Health 8

UNIT 2: Family Life

Courtship, Dating and Marriage

MR. CARLO JUSTINO J. LUNA

Malabanias Integrated School
Angeles City
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Family is the foundation of society
which is primarily responsible for
shaping the lives of its
members.
Do you know
how your parents met
and formed your
family?
Were you able
to ask them their
love story?
 Activity 1: Loop-a-Word
Loop as many words associated with marriage.
P D A T I N G V C T J L C
R R M A R R I A G E F O O
E E E H T A L C Y R E V U
G N F G N E W B O R N E R
N I N F A T U A T I O N T
A E F R I E N D S H I P S
N N S Y F X N Y J K W G H
C T T E U L F A M I L Y I
Y E N G A G E M E N T R P
 Activity 1: Loop-a-Word
Loop as many words associated with marriage.
P D A T I N G V C T J L C
R R M A R R I A G E F O O
E E E H T A L C Y R E V U
G N F G N E W B O R N E R
N I N F A T U A T I O N T
A E F R I E N D S H I P S
N N S Y F X N Y J K W G H
C T T E U L F A M I L Y I
Y E N G A G E M E N T R P
 Assignment
Interview your parents or couples who are close to you.
Ask them the questions below.
1. How did the couple meet each other?
2. Why did they like/love each other?
3. Did the marriage/relationship start with courtship
and dating? How?
4. Is courtship and dating important to them in
choosing a lifetime partner? Why?
5. What message can you draw from the information
that you gathered from your parents of the
couples?
What is
infatuation?

What is love?
LOVE and INFATUATION

Both are intense emotions

that one feels for another
person.
The two feelings differ in their
actuality of love, intensity, and
final outcome.
 INFATUATION (Crush)
 is the state of being
completely carried away by
unreasoning passion or
love; addictive love
 is admiration for someone
while not recognizing that
person’s flaws
 INFATUATION (Crush)
 is a feeling of likeness to
someone in a short period
of time
 usually lasts for only a short
time, few weeks or maybe
a few months
 LOVE
 can be described as a
feeling of intense
affection for someone
 is based on a true
desire for the other
person’s best interests
 ATTRACTION
 is admiration for someone
that may include the
desire to get to know that
person better
 usually takes place in the
form of infatuation or
crush
Activity 2: Picture Connectivity

Why is
What courtship
How words and
do these
can
dating
you important
pictures
form out
applyin
of
choosing a lifetime
these pictures?
to you?
partner?
 Activity 3: Sharing Views
Here are three boxes which need your views to
be shared with the class.
Definitions / meanings /
words that you associate Practices associated Importance of
with courtship courtship
with courtship

• • •
• • •
• • •
• • •
 COURTSHIP

Courtship is the period in a

couple’s relationship which
precedes their engagement and
marriage.
 COURTSHIP

During courtship, a couple gets

to know each other and decides
if there will be an engagement.
 COURTSHIP

Courtship is also a test of

compatibility between the two
persons.
 COURTSHIP

Courtship is an opportunity to
know the background of each
other, including the family where
each one belongs.
 Different
Traditional
Practices
of Courtship
in the Philippines
ILOCOS REGION

Tapat
 serenading (harana)
 “to be in front of the
woman’s house”
TAGALOG REGION

Balagtasan
 The suitor begins singing a
romantic song, and then the
courted lady responds by
singing, too.
LUZON Rooster Courtship
 The rooster is assigned
to be the "negotiator",
wherein the male
chicken is left to stay in
the home of the
courted to crow every
single morning for the
admired lady's family.
BULACAN
Naninilong
 “serenading from
the basement”
BATANGAS

Gestures and Actions

 Serenading with Tagalog love
songs accompanied by a guitar
 Doing household chores
 Pay respect to the woman’s
parents by saying “Mano po.”
PANGASINAN
Taga-amo
 means “tamer”
 is a form of love potion
or charm
Palabas
 means “show or drama”
 The suitor pretends to
commit suicide
KALINGA
Ca-i-sing (Ifugaos)
Ebgan (Kalingas)
Pangis (Tingguians)
 A man and a woman are separated into
“houses.”
 The house for the males is called ato,
while the house for females is known as
the olog or agamang.
PALAWAN
Pasaguli
 Love riddles
 To assess the sentiments of the
parents of both suitor and the woman
Pabalic / Pabalik
 is done to settle the price in a form of
dowry that will be received by the
woman from the courting man
CEBU
 Balak (serenade)
 Love letters (sent through a
trusted friend or relative of the
woman)
 Presents (to the woman and her
relatives)
 Love potions
LEYTE
Pangagad / Paninilbihan
 The suitor accomplishes
household and farm chores for
the family of the woman
(approximately 1 year before
they get married).
 Subok – a trial or test period for
the serving suitor
TAUSUGS of MINDANAO
 Palabas, sarakahan tupul, or
magpasumbahi
 A suitor would threaten to stab his
heart while in front of the courted
woman’s father.
 If the father of the woman refuses
to give her daughter’s hand, the
suitor is smitten by a knife.
BAGOBOS of MINDANAO

 Send a knife or a spear as a gift to

the home of the courted woman for
inspection.
 Accepting the weapon is equivalent
to accepting the man’s romantic
intention and advances.
 COURTSHIP PRACTICES
at the AGE OF TECHNOLOGY

 A suitor can court through the

use of cellphones, the internet,
and social media.
 This courtship practice is
alarming.
 COURTSHIP PRACTICES
at the AGE OF TECHNOLOGY

 You should be careful and

responsible for everything you
post in social media.
 “Think before you click.”
Why is it important
for couples to
undergo courtship?
Importance of Undergoing
Courtship
1. It gives a person time to know better
the character and background of
someone being considered as one’s
future lifetime partner.
2. It gives time to understand one
another and determine if you can
get along with minimal conflicts.
Importance of Undergoing
Courtship
3. It reveals one’s interests, likes and
dislikes, limitations, and aspirations
in life.
4. It allows couples to decide whether
they are ready to be committed.
5. It allows couples to determine and
focus on what to expect in marriage.
Importance of Undergoing
Courtship
6. It develops security and establishes
respect for each other.
7. It develops understanding and
acceptance.
Activity 4: Showing Affection
There are many healthy ways for individuals
to show affection which may lead to courtship
between persons who are physically and
emotionally attracted with one another.

