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ENCOUNTER 1: Be a disciple of Jesus and Make disciples of Jesus.

BIG IDEA: We exist to bring God glory through being Jesus’ disciples and making disciples. We
are here to encourage one another in our pursuit of following Jesus and living life His way.
Discussion passage – Matthew 4:17-5:2

ENCOUNTER 2: Equipping each other to live life Jesus’ way.

BIG IDEA: We are here to intentionally mature and grow up together in Christ. We encour-
age each other to grow in our knowledge and understanding of who God is so our beliefs are
changed, impacting how we live life.
Discussion passage – Ephesians 4: 1-7; 11-16

ENCOUNTER 3: Live with purpose

BIG IDEA: We don’t want to waste our lives and resources by being ‘busy’ or distracted. We
want to live for the purpose that God saved us. This requires us to be intentional and purposeful
in our relationships, activities and lifestyle.
Discussion passage – Colossians 3:1-5,12-17

ENCOUNTER 4: Real and authentic relationships

BIG IDEA: We prioritize investing in relationships that are real and authentic, not merely sharing
common activities. In the midst of these relationships we encounter God’s word with each other
and rely on His Spirit to transform the critical spheres of our lives.
Discussion passage – Acts 2:42-47

ENCOUNTER 5: Deploy to reach the world

BIG IDEA: We are committed to live life Jesus’ way in relationship with each other, impacting
our families and our places of work and neighborhoods. We intentionally live in such an authen-
tic way that our communities are changed by experiencing the love, kindness and truth of God’s
presence expressed through us.
Discussion passage – Matthew 25:31-40

ENCOUNTER 6: Reflect and review

BIG IDEA: Rhythms and Relationships. Life rhythms and relationships require time and space
to breathe, pause, process to let God’s Spirit, His Word and His people deepen our lives.

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Be a Disciple of Jesus & Make Disciples of Jesus

Big Idea
We exist to bring God glory through being Jesus’ disciples and making disciples.
We are here to encourage one another in our pursuit of following Jesus and living
life His way.

Things to wrestle with:

> What does being a disciple of Jesus mean? How is that changing what I believe
and the way I live?
> How is living life Jesus’ way impacting my family? What about my work place and
neighborhood?
> What kinds of relationships do I need to encourage me in following Jesus? Who
will I encourage to follow Jesus?

Daily Encounter: Reserve a daily time with God to

know Him and His will through Bible reading, prayer, and
reflection.
Day 1 - Matthew 4:17-5:2
Day 2 - Matthew 7:24-27
Day 3 - Matthew 9:9-13
Day 4 - Romans 12:1-2
“
My sheep hear my voice,
and I know them,
and they follow me.
Day 5 - Romans 1:16,17 John 10:27

Background Info:
”
Jesus began his ministry by inviting some men to come be with him. To learn
from him, to spend time with him, to be a part of what he was doing – He still
is inviting people to this kind of life and relationship with him.
Matthew 4:17-5:2
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Warm Up:
1. What did you do this summer that involved a crowd? Maybe you were part of
a crowd, or at a crowded place.

2. What brought you here? What do you anticipate for this coming year with
our home group?

Sermon Review Question

As you reflect on last weekend’s sermon, what one principle or insight stands
out as being particularly helpful, insightful, or difficult to grasp?

Hearing God’s Word together

After someone tells the passage, rebuild it as a group, then read it from the
Scriptures. If you choose to read it instead of telling the passage the first time,
close your Bibles, then rebuild the passage, finish with another direct reading.

Discussion Passage: Matthew 4:17-5:2

>> Matthew 4:17-5:2

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Be a Disciple of Jesus & Make Disciples of Jesus

Exploring God’s Word together

There are more questions provided than you will have time for. Leaders: Choose
the questions that are appropriate for your group.

