“Winning is

Beginning.

Beginning is half

done”
 THE MASTERY OF SELF EXPERIENCE

Greetings! Welcome to the ‘Mastery of Self’ experience, designed to empower us to have control over our
spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, relational, financial, ecological and temporal aspects of our lives, which
we believe makes up our total ‘self’. The neurological system; the consciousness, thoughts, actions, feelings
and energy that it produces, which we call the ‘mind’ connects all these aspects of life, affect each aspect and
helps us make choices and act.

During the workshop, we will travel together in to the extraordinary world of Neuro-Linguistic Programming
or NLP and other life sciences to explore how we can influence our mind to help us make choices and take
appropriate action. NLP is the science of how to most effectively communicate with our brain and nervous
system to produce various behavioural results. NLP was created by Dr. Richard Bandler and Dr. John
Grinder, who used their combined expertise in therapy, computer modelling and linguistics to amass data
from the world’s most effective therapists, communicators and educators. They looked for the overlapping
patterns, seeking to create an empirical discipline that would provide structured guidance for those involved
in making interventions in human behaviour for bringing about swift, verifiable, lasting change.

Among the presuppositions of NLP is that success leaves clues. If anyone in the world can produce a specific
result because of their NLP and non-NLP practices (love, meditation, exercises, nutrition, learning etc.), then
by modelling that person’s actions, belief systems and mental syntax, we should be able to approximate their
results.

Another presupposition- is that change can occur in an instant when the subconscious is invoked. It is an
age-old observation in psychology that in any conflict between imagination and logic, imagination invariably
wins. There are, and always have been human forces stronger than logic. The reason that change has
traditionally been thought to be a long and arduous process is because we have worked primarily with the
conscious mind through spoken language. NLP tries to bypass this, and seeks to supply a software for the
subconscious, exercises that seem like play to the conscious mind, but which nevertheless produce
significant subconscious changes. When we change at the subconscious level, it is like replacing reflexes and
the new behaviours seem as natural and as automatic as the old ones did.

Most therapies see people as broken in the areas where they do not function optimally. NLP sees people as
working perfectly, though at times to produce suboptimal results. If we were a successful dud at anything
for thirty years, then our brain is very good at producing that result! Something in us is very good at being
successfully tenacious even though the outcome is unpopular with us. If we can find out how our brain
produces that result and sticks to it, then we can substitute a better result and guarantee success employing
the strategies our brain has already been using.

NLP is not positive thinking, it does not demand constant conscious puffery, nor does it require us to
continually relive past disempowering moments as a lot of therapy does. It borrows from both traditions, of
course, and students of each will recognise terminology and approaches, albeit in a reorganised, amended
and more dynamic form.

We will explore the applicability of NLP; the latest methods and techniques in the areas of leadership,
teambuilding, communication, relationship building, presentation skills, time management, stress
management, over-coming psychological obstacles, self-motivation and turning fear into power.

Welcome to the beginning of a user manual for your own mind!

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"The place to change the world first is in our own heart and head."

Robert Pirsig
 PART ONE: THE TAKEOFF

PHYSIOLOGY

PINK ELEPHANT

QUESTIONS ARE THE ANSWER

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 “Words are pale shadows of forgotten names. As
names have power, words have power. Words can
light fires in the minds of men. Words can bring
tears from the hardest hearts.”
― Patrick Rothfuss, The Name of the Wind
 Transformational Vocabulary
Emotion is a liquid poured into a container called words. Choose your words and
you choose your emotional experience. Take bad emotions and MODIFY them,
take good emotions and INTENSIFY them.

anxious into
confused into
depressed into
criticism into
disappointed into
embarrassed into
exhausted into
failure into
I hate into
impatient into
jealous into
lonely into
lazy into
lost into
overloaded into
overwhelmed into
rejected into
sad into
oh shit into
sick into
stressed into

Eager into
fantastic into
feeling into
focused into
fun into
great into
good into
happy into
interested into
Well-off

Use words like explosive, gifted, exemplary, etc.

