3
Field­Tested
Texting
Strategies
That


I
Promise
Will
Bring
You
More
Dates

With
Women:

1.
How
to
Send
a
Woman
the
Perfect
1st
Text

2.
How
to
Answer
the
“Who
is
this?”
Text

3.
Plus
a
Very
Simple
(but
Very
Effective)
Way
to

Ignite
a
Sexual
Conversation

From:
Jordan
Harbinger
at
The
Art
of
Charm

My
partner
AJ
likes
to
razz
me
because
the
reports
I
write
rarely
“look
pretty.”


Apparently
you
can’t
just
write
down
the
dirty
facts
anymore…
I
guess
you
need
to

make
them
“look
good”
too.

So,
let’s
start
with
a
picture
that
looks
good:

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What
depravity.

The
shame.
The
guilt!

You
might
be
wondering
what
this
overjoyed
picture
of
AJ
in
a
Darth
Vader
hat
has
to

do
with
you
bringing
more
women
into
your
life.


LOTS!

Here
we
have
a
dude
clowning
around
in
the
moment,
just
enjoying
his
journey

through
life.
And
as
you’ll
see
in
the
techniques
I’m
about
to
teach
you…
this
fun,

playful
vibe
is
EXACTLY
what
you
want
to
maintain
in
your
texting.

Anytime
you’re
about
to
send
a
text,
think
about
this
picture
Wirst.
It’ll
put
you
in
the

right
frame
of
mind
and
remind
you
of
what
you’re
about
to
learn.

But
first,
why
focus
on
tex2ng
as
a
da2ng
tool?
FACT:
women
are
using
texting
more
than
ever…
they’re
using
voice
calls
less…
and

these
changes
are
only
getting
more
pronounced.

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Check
this
out:

• According
to
the
Pew
Research
Center,
texting
by
adults
has
increased
over

the
past
nine
months
from
65%
of
adults
sending
and
receiving
texts
in

September
2009…
to
72%
texting
in
May
2010.


• According
to
cellphones.org,
in
2009,
US
cell
phone
users
sent
4.1
billion

texts
per
DAY…
and
95%
of
18
­
29
year
olds
use
text
to
communicate.

Plus,
in
2009,
the
average
voice
call
dropped
to
2.03
minutes…
the
lowest

average
since
statistics
started
being
tracked.


• And
as
an
added
point
to
ponder
when
you’re
living
it
up
internationally,

according
to
the
United
Nations,
“Far
more
people
in
India
have
access
to
a

cell
phone
than
to
a
toilet.”

Here’s
What
This
Means
For
You
Now,
more
than
ever,
you
need
to
focus
on
your
text
game.

It’s
simple:
better
texting
means
you
get
more
dates
with
women.

If
you
don’t
understand
how
to
properly
interact
(Wlirt,
build
attraction,
set
up
dates,

etc)
with
a
woman
via
text,
you’re
going
to
get
left
behind…
and
some
other
guy
is

going
to
win
her
over.

And
get
this:
texting
is
actually
a
better
way
to
communicate
with
a
woman
you
just

met
than
voice
calling.
Here’s
why:

• It’s
less
invasive.
Phone
calls
require
an
immediate
decision
on
whether

she’ll
answer
or
not.
And
many
women
aren’t
comfortable
answering
a
call

from
a
guy
they
just
met.
But
a
text
requires
much
less
commitment,
so
you

actually
have
a
BETTER
chance
of
not
only
capturing
her
attention,
but
also

catching
her
in
a
good
mood
(which
is
the
vibe
you
want
her
to
associate
with

you).

• There’s
no
social
pressure.
It’s
just
direct
access
between
you
and
her.
She

doesn’t
have
her
friends
there
judging
her,
so
she
can
be
fully
herself,
in
the

moment.
This
is
especially
important
for
turning
her
on
and
sexting,
which

I’ll
get
more
into
later.

