February 2019

Inside
Getting Out ............................ 2

Library Voice ...................... 4

Fun & Games ...................... 8

Wellness ................................. 10

Local History ....................... 12

Wordmonger ....................... 14

Calendar .................................. 17

Local Resources ............... 20

Alt Education ................... 20

Child Development ...... 22

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Getting Out
Visit the Elephant Seals! the year and there is no admission 300 pounds before they venture
fee or reservation required. out on their own by March. Most
of the births usually take place
In February, the last pups are in January, though they started
born, while those elephant seal early this year.
pups born in January are weaning
after spending a month nursing After mating season, which usually
and resting on the beach with peaks around Valentine’s Day,
their mothers. The peak of mating the adults leave their offspring
seaon is around Valentine’s Day. behind. Only about half of the
4,000+ pups born here each year
Visitors enjoy the antics just survive to adulthood.
below the little bluffs that provide
a spread-out viewing area for Much of this amazing spectacle
this amazing spectacle. Less doesn’t require an explanation.
than twenty feet away, huge seal Pups make sure they get their
adults lay in the sand, flipping mom’s attention, and make all
plumes of sand on themselves to sorts of noise. The enormous bulls
The Northern Elephant Seal, rookery for birthing, breeding, keep cool. posture and bellow (it sounds like
Mirounga angustirostris, is an molting and rest. a Harley revving up, or the lowest
Looking along the rookery cove notes of a huge pipe organ) to
extraordinary marine mammal.
The Piedras Blancas Elephant (one of several) you see thousands establish dominance.
It spends eight to ten months a
Seal rookery, on Highway 1 seven of seals—gigantic bulls (up to 16
year in the open ocean, diving
miles north of San Simeon on the feet long and 5,400 pounds) with If you think that these huge bulls
1000 to 5000 feet deep for periods
California Central Coast, is home their characteristic elephant-like would be slow, you haven’t seen
of fifteen minutes to two hours,
to over 25,000 animals. The area snouts; large mother seals nursing them in action, charging each
and migrating thousands of miles,
is open for viewing every day of their pups, and hundreds of pups, other, banging necks and biting.
twice a year, to its land based
squawking loudly. Wherever you look, plumes of
sand keep spraying up, covering
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 Getting Out
1990, when 23 elephant seals prompted them to move.
were counted in the small cove
just south of the Piedras Blancas Friends of the Elephant Seal was
lighthouse. Spring of 1991
brought almost 400 seals to molt.
formed in November of 1997. The
goal of this dedicated group of
The Village Salon
In January of 1992, the first birthvolunteers is education. Docents
occurred. The colony grew at a
phenomenal rate.
are at the viewpoint to answer
questions and help visitors get February is for LOVE
the most from their viewing
In 1993, about 50 pups were born. experience. Public safety and Do you LOVE your hair?
In 1995, 600 pups were born. respect for the seals are prime
The population explosion was considerations.
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animals indicate that most were signs provided by California
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However, all of the major elephant access provided by California erosion. Since it is speculated Blancas are usually moderate, but
seal rookeries were represented. Department of Transportation. that elephant seals return to mate weather can change quickly. Flat
Overcrowding or the failure to on the same beaches where they shoes, warm layered clothing, and
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Library Voice
Check It Out:
February Happenings
by Rebecca Juretic

Introducing cloudLibrary eBooks with additional titles added daily.

County of San Luis Obispo Users can access materials on

Library cardholders now have a
great new option for eBook and
eAudiobook downloads! Begin-
ning February 1st, we’re adding a
new service called cloudLibrary.
cloudLibrary is a unique shared
platform where California public
library systems contribute to a col-
lection of downloadable eBooks
and eAudiobooks. Currently, there
are 21 library systems participat-
ing, and that number continues
to grow. There are over 55,000
unique titles in the collection
their computer, tablet, or mobile
device. The cloudLibrary app is
intuitive and user-friendly, offer-
ing one-time login and one-click
downloads. It is not yet com-
patible with Kindle e-readers.
cloudLibrary is offered in ad-
dition to the other digital col- account, visit yourcloudlibrary.com.
lections of the County of San
Luis Obispo Library, including Check Out the New Children’s
OneDrive, Hoopla and Enki. Books at San Luis Obispo Library
For more information and to get If you haven’t seen it already,
started with your own cloudLibrary there’s a brand new display in the
San Luis Obispo Library Children’s
Section including around 150 beau-
tiful new science and nature books.
These books, along with new free
programs in the coming year, are
offered thanks to a generous grant
from the Harold J. Miossi Charitable
Trust. Be sure to come and browse
this new collection with your fam-
ily – and stay tuned for more new
science and nature offerings at
the SLO Library later this year!
Celebrate Art this Valentine’s
Day at Your Library Branch
We’re getting all the feels this
February as we gear up for
Valentine’s Day. There are tons
of great Valentine’s events for
kids and teens at multiple library
branches. Here are a few (for a
full schedule, visit slolibrary.org):
Obispo County, Inc.  Ages 4 and up.
Sugar Cookie Decorating and Heart
Pencil Craft - February 8, 2:00 - 3:00
PM, Creston Library. For all ages.
Greeting Card Workshop for Teens
and Adults - February 9, 10:30 AM
- 12:00 PM, San Luis Obispo Library.
Join instructor Suzy McBride at the
SLO Library to learn how to make
your own, personalized Valentine
cards! Supplies will be provided,
but space is limited. Registration re-
quired. Register online at slolibrary.
org, or call 805 781-5989 for more
information. Conference Room.
Valentine’s Cards - February 9,
10:30 - 11:30 AM, Morro Bay
Library Program Room. Make a
Valentines Day card for some-
one special. All ages welcome.
Rebecca Juretic is a freelance writer and Public
Relations Consultant for the San Luis Obispo
County Libraries. Rebecca can be reached at:
juretic@sbcglobal.net.

Valentine Art Card Making -

February 1, 1:00 - 4:00 PM,
Creston Library. For all ages.

