Phone And Texting Edition

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Table of Contents
Preface – Welcome Back
Chapter 1 – Using Your Attraction Builders
Chapter 2 – The Importance of Establishing Comfort
Chapter 3 – Using Text M essages to Build Comfort

Chapter 4 – When to Text / How Often to Text

Chapter 5 – Planting Conversation Seeds

Chapter 6 – Text M essaging M istakes

Chapter 7 – Phone Game – The First Phone Call / How Long To Wait
Chapter 8 – Phone Game M istakes
Chapter 9 – Phone Game – “What Do I Say?”
Chapter 10 – Getting to the Second Date
Chapter 11 – Pre-Packaged Texts that Qualify and Build Attraction
Chapter 12 – Pre-Packaged Phone Conversations
Chapter 13 – Phone Game Graduation
Preface – Welcome Back
M ost people sign up for online dating with one goal in mind: to successfully date and meet beautiful women of high quality.

Whether we are looking for a relationship, to meet as many women as possible, or someone to merely date, online dating provides us with
plenty of great opportunities.

If you read The REAL Online Game for the REAL Online Dater, hopefully you are at a point in your online dating life where you are
having a lot of success with women, or at the bare minimum, learning the secrets of attraction. The REAL Online Game focused on teaching
you all the secrets to picking up women online that took me years to learn, master, and perfect. However, despite the extraordinary amount
of information that I placed in this book, only so much can be taught in one guide.

In addition, being successful with women is a life long learning process. While the
information provided in The REAL Online Game is very valuable, there are always new things to learn, and ways to improve upon already
successful systems.
It is for these reasons that I decided I wanted to expand my studies of texting and phone game. M y new priority was to focus much more of
my time studying this area of online dating; testing ideas, practicing them, mastering them, and coming up with new systems, as well as
elaborating on past systems.

Among the many things that I discovered and worked on, one important notion could not be denied. Phone and texting game is extremely
important when it comes to succeeding at online dating and must be treated with just as high a priority as anything other aspect of our game.

In this manual I hope to teach you some new ideas, expand upon old ideas, and provide you with you yet another tool to leave women
powerless against your efforts.

Enjoy!
Chapter 1 – Using Your Attraction Builders
The first thing we must remember as we begin the transition from receiving a phone number, to actually using it, is that the rules of
attraction still apply to phone and texting game. If we are going to use the phone numbers we receive in a way that is optimized for success,
we must not forget to incorporate all the attraction builders that we learned to use in our emails, instant message
conversations, profiles, pictures, and dates. These attraction builders are universal and should be used in every aspect of your game.

This is more important than ever since now is the time that your date will actually be deciding whether or not she wants to go ahead and
commit to a first date. If we blow it with our phone game, all our work will have been for nothing.

Methods for Building Attraction in Text Messages and Phone Calls

Since the female brain is wired so differently than the male brain, looks are only one of the many reasons that women become attracted to us.
Therefore, if we want to continue to build and maintain attraction, we must not forget the various ways of doing so. The following are
methods that you should have already used during your online pick-up, and should continue to be using while building attraction in your
phone calls and text messages.

1. Demand - We must continue to show that we are in high demand and that our targets are lucky to have the opportunity to be dating us.
Remember, we must create the image that we are prizes to be won.

2. Humor – Sense of humor is extremely important for building attraction in text messages and phone calls. We need to turn this up and
incorporate a ton of humor that is both cocky and funny.

3. M ake Her Chase – We need to keep our future dates feeling as if they are chasing us. All women are attracted to what they can’t have so
do not let up now.

4. Be unique/interesting – Receiving a phone number does not mean your work is done. Do not become the typical “frustrated online dater”
now that you have a phone number. Stay original, stay fresh, and stay interesting with your texts and phone calls.

5. Show ambition – Allude to the fact that you are a busy guy with plenty of things going on in your life. Women are highly attracted to
men that they believe are ambitious.

6. Stay M ysterious – She does not have to know every single thing you are doing that week, or hear your whole life story on the phone.
M ystery is an attraction builder and we need to keep this going.

7. Demonstrate commonalities – Seek out things that you have in common and can relate to. Women are attracted to men that they have a lot
in common with.

8. Self-Confidence – Be cocky, slightly arrogant, and show her that you are used to talking to beautiful women on the phone all the time.

9. Showing You Are Valuable to Society – Women want someone that they feel everyone in society will be jealous of. Show that you are
someone important that they can brag about.

