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Question:
Based on your life experiences, what makes a good parent? What makes a bad parent?
Does your definition of what makes a good or bad parent change depending on the age of
the child? Should our parenting styles or techniques change as our children get older or
should they stay the same? Explain. In your family of orientation, what child-rearing
attitudes (authoritarian, permissive, or authoritative) predominated? What impact did you
parent’s child-rearing attitudes have on you? Interview either one or both of your parents,
or the parent’s of a close friend or relative. What are their greatest joys and challenges as
a parent? What would they do differently? What would they do the same?
Answer:
involved in your life. By present, I don’t mean just physically present. Being present is
physically, emotionally, mentally, etc. I believe that another quality of a good parent is
compassion and understanding of the child, regardless of whether or not they agree with
things. Being a good parent means the child always understands that they are loved, cared
for and supported through everything that life hands them. I also believe that being a
good parent doesn’t necessarily mean you are the perfect parent. A good parent is
someone that takes care of themselves first, so that they can show up for their children
and be available to them. A good parent does what they can to prepare their children for
I believe that a bad parent puts their children in situations that are dangerous and
harmful. A bad parent is abusive and does not put their child’s needs first. A bad parent is
verbally abusive and puts their child down by calling them names or swearing at them.
Another trait of a bad parent is neglecting the children, and not making themselves
My definition of what makes a good and bad parent does not change depending
on how the child is. The needs of the child may change, and the roles of parent and child
may change but once you become a parent, you always have those parental instincts. The
bottom line is that regardless of how young or old the child is they should always feel
attitudes when raising children. According to the textbook, authoritative child rearing
means, “A parenting style that recognizes the parent’s legitimate power and also stresses
the child’s feelings, individuality, and need to develop autonomy” (Strong & Cohen,
2017, p.390). My parent’s were very supportive in allowing me to be who I was, and
explore things that interested me. I believe this helped my self-esteem, and my ability to
all by her response. My mother said that the greatest joy that came with being a parent is
watching each of her four children chase their dreams, and become who they wanted to
be. My parents were and are still very supportive. Each of us children have chosen our
own path in life, and we have been supported the whole way. She said that the happiest
moment in her life has been watching each of her kids become parents themselves. My
mother’s biggest challenge has been watching me struggle with drugs and alcohol
throughout my life, and not be able to save me. She blamed herself for a very long time
for the choices I was making, and it wasn’t until recently that she was able to let go of
that, and allow me to take accountability for my actions. On the other hand, seeing me get
clean and sober and make a better life for myself has been so very rewarding.
In closing, both of my parent’s said that they would not do anything different in
raising their children. They believe that everyone chooses their path in life, and
regardless of the trials they may go through, it is to help shape them into the person they
are.
References
Strong, B & Cohen, T.F. (2017). The Marriage and Family Experiences: Intimate
Question:
Family violence occurs to both males and females. Many people in abusive relationships
never thought they would find themselves in that situation. Although you hope to never
be in this situation, what would you do if you were? Describe what you would do if you
were subjected to spousal abuse? What would you do if your spouse were abusing an
elderly parent? What would your response be if your spouse was abusing your children?
What would you do if your spouse became an alcoholic? Are there things you can do to
prevent these situations from occurring?
I believe that family violence is more common and prevalent than we, as a society
believes. Growing up, I never imagined I would find myself in an abusive relationship or
parents created was one of peace, love and respect. In fact, I didn’t know anything about
abuse or violence until I found myself in a violent and abusive relationship myself.
Having gone through it, I would do things completely different if I ever found myself in
In 2011, I got into a relationship with a man and at the time I didn’t see any
warning signs or red flags. The textbook refers to our relationship as: Intimate partner
abuse or Intimate partner violence which means, “Terms currently used to address the full
scope of violence and/or abuse among intimate couples, regardless of gender, marital
status, or sexual orientation” (Strong & Cohen, 2017, p.450). We were not married,
physically abusive, held me in the house against my will, emotionally tormented me and
lucky enough to survive it, I now know what to look for and how I would handle the
situation in the future if I was ever in that situation again. I would look for red flags such
as: controlling behaviors, degrading comments or saying things to put me down, and
jealousy. If I saw any of these signs I would get out immediately, as hard as it may be. I
know that there are resources and places to go for men or women that find themselves
If my spouse was abusing an elderly parent I would report it, no questions asked. I
wouldn’t even let my spouse know that I was reporting it because he could turn on me.
The same goes for abuse of our children, or any children for that matter. I would speak up
and let him know that it is absolutely not ok, and then I would do anything I had to do to
get the children or the elderly parent out of that situation. Having knowledge of any abuse
going on gives me an obligation to do something about it. I would contact the authorities
because someone that is capable of abusing an elderly person or child will continue doing
it until they get help, or legal action is taken. The last thing I would do is to file for
divorce, or permanently remove myself from the situation. I would not stay in a
help or into treatment. I know that there are a lot of options out there for people
struggling with alcoholism or addiction. Having been through that myself, I would have
compassion and understanding for them. I would take him to an Alcoholics Anonymous
meeting and introduce him to people that can support him if he wants to stop drinking or
using.
I believe that the only thing I can do to prevent these situations from occurring is
to watch for warning signs. I will continue to pay attention to how situations make me
feel, and not ignore them. There are usually always warning signs, or red flags that can
References
Strong, B & Cohen, T.F. (2017). The Marriage and Family Experiences: Intimate
Reflection:
Katie Covieo
FHS 2400 – Marriage and Family Relations
Doing this assignment has helped me focus on the school wide requirement of
submitting an ePortfolio for every class in order to pass the class. I am now more
comfortable building and navigating my way through the website that I created. I was
able to connect this class with the Drugs and Society class I took last semester. I now
have the ability to connect things that I learned in both classes.
In order to complete this assignment, I first needed to pick two of my favorite
essays that I did this semester. I learned how to properly write an essay, and I feel very
comfortable with my skills in essay writing now. I uploaded my essays to my website and
I feel comfortable with my skills doing that as well. My signature assignments show my
ability to think outside of the box and apply the material to my own life.