt that she went through having any anger and she saw no use for bargaining. She
also said that she and her siblings did not feel any guilt for what had happened, because they all
did their best to make sure she had the best care and coordinated their schedules to always have
someone with her at the hospital. They also felt blessed to have known and discussed as a family
her end of life wishes. Despite what was said during the interview, I recall after the event that
she did have a period of depression for losing her mom, but now has moved into the stage of
acceptance. In the Kubler-Ross book On Death and Dying she describes the acceptance stage as
being able to once again plan your future and re-engage in daily life (Kubler-Ross 1993). I feel
that shortly after the incident this seemed like a struggle for her, but now she is able to opening
talk about her mother without being emotional and is able to fully engage in her previous life
activities.
Prior to conducting this interview, I was nervous that it would be something hard for my
mom to talk about. The entire time that my grandma was in the hospital I was beginning my first
semester of graduate school so I was not really involved. I felt that my mom tried not to bother
me with talking about it a lot, and I havent had a lot of detailed conversations about it following
grandmas death. I was worried that bringing it up would cause her to become emotional and
that wasnt something I wanted to be responsible for. However, when I asked her to do the
interview she was very open to it and willing to recount what had happened. I enjoyed learning
some things about my grandmas life that I hadnt known, and it almost seemed therapeutic for
which makes something so unexpected difficult for her. When I asked her what changed the
most about her perspective after the situation, she said that she is now more sensitive to those
who talk about dying. She has always been the type of person who wants to fix things, but a
situation like this made her realize that not everyone wants to be fixed, and that it isnt her
decision to make.
Something that I felt I was able to take away from the interview is the reminder that those
in the hospital, especially when it is for such a long period of time, are never at their best. I feel
that often times I will think of someone in the hospital as being so depressed and irritable and I
forget that this does not usually represent the person that they are. I always knew my grandma to
be such a strong, independent and selfless woman, but the way my mother described her didnt
sound like my grandma at all. I could imagine that many of the nurses who saw her would have
had a hard time knowing who she truly was if they didnt take the time to ask. Putting this in
perspective inspires me to never judge a patient before I find out what their story is, and talking
to my mom helped me to realize how much family members notice when their loved one is
When interviewing my mom about her perceptions of health care I was interested to hear
her opinions because she herself works in the health care realm. She has been practicing for
several decades and has had her fair share of experiences personally with friends and family, and
something she has noticed a lot in the recent years is the evolution of technology. Through her
experience with grandmas hospital stay she felt that many of the health care workers would
hardly look away from their computer screen and note taking to pay any attention to the patient.
They were often so focused on their job, which could also have been related to understaffing at
the hospital, but it still made patients feel very dehumanized. This is something that somewhat
changed my perceptions that advances in health care technology is always a positive thing. After
reading Ben Number Ten I was convinced that the reasons for all the mistreatment and
desensitization of health care workers had to do with it being so dated. Hearing about some of
the current problems made me realize how important it will be to not let technology get in the
Another take-away point that I will apply to my practice in the future is maintaining
constant communication with my patients. I do not believe that health care workers often realize
that their patient doesnt understand a treatment or what their situation entails, but that is often
the case. When talking to my mom about her experience, she said often times the doctors, nurses
or PTs would come in and do their job but neither the patient nor their family understood exactly
why things were done. I think it would be easy to forget that people who have not been
medically trained will typically have no background knowledge about anything going on in the
hospital. This experience has taught me that I should be explaining the significance of
everything I do just so the patient knows why they should continue to do what I ask. I also think
that understanding the patients baseline knowledge and adjusting to their learning style can help
After conducting this interview, reading Ben Number Ten, and learning about the stages
of grief I have learned a lot about the emotional aspect of being in the hospital and have been
given a lot of patient perspectives to think about. Being knowledgeable about how to treat
someones pathology is only part of PT and it also takes empathy and compassion to leave a
positive impression on your patient. This experience has taught me that I have two options: to
treat being a PT as merely a job and a way to make a living, or to make a positive and lasting
impression on every patient I come into contact with. I am confident that the well rounded
education I have received at the University of Cincinnati will allow me to be more than just a
physical therapist but someone who truly cares for each patient as an individual.
References
1. Boniface K. Bowel obstructions. In: Adams JG, ed. Emergency Medicine: Clinical
Essentials. 2nd ed. Philadelphia, PA: Elsevier Saunders; 2013:chap 40.
2. Kessler D: The extraordinary ordinary death of Elisabeth Kbler-Ross. Am J Hosp Palliat
Med. 2004; 21(6): 416.
3. Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth. On Death and Dying. New York: Collier Books, 1993. Print.