Dear Choson,

‫מכתב גלוי‬ An Open Letter:

You are, with Hashem’s help, planning to build your new wedding can sometimes appear to be no different from a
home, a ‫ בית‬that will be ‫לכבוד ה‘ ולתפארתו‬, a ,‫ בית נאמן בישראל‬disco party. What should be an opportunity for the choson
‫בית שמגדלים בו תורה ויראת שמים‬. and kallah to start off this bayis ne’eman appropriately,
The ‫ חתונה‬is the foundation of, and an integral component, complete with uplifting Yiddishe music, has been lost,
of your future home. It is therefore crucial to ensure that due to goyisha music and inappropriate dancing. These
the chasuna be imbued with a spirit of kedusha and be a influences only cause destruction of the yesodos of
Yiddishe simcha – and not chas v’shalom the opposite. kedusha of Am Yisroel. This is the opposite of what should
be seen and heard at a Yiddishe chasuna.
Unfortunately, in recent times — even at frum and ehrlicha
chasunos — it has become accepted to compromise Our dear choson, at this seminal point of your life — as you
the kedusha of this special prepare for this auspicious
occasion with inappropriate day — do what you can to
music, coming from non-
Jewish sources.
,‫לבנות בנין של קיימא‬ ensure that you are laying
the foundation of your
There was a time when a ,‫בנין עדי עד‬ bayis ne’eman on yesodos
of kedusha, and not chas
chasuna was a truly uplifting
occasion, as is befitting of a ,‫מיוסד על אדני קודש‬ v’shalom the opposite.
Yiddishe simcha — permeated We therefore appeal to you
with kedusha and simcha.
Tragically, today, a Jewish
‫בית מלא קדושה וטהרה‬ to adhere to the following
guidelines:
1.  o non-Jewish songs or intros may be used, either from the original online sound track or played manually.
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2. The bass level should be kept at a medium level.
3. No beats should be used with loud electronic sound effects, or electric guitar and synth sounds at high volume.
4. There should be no flashing, moving, or color changing lights.
5. One should be very careful which singer they hire. The singer should not be dancing in an inappropriate
fashion. The ‫ חתן‬should only hire a singer that will sing in a proper Yiddishe fashion.
6. It is important to bear in mind that the band is solely in the employment of the ‫חתן‬, therefore, the choson’s
friends may not request anything of the band without permission from the ‫חתן‬.
We sign on this with an emphatic plea: Please be vigilant about the ‫ בית הגדול‬you are attempting to build, and lay
the ‫ יסודות‬with ‫חכמה ודעת‬.

Harav Matisyohu Salomon Harav Yisroel Neuman Harav Dovid Schustal Harav Shmuel Kamenetsky
Mashgiach, Lakewood Rosh Yeshiva, Lakewood Rosh Yeshiva, Lakewood Rosh Yeshiva, Philadelphia

Harav Eliezer Lieff Harav Yitzchok Sorotzkin Harav Elya Brudny Harav Elya Ber Wachtfogel
Rosh Yeshiva, South Monsey Rosh Yeshiva, Lakewood Mesivta Rosh Yeshiva, Brooklyn Rosh Yeshiva, South Fallsberg

Harav Yisroel Brog Harav Yaakov Landau Harav Ahron Zuckerman Harav Yaakov Forchheimer
Rosh Yeshiva, Cleveland Rav, Chanichei Hayeshivos Rav, Zichron Pinchas Dayan, Lakewood

Harav Tzvi Noach Portugal Harav Avrohom Spitzer Harav Yosef Dovid Neuschloss Harav Chaim Mayer Roth
Admor Skulen, Lakewood Skverer Dayan Rav, Agudas Achim Rav, Sterling Forest

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