• While
this
may
at
Wirst
seem
annoying,
the
fact
that
text
responses
typically

aren’t
immediate
is
a
GOOD
thing.
Because
you
don’t
have
to
respond

immediately
like
speaking,
you
have
time
to
craft
the
perfect
response.

It’s
like
seeing
the
conversation
and
attraction
evolve
in
slow
motion.
(How

many
times
have
you
walked
away
from
a
woman
and
only
then
realized
the

perfect
thing
to
say?)
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Think
about
the
guys
in
your
life
who
go
on
a
lot
of
dates.
It’s
almost
guaranteed

they’re
using
texts
to
get
these
women
back
out
in
person.

So,
the
bad
news
is,
you’re
not
alone
in
your
focus
on
texting.

But
there
is
good
news,
too:
few
men
will
ever

understand
what
you’re
about
to
learn
right
here.

Not
even
the
gurus
know
much
about
this.
(If
you
don’t
believe
it,
drop
one
of
them

an
email
and
ask
for
some
speciWic
advice.)

So
unless
you
understand
how
to
read
and
jive
with
women
in
this
new
way…
your

dating
life
will
get
even
harder
and
more
stressful.

But
I
don’t
want
to
get
all
doom
and
gloom,
because
this
is
easy
and
fast
to
learn.

And
it’s
this
kind
of
“Wield
tested”
knowledge
that
will
separate
you
from
the
rest
of

the
pack…
and
can
ultimately
help
you
become
successful
while
your
competition

struggles.

So
let’s
get
into
it.
Here
are
3
strategies
you
can
use
right
now
to
turn
more
of
your

phone
numbers
into
dates
(which,
I’m
guessing,
is
your
whole
purpose
for
getting

her
number
in
the
Wirst
place,
right?).

Field‐Tested
Text
Strategy
#1:

How
to
Send
the
Perfect
1st
Text
You
are
not
the
only
guy
going
after
the
girl(s)
you
are
interested
in.


You
must
be
able
to
separate
yourself
from
the
herd
and
display
that
you
are
the
top

pick.
A
lot
of
guys
can
get
a
girl’s
number,
but
then
they
get
so
excited
that
they

completely
forget
how
to
interact
when
they
are
texting
her.
At
each
step
you
have
to

conWirm
in
her
mind
that
she
made
the
right
choice
to
move
forward
with
you
and

not
the
next
guy
in
line.

Though
you
are
only
sending
1‐3
lines
of
text,
you
are
giving
off
(often

unconsciously)
signals
that
tell
her
a
lot
about
what
type
of
guy
you
are.

For
example:

•
Is
meeting
women
a
typical
behavior
for
you?

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•
Do
you
have
high
Social
Value?

•
Are
you
easily
manipulated
or
do
you
have
a
strong
sense
of
personal
identity?

•
What
kind
of
personality
do
you
have?
Will
you
be
able
to
excite
her
and
make
her

laugh?
Or
are
you
boring
like
every
other
guy?

•
Are
you
needy
or
do
you
have
other
things
going
on
in
your
life?

These
are
just
a
few
of
the
things
she
will
subconsciously
pick
up
from
your
text

messages.


These
will
help
her
determine
whether
or
not
she
wants
to
move
forward
with
the

relationship.
It
seems
like
a
lot
pressure
to
put
in
a
few
lines
of
text,
but
don’t
worry.


You
are
about
to
learn
the
principles
behind
creating
incredibly
successful
Wirst
text

messages
that
give
off
all
the
right
signals.
But
Wirst,
we
need
to
look
at
why
what

most
guys
do
just
doesn’t
work.

What
To
Avoid:
First
Text
No‐No’s
The
Wirst
text
can
be
a
stressful
experience.
You
sit
there
wracking
your
brain
for

hours
trying
to
come
up
with
perfect
way
to
start
off
this
new
text
romance…
but

then
after
all
that
thought,
we
end
up
with
something
brilliant
like:

“Hey
what’s
up?”
“Hey
cutie,
it
was
nice
meeting
you
last
night.
Want
to
hang
out
tonight?”
“How
is
your
day
going?”
“What
are
you
up
to?”
“Do
you
remember
me?
‐{your
name}”
“Hey
it’s
{name}
from
the
bar/party/club
last
night.
What’s
up?”

