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Let your woman be king

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 DEDICATION
To every soul seeking and found
happiness in solitude.

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I approve of myself and
unconditionally deeply love
myself.

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Every Queen Deserves to reign.

SALISU KAFILAT OLAMIDE

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Content
Who am I?
Growing pains
Orobo in lagos
Friendships
Love
Get up
Let your woman be king

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 WHO AM
I?
Every soul ponders on this
question at various points of our
lives; some always have answers
some often while others never
figure it out.

What sums up our individuality?

Who am i as a woman?
What gladdens my soul?
Am i caught up in the life I
envisioned?
I believe we are a total of all our
thoughts, beliefs, influences but
then again experiences makes us

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wonder if we know who we truly
are?.

We learn through our experiences

mostly but then again we don’t
always need to have a bitter
experience. We could simply
change our thought, emotions
unlearn what we were conditioned
to be our truth and search within
our soul.

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 AFFIRMATION
I refuse to be a mediocre

I am no longer available for struggle

I am embodied in newness and greatness.

I am in tune with my mind, body and soul.

I remember the insecure girl I was,

who always saw something
negative before the positive, the
girl who will never speak up for
herself, the girl who wanted to be
friends with everyone to seek
validation, the girl who was taken
advantage of because they could
see her weakness. The girl who
looked in the mirror and cried, the
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girl who loved but never
recognised love.
The girl who stopped dreaming
because she saw her dreams as
invalid.

The girl who never saw her special

gifts and uniqueness.

GROWING PAINS.

Graduated from elementary school

with so much pride and zeal .i was
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the head girl with the best grades
and i wanted the same vibe.
Oh my entirely different from what
i envisioned.
I was different and my peers made
it clear to me. I was the new orobo
girl.

The self esteem issues started

didn’t know what it was but i knew
i changed.
Being the new girl and fat was
almost a taboo senior and
teachers would send me on
errands because they wanted to
pick on me.

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Inter house sports came and it
became worse sadly i was in
yellow house that always came
last in games.
Senior shola made my life a living
hell, she would always single me
out to higher my legs she
constantly humiliated me.

What’s your worse experience is

secondary school?

There’s is structure in our

educational system that needs to
pay attention to formative years
and mental health and how deeply

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it affects a persona. Food was my
only comfort.
But the interesting part was the
woman in me still found a way to
shine through had a good
relationship with almost everyone
even though i had been
categorised as the ugly fat friend i
took it.
I still did choreography i remember
miming to booty call.
I still played basketball lol reminds
me of when i fell at a basketball
game and the entire school
laughed i got up in tears but i
continued playing.

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Always pay attention to your
strength it creates opportunity
concentrating on the negative only
creates threats you envisioned for
yourself.
If i had conditioned myself to
notice the amazing things about
me, yes! People told me i never
saw myself in that light

Take your time to meditate how

you see yourself.

Write down the amazing things

about you.
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 AFFIRMATION
I am beautiful

I am embodied in greatness

I am unique

OROBO GROWING IN LAGOS.

There are a million and one
experience i can’t even begin to
imagine your.
I grew up in the heart of lasgidi
Allen Avenue the originator of
night life in Lagos.

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I don’t know to convey this
because no matter how much self
love you have these Lagos streets
will crush you imagine not having
at all!!!!!
Balogun
Ikeja underbridge
Computer village
Yaba
. Just to name a few of these
streets
I got verbally and sexually
molested from the screams,
touching, women inclusive.
The bus drivers and bike men!!
Body shaming on another level .

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What’s your most embarrassing
experience on the streets of
Lagos?

It took a while for me to realise am

not the problem but the damage
was immense. I would never want
to step out would avoid errands
because if the harassment but it
was translated as lazy at home but
truthfully you end up lazy but the
inability to vocalise your thoughts
in most African homes is another
issue.

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Do not let your embarrassing
experience define you.
Respond before reacting
You are not the problem leave
them to dwell on their ignorance.

FRIENDSHIPS

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Have had the good bad and
amazing sides to friendships but
some things were obvious
1 they are friends with you
because the think they are more
attractive.
2 you fit into the squad as the
backup.
3 you are simply amazing and
most comfortable among your
male friends

I once had a squad where i

constantly felt like the odd one
was always on my best behaviour
because i felt i had to prove i was
worthy of their friendship.
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Don’t ever let your self esteem kill
your amazing vibe.
Most importantly do not ever make
yourself feel unworthy.

I had this best friend but i realised

i was always available for her and
not the other way round, she
would come to me during her
tough times and will give my all
but she had other people she
shared the good times with.

You want to know why?