Valentine Card Art and Picture

Making - February 7, 3:30 - 5:00
PM, Oceano Library. Make a keep-
sake Valentine card for someone
special with an instant picture
of yourself inside. Sponsored by
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Wellness
It happens every day. A mother ten-
derly kisses her baby on the mouth
or wipes her baby’s face with a cloth
moistened with her own saliva. She
tests the temperature of baby food
by tasting it first before serving it
to her baby on the same spoon, or
lets her baby playfully put its fingers
in her mouth and then into its own.
In some families, it is even common
for other members to kiss a baby or
young child on the lips. Why not?
Dental Disease
The bacteria that cause tooth de-
cay and periodontal disease are not
found in the mouths of newborn ba-
bies and can be passed on by even
a simple kiss on the lips. A baby’s
mouth can be colonized with infect-
ed saliva that can be easily transmit-
ted in a number of different ways
according to the American Academy
of Periodontology (www.perio.org).
Once the bacteria are in the baby’s
mouth, they convert sugars from
food and beverages into acids that
eventually destroy tooth enamel.
Women with periodontal disease are
already at risk for premature births
and low-weight babies, and it is easy
to see how this disease might easily
infect a vulnerable newborn through
the innocent affections of family
members. The AAP recommends
that if even one family member has
periodontal disease, all others in the
same household should be screened
because the incidence of saliva con-
tact in families is commonplace
through kissing, sharing utensils and
toys, coughing, sneezing, and other
behaviors.
Periodontal disease, also known as
gum disease, is caused when bacte-
Central Coast Family
Kissing
Babies
by Jim Evans
ria in plaque (a sticky, colorless film
that forms in the mouth) builds up
between the gums and teeth. When
the bacteria begin to grow, the gums
surrounding the tooth can become
inflamed. Periodontal diseases are
among the most frequent affecting
children. These include gingivitis,
periodontitis and periodontal diseas-
es associated with systemic disor-
ders.
If left untreated, inflammation can
cause the gums and supporting bone
structure to deteriorate. This can lead
to gum recession or even tooth loss.
In addition to adverse pregnancy
outcomes, research has shown that
gum disease may be associated with
systemic diseases like diabetes, re-
spiratory and heart disease, rheuma-
toid arthritis, and cancer.
Think you don’t have periodontal
disease? Think again. An estimated
80 percent of American adults have
some form of periodontal disease
and millions don’t even know it. Ac-
cording to the Academy of General
Dentistry (www.agd.org), kissing
can transmit up to 500 different
kinds of germs – including those that
cause gum disease. Just one kiss can
pass gum disease between a parent
and child. Yes, kissing on the lips can
transmit germs between adults too,
but children are more vulnerable
since they haven’t developed their
immune system yet.
Herpes Virus
One of the primary ways young peo-
ple end up with herpes (AKA ‘cold
sores’) is being kissed as an infant
by a well-meaning relative. In fact,
the CDC reports that 60% of those
with the herpes virus, contracted
it before the age of 10 - almost ex-
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clusively from being kissed by a lov-
ing relative. Herpes simplex viruses
(HSVs) cause raised and oozing sores
or blisters on the skin. When these
sores erupt on or close to the lips or
inside the mouth, they are common-
ly called cold sores or fever blisters.
Infants and young children can easily
contract herpes with a single kiss, if
the loved is shedding the virus in sa-
liva with or without a visible lesion.
Once infected, the infant will be a
carrier of the virus for life.
Herpes simplex viruses (HSVs) cause
raised and oozing sores or blisters
on the skin. When these sores erupt
on or close to the lips or inside the
mouth, they are commonly called
cold sores or fever blisters. Infants
and young children can easily con-
tract herpes from a loved one with a
single kiss, if the loved one has a cold
sore or is shedding the virus in saliva
without a visible lesion. Once infect-
ed, the infant will be a carrier of the
virus for life.
One of the first herpes infections
a child may experience is primary
herpetic gingivostomatitis. This can
cause a fever with painful blisters
around the mouth and lips, tongue,
and roof of the mouth, which usual-
ly is not diagnosed or treated. New-
born herpes can be very serious re-
sulting in throat and eye infections,
damage to the central nervous sys-
tem, cognitive impairment, or even
death. HSV can involve the brain to
cause encephalitis and meningitis,
and cause lung and liver disease.
Do not let anyone with a cold sore
or history of sores kiss your baby!
Herpes lesions are very contagious,
but they do not need to be present
to transmit virus. Beyond the neona-
tal period, most primary HSV-1 infec-
tions occur in infancy and childhood
and are transmitted by contact with
infected saliva. Over 25% of children
in the US have serologic evidence
of herpes simplex virus disease by 5
years old, and many more go undiag-
nosed.
In most cases, facial sores are caused
by the HSV type 1 (HSV-1) strain. Many
people have the contagious virus in
their saliva even when sores are not
present, and most do not know they
have herpes. Exposure to HSV-1 is ex-
tremely common, as many as 90% of
American adults have been infected.
To prevent infection, do not allow
people to kiss your child on the face
or share eating utensils or drinking
cups with others. Ask anyone with a
cold sore to wash their hands before
touching your baby.
Herpes infections can also affect
the genitals. These sores are usual-
ly caused by another herpes strain,
HSV type 2 (HSV-2). However, both
strains of the virus can cause sores in
any part of the body. Babies can be
infected during the birth process. If
your baby develops a rash, fever, or
irritation of the eyelids or eyes in the
first months of life, contact your pe-
diatrician immediately.
Of course, these are only a few of
the many infectious diseases spread
through contact with saliva, not to
mention the issue of teaching young
children bodily autonomy. The Amer-
ican Academy of Pediatrics (www.
aap.org) recommends avoiding sa-
liva-sharing behaviors of any kind
around babies and children – includ-
ing kisses on the mouth. The alterna-
tive? Squeeze their feet instead, give
them air kisses, or a tender embrace.
While it is natural to express affec-
tion for children, you don’t have to
share spit with them to show love!
Learn more at: www.perio.org or
www.cdc.gov.  
Jim Evans is a 42-year veteran of the health and
fitness industry and internationally recognized
consultant, speaker, and writer.
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Local History
The Queen of
San Luis Obispo
San Luis Obispo once had her own
Queen. She was a lovely woman
whom many admired, and she
loved and helped many people
in her kingdom. She lived in a big
home that was surrounded by the
most beautiful green hills in the
land. They called her kingdom the
Highland Ranch.
She came from the faraway land
of Iowa and her husband Hora-
tio came from Ohio. He was born
in 1828 and was the pride of the
Warden family. He came to a new
land called California in 1850 in
search of a precious metal. Thou-
sands came to the west to seek
this treasure and build their own
kingdoms. Many were successful
finding gold, but most seekers
found little or none.
Warden Block on Higuera at Garden in San Luis Obispo then and now
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Before he met his future bride,
Horatio realized that building a
business was much easier than
digging for gold, so he traveled in
search of a perfect place to build
his kingdom. In 1868, Horatio set-
tled on the beautiful realm known
as San Luis Obispo. He raised
sheep and grew crops and soon
had so much money, he needed to
keep it safe from robbers. Hora-
tio realized a bank would be the
solution. He and friend Chauncey
Phillips built the bank of Warden
and Phillips, later known as Bank
of San Luis Obispo.
In the year 1882, Horatio and
Queenie joined each other in holy
matrimony. She was a bride of
21, while the love of her life was
54 years old. Queenie, although
• February 2019
young, was a very mature and lov-
ing person. Their life on the High-
land Ranch was wonderful and
soon they started to expand their
business and life. On 3,100 acres,
they raised thoroughbred hors-
es and cattle, and then their first
daughter was born and named
Queenie. Over the next few years,
Horatio and Queenie had a son,
Horatio, Jr., and another daugh-