These
types
of
texts
are
typical
and
therefore
boring.
Instead
of
setting
you
apart,

they
lump
you
right
into
the
‘lame/boring’
category
with
every
other
guy.
Not

only
do
they
not
invoke
any
signiWicant
emotional
reaction
in
her,
and
are
therefore

ineffective,
but
they
kill
any
initial
attraction
you
built
up
with
her
when
you
got
her

number
in
the
Wirst
place.

Doing
it
the
Right
Way:
Ingredients
of
an
Effec2ve
First

Text

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What
goes
into
a
creating
a
Wirst
text
message
that
sets
you
apart
and
makes
her

excited
to
text
you
back?
There
are
three
essential
ingredients
that
your
Wirst
text

message
needs
to
have
in
order
to
make
it
most
effective.

1.
It
needs
to
set
a
fun,
playful
tone
for
future
interactions
2.
It
needs
to
engage
her
emotions,
causing
her
to
re‐afWirm
her
attraction
to
you
3.
It
needs
to
compel
her
to
respond

If
you
can
accomplish
all
of
these
in
your
Wirst
text,
you
can
almost
guarantee
she
will

not
only
respond
positively,
but
will
be
much
more
willing
to
move
forward
with

you.
Let’s
take
a
look
how
to
each
element
works
and
how
to
incorporate
them

together
in
your
Wirst
text.

Setting
a
Fun,
Playful
Tone

If
you
haven’t
Wigured
it
out
yet,
fourth‐grade
humor
is
the
underlying
theme
for

most
of
your
text
messages
(think
of
AJ
in
the
Vader
hat
to
remind
yourself),

including
the
initial
interaction.


Light‐hearted,
super‐silly
jokes
win
women
over.
This
causes
her
to
constantly

associate
positive
and
playful
emotions
with
you.
As
always,
remember
that
the
way

you
word
things
has
a
dramatic
effect
on
how
it
is
perceived
(e.g..
dancing
vs.
bust‐a‐
move).

Engaging
Her
Emotions:
Recalling
Rapport
Topic

The
most
powerful
element
of
creating
an
effective
Wirst
text
is
engaging
her

emotions.
When
she
reads
your
Wirst
few
texts,
you
want
her
to
re‐experience
the

feelings
of
attraction
that
you
created
when
you
got
her
number.


The
easiest
way
to
do
this
is
by
referencing
a
topic
from
your
conversation
together.

This
will
cause
her
to
recall
her
time
with
you
and
to
feel
those
same
emotions
she

felt
at
that
point
‐
the
very
emotions
that
are
the
foundation
of
her
attraction
to
you

(and
you
to
her
as
well).


You
don’t
want
to
have
to
start
over
again
and
re‐build
positive
emotions.
Pick
up

where
you
left
off
with
her,
and
you
will
be
able
to
move
your
relationship
along

much
quicker.


Compelling
Her
to
Respond

How
do
you
get
a
girl
you
are
interested
in
to
respond
to
your
Wirst
text?
The
same

way
you
get
anyone
to
respond
‐
by
asking
a
question
or
making
a
statement
that

requires
more
info.


Simple
right?


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Well,
not
exactly.
It
can’t
just
be
any
old
question
or
statement;
otherwise,
“Hey

what’s
up?”
would
be
an
effective
Wirst
text.
What
kind
of
question
do
you
ask?

Simply
take
a
basic
question
and
re‐word
it
so
it
becomes
fun
and
playful.

Example:

“What’s
up?”
becomes
“What
kind
of
mischief
are
you
causing
today?”