Matthew 4:17-5:2

1. What do you notice about Jesus?

A. What did he say and do?

2. What do you notice about the disciples – Peter, Andrew, James, John?

A. What do you think it meant for these first disciples to follow Jesus?

B. List as many things as you can that were impacted by that decision.

C. Think about when you hear Jesus call to you – what is impacted by your
response?

3. This passage mentions ‘crowds’ and ‘disciples’. What is similar between the two
groups? What is different?

A. Describe the kind of relationship you think Jesus and the disciples might
have had.

B. What kinds of relationships are necessary for discipleship to happen?

4. How can we encourage each other as a small group to pursue Jesus?

A. What do you need from the small group? What do you want to offer to
the group?
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B. How can we help each other’s families grow in pursuing Jesus in our
homes?
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Faith in Action:
Use one of these suggestions or create your own response to God.

1. Set aside time this week to remember how Jesus called you to be his follower.
Ask him to help you love him more deeply and to pursue him more intentionally
this coming year.

2. Tell your family the story of Jesus calling Peter, Andrew, James and John. Ask
everyone what it means for them to follow Jesus? Just listen to where they are at
in their relationship and understanding of Jesus. Take time with your spouse to
talk about what you heard and pray for each family member.

3. Think about your relationships with your home group. Who will you intentionally
pursue developing a deeper relationship to share what Jesus is doing in your lives?
Are there people or another family who you will invite to spend some additional
time with you ( or you and your family) during this next month?

4. List the people who are in your life (and your family’s life) that don’t yet know
Jesus. Begin praying for them regularly by name. Watch for ways to serve them.

Prayer Time
Take time to pray together.

>> Matthew 4:17-5:2

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Equipping Each Other to Live Life Jesus’ Way

Big Idea
We are here to intentionally mature and grow up together in Christ. We encour-
age each other to grow in our knowledge and understanding of who God is so our
beliefs are changed, impacting how we live life.

Things to wrestle with:

> How are God’s Spirit, Word and People involved in equipping me to live God’s
purposes?
> How am I intentionally pursuing my own spiritual maturity and becoming
equipped in living life Jesus’ way?
> What is my responsibility to help others as they grow in following Jesus? Who am
I purposefully investing in? What do I need so I can be involved?
> If the goal is help each other grow, mature, and be equipped in following Jesus,
is that what I value in my life? What about in my family and my relationships with
other believers? Does that impact my relationships with those who don’t know
Jesus yet?

Daily Encounter: Reserve a daily time with God to know Him and His will

through Bible reading, prayer, and reflection.
Day 1 - Ephesians 4:1-16
Day 2 - 2 Timothy 3:16-17; 2 Timothy 2:1,2
Day 3 - Hebrews 5:11-6:2, Hebrews 13:20, 21
Day 4 - Colossians 1:27, 28; Colossians 3:16-17
Day 5 - Ephesians 4:1-16
Digging Deeper:
“
Rather, speaking the truth in
love, we are to grow up in every
way into him who is the head,
into Christ, from whom the
whole body, joined and held to-
gether by every joint with which
it is equipped, when each part
is working properly, makes the
body grow so that it builds itself
up in love.
Ephesians 4:15-16

”
Read Ephesians chapters 1-4 in one sitting, 2-3
times this week.
Ephesians 4:1-7, 11-16

Background Info:
Ephesians is an epistle, a letter written from an apostle to a group of Christ-
followers. Usually letters answered questions, clarified truth by reminding the lis-
teners who Jesus was, what he did and who they were, and encouraged practical
ways to live life like Jesus in very real settings. Paul writes this letter to the Ephe-
sians to build up the body, to grow up together, unified and experiencing the grace
that God had given them through Jesus.
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Warm Up:
1. Share a time when you where getting trained to do something or you were
teaching/ training someone.

2. What is something that you would like to learn to do? How would you go
about doing it?

3. What kind of people bring out the best in you? What two or three people
in particular? Why?

Review Last Week:

Did you have any moment this past week where the principles we talked
about came to life for you?

Sermon Review Question

Was there any one thing that you most agreed with or disagreed with from
last weekend’s message? What was it and why?

Hearing God’s Word together

After someone tells the passage, rebuild it as a group, then read it from the
Scriptures. If you choose to read it instead of telling the passage the first time,
close your Bibles, then rebuild the passage, finish with another direct reading.