ter named Mary.
Queenie became a very import-
ant part of the growth of San Luis
Obispo. As the family grew, the
Warden family continued to ex-
pand their kingdom. Racing hors-
es became a source of local enter-
tainment, so Queenie and Horatio
built an arena where people could
race their mighty steeds. They
also supported other organiza-
tions in the area and bought more
land in the city.
The Warden family built a very
large building that became the
jewel of the downtown area. It
was two-stories with large win-
dows to view people walking and
riding down the main street called
Higuera. Local citizens were very
proud of the huge fancy building
where doctors and other profes-
sionals had offices. The building
had a giant glass roof where peo-
ple could see the sky while wait-
ing for appointments.
Horatio and Queenie enjoyed
many years together until he re-
tired at age 70. Queenie became
president of the family business in
1898. Horatio Jr. went off to San-
ta Clara College and returned as
vice-president of the family busi-
ness. Daughter Queenie married a
local man named Thomas Norton,
and had two children.
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Horatio passed away in 1912 and
Queenie was very sad. The entire
community was upset and many
community members came to the
funeral. Queenie and her family
continued to run the business and
she remained active in San Luis
Obispo development. After Hora-
tio passed away, Queenie moved
into Apartment #1 in the Warden
Building. She served as president
of the Civic Club, bringing new
forms of entertainment to town,
such as opera. Queenie also start-
ed a Merchants Parade on Higuera
and a Civic Carnival to spice up life
in the sleepy little kingdom.
In 1925, Queenie decided to have
a bridge built across the creek be-
hind her building so trucks could
make deliveries to the back. The
bridge was like a moat leading to
a castle made of reinforced con-
crete and steel. It became known
as “Queenie Bridge.” You can still
find this bridge across San Luis
Obispo creek today between the
Mission and the Bliss Café / Creeky
Tiki patio. Queenie reigned as
“Queen of San Luis Obispo” until
her death at age 82 in 1944.
Many prominent pioneers helped
create our beautiful “kingdom”
and make it a great place to live.
It’s good to remember people like
Queenie and see the historic con-
tribution to Higuera Street that
she helped create. Go downtown
to visit the Warden Building and
maybe see where Queenie once
lived in Apt #1.
Guy Crabb retired after teaching for over
32 years, most recently at Charles E. Teach
Elementary School in San Luis Obispo. He was
selected as San Luis Coastal Unified School
District Teacher of the Year for 2006-2007.
Reach him at crabbx5@charter.net.
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Education
CS Perryess
writes
about words
LADIES & PARADISE
I received a comment from the
inimitable and oft-quoted Anne
R. Allen, who proclaimed her
keen interest in the connection
between the words dough, lady,
and paradise. Who am I to turn
down a request from The Manners
Doctor herself?
The connection hearkens back
6000 years to the Proto-Indo-
European word dheigh, dough.
In a mere sixty centuries, dheigh
morphed into the following
words in the following ways:
lady – At some level, the word
lady is redundant. It certainly is
breadworthy. It was constructed
of the Old English term for one
who kneads dough, dage, plus the
Old English word for loaf, hlaf. A
hlafdage was originally one who
made loaves of bread. Over time,
the pronunciation and spelling
morphed to lady.
paradise – Half this word started
as the Greek combining form peri-,
meaning around. We modern
English speakers know this bit of
Greek from the words perimeter,
periscope, period, and periphery.
The second part of paradise is our
old Proto-Indo-European friend,
dheigh, in its later meaning of
to form or to build. The great
grandmother of all paradises, is,
of course, the Garden of Eden,
a protected, perfect place. The
word paradise suggests that a
wall was formed around such a
perfect spot.
A bonus thought – in another
branch of this twisted linguistic
tree, the term dheigh or dough,
also came to be spelled dey and
referred to the servant who made
the dough. We still see vestiges of
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day, servant of the twin.
Of course, Proto-Indo-Europe-
an was never written down. It’s notable first sightings of various takes up a page and a half in the
a language reconstructed by meanings of lady include: Oxford English Dictionary with its
linguists, “believed to have been fourteen shades of meaning.
spoken well before 4000 B.C. 900 – Lady in reference to the
in a region somewhere to the Virgin Mary Substance, on the other hand,
north or south of the Black Sea” comes from the Latin substare,
(OxfordDictionaries.com). Though 1205 – lady recognized as a more literally, to stand firm. Interestingly,
hard-working forensic linguists courteous term than woman its primary meaning nowadays is
may disagree, the very existence essential nature or essence.
of Proto-Indo-European language 1206 – lady as a synonym for wife Substance takes about two full
adds up to very well-researched or consort (though “yeah, she’s my pages in the Oxford English
conjecture… old lady,” didn’t kick in until the Dictionary. Coincidentally, it also
late 60s) has fourteen shades of meaning.
RETURN OF THE LADies
Understand and substance aren’t
1489 – lady as the queen in chess
If the word lady originally referred synonyms at all, but together,
to the gal who made the bread, they can certainly inspire some
1611 – lady as a kind of butterfly
when and how did lady get a pondering.
(later to become the painted lady)
promotion to become the gal
who watched the servant bake To understand something’s
1704 – lady as the calcareous substance, one must stand in the
bread while nibbling bonbons?
structure in the stomach of a midst of its essence. When we
In terms of written English, I can’t lobster (I don’t make this stuff up) really want to grasp something,
find evidence of lady referring to a isn’t that exactly what we do?
woman who was likely to get her ... and the list goes on. Don’t we surround ourselves as
hands mussed in such things as much as possible with whatever it
dough. In the year 1000, the word UNDERSTANDing SUBSTANCE is, then stand there, and breathe
was used to mean both a mistress it all in?
in charge of servants or slaves and It occurred to me the other day
a woman who rules over subjects, that based on their word parts, Many thanks to sources: OxfordDictionaries.
to whom feudal homage is due. substance and understand could com, etymonline.com, the OED, take our word,
However, lady was constructed of almost be synonyms, or might at and Chicago Tribune.
parts that meant one who kneads least work in concert to tell an
bread. Interestingly, lord literally interesting story. Doesn’t sub-
translates to he who guards the mean under? Don’t stand and
loaves. These two etymologies stance mean pretty much the
together suggest that bread may same thing?
have metaphorically represented
home (being the staff of life and Understand comes from the Old
all). English word, understandan.
Stand means exactly what one
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February 2019 Free Ongoing Events
SUNDAY
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11:30-2:30pm Nipomo: Monarch Club
February is:
American Heart Month
American History Month
Black History Month
Children’s Dental Health Month
National Wild Bird Feeding Month
Responsible Pet Owners Month
International Friendship Month
MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY
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2-4:30pm Los Osos: 2nd & Santa Maria 3:00-6:00 pm in Paso Robles City Park 8:30-11am AG Spencers Market 3:00-6:00pm Old Porte Fisheries AG 9:00am-12:30pm Paso Robles Wal Mart 8:00-10:30am SLO Promenade
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:10 SLO 12:30-4:30pm Santa Maria Town Ctr 2:30-5:00pm Spencers Morro Bay 2:30-5:30pm Cambria Main St Vets Hall 9:00am-12:30pm Templeton City Park
3:00-6:00pm AT Sunken Gardens 6:00-9:00pm Downtown SLO LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 LO 9:00am-1:00pm Paso Downtown Park
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 AT, LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:00 MB, 12:00-2:30pm AG Village Gazebo
10:30 AG, 11:00 NI 10:10 SLO, 10:15 CAM,10:30 AT, 10:30 2:30-6:00pm Morro Bay 800 Main St
Birthstone: Amethyst AG,10:30 LO, 11:00 CAY, 11:30 SMG LIBRARY STORYTIME: 11:00 AG
Langston Hughes’ SLO CO GENEALOGICAL SOCIETY
Birthday (Born in 1902) 1st SAT 12:30am IOOF Hall SLO
world wetlands day
Flower: Iris or Violet
GROUNDHOG
DAY