Don’t have “breakdowns”, have “break outs” and “breakthroughs”.

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“The time that leads to mastery is dependent on
the intensity of our focus.”
― Robert Greene, Mastery
MAXIMISING PERFORMANCE -
PRINCIPLES OF MASTERY:

1.

2.

3.

T h e I n n e r G a m e o f W i n n i n g

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"There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way."
Wayne Dyer

"Happiness is not a destination, but a way of

travelling."

Aristotle
HAPPINESS
Most people would agree that they seek happiness, but find it
difficult to define it. How do you effectively seek something
without knowing precisely what it is?
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"The choice is always ours.

Then let me choose, the longest art,

The hard Promethean way;

Cherishingly, to tend and feed and fan,

That inward firer whose small precarious flame, Kindled or quenched,

Creates the noble or ignoble men we are,

The worlds we live in,

And the very fate, our bright or muddy star/'

Aldous Huxley
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Purposeful Living
Why is it important to establish a purpose?

1. WHAT MAKES ME FEEL MOST ALIVE?

2. WHAT WERE/ARE MY GREATEST STRUGGLES?

3. WHAT CONCERNS ME ABOUT THE WORLD AROUND ME?

4. WHAT CAN HELP ME EARN MONEY FOR LIVING?

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"The true end of life is not knowledge but action. "
Thomas Henry Huxley
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"May you live all the days of your life. "
Jonathan Swift
 Qualities of a powerful purpose:
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P- PLANNING

U- UNDERSTANDING

R- REASON

P- PREPARATION

O- ORIENTATION

S- SIGNIFICANCE

E- EXCELLENCE
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My Purpose Punch Line:

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“A REASON TO LIVE”
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“He who has a why to live for can bear
almost any how.”
Friedrich Nietzsche
PURPOSE STATEMENT: (Sample purpose statements)

Omar Khan’s Purpose Statement

To make a fundamental difference in the consciousness of people throughout

the world in a way that is accessible, exciting, fun and sustainable. To ensure
Sensei is a primary vehicle in this enterprise catalysing the full potential of its
contributors and customers. To love Leslie fully and grow a family together
with joy and responsibility; to look after myself and push myself so I can give as
much as possible, experience all I can, and make the full contribution I am
capable of. To show myself and others a meaningful road to God and the good
in us all.

Ranjan De Silva’s Purpose Statement

Inspire others to live a purposeful life, and in the process, gain clarity of my own
purposefulness and the notion of purposeful living.

I choose to be authentic in living, empathetic about living beings, passionate

about life, humble regarding the potential of live, and selfless in giving.

I will say ‘YES’ to opportunities to sow the seeds of purpose in the minds and
hearts of people I meet in the journey of life, thereby creating a ripple effect that
will contribute to a better world, with the grace of God

Help make this world a better place through purposeful people!

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Believe in your heart that you're meant
to live a life full of passion, purpose,
magic and miracles.”

― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

The infrastructure of Purpose: 5-Year Bottom-lines
Fast-forward to a day, 5-years from now. How will you be in nine important areas of
your life if you are attempting to live a purposeful life? Reflect and write these in a
Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time-bound (SMART) manner. Since
you have 5-years to achieve this quality of life, be courageous in setting goals which
seems challenging write now. The energy you acquire taking baby steps will help you
in doing the unthinkable, one baby step at a time.

SPIRITUAL (the quality of our energy and connection to the universal energy system)

MENTAL (knowledge and intellectual skills)

EMOTIONAL (the quality of our relationship with ourselves)

RELATIONAL (the quality of our relationships with others)

PHYSICAL (caring for the vessel for the journey of life)

FINANCIAL (money and resources that support our purpose?)