Discussion passage – Ephesians 4:1-7, 11-16 Ephesians 4:1-7, 11-16

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Equipping Each Other to Live Life Jesus’ Way

Exploring God’s Word Together

There are more questions provided than you will have time for. Leaders: Choose
the questions that are appropriate for your group.

1. What does this passage show us about God’s heart for the body?

2. This passage talks about us as a body together and as individuals in the body.

A. What does it say about the body?

B. What does it say about us as individuals?

C. Why do you think it is important that we mature both as a community and as

individuals?

3. What is our responsibility to each other?

4. What kind of relationships, truth, and experiences are needed to help people
“mature” in Christ?

A. What can be roadblocks?

B. What do you need at this point in your life?

5. How will these truths effect the kind of relationships we build in this group and
the commitments we make to each other?

A. What does this mean for how you relate together at home?
>> Ephesians 4:1-7, 11-16
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Faith in Action:
Use one of these suggestions or create your own response to God.

1. Use the tool on appendix page 26. Spend some time talking with God
about growing in Christ this coming year. Maybe sketch out a plan for an area
you want to grow with Jesus in. You might even share it with someone.

2. If you are a parent: Talk with your spouse about where you as individuals,
couples and a family are in the journey of growing up in Jesus. Single parents
– do this with a trusted close friend. Pray over each of your kids no matter what
age they are. Talk about what God would have you do at this stage in your life
to help your family grow.

3. If you are single or don’t have children: What group of people, with multiple
generations, will you invest in and let them invest in you?

4. Invite someone from your home group to spend some time to gether outside
of home group. Intentionally be curious about their story and where they are in
their journey with Jesus. Practice being a good listener and encourager. Don’t
fix. Try praying together. You could do this as individuals, couples or families.

Prayer Time
Take time to pray together

Resources:
Check out page 26 in the appendix for a tool to help you think
>> Ephesians 4:1-7, 11-16

about your own spiritual growth.

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Live With Purpose

Big Idea
We don’t want to waste our lives and resources by being ‘busy’ or distracted. We
want to live for the purpose that God saved us. This requires us to be intentional
and purposeful in our relationships, activities and lifestyle.

Things to wrestle with:

> Have I considered not only “what I am doing?” but “why am I doing it?”
> What does a commitment to be about God’s purposes mean in my life?
> Where has activity and busyness replaced being intentional in relationships,
intentional about maturing in Christ?
> How do I weave the truth I am learning from Jesus into my daily life and our
family’s daily life?

Daily Encounter: Reserve a daily time with God to know Him and His will through
Bible reading, prayer, and reflection.

Day 1 - Colossians 3:1-5, 12-17

Day 2 - Hebrews 3:12-14; Hebrews 10:24, 25
Day 3 - Isaiah 43:1-7
“
Since, then, you have been raised
with Christ, set your hearts on
things above, where Christ is
Day 4 - Romans 12 seated at the right hand of God.
Day 5 - I Peter 2:4-12 Set your minds on things above,
not on earthly things. For you
died, and your life is now hidden
with Christ in God.
Digging Deeper: Colossians 3:1-3

”
Read the book of Colossians in one sitting. Try this 2
or 3 times this week.
Colossians 3:1-5, 12-17
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Background Info:
We look at a passage from Colossians. Colossians is a letter written by Paul. He
wrote it to remind the church in Colosse that who Jesus was and what Jesus did
made him supreme. Our lives, both in attitude and priorities, should reflect our
understanding of who Christ is.

Warm Up:
1. If you had to describe your day/week as a weather report what would
it sound like?

2. How do you answer the question: “What on earth are you here for?”

3. What are the three most important things in your daily schedule?

Review Last Week:

Over the past week, has any area of your life been particularly affected by
what we have been discussing in this series?

Sermon Review Question

What’s one thing from last weekend’s sermon that you hope we talk about as
>> Colossians 3:1-5, 12-17

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Live With Purpose

Hearing God’s Word together
After someone tells the passage, rebuild it as a group, then read it from the
Scriptures. If you choose to read it instead of telling the passage the first time,
close your Bibles, then rebuild the passage, finish with another direct reading.

Discussion passage: Colossians 3:1-5, 12-17

Exploring God’s Word together

There are more questions provided than you will have time for. Leaders: Choose
the questions that are appropriate for your group.

