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Notes: to be used in crisis moments; only works in the short term
STOP Skills
- Stop
Stop; Do not just react. Stop! Freeze! Do not move a muscle! Your
Take A Step Back; emotions may try to make you act without thinking. Stay in control!
Observe;
Proceed Mindfully - Take a step back
Take a step back from the situation. Take a break. Let go. Take a
deep breath. Do not let your feelings make you act impulsively.
- Observe
Notice what is going on inside you and outside you. What is the
situation? What are your thoughts and feelings?
- Proceed Mindfully
Act with awareness. In deciding what to do, consider your thoughts
and feelings, the situation, and other people’s thoughts and
feelings. Think about your goals. Ask Wise Mind: Which actions will
make it better or worse?
Pros and
cons Overview of pros and cons:
A grid with 4 boxes. Pros and cons of acting mindlessly (do the crisis
behaviour), and pros and cons of acting mindfully (resist the crisis
behaviour)
IMPORTANT NOTES:
- Rehearse pros and cons multiple times
- Consider pros and cons for each different crisis urge
- Review earlier pros and cons when a crisis urge strikes
- Say no to crisis urges
TIPP Skills
- Tipping the temperature of your face with coldness:
Tip; Applying cold water (usually by submerging your face into a bowl of water
Intense exercise; for as long as you comfortably can), an ice pack, or cold fingers to
Paced breathing; the face, particularly the temple, eyes, and cheek bones, changes
Paired muscle your body chemistry to reduce high emotional arousal and feelings
relaxation of being overwhelmed
- Paced Breathing
Take a deep breath, breathing deeply.
Slow the pace of inhaling and exhaling (on average, 5 to 6 breaths per
minute).
Exhale longer than inhalation (for example, 4 seconds in, 6 - 8 seconds out)
- Emotions (different)
Read an emotional book; watch an emotional movie or tv show; listen to
music that creates a different emotion
- Pushing Away
Leave the situation mentally; build an imaginary wall between you and the
situation; deny the problem for the moment; put the situation in
an imaginary box and shelf it for a while
- Thoughts (others)
Count to 10; count colours in a painting or out the window, count
anything; repeat words to a song in your head; Watch a movie or
TV; read a book; day dream
- Sensations
Listen to very loud music; squeeze a stress ball; have a shower, go for a
walk when it’s cold outside; have a cold drink
Self-Soothing
(Five senses) - Vision
Look at the stars at night; look at pictures in a book; buy a beautiful
Vision; flower; make a beautiful space in a room; people-watch; window
Hearing; shop; go to a museum; look at nature; walk in a pretty part of
Smell; town; watch a sunrise or sunset; watch a dance performance; take
Taste; a walk in a park; browse through a store
Touch
- Hearing
Listen to soothing music; listen to the sounds of nature; listen to the
sounds of the city; sing to your favourite songs; hum a soothing
tune; listen to a specially made playlist
- Smell
Use your favourite shampoo, lotion, or perfume; put lemon on your
furniture, put eucalyptus oil in a bowl in your room; smell flowers;
open the window and smell the air; use a diffuser to burn oils
- Taste
Eat some of your favourite foods; drink your favourite drink; treat yourself
to a dessert; chew your favourite gum; mindfully eat – taste every
bite
- Touch
Have a long bath or shower; pet your dog or cat; have a massage; put
lotion on; go for a drive with the windows down; run your hand
along smooth wood or leather; hug someone; put clean sheets on
the bed; notice touch that is soothing
Improving the - Imagery
Imagine a relaxing scene; imagine a secret room; imagine everything going
moment
well; create a fantasy world
Imagery;
Meaning; - Meaning
Prayer; Find purpose or meaning in a painful situation; focus on whatever positive
Relaxing actions; aspects of a painful situation you can find; repeat these positive
One thing in the aspects in your mind; remember, listen to, or read about spiritual
moment; values
Vacation (brief);
Encouragement and
- Prayer
re-thinking the
Open your heart to a supreme being, God, or your own wise mind; ask for
situation
strength to bear the pain; turn things over to God or a higher
being
- Relaxing actions
Drink hot milk; massage your neck and scalp; practise yoga or other
stretching; breathe deeply; change your facial expression
- Vacation (brief)
Give yourself a brief vacation; get in bed and put the covers over your
head; go to the beach or the woods for the day; get a magazine
and read it with chocolates; take a blanket to the park and sit on it
for the whole afternoon; take a 1-hour breather from work; take a
brief vacation from responsibility
Reality
acceptance - Radical Acceptance
Acknowledge or recognise the facts that are true; let go of fighting your
skills reality; accept with your mind, body, and soul; open yourself to
experiencing reality as it is, in this very moment; acknowledge
what exists without anger or holding a grudge; accept that there
Radical acceptance;
are limitations in the future;
Turning the mind;
Willingness;
Half smiling; The full experience of the moment will bring about peace and contentment
Willing hands;
Allowing the mind: Life can be worth living, even if it contains pain
mindfulness of
current thoughts Accepting reality brings freedom
- Willingness
Do only what is needed; do it wholeheartedly; listen and act from Wise
Mind; respond in an appropriate and effective manner; focus on
both individual and common needs; throw yourself into life
without reservation; say yes to the mystery of being alive in each
moment