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Abstract
Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS made its first appearance as
a concept in America, in 1987 when it was studied in detail by Dr.
Richard Gardener. With the increasing number of divorces and
bitter custody battles in India, this problem, hitherto swept under
the carpet, looms large as a serious threat. This article attempts
to define the contours of the concept, the problem it presents and
argues that it is high time for us to recognize the problem and
take corrective steps in the interests of the child. As is the case
with most crises, acknowledgment is the first step to corrective
action. It is heartening to note that the Supreme Court of India
has at long last acknowledged the existence of the problem in the
recent case of Vivek Singh v. Romani Singh. This is but the first
step. Children are the focal point of any matrimonial dispute
involving them. The attempt by one parent to literally “hijack” the
child to his or her side does not augur well for either the child or
the parent. PA or PAS with its many ill-effects needs urgent
attention and corrective action in the interests of all concerned
and the judiciary recognizing it is a milestone of sorts that will go
a long way to ameliorate the wounded and damaged psyche of the
child. The author argues that the legal system has to proactively
deal with this menace in the interests of the child and the
country’s future itself. Recommendations as to how to deal with
PAS have been set forth in this article which ought to be taken
note of by parents and other stakeholders urgently.
Key words: parental alienation, PAS, custody, welfare of the child,
joint parenting
Introduction
The biggest fear that parents have during a divorce is whether the
children will remain unaffected and emerge unharmed. Any
reasonable and empathic parent wants the child to ensure a
healthy relationship with each parent. A deliberate attempt is
made by the parents to reassure the children that no harm will
Principal Judge, Family Court, Aurangabad & Ph.D. Scholar.
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4 Id.
5 Ira Turkat: “Parental Alienation Syndrome: A Review Of Critical Issues”,
Journal of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Volume 18, at p.
133.
6 Holly Smith: “Parental Alienation Syndrome: Fact Or Fiction? The Problem
with Its Use in Child Custody Cases”. University of Massachusetts Law
Review, Volume 64, pp.: 64-99, 2016
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non-custodial parent. The child sides with one parent using the
expression “us” versus “him/her”.
Effects of alienation
The effects alienation are many but all of them are adverse. It has
effects that not only affect the child in his childhood but may spill
over to his or her adult life. These, inter alia, include low self-
esteem, depression, drug / alcohol abuse, lack of trust, difficulties
in inter-personal relationships, alienation from own children,
uncontrolled rage, very strong gender bias, violence and
aggressiveness, early pregnancy in girls, truancy, crime, poor
academic performance, social adjustment issues, bitterness,
developing fear and phobias, lack or loss of impulse control, sleep
and eating disorders enuresis and encopresis, damaged sexual
identity, poor peer relationships, excessive Feeling of guilt and
anger are all some effects.
Psychologist Rita Aggarwal in her article (S)Mothering and
Stunting7 states that women who have relationship and career
issues always victimize their children, consciously or
unconsciously. She is of the opinion that parents as adults should
settle their own scores and keep the children away from the
squabbles. Matured parenting requires that the parent sort out
their problems consciously after analyzing their strengths and
weaknesses. They have to forego their egos and stop living lives
through their children. She echoes that parenting “is primarily for
the child and not for the parents themselves”. Parents are for the
child and not vice versa. Citing an example of the effects of
alienation of the father by the mother of a girl child, this author
says that the girl child may “unconsciously begins to fight her
aggrieved mother’s battle against her own father and may never
adjust in her own life with men or her husband when she grows
up. She may develop a conscious or unconscious hatred for all
men in her life and the possibilities of negative effects are infinite.”
The author agrees with the finding of Aggarwal that the mother’s
claim that she is close to the daughter and that is the reason for
sharing her problems is tantamount to abuse of the child’s
innocence and amounts to alienation.
Researchers from the University College, London collected data
from the UK Millennium Cohort Study during 2000 and 2002
have said that the absence of a parent leads to early alcohol,
8 Anon: “Parental Absence May Lead to Early Smoking, Drinking”, Pune Times
Mirror, October 12, 2016, p. 20.
9 Anon: “Dads have direct effect on kids’ development”, Times of India, July
16, 2016.
10 Gouri Dange: “Do not Demonise Dad”, Pune Times Mirror, January 1, 2014.
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only after receiving the report of the counselor and reveal the
truth whether the mother poisoned the mind of the daughter. The
High Court observed that parental responsibility should be shared
equally and that there was a presumption that this would be in
the best interests of the child. “The primary considerations would
be (A) ensuring benefit to the child of having to spend significant
time with both parents to develop a meaningful relationship; and
when there are grandparents, uncles, aunties, cousins etc.,
overnight access so that the child gets love and affection from the
extended family; (B) ensuring the need to protect the child from
psychological harm”. According to the Division Bench, Articles 39
(e) and (f) of the Constitution of India ensured that the child has a
right “to get the love and affection of both parents; right to quality
of life; to be cared and the right to develop a sense of belonging.