ECOLOGICAL (caring for the environment that sustains us)

SOCIAL (caring for the social system we are a part of)

TEMPORAL (making the most of our limited time for purposeful living)

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'You can never get enough of what you don't want

Wayne Dyer
THE INFRASTRUCTURE OF PURPOSE – 5-year bottom-lines - example

SPIRITUAL: A. One hour of contemplation and meditation daily. B. Have read and mastered, “A
Course in Miracles” and be teaching it to children one hour a week. C. Spend bonding time with
my husband, near mountains and lakes at least 1 day a month.

MENTAL: A. 3-4 hours a week studying counselling and therapeutic interventions. B. Spend 1 hour
per day studying ‘Neurosonics’ and “alternative healing therapies” and develop expertise required
to complete the course and integrate with our work. C. Spend 3 hours a week studying a foreign
language, gaining an understanding of their culture, and exploring their literature.

EMOTIONAL: A. Be mindful of challenging emotional moments (such as anger) and do reflective

thinking and writing regarding it for 15 mts per day. B. Mater relevant NLP tools to deal with non-
purposeful situations as and when required. C. Write down a joy list and spend at least 30 minutes
a day, indulging in such activities to develop and sustain my emotional energy.

RELATIONAL: A. Give 30 minutes’ priority quality time daily to our family “ecosystem”. B. Work for
one hour every week cultivating and deepening relationships with our network of achievers. C.
Make a date with my husband weekly for private “special” time between us to grow in love together.

PHYSICAL: A. Jog 12 Km miles 4 – 5 days a week. B. Sleep before 11 p.m., at least 6 hours each
night. C. Maintain a healthy eating lifestyle (20% intake water rich foods (fruits and vegetable), less
than 20% carbohydrates, 20% grains, 40% healthy fats & meats).

FINANCIAL: A. Increase earnings by 5% per month by adding value to our customers. B. Re-invest
20% of earnings to be saved to set up self-sustaining operations in Sri Lanka, Bangladesh, Dubai
& India. C. Reduce 10% of living expenses month on month and save it for passive income.

ECOLOGICAL: A. While saying ‘no’ to plastics, educate at least 100 people a week about the need
to do it for the environment. B. Monitor the use of electricity at home to ensure that grid energy
used is 20% less than what is generated by our solar system. C. Take pics of environmental
pollution and post on social media at least once a week

SOCIAL: A. Contribute $ 100/- per month for the sustenance of a student priest. B. Conduct one
free workshop a fortnight to educate teachers of the importance of purposeful living. C. Publish a
blog post once a fortnight about practical aspects related to the ‘purpose’ of life.

TEMPORAL: A. Spend only 10 minutes per day on Social media per day, thereby liberating time for
purposeful activity. B. Use the 5 a.m. club power-hour effectively daily to energize myself for a
purposeful day. C. Spend 80% of the day on purposeful activity that I choose to do by planning the
day carefully and executing the plan.

There is no greater freedom on earth than being able to make and

keep commitments to ourselves.

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"What we don't specify or quantify,
we will rarely satisfy. "
The infrastructure of Purpose: 1-Month Bottom-lines

What will you do in the NEXT 30 DAYS to make the first investment, to let your brain know
that THIS time you're utterly serious, that you are dedicated to building up credibility with
yourself? If you are serious about the quality of life you wish to achieve’ in 5 years, what
is the first step you'll take this month? Experience shows that trying for a life
REVOLUTION will rarely work. Working incrementally on EVOLUTION is the way to sustain
success. So, pick action you KNOW are attainable (say 10 minutes’ walk a day) and
STRETCH just a little beyond (say 15 minutes). That little "stretch", just outside the
comfort zone will begin to make the deposits of self-esteem that will create long term
staying power.

SPIRITUAL (the quality of our energy and connection to the universal energy system)

MENTAL (knowledge and intellectual skills)

EMOTIONAL (the quality of our relationship with ourselves)

RELATIONAL (the quality of our relationships with others)

PHYSICAL (caring for the vessel for the journey of life)

FINANCIAL (money and resources that support our purpose?)