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11:30-2:30pm Nipomo: Monarch Club 2-4:30pm Los Osos: 2nd & Santa Maria 3:00-6:00 pm in Paso Robles City Park 8:30-11am AG Spencers Market 3:00-6:00pm Old Porte Fisheries AG 9:00am-12:30pm Paso Robles Wal Mart 8:00-10:30am SLO Promenade
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:10 SLO 12:30-4:30pm Santa Maria Town Ctr 2:30-5:00pm Spencers Morro Bay 2:30-5:30pm Cambria Main St Vets Hall 9:00am-12:30pm Templeton City Park
3:00-6:00pm AT Sunken Gardens 6:00-9:00pm Downtown SLO LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 LO 9:00am-1:00pm Paso Downtown Park
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 AT, LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:00 MB, 12:00-2:30pm AG Village Gazebo
10:30 AG, 11:00 NI 10:10 SLO, 10:15 CAM,10:30 AT, 10:30 2:30-6:00pm Morro Bay 800 Main St
world cancer day AG,10:30 LO, 11:00 CAY, 11:30 SMG LIBRARY STORYTIME: 11:00 AG
boy scout day
superbowl lIII hank (Founded in 1910)
CHARLES LINDBERGH’s aaron’s
birthday(Born in 1902) birthday
(Born in 1934)
ROSA PARK’s charles dicken’S
BIRTHDAY(Born in 1812) hershey’s
birthday(Born in 1913) chocolate
founded (in 1894)
laura wilder’S toothache DAY
NEW MOON babe BIRTHDAY(Born in 1867)
ruth’s
birthday national
(Born in 1895) inventors DAY

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11:30-2:30pm Nipomo: Monarch Club 2-4:30pm Los Osos: 2nd & Santa Maria 3:00-6:00 pm in Paso Robles City Park 8:30-11am AG Spencers Market 3:00-6:00pm Old Porte Fisheries AG 9:00am-12:30pm Paso Robles Wal Mart 8:00-10:30am SLO Promenade
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:10 SLO 12:30-4:30pm Santa Maria Town Ctr 2:30-5:00pm Spencers Morro Bay 2:30-5:30pm Cambria Main St Vets Hall 9:00am-12:30pm Templeton City Park
3:00-6:00pm AT Sunken Gardens 6:00-9:00pm Downtown SLO LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 LO 9:00am-1:00pm Paso Downtown Park
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 AT, LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:00 MB, 12:00-2:30pm AG Village Gazebo
10:30 AG, 11:00 NI 10:10 SLO, 10:15 CAM,10:30 AT, 10:30 2:30-6:00pm Morro Bay 800 Main St
umbrella clean out your AG,10:30 LO, 11:00 CAY, 11:30 SMG LIBRARY STORYTIME: 11:00 AG
computer DAY
DAY don’t cry over
spilled milk DAY abraham lincoln’s
birthday (Born in 1809) george washington’s
get a different Birthday
make a friend DAY name day (Born in 1732)

world radio Susan B. anthony’s

white t-shirt DAY birthday
day
(Born in 1820)

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11:30-2:30pm Nipomo: Monarch Club 2-4:30pm Los Osos: 2nd & Santa Maria 3:00-6:00 pm in Paso Robles City Park 8:30-11am AG Spencers Market 3:00-6:00pm Old Porte Fisheries AG 9:00am-12:30pm Paso Robles Wal Mart 8:00-10:30am SLO Promenade
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:10 SLO 12:30-4:30pm Santa Maria Town Ctr 2:30-5:00pm Spencers Morro Bay 2:30-5:30pm Cambria Main St Vets Hall 9:00am-12:30pm Templeton City Park
3:00-6:00pm AT Sunken Gardens 6:00-9:00pm Downtown SLO LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 LO 9:00am-1:00pm Paso Downtown Park
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 AT, LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:00 MB, 12:00-2:30pm AG Village Gazebo
president’s day 10:30 AG, 11:00 NI 10:10 SLO, 10:15 CAM,10:30 AT, 10:30 2:30-6:00pm Morro Bay 800 Main St
(honoring Lincoln & Washington) AG,10:30 LO, 11:00 CAY, 11:30 SMG LIBRARY STORYTIME: 11:00 AG
random acts of
kindness DAY love your pet day
international
dog biscuit
mr roger’s appreciation day
neighborhood
debut (In 1968)

