Zu : Assalamualaikum w.b.t.

and a very good morning to Miss Nur Aqila, our beloved

English lecturer and my fellow friends. I hope that all of you are in the pink because
today with me, Aina Zuhairah your moderator will conduct this forum with topic ‘No
one should stay in abusive relationship.
Nowadays, our community faces many problems whether in social aspect, economy
aspects or politic aspect. But, what we are going to discuss today is one of the illnesses
in social aspect which is abusive relationship as this issue is the most popular case
that being reported in our community.
We as the community have to take care and look this problem in the biggest scope
in order to ensure that this case will not be an illness with no medicine. In ensuring our
responsibility as the community is done, here are the panelists from all around
Malaysia that have a lot of knowledge and experience about this topic.
Before we start our discussion, let me introduce all of the panelist to you. The first
panel who sits on my right is Izzat Asyraf bin Ibrahim. Next to his is the second panel
Nurul Hazirah binti Abd Majid. The panel on my lleft is the third panel Akmal Hakimi
Bin Lukman Mujib, the forth panel is Umi Tahirah bt Yahaya.
Before we proceed, let me give you a picture on what domestic violence actually
means. Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse often occurs when one person
in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person.
Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. An abuser
doesn’t “play fair.” Abusers use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down
and keep you under his or her thumb. Your abuser may also threaten you, hurt you,
or even hurt those around you. According to a study made by National Coalition
against Domestic Violence, 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe
physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. This statistic shows that more
women are being abused compare to men but why still some of them stay in this
abusive relationship?

Without further ado, I want to ask to the first panelist,why we have to stay in this
abusive relationship?

Zu : Thank you to Izzat Asyraf for your views. Now we move to the opposite side, there
must be someone who are disagree with izzat statement.
? What is your opinion Nurul Hazirah?
Zu: thank you, nurul hazirah. Now we go to Akmal Hakimi, can you explain why we
have to stay in this abusive relationship?

Zu: Thank you Akmal Hakimi for your contribution Now we move to the last panels
Umi Tahirah who can tells us her opinion on why we must leave abusive relationship.

Zu: thankyou umi for your views. I agree with umi and hazirah opinions. In addition,
the victim from this relationship will feel low self esteem and scared with her or his
environment. Based on research by mieko yoshihama, The most commonly reported
types of emotional abuse were a partner’s insulting the woman or making her feel bad
about herself(27.8%), and scaring or intimidating her (16.8%). Furthermore, victim also
will Have Difficulty To Sleep and Concentrate which is based on the same research,
3.3% women in yokohama, japan take sleeping pill because of the abuse.the most
important effect from this abuse is the victim also think of to do suicide which is 33.8%
of victim , which is a higher number. I believe we should leave abusive relationship for
our own sake.

As conclusion, we know right our community are in a dangerous zone which have lots
of problems in many aspects. As a woman, I think we must stay away from abusive
relationship. I believe every woman have their own strength to face many more
obstacles after this and please don’t depends on your partner 100%. That’s all. Thank
you.