ECOLOGICAL (caring for the environment that sustains us)

SOCIAL (caring for the social system we are a part of)

TEMPORAL (making the most of our limited time for purposeful living)

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"Life is what happens to us when we
are making other plans. "
THE INFRASTRUCTURE OF PURPOSE – 1-month bottom-lines - example

SPIRITUAL: A. Five minutes of contemplation and meditation daily. B. Select and enrol on a “Course in
Miracles” and dedicate 15 minutes a day to practice the learnings. C. Spend bonding time with my
husband, near mountains and lakes at least 1 hour a month.

MENTAL: A. 30 minutes a week studying counselling and therapeutic interventions. B. Select relevant
learning opportunities in ‘Neurosonics’ and “alternative healing therapies” and spend 15 minutes per day
studying and develop expertise. C. Spend 30 minutes a week studying Arabic, gaining an understanding
of their culture, and exploring their literature.

EMOTIONAL: A. Be mindful of moments of anger and do reflective writing regarding it, 5 minutes a day. B.
Use the ‘resource-anchor’ and energize myself, every time I feel lazy. C. Write down a joy list and do one
activity in the list daily for 10 minutes to help deal with my depression.

RELATIONAL: A. Give 5 minutes’ priority quality time daily to our family “ecosystem”. B. Work for 15 minutes
every week cultivating and deepening relationships with our network of achievers. C. Make a date with my
husband monthly for private “special” time between us to grow in love together.

PHYSICAL: A. Jog 3 km 3-4 days a week. B. Sleep before midnight., at least 5 hours each night. C. Maintain
a healthy eating lifestyle (25% intake water rich foods (fruits and vegetable), less than 10% carbohydrates,
20% grains, 45% healthy fats & meats).

FINANCIAL: A. Increase earnings by 2% per month by adding value to our customers. B. Re-invest 5% of
earnings to be saved to set up self-sustaining operations in Sri Lanka. C. Reduce 2% of living expenses
month on month and save it for passive income.

ECOLOGICAL: A. While saying ‘no’ to plastics, educate at least 10 people a week about the need to do it for
the environment. B. Monitor the use of electricity at home to ensure that grid energy used is 5% less than
what is generated by our solar system. C. Take pics of environmental pollution and post on social media
at least once a fortnight

SOCIAL: A. Contribute $ 10/- per month for the sustenance of a student priest. B. Conduct one free
workshop a month to educate teachers of the importance of purposeful living. C. Publish a blog post once
a month about practical aspects related to the ‘purpose’ of life.

TEMPORAL: A. Spend only 30 minutes per day on Social media, thereby liberating time for purposeful
activity. B. Use the 5 a.m. club power-hour effectively at least 4 days a week to energize myself for a
purposeful day. C. Spend 60% of the day on purposeful activity that I choose to do by planning the day
carefully and executing the plan.

DISCIPLINE = “VALUING MY WORTH”

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"let’s not major in minors!"
Denis Waitely
20/80 RULE
20s

HAVE TO DO CHOOSE TO DO

80S

DELEGATABLE
PROCRASTINATABLE

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 'Thoughts repeated become actions, actions
repeated develop into habits, habits solidified
translate into character,
a character cleaved to, creates our destiny. "

Adaptation of Classic Observation

 SEVEN DAILY HABITS (10 POINT DAYS):
Total Points
1. POWER HOUR 2 points
Purpose:
Planning
Take 1 / Pre-play:

2. FTF 1 point

3. 3.BOTTOMLINES 3 points
Self
Others
Work

4. NRG 2 points
Rest
Nutrition
Exercise

5. MENTORING 1 point

6. AHA 1 point

7. TAKE 2/REPLAY 1 point

TOTAL POSSIBLE 11 points

HIGHLY PURPOSEFUL DAY 10 points

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“If you don't have a plan, you become
part of somebody else's plan.”
― Terence McKenna
 A snapshot of life's building blocks: Today
Purposeful Activity Points

05.00 Power Hour:

06.00
07.00
08.00 FTF:
09.00
10.00 Bottom-lines
11.00

12.00
NRG
13.00
14.00
Mentor
15.00

16.00
AHA
17.00

18.00
Take 2
19.00

20.00
21.00
22.00
TOTAL:
23.00

Reflective Writing:

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“When you do the things in the present that
you can see, you are shaping the future that
you are yet to see.”

