The shadow work....

We all have a shadow side of us, which we all have disowned, to become whole we need to work on ourselves
and find out which part of us we have disowned. See it, accept it, what gifts it has to offer and embrace it, then
it merges with us, this way we unplug the people with those qualities in our life....

Whatever we feel is lacking in us, we will have people with those qualities associated with us, those are the
qualities which are trying to manifest within you. For ex. If you find yourself unorganized, you will have
someone in your life who is organized; this gives a pseudo sense of completeness to you. It is this quality
which is trying to manifest in you, work on it, become more organized, it will take you a step towards
wholeness.

Also when we have disowned some side of ours, we will find people with same qualities come into our lives
and we donot like them for these qualities. For ex. : if you have someone in your life whom you perceive never
accepts mistakes, it is some part of you which you have shut off, it is the shadow of you. Trace back into your
memory and find out occasions when you made mistakes and have may have detested yourself for that. And
then you have now become extra careful, so that you donot make mistakes. It is therefore important to call that
sub-personality in you who had made mistakes, look into it, see what gifts it has to offer, what is good about
making mistakes, what did you learn from there, accept it, embrace it...you will feel much lighter and at peace
with yourself. You will become more compassionate towards yourself and with people when they make
mistakes....and if someone is plugged in with you due to this disowned part of yours will unplug and go away
from your life!!

This way you need to work on every person whom you remember in your memory who came up into your life,
write their positive qualities and negative qualities and check within yourself for situations and occasions when
those qualities showed up in you. Generally we own the positives ones and disown the negative part and this
negative part become our shadows.

Check with yourself which are the people in your life you donot like. They represent the disowned part of you.
Unless you embrace the negative aspects in yourself these people are manifesting, no matter what you do,
different people with these qualities will keep showing up in your life.

This is the work of universe, it is helping each one of us towards wholeness, we just need to be
aware...everytime when you are passing judgement towards other person, first try to see which part of you is
that person projecting.

All this work can only happen if we learn to love ourselves, look ourselves through our hearts. You cannot
look at other through your heart unless you have learnt the same for yourself!!