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So how do our relationships � and lives for that matter � happen to relate directly
to our neurobiology? Some very compelling research has taken place over the years
and it�s worth talking about. To begin with, science recognizes that we humans, as
well as all mammals, share in common �three� � yes three � centers of intelligence.
Centers from which we experience, perceive, and make discernments about what we are
engaging with. We�ve been so acculturated to thinking that our intelligence resides
only in our brains, in that grey matter that sits on top of our shoulders, that it
might now surprise you to learn that there are actually three �locations� if you
will from which we experience and make computations about the world.
The Enneagram system has from its beginning recognized that there are three centers
of intelligence or domains of experience. I cannot go on without mention of how
astounded I often am that such knowledge, as demonstrated in the Enneagram�s system
and symbol itself, was readily available to us long before microscopes, full body
scans, or any of the other profound technological advances made available to us
this century that now prove this to be viable. The Enneagram system is sliced, if
you will, into three sections; these three sections are directly aligned with
what�s now well understood as the three centers of intelligence of humans/mammals.
The three centers are as follows:
The Head Center. Also called the Mental Center, as well as the �Thinking� Center.
The Heart Center. Also called the Emotional Center, as well as the �Feeling�
Center.
The Body Center. Also called the Physical Center, as well as the �Moving� Center.
The Enneagram system is further validated by what these three centers actually
demonstrate across ALL mammalian behavior. Here is how. Modern affective
neuroscience shows us that all mammals have three basic aversive reactions when the
three BASIC NEEDS of mammals are not met:
Fear/Anxiety � This reaction occurs when we experience a threat, challenge, or
danger to our very security. This reaction is driven by the Head Center of
intelligence, which is the center that figures out what makes life certain and
secure for us.
Distress/Panic � This reaction occurs when we experience the loss of connection and
bonding. This reaction is driven by the Heart Center of intelligence, which is the
center that innately pursues the need for bonding and love.
Anger/Rage � This reaction occurs when we experience that we aren�t being treated
right, are being violated, or that we are not getting/can�t get what we want/need
at any given point in time. This reaction is driven by the Body Center of
intelligence, which is the center that senses what is wrong about the world around
us and how we need to take action to correct it/fulfill ourselves.
These three fundamental reactions are very powerful, as they are high-alert
reactions and they are not pleasant. They are intrinsic to the very core of our
being, to the fundamental sense of well-being yes, and our downright survival to be
blunt. Fear signals our direct knowing of what makes life secure, which let�s us
get on with all of everything else we get to do here. Distress signals us to the
deep need for as well as the absence of unconditional love, bonding, and �being
held and touched� by others, and anger signals us to the disruption of our
essential worth, place, and belonging to the world around us.
While each of these reactions is critical to how we survive, develop, and grow, we
virtually don�t do too well in life if these are constantly in full throttle. A
process of adapting, adjusting, and managing these reactions becomes part of our
development path. Although aversive in nature, these reactions are initially in
place for good reason and are fundamentally well intended. They are compellingly
present when the three basic needs for security/certainty, love/connection, and
worth/wants are not being met/are threatened. Figure 2 below shows the three basic
needs, the three basic aversive reactions connected to each of these needs, and the
specific center of intelligence to which each is connected.
Our basic drives and emotions reside in the limbic region of the brain (basic
drives also reside in the brainstem). The limbic region lies between the brainstem
or reptilian brain, which regulates the basic bodily functions and the fight-
flight-freeze response. The neo-cortex (front of the brain) regulates the functions
that we think of as primarily human: the generation of ideas, thoughts, concepts,
memories, values, and �the conceptual awareness� of feelings, desires, and the five
senses. The limbic system connects through the brainstem to our bodies. It�s this
connection, these neural pathways, that are core to giving life meaning. These
pathways help us move toward pleasure and away from pain. Powerful often fear-based
memories that evoke emotion reside here in a structure named the amygdala, a name
coined because of its almond shape. Furthermore, another important area of the
limbic system, the underlying hippocampus, serves to link and integrate all areas
of the brain and store vital memories. And through the hypothalamus (a central area
on the underside of the brain, controlling involuntary functions such as body
temperature and the release of hormones) the limbic system contributes to
regulating the hormone functions of the adrenal and thyroid glands as well as the
genital organs, all of which play a significant role in our experience of
connecting and bonding.
