CONFIDENCE CHEAT SHEET

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18 CONFIDENCE HACKS

“If you have no confidence in self, you are

twice defeated in the race of life”
~ Marcus Garvey

Whether you want to approach a beautiful woman, make new friends, start a business
or just try something new, if you lack confidence, then fear can prevent you from
achieving the things you really want in life.

Confidence is crucial in all areas of your life. From earning more money, to dating
hotter women; as your confidence increases your quality of life increases.

The following is a quick reference guide full of practical things you can do to increase
your confidence, feel better about yourself, and make fear your bitch!

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DEVELOP JEDI-LIKE MENTAL

STRENGTH
With a strong mind, you can actually TURN OFF FEAR.

Recent scientific studies show that certain mindfulness exercises help control our fear
center of the brain (the amygdala).

Have you noticed how Buddhists monks are always so calm and carefree? That’s
because they have the mental strength to not let anything faze them.

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Here’s an example of how to strengthen your mind:

Sit back, relax, and close your eyes. Focus only on your breathing and count to 100
breaths. Every time you lose track or another thought enters your mind, start over.
Doing this as a daily meditation will give you supreme mental strength.

Here are some other techniques you can use to develop mindfulness:

◦ Box breathing: Breath in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4
seconds, hold for 4 seconds, and repeat.


◦ Freediving breathing for relaxed, slower heart rate: deep inhale through
diaphragm pause for 2 seconds, then exhale for 10 seconds (Use this whenever you
experience anxiety).


◦ Daily meditation. I suggest using a mobile app like “Calm” “Breathe” or

“Headspace.” 


◦ TV exercise - Place a coin or small object on top of your TV. Turn on your
favorite show. Focus on the coin for 5 minutes without glancing down at the show.
This will also help strengthen concentration and willpower. 


◦ Count to ten breathing. This is a meditation technique used to gauge your

improvement. Simply meditate while focusing on your breathing. Count each time you
take a breath.  Your goal is to reach 10 without your mind drifting. Anytime your mind
drifts, start back at 1. 


◦ Walking meditation: As you walk, focus on being present. Don’t listen to

music or daydream. Just be there in the moment. Feel your feet on the ground with
every step you take.


◦ Yoga - This ancient discipline is not just about physical poses. It was also
developed to enhance your mind. While practicing yoga, you should also be engaged
in mindfulness. Good instructors will remind you to stay in the present moment, and

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focus on your breath. Practice yoga several times per week for a better mind and body.


◦ Read or listen to “Practicing The Power of Now” every day for 15 minutes for
90-days. In the beginning, the hardest part is just remembering to be present.  This
habit will remind you to be present throughout your day. 


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THE POWER SWITCH

Do any of the following on its own or perform all 4 simultaneously to snap back into
the present moment:

◦ Take 3 deep breaths with 6 second exhales. Let all of your awareness
and focus be on your breathing. This will calm your nervous quickly. Remember to
have a long exhale.


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 ◦ Feel your body and notice any sensations in your body. Do a quick body
scan and notice what is going on internally. Don’t fight your emotions or feelings, em-
brace them. Fighting them only makes them stronger.


◦ Scan the vicinity and notice the details in your environment. Often
times we live in a hazy realty unaware of what’s going on around us. This brings your
awareness to the present environment and present moment. 


◦ Say, “I’m back,” using this as a trigger word to jolt you back to the present
moment. Stop thinking about something else and focus on what is going on at that
moment.


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COLD SHOWERS

Cold showers can help improve emotional resilience training your mind and body to
be calm and relaxed during adverse situations.

Scientists have found that cold showers can reset your nervous system and increase
your heart rate variability. The higher your HRV is, the less prone we are to fear and
the easier we can stay calm under pressure.

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One minute of cold shower therapy can feel like one hour of meditation. The water
should be between 35 - 45 degrees Fahrenheit.

Each day simply take a freezing cold shower and allow yourself to stay calm, and
ultimately enjoy the discomfort. This trains your body to become relaxed and present
during uncomfortable situations.

Other potential benefits of cold showers include weight loss, increased blood
circulation, and willpower training.  

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PROGRESSIVE DESENSITIZATION

At some point, YOU HAVE TO JUST DO IT!  Real transformation happens when you
push out of your comfort zone.

Every time you do something that scares you, your comfort zone expands and what
once was difficult, becomes easy, thus cultivating courage and confidence.

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Make a list of everything you’re afraid of and rank the list from easiest to scariest.
 Start with the easiest until it becomes second nature and then work your way up to
the hardest.