Be aware that every single one of these attraction builders is extremely important to your phone/texting game. This guide will discuss all
aspects of phone/texting game with the assumption and implication that you are using these attraction builders in everything you do.
Chapter 2- The Importance of Establishing Comfort
Receiving a beautiful woman’s phone number is always an exciting time. Especially for the online dater that is first beginning to perfect his
online dating skills. However, sometimes we have a great conversation, receive a beautiful woman’s phone number, and our target simply
does not pick up the phone. This can be very confusing for most online daters to say the least. We begin to wonder:

“Why would she not pick up the phone if she gave me her phone number?”
“Was she just not that interested to begin with?”

Although this is not usually the case,

sometimes an unanswered phone call has absolutely nothing to do with us. There are many reasons why a woman may not pick up your
phone call even if she is interested in you.

- She was out that night.

- She was in the middle of doing something

- She was tired and did not feel like talking.

- She missed your phone call and feels uncomfortable calling back.
Etc.

These are all valid reasons why women may not answer the phone. However, more often then not, we are the reason that they are not
picking up.

Most Times it IS Our Fault When Women Do Not Answer

Even though it may not always be our fault if women don’t answer the phone, most of the time when women do not pick up the phone, it is
our fault.

“But how could this be my fault if I had a very successful pick-up and this is the first time I’m contacting her since then?”

Good question.

If a woman gives out her phone number and doesn’t pick up the phone it is almost always because we have failed to do something that is of
critical importance – build enough comfort.

This is the biggest reason that women fail to pick up phone calls and should never be underestimated.

What is building comfort?

Building comfort is just how it sounds. It is the processes of making a woman feel a certain level of comfort with you. By the time your
online dating target picks up the phone, if comfort was built properly, she should have no hesitation and feel no awkwardness in talking to
you.

Why is building comfort so important?

Building comfort is critical because this is the main reason that women do not always pick up our phone calls.

The female that you have successfully gamed online may have had an amazing time talking to you. She may have been laughing, talking to
you for an extending period of time, and been genuinely interested in you during the online pick-up.

However, once the conversation ends, many hours and possibly days pass by as well. As each hour passes by, the comfort she once felt
slowly starts to disappear.

By the time she receives your phone call, she no longer feels the same level of comfort that she did when originally talking to you. She now
fears that the conversation will feel awkward and strange if she picks up the phone so she chooses to not answer.

This is the same reason why guys will often hook up with a girl that they meet at a bar, and when they call the next day or later that week,
the female does not answer. The male is usually left scratching his head, wondering why a female that made out with him no longer wants to
talk. Just like online dating, the male failed to establish enough comfort for making his date feel comfortable in picking up the phone.

When is comfort building the most important?

Comfort building is always important, but it is especially important when you have received a women’s phone number through an Instant
M essaging conversation.

No matter how great your conversation was, odds are it was only a forty-five minute blip or less in your targets life. It is critical that we use
texting to build comfort in these situations, which will be explained later in this book.
How do you know when not building enough comfort is the reason for an unanswered phone call?

If you have called twice and still get no answer or no callback, then there is a 99 percent chance that comfort building is the reason.

How do we know this? It’s pretty simple when you think about it. Picking up women online is much different than picking up women in
real life. They have absolutely no reason to give out a phone number if they weren’t genuinely interested at the time!

In real life woman will sometimes give out a phone number to escape a bad situation. A guy comes up to a female, won’t leave her alone, and
out of frustration she gives out her number in the hopes he will walk away.

However, online dating is much different and does not pose this problem. During an Instant M essaging conversation women can simply
escape at any time by canceling out of the conversation. And if they are talking through email, women will simply not write back if they
aren’t interested.

Bottom line: there is simply no reason for women to give out a phone number unless they are truly interested. If they don’t pick up the
phone than one of two things most likely happened:

1. Your comfort building has fell through.

2. Your target has been stolen away by a competitor.

(As discussed before, occasionally there are other circumstances, but these other circumstances are unlikely)

Ways to Establish Comfort

Comfort building can be established in a number of ways.

- Asking a few personal questions / getting to know your target on a more personal level.

- The amount of time spent talking.

- Staying in your targets life for a continued period of time.

1. The first way to establish comfort is by getting to know your potential date on a slightly personal level.

The final portions of your pick-up (before receiving a phone number) should deal with asking a few personal questions and briefly getting to
know each other on a more intimate level. The same thing holds true for both an email pick-up and an Instant M essage Pick-UP.

Examples of Personal/Comfort Building Questions:

Where did you grow up?
What is your family like? What do you do for a living?
What is your favorite…?
What’s your dream in life?
Etc.