And then there�s Mirror Neurons. Little did we know we are not as isolated within
ourselves as we once might have thought. Studies in recent years have come to
understand that we are in fact �social� animals with �social� brains � brains that
to some extent �read� each other, tries to �mirror� each other�s experience. This
�ability� if you will is made possible by something now termed �mirror neurons.� We
all have mirror neurons in the frontal and parietal or side areas of our brain�s
neo-cortex. These mirror neurons take in information about intentions and emotions
in others that allows us to relate to and even experience these intentions and
emotions. Of course, we�re passing this received data and interpreting it through
our own lenses of perception, which can make things really interesting. Maybe even
complicated! In this �exchange of data� process, mirror neurons actually create an
emotional resonance with others and with behavioral intentions. These mirror
neurons then link up with other cortex areas and, yes, the limbic system, through a
central or midline area of circuits called the insula.
Thanks to all of this amazing limbic-system circuitry, we are able to form an
internal representation or map of others. Metaphorically and technically speaking
we get linked together. Importantly, the experience of attachment, of connection to
others, is thanks largely to our limbic area. Let�s go back now to distress and
panic, the aversive reaction we plunder into when we lose attachment. Most of us
have experienced a lost child�s distress or even panic. Or the natural and expected
distress accompanying the loss of a loved one. Sadness and grief, variations of
reactions to the loss of attachment, are reactions in the end that let us know how
much we care, how much connection means to us, and how vital are these experiences
to the whole of our being.
Nurturance. What is nurturance? We all require it, literally, to grow, develop, and
thrive. Yes of course we could speak of nurturance as food, but I am speaking more
specifically to a nurturance that is separate from food that neurologically
required largely by our limbic or mammalian brain. Removing the neo-cortex
(thinking brain) of a hamster still allows the mother to nurture her pups. But even
slight limbic damage destroys her ability to nurture. The limbic system is core to
attachment, nourishment, and development.
Studies conducted of infant mammals that are never picked up, thought fed well
enough, still die from lack of physical, care and contact. Studies with infant
monkeys show that baby monkeys raised in isolation didn�t even know how to
reproduce, and couldn�t function sexually. Even some limited contact with young
peers helped foster more normal reproductive and sexual development. Such studies
reveal the undeniable important of attachment, of love, to development.
Surprisingly enough, limbic nurturance can take precedence even over other basic
survival functions and needs.
Sadly, human infants raised in institutions where there is little human contact
simply do not develop, let alone thrive. A chronological six-month-old may
physically and developmentally resemble a three-month-old infant, even though given
plenty of food and a clean physical environment. These infants instead become
sickly and withdrawn, lose weight, and even die at rates over 40 times the expected
rate. In �the old days� and before the dawn of antiobiotics, premature newborns
were oftentimes excluded from all contact with parents. Placed in sterilized
nurseries the hope was to prevent the possibility of the newborn catching an
infection, based on the concern that infection would increase the likelihood of the
infant dying. However, this practice actually increased the likelihood of the
infant dying! Now parents are encouraged to have direct and immediate physical
contact with their newborn, and thankfully so, mortality rates with this
advancement in place have gone down. We simply do not survive without caring,
physical contact, bonding, and connection.
Mammals and Nursing. To further elicit nature�s amazing design for bonding, did you
know that a newborn�s eyesight can only focus about eight inches in front of them
for the first many months of life, just the distance needed to take in mommy�s
breast and face? Furthermore, the nursing mother and infant experience a shared
awareness of each other and the positive emotion of care, a profound exchange that
all mammals share in common. When nursing the oxytocin, the feel good relationship
neurohormone, goes up in both the mother and infant. And when the father or other
caregiver holds the infant, the oxytocin goes up in them too. The newborn infant
is designed to physiologically and totally recognize its mother and physiologically
responds to her much differently than to a stranger. All that said, the study of
neurobiology validates time and time again the vital importance of love and
connection to our very survival, our very structure, and to our ability to develop
and be in the world.
