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Abstract
The religion of Islam gives much more importance to the upbringing and grooming of children because
children of today will form a social system tomorrow. Any imperfection in upbringing and grooming of
children will have adverse effect on the society in future. It is most essential that children must be brought
upon the most perfect mode to have a better and positive society. Islam guides us very explicitly on the
directives to be followed to have a better and positive society. The Holy Quran and the Traditions of the
Holy Prophet give us numerous guidelines in regards to the upbringing and the grooming of the children.
The life pattern of the Holy Prophet upholds many examples to indicate that he used to behave and treat
children with kindness and affection. He used to teach the children in his time politely how to behave
well. The Arabic literature is also full of advice and moral events and incidents and lessons to be learnt by
the children while their behavior building is going on. Islam intends to build up personality and character
of a child in such a way that he/she becomes an integral of a society as its noble and civilized individual.
This research thesis highlights this important social issue with the Islamic point of view.
(18:46) Allah in regards to bestowing the blessing of issues to human beings says:”And strengthened you
with wealth and children“(17:06)
It is very much obvious from these sayings of Allah that children are really the beauty of this worldly life.
Love to children is in the instinct of human beings. One has the right to have pride in one‟s children
because one thinks oneself empowered due to one‟s children. But if children are not brought up in a better
way, the same poses problems to their parents when they grow up. The Holy Quran mentions this,
pointing on this reality: “Your wealth and children are surely meant as trial for you“(64:15)
Islam is a well behaved and moderate religion it teaches rationality to be kept in everything. Although
love to children is instinctive, yet there is no doubt that if the same is not delivered properly then same
love turns into a trial for parents when children grow up. If love of parents is tilted towards negativity and
wants and demands of children are fulfilled unchecked, the upbringing of the children gets flexible and
parents thereafter are forced to fulfill children‟s demand even unwillingly which turns out to be a problem
for parents. This is the meaning of the verse that children are trial for human beings. It is therefore,
necessary to avoid and refrain from such love which begets negative traits and trends in children.
The holy Quran in upbringing of children from early childhood directs them “When your children have
reached the age of puberty they should similarly ask your leave (for entering) “(24:59)
An immature child is not a subject of this order, but a mature child is one who does understand the
personal and private secrets of his/her parents. It is, therefore ordered that as soon as a child reaches to the
age of puberty he/she should be given training that before entering into the privacy of parents he/she must
ask for their permission. This training cultivates morality and values to seek permission from the early
age. Children should be trained not to enter into any body‟s house without seeking prior permission in
social life. They should not peep into someone‟s house through the window, so that personal and
individual privacy of someone should not be violated. The Holy Quran mentions in the chapter Luqman,
the advice of Luqman to his son in this regard therein Luqman says: “O my son, fulfill your moral
obligation, bid what is known and forbid what is wrong, and bear with passion what befalls you. These
are indeed acts of courage and resolve. Do not hold man in comfort, and do not walk with hauteur on the
earth. Verily God doesn‟t like the proud and boastful.”(31:17 & 18)
way of talking to them is not avoided; the harsh dealings of the trainer with children, always results in
imitation and negation in children‟s behavior. Sometimes the harsh and rough way of dealings makes
children daring enough to stand up against the trainer. Teaching values and traditions to children, with
physical punishment, should always be avoided. The prophet used to be kind to children. If some child
used to get sick in the neighborhood he used to visit him/her. The Holy Prophet warned all his
companions strongly not to kill any child in war, because children are innocent (Ref: The kind Prophet
and non Muslims: 2007).
A mother plays the most important part in upbringing a child. Most of the time of a child is spent with
his/her mother. Mothers must keep this fact in mind that a girl of today is the mother of tomorrow, and a
boy of today is the father of tomorrow; they both together have to create a society. A mother plays an
important role in developing good or bad habits in a child. If a child commits a mistake it is imperative to
warn him/her. If a mother tries to cover up or ignore or favor the mistakes committed by the child it will
turn the child into an insolent child.
and character. It is necessary that there should be no mistake in undertaking the training of a child so that
the disintegration and deterioration in social values be checked and put back on the way of progress and
betterment. There should be homogeneous and peaceful social global web where everyone should have
respect for others. None should lie nor cheat and everyone should be concerned with others in pain and
joy. These acts are only possible when upbringing and training of children be done on the positive lines.
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1. Al-Quran: Chapter: Al-Kahaf (The cave): 18:46
2. Al-Quran: Chapter: The Bani Israel: 17:06
3. The Quran: Chapter: Taghabun (Exposition): 64:15
4. The Quran: Chapter: Al-Noor (The light): 24:59
5. The Quran: Chapter: Luqman: 31:17-18
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