― Idowu Koyenikan, Wealth for All: Living a Life of

Success at the Edge of Your Ability
 HAVE TO DO: CHOOSE TO DO:

Spiritual
Mental
Emotional
Relational
Physical
Financial
Ecological
Social
Temporal

20S

DELEGATABLE
PROCRASTINABLE

80S

AHA:

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When there is Love, there is no
Imposition

Sir Albert Einstein

Don’t look for a lover … be one!

Lo

Love

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"A diamond is a piece of coal put under
pressure for a long time."

"Our choices make us. Pressure reveals

us. "
STRESS INTO SUCCESS
1. The choice

2. Tension inventory

3. Rest before you get tired

4. Water rich and vitamin high!

5. With oxygen!

6. The beauty of stillness

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 Eyes

are the

window to the

mind
 REPRESENTATIONAL SYSTEMS

COMMUNICATION WITH OTHERS

The 3 primary ways the brain represents experiences are visual, auditory and
Kinaesthetic (physical sensation and emotions). In addition, olfactory (smell) and
gustatory (taste) gets included in some experiences. There are ways in which
experiences are processed at a given time:

VC (Visual Construction) VR (Visual Remembered)

Imagined Past

AC (Auditory AR (Auditory
Constructed) Remembered)
Said to self or Past
Imagined

K (General Feelings, VK (Visual Kinaesthetic)

Kinaesthetic not linked Pictures that automatically
to a specific image) trigger feelings.

Depending on a person’s actual system of processing (even if they deviate from this model,
whatever they do, they will do systematically), which we can discern by watching what they
do with their eyes as they respond to various questions or statements. We can have insight
into what is going on inside them at a given moment and be attuned to it.
Furthermore, people differ on how they need to feel loved, or even in terms of what they find
convincing. Some people need visual demonstrations or to be “shown”; others need to hear
it, be told, or have it make logical sense; still others need to be touched, empathised with
or “feel right about something”.

Adjusting our language and our strategies helps maximum rapport and heightened
communication.

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The mind is its own place and can make a hell of
heaven or a heaven of hell. "

John Milton
Modalities:

The five modes through which we experience
anything in our lives. These are Visual, Auditory,
Kinesthetic, gustatory and olfactory. Our brain
structures our emotional experiences with these
modalities.



Visual Auditory




Kinesthetic (Olfactory)




(Gustatory)





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“Memories warm you up from the inside.

But they also tear you apart.”
― Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore





Submodalities:
Submodalities: Modalities that are combined in specific degrees and
amounts to distinguish one emotion from another. Submodalities
are the building blocks that make up an experience, the details i.e.
for visual - location, size, colour or black and white, etc.

Using Submodalities to erase bad memories:

VISUAL AUDITORY

Location Content
Size Volume
Colour/B&W Tonality
Movement Speed
Focus Inflection

Steps
1. Ask your partner if the people in the depiction are close ones or not
2. Check the details of the Submodalities from the table above (e.g.: is it life
size, bigger or smaller?
3. Move and Adjust them to lessen intensity;
a. Move (up/down, far/near, left/right) to make it helpful to your partner
(observe facial expressions to determine)
b. Adjust for close ones: Use a cloud cover, make it a positive depiction,
move away the cloud, add a photo frame
c. Adjust for not so close ones: Use comedy and silly music
4. Eliminate (as you say 1, 2, 3 and clap);
a. For close ones: place the framed image in the heart
b. For not so close ones: see it hitting the sun or shoot with a flaming arrow
and burn it, or spill black pain, or punch holes with a paper puncture,
or build a wall, or immerse in water or cover with a cloud etc.
5. Check how your partner feels about the bad memory. Repeat steps 3 & 4
for improved relief.