FULL MOON john glen orbited

pluto discovered be humble day
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11:30-2:30pm Nipomo: Monarch Club 2-4:30pm Los Osos: 2nd & Santa Maria 3:00-6:00 pm in Paso Robles City Park 8:30-11am AG Spencers Market 3:00-6:00pm Old Porte Fisheries AG 9:00am-12:30pm Paso Robles Wal Mart 8:00-10:30am SLO Promenade
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:10 SLO 12:30-4:30pm Santa Maria Town Ctr 2:30-5:00pm Spencers Morro Bay 2:30-5:30pm Cambria Main St Vets Hall 9:00am-12:30pm Templeton City Park
3:00-6:00pm
\ AT Sunken Gardens 6:00-9:00pm Downtown SLO LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 LO 9:00am-1:00pm Paso Downtown Park
LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:30 AT, LIBRARY STORYTIME: 10:00 MB, 12:00-2:30pm AG Village Gazebo
10:30 AG, 11:00 NI 10:10 SLO, 10:15 CAM,10:30 AT, 10:30 2:30-6:00pm Morro Bay 800 Main St
AG,10:30 LO, 11:00 CAY, 11:30 SMG LIBRARY STORYTIME: 11:00 AG
national quiet DAY henry wadsworth
tortilla chip longfellow’s
DAY birthday (Born in 1807)

polar bear dAY

tell a fairy
tale day public
sleeping day

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Local Resources
classical education in SLO. Part time Santa Maria Joint Union Home School.

Alternative Education
options are Tuesday/ Thursday or
Monday/ Wednesday with a Friday
enrichment day. Contact: 548-8700
or sloclassicalacademy.com.
Accredited high school program at
Santa Maria Public Library. Interac-
tive student-parent-teacher partner-
ships provide educational resources,

on the
a mentor teacher, and eligibilty for
Wishing Well School in Los Osos of-
sports, clubs, and activities. Students
fers pre-school, mixed age kinder-
may qualify to enroll in community
garden, and 1st-3rd grades. The ap-
proach (educating the whole child: college as well as secondary classes.

Central Coast
head, heart, and hands) is based Contact: 937-2051 x 2761 or x 2762.
on Rudolf Steiner’s Waldorf model. Templeton Independent Study
Contact: 235-4401. High School. WASC accredited.
Children’s House Montessori Weekly meeting with teacher. Op-
School in Atascadero strives to help portunity for early graduation and
each child reach his/her greatest po- concurrent Cuesta College enroll-
tential, by embracing learning and ap- ment. In Templeton and SLO at Los
preciating and respecting the world. Ranchos Elementary School. Con-
tact 434-5833 or tae.tusd.ca.school-
Central Coast families are fortunate to have a wide variety of quality Contact: 466-5068 or childrenshouse. loop.com/tishs.
cc.
choices for their children’s education. Following are some options for
those seeking secular alternative education in our region. Montessori Children’s School in San Trivium Charter Schools in Lompoc,
Luis Obispo seeks to inspire a pas- Santa Maria, and Arroyo Grande
For more information about local private, independent, nature based, sion for excellence, to nurture curi- offer a hybrid program of classical
and religious schools, visit: cde.ca.gov/re/sd osity, creativity and imagination, and project-based classes 2 days per
to awaken the human spirit of every week and homeschool 3 days per
Parent Participation of San Luis cuttacademycharter.net. child. Ages 3-12. Contact: 544-6691 or week. Contact: 489-7474 or trivi-
Coastal Adult School offers core class- montessoriofslo.com. umcharter.org.
es to enhance parenting skills, meet Summit Academy charter school
other families, and allow children serves K-12 grades, and provides per- Central Coast Montessori School in West Mall Alternative School. In-
to play with peers. Also enrichment sonalized home-based learning that Morro Bay offers a rich, individualized dependent Study Home School in
classes such as Spanish, Cooking, and fosters investigation, skill devel- academic environment to promote Atascadero. Contact: 462-4238 or
Gardening, and a Cooperative Pre- opment and creativity, and lifelong independence and optimum scholastic edline.net/pages/West_Mall_Alter-
school at CL Smith. Contact: 549-1222 curiosity. Contact: (818) 450-9810 or achievement. Contact: 772-9317 or native.
or parentparticipation.org. summitacademyca.org. centralcoastmontessori.com.
Paso Robles Joint Unified School
Charter Schools Nature Based Schools Heritage Montessori Preschool District Home School & Independent
in San Luis Obispo provides an en- Study Program serves K-8th grade.
CAVA – California Virtual Academies Outside Now provides summer, af- riching and loving environment in a Students and parents work one-on-
and K¹² give kids the chance to learn ter-school, and private nature-based beautiful country setting. Waldorf one with teachers, receive lesson
at their own pace. Online schooling education in San Luis Obispo County. and Montessori based for ages 2.5-5 plans, textbooks, and teachers’ edi-
is aligned with California state stan- Contact: 541-9900 or outsidenow. years. Contact: 235-5589. tions for all subjects. Classes, en-
dards. Teacher support as needed, org.
meetings and work samples required Academics and More is a Homeschool richment activities, and field trips are
quarterly. Contact: (866) 339-6790, Delphinus School of Natural History Helper class for 7th-8th grade at also offered. Contact: 769-1675.
caliva.org, or k12.com. is a unique, regional, outdoor science Ludwick Community Center in SLO.
program in San Luis Obispo, for ele- Offered in partnership with City of Homeschool Organizations
Family Partnership is a tuition-free mentary through middle school stu- SLO, this class includes a convenient Homeschool Association of California
K-12 independent study public school dents. Programs are engaging, inter- cost-effective way for students to is an inclusive organization offering
serving Santa Barbara, San Luis Obis- active, student driven, and designed gain access to a tutor, community campouts, conferences, statewide
po, and Ventura counties. Home to foster self-expression and environ- involvement, assistance with their support, a website with excerpts
study charter schools in San Luis mental stewardship. Contact: delphi- school work, time management and from education code books, and
Obispo (1981 Vicente Dr), Morro Bay, nusschool.org. organization skills, and more. Contact:
Solvang, Santa Maria, and Cambria. links. Contact: hsc.org.
EarthAdventuresForKids.com.
Meet with teachers weekly and turn Independent Schools California Homeschool Network is
in work samples. Contact: 348-3333 Public Schools
Clarity Steiner School in Nipomo of- a grassroots organization to protect
or fpcharter.org.
fers Waldorf education for first and Cambria Montessori Learning Center. the right of parents to educate their
Olive Grove is an independent study second graders. Class meets four Tuition-free public school in Morro children. Website offers current state
home school with sites in San Luis days per week. Contact: 929-6878. Bay for grades K-6th through the and federal laws. Contact: (800) 327-
Obispo (165 Grand Ave), Santa Maria, Family Partnership Charter School. 5339 or californiahomeschool.net.
Lompoc, Los Olivos, and Santa Bar- Santa Lucia School on 5 acres in Tem- Contact: 927-2337, 541-2412 or fami-
Homeschoolers of the Central Coast.
bara. Meet with teacher weekly and pleton has provided peace education lypartnershipschool.com.
turn in work samples. Enrichment for over 25 years. Integrated curricu- Yahoo! group meeting regularly for
classes also offered. Contact: 543- lum founded on life experiences, in- Parkfield Elementary School is a interaction and field trips: groups.
2701 or sbceoportal.org/losolivos. depth study, and active immersion in one-room school in San Miguel pro- yahoo.com/group/Homeschoolers_of_
the arts for grades 1-8. Attendance viding a unique, child-centered edu- the_Central_Coast.
Orcutt Academy Independent Study Mon-Thu with homeschool Fridays. cation customized to student abili-
is affiliated with Orcutt Academy Carpooling encouraged. Contact: ties and pace. Hands-on instruction, Santa Maria Inclusive Learners.
Charter School at 500 Dyer St. This 434.2217 or santaluciaschool.org. exploration, and speakers focus on Yahoo! group with free homeschool
free program offers home study and the inner development of each child.
blended classroom/home study for SLO Classical Academy. is a private Contact: 463-2331 or rskepins@shan- Please submit updates, corrections, or news
grades K-8. Contact: 938-8934 or or- school offering part time or full time donschools.org. about resources to: ccfamilyed@gmail.com.

