Conclusions

I still suspect that Ate Pia's sense of self reliance comes from a place of hurt, assuming had she been neglected,
abused, rejected or bullied it seems safer for her not to be open about it and not to rely on others much.
Because they're not worth trusting anyways. It's also likely her tendency to tease and gossip not only comes
from being badly influenced by her peers (being stonewalled by her mum, it's likely she did the same to her as a
toddler) but also from repressing her anger so much she needs an outlet for me.

Same for me to some extent but that also indicates that from what I know about Auntie Tuting, she doesn't like
whingeing. That's understandable if it's coming from an 18 year old but from when it's from a toddler, the latter
generally doesn't know any better. Her intentions at keeping her children calm were good but with odd
consequences like Enzo being retiring or Ate Pia actually being rather cautious.

(In that she'd stonewall me for asking further about what happened to her or denying it, possibly because she
knows it upsets her a lot but hardly too open about it.)

It's like spanking or taunting a child but not knowing the child's gotten angry because of those. It's not just me
but also Cousin Wesley in a way to an extent. It's not that he doesn't like kidding but not when it crosses the
line over frogs that he loses his cool a lot and takes his anger out on people (I did it to some people). I did
become self reliant because I didn't want to be tutored a lot by a shadow teacher.

It's likely Ate Pia's actually like that with her own mother being too demanding of her at times, thus proving my
point that some people do become independent out of caution. As in others aren't worth dealing with because
you're that fed up with them.