ROLES IN THE FAMILY

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ROLE
Position
Function
Responsibility
Job
Task
Part
character

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Roles are for the proper functioning of the
FAMILY.
– It does not imply superiority, inferiority, or
inequality. Men and women are equal.
– Roles are determined by God not by society of by
ability.
– Roles are necessary for effectiveness in accomplishing
God’s purpose.
– Roles are needed for harmony in the family.
– Roles are needed for role modeling.

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 Roles of Single Adults
1Corinthians 7:32-35 “ But I want you to be free from
concern. One is unmarried is concerned about the things
of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but the one
who is married is concerned about the things of the
world, how he may please his wife, and his interest are
divided. The woman who is unmarried and the virgin, is
concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be
holy both in body and spirit, but the one who is
married is concerned about the things of the world,
how she may please her husband. This I say for your
own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to
promote what is appropriate and to secure
undistracted devotion to the Lord.”

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1Timothy 5:4 But if any widow has children
or grandchildren, they must first learn to
practice piety in regard to their own
family and to make some return to their
parents; for this is acceptable in the sight
of God. (piety – goodness, faithfulness, godliness, piousness, holiness)

o Towards God
1. Love God and serve Him with undistracted
devotion
o You are accountable to God for every thought,
word, deed
o Ask, “WWJD”? (what would Jesus do)
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2. Be His ambassador to your family,
friends, and workplace (sphere of
influence)

o By your behavior
o By your attitudes
o By your conversation
o Share the gospel as a way of life
o Invest time in discipling others
o Bless others – be known for your good deeds that
bring glory to God
o Be involved in Dgroups for accountability and
spiritual growth

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 Towards Parents

“Honor your father and mother (which is

the first commandment with a promise,)
so that it may be well with you, and
that you may live long on earth.”
Ephesians 6:2-3
1. Honor them – let them know you love and
appreciate them.
2. Listen to their advice and follow their
commands.

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3. Be open to them about what is
happening in your life – this helps
them to trust you.
4. Spend time with them – don’t treat
your home like a hotel.
o Eat dinner with them as much as possible
o Join family affairs
5. Contribute to the family budget from
your earnings. Honor means to
provide materially also.

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 6. Help out with household chores, cooking, repairs
– volunteer or ask them what you can do to help.
7. Provide for them when they are old and in need –
God’s social security system.

 Towards Siblings

“Therefore, however you want people to

treat you, so treat them, for this is the
Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 7:12

1. Love them unconditionally.

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2. Develop your relationship with them by
spending time, talking, praying together,
ministering together and having fun
3. Be committed to blessing them through
meeting their need.
 Guard against selfishness
 Don’t be moody

 Prioritize them

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 Towards Yourself

“The second is ..... “You shall love your

neighbor as yourself.” Mark 12:32

1. Appreciate God’s design for you

a) Developyour God given gifts and abilities
b) Know that you are complete in Christ

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  You have everything you need for to be all God
wants you to be and to accomplish His plan for
your life
 You don’t need a spouse to complete you!

2. Protect your purity

a) Don’t be a liability
b) Don’t cause pain to your family members

Be careful of
o What you see
o Pornography
o Tv programs and movies you watch
o Magazines and books you read
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o What you listen to
o Music
o Conversation, jokes

o Where you go
o Places that will tempt you to compromise your
values

o Whom you are with

o Friends that will have a godly influence on you
o Don’t be alone with a married person of the
opposite sex
o Don’t be alone with a person of the opposite sex in
a private place

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 3. Be an example

“Let no one look down on your

youthfulness, but rather in speech,
conduct, love, faith and purity, show
yourself an example of those who
believe.” 1Timothy 4:12

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