For example, if you were terrified of spiders you would conquer your fear in the
following order:
1. View a picture of a spider
2. Stand in a room with a spider in a cage that is far from you
3. Stand closer to the spider in the cage
4. Stand in front of the spider in the cage
5. Hold the cage containing the spider in your hand
6. Hold the spider in your bare hand

When it comes to approaching women, for example, start with easy approaches like
asking for directions. Then build up to bolder approaches like telling a girl she is
pretty.

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DO SOMETHING TERRIFYING

When you do something that scares the living daylights out of you, you are essentially
facing your fear head-on.  

People often are afraid to take action because they fear a worst case scenario. So
instead of gradually desensitizing yourself, just go to the extreme and purposely put
yourself in the worst possible scenario.

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So if you had a fear of spiders, you might have someone cover you with spiders.

Your brain would initially be terrified. But after you calmed down, you would realize
and rationalize that you survived the situation, and is therefore, not so bad.

If you get really nervous approaching women due to a fear of embarrassment, then try
putting on a woman’s dress and approaching 10 women while wearing the dress.

This will probably scare the crap out of you and be highly embarrassing. But, once you
have completed the exercise, approaching women in your normal clothes will seem
easy and the fear of embarrassment will be gone.

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REJECTION THERAPY

One of the biggest fears that hold people back is the fear of failure. So instead of
worrying about failure, you can embrace it, learn from it and enjoy it.  Rejection
Therapy will show you how rejection can be an exciting and positive experience thus
eliminating the fear of rejection.

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Rejection therapy helps you become more aware of how irrational social fears control
and restrict us. It also helps you not be attached to outcomes and permits yourself to
fail.

Simply perform an act that has a high chance of failure.

You should not try to get fired from your job or do anything that could cause a long-
term negative effect. That would be idiotic.

Instead, try one (or all) of the following...

• Go to a stand-up comedy open mic night with the purpose of bombing.


• Approach women and try to get rejected. You can use an opener like, “my
girlfriend is in the bathroom right now, want to make-out?”


• Go into a coffee shop and ask the barista for a discount.


• Go to a restaurant and order something not on the menu.


• Ask for a ride from a stranger even if you don’t need one.


• Ask to trade parking spots with someone.


• Ask to cut to the front of the queue/line.


• Offer a hug to a complete stranger.


• Knock on a neighbor's door and ask to borrow something expensive like a

vacuum cleaner.


• Ask someone eating if you can try their food.


• Ask a beautiful girl for a kiss on the cheek .


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VISUALIZE SUCCESS

Word champion athletes (and most successful people) use this technique to achieve
their goals faster and become the type of athlete they want to become.

This is a secret weapon for sports psychologists because sometimes you have to see it
inside your mind before you can do it in real life.

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Studies show that the same neurons are activated in the brain when one visualizes an
activity as opposed to actually doing the activity.

Are you afraid of approaching beautiful women? Take a few minutes every day to see
yourself CONFIDENTLY approaching and flirting with women.

Make sure to see every detail to make the visualization seem as real as possible.

Here’s an easy 4-step visualization process you can try:

1. See another person do it. Find a youtube video of someone successfully performing
the activity that you want to be more confident at.

2 . Visual them doing it. Close your eyes and see the youtube video replay in your
mind.

3. Put yourself in their shoes and visualize it from an external point of view. Replace
the person in the video with yourself and see yourself performing the act.

4. Finally,  visualize yourself from a first-person point of view performing the act.  See
yourself with your own eyes.

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RECITING INCANTATIONS

Affirmations, mantras, and incantations have been used by personal development

experts for decades because they can rewire any limiting programs into powerful self-
serving beliefs.

Simply pick a belief about yourself, for example, “I am bad with women, and so they
always reject me,” and give it an opposite meaning, such as, “I am amazing with
women, and they love me.”

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Repeat it out loud at least 5 times. But, the key is to say it with emotion and
enthusiasm.

I love to say my affirmation statements in front of a mirror. Make sure you smile and
really get into it.

Studies show that if you tell yourself an “untruth” long enough, eventually you will
believe it.

Examples of incantations:

“I love myself and so do women.”

“I approach beautiful women everywhere I go.”

“I’m so happy and grateful that I’m comfortable in social situations.”

“I have a body like a Greek god and women get turned on by my sexy body.”

“I am fearless and bold at bars and clubs, and fun, exciting people gravitate towards
me.”

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LIFT HEAVY WEIGHTS

This will boost your confidence two-fold.

First of all, testosterone is released when you lift heavy weights. And with more
testosterone flowing through your system, you’ll have more drive to push through
fear.

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Secondly, the stronger you are – the more confident you’ll feel. As men, we tend to
correlate strength with status. Our brains are constantly comparing and sizing up the
other men around.

So start lifting heavy.

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DRESS LIKE A WINNER

Don’t you feel like a stud every time you put on a well fitted suit?

