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Agenda: Slips
2. Sadness
3. Happiness
4. Fear
5. Disgust
6. Contempt
Direct vs Indirect
Direct
Which
Discussion Engagement
Style Style conflict style
are you?
Accommodation Dynamic
Style Style
Indirect
Discussion Style
- verbally direct approach ● “say what you mean and mean what you say.”
- emotionally restrained ● It’s about the problem not the person
● Talking about the disagreement directly to
one another is a comfortable approach
● yet this “discussion” should be based on
objective facts if at all possible
● both parties should be cautious of including
personal feelings
● Very direct, but never personal
● Resolution comes from discussing ideas
Engagement Style
- verbally direct approach
- emotionally expressive ● “What’s nearest to the heart is nearest to
the mouth”
● Raised tone of voice, more hand gestures
● Disagreements are verbally confronted and
emotion is “put on the table.”
● Resolution comes from engaging emotions
and ideas
● Don’t tell them to calm down
Accommodation Style
- indirect strategies
● Usually “difficult to read” these people
- emotionally restrained ● Need to “save face”
● Resolution comes from harmony
● Resolution is a give and take
● Views more intense emotion as potentially
dangerous and gets in the way of finding
resolution
● They may sound vague or uncertain in the
conversation
● Consults with others prior to direct conflict
Dynamic Style
- indirect strategies ● You can tell they are upset but they
- emotionally intense expression don’t want talk about it right away
● Resolution may come from telling
stories
● Best to use a mediator to help resolve
problems
● skilled at observing behavior, and
comfortable with strong emotional
displays.
● May be seen as unreasonable, too
emotional,volatile, and rarely able to
“get to the point.”
Discussion:
● What are the pros and cons of your way of
dealing with conflict?
● What do you find difficult about working
with other styles?
● What would you want the others to know
about working with your style?