1. What are some things you notice from this passage?

A. What do you see about God’s perspective?

2. How does this passage speak to the life purpose of someone who follows
Christ? Try to express “why we live the way we live” not “what to do.”

A. Put in your own words what that purpose might be.

3. How does understanding who we are and why we are here impact our relation-
ships?

A. Discuss how the commitments we make are effected by what we think our
purpose is.

B. What can distract us, get us busy or get us off track?

>> Colossians 3:1-5, 12-17

C. How do you refocus on what is most important?

4. Describe the role God’s word can have in our relationships from this passage.

A. What has been your experience with God’s word being a part of your rela-
tionships?
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5. What has God been showing you about his heart and being committed to follow-
ing him?

6. What ‘sphere’ of your life is being most impacted?

Faith in Action:
Use one of these suggestions or create your own response to God.

1. Evaluate your choices and commitments this week. Look at what you do and
what do you not do. What do your commitments and schedule tell you about
what is important to you? Is this the purpose you want to be investing your life in?

2. Consider your family’s schedule. Schedule one night in the next few weeks as
a ‘family only’ night. Have your family spend time together, no social media. Find
ways for your family to interact with one another, face to face. Schedule another
night as ‘friends night’. Everyone invite a friend, or invite another family. Have
all the family members and all the friends spend the time together. Maybe have a
scavenger hunt, play tag, play a game.

3. Specifically plan to include your people from your small group in your life out
side of group time on a regular basis.

4. Create room in you and your family’s life to initiate relationships with people in
your neighborhood, workplace or school. Look to see how God is working in their
lives.

Prayer Time
>> Colossians 3:1-5, 12-17

Take time to pray together

Resources:
See page 28 for a list of “One Another” passages.
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Real and Authentic Relationships

Big Idea
We prioritize investing in relationships that are real and authentic, not
merely sharing common activities. In the midst of these relationships we
encounter God’s word with each other and rely on His Spirit to transform the
critical spheres of our lives.

Things to wrestle with:

> How am I growing in the area of relationships? Where do I want/need to
grow?
> Do I value and invite others to help me grow spiritually?
> Am I committed to prioritizing encouraging others in living life Jesus’ way?
> Do I believe that a relationship with Jesus is the most important thing for
my family and every person I know?

“
Daily Encounter: Reserve a daily time with God to
know Him and His will through Bible reading, prayer, and
reflection. Now when they heard this they
were cut to the heart, and said
Day 1 - Acts 2:36-47
…”Brothers, what shall we do?”
Day 2 - I Corinthians 13 And Peter said to them, “Repent
Day 3 - Romans 12:9-21 and be baptized every one of
Day 4 - Ephesians 5:15-21 you in the name of Jesus Christ
Day 5 - I John 4:7-21 for the forgiveness of your sins,
and you will receive the gift of
the Holy Spirit. … And they devot-
ed themselves to the apostles’
teaching and the fellowship, to
Digging Deeper: the breaking of bread and the
prayers.
Read through the book of I John, or read through Acts 2:37-38, 42
several passages from the “One Another” passages
found in the Appendix on page 28.

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Acts 2:42-47
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Background Info:
Acts tells of the Holy Spirit’s acts in and through people’s lives as the first
church was formed and the good news of Jesus moved across the known
world. This passage tells of how those who first heard Peter preach the truth of
Jesus were impacted.

Warm Up:
1. What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?

2. What lasting lesson did you learn from your parents?

3. What role does trust play in our everyday relationships?

Review Last Week:

Did God use anything from last week to help you deal with any specific situa-
tion or life issue?

Sermon Review Question

If the pastor had to give an abbreviated version of last weekend’s mes-
sage, what one or two ideas would you tell him to include no matter what?

>> Acts 2:2-47

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Real and Authentic Relationships

Hearing God’s Word together

After someone tells the passage, rebuild it as a group, then read it from the
Scriptures. If you choose to read it instead of telling the passage the first
time, close your Bibles, then rebuild the passage, finish with another direct
reading.