(For a much more detailed discussion of this aspect of the pick-up, check out The REAL Online Game for the REAL Online Dater. The main
focus of this guide is strictly phone game tactics)

2. Comfort is also built by talking to your date for a certain length of time. If you push for a number too soon then you will not have the
built required amount of comfort to be successful.

Rule of thumb for building enough comfort:

Instant M essaging: 25 to 45 minutes.
Email: Five to Eight exchanges.

3. Staying in your targets life for a continued period of time. If we want comfort levels to stay high than we cannot allow long periods of
time to pass in which she is no longer in contact with us. This is where text game comes into play. It fills the gap of time that we may not
have otherwise been in contact with our targets. Which brings us to…

Comfort Building Online is Not Always Enough

Unfortunately, comfort building through your online pick-up is not always enough no matter how solid your game is.

One of the main purposes of this manual is to fill this gap and bring our pick-ups to the real world. If we want to continue to build high
levels of comfort, along with high levels of attraction, we need to bring our game from the online world to real life through our phone game.

In the next chapter we will establish just how important it is to continue building comfort through text messages and why every online dater
should take advantage of this.
Chapter Three – Using Text Messages to Build Comfort
In the previous chapter we learned just how important comfort building is if you want your target to pick up your phone call. The women
we hope to date need to retain these strong feelings of comfort and emotional highs that we originally left them with. If comfort is built
correctly, then they will not feel any
awkwardness or hesitate to pick up the phone when we call.

First We Text – Then We Call

We are always going to use text messages before we actually put in that first phone call.
The reasons for this are simple…

Text messaging is the best possible way to build comfort after you receive a phone number online.

The above statement cannot be stressed enough. Text messaging should be your stepping stone from the online world to your eventual
phone conversation. We are going to use this as a tool to make her anticipate our eventual phone call, feel more comfort with us, and build
attraction in the process.
Lets take a look at just what we will
accomplish by initiating our texting game after an online pick-up.

The Benefits of Texting Before You Make Your First Phone Call:

Online dating is an extremely

competitive world. It is easy to fall out of your potential dates memory due to all the incoming messages she receives every day.

By initiating text-messaging threads leading up to your first phone call, you will be establishing a continued presence in your future dates
life. At no point will the growth that you two are experiencing together have died out. The pick-up is being extended and the flame is
continuing to grow.

This will also help her to push aside the competition and focus solely on you as a potential mate.

These text messages will keep you fresh in her mind so that she does not look for someone else while waiting for your call. Even more
importantly, she will not forget about you.
This is especially important when it comes to the Instant M essaging Pick-up since your conversation was probably only 45 minutes or less.

The comfort building will not only continue, but also increase. Often times a potential date will have a great conversation with you, but
as soon as you stop talking, the comfort slowly fades away. Using texts will keep that bridge strong and continue to build the comfort levels
without giving it a chance to fade away.

You will transition the relationship mentally from the online world to real life.

Your potential date may have had a great time talking to you online,
however, as great as the conversation is, it still mentally feels like an imaginary world.

By using text messages, you have now mentally become a part of her “real” world. You are in contact with her in the same way that family,
friends, and all the people she is close with are. This psychological effect will help you to progress emotionally and will work wonders since
you are now mentally part of this special circle.

Text messages are easy to respond to. Your date may be busy, out the night you call, in a bad mood, or not feel like talking.

For any of these reasons your date may not pick up the phone when you call. However, if you throw a text, it is always easy for someone
to get back to you and you will circumvent this potential problem.

She may be interested in you but is still not 100 percent sure if she wants to date you yet. Text messaging provides you with an
opportunity to win her over even more by sending messages that generate plenty of attraction and high interest.

And if she is already completely interested, sending the right text messages may take this to an even higher level. They serve as a way of
extending the pick-up.

These are just a few of the many advantages that sending text messages will provide. Always be aware of them and never
underestimate how useful they can be. If you do not properly build comfort before calling your date then she will not pick up the phone
when you eventually call. Not using text messages to fill this gap is playing with fire and is a large risk, especially if your pickup was
through Instant M essaging, a pick-up that leaves little time to build the necessary amount of comfort.
Chapter Four – When to Text / How Often to Text
Now that we understand the importance of text messaging it is important to know when the text messaging should begin, how often to
initiate, and how often to respond.

There are no universal answers to these questions since different forms of pick-up require different levels of comfort building.

The timing of your actions should depend upon which form of pick-up that you have used to receive your phone number.

