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FREDERICK C. THORNE
Brandon, Vermat
INTRODUCTION
From the existential viewpoint, the master motive of Man is to live as fully as
possible, to have the best possible life, to actualize potentialities and opportunities
to the utmost. Existentially, the good life does not occur by chance. It is not in-
evitably the result of a maturational growth process in which positive resources
inevitably triumph over negative forces. I t is not necessarily the result of mechan-
istic patterns of environmental stimulation, since environmental stimulation is
typically chaotic until organized through selective perception and learning. It is not
basically determined by chance even though some seem to have more luck than
others. I t is not easily produced by conditioning and training since the best educa-
tional institutions do not produce i t invariably. The good life seems to require special
effort and commitment on the part of each person, not only to mean well but also to
act out good intentions consistently in practice. Only solid accomplishment pays
off in achieving the good life.
A PHENOMENOLOGICAL APPROACHTO SUCCESS I N LIFE
Phenomenologically, strivings to secure the best possible life for one’s Self may
be likened to the processes of running a business (which is only a special example of
running one department of life). In running a business, one starts out with a collec-
tion of assets and liabilities and sets out to make the most of them. I n general, a
business is successful if it results in an appreciation of capital or, a t the least, breaks
even. If there are consistent capital losses, the business cannot continue and is
bankrupt with insufficient asset,s to meet liabilities. Some people are willing to sub-
sidize a business which is creative or artistic even though not financially successful,
but usually not for long.
Phenomenologically, each child starts out in life with definite constitutional
assets and liabilities which tend to limit what he can become. Thus, a female has
certain limitations, a congenital cripple has others, and a person with a black skin
color has others. Undoubtedly, differences in physical attractiveness, energy ex-
penditure levels, physical strength and innate ability contribute important factors of
individual variance.
Phenomenologically, the environment provides large opportunities in the form
of general and specialized education, training and tutoring. Some children can
command larger resources of wealth, cultural background and sheer coincidental
opportunities than others, but almost everyone is offered much environmental stim-
ulation and growth. Phenomenologically, each person has his own distinctive quota
of time, energy, ability and effort with which to make the best of his environmental
and constitutional resources. What the person does with these resources is a matter
of fundamental personal and social importance.
Existentially, what a person accomplishes (or fails to accomplish) in relation to
his potentialities determines his relative success or failure in life. In upward striving
societies everywhere, but particularly in America, there is great pressure put on
almost every child to “make the most of himself”.]-Self-improvement has been
elevated to the status of a major motive in life with the bait of the possibility of be-
coming President of the United States being held out at least to every young male.
From a very early age, almost every child is tested, rated, examined and judged as
t o his relative accomplishments. He is made consciously aware at every possible
moment of the importance of “succeeding” and of “getting ahead” as rapidly as
possible.
‘This paper deliberately uses many vernacular terms because they accurately describe phew
omencrl & u r n which are generally recognized in popular ueage.
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A 30 year old spinster who had previously led a very sheltered, retiring, bashful life came for
psychotherapy in a state of severe anxiety because “I have just spent the weekend in bed with a
married man whose last name I don’t even know.” When the counselor’s initial response waa “So
what?”, the client ventilated strong guilt feelings and anxiety over “What would people think if
they ever knew? I must be really sick to do such a thing.” After she had been reassured that she
was just at the age of 30 going through a type of e rimentation with life which most girls go
through in their teens, she grndually quleted down. Xhin n few months, she became the mistress
of a man without developing much guilt or anxiety once she saw that nothing much bad was going
to happen. Fortunately, the other departments in her life were going fairly well.
Another example of the influence of changing attitudes upon guilt levels relates
to the concept of virginity as “a girl’s best possession”. Twenty years ago in our
private practice, we encountered many cases of severe anxiety states developing in
reaction t o over-strict parental criticism. In one case, a father’s hair turned gray
overnight and he ordered his daughter “never to darken my door again” when she
became illegitimately pregnant. Today, parental and social reactions are much less
intense, with resultant lesser anxiety reactions, as only mild rebukes are offered such
as “kinda careless weren’t yuh?”
I n our experience, the development of anxiety and guilt over misbehavior more
often occurs in weak insecure personalities who cannot tolerate further defeats in
life. Tough-minded persons who are hardened to life frequently “get away with
murder” for years because they are self-confident enough to take great risks without
experiencing disabling pangs of conscience. Certainly, many confidence men and
imposters have no regrets whatsoever a t having fleeced the “suckers”. Many of the
great fortunes of history were gathered by pirates and buccaneers of commerce and
industry. All this is not to defend the illicit exploitation of others, but simply to
emphasize that such actions do not produce many pangs of conscience when they
turn out successfully and are later legitimized as in philanthropy.
ANXIETY AND MONEY
In our opinion, psychological theorists have not given sufficient attention to the
role of money in personality states. Money is the life blood of modern business and
commerce. I n more primitive rural societies, a person could get by with direct
barter and exchange of goods and services, with little or no money necessary to com-
plete all necessary transactions. In complicated urban society, direct exchanges of
services no longer are possible, and all commercial transactions depend upon money
as a medium of exchange. Unless a person learns to handle money properly, he is in
constant difficulty with society.
I n the same manner as a person has only so much blood in his body and if this
is allowed t o drip away, he inevitably dies of circulatory collapse, so a person has
only limited material resources and if these are frittered away he ends up bankrupt.
We constantly remind clients that “Little leaks sink big ships.” Careless handling of
capital resources results in poverty and bankruptcy. Usually, the only material
things which a person has after a life-time of hard work are some small physical
properties and life savings in money.
I n spite of all the calamitous tales which are told of the disastrous effects of the
unwise use of money by unhealthy or immature personalities, the fact remains th a t
it requires money to participate in most of the better things of life. Money, wisely
used, can buy most of the more gracious things of life such as comfortable shelter,
better foods, enjoyable luxuries, higher education, nice cars, trips to Europe, personal
privacy, fine art and jewelry, and admission to all the performing arts. The mass
advertising media are always holding up to the entire population the joys of gracious
living which can be bought with money.
Every child early learns that he is powerless to command the better things in
life without money. T o be certain, he is told that he can have anything if he is willing
to work hard enough for it, but that is not always so easy. Some children learn the
sociopathic style of life of “taking” forcibly what is not given them. Most people
just ‘(giveup” in their attempts to get the bright baubles which are dangled in front
of them. A fortunate few can create wealth and taste the fruit of the earth.
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of others for many things upon which he depends, it follows that anything which
impairs his social standing and his social cooperation will result in frustration and
castration of his chances for complete self-actualization and the best possible life.
Where some authority arbitrarily announces that something is bad or sinful, and
conditions such morality repetitiously, and has the power to enforce punishment or
ostracism for all those who do not conform, conscience (Super-Ego) can be internal-
ized almost a t will according to any set of standards which the authority arbitrarily
selects, resulting in conflict, anxiety and guilt. This is another special case of the
existential theory of anxiety where failure results from social condemnation and
punishment for having done something which is judged to be wrong. Part of the
guilt results from being told that you are sinful and evil and should repent for it, but
a larger part results from the actual blacking of self-actualization which threatens
the person’s whole need to have the best possible life. Mowrer’s insistence upon the
confessional and atonement as the foundations for psychotherapy happen to be cor-
rect to the degree that insight into what one has been doing wrong and determined
efforts to correct it in positive action are natural producers of success anyway.