That’s because whenever you step into a high-class outfit, you get a shot of Serotonin,
which is a happy chemical associated with status.

In other words, you can trick your body into feeling high status just by looking the
part. So dress like you are super successful and you’ll feel powerful.

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STOP LISTENING TO SABOTAGING

MUSIC
Your unconscious mind is powerful. You are influenced by the ideas you expose
yourself to.

If you are constantly listening to songs that put girls on a pedestal, then you too will
put girls “above” you.

So pay attention to what music you listen to. Are the lyrics talking about “girls
cheating,” “not having money,” or “women being out of your league?” If so, change it.

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CREATE A “PUMP PLAYLIST”

Create a playlist filled with songs that pump up your confidence. Choose songs that
talk about having an abundance of women, money and power.

Something like, “Sexy and I Know It” by LMFAO, but choose songs that you enjoy.

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Specifically, listen to your pump playlist while you’re working out and right when you
wake up. That’s because your unconscious mind is more receptive during these times,
so it’s easier to change limiting beliefs.

Try this for the next month and see how you feel.

You’ll notice that it improves your mood immediately, and it’s also improving your
confidence and beliefs long term.

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GET GOOD AT SEX

Imagine you had the ability to satisfy any girl in bed. You’d hardly fear approaching
women because you know you’d rock her world in bed.

You’d feel like you have a special gift or superpower.

You’d walk into the room thinking, “I wonder what lucky woman is going to be lucky
enough to have mind-blowing sex with me tonight?”

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PRACTICE GOOD POSTURE AND

BODY LANGUAGE
Science has proven that your posture affects the way you feel and your level of
confidence.

For example, stand up tall with your head up and your shoulders back, and notice how
you feel. After a couple minutes of being in this pose, you’ll feel more confident.

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People that are timid tend to make themselves smaller. They hunch over, cross their
arms, look down, and keep their feet together. Don’t do this.

Confident and powerful people have an open body, head up, eyes straight ahead, and a
straight back.

*Set a reminder on your phone to check your posture every day.*

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MASTER THE VICTORY POSE

Studies show that lifting your arms high above your head with your fists closed, as if
you just won a race, increases testosterone and decreases stress hormones  in your
body.

Try this out for 2 minutes a day a notice how you feel after.

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HAVE SELECTIVE MEMORY

Guys that lack confidence tend to dwell on past failures. They hardly ever dwell on
their past successes.

What do you dwell on?

From this point on, reframe all past failures as learning experiences and focus on all of
your successes.

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CONQUER YOUR INSECURITIES

If the girl of your dreams is a “10” but you see yourself as a “7”, then you have to
change that way of thinking and start to see yourself as a “10”..

What is stopping you from having “10” level confidence? What are you ashamed of?

Is it a lack of sexual experience? Is it a lack of money? Is it the way you look? Is it your
height?

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Whatever it is, conquer it.

If you feel your height is preventing you from getting the girl, find evidence of short
men dating beautiful women.

If you are ashamed of the way you look – get in shape, buy better clothes, groom
yourself and most importantly, realize that having good looks is only a small fraction
of romantic attraction.

Here’s what you should do: Write down all of your insecurities. Then, write one action
step next to each of the insecurity. Each action step should be one small step in the
direction of eliminating that insecurity.

So for example, if you are insecure about being overweight, your action step might be
joining a gym or starting a diet.

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LEARN HOW TO FIGHT

Here’s the deal, women don’t sleep with cowards. Women sleep with men that make
them feel safe.

Their unconscious sex drive revolves around safety, and they prefer a man able to
protect them from danger. If a woman knows you can fight, she’ll naturally feel much
more attracted to you.

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Plus, knowing you can defend yourself will skyrocket your confidence because people
will no longer intimidate you.

When you know that you can effectively protect yourself in certain situations, you will
have less to fear.

As your fighting skills improve so will your confidence.

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SOCIAL PROOF

Ever heard the expression “monkey see, monkey do?” As social mammals, we humans
are influenced and easily motivated by what we see others accomplish.  

For example, runners once thought that completing a mile in four minutes was
impossible. However, after Roger Bannister crossed the "four-minute barrier" it has
since been broken by many athletes and is now the standard of all male professional
middle distance runners.

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Once we see that something can be accomplishable, we become more confident in our
own ability to achieve a similar result.

So, when it comes to approaching women, watch videos on YouTube and in our other
programs to show yourself proof that it can be done and is easy.  

And be sure to monitor your thoughts. If you think, “well he makes it look easy, but I
could never do that?” then your thoughts will sabotage your success.  Instead think, “if
he can do it then I can do it too!”

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You’ll be amazed at how powerful these tools really are.  

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