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Broadly speaking, body language consists of how you sit, how you stand, how you use both

your hands
and your feet, and what you do when talking to someone.

Below are some body language that you need to pay attention to when talking to someone:

1. Do not cross your legs and arms.

You may have heard that crossing your arms or legs can show that you are closed to the other
person and this does not create a good conversation. Keep your hands and feet open always.
2. Make eye contact, but not looking at it.
By making eye contact on the other person you can make the conversation better and you can
see if they are listening to you or not. But also not by staring at him (continuously), because it will
make your interlocutor becomes restless.
If you are not accustomed to making eye contact on the other person, you will feel the discomfort
in the first time. Just do it anyway and you'll get used to it someday.
3. Make the distance between your legs.
Giving the distance between the legs (not closed) either in a standing or sitting position indicates
that you are quite confident and comfortable with your position.
4. Shoulder your shoulders.
When you feel tense, you will feel the tension in both your shoulders as well. Usually seen from
the slightly raised shoulders position and forward to the front. Try to loosen the tension by moving
your shoulders and backing back into position or leaning back.
5. Nod when the other person is talking.
Nodding indicates that you are indeed listening. But that does not mean you nodded excessively
(continuously and quickly) like a woodpecker :), because you will look like a fake.
6. Do not bend over, sit up straight.
Bending indicates that you are not passionate, and upright here means is to stay in a relaxed, non-
tense corridor.
7. Lean the body, but not too much.
If you want to show that you are interested in what the other person is saying, lean your body
slightly toward him. But do not be too inclined because you look like you're going to ask for
something.If you want to show that you are confident enough and relaxed, lean your back slightly.
But also do not be too inclined, because you will look arrogant.
8. Smile and laugh.
Be glad, not too serious. Relax, smile and even laugh if someone tells something funny. People
will tend to listen to you if you are seen as a positive person. But do not be the first to laugh if you
tell the funny story yourself, because you will feel nervous and like to be pitied.

Smile when you meet someone, but do not smile continuously because you will be considered to save
something behind your smile.

9. Keep your head straight.

Do not look down when you talk to someone. You will look like you are uncomfortable talking to
the other person and also look like an unconfident person.
10. Do not rush.
This can apply to anything. For those of you who have a habit of walking quickly, try occasionally
to slow down your path. In addition you will look more calm and confident, you will also feel your
stress level is reduced.
11. Avoid movements that indicate that you are anxious.
Like touching your face, wiggle your legs or tap your finger on the table quickly. Such movements
indicate that you are nervous and may interfere with the other person's attention or the people
you are talking to.
12. Effective use of your hands.
Instead of using your hand for things that may interfere with the other person's attention, as
mentioned in point 11 above, it is better to use your hand to help explain what you are saying.
13. Lower your drink glass.
Often we talk to someone while holding a drinking glass in front of our chest. This attitude is
somewhat less good because it will make a considerable 'distance' between you and the other
person. Lower the position of your drink glass, even if you need to hold it up near the foot.
14. Do not stand too close.
In my article: How To Know Someone Is Lying, I have a little review that the person who changes
his position too close to the other person may indicate that he is hiding something or has some
purpose. In addition, of course, will make the interlocutor becomes uncomfortable. Keep always
the 'privacy'

some common body language errors but not everyone is aware, especially the millennial generation. If
you can end this habit, you will definitely thank yourself later.

A. Fidgetting Facing the important moments in life is often makes us restless. If this anxiety often
occurs, then this is something that is not right with you. Usually, people tend to do fidgetting or
small movements with the feet or hands and done unconsciously and repeatedly. Body language
specialist Tonya Reiman says that fidgetting shows nervousness and lack of strength. Fidgetting is
the response of anxiety, usually in the form of movements such as twisting the lock or touching
the hair with the fingers. Of course this movement is quite disturbing. In addition, frequent
touching of the hair can also damage your hair. This habit is difficult to stop. But, you can try to
stop it by playing stress ball or stress ball when the sense of nervous hit.
B. Crossing arms Many people often cross their arms just because they do not know what to do with
their hands. Body language expert, Patti Wood says that you should always keep your hands in
perspective while speaking. "When the other person can not see your hand, they are wondering
what you are hiding," he said.
C. Doing strange things by hand There are people who do not do any movement while talking.
However, there is also the opposite. Reporting from The Washington Post, behavioral consultant
Vanessa Van Edwards said that using hand gestures when speaking is actually an effective way to
involve the other person.
D. Walking with dragging feet Humans are sometimes too fast when judging someone. Just by
looking at walking alone people can do a lot of judgment on our person. So, we also have to pay
attention to how to walk so as not to get a bad judgment from them. Based on the BBC report,
the way we walk it turns out to determine the risk to be robbed. Criminals will avoid people
walking with confidence as their crime targets. It's hard to change the way we walk. However,
walking with confidence and coordinated footsteps is important. The dragged footsteps just show
our self-confidence.
E. Forgot Smile Body language expert, Tonya Reiman, also said that the smile shows confidence,
openness, warmth and spirit. "It also triggers a mirror neuron for the other person, instructing
them to smile back in. Without a smile, someone often looks grim or aloof," he explained. This
mirror neuron is a nerve cell that reflects the movement of others. so when we see other people
doing something we will do the same.
F. Ignoring the other person There is nothing more annoying than talking to people who do not care
about us. Sometimes, when talking to someone there is a distraction that arises, such as a phone
that rings that makes us tempted to check our phones. Or even, we are busy ourselves when there
are others who talk to us. We have to rethink this. Do not let other people feel we ignore when
talking with us. Surely we do not want to be considered a rude and unconcerned person, right?
G. Stoop Stand upright. Some bad habits sometimes make our body hunchback, such as bowing
while writing or sitting. Reporting from Psychology Today, bending makes us look not confident
and bad for our backs. So, from now on stand up straight. This method not only improves your
image but also health. Read: 6 Body Language That Brings Goodness of Life
H. Do not make eye contact Eye is a reflection of the heart. Sharon Sayler, author of What Your Body
Says (And How to Master the Message) says that the ideal eye contact is a fleeting eye contact
rather than a long, sharp eye contact. Staring for too long can make anyone you talk to feel
uncomfortable. On the other hand, avoiding eye contact also shows a sense of disgust or lack of
I. Too quiet Silence and listening to what the other person is saying is good. But being too quiet in
conversation also makes others feel uncomfortable. Or rather, show our sense of disinterest.
Instead, try to reflect on the person you are talking to. Not that you have to imitate their
movements. This actually makes them offended. However, copy some of their gestures and
expressions subtly.
J. Non-verbal and nonverbal communication mismatch You might say things the right way.
However, if body language and words do not match, it will only make others misperception.
Researchers from Sacred Heart University, USA, have researched this phenomenon. Using a
married couple as a sample, the researcher suggests that incompatibility between words and
signals has brought the burden of emotional messages.