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Sydnee Watters
Professor Engelbrecht
English 001
29 June 2017
Humans can be seen as finicky creatures when it comes to relationships, as can be best
seen in high school. Cliques dominate the social life of teenagers with groups such as jocks,
nerds, and “the weird ones”. Behind these groups and relationships are communication and
contact. Those who stick together and can relate to each other usually stay together. Football
players often have strong bonds with their teams and they're constantly in contact in some kind
of way, they pat each other on the back and hug with victories. The contact of human beings and
“Cathedral” by Raymond Carver is a short story that goes in depth about connections of
mankind. The husband realizes there's more to communication than just speaking as he spent the
night with Robert, his wife's blind friend. The husband, wife, and Robert spend the day together
and all the while, the husband is very uncomfortable with Robert's presence. He doesn't wear
glasses to cover his eyes, and Robert's weakened muscles cause his eyes to move independently
and focus randomly. That night, Robert and the husband “watched” television and the husband
began to ask if he knew what a cathedral looked like. When Robert announced he didn't, the
husband explained with words and then eventually began to draw together. They made an
unsteady bond that night with communication and connection. They connected over their words
and communicated through touch. Whereas words did an okay job at explaining the cathedral to
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Robert, the human contact while drawing did him better. People thrive off of human contact and
just small touches can evoke more emotions in the brain than one might think. Contact with
others, such as hugs, can create bonds of trust quicker than words can. Just a simple human touch
can do something in seconds that words may take hours, months, or even years to create. We
thrive off touch to form connections and further relationships with others.
In “We Are a Camera”, the article greatly describes the human connection created
through the popular GoPro camera. Nick Paumgarten explains the interest behind these portable
and durable cameras that entranced the population into sharing their lives. He reveals the effects
of this camera on our personal lives and the lives of others. The GoPro allows people to take
videos on the go, whether it be mountain biking or surfing, the camera can do it all. With the
constant demand of new, interesting material on the internet, it's no surprise there was an influx
of such content from those recording their adventures with GoPros. They allow us to connect to
millions through experiences and the excitement of possibly dangerous feats. People begin to
chase the thrill and record more risky events that will quickly be consumed by the population.
Although you hardly see the person recording, you often get a view of their activities from a
personal point of view. It's almost like you're there. We connect to these people because by
showing off their lives with a GoPro, it feels like we are living them ourselves. With the GoPro,
it doesn't take word or contact to connect with people around the world, or even those right next
to you, it just takes one little camera, one daring person, and many viewers to become engaged.
“The Limits of Friendship” author Maria Konnikova talks about the Dunbar number that
was founded by accident when Robin Dunbar was studying primates. He took interest in how
often they groomed each other and inferred it was related to primates living in complex societies.
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He also hypothesized that the frontal lobe of the brain could relate to or predict the social size of
the animal. With time and research, Dunbar realised he was indeed correct in his studies and thus
the Dunbar number. A certain limit of friends is allowed to certain social groups as “the ones you
can confide in about most things” (Konnikova 236) or “casual friends — those you'd invite to a
large party” (236). Those groups are created by the connections we have with others. Dunbar’s
studies revealed that the constant contact in the communities of primates strengthens their bonds,
so it wouldn't be far off to say that constant contact between friends could lead them to being
closer. With contact comes communication as well and those in your inner circle would be talked
to more often than those in your outer circle. Our relationships with others are purely based off
In the current times, social media is seen as just another part of our lives. Everyday brings
experiences everyone wants to put on Instagram or Snapchat. As Paumgarten states in “We Are a
Camera”, “When the agony of missing a shot trumps the joy of the experience worth shooting,
the adventurer athlete...reveals himself to be something else...a vessel for the creation of
content.” (332). We are so caught up in making sure everyone knows what we are up to that we
forget to enjoy the moment. Our memories aren't as vivid because of the focus on media as we
think “this'll get so many views” or “bet everyone will be jealous”. My intentions aren't to say
social media is a bad thing, it definitely has its benefits, but the world is too absorbed in sharing
every living moment. We have stopped talking as much to each other face to face, and limit
interactions to instant messaging through phones or media. Our lives are up for display so others
can see, but do we see the lives we lead ourselves? We crave the recognition that likes and
reblogs give us, because it gives validation and contact to others when we are apart. That
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recognition we aspire to achieve is just a superficial way of recreating contact and connection we
can get in everyday life. The obsession with media may seem very superficial and self-centered
at first, but I believe we are searching for the human connection virtually because we do not
In order to live a fulfilling life, people crave relationships with others. Our bodies do the
work for is with contact and communication. We talk and understand others to start bonding,
whether it be deep talks or corny jokes. Human contact such as hugs or holding hands or pats on
the backs are just as effective as talking in relationship making with others. As a species we
thrive on connections with others, and our body chemistry agrees with that too. In the end, the
Works Cited
Paumgarten, Nick. ""We Are a Camera"." Emerging: Contemporary Readings for Writers. 3rd