Discussion passage – Acts 2:42-47 (an expanded passage to discuss is Acts

2:36-47)

Exploring God’s Word together

There are more questions provided than you will have time for. Leaders: Choose
the questions that are appropriate for your group.

1. Picture your self as part of this group of people. Describe what you think one of
their gatherings might have been like.

A. What stands out to you?

2. What in this passage might cause you to think that their community was about
relationships not only activity?

3. Talk about how the activities they participated in impacted their relationships.

4. Why do you think God’s word, intentional relationships, remembering and cel-
ebrating what Jesus did, and prayer got prioritized? What could have been some
things that competed with these priorities?

A. In your experience why would those activities produce such an impact on

those all around?
Acts 2:42-47

B. How does God’s word, fellowship, remembering what Jesus did, and prayer
get prioritized in your relationships?
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Exploring God’s Word together (cont’d)

5. Talk about how being engaged in real authentic relationships is sometimes
more difficult than being involved in activities together.

A. In what ways would you like your family and small group
to grow?

B. What is your part? What would be helpful?

Faith in Action:
Use one of these suggestions or create your own response to God.

1. Read through the “One Another” list in the appendix. Determine which one
you will consciously practice for the next week.

2. Have a ‘date night’ with a family member – does not have to be spouse. If
you are single without children have a ‘night out’ with a friend. What you do
isn’t the point so doesn’t need to be elaborate or cost anything. It is intention-
al time to be together. During the time together purposefully talk about what
God is teaching you from his word, or what Jesus’ means to you. Be interested
in what they want to share about their life. Pray together. You might even plan
to do this regularly between now and Thanksgiving. Try doing this every 2 or 3
weeks.

3. With some friends from your small group, practice ‘acts of kindness’ to
people in your community. Practice being the Presence of Jesus in your com-
munity by serving people together.

Prayer Time
Take time to pray together
>> Acts 2:42-47
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Deploy to Reach the World

Big Idea
We are committed to live life Jesus’ way in relationship with each other,
impacting our families and our places of work and neighborhoods. We in-
tentionally live in such an authentic way that our communities are changed
by experiencing the love, kindness and truth of God’s presence expressed
through us.

Things to wrestle with:

> What does being ‘deployed to reach the world’ look like in my life?
> For the sake of Jesus am I intentionally seeing and seeking to serve those
who are in need? Those who are often considered the least, last, or lost?
> How am I involving my family to care about a broken world that needs
Jesus?
> Where has God uniquely placed me and my family to show His heart to
others?

Daily Encounter: Reserve a daily time with God to know Him and His will
through Bible reading, prayer, and reflection.
Day 1 - Matthew 25:31-40, 41-46

Day 2 - Matthew 9:35-37; Luke 5:31, 19:10
Day 3 - Isaiah 6:1-8
Day 4 - James 2:14-17
Day 5 - Acts 1:8; I Cor. 5:14-21
“
The King will reply, ‘I tell you the
truth, whatever you did for one
of the least of these brothers of
mine, you did for me.’
Matthew 25:40

”
Digging Deeper:
Read Matthew 10, Luke 10, & John 17.
See if you can read them twice this week.
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Announcements:
Harvest Festival is on Thursday, Oct 31, just a few weeks away. Take some
time to pray for it. Talk over how your family and your group will be involved.

Ladies – Save the date: December 14 – Women’s Christmas brunch.

Who’s your one?

Background Info:
Matthew 25 is part of the teaching Jesus gave to his disciples during the last
week of his life. He was responding to their questions about what it was going
to be like before He returned.

Warm Up:
1. What is the worst tasting thing you’ve ever eaten?

2. Share a time when you were surprised by someone’s kindness.

3. What do you think about random acts of kindness? What experience

do you have with them?

Review Last Week:

When you think about the past few weeks of sermons, bible reading, small group
discussions, what themes or patterns stand out to you? What about God most
clearly comes to mind?
>> Matthew 25:31-40

Sermon Review Question

What caught your attention from last week’s sermon? Why?
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Deploy to Reach the World

Hearing God’s Word together
After someone tells the story, rebuild it as a group, then read it from the
Scriptures. If you read it the first time instead of telling it as a story, close
your Bibles, then rebuild it, and end with another direct reading.