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'To exceed the sum of our programming. . . that's
where freedom begins."

"Our associations govern our reality."

ANCHORING:
A stimulus that triggers an automatic response.

OUTPUTTING

STACKING

COLLAPSING

TRANQUILLITY- ANCHOR

RESOURCE ANCHOR

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"We all need other people to be mirrors.
It takes two to see one."
Adaptation of Leo Buscaglia
PACING & LEADING
1. Body Movements
2. Tone, Tempo
3. Mood
4. Word Choice
5. Frame of Agreement

PATTERN INTERRUPT:
Improving a ritualised response

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“To truly get anywhere, you must first find
the courage to lose sight of that familiar
shore.”
Adaptation from Goethe
BREAKTHROUGH your FEAR
False Education Appearing Real

“Let your ‘Someday’ be Now!”

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 "We dance around a ring and SUPPOSE,
while the secret sits in the middle... and KNOWS. "

Robert Frost

Things turn out best for those who make the best of the
way things turn out”
PART TWO:

Living Beyond
Limitations

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“Every man is a divinity in disguise, a god playing the fool.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
 Six Step Reframing
In this exercise, you give your subconscious a set of instructions and ask for a signal (which can be
Visual, Auditory or Kinesthetic) to let you know when it has carried out each instruction. Most people
are not at all aware of their subconscious carrying out these instructions. This is normal. Therefore,
you ask for a signal, so that you know they have been carried out. Even if there is no signal, the
instructions are carried out in the deeper part of the mind. The instructions in italics are direct
instructions for the partner. The instructions in bold are in the form that you will state them to your
partner and have him/her.
Ask your partner: Have you selected a behaviour you would like to change? Have you consciously
determined the positive intent of the selected behaviour? Once the partner has said ‘yes’ to both
questions, start the six-step reframing process below; repeat after you in their mind, to their
subconscious.

1. “The part of my subconscious responsible for generating this behaviour, we need to

communicate about it. I assure you that no changes will be made to the behaviour without
your full and express approval. Please give me a signal in consciousness to confirm you hear
me.” Wait for a short while after asking this question until your partner receive a signal. Once the
partner confirms the signal is received, have them say: “Part of my subconscious, if this is your
'YES' signal which we will use throughout our communication, please repeat it if not give
me a different signal.”

2. “Part of my subconscious, if you agree with the positive intent I consciously selected, please
repeat the ‘yes’ signal” If the partner receives the same signal, go to the next step. If not say:
“Part of my subconscious, please inform me your actual positive intent.” There is no need of
a signal as the subconscious does this automatically and you may not know it consciously.

3. “Part of my subconscious, I request you to replace the old behaviour, with alternative
behaviours that satisfy the positive intent, but does not have the negative consequence.
There is no need of a signal as the subconscious agrees to this as the positive intent is protected.

4. Speak directly to your partner: Please go back to a time when you were very creative and feel that
feeling of creativity (this accesses their creative part). Now say this to your subconscious; “Creative
part of my subconscious, please generate 100 alternative behaviours which will satisfy the
good intention, but don’t have the negative consequences.” The creative part does this
automatically. There is no need of a signal. “Part of my subconscious, please choose three of
these behaviours that you like best then give me the original signal.”

5. Ecology check: To make sure that no other parts disapprove of these new behaviours. “If these
behaviours conflict with any of my values or priorities, please give me a disturbing signal.”
You will wait for a minute to see if a disturbing signal is received, if not, go to step 6. If you get a
disturbing signal, you will need to renegotiate. Ask the partner to say: “Creative part of my
subconscious, please generate 50 new alternative behaviours which satisfy the good
intention of the conflicting parts of the sub-conscious. Conflicting parts of the
subconscious; both of you agree upon 3 new behaviours, and give me a peaceful signal.”

6. Future pace: “Original part of my subconscious, as long as I satisfy your good intention in a
healthy way and continue to communicate with you, can I be certain that you will help me
implement these behaviours? If yes, please give me a feeling of confidence or knowing that
I can achieve this. Please communicate with me by signalling any time you would like to
renegotiate.” Tell your partner: Once you get the feeling of confidence and knowing you may open
your eyes. Discuss the experience with your partner.

