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Professor Debra A. Postil, J.D.
Summer 2017
Research Paper 1
Abuse
Abuse as defined in the dictionary is to treat a person with cruelty or violence. Most
people automatically make the assumption that abuse is connected to physical pain. However,
there are different forms of abuse and each one can have a large impact in a person’s life. Any
type of abuse can affect any individual's social, physical, and emotional development. When
dealing with abuse; there is the more commonly known physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional
abuse, and sexual abuse. Throughout this paper we will be explaining in depth those types of
To begin with, physical abuse is described as non-accidental use of force that results in
bodily injury, pain, or impairment. Any person can suffer from physical abuse. Including,
children and adults, however, it is more common for elderly, developmentally disabled, mentally
ill, people who are physically disabled, substance abusers, and intimate partners. One common
trait that people who are physically abused share is the feeling of shame and at times guilt. They
have a tendency of hiding the abuse from others and feel at fault for the incidents; not
The victims continuously blame themselves as they feel they caused the incident or
caused the abuser to get upset and take action as they physically abuse the victim. Physical abuse
often occurs in a continuous cycle. For example, when in a physically abusive relationship; not
every moment of the relationship is abusive. Since the cycle isn’t every moment of the
relationship, it can give the victim the hopes of the cycle ending or being a one time thing. The
physical abuse cycle often looks like; threats of violence, the actual physical abuse (bitting,
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slapping, etc.), followed by the apologies of the abuse, which can include them turning on the
“charm” or buying gifts, until the cycle repeats itself (Tracy, 2016).
To continue, verbal abuse (also known as verbal bullying) can be defined as a negative
defining statement told to the victim or about the victim. Verbal abuse is the abuse that is more
difficult to discover since it is heard and not seen. Some verbal abuse signs to look out for
include, derogatory comments, making fun or continuous insults, the abuser finding a way to
back you into a corner with no escape and continuously making rude and cruel remarks, etc
(Holly, 2016). Symptoms of verbal abuse can include, nervousness when talking about a
particular topic, a constant “need” to tell yourself about events that occurred making them seem
innocent, doubting your own intelligence, sanity, or communication skills because of the abuser,
the hesitation on recalling the previous conversations with the abuser seeing as their version is
different then your own, etc. Victims of verbal abuse often have a disbelief of their own
perception and usually have a thought of, “Oh, they didn’t mean it that way,” in order to excuse
Next, we continue with discussing emotional abuse, which is defined as any act including
treatment which may diminish the sense of identity, dignity, and self-worth. Emotional abuse
symptoms can vary in any individual's life. Signs can include, yelling or swearing, insults, treats,
humiliating the victim, denial of the abuse and blaming the victim, etc. Just like most forms of
abuse, emotional abuse can continue on a cycle. For a relationship, one partner tends to
emotionally abuse the other in order to show a sense of dominance and control (Tracy, 2016).
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As the cycle mentioned in the physical abuse portion; there is a similar cycle for
emotional abuse. The abuser constantly abuses the other person and finds ways to make up
excuses for their own behavior. As they continue to make up excuses; they avoid taking
responsibility for that they have done. The abuser then have a tendency of acting “normal” and
as if the abuse never happened or again with the “charm” or giving a gift until the cycle repeats
itself. However, these cycles usually always repeat themselves (Tracy, 2016).
Another form of abuse is sexual abuse. Sexual abuse can be defined as any unwanted
sexual activity. However, the sexual activity is not limited to certain actions; sexual abuse can
happen in many different forms. Sexual abuse can happen from rape or being sexually touched
without consent. The abuser either uses force, making threats, or takes advantage of the victim
If the victim does not give consent; then it is sexual abuse. Usually, but not always, the
victim and abuser know each other; which is how date rape can occur. The victim can sometimes
feel guilty or at fault; in the sense of feeling they provoked the abuser either by leading them on
or the way they were dressed. They can also feel at fault when starting to do something with the
abuser, but once someone says no; that is abuse. No means no plain and simple. Immediate
reactions that can happen after sexual abuse has occurred can be, a feeling of shock, fear, or
Abuse comes in different forms and any person can be an abuser or the victim to abuse.
Abuse is not accidental; the intention of abuse is to harm whether physically or mentally. The
reason we chose this topic is to cause more awareness on the different types of abuse. As for me,
this topic hits me harder since growing up I suffered from constant verbal abuse from my own
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father. I was never good enough and he would constantly insult me and remind me how useless
and worthless I was. Later in life I had found out my father went through similar abuse from his
own mother but instead of breaking the cycle he continued it with me.