In the case of Bindu Philips (represented by her Power of Attorney P
T Philipose) v. Sunil Jacob12 where the mother who was residing
abroad sought custody of the two children agreed for access and
by consent the husband also agreed to give access. The Apex
Court has made certain interesting observations and asked the
parents “to maintain cordial relations in front of the children and
avoid happening of any kind of untoward incident or/and avoid
exhibiting any kind of unpleasant behavior in their verbal
exchanges. Both must realize that such incidents, if occurs and
witnessed by the children, it would cause more harm to children
and affect their innocent minds. They may even loose respect for
their parents. ....” “Object of the meeting is to allow the children to
meet their mother in a most dignified, congeal and happy
atmosphere”. The Court said that the husband should ensure that
such meetings bring some kind of happiness to the children and
their mother. The husband for his selfish interest should not try
to tutor the children something adverse about the mother, instead
he takes positive initiative in telling the children about their
mother specially coming to India to meet them and that the
children should welcome her and spend some good time with her.
“In our opinion both should equally realize that the children were
deprived of the company of the mother without their fault but only
due to parents infighting, who failed to realize the adverse effects
of their fighting on the children upbringing. The infighting has
equally deprived the members of the family, individually and
collectively to enjoy the happiness, peace and harmony. In our
considered view, both must further realize that the children need
love and affection of mother and father constantly and not
individually because it is the parents who are responsible to bring
their children in this world. Both must realize that mother cannot
perform the role of a father so is the father who cannot perform
the role of the mother. So far as the mother’s role to towards her
child is concerned, it is more pivotal because she gives birth to
her child. She is, therefore, capable of giving more love, affection
and good training to her child”, the Court concluded.
In Vikram Singh v. Romani Singh13 the Supreme Court while
dealing with case concerning the custody of a minor girl Saesha
Singh who was not even 2 years of age when the battle began, the
husband had driven the wife out of the house on 04.08.2010. The
mother wanted to take the child along with her but was not
allowed to. After various efforts were made she filed a petition on
26.08.2010. The trail court held that the father was fit person to
retain the custody and dismissed the mother’s petition. The High
Court allowed the appeal and gave custody to the mother and
overnight visitation rights to the father. The father who had not
complied with the directions of the High Court was in contempt
and in consequence the custody remained with him.
Noticing that the child was now 8 years old, the Court ruled that
“she is at a crucial phase when there is a major shift in thinking
ability which may help her to understand cause and effect better
and think about the future. She would need regular and frequent
contact with each parent as well as shielding from parental
hostility. Involvement of both parents in her life and regular
school attendance are absolutely essential at this age for her
personality development. She would soon be able to establish her
individual interests and preferences, shaped by her own
individual personality as well as experience. Towards this end, it
also becomes necessary for parents to exhibit model good behavior
and set healthy and positive examples as much and as often as
possible. It is the age when her emotional development may be
evolving at a deeper level than ever before. In order to ensure that
she achieves stability and maturity in her thinking and is able to
deal with complex emotions, it is necessary that she is in the
company of her mother as well, for some time. This Court cannot
turn a blind eye to the fact that there have been strong feelings of
bitterness, betrayal, anger and distress between the appellant and
the respondent, where each party feels that they are 'right' in
many of their views on issues which led to separation. The
intensity of negative feeling of the appellant towards the
respondent would have obvious effect on the psyche of Saesha,
who has remained in the company of her father, to the exclusion
Joint custody
Both parents have equal duties and responsibilities in the life and
development of the child. The child is not a property to be divided
and shared. Therefore a joint parenting responsibility is important
in the best interests of the child. Thus, joint custody. Mother and
Father, both being natural guardians, the constructive and legal
custody remains with the non-custodial parent but physical and
actual custody rests with the custodial parent.
Be it mother or father, a child needs both his parents as strong
pillars of support. Today, equations are slowly changing. Some of
the working mothers, at the cost of their career, economic
independence and freedom from abusive marriages, give up the
custody of the child. The father is willing to accept the custody. In
some cases, the fathers are dependent on their own mothers or
extended family members like sisters or sisters-in-law to take care
of the child.15 In many cases the fathers themselves are
performing their parental duties well. 16
Many a time on separation, each parent is overprotective of the
child as a result social values are not properly inculcated in the
14 F.A. 1118/2014, High Court of Bombay, 2017 SCC OnLine Bom. 9059.
15 Angona Paul: “Bringing Up Baby”, Pune Times Mirror, May 8, 2016.
16 See Sharmila T. Ganesan: “Marriage Ends, A New Bond Begins”, Times of
India (Pune), May 8, 2016.