Discussion passage – Matthew 25:31-40

(you could expand the passage to Matthew 25:31-46)

Exploring God’s Word together

There are more questions provided than you will have time for. Leaders: Choose
the questions that are appropriate for your group.

1. On what basis did Jesus separate the sheep and the goats?

2. Our eternal inheritance (Romans 8:17) and our righteousness (1 Cor 5:21) is
based on what Jesus did on the cross and we receive them by faith (Eph 2:8,9).
Why would Jesus separate the sheep from the goats the way he did?

A. What do you learn about God from this?

3. What do you think abut the sheep not remembering seeing Jesus in need?

A. Talk about what might have motivated them to live such lives in their com-
munity.

B. What does (or doesn’t) motivate you to see others need for Jesus?
Matthew 25:31-40

4. When you think of the groups of people mentioned here what comes to mind?

5. How does this passage fit with being ‘deployed’ into our communities?
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6. What do you personally need to do in response?

A. How will your family be impacted by this?

B. What will be your response as a group to being ‘deployed’ to impact

your world?

Faith in Action:
Use one of these suggestions or create your own response to God.

1. Remember “Who’s your one?” from Easter? Intentionally spend time

with and praying for the people in your life that do not yet know Jesus.
Plan ways that you can serve them in the next 4 weeks.

2. As family identify who your family can love and serve. How will you use
the Harvest Festival as a tool for being ‘deployed’ to reach others?

3. As a group share names of people that are your “Who’s your one?”
friends. As people share, have someone in your group “adopt them.”
Adopting means committing to pray for both the fellow group member and
the person who needs Jesus. Brain storm ways how you can share God’s
kindness with the people you are all praying for.

4. Plan some practical ways you, your family, your group can care for peo-
ple who are ‘hungry, thirsty, strangers, naked, sick and in prison’. What
groups and opportunities are right in front of you?

Prayer Time
Matthew 25:31-40

Take time to pray together. Pray for the upcoming Harvest Festival.
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Sabbatical Return
Big Idea
Rhythms and Relationships. Life rhythms and relationships require time and
space to breathe, pause, process.

Things to wrestle with:

> What shifts am I being challenged to make as I follow Jesus in this season
of my life?
> What relationships will help me and help my family continue to grow and
mature in living life Jesus’ way?
> Do I take God at his word and believe this is the best way to live life?
> What is God showing me from his Word? How will I respond?

Daily Encounter:

Reserve a daily time with God to know Him and His will through bible reading,
prayer and reflection.

Your personal time with God is critical for your growth. Listening, praying, read-
ing God’s word are healthy habits that help transform hearts and renew minds.
Do you have a regular pattern of spending time alone with God?

Determine your own plan for reading this week based on what God has been
showing you through sermons, small group discussions, spiritual conversations
with friends or read back through the discussion passages. Share with your
family and trusted friends something from your time with God.

1. _________________________ or Matthew 4:17-5:2

2. _________________________ or Ephesians 4:1-16

3. _________________________ or Colossians 3:1-5,12-17

4. _________________________ or Acts 2:36-47

5. _________________________ or Matthew 25:31-46

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Announcements:
Harvest Festival is in a few weeks. What about bringing candy? Volunteering?
Inviting people to attend?

Ladies – The Women’s Christmas Brunch is coming up December 14. This is

intended as an outreach event. This means the Women’s Ministry is planning
a special event for you to bring a friend who doesn’t know Jesus yet. This is a
“Who’s Your One” time. Who are you praying for and building a relationship
with so that you can talk about Jesus? Plan to bring them to this event as part
of the process of loving them like Jesus.

Review Last Week:

How has your thinking and beliefs been challenged in the last five weeks? What
adjustments/changes are you working on?

Sermon Review Question

What point from the sermon caused you to stop and think most this week?

Prayer Time
Take time to pray together.

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 Appendix

Thinking about Spiritual Maturity …..

Spiritual maturity is a process, not a destination to ‘arrive’ but a race to run with diligence. How
do you become aware of your growth process?

Trying to determine the progress of a soul is like looking at the growth of an oak—you can’t
actually see it growing at the moment, but you can compare it to where it once was.