The Role of Attachment Theory
What is Attachment Theory? It�s a theory (or group of theories) about the
psychological concept of attachment: the tendency to seek closeness to another
person and feel secure when that person is present. The understandings we�ve
gleaned from the study of our own neurobiology, and how these studies further
validate the Enneagram�s long-ago knowing of three centers of intelligence become
further confirmed by the study of Attachment Theory, for which there is now much
research data available. The study of Attachment Theory brings us to understanding
�secure attachment,� the successful bonding of infant to caregiver that results in
three fundamental, primal requirements having been met: The need to be
Acknowledged/Seen (Head Center), the need to be Connected/Loved (Heart Center), and
the need to be Protected/Respected (Body Center).
When the parent or nurturing person is sensitive and present to its
infant�s/child�s needs, secure attachment results and the child prospers. When the
nurturing person, mother or other, does not respond to the child�s needs in
reliable and sensitive ways, or ignores or detaches from the child, avoidant
attachment takes place, which is characterized by the child shying away from
connection. When the nurturing person is inconsistent, altering between attunement
and insensitivity to the child�s needs, ambivalent attachment occurs in which the
child manifests insecurity, often resulting in clinging due to limbic distress.
Lastly, when the nurturing person shows unpredictable and deficient attunement,
disorganized attachment results with the child not knowing what to expect. In this
case, attachment strategies simply collapse.
In limbic-system terms, this is the �3Rs� � limbic Resonance, limbic Regulation,
and limbic Revision. Resonance simply means presence and receptivity � hearing the
other as they are to themselves without judgment or agreement. We hear the child�s
or other person�s melody so to speak, whatever its tune. Regulation means to
balance and harmonize the connection to other and the ability to adapt within a
range of responses.
As a result, there is response-flexibility, resilience, emotional modulation, and
contingent meaning-reliant communication. Revision takes place when we embody both
Resonance and Regulation. It means we all have the capacity to affect each other
and change each other through example, through �walking the talk� so to speak.
So what does all this mean to us? It means that love is dependent on our limbic
connections. It means that our ability to change and grow and adjust to love and
for love and in love is dependent on our limbic system. When these 3 limbic Rs are
present, harmony of connection results. In technical terms, the limbic system
connects to the prefrontal region of the cortex, through the insula network of
neurons, and from this, integration or assimilation takes place. In interpersonal
neurobiological terms, secure attachment promotes the growth of integrative neurons
in the middle prefrontal region of the brain. These vital, integrative, middle-
prefrontal cortex functions include bodily regulation, attuned communications,
emotional balance, fear modulation, response-flexibility, insight, empathy,
morality, and intuition � all of which are thanks to the limbic system functions.
Most importantly, all of us in relationships, not just parents, can learn and need
to learn to develop consistent secure attachment behaviors in order to have and
develop sustaining, fulfilling relationships. We can do this by developing
mindfulness practices that increase our grounded presence, our response-flexibility
that is fueled by curiosity, learning what states of non-judgment look like and
feel like, and to communicate in ways that is congruent with the needs and well-
being of both ourselves and others.
These qualities acted out exemplify the definition and performance, and experience
of love. Tack on to this our Universal Growth Process practices found in Part VI,
which are fundamental daily practices for individual and relationships development.
And Finally�
I encourage you and urge you to give yourself time to reflect on this material.
Keep in mind our neurobiology, what we know about attachment theory, and the
incredible tool we have at our disposal thanks to the wisdom of the Enneagram. With
what we now know about our need to connect, our need to bond, and our ability to
resonate with one another � a key component of the magic designed into our beings �
it�s an exciting prospect to take our relationships and the power of their
possibility, seriously. The effect on our lives may be incomprehensibly life-
changing, beautiful, and magnificent. Wouldn�t you love to find out?