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Joshua J. Mark
Mark, J. J. (2014, May 16). Love, Sex, and Marriage in Ancient Mesopotamia. Ancient
History Encyclopedia. Retrieved from https://www.ancient.eu/article/688/
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Marital unions in Mesopotamia were important to the society for the continuation
of the family line. Arranged marriages were completely normal, but human relationships
in Mesopotamia were just as complicated as today’s time and part of that difficulty was
love. Sex was considered just another level of their lives and there was none of the
modern-day embarrassment or taboo involved in their sex lives since. Positions when
doing sexual intercourse were adapted like standing on a chair, across the bed or the
partner, taking it from behind, and even anal intercourse. The latter was used as a
contraceptive. Also, homosexuality could be enjoyed without the fear of social stigma and
consequence of marriage. The continuance of their family line was the most important
goal since childlessness was considered bad luck. With that, the husband could not
divorce his wife because of her health condition and thus, he would continue to honor his
first wife until she dies. Monogamy was a common practice even before, a husband could
add more if he can afford and the first wife was consulted in choosing the second wives.
If the concubine had been added to the home due to infertility of the husband’s first wife,
the concubine’s offspring would become the children of the first wife. Lastly, divorce
carried a serious social stigma since it was uncommon because people married for life
even if it was an unhappy one. Divorce was commonly initiated by the husband, but wives
were allowed to divorce if there was evidence of abuse or neglect. A husband could also
divorce his wife on grounds of adultery, and if she is caught in the act, a punishment was
prepared for the wife and the other man. Divorce could occur due to neglection in both
husband and wife and they should return their properties after divorce. Both of them will
just like during ancient times. Love, sex, and marriage are phases of human life and every
person can step on it. Stated in the summary, love, between two persons was complicated
even before. Human relationships were not that simple to explain for they usually practice
arranged marriages which were completely normal to the said civilization. Considering
the time frame, it was also impossible to simplify the past’s concept of love. I believe that
love in the present is still in complexity that I cannot still define in finality.
Prostitution was already in the present culture and thus, even during the times of
the first civilization, they practice sexual liberation. In our country, sex was still quite a
taboo. Without proper education regarding this, long term consequences are expected to
occur. I cannot help but compare it to other countries. It was also mentioned that they
have an unusual sexual practice for contraception that in today’s time it is one of the
Homosexuality was normal and not a big deal during the Mesopotamian Civilization.
Comparing it to the present times, it is always in every mouth of the people. Today, the
ways that I can agree to disagree. Due to the people’s negative feedback, malpractice of
preaching and showing pride of one’s orientation was noticed and vice versa. The
disrespect towards Christianity was widely shown by some of them due to the said
religion’s alleged strong opposition towards their ideology. It is still a hot cup of tea today
and it is still obvious the discussion regarding homosexuality will still go further.
Marital occasions are still to be considered as one of the most important parts of
human life. People considered it as the start of a happy ending but not everyone can
experience it due to some personal common reasons. To some, it is not necessary
support, guidance and approval from both sides. Living together outside the wedlock is a
common thing. It usually happens when they reproduced a child right before they got
married. Still, these incidents are not acceptable but only tolerable. Others believe that
marriage is not necessary because it is not the essence of life fulfillment, it is just a social
abuse, having a high standard of relationships, or seeing a failed marriage from other
couples can also be reasons that a man or a woman feel that they should not marry.
However, in Mesopotamian marriages, many happy couples lived together happily with
their children for there was still genuine love between couples, no matter how their
marriage may have been arranged. Thus, relationships bloomed in Ancient Mesopotamia,
just like today. Although the ways of living in the Mesopotamia may not be applicable
today, the people of the ancient world were no different from those living today. Many
modern marriages, begun with great promise, end badly, while many others, which initially
struggle, endure for a lifetime. The practices which begin such unions are not as important
as what the individuals involved make of their time together and, in Mesopotamia as in
the present, marriage presented many challenges which a couple either overcame or
succumbed to.
I chose this article to clarify the typical occasions that still happens up to this day.
It is good to know that it did not sound horrible and disturbing. It might sound quite
sensitive but I think being open about this kind of topic is important to explain and compare