An
example
of
a
fun
statement
that
requires
addition
information
would
be:
“I
just

Wigured
out
what
you
would
be
if
you
were
an
animal.”
If
she
wants
to
know
the

answer
she
has
to
text
you
back.
The
secret
is
to
make
the
statement
about
her

personally.
Nothing
makes
a
person
more
curious
than
what
someone
else
thinks

about
them.

What
an
Effec2ve
First
Text
Looks
Like

Let’s
pretend
that
during
a
conversation
with
a
girl
she
tells
you
a
story
about
how

she
used
to
always
go
to
the
zoo
to
see
the
penguins.
She
was
obsessed
with
them

and
went
to
bed
every
night
until
she
was
twelve
with
her
stuffed
penguin,
Chilly

Willy.


Once
you
nab
her
number
and
it
comes
time
to
text
her,
you
can
now
draw
from
that

story
to
not
only
show
that
you
listened
(good
job)
but
more
importantly,
to
evoke

all
those
emotions
again.


Next
you
compel
her
to
respond
by
adding
a
question
or
statement
that
requires

more
information.
You
then
set
a
fun
and
playful
tone
not
only
by
the
way
you
word

the
question
or
statement,
but
by
adding
in
things
like
nicknames,
teasing,
etc.


If
you
put
it
all
together
it
would
look
something
like
this:

“Hey
my
little
penguin
princess,
what
kind
of
mischief
are
you
causing
today!?

or

“Hey
my
little
penguin
princess,
I
just
realized
which
celebrity
you
remind
me

of..crazy
crazy
:)”

As
brief
and
silly
as
these
text
messages
seem,
they
accomplish
a
lot.


• They
cause
her
to
recall
the
positive
feelings
she
had
when
sharing
that
story

with
you,
thus
re‐afWirming
her
attraction
to
you.


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 • They
demonstrate
that
you
are
not
like
every
other
guy
and
compel
her
to

respond
in
a
playful
way.
This
puts
her
guard
down
and
sets
the
tone
for
a

successful
interaction.


• The
Wirst
example
even
lets
you
know
what
her
plans
are
for
the
day.
You
can

use
this
information
to
move
the
conversation
forward,
and
perhaps
even

plan
a
meet
up.


Not
bad
for
a
few
lines
of
text.
Now
that
you
understand
the
elements
behind
an

effective
Wirst
text
you
can
easily
begin
creating
your
own.

Note:
If
you
are
still
following
a
3‐day
or
any
other
kind
of
rule
about
how
long
to

wait
until
you
send
the
Wirst
text,
cut
it
out
already!
When
it
comes
to
attraction
you

have
to
strike
while
the
iron
is
hot.
Don’t
give
her
time
for
the
memory
of
your

awesomeness
to
fade
away,
or,
even
worse,
get
replaced
by
another
guy.


You
should
almost
always
text
a
girl
within
hours
of
getting
her
number,
and
never

later
than
the
next
day.

Field‐Tested
Text
Strategy
#2:

How
to
Answer
the
“Who
is
this?”
Text
Eventually,
you
will
send
a
text
to
a
girl
only
to
get
back
these
three
little
words:

“Who
is
this?”
There
can
be
many
reasons
for
this.
Maybe
she
lost
her
phone,
or
it

broke
and
she
had
to
get
a
new
one.
Maybe
she
didn’t
save
your
number
or
it
has

been
so
long
since
you
last
text
her
that
she
deleted
it.


Whatever
the
reason,
the
way
you
respond
is
going
to
determine
if
she
is
going
to

incorporate
you
back
into
her
texting
life
or
leave
your
number
unsaved.
You
don’t

want
to
get
the
“Who
is
this?”
response
every
time
you
text
her,
do
you?

How
do
you
respond?


Most
guys
typically
respond
by
trying
to
remind
her
of
how
she
knows
him.
“Hey

this
is
so
and
so
we
met
at
such
and
such
a
place.”
Trying
to
convince
someone
how

they
know
you
will
always
put
you
in
the
position
of
chasing.
You
remember
them

but
you
have
to
remind
them
of
how
they
know
you.
Ouch.

