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Justin A. Eriavez
WRTC 103
Professor Fielding
11/2/17
Does Divorce Turn Children into Troubled Adults? 2
Abstract
The research question I have chosen is Does divorce turn children into troubled adults.
I picked it because the topic has many layers to it. Theres a lot of aspects that play in to divorce
and there are many consequences because of it. Its not necessarily a black and white issue and
thats what I like about it, there is plenty of gray area to write about. I also ended up choosing
this question because my parents divorced when I was about four or five years old. In a way,
divorce has affected me and I feel as if it is easier to write about it because its something that I
have experienced and its an issue I really care about. In addition to myself, I have a few friends,
whose parents are also divorced. The importance of the topic should be felt by everyone because
we all know someone who has had to deal with divorce, whether as a child or an adult.
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Introduction
Its highly likely that everyone knows at least one person who has divorced parents. That
fact alone shows how common divorce is these days, but it wasnt always that way. The
troubling matter that divorce causes is the question of what happens to the kids involved. Its not
uncommon for a child of divorce to grow up without a father. The mother typically gets either all
or a majority of the custody of the kids and this could potential scar children. Not having a father
figure around has the potential to be problematic for the mother and the children. Thankfully, not
every child ends up scared because divorce effects each kid in a different way. There are plenty
of aspects as to how divorce can negatively affect a child. The main question to ask is, Does
divorce turn children into troubled adults? From there on, its important to consider how
divorce effects a child and if the childs growth into adulthood is negatively affected. This is an
important topic in todays society due to the frequency of divorce and the effect it may have on
growing children.
Summary
In their document, the Federal Circuit Court of Australia explains the conflicts and
problems associated with divorce. The purpose of the Australias family court is to provide
information for parents about the ways family conflict affects children, both in families who
live together and in families who have separated (Parental conflict and its effect on children,
2012, p. 1). Their main claim is that children are at higher risks of developing numerous
problems when the family has a high level of conflict. Throughout the document, they look to
minimize the problematic situations in high conflict families by explaining what are
problematic parent behaviours (pgs. 1-2). On the last page of the document the family court of
Australia provides readers with more information or assistance on family conflicts and divorce.
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A woman with a personal experience of having divorced parents provided her take in an
interview. The interviewer, who goes by the name Hanssie asks a woman named Linda questions
about the divorce of her parents and what it has been like for her. Hanssie, being divorced
herself, is curious about what divorce is like for a child. After giving a background of herself, as
well as Linda, Hanssie gets to the questions. Lindas answers illustrate what was easy and what
was difficult with her parents being divorced. Linda, now being an adult, gives readers the
insight of what divorce is like for a child to those who may not have had to experience it.
In the pdf file from Carolinas Heath Care website. Authors of the page, Joseph Stegman,
Maricela Dominguez Gulbronson, Mark Clayton, George Hatley, and Angela Noone, describe
the effects divorce have on children claiming, divorce sets these children up for ongoing loss
(Divorce and Its Effect on Children, p. 1). Their purpose is to explain the risks of divorce on
children (p.1) and to lay out guidelines for parents (p. 2). Throughout the pdf file, the authors
list what can happen to children because of divorce and what parents can do to minimize or
Comparison of sources
The first area of comparison is the trouble caused by not having a father around. When
looking at the interview source, Linda states, It was hard not having a father figure around. My
Dad is more than a friend to me than a man who had authority over me. My mom acted as
both roles (How Does Divorce Affect Children? {An Interview With a Child of Divorce},
2015). It seems like her father is in her life but its not the same as him being there. The
similarity between this source and the government document source is evident when the fact
sheet reads Research has found that following separation and divorce, children are twice as
likely to have emotional, social, behavioural and academic problems compared to children from
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families that are still together (Parental conflict and its effect on children, 2012, p. 1). Both
sources explain the consequences of not having a true father figure in the home. The mother may
take on both parental roles but that doesnt always cure the problems caused by divorce.