Make a list of practices or behavior

demonstrated by people to show their
affection.
Activity 5: Do You Know?
Copy and answer the following questions:
1. What does it mean to go on a date?
2. What are the activities usually done
during dates?
3. How does dating differ from a regular
outing?
Dating
 DATING
Dating is a social activity which
involves two or more people
generally assessing each other’s
suitability for a potential
relationship.
 DATING
Dating can also be enjoyed as
part of an already active
relationship.
 DATING
Dating is a form of courtship
consisting of social activities done
by two people, as partners in an
intimate relationship or as a
spouse.
 DATING
Dating is an act of meeting and
engaging in some mutually agreed
upon social activity, together as a
couple.
What are the
types
of dating?
 TYPES OF DATING
1. Standard Date – involves two people
2. Double Date – two couples go on a
date at the same time and place
3. Group Date – where any number of
couples can enjoy a date
Importance
of Dating
 IMPORTANCE OF DATING
1. Strengthen the relationship
2. Spend quality time with each other
3. Observe the other person’s character
4. Know one another better
5. Know one’s strengths and
weaknesses
 IMPORTANCE OF DATING
6. Reveal any potential problems the
partners may have
7. Develop affection and respect for
each other
Risks Connected
with Dating
 RISKS OF DATING
1. Date rape
2. Use of illegal drugs
3. Early and unwanted pregnancy
4. Fall prey to thieves, robbers,
kidnappers, or other types of
criminals
 RISKS OF DATING
At times, dating even the people you
think you know maybe risky if they
are just pretending to be trustworthy
but really have bad intentions.
 RISKS OF DATING
So what shall you do?

It is important to be cautious and

safeguard yourself to avoid mistakes
that you will regret later on.
Engagement
“Going steady.”
 ENGAGEMENT
Engagement is a period of
agreement entered between two
people in love for them to be able
to know each other and their
families well enough to be sure
that they are ready and are suited
for life-long companionship.
Activity 6: Sharing Opinions
If you were engaged, which
would you prefer, long
engagement or short
engagement? Justify your idea.
Activity 7: My Ideal Partner
On a bond paper, draw and
colour your ideal man/woman.
Below your drawing, write the
characteristics you expect from
him/her.
Marriage
MARRIAGE

Marriage is the most

enjoyable human relationship.
MARRIAGE

Marriage is the most

significant event that may
happen to one’s life.
MARRIAGE

It take only two people, a man

and a woman, to unite and
make a successful
relationship as married
couple.
MARRIAGE

Marriage is a lifelong
partnership of a man and a
woman.
MARRIAGE

Marriage is a bond between

two people who continue to
grow and develop their best
qualities as human beings.
 What are the
factors to consider in
choosing a lifetime
partner?
 FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

1. Good character
a. God-fearing
b. Responsible and honest
c. Hardworking and industrious
d. Respectful and compassionate
 FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

2. Maturity
a. Handles relationship responsibly
b. Makes wise and well thought-out
decisions
 FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

3. Fidelity
a. Makes the relationship lasting
b. Considers the relationship sacred
c. Sincere and true to promises
made to one’s partner
 FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

4. Commitment
a. Makes peaceful and lasting
relationship
b. Dedicated in fulfilling
responsibilities
 FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

5. Love
a. Strengthens the relationship with
the partner
b. Understands one’s partner
c. Endures till death
 FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

6. Economic Readiness
a. Aims for a better future of the
family
b. Able to provide for the needs of
the family
c. Maintains stable job or business
that can support a family
 FACTORS TO CONSIDER IN
CHOOSING A LIFETIME PARTNER

7. Physical Maturity
a. Has a healthy body
b. Accepts and is proud of partner’s
physical features
 What are the
ingredients of a
successful marriage?
 INGREDIENTS OF A SUCCESSFUL
MARRIAGE

1. Love 6. Cooperation
2. Understanding/Respect 7. Growth
3. Care 8. Involvement
4. Loyalty 9. Sharing and Giving
5. Shared Philosophy 10. Communication
Activity 8: Expressing Opinion
Choose an issue below and discuss your
position (if you are in favor or not) with
your group. You are given 10 minutes to
discuss before you share it with the
class
1. Early Marriage
2. Live-in Partners
3. Same Sex Marriage
Activity 9: Role Playing
To fully understand courtship before
and at present, form a group and decide
on which to portray: either courtship
before or courtship at present. Your
group will be given five (5) minutes to
prepare for the presentation. Be guided
by the scoring rubric to be used in the
presentation.
 Activity 9: Role Playing
Rubric for Evaluation:

(5) (4) (3) (2) (1)

Criteria Needs Some Needs Much
Excellent Good Fair
Improvement Improvement
Relates to audience
Provides a fluent rendition of scenario
Role plays scenario with feelings and
expressions
Varies intonation
Presents characters appropriately
Gives the scenario its full range
THANKS
MR. CARLO JUSTINO J. LUNA
Malabanias Integrated School
Angeles City
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