The Instant Messaging Pick-UP

If your pick-up has been initiated through the process of Instant M essaging than you are going to want to send your first text message in an
extremely short period of time.

The reason for this is simple. Instant

M essaging conversations only last about fortyfive minutes or less. This makes it
tremendously difficult to build enough comfort to go more than a day without contact. After a day goes by you will more than likely just be
a faded memory in the eye of your potential date, despite the fact that you may have had a flawless pick-up.

For this reason, you want to send a text message within 24 hours, and preferably on the same day. In fact, in the following chapter I will
teach you the tricks of how to begin your texting conversation within one hour of your online pick-up ending without losing any demand
whatsoever, and looking completely natural in the process.

The Email Pick-Up

The Email Pick–Up affords you more time to hold off on texting since you have been in contact with your potential date for an extended
period of time. If you have followed the rule of thumb, than your online pick-up has probably been going on for about a week through email.
This means you have been a consistent part of your targets life for a full week and have consequently built a decent amount of comfot.

When initiating a texting thread after an email pick-up, you want to wait until the next day before initiating contact. The comfort is stronger
than an Instant M essage pick-up so you can afford to wait.

The number is also received under different circumstances. If we text immediately it will seem as if we read our email 24/7 and couldn’t wait
to contact her. Instant M essaging is different because we are following through on a conversation that is still somewhat active and on going
in the immediate present (more on this later).

How Often You S hould Initiate New Texting Conversations Before Your First Phone Call:

A rule of thumb should be one text messaging thread each day.

Do not over do it. Texting too often will make you appear desperate, needy, and clingy. All are attraction killers.

After the First Phone Call Is Made:

Once the eventual phone call is made, the frequency of texts per day can increase slightly. We want to have a natural progression of how
much we talk with our targets. This should correlate with how long we have known them.

Ending the Conversation

You always want to avoid endlessly continuing the conversation thread that you have started. You should be ejecting from the conversation
you have started while interest is at a peak and your target is still fully into you.

If you go on too long with your text messages you will eventually bring things to a less exciting point and eventual halt.
So keep your text messages to a few
responses and then get out while enthusiasm is high. And be aware of signs that interest is fading. If her responses become more brief and
concise, you have continued too long. It’s time to eject!

Always Eject First

M any guys have the tendency to keep writing and writing until the conversation fizzles out. This is understandable. It is a good feeling to
have a beautiful woman talking to us and we naturally want to keep it going. However, as good as this may feel, make sure she sends the last
text and dead the conversation while it is still hot.

Ejecting first will have a few great benefits:

1. It shows demand and that you have control of the relationship. Attraction building qualities.

2. You will leave her with those feelings of wondering when you will write back again. She will begin to feel “the chase” and greatly
anticipate your next text. If your game is really solid she will also feel panicky about when you will get back to her again. These emotions
are very powerful. When you do finally text her again she will feel a strong sense of relief and attraction.

Text Messaging S peed

Mirroring

M irroring is the process of following the lead of your potential date. You should usually (more on when not to) try to stay at a similar pace
as your target when responding to text messages.

If she is very deliberate and slow to get back to you, then do not jump to respond every time you hear your phone go off. Responding
within 2 minutes when she is taking 25 minutes just looks weak and desperate. You want to mirror the behavior patterns of your target and
take similar lengths of time.

On the flip side, if she writes you back superfast, do not take 25 minutes to get back to her. This may cause her interest to fall off.

With that said, when you are using the tactic of mirroring, you do want to take slightly longer than your target to respond to maintain the
upper hand, power, and value.

Advanced S peed Tactics:

Have you ever been in a situation where you were in contact with a female through text, the conversation was going perfectly, than out of
nowhere she does not respond.

Two minutes go by.

Five minutes go by.
Twenty minutes go by.

As more and more time goes by the panic sets in. Your hands begin to sweat. You start to wonder what went wrong. You re-read every text
message you previously wrote over and over again. Paranoia sets in and you start to wonder:

“Did I go too far with my flirting?”

“Did she take the previous message the wrong way?”
“Have I offended her some how?”

Some of us even reach a point where we send what I call “Panic Text M essages (M ore on this in a bit).”
When our targets eventually do text us back, we feel a tremendous sense of relief. We are more happy than any other time she has texted us
in the past. We hope to never have to worry like this again and realize how badly we want to keep this potential date in our lives.

Has this ever happened to you? C’mon don’t be embarrassed. I’m certainly guilty of these feelings and so are millions of other men out
there. We may not all experience these situations to the same level or degree but most of us have definitely been in a similar circumstance.

