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Shelly Treleaven
M. Ed. in Leadership
Introduction
In a pre-kindergarten to grade 7 school most teachers are generalists. In one such school
there is no Physical Education specialist which means each teacher must instruct their own
classes in this subject area so all teachers have access to the athletic equipment room. Previously
the vice-principal took on the role of gym and equipment room manager, and in his absence
no-one was designated to take on this role. The result has been increased damage,
disorganization, and misuse of equipment. In addition there have been some concerns over lack
of supervision of students while in the gym and more specifically the equipment room and the
Conflict Analysis
Origin of Conflict
The athletic director of the school stepped into the manager role as no one else had
volunteered. This person was already scheduled to supervise in the gym two days a week and it
was thought that at these times the cleaning and organizing of the equipment room could be
completed. Due to the nature of the supervision expectation during these two days, time in the
equipment room was limited and thus resulted in alternate times being used to complete this
commitment. The extra time was not scheduled and was considered voluntary on the part of the
athletic director. Over the course of the year, the ‘voluntary’ time that the athletic director was
putting in started to aggravate them and frustration with staff and students increased.
There were numerous emails sent out to the staff requesting that the equipment room
remain locked at all times and that students not be allowed into the room unattended. This was
primarily to ameliorate that equipment was daily being left randomly about the room, but
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additionally to address safety concerns. However, there were numerous times the athletic
director found the room both unlocked and the equipment in disarray.
Both administrators at the school were new and they were unaware that someone was
needed to fulfill this role in the school and while this concern was a frustration for the athletic
director, no one else in the building was aware that there was an issue. Fourali (2009) states that
“man is not affected by events but by his perceptions of them” and while the athletic director
continued to become more and more disgruntled, others in the school remained oblivious to the
issue. Brack, Lassiter, Hill, and Moore (2011) explain that “coming to a basic understanding of
the interplay in the dynamics of the conflicting parties is often daunting” which accurately
portrays the struggle as lack of awareness to the concerns of the athletic director compounded
their frustration.
Historically the athletic director avoided conflict. Their need to maintain peace stemmed
from their own maladaptive reactions to conflict stemming from their childhood. Knapp, Knapp,
Brown, and Larson (2017) explain that incestuous sexual trauma experienced as a child often
results in that person choosing to neglect or avoid interpersonal issues as an adult. According to
the Colour Personality Test this person is a blue personality. It was stated that they will avoid
conflict and because people know that they are trustworthy and that they will get the job done
they are often give additional responsibilities. A humanmetrics test indicated that the athletic
director is also sensitive in that they take things too much to heart and feel like they need to fix
problems that are not theirs to worry about. This would explain why they attempted to solve the
problem on their own and were reluctant to share the concern with the administrators.
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This concern developed into a conflict as the athletic director choose to avoid talking
about it with the new administrators throughout the school year. Davies, Myers, Dummings, and
Heindel (1999) explained that when the parameters surrounding a conflict are not well-defined,
children develop their response patterns which include heightened distress, fear, and aggression.
As the athletic director had initially volunteered to this commitment, they became more
distressed at the increased volume of time required to do this job and was fearful that their
frustration would become aggression towards coworkers if not addressed. It was their anxiety
about their own reactions that sparked the initial conversation about this voluntary role.
As stated by Max Lucado “conflict is inevitable but combat is optional” and the athletic
director recognized the need to approach this concern with a positive outlook and a focus on
resolution. The resolution plan will follow the ideas and structure outlined in the book Crucial
Get Unstuck
To begin the process one must state the problem. Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and
Switzler (2012) in Crucial Conversations stated that “every time we find ourselves arguing,
debating, running away, or otherwise acting in an ineffective way, it’s because we don’t know
how to share meaning” (p. 24). In this case the problem is that the equipment room is a mess and
the athletic director is frustrated that they are the only person dealing with it.
“The only person we can continually inspire, prod, and shape - with any degree of
success - is the person in the mirror” (Patterson et al. 2012). This means that the person needs to
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stay focused on what they really want. Initially the athletic director was not clear what
resolution they wanted. They were not certain whether they wanted time assigned to complete
the work or whether they wanted others to take a role in keeping the space clean and organized.
In the end, they determined that ultimately it is both. One person does need to be responsible for
the space, but with staff having unlimited access, their support in the maintenance of the space is
paramount.
Learn to look
In this stage of the plan it is important to make certain that everyone is heard and that
dialogue continues to flow. If anyone that is part of this dialogue begins to show physical,
emotional, or behavioural avoidance strategies it is imperative that this is noticed. If people are
not feeling safe in the conversation they will typically go in one of two directions: silence or
violence. Silence simply means that the person is no longer contributing to the conversation and
violence is the intent by someone to convince, control or compel others to do as they wish.
If this is to be talked about in a staff meeting this might look like silence, cell phones
being used, or people talking to others. However if this is approached with the administrators the
athletic director will need to be aware of body language such as arms crossed or leaning away
from the table. In any of these cases, addressing the avoidance and making sure that everyone is
Make it safe
There are a number of ways to make certain the dialogue continues and that people are
not moved to silence or violence. The first is to apologize when appropriate. If respect has been
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violated then an apology is expected. Secondly use contrasting to fix misunderstandings. This is
when you state what you don’t intend or mean then state what you do want.
The athletic director could say that they don’t want students to be in an unsafe
environment and that they don’t want the school equipment damaged but that they do want
Master my Story
There are three kinds of stories we tell ourselves: Victim stories - it’s not my fault, villain
stories - it's all your fault, and helpless stories - there’s nothing else I could do. As stated earlier,
how you respond to something is based on a person’s perception. “We add meaning to the action
we observe” (Patterson et al. 2012) which in this case was that others did not value the
equipment, respect the requests, or value the work that was being done.
This is a villain story - the mess was all their fault. In order to master the story, one
needs to become aware of what they are telling themselves and ask instead why would
reasonable, rational, and decent people do what these people are doing?
State my path
State is an acronym that stands for S - share your facts, T - tell your story and explain
what you a beginning to conclude, A - ask for others’ path by encouraging them to share their
stories and their facts, T - talk tentatively and don’t disguise your story as a fact, and E -
The facts in this case are that doors were left unlocked, students were allowed to be
unsupervised, and equipment was damaged. The athletic director will need to be open and
The athletic director would begin by asking what people’s thoughts were about this
concern, then they would need to listen attentively to what is being shared. Being prepared to
recognize the emotions of others, paraphrase to show understanding, support the sharing of ideas,
and be aware that their suggestions may conflict with theirs. Maintaining dialogue is imperative.
Move to action
There are four ways that decisions are made: Command, consultation, vote, or consensus.
The method being used will ultimately be determined by the administrator, but the best buy-in
comes for consensus. This would be the method that would be recommended so that all staff are
held accountable for the decision. At this final stage it is important to document any decisions
that have been made, making certain to know who is doing what, when it is being done and
Conclusion
While this may not seem as high-stakes as some conflicts, the fact remains that a staff
member was feeling taken advantage of and they were holding in anger and frustration that may
have eventually presented itself in some other situation if not dealt with. The athletic director
had been using the choice of silence rather than participating in dialogue. Creating a plan for
resolution made them aware of the impact that this has on themselves and their relationships.
Resolving conflict requires that all the people involved are committed and willing to contribute
to the knowledge and understanding around the issue. Using the structure set out in the book
Crucial Conversation (2012) anyone can build stronger relationships with all those in their lives.
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References
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