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1st & 3rd SAT every month at 2:00 pm: FAMI-
LY MOVIE at Los Osos Library, 2075 Palisades
Ave. Enjoy popcorn and a G/PG movie. Call for
title. Cost: free. Contact: 528-1862.
2nd FRI every month at 3:00 pm: PAWS TO
Feeling hopeless, desperate, or alone? READ at Los Osos Library, 2075 Palisades Ave.
Concerned for someone you care about? Come share your stories with an adoring lis-
tener. Cost: free. Contact: 528-1862.
Every WED 3:00-4:00 pm: PAWS TO READ at
Los Osos Library, 2075 Palisades Ave. Read to
a dog who loves to listen to children. Cost:
free. Contact: 528-1862.
Suicide Prevention
Mental Health and Every SUN 12:00-4:00 pm: Family Funday at
Bang the Drum Brewery, 950 Orcutt Rd, San
Emotional Support Luis Obispo. Enjoy the patio to play fami-
Free ly-friendly games and drums! Cost: free. Food
Confidential and craft beer available for sale. Contact:
24 hours of every day bangthedrumbrewery.com or 242-8372.
Every FRI 6:00 am-4:00 pm: Early Bird Flea
A program of Transitions Mental Health Association
Market at Santa Maria Fairpark, 937 S Thorn-
burg St. Browse many vendors with antiques,
2nd & 4th SAT every month 12:00-4:00 pm:
fruits, vegetables, new and used items, and
Railway Historical Museum at Santa Maria more! Cost: free. Contact: 258-1765.
Transit Center, 400 E Boone St, Santa Ma-
ria. This bimonthly opening features a loco- Every FRI 10:00 am-12:00 pm: Zen Doodle
Adult Coloring Book Group at Art Center
motive, boxcar, caboose, railroad artifacts,
interpretive exhibits, vintage rolling stock, Morro Bay, 835 Main St.   Relax and unwind
and a diorama to explore. Cost: free. Contact: with the new adult coloring books. Cost: free.
714-4927. Contact: artcentermorrobay.org or 772-2504.
Every TUE & THU: Youth Aikido Classes at Every MON 2:00-5:00 pm: Historic Architec-
tural Tour at the Monday Club, 1815 Monterey
Budo Ryu, 3536 S Higuera St, San Luis Obispo.
Kids have fun, stay fit, make friends, gain life St, SLO. The Monday Club of SLO is offering
free docent-led tours. Cost: free. Contact:
skills, and learn to deal with bullies without
themondayclubslo.wildapricot.org or 541-
becoming one. Aiki-Mites (age 4-6) class is
3:00 pm TUE. Aiki-Kids (age 7-12) TUE & THU 0594.
at 4:00 pm. Pre-registration only. Cost: $50-
Every THU at 10:15 am: Tiny Tunes Music &
75/mo. Contact: 544-8866 or www.aikidosan- Movement at Music Motive, 3440 S Higuera
luisobispo.com.
St #130, SLO. This parent participation pro-
Every WED 10:00-11:00 am: Growing With gram for ages 1-5 includes activities based
Baby Class at 1230 Marsh St, San Luis Obis- on music psychology and child development.
po. Pediatric nurse practitioner and lactation Cost: $80 per mo. Contact: 543-0377.
consultant Andrea Herron answers questions 2nd FRI every month at 1:00 pm: Book Group
about feeding, crying, and sleep for babies at Cayucos Library, 310 B St. Join other read-
0-10 months. Dads are always welcome! Call
ers to discuss whatever you’re reading and
to reserve a spot. Contact: 543-6988. to discover, ponder, and share insights about
Every TUE 7:00-9:00 pm & SAT 2:00-4:00 pm: what others are reading. Cost: free. Contact:
Basic Safety Class at SLO MakerSpace, 81 S 995-3846.
Higuera St, Ste 160 & 180, San Luis Obispo.
Every THU 6:30-9:30 pm: SLO Chess Club
This course gets you acquainted with the meets at Carl’s Jr on Santa Rosa St, 1 block
space and equipment. All are required to take
W of Foothill, across from Cal-Poly. All ages.
this class before using any part of the facili- Cost: free. Contact: 441-7210 or slochess.com.
ty. See website for specific dates and other
classes. Cost: free for MakerSpace Members Every SAT 10:00 am-2:00 pm: SLO Chess Club
and SLO County Library Cardholders. Con- meets at the big board on Morro Bay Embar-
tact: 439-2727 or slomakerspace.com. cadero at west end of Morro Bay Blvd (down
the stairs). Cost: free. Contact: 441-7210 or
Every THU 10:00-11:00 am: La Leche League slochess.com.
Mother Support Meetings in North Co, SLO,
AG and SM. Breastfeeding and parenting 1st & 3rd THU every month 7:00-8:30 pm:
support and information offered. Cost: free. Drop-in Dream Group at St. Benedict’s Epis-
Contact: 242-2294 or Facebook.com/lllofslo. copal Church, 2220 Snowy Egret Ln, Los Osos.
This support group is to share dreams and the
MON-THU 8:30-11:30 am: Walk-In Legal Clin- relationship between dreams and spiritual
ic in 3rd Floor Atrium of Courthouse Annex, path, using Jungian interpretive assumptions
1035 Palm St, San Luis Obispo and Paso Ro- and language and Robert Johnson’s book In-
bles Courthouse, 901 Park St, Rm 112. Get
ner Work. Cost: free. Contact: bobpelfrey@
help with divorce, child and spousal support, charter.net.
domestic violence, guardianship, civil harass-
ment, and name or gender change. 3rd WED of every month at 6:30 pm: Pre-
pared & Natural Childbirth Classes at Twin
Every TUE & THU at 1:30 pm: Legal Clinic for Cities Community Hospital, 1220 Las Tablas
Self-Represented Litigants at the SLO Coun-
Rd, Templeton. This six-series class includes
ty Courthouse Law Library, 1050 Monterey lecture, hands-on demos, and technique
St, SLO, #125. One-on-one legal advice for
practice. Cost: free. Contact: 434-4654.
persons filing divorces w/o an attorney, and
a document preparer to assist in completing 2nd THU of every month at 6:30 pm: Breast-
court-required forms. Cost: free. Contact: feeding Basics at Twin Cities Community Hos-
788-3418. pital, 1100 Las Tablas Rd, Templeton. Learn
about practical aspects of feeding your new-
Every TUE & THU at 1:30 pm: Divorce & Child born from a Lactation Consultant. Cost: free.
Support Workshops at SLO Court Support
Contact: 239-4443.
Services, 1120 Mill St, Ste A, San Luis Obispo
and Paso Robles Courthouse, 901 Park St, Every THU-FRI 12:00-5:00 pm & SAT 11:00
Paso Robles. Help is provided for divorce, am-5:00 pm: Exploration Station Interactive
