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Michele R. Kelly
It’s 7:00 p.m. in the city of Buffalo, NY. Families are sitting
down to their after-dinner fun, the TV goes on, board games are
brought to the table, and so on and so forth. In my house, the
familiar words ring up the stairs in my two-family household,
“Michele, it’s 7:00!” Once again, time is of the essence.
Tick . . . tock . . . tick . . . tock. Can you hear that? It is the
sound of the metronome. It keeps you in time with how the
music is supposed to be played. I don’t like the metronome.
Don’t give me rules when I want to express myself! Don’t make
me conform to someone else’s idea of what is “correct.” Let
me be me. Every other Saturday at the Villa Maria Institute of
Music, Mrs. Bommer would make me play a passage over and
over again until I got the notes, fingering, and timing perfect.
PERFECT. What if I didn’t want to be a mimic of Beethoven?
What if I wanted to appreciate Beethoven through the eyes of
Michele? Music should be relevant to the pianist first and THEN
to the teacher. (I understand this is a novel thought . . . ) But
tell me, who’s to say that Beethoven, Bach, Mozart, AND Chopin
didn’t know how to play their own music? Dare I even suggest
it? Would they understand that for me Beethoven’s Moonlight
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104 The Meaning in the Music
that idea. Sure, I was never spanked a day in my life but the
threat was always there.
As I look back on those years, I think to myself, Was I an-
gry? Was I jealous? Angry because of the forced practices and
jealous because I couldn’t do what my friends were doing? It
was the worst during the summertime when the windows were
open and I could hear them outside running up and down the
block. Yet somehow, the very thing I said I hated the most, as I
grew older became the thing I missed the most. As I moved into
the later years of high school and then college, music was no
longer a requirement for me. I was no longer forced to practice
the Hannon scales until I could perform them perfectly. I was
allowed to take on different challenges, to pursue different
interests, to come (as they say) “into my own being.” So where
did the music go? And more importantly, what happened to its
meaning for me?
To put it bluntly, I lost the meaning. I seemed to forget how
to give myself to the music and just experience it as I wanted.
Deadlines, agendas, responsibilities, and yes, even goals clouded
my musical receptors. I think Madelon Sprengnether may have
the right idea in Crying at the Movies (2002). As Stephen Walrod
elaborates in his review of Sprengnether’s memoir, surrender-
ing to an experience can be overwhelming yet therapeutic. I
reflect on Walrod’s words:
the way I would feel after I poured my heart out on the piano.
It was so draining and so rewarding all in the same breath. I
thought that I could have those feelings back anytime I wanted
them. But when those experiences seemed to become less and
less frequent, I began to tell myself I had “lost” what I now call
a gift. But what if I’m not supposed to have that experience
right now? What if I am meant to have other gifts in my life to
lead me to be the person I will become? In an unexpected way,
Saks has guided me to a forgiving place in my life. Forgiveness
of myself . . . no more apologies.
Although it will be difficult (I’ve had many years of prac-
tice—no pun intended), I will make every effort to appreciate
the gifts that I currently have. I have avenues of expression
now that many would consider a luxury. For example, I am
free (for the most part) to take any classes I want to take. Be-
ing at a university that welcomes and encourages creativity is a
marvelous thing. How many people in their lives can say they
have come to know scholars from Ivy League schools? If you
take a poll of African-American women, how many could say
that they met the Dalai Lama? I’ve been given an opportunity
to develop one of my greatest assets, my mind. The choice is
up to me as to how I do it.
So far, I have found my new medium within the edifice of
psychoanalysis. To me, it’s like coming home to a place that
you have never been before. It is challenging, rewarding, time-
consuming, draining, frustrating, exciting, overwhelming, and
fascinating—all at the same time. Perhaps my purpose right now
is to exchange my musical expression and gift and replace it
or enhance it, should I ever go back to it, with my experiences
today. Does this seem a little far-fetched? Perhaps. Does it make
sense to me here and now? Definitely.
To me, meaning in music is more than just the notes that
someone plays. It is the journey on which music takes you and
the experience that it gives you. Meaning in music is about
memories and unanswered questions and daring to dream
dreams. It is whatever we as listeners want it to be. For me, music
is an expression of the heart. It gives me joy and gives me grief.
My experience with notes, melodies, and sonatas set me free
somehow. I recently feared that my freedom was gone and that
I had lost the gift of it forever; however, I am beginning to see
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References
Jamison, Kay Redfield. 1995. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness. New
York: Vintage, 1996.
Saks, Elyn R. 2007. The Center Cannot Hold: My Journey through Madness. New York:
Hyperion.
Sprengnether, Madelon. 2002. Crying at the Movies: A Film Memoir. St. Paul: Greywolf
Press.
Walrod, Stephen. 2005. Review of Crying at the Movies: A Film Memoir, by Madelon
Sprengnether. American Imago, 62:137–42.
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