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"If you're not busy being born, you're busy dying."

Bob Dylan
CREATING A NEW PART IN THE SUBCONSCIOUS:
And Liberating Potential to Implement New Behaviours
This process is used to develop a new behaviour important for purposeful
living. The instructions in italics are direct instructions for the partner. The
instructions in bold are in the form that you will state them to your partner
and have him/her. Ask your partner;

1. Have you decided on a new behaviour that you want to develop? Once your
partner confirms, say to him/her;

2. Build a multi-sensory depiction of you successfully performing this new

behaviour once this part is active.

3. Enlisting the sub-conscious: Once your partner confirms, ask him/her to

repeat these instructions to their sub-conscious; Part of my sub-conscious
responsible for developing new behaviours, please take any relevant
element from this depiction that may assist you in building a new part
that will be responsible for the new behaviour I need in my life. The
subconscious does this automatically. There is no need for a signal.

4. Ecology Check: Once your partner confirms, say to him/her; visualise a

fog setting over the multi-sensory depiction of the new behaviour. Once the
partner confirms it is done, ask him/her to say to the sub-conscious: Part
of my subconscious responsible for developing new behaviours,
please adjust details in the depiction not fully consistent with my
values and priorities without changing the outcome. The
subconscious does this automatically. There is no need for a signal.

5. Liberating potential: After a few seconds, say to him/her please say this
to your subconscious: Part of my subconscious responsible for
developing new behaviours, please release new potential which will
work with my conscious efforts and help me translate this depiction
into reality. Please give me a signal once this potential has been
liberated. If your partner does not receive a signal immediately, ask for it
again by repeating the earlier instruction to the subconscious. Sometimes
this takes a little while.

6. Future pacing: Once your partner receives the signal, say to him/her: please
say this to the subconscious: part of my subconscious responsible for
developing new behaviours, please give me a feeling of peace,
confidence and knowing to assure me that you will help implement this
behaviour if I consciously do my best to bring these changes into my
life. Please let me know anytime you want to renegotiate by signalling.
Tell your partner: Once you get the feeling of confidence and knowing you may
open your eyes.

Discuss the experience with your partner.

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"Love is the only hope, the only bridge,
the only meaning. "

Paraphrase of Leao Rosten

 INTUITION
- Inward Tuition for Ignition
- Currency Calibration!

Getting “in to it”:

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Give
Love
The
Way
The other person
Wants to receive it!
 PREFERRED MODALITIES

‘10’ ‘10’
Love Strategy Hurt Strategy

VISUAL

‘10’
Hurt Strategy
AUDITORY

KINESTHETIC

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“””

"When we GENERALISE our fears, we

PARALYSE.... ourselves.”
 PHOBIA PROCESS
1

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 When we
BREAKTHROUGH
our fears we find
SUCCESS
on the other side
THE NEXT BREAKTHROUGH!

“Reach for a dream, reach for a star, reach for

the brightest thing you are.”

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 "Oh, that our reach exceeds our grasp,
or what's a heaven for?"

Old World Wisdom

"When imagination mingles with dedication,

all things become possible."
S t r e t c h - Definition:

Proposed Stretch:

Learnings:

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 'To see the world in a grain of sandy
And heaven in a wild flower.
To hold infinity in the palm of one's handy
And eternity in an hour.
We are led to believe a lie7 when we see with,
Not through the eye.
That was born in a nighty to perish in a nighty
While the soul slept in beams of light"

William Blake

"Our associations govern our reality."