The
solution
is
to
make
her
actually
want
to
know
who
you
are.


Don’t
just
explain
who
you
are
and
how
she
knows
you
right
away.
By
replying
in
a

fun
way
that
doesn’t
try
to
explain
who
you
are,
you
spike
her
curiosity
and
make

her
chase
you.
By
the
time
she
Wigures
out
who
you
are,
she
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fun,
positive
emotions
with
you
ensuring
she
will
be
saving
your
phone
number
and

be
more
than
willing
to
engage
in
future
text
interactions.


Here
are
a
few
examples
of
fun
ways
to
respond:

• “Oh
my
dear
{nickname}...I
thought
my
number
was
inscribed
upon
your

heart???”

• “Your
Prince
Charming...duh!”

• “You
didn’t
save
my
number?!!!
I’m
so
hurt...sniff
sniff..lol”

• “{your
name}.
the
ridiculously
unattractive
guy
who
was
boring...haha
:)”

• “Your
future
ex
husband
of
course
:‐)”

In
Action:

Amber:
That’s
sweet
but
who
is
this
;
)

3/6/08
1:03
AM
Us:
Prince
Charming...duh!

3/6/08
1:04
AM
Amber:
Then
why
r
u
not
with
me

3/6/08
1:31
AM
Us:
because
ur
evil
step
mother
had
me
locked
up
in
the
castle!
but
I
broke
free
and

now
we
can
live
happily
ever
after...how
excited
are
you!?
:)

Note:
You
can
minimize
this
from
happening
by
exchanging
numbers
instead
of
just

getting
her
number.
(See
Section
on
exchanging
numbers
above).

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How
to
Confidently
Take
Your
Conversa2on
Sexual
A
fun
way
to
start
a
sexually‐charged
conversation
is
by
using
a
little
technique
we

have
developed
called
‘The
Dirtiest
Dream
Technique,’
and
it
goes
a
little
something

like
this:

Tuesday,
Dec
23
2008
at
5:49:20
PM
Us:
I
had
the
dirtiest
dream
about
you
last
night…

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Note:
You
can
add
an
‘omg’
at
the
beginning
and
a
‘!’
at
the
end
to
soften
it
if
you
are

messaging
a
girl
with
whom
you
haven’t
built
a
solid
connection.
This
shows
you
are

surprised
that
you
had
a
dirty
dream
about
her.
You
can
also
add
‘btw’
to
make
it

more
nonchalant
like
it’s
no
big
deal.

Tuesday,
Dec
23
2008
at
5:51:20
PM
Julie:
Really?...do
tell...

Tuesday,
Dec
23
2008
at
5:53:14
PM
Us:
Well
we
were
in
the
woods
and
it
had
been
raining
so
we
are
both
soaking
wet
when
you
fell
in
the
mud
and
we
began
to
mud
wrestle...it
was
SO
dirty!

:)

Tuesday,
Dec
23
2008
at
6:09:21
PM
Julie:
Haha
you
are
a
dork
to
the
core.
You
might
want
to
take
a
shower
after
that

one.

One
of
the
beauties
of
this
technique
is
that
by
referencing
a
dream,
you
now

become
free
of
responsibility.
After
all,
you
can’t
control
your
dreams.
For
that
very

reason,
it
makes
women
even
more
curious!
If
you
are
in
the
so
called
“friend

zone”
with
a
girl
you
like,
this
can
be
the
spark
that
begins
her
thinking
of
you

in
a
sexual
way.

Another
fantastic
effect
of
this
technique
is
that
you
lead
her
into
thinking
sexually

and
then
you
release
it
by
using
the
literal
meaning
of
the
word
“dirty.”
She
isn’t

expecting
this,
and
it
makes
her
laugh.
But
now
when
you
take
her
back
into
the

sexual
state
she
will
be
more
relaxed
and
receptive,
allowing
her
to
get
more

aroused
and
invest
more
in
the
interaction!