The following questions can help you discern whether you are maturing spiritually. Use them to
evaluate the past 6 to 12 months.

1. Are you more aware of God’s love than ever before?

2. Are you more and more loving, sacrificing your own preferences, plans, or rights
for those of others?

3. Are you more transparent, less judgmental, willing to be accountable, and seeking
to encourage others to grow spiritually in the midst of relationships?

4. Are you more sensitive to and aware of God?

5. Do you thirst more and more for God’s Word?

6. Are you concerned more with the physical and spiritual needs of others?

7. Are you more concerned with God’s purposes, the Kingdom of God, and your part?

8. Are you more aware of your sin?

9. Are you quicker to forgive others?

10. Are you thinking more of heaven and being with the Lord Jesus?

11. Is it more important to you to develop habits that help you grow in understanding
God’s heart and perspective?
(habits like:, prayer, being in and learning God’s word, fasting, serving, confession,
worship, generosity, sharing with others where you are at and what’s God doing)

12. Are you more concerned with helping your family grow spiritually?

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13. Are you aware more of those who do not know Jesus personally and concerned
about their need for him?

14. Do you recognize asking “what does Jesus say about this?” more often as you
make choices and decisions?

15. Are you conscious of more often seeking to express love, joy, peace, patience,
kindness, goodness, gentleness, humility, faithfulness, honesty or generosity in
your relationships?

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The “One Another” Passages

Passages essential in helping us understand and develop healthy relationships as members of

the family of God.

• Love one another: John 13:34-35; 15:12, 17; Romans 12:10; 13:8; 14:13;
1 Thessalonians 3:12; 4:9; 2 Thessalonians 1:3; 1 Peter 1:22; 1 John 3:11,
3:22; 4:8; 23; 4:7, 11-12; 2 John 1: 5

• Serve one another: Galatians 5:13; 21; Philippians 2:3; 1 Peter 4:9; 5:5

• Accept one another: Romans 15:7, 14

• Strengthen one another: Romans 14:19

• Help one another: Hebrews 3:13; 10:24

• Encourage one another: Romans 14:19; 15:14; Colossians 3:16; 1 Thessalonians 5:11;

• Hebrews 3:13; 10:24-25

• Care for one another: Galatians 6:2

• Forgive one another: Ephesians 4:32; Colossians 3:13

• Submit to one another: Ephesians 5:21; 1 Peter 5:5

• Commit to one another: 1 John 3:16

• Build trust with one another: 1 John 1:7

• Be devoted to one another: Romans 12:10

• Be patient with one another: Ephesians 4:2; Colossians 3:13

• Be interested in one another: Philippians 2:4

• Be accountable to one another: Ephesians 5:21

• Confess to one another: James 5:16

• Live in harmony with one another: Romans 12:16

• Do not be conceited to one another: Romans 13:8

• Do not pass judgment to one another: Romans 14:13; 15:7

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• Do not slander one another: James 4:11

• Instruct one another: Romans 16:16

• Greet one another: Romans 16:16; 1 Corinthians 1:10; 2 Corinthians 13:12

• Admonish one another: Romans 5:14; Colossians 3:16

• Spur one another on toward love and good deeds: Hebrews 10:24

• Meet with one another: Hebrews 10:25

• Agree with one another: 1 Corinthians 16:20

• Be concerned for one another: Hebrews 10:24

• Be humble to one another in love: Ephesians 4:2

• Be compassionate to one another: Ephesians 4:32

• Do not be consumed by one another Galatians 5:14-15

• Do not anger one another: Galatians 5:26

• Do not lie to one another: Colossians 3:9

• Do not grumble to one another: James 5:9

• Give preference to one another: Romans 12:10

• Be at peace with one another: Romans 12:18

• Sing to one another: Ephesians 5:19

• Be of the same mind to one another: Romans 12:16; 15:5

• Comfort one another: 1 Thessalonians 4:18; 5:11

• Be kind to one another: Ephesians 4:32

• Live in peace with one another: 1 Thessalonians 5:13

• Carry one another’s burdens: Galatians 6:2

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Prayer Requests

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