1 i was miserable myself and they
see it and leverage on it.
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2 friendships is give and take
every time she came to lean on me
i was excited to take her back
because i felt she loved me
enough to share bad times with.
No friendship is sharing both the
good and bad.
3 do not see any one better than
you are.

You are not a piece of trash people

dump their shit on, refuse to be
that person.
I still have a very small circle but i
see a clear difference.

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Don’t be sad when people you
thought will be in your life forever
are no longer in it.
It’s a sign of growth and you got to
own the glow up.

Who are your friends to you, who

are you to them?

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LOVE
I still don’t know the kind of luck i
have with love, but one thing is for
sure, you determine how you want
to be treated.

“You know am not supposed to be

dating you but i like you let's keep
it on a low”
I replied
I know there are better girls and
you’re just managing me, i like you
too.

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What level of low self esteem do
we call this!!.
You know am not supposed to be
dating you meant that you are fat
and i shouldn't be seen around
you, you are not worthy of me.

I like you meant you’re an amazing

person

Lets keep it on a low meant lets

not be seen together in public, if
there’s any rumour ill deny and if
am seen with someone else you
do not have the right to react.

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Yes i accepted these terms and
conditions.

I know i am not the only one that

has agreed to this kind of offer

What is your experience?

This is what happens to most plus

size and people with low
confidence and self esteem
generically and this is because
you accept it.

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You have found yourself yet
unworthy again; they see it and
leveraging on it.
You are worthy of the purest of
love with ultimate affection and
respect.
You are not an alien.
Refuse to be kept under the radar.

Affirmation
I give my love to the world and it gives me in return.

Everywhere i see i see love.

I am ready to be in love

I am worthy of the purest version of love.

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Career
Only few pursue their dreams not
because there’s no talent or you
are not intellectually capable but
because you refuse to take
responsibility and opportunity.
You have envisioned the threat so
much that it has become a reality.
The fear of being judge as
moulded you into a box.
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You are the only one that can save
you from yourself.
We are already perceived as lazy
its up to you to remove yourself
from that stigma and get up.
What are your goals?
Your dreams and aspirations
How do you want to achieve them?

AFFIRMATION
I am committed to my goals

I am a gift to the world

I am a magnet for fortune

Prosperity and success is my natural state of mind

I have unwavering discipline and because of this i will succeed.

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LET YOUR WOMAN BE KING
I wasnt referring to a man making
you his king or being a feminist
am very traditional but
enlightened.

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Why did i use the king instead of
queen?
From my perception a queen is
still subordinate to a king even in
the game of chess a queen is
referred to as most important but a
king is most powerful.

Let the woman in you be the most

powerful
You are your kingdom let the
woman in you rule it.

Write down your mistakes and

forgive yourself genuinely

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Forgive others for whatever hurt
they might have inflicted on you

Above all forgive yourself for the

things you allow happen to you.

I knew i wanted more, i refuse to

be ordinary but what was holding
me back? I realised i held on to
The pain i felt in my heart
The feeling of abandonment
The feeling of hatred
The feeling of unworthiness
The feeling of not being enough

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The fear of being judged by
rolls ,stretched marks worse case
because every time i tried to loose
weight i gained double because i
was going to end my problems no
my issues were still staring at my
face.

I wont say i became this person

writing to you overnight, it was a
gradual process, i let the woman in
me become KING, that woman i
buried i had to find her to reign.

I do not have any tips or tricks

because i believe we all have
different healing process but one
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thing is universal and that is SELF
LOVE.

It took me time to find out that i am

the greatest love of my life. You
are with the one you will spend the
rest of your life with and that is the
woman in you let her be KING let
her rule your world.
Look into the mirror and find that
person you have neglected the
whole time LET HER BE KING.
Don't hate yourself for the
experiences you have had
because it makes you stronger
thank those experiences because
some people will spend the rest of
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their lives not knowing the truest
love they will ever experience.

When you let that woman be king,

you will do nothing but provide,
protect, develop nourish yourself.
When you let your woman be king
you know what you want in life
and pursue it.

When you love yourself you

recognise struggle love.
We are naturally not conditioned
to let the woman in us be king and
seek love from the outside
conditioned to give and not
receive.
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I can guarantee you one thing
when you love your self
unconditionally and live everyday
with the purest heart God is not
going to let you down, you will find
that fulfilment from within.

What makes a beautiful

relationship is not when two half
of a whole get, its when two whole
gets together.

The world might not be the

problem it’s simply because you
refuse.

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TO LET YOUR WOMAN BE KING.

AFFIRMATIONS
I live a positive life and only attract the best in my life

I am peacefully allowing my life to unfold

My life overflows with happiness and love

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 I live a positive life

I always have everything i need to be happy.

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