Tuesday,
Dec
23
2008
at
6:12:38
PM
Us:
Did
I
mention
how
after
I
pinned
you
down
mud
wrestling
I
picked
you
up
and

pushed
you
against
a
tree
and
slowly
began
to
slide
my
hand
up
your
ribs
under

your
clinging
shirt?

Tuesday,
Dec
23
2008
at
6:16:57
PM
Julie:
Well
damn...so
you
feel
like
going
hiking
or
camping
any
time
soon?

Tuesday,
Dec
23
2008
at
6:20:13
PM
Us:
I
haven't
even
told
you
how
as
I
gently
lifted
your
shirt
over
your
head
I
stopped

pinning
your
arms
up
and
passionately
kissed
you
using
your
shirt
as
an
umbrella

for
us...I'm
telling
you
this
dream
was
DIRTY!

Tuesday,
Dec
23
2008
at
6:25:54
PM
Julie:
How
is
it
that
you
just
perfectly
mixed
being
aggressive
with
being
amazingly

passionate
and
adorable...thats
deWinitely
a
dream
that
should
come
true...

Wednesday,
Dec
24
2008
at
8:11:21
AM

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Julie:
So
i'm
about
to
go
to
sleep
Winally
and
i
keep
thinking
about
the
dream
you
had

lol.
Hopefully
my
dreams
are
that
good...it
would
deWinitely
be
a
better
night
if
you

were
actually
here
though
i
must
say.
G'night
peter
pan!
:)

As
you
can
see,
this
is
a
simple
yet
powerful
technique
you
can
use
right
away
to

move
the
conversation
in
a
sexual
direction.
Women
will
not
be
able
to
look
at
you

the
same
way.
Often
times
they
will
continue
to
bring
it
up
over
and
over.
Have
fun

with
this
one.


Where
To
Go
From
Here
Here’s
the
deal...

The
advice
I
just
gave
you
may
sound
straight
up
loony...
and
you
may
have
doubts

about
how
well
these
techniques
will
work
…
that’s
totally
OK.


But
if
you
put
your
doubts
aside
for
just
the
next
few
texts
(you
can
always
come

back
to
your
doubts
later)…
and
try
even
1
of
the
techniques
you’ve
just
learned…

you
will
see
for
yourself
how
powerful
they
really
are.

If
you
keep
doing
what
you’ve
always
done,
you’ll
keep
getting
the
results
you’ve

always
gotten.
The
only
way
to
achieve
NEW
outcomes
is
to
try
something
new.

And
as
you
use
these,
realize
that
this
is
just
a
drop
in
the
bucket
of
our
entire

methodology.


There
is
much
more
to
this...
and
if
you’re
interested
in
this
crucial
step
of
the
dating

process
I
would
be
happy
to
teach
you
more
right
here
(it’s
totally
free).


To
Your
Success,

Jordan
Harbinger

PS
‐‐
This
“texting
primer”
will
help
you
get
more
dates.


The
bummer,
however,
is
that
I
couldn’t
include
a
lot
of
other
important
principles

that
will
also
dramatically
impact
your
relationship
success.

I
haven’t
even
begun
to
mention
the
importance
of
body
language,
touching,
banter,

or
a
slew
of
others
things
on
the
Interaction
Map.


If
these
concepts
sound
foreign
to
you
(or
you
want
to
revisit
the
fundamentals
‐‐

always
a
good
idea)...
you
may
want
to
check
out
our
podcast
‐‐
AJ
and
Jordan
Talk

Chicks.


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Consider
it
a
“toolbox”
that
makes
learning
about
women
easy.
We’ve
broken
down

the
basic
tools
you’ll
need
in
your
skill
set
and
put
them
online...
for
free.


Crazy?
Kinda.
But
I’ll
let
you
decide
for
yourself.
Click
here
to
check
it
out...
and

never
forget
to
enjoy
the
journey.





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