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Reality Therapy (Glasser, 2000) identifies fun as a basic need, this theory
does not appear to feature humor in the process of counseling.
A review of the leading counseling textbooks makes this point salient.
Corey’s (2005) text, Theory and Practice of Counseling and Psychotherapy,
for example, devotes only 12 lines of the entire text to using humor in
therapy (pp. 31–32), except for a small paragraph on its use by Ellis (p. 280).
The eighth edition of the text by Corsini and Wedding (2008), Current
Psychotherapies, does not include any reference to humor in its subject
index. A programmed text often used in courses on techniques of counseling,
Essential Interviewing: A Programmed Approach to Effective Communication
by Evans, Hearn, Uhlemann, and Ivey (2008), also makes no mention of
humor. These omissions may result in counselors misusing humor or not
using it at all with clients. The purpose of this article is to encourage coun-
selors to add humor to their repertoire of counseling interventions and to
elevate its application beyond intuition to a planned strategy.
Gladding (1995) concluded that while the counseling process can be
rigid and is one that is traditionally viewed as serious, humor has been
shown to occur frequently in counseling through the natural interactions of
its participants. Even though the strategic use of humor is rarely in the main-
stream of counselor training, recent literature on humor reveals that the
topic has been discussed from many facets, spanning various fields, thus
suggesting that humor is viewed as an important tool for maintaining and
improving physical and mental health. Using the literature on humor, this
article will specifically focus on how humor can enrich the counselor’s work
with children.
IMPORTANCE OF HUMOR
TYPES OF HUMOR
Various types of humor have been identified and include the unexpected,
exaggeration, incongruity, word play, nonverbal humor, and retrospective
humor. Different types of humor may be appropriate for different clients.
Counselors must be cognizant of the client’s cognitive stage of development
so that they don’t inadvertently cause insult or confusion (Kilgore, 2003;
Klein, 2003; Martin, 1988; McGhee, 1979; Zall, 1994). Sensitivity should also
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The Unexpected
One type of humor enjoyed by all ages is the unexpected. The unexpected
contains elements of trickery and surprise and is usually in the form of a
joke or riddle (Klein, 2003). This type of humor would be useful as an
icebreaker, rapport builder, tension breaker, or tool for the child to use to
make new friends. Some examples of the unexpected are:
Exaggeration
A second type of humor is exaggeration. This type is useful for pointing out
unproductive thoughts or behaviors. The children’s book Alexander and the
Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst (1972) is an
example of exaggeration. The main character faces one “mini disaster” after
another but realizes, in the end, that those days happen to everyone.
Similarly, a counselor could ask a child to purposely exaggerate the worst-
case scenario of a current concern to point out the improbability of the very
worst happening. Exaggeration should be well timed and applied only
when it is appropriate to, and harmonizes with, the context of a counseling
relationship, lest children misperceive that the counselor is minimizing or
devaluing their concerns.
Incongruity
Incongruity is one of the earliest forms of humor to develop and is
composed of impossibilities and improbabilities, such as movies with
talking animals. Bergen (1998) mentions calling things and people by the
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wrong names, or silly names, as another form of incongruity for very young
children. Riddles are another form of incongruity that combines with the
unexpected to puzzle the listener. Once the child learns them, they can be
used to stump others, thus giving the child a sense of mastery.
Word Play
Word play is another form of humor enjoyed by children, although it should be
noted that young children under the age of 6 or 7 may not understand this type
of humor (Bergen, 1998; Gladding, 2005). The double meaning of word play
surprises and delights, leaving the listener with different ways to see an issue.
Example: “‘Have you got any kittens going cheap?’ asked a customer in
a pet shop. ‘No, sir,’ replied the owner, ‘all of our kittens go meow’”
(Hahn, 2006, p. 16).
Retrospective Humor
One area of humor that is often significant in a counseling relationship is
retrospective humor. Retrospective humor is distinguished from other styles
of humor in that it is initially not experienced as humor (Goldin et al.,
2006). For the child who is further along in the counseling process, it can be
cathartic to recall a previously stressful moment in a humorous manner.
This type of humor should be child directed rather than directed by the
counselor to avoid the perception of minimizing the child’s experience.
While the client may direct intentional or unintentional humor, Goldin et al.
contend that client-directed humor might provide the counselor with an
indication that humor is appropriate to use in sessions. The use of retro-
spective humor may also demonstrate that a client is improving.
It is evident that humor has many uses and can assume various forms.
The next section of this article will provide case examples of how humor
can be creatively adapted to enhance mainstream theories of counseling.
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Case of Robert
Robert, a child struggling with school because of attention deficit and
hyperactivity, introduced humor during his initial counseling session with a
knock-knock joke.
Robert: Knock-knock.
Counselor (CO): Who’s there?
Robert: Ben.
CO: Ben who?
Robert: Been waiting so long I’m exhausted.
Robert then asked, “Can we start this counseling with jokes?” The counselor
replied, “Sure, and if you would like, I will share some of my jokes too, but
let’s tell jokes later. “Great,” Robert replied. The counselor employs the
Premack Principle (Premack, 1959, 1963), which states that desired behavior
can be strengthened when highly prized behavior is used as a reward. Thus,
to encourage focused and productive work on problems, the counselor can
use the exchange of jokes as a reward for children’s willingness to face the
problems that brought them to counseling. Furthermore, finding genuine
opportunities to acknowledge Robert’s ability to remember a vast fund of
knock-knock jokes, the counselor sought to strengthen Robert’s self-esteem
and intellectual efficacy. As the themes that concerned Robert surfaced over
time, the counselor selected jokes that served as a springboard for the focus
of therapy. For example, Robert held very high standards for himself, and
with school being quite a challenge in view of his learning challenges, the
following joke was offered to bring some perspective to his struggles:
Case of Teddy
An example of how a child can naturally and spontaneously use humor to
cope with life demands was provided by Teddy, a shy 10-year-old whose
father brought him to counseling because he did not have any close
friends.