 Advanced Submodalities List: Redecoration
1. Ask your partner to close his/her eyes, and create a neutral process representation of
something he/she would like to be more motivated towards.
2. Ask your partner in which form or style each submodality makes them feel most motivated
towards the activity or thing when visualised, heard, felt, in their depiction (neutral process
representation).
3. Indicate your partner’s answer by circling their preferred form of style, e.g. movie/still, if
they feel more motivated when they see the picture moving.
4. Ask your partner if their level of motivation is extremely higher with one form as opposed to
the other, e.g. much more motivated with the picture moving than with the picture still,
then that submodality is a driver, therefore, tick mark under driver, so they know that that
submodality ‘drives’ their motivation.

Step 1: Inventory DRIVER ✓

What is more motivating to you? Is it important to you?

VISUAL
Movie/Still
Colour/Black & White
Right/Left/Centre
Up/Middle/Down
Bright/Dim/Dark V

Life-size/Bigger/Smaller
Proximity
Fast/Medium/Slow
Motivating colour?
Associated/Disassociated
Frame/Panorama
3D/2D
Focused or blurred
Viewpoint (looking down or up?)

AUDITORY
Self/Other (Who is the sound from?)
Content of sound (music, nature?)
Volume – high, medium, low
Tonality – high, medium, low
Tempo – fast, medium, slow
Word emphasis .

Harmony/Cacophony?
Regular/Irregular
Inflection
Location (front, back, up, down, L, R)

KINESTHETIC
Temperature
Texture
Rigid/Flexible
Vibration
Pressure/Location of pressure
Weight/Shape/Steadiness
Location

Step 2: Motivating Depiction: Ask the partner to close his/her eyes and re-build the depiction with
the motivating elements. (Use only the drivers for a faster, yet powerful experience. Ask the partner to
open the eyes once they get the feeling of motivation.)

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 "Feedback is the Breakfast of Champions. "

Kenneth Blanchard

"Love is for giving which is why it's forgiving. "

Ancient Wisdom
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SUCCESS
is a
HABIT
as well!
 SWISH

Multi-sensory ‘SWISH’: Alternate the positive and

negative depictions speedily, vividly, and repeatedly
until they switch positions.

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 'To take, a leap of faith,
we must first walk to the edge of hope. "

Robert Schuller
Go For It Rather Than
Foregoing It!

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 “ We are the best of the world,
when obstacles become opportunities."
 WALL EXERCISE

COMMITMENTS:

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 FAITH
CAN
MOVE
MOUNTAINS
SCHULLER’S STAGES OF FAITH

QUESTING:

TESTING:

INVESTING:

ARRESTING:

CRESTING:

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 "Our job, yours and mine,
is to sell this world on love. "

M. Scott Peck

"Some day after we have mastered the winds,

the waves, the tides and gravity; we shall harness
for God the energies of love.
Then, for the second time in the history of the world,
Man will have discovered fire."

Teilhard De Chardin
 “SUMMATION”

Congratulations! You have learned how to decimate unhelpful

memories, or amplify positive ones. You have learned how to begin
to dissolve negative reactions and build powerful responses. You
have learned how to communicate with others in a way that is
powerful, which builds rapport, and which can make you
irresistibly persuasive. You have begun to rewire your brain
relative to a challenge or enfeebling condition and have
marshalled the resources to break through a major obstacle in
your life. You have become a team player and learned to exceed
your own expectations.
You may feel overwhelmed by all you have experienced. Trust that
your subconscious can sort all this out and that it will make the
appropriate changes with your co-operation in the days and
weeks ahead. For now, celebrate your courage in having
experienced so much, take excellent care of yourself, and begin to
experiment with the techniques you have learned.
Once you have begun this process and realise that you are
curious to go behind the scenes and uncover the full extent, of
what is possible; having started to redraw the map of your own
life, if you wish to become a systematic map maker of your own
and others’ destinies, then we’ll look forward to welcoming you
back at our Advanced Mastery Experience.
Until then, remember inner success creates outer success. May
God guide your steps as you begin to live your purpose.
There is a vacuum, of competence and leadership in the world.
Living congruently, fairly, emphatically, powerfully and sharing
these gifts in love with your companies, your communities, your
families; can give us hope to be saved.

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BON VOYAGE!
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