In addition to the father figures, another similarity between these sources is the idea that
its important for parents to let their kids know they are then when they need to talk. Being
available for conversation is effective in soothing the pain of divorce for a child. During her
interview, Linda generalizes children of divorce, saying its important to watch, listen, give us
space, but show your child that you acknowledge their struggles. Ask your child questions,
theyll answer when theyre ready (How Does Divorce Affect Children? {An Interview With a
Child of Divorce}, 2015). Linda, being a child of divorce, feels communication between the
parent and the child is imperative after a divorce takes place. The government documentation
agrees, writing, Children should feel able to talk openly about their lives in both households, but
not feel obliged to do so. They should also feel safe when expressing their feelings regardless of
which parent they are with (Parental conflict and its effect on children, 2012, p. 1). Both these
sources describe the value of having a parent available to talk at any time about anything that
Contrast of Sources
One disagreement between the three sources is the idea that children of divorce are
affected by the problems that occurred in the family before the divorce take place. The
government document source feels that statement is true, writing, The increased risk of poor
adjustment in children may partly be due to high conflict and other problems in the family before
the separation. This may affect the child/rens ability to cope with the separation (Parental
conflict and its effect on children, 2012, p. 1). That sentiment the government source has
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doesnt exist in Lindas view. In her interview she says that her father wasnt there even before
the divorce, which may seem like an area of conflict. However, Linda says, Although I was too
young to notice, I dont think I would have felt anything (How Does Divorce Affect Children?
{An Interview With a Child of Divorce}, 2015). She elaborates saying that the problem of her
father not being there made divorce seem like part of the plan. She looks at it as a reasoning
more than additional conflict prior to the divorce. It may be safe to say that conflict before the
Lastly, another area of contrast between the sources is the thought of children consciously
pitting their parents against each other. Carolinas Health Care asserts, Other children will play
one parent off against the other to gain power over the situation that appears out of control to
them (Divorce and Its Effect on Children, p. 1). Linda would disagree with this statement, as
in her interview, she said it bothered her to even hear her mother talk bad about her father. She
hated listening to the conflict between them through her mothers words. Linda would never
Conclusion
In conclusion, its clear enough that divorce is a relevant problem for children. Being
brought into this world and in the first few years, seeing the people that brought here argue, fight
and separate is bound to cause problems for anyone. I learned that a childs age plays a factor in
how the divorce effects that child. A child at the age of twelve may handle their parents divorce
differently than a six or seven-year-old. My personal viewpoint on divorce didnt change too
much after the research, although, a few specifics about the varying effects divorce has on kids
caught my attention. The government and health care sources mostly strengthened my
confidence on my personal viewpoint. Both are credible sources of information and the fact that I
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agreed with most of what they were saying made me feel like my viewpoint was validated. The
interview source was interesting because was able to hear from someone else whose parents
became divorced around the same age as when mine got divorced. It broadened my view on the
aspects as to how divorce effects a child. My take on divorce is that if its clear the marriage isnt
working out then divorcing may be the best for the child, however, that doesnt mean I agree
breaking up the family if things can be worked out. I say stay together first, and if the effort to
make it work wasnt enough, then divorce. Its not good for a child to grow up in a household
References
Hanssie. (2015, October 19). How Does Divorce Affect Children? {An Interview With a Child
of Divorce}. http://www.hanssie.com/how-does-divorce-affect-children-an-interview-
with-a-child-of-divorce/
Australia, F. C. (2013, November 01). Family Court of Australia. Retrieved November 02, 2017,
http://www.familycourt.gov.au/wps/wcm/connect/fcoaweb/reports-and-
publications/publications/parenting/parental-conflict-and-its-effect-on-children
Stegman, J. C., Gulbronson, M. D., Clayton, M. C., Hatley, G. W., & Noone, A. (n.d.). Divorce
https://www.carolinashealthcare.org/Documents/Developmental-Behavioral-
Pediatrics/tips/Divorce.pdf