Neither the dad nor the counselor could restrain their caring laughter. This
spontaneous comment led to continued work on assertiveness, and Teddy
was encouraged to use humor with peers as well as with family. Dad
bought Teddy several pairs of boxers.
Eclectic Uses
To encapsulate other eclectic uses of humor, we have found the following
applications enrich our work with children. For depressed children, we
introduce humor within the counseling session only after we see some
progress. We use homework fairly early in treatment, however; this includes
reading humorous books and watching humorous movies or television
shows, depending on the child’s preferences and developmental readiness.
Later, as the rapport has solidified and the child has moved toward a more
hopeful outlook, we introduce jokes, puns, and riddles calibrated to the
child’s readiness intellectually and emotionally. Examples of books we like
include A Teacher on Roller Skates by David Adler (1989), The Funniest
Knock-Knock Book Ever! by Joseph Rosenbloom (1986), and Belly Laughs!
by Charles Keller (1990).
Role playing is an ideal way to exaggerate maladaptive interpersonal
behaviors or self-defeating thoughts. For illustration, a dialogue with Joan,
an aggressive 11-year-old girl, is provided.
CO: We have been working on ways you can be assertive rather than
aggressive. Let’s role play how not to talk to a teacher who has disci-
plined a student like you, okay? Which role do you want to play, the
student whom we call Frieda, or the teacher, Ms. Smith?
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Role playing can also exaggerate irrational beliefs and reframe views
that stand in the way of mental health. When counseling a nonassertive
child, for example, the counselor might exaggerate self-deprecation by
verbalizing thoughts like “I am no better than a worm and deserve nothing
better than a bit of dirt to fatten me up for a fisherman’s hook.” The ensuing
discussion usually results in the child acknowledging that no child should
be treated like a worm or think of her/himself like that. Role playing can
then affirm how precious every child is as a birthright and other reframes
that challenge a discounted view of one’s worth.
Exaggeration is contraindicated for some topics: death of a pet or a
loved one, for example. Likewise, some children are too literal to grasp that
exaggeration is a way of seeing issues in another way, often a more
adaptive way. The next section will expand on this section by focusing on
applications in group counseling.
Children and adolescents will often use jokes in group therapy. When a
joke occurs, the therapist must determine whether this joke was used to
distract the group from dealing with an unsettling topic or if the joke can be
used to facilitate group work (Bernet, 2001). Oftentimes, group counselors
will use jokes as a form of “rounds,” where each client has an opportunity
to tell a joke. Bernet states that each client should receive feedback regarding
what the group thought about their joke. It is important for therapists to allow
the clients to tell any manner of joke within the confines of the group, while
explaining that these jokes may not be appropriate outside the group. Some
jokes may be considered offensive or inappropriate in settings outside the
confines of the group, and feedback within the group may be a unique way
of gauging how others feel about a particular brand of humor. Humor in
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group therapy can focus the client toward many goals. Children are
frequently interested in participating in the free exchange of humor, and
this is a dynamic tool for getting the group involved. The structure of the
group may allow each child to get feedback from the other members of the
group, which can further facilitate group cohesiveness. Children are often
more spontaneous in this format, as they are unaware of the unique infor-
mation about themselves they are revealing (Bernet, 2001). In addition, this
type of feedback may help the child assess their understanding of what is
acceptable in a therapeutic setting, and what is acceptable outside of this
particular setting.
While humor can be a valuable counseling tool with children and adoles-
cents, it is best to utilize it thoughtfully and with caution. Counselors recog-
nize that the misuse of humor can harm the relationship with the client
(Kubie, 1970). Counselors should ask themselves why they are using humor
and be able to explain how it enhances the counseling process (Maples et al.,
2001). Clients are not alone in using humor to avoid difficult problems, for
sometimes counselors use humor to “lighten the moment” and, in turn,
avoid facing the challenging issue.
Gladding (2005) and Goldin et al. (2006) point out that to avoid
difficulties in using humor, a counselor must consider timing, appropriate-
ness, and receptivity. Counselors must take extra caution using humor in
beginning stages when trust and rapport are built. The client’s mood at the
time must be taken into account since there will be times when the use of
humor is obviously inappropriate (Martin, 1988). Humor’s specific purpose
in counseling should be in facilitation, as it must fit into the current continuum
of what is unfolding in treatment (Goldin et al., 2006).
Counselors must consider each client individually when using certain
types of humor. There is a consensus in the field (Dana, 1994; Klein, 2003)
that the child’s cognitive level and capacities should be taken into account
when choosing a type of humor; for example, concrete thinkers might miss
the subtlety of abstract humor.
The client’s cultural background is also important to consider since dif-
ferent cultures have varying expectations of the counselor and the therapy
process and different responses to types of humor. Maples et al. (2001)
point out that trust and respect must be firmly established before joking
with culturally diverse clients, and professionalism should be observed at all
times. For some cultures, such as Native American and Asian cultures,
humor is accepted during informal situations, but would seem out of place
and unprofessional if a relationship has not yet been established. Maples
et al. also caution the counselor to consider and respect the client’s cultural
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CONCLUSION
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