child support, custody and/or visitation or- Science Center welcomes families at 867 Ra-
ders. An overview of the legal process is mona Ave, Grover Beach. Cost: $2-3. Contact:
followed by time to prepare forms and ask 473-1421 or explorationstation.org.
questions. Cost: free. Contact: 788-3418.
2nd THU of every month 6:00-7:00 pm: Grief
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Local Resources
Support Group at Central Coast Hospice,
253 Granada Dr, Ste D, San Luis Obispo. Free
group for anyone suffering the loss of a loved
one who is in need of support. Contact: 540-
6020.
2nd SAT of every month FEB-NOV at 9:00
am: Santa Maria Parks & Rec Dept offers free
docent-led nature walks in Los Flores Ranch,
6271 Dominion Rd, Santa Maria. Cost: free.
Contact: 925-0951.
2nd MON every month 6:30-8:00 pm: Care-
giver Support Group at Cayucos Community
Church, Ocean Ave & S 3rd St. Free support
for caregivers helping with long-term illness,
memory loss, dementia, and Alzheimer’s.
Contact: 458-7484.
Every MON 10:00 am-2:00 pm: Remain Inde-
pendent Despite Vision Loss at Santa Maria
Terrace, 1405 E Main St. New ways of doing
daily tasks are taught by the Braille Institute,
such as home management, traveling, and
using talking library books. Contact: 462-1225.
2nd & 4th MON every month at 6:30 pm:
MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) meet at Pa-
cific Christian Church, 3435 Santa Maria Way,
Santa Maria. Childcare is provided.  Contact:
934-3491 or www.pacificchristian.net.
Every TUE 3:00-6:00 pm & FRI 3:00-5:30 pm:
Teen Wellness Program at Arroyo Grande
EOC Health Services Clinic, 1152 E Grand
Ave. Health services, including reproductive
health, in a safe environment to screen, as-
sess, and provide intervention. Appts pre-
ferred. Contact: 489-4026.
1st WED every month at 9:00 am: Senior
Health Screening at First United Methodist
Church, 275 N Halcyon Rd, Arroyo Grande.
Free and low-cost services for ages 50 and
older: blood pressure, pulse, weight, cho-
lesterol, screening for anemia and diabetes,
nutritional counseling, and medical referrals.
Contact: 481-2692 or 788-0827.
1st WED every month at 12:00 pm: Disabled
American Veterans luncheon at Veterans Me-
morial Bldg, 313 W Tunnell St, Santa Maria.
Contact: 345-0402.
Every WED 5:30-7:00 pm: Widowed Support
Group at New Life Church, 990 James Way,
Rm 14, Pismo Beach. Offered by Hospice of
SLO Co. Contact: 544-2266 or hospiceslo.org.
Every TUE at 7:00 pm: Al-Anon Family Sup-
port Group at Luis OASIS Senior Center, 420
Soares Ave, Orcutt. Contact: 937-9750.
3rd WED every month at 7:00 pm: How to
Survive Divorce seminar at SLO Women’s
Community Center, 1124 Nipomo St #D, SLO.
Tips and suggestions for handling family law
issues. Cost: $10. Contact: 544-9313 to regis-
ter.
4th TUE every month at 5:30 pm: Legal Clinic
for Self-Represented Litigants at SLO County
Courthouse Law Library, 1050 Monterey St,
SLO, #125. One-on-one legal advice for per-
sons filing divorces w/o an attorney, and a
document preparer to assist in completing
court-required forms. Cost: Min $40 dona-
tion. Contact: 544-9313.
RISE offers: weekly drop-In support groups
for sexual assault survivors; 24 hour crisis
line; advocacy; peer counseling; prevention,
empowerment and education. Contact: 545-
8888 or www.sarpcenter.org.
Every SAT 11:00 am-3:00 pm: ADOPT A PET at
Petco, 2051 Theater Dr, in Paso Robles. Cats
from NCHS and dogs from Short n’ Sweet
Dog Rescue. Contact: 466-5403.
Every MON 2:00-4:00 pm & WED 3:00-
5:00 pm: Jacks’ Adaptive Toy Lending Li-
brary-Jack’s Helping Hand at Central Coast
Gymnastics, 21 Zaca Lane, #100, San Luis
Obispo. Traditional and adaptive toys for chil-
dren with all types of disabilities to check out.
In-home appts available. Cost: free! Contact:
547-1914 or www.jackshelpinghand.org.
Every TUE 2:00-5:00 pm & FRI 4:00-7:00 pm:
Jacks’ Adaptive Toy Lending Library - Jack’s
Helping Hand at Pat’s Place in Nipomo Rec-
reation Community Rm, 671 W Tefft St, Ste 2,
Nipomo.   Toys for kids with all types of dis-
abilities to check out. In-home appts avail.
Cost-free! Contact: 547-1914 or www.jack-
shelpinghand.org.
Every TUE 5:30-6:30 pm: Citizenship Classes
at SLO County Library, 995 Palm St, SLO. All
classes are bilingual, with all materials cov-
ered in 8 classes. No registration required.
Cost: free. Contact: slolibrary.org or 781-4187.
Every FRI at 7:00 pm: Senior Ballroom Danc-
ing at Madonna Inn. Look left of the band-
stand for sign: Senior Dancers. Dance, chat
and listen to good music. No fees; no dues;
just fun! Contact: 489-5481 or dg17@juno.
com.
Literacy Council for San Luis Obispo County
has an ongoing and urgent need for volun-
teer tutors and offers free training in SLO.
Contact: 541-4219 or www.sloliteracy.org.
1st THU every month at 6:15 pm: Commis-
sion on the Status of Women meets at Coast
National Bank, 500 Marsh St, SLO. This offi-
cial advisory group to SLO County Board of
Supervisors identifies issues of concern to
women that are not the focus of other advo-
cacy or advisory organizations. Contact: 788-
3406.
Morro Bay Museum of Natural History Ad-
ventures With Nature & Mind Walks schedule
is at: ccnha.org/naturewalks.html.
Central Coast Commission for Senior Citizens
offers many free services: Senior Connection
for connecting callers with local resources;
one on one Medicare assistance, advice and
referrals for long term care, and help with
billing and appeals; Vial of Life kits with med-
ical info for emergency responders; a Senior
Resource Directory for SLO and SB counties,
and more. Contact: 925-9554 or www.cen-
tralcoastseniors.org.
Hospice of SLO County provides free grief
counseling, individual and family support,
counseling, crisis intervention, and wellness
education to those with a life-limiting illness,
their families, and the bereaved in SLO and
Paso. Contact: 544-2266.