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child. Parents expect the child to follow certain rules and keep
certain standards but until the parent himself or herself follows
the rules compliance from the child cannot be expected. Parents
are role models who the children tend to imitate
The custodial parent should be willing to allow the joint
responsibility of the non-custodial parent rather than taking the
entire responsibility on oneself. The non-custodial parent should
be a responsible parent in all respects. Especially, if the non-
custodial parent is the father, he should be responsible to
maintain his child, take interest in his education and extra-
curricular activities and be there for the child as a father to meet
the emotional and social needs of the child. The non-custodial
parent should plan the schedules of his work accordingly so as to
not miss the meetings with the child. The child most of the time
eagerly waits for the parent to come and spend qualitative time to
enjoy the company of the parent. When there is no advance
intimation of not meeting the child and the non-custodial parent
does not come the child is mentally disturbed, disappointed and
depressed. Especially fathers just drop the meetings with the child
without reason or intimation. Such fathers should be taken to
task for non-compliance of the Court orders. Likewise, the
mothers who on one pretext or another do not bring the child to
meet the father, they should also be taken to task. Neither parent
can play with the emotions of the child. If they do so each one in
his or her own way is abusing the child and can be said to be an
unfit parent. According to the researcher, such a parent should be
sent to an orphanage home for services for six months to
understand the plight of the orphan children.
17 Jitender Arora and Others v. Sukriti Arora and Others, AIR 2017 SC 957.
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18 Ram Murti Chopra and Another v. Nagesh Tyagi, CM (M) No.752/2000 dt,
25.9. 2008 [Unreported].
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When there are siblings living together, the younger will follow the
older one. At times the siblings are separated with the parents
and thus there is no bond between them. In some cases the child
expresses that his other parent was not there for him when he
needed the parent and now why the said parent wants to have any
contact with him/her.
Earlier there was joint family system where the children grew up
under one roof. They were under the care and protection of all
family members. Now there being nuclear family system, in some
cases the children are only with their parents and are more
attached to their maternal grandparents. Only those who have
lived with paternal grandparents may be attached to them but on
separation ill feelings are developed against the grandparents.
Conclusions
PA and PAS have disastrous effects on the child. These effects
even spill over to adulthood and an alienated child has lifelong
issues. Joint parenting has emerged as one of the best remedies
for Alienation.
The moment that the couple is promoted to parenthood, they have
to understand and realise that parenting means to protect the
rights of the child and perform their responsibilities and duties
towards the child as they cannot be self-centric anymore but have
to be child-centric. On separation both parents have to jointly
perform their respective roles towards the child as neither can
step into the shoes of the other. Joint custody and parenting
plan/arrangement would always be in the best interest of the
child, protecting its rights.
A sound parenting plan is also another essential to reduce the ills
of alienation. Efforts have been made in Maharashtra and the
Draft Guidelines for Child Access and Support have been
prepared by the Maharashtra Judicial Academy. The Parenting
Plan has been approved by the Bombay High Court.19 Other High
Courts like Himachal Pradesh, Madhya Pradesh and Karnataka
have followed suit.
Shared or joint parenting may soon become a reality and find
place in the law books if the Consultation Paper on Adopting a
19 http://cja.gov.in/Important%20Instructions/Child%20Access%
20&%20Custody%20Guidelines%2001.06.2015.pdf, accessed on December
15, 2017.
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Anon: “Dads have direct effect on kids’ development”, Times of India, July 16,
2016.
Anon: “Parental Absence May Lead to Early Smoking, Drinking”, Pune Times
Mirror, October 12, 2016.
Gouri Dange: “Do not Demonise Dad”, Pune Times Mirror, January 1, 2014.
Holly Smith: “Parental Alienation Syndrome: Fact or Fiction? The Problem with
Its Use in Child Custody Cases”. University of Massachusetts Law Review,
Volume 64, 2016.
20 http://lawcommissionofindia.nic.in/Consultation%20Paper
%20on%20Shared%20Parentage.pdf, accessed on December 9, 2017.
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Cases
Jitender Arora and Others v. Sukriti Arora and Others, AIR 2017 SC 957.
Ram Murti Chopra and Another v. Nagesh Tyagi, CM (M) No.752/2000 dt,
25.9. 2008 [Unreported].
http://cja.gov.in/Important%20Instructions/Child%20Access%20&%20Custo
dy%20Guidelines%2001.06.2015.pdf, accessed on December 15, 2017.
http://lawcommissionofindia.nic.in/Consultation%20Paper%20on%20Shared
%20Parentage.pdf, accessed on December 9, 2017.