Thanks to my mother I was able to break the cycle and find self value, but that value
came with a price. By the time I learned about myself, my father’s abuse had already broke me. I
went in search for acceptance and looking for any person to fill that void I had felt for so long. I
eventually met a guy who said all the rights things and seemed caring. I was blinded. I was so
I became the victim of verbal abuse and battery. He had full control of my life and would
blackmail me anytime I didn’t do what he asked. I was stuck in a deep black hole and couldn’t
find my way out. He continuously harassed me with comments and stalking. For the longest
time, I just kept blaming myself and eventually said I probably deserved it for any mistakes I
committed in my life. When it started to get physical, I finally opened my mouth to ask for help.
That situation took a huge emotional toll in my life. After he was out of my life; I lived
with nothing but fear. I was too afraid to leave my house or do anything. I spent nights crying
asking why until I fell into a deep depression. I lost all control and hope as I thought my life
would have been better if I would end it right then and there.
There I stood ready to end it all when a familiar voice inside my head that said, “stop,
don’t do it.” I started to listen until I finally realized it was my mother’s voice. At that moment in
life she actually called me; not knowing she had just stopped me from almost making the biggest
mistake in my life. After that I learned to communicate better and found ways such as therapy to
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help me cope. Which brings us to the following topic of healing and the therapies to help those
Although the types of abuse mentioned above share some similarities, each one is
different and offers its own challenges. The therapy techniques I will discuss are not specific to
one type of abuse but can be applied to various types of abuses. Depending on the individual, a
medical professional may decide to use one or a variety of therapy techniques to help in the
After abuse has taken part, the first step to healing is to report the abuse to local law
enforcement. The survivor of the abuse can take some solace in the fact that the abuser will
hopefully be punished for the crime they have committed against them. After, it is
recommended the individual get a full and thorough evaluation by a medical doctor. The doctor
abuse survivor to learn to trust and successfully move on to the next seven stages of healthy
development, they must regain their feelings of safety and mental stability by talking to a mental
health professional.
Another form of therapy is working with a personal life coach. Working with a life
coach allows individuals a one-to-one personal experience. People who choose this type of
therapy are looking for someone to help heal emotional pain and more importantly someone to
teach them how to do it for themselves (Deaver, 2017). By working with life coaches,
emotional needs and the support needed to meet them, reduction of self-sabotaging behaviors,
reduced anxiety and depression and healthier relationship development (Deaver, 2017). For
individuals that have experienced sexual, domestic, and emotional abuse, life coaches seem to
provide them with the tools needed to choose life partners that promote healthy relationships.
Meditation has scientific proof that individuals who mediate at least 20 minutes a day,
experience improved mental health and focus, better decision making and problem solving,
improved immune system, less worry, anxiety and impulsivity, and lessens fear, improves mood
and self-esteem and increased (Dienstmann.2016). In a Harvard study conducted by Dr. Sara
Lazar, it found that “grey matter concentration increases in areas of the brain involved in
learning and memory, regulating emotions, sense of self and having perspective…(another study
found) a larger hippocampal and frontal volumes of grey matter for long-term mediators
(Dienstmann.2016). These findings are important because there is actual scientific proof that
practicing meditation can improve and change the wiring of the brain to promote healthier
mental health.
Practicing meditation techniques along with regular exercise can further improve one’s
mental and physical health. Aromatherapy also has been known to enhance moods.
Aromatherapy is “the use of plant based oils to improve psychological and physical health,
medicine and has best results when used in combination with other therapy techniques.
Another form of therapy includes the use of therapy animals. Therapy animals, also
known as service animals have been effective when assisting victims of post traumatic stress
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disorder (PTSD), like in victims who have experienced a sexual assault. The University of
Pittsburgh School of Medicine concluded a study that showed therapy animals increase
endorphins, a feel good hormone secreted in the brain and nervous system in human beings.
This is significant for individuals who have suffered a serious emotional injury because the
therapy animals help the individual regain and stabilize their emotions, learn to self-soothe, and
A therapy animal can also be part of a support team for survivors of abuse. Building a
strong support team is essential. Having family, friends, and support groups can aid in reducing
feelings of loneliness, being judged and regain feelings of empowerment and control. If family
and friends are not available then, hotlines, church or religious organizations can also be of
service to provide individuals the opportunity to vent their feelings and feel a sense of belonging
Whatever form of therapy a survivor chooses to use, the main goal of therapy is to heal
from the abuse. The important thing is to ask for help and seek the best method or methods that
fit the survivor. In conclusion, all types of abuse are cruel and have significant mind and body
altering effects on an individual. Just because there is no mark does not mean it’s not abuse.
Unfortunately, abuse happens and knowing the various forms of therapy techniques can help us
References:
Deaver, Diana. (2017). 7 Important Ways Working with a Life Coach Improves
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