Volunteer as a Good Neighbor!  Make a differ-
ence in the life of an older or disabled adult.
Training is monthly at Wilshire Community
Services, 285 South St, Ste J, SLO. Contact:
547-7025 x 17.
Volunteer at San Luis Obispo Museum of Art!
Stop by at 1010 Broad St (Mission Plaza) or
email volunteer@sloma.org for information
about multiple volunteer opportunities.
San Luis Obispo Senior Center offers health
screening, legal services, meals, exercise,
bridge, and bingo at 1445 Santa Rosa St. Con-
tact: 781-7306.
Central Coast Astronomical Society sponsors
a Dark Sky Star Party every month at Santa
Margarita Lake KOA Campground at sunset.
CCAS sponsors guest speakers and public ed-
ucation programs. Find the CCAS event cal-
endar, weather condition updates, and local
resources at: www.centralcoastastronomy.
org.
San Luis Coastal Adult School’s Parent Par-
ticipation Program offers Core Parenting
and Enrichment classes at centers in San Luis
Obispo, Morro Bay, and Los Osos. Parent and
child activity classes, individual peer support,
and education for parents and caregivers.
Contact: 549-1222 or parentparticipation.org.
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Teaching Empathy
by Lauren Zimet and Sharon Sokolik
For children to learn empathy
for other people, they must first
experience empathy themselves.
As a child is cared for, he learns to
care for others. However, many
children benefit from guidance
in relating, reading social cues,
discerning the emotions of others,
and developing their ability to
empathize.
Expressing empathy is a key
component of building a relation-
ship with someone else. Here are
some signs that your child may
need assistance to understand
the feelings of others:
He can’t seem to read nonverbal
hints or cues given by peers (i.e.
facial expressions, body lan-
guage, and tone of voice).
She has difficulty understanding
how someone might think or feel.
He has difficulty with expressing
appropriate responses for what
others feel.
She isn’t able to recognize that
there are consequences resulting
from her response to others.
He is unable to validate emotions
that others are expressing, telling
them to just “let it go” or “get 1. If a young child seems baffled 3. Help your child realize that
over it.”
What parents can do
To be in an empathic relationship
with another person or group is
isn’t. Do you think he wants to
do something else?
4. Remind your child that people
have different interests and
the opposite of self-absorption. preferences. See if your child
Empathy implies a departure can list the favorite colors of
from a state of self-centeredness, family members and friends.
Or ask what people do for
and immersion in the subjective
fun: Who plays baseball? Who
experience of others. By definition,
builds with Legos? Who plays
empathy is pro-social, because
cards? Who plays video games?
it emphasizes the value of
comprehending and appreciating
the thoughts and feelings of S. K. Adams and J. Baronberg,
authors of Promoting Positive
other people.
Behavior, suggest activities to
Many children do not naturally help a child discern body language.
understand this value of knowing 1. While reading stories to your
what others feel. They feel child, stop occasionally and ask
left out, but they don’t know him to identify the characters’
how to be a friend and sustain feelings. Discuss how the
relationships. Fortunately, for most characters’ observable behaviors
kids who are struggling socially, reveal their feelings.
empathy is a skill that can be
taught and nurtured. 2. Do simple role-plays by asking
your child, “Show me how your
Even very young children can be body and face would look if:
taught to recognize basic facial You got a birthday present.
expressions that show “happy,”
A big dog barked at you.
“sad,” and “mad.” There are
many ways for parents to make A friend put a worm in your
teaching empathy a part of the hand.
everyday routine. Below are You found a snake on the play-
activities suggested by some ground.
experts.
You fell down and tore your new
Dr. Meryl Lipton, a behavioral pants.
pediatric neurologist, offers the A friend knocked down your
following ideas. blocks.
by or indifferent to emotions people may have different
of others, try drawing faces feelings about the same thing.
together, or take turns making “Jim is excited when there is a
a face that’s happy, sad, calm, thunderstorm, but Claire gets
bored, angry, or surprised, and scared.” “Tim likes to climb
guessing what emotion the high, but Sam doesn’t.”
4. Help your child recognize that
her feelings about a situation
may change. “You are feeling
sad now and want to sit alone,
but later you may feel better
and want to join the group.”
Modeling empathy and talking
about emotions is a good starting
place. Leading by example is a
great way for your child to make
connections with his feelings.
Getting your child involved in a
social group that incorporates
perspective taking and prob-
lem solving with peers can be
extremely beneficial. Becom-
ing more empathetic can be a
challenging task for anyone. With
the right support (for child and
family), it can be done!
For more information, visit the
following websites:
parentingscience.com - Dr. Gwen
Dewar is a parent and professional
who writes on the many issues of
parenting and child development in
an informative blog.
positivediscipline.com - Author
Jane Nelsen is a licensed marriage,
family, and child therapist and the
co-author of the Positive Discipline
series.
socialthinking.com - Click on
“books and products” for a list of
tools to help parents teach social
thinking to kids.
Lauren Zimet, M.S.,CCC/SLP and Sharon
Sokolik, M.A.,CCC/SLP are licensed speech
pathologists who facilitate social thinking
groups for children.
Excerpted with permission. © Kids Enabled,
Inc. 2019 - All Rights Reserved.

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