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Living with a roommate is something inevitable for most traditional aged college
students and with that follows conflict. In a nationwide sample of 31,500 students as
occasional conflict with roommates or housemates (Erb, Renshaw, Short, & Pollard,
2014). Though the specifics of the situations vary for students, having their living
situation be confined to a dorm environment or off campus housing, this is often the first
experience of sharing space with another in which case problems emerge. Conflict arises
consequence of countless issues, which are only escalated by the proximity of the
Students published through Minnesota State University, the participants ranked that the
biggest problems between themselves and their roommates were cleaning up trash and
messes which was a problem for 47% of the surveyed group, general communication
issues as a problem for 41%, guests 35%, the noise or destruction from parties 29%, and
sharing belongings, chores and food issues making up the last of the top five list as an
issue for 24% (Haplin, 2009). These conflicts, as well a collection of more issues, were
listed as prevalent causes for arguments and conflict among the young adults. The
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student’s disputes result in stress, which is already heightened by the changes of going to
college, and is the biggest obstacle to success for students (McCorkle and Mason, 2009).
Small issues like trash, or more lasting ones like destruction of property, result in from a
dividing up tasks differ depending on the students, but can be traced back to the
Though conflict seems inevitable for college roommates, there are ways to limit
Negotiations to Reduce Roommate Conflict” reports that, “The ability to meet people and
resolving conflicts are the top two predictors of overall satisfaction with a housing
program” (McCorkle and Mason, 2009). Character factors aside, success for a roommate
is not only dependent on their individual personality, but also how they were paired.
There is data that has investigated how roommates today pair through social media,
Haplin quoted in the MSU journal that “Often, randomly selected roommates work better
than those who were good friends in high school.” Students who filled out a personality
questionnaire were half as likely to request roommate changes than those who did not
match through a form. Contracts and agreements were found to be a successful way to
minimize initial conflict and open communication by both the BSU and MSU Journal. By
examining their preferences, and negotiating rules with their roommate, the students were
less likely to claim they had conflict. Positive communication is the best solution to some
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approaching their roommate with a problem they had about him or her, even if the
problem was minor, temporary, or unsolvable were more likely to actually talk to their
roommate about the problems” (Haplin, 2009). This shows the impact of having a
There are benefits from living with a roommate that make the conflict and
resolution process worthwhile for students. The publication, “The Importance Of College
Roommate Relationships” states that there is proof that college roommate relationships
can have the power to enhance or reduce mental health, and adjustment to college. In
looking at positive relationships between roommates, this helps to protect them from
psychological stress. Those who rated themselves as having the best relationships with
their roommates had a much higher level of emotional adjustment than those who had
rated their relationship the worst. Also included in this research, is that the student’s
ability to form meaningful relationships with their peers, “Leads to gains in multiple
growth, purpose in life, and self-acceptance” (Erb et al., 2014). Through their living
situation, being well adjusted to form a lasting relationship will help them receive these
benefits.
Conclusion
Whether the roommate relationship lasts one year, or throughout all four years of
college, there is likelihood for conflict among the students. These conflicts come from a
difference in the way they accomplish tasks, adjustments from their home life, and
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differences in expectations of the way roles will be divided or performed in their new
living space. Something small like leaving a mess from a party, can result in a large strain
behaviors, like that of a contract. Having preset guidelines for how the roommates will
where communication can happen openly, will help to dissolve these issues. Ultimately,
despite the problems that can transpire between roommates, and the effort needed to
dissolve them, they can offer benefits to the student’s lives. They serve as helpful in
adjusting to the new school environment, can be effective in reducing stress, and can help
them grow in important aspects that will have lasting effects. These benefits and more
help to explain why we live with others, and show that although there is conflict at times,
References
Erb, S., Renshaw, K., Short, J., & Pollard, J. (2014). The importance of college roommate
McCorkle, S., & Mason, S. G. (2009). Conflict in residence halls: A preliminary study of