When is the right time to end a relationship?

So many people ask themselves this and there is no wonder that, with all the troubles two
people once in love go through, the question becomes one not so easy to answer.

Is love really gone when two people stop communicating? Which is the moment you can
consider the point of no return?

Scott Simpson- Smith covers the topic extensively discussing the many variations of
break up in his Free Breakup Course. In his opinion, the many factors leading people
towards saying goodbye are all conditioned by communication.

Do people really stop carrying? The answer is …Yes.

Can you make them care again? The answer is…Absolutely.

Love is never completely gone. It is true that life may challenge two people and literally
beat the love out of them but the affection that once was there remains there no matter
how much dirt they pile on top of it.

Pain, frustration and lack of communication can bury love under a thick layer of pain.
Some couples go through life with the pain inside their souls others decide to put an end
to it.

Is there a particular moment when you should do that?

Yes it is. The threshold is the tolerability limit.

Two people in love would forgive each other many things. However the stuff they forgive
each other is the stuff that stains their ideal of relationship. Psychologically, people are
not capable of absolute forgiveness. In spite of their better judgment, need to be good and
good intentions, the memory of the loved ones mistake is something that remains to
linger inside the wounded heart.

The right time to end a relationship is the moment when the pain two people inflict on
each other becomes the very reason to function together.

There are relationships that simply die in silence. There can be no fights, no bad words
maybe not even a single moment that would indicate something came between the two
people. The silence installed in a relationship is sometimes more powerful and more
painful than a mountain of fights and violent language.

People become strangers because of many reasons. The moment they hurt too much is the
moment to end it. A life in pain because you hold on to the memory of love is not a life
per se.

Love may be there but if you don’t fight for it, be a hero and let go.
http://beyondjane.com/family/marriage/when-is-the-right-time-to-end-a-relationship/

5 signs showing your relationship is in danger

People tend to give up on their relationship when drastic events like cheating and
violence interfere in the couple’s harmony. However, statistics state that 90% of the
relationships end because the two people stop carrying for each other’s needs.

When the couple comes in contact with hard times no matter what those hard times may
be, there are a few factors that sound the alarm. Unfortunately, many of us notice them
gradually and since they do not come with a note saying: “Your relationship is in danger”
we ignore them until it is too late.

Less talk more distant looks

You simply pass each other around the house. One too busy with work issues, one too
focused on meeting the mortgage bill…etc. You no longer share opinions, make plans or
talk about your problems. You either don’t make time, or don’t have the necessary
disposition to hear his or hers problems. No words are involved and you simply resume to
look at the other one with distain thinking you could have done a lot better for yourself.

Less relationship more issues

He forgets your anniversary, she no longer bothers to cook your dinner, kids are not doing
well in school, he leaves his stuff all over the place, she is always complaining about
something. Sounds familiar? When nothing seems to fall into place and vile reproach is
all you can utter, it’s time to take a breath and evaluate the stuff between you two.

Less quality sex more frustrations

She just lies back waiting to “it” happen, he wants something spicy but who to give it to
him, headaches and “ fast actions” become a routine and the passion is more like
obligation than pleasure. It is not just : who doesn’t get it at home will seek it somewhere
else. People do not cheat because the lack of sex. They cheat because they need the
passion, the hunt, the thrill. Keep those alive and you will keep alive your relationship.

Less “we decide” more” I decide”

A couple is only as good as the balance of force inside it is. There is no such thing as a
leader inside a relationship. These leaders are born out of fear and need of control. The
harder you will want to control the relationship, the more will the relationship want to
escape you. If your point of view is the only point of view you will soon have no one to
share it with.

Less compassion more self preservation

It is natural to have a self preservation instinct. Some people are incapable of taking huge
leaps of faith so there is no wonder that in a relationship they would want to put
themselves first. If you don’t place the interest of your lover or life partner before yours
you will never get them to love you like you want. Love is not always about surrender but
the moment may come when you will need to decide who is more important. If you think
it’s you, then you are not in love.

The bottom line is that people must be realistic about their relationships. It is not hard to
see the signs if you bother to look. Do not let them take over your love and fight for it.
Being in love makes people gods so there is no wonder they suffer so much when they
lose it.

http://hubpages.com/hub/5-signs-showing-your-relationship-is-in-danger?done