The good news is, we can stir up the same emotions in our targets by using this advanced tactic to our advantage.

S o how do we do this to our targets?

Simple. Never stay completely predictable. Every now and then we are going to throw our targets a complete curveball.

If we have been responding at a fairly consistent pace, every now and than we are purposely going to wait an extended period of time to get
back to them just when the conversation starts to get hot. Or we might wait for her to ask a question and then not respond for a very long
time.

This will keep your target waiting by the phone, wondering where you went, and hoping you write back. When you do finally get back to
her, (assuming your pre-ceding game was fun well), you will up the intensity of her feelings towards you to a whole new level.

She will never feel stronger about you than she does at this moment. From this moment on you have permanently taken her feelings about
you to the next level. She may now even begin to slightly obsess about you and think about you 24/7. The chemical balance has been
officially altered.

So always mix things up once in a while to keep your potential date on her heels, guessing, and wanted more. Your target will be more into
you than ever.

Panic Text Messages – I briefly mentioned the notion of panic text messages in the above section. Panic text messages are sent when you
fear that you have screwed up your game somehow. This results in the online dater sending out desperate sounding text messages in an
attempt to resolve the situation.

They are usually triggered from one of the following circumstances:

1. An extended period of time has passed with no reply.
2. A reply is sent back that comes off as either really cold or extremely brief.
These circumstances sometimes result in a panic message being sent.
Examples of panic messages:
I didn’t offend you with what I said did I?
Or
Hey, are you still there?

Never assume that because a woman suddenly takes a while to get back to you that there is a need to panic. By sending messages like the
ones above you have lowered your value tremendously in the eyes of a woman, and will look weak and clingy. These types of texts are
suicide.

If you are nervous about what has happened and have trouble controlling your impulses than put your phone away and get back to it in a
few hours. By the time you get back to your phone she will more than likely have
responded and you will find your paranoia is for nothing.

Sometimes women just get distracted. There is no need to read too much into things. On top of that, you will only look like you are in more
demand by not answering for a few hours anyway. You will have flipped the script.

Times Not to Text:

Never text on a Friday or Saturday once midafternoon passes. These are the times where you need to maintain the appearance of a guy with
a valuable social life who is out living his life with friends.

If you text at these times you will lower your value and appear to be in low demand through your potential dates eyes.

Keep the texting to times of the week where society does not expect you to be out among friends.

You should also never text past a certain time unless you know that your target has a night schedule. Texting past 10 o clock at night should
be the cut-off unless you are aware that she is always up at this time.

Never Text Drunk

So many guys lose control over impulses and will text women that they barely have any connection with while drunk. This is the fastest
way to turn your date off and reek of desperateness. Avoid texting at any hours that might give the implication you are out and drinking.

Now that we are aware of all the times we should be texting and how often, it is time to delve even deeper into the subject by finding ways
to set ourselves up for success during our online pick-ups.
Chapter Five - Planting Conversation Seeds
Planting conversation seeds are one of the most important tools that we can learn from this guide. As we learned in previous chapters, text
messaging is a critical tool that helps to build and maintain comfort with potential dates. The goal of building comfort is to ensure that our
targets will not forget about us, move on, or feel awkward for our eventual phone conversations. In addition, we want to use these text
messages as an opportunity to build even more attraction in the process.

In order to set ourselves up for effective text messaging, we should prepare for this during our initial online conversations. This is where
conversation seeds come in.

Conversation Seeds are an extremely useful tool that will ensure no comfort is lost between you and your target. They will serve as a way to
fill the gap from your online conversation to your text messages. Not only will they fill the gap nicely, but they will also give you a reason
to text your potential date without lowering demand at all. In fact, if performed properly, they will increase demand and attraction.

What Is A Conversation S eed?

Planting conversation seeds is something that all advanced online daters do. The idea behind a conversation seed is relatively simple.

When a pick-up is being performed, the male online dater will deliberately “plant” a line or joke into the online conversation.

The idea behind planting this seed is that you will refer back to this joke during a future conversation at a later date.

When we eventually refer back to this “seed” in a future conversation, we will allow it to “grow” into a new conversation that sets us up to
continue building upon what we once started.

This will serve as a means to continue comfort building and attraction.

How many conversation seeds should be planted during an online pick-up?

The goal should be to plant two conversation seeds during a pick-up. One will be referred back to during your text messaging
conversation, and one will be referred back to on your first phone call.

Types of Conversation S eeds that You S hould Plant:

Inside Jokes.
Something that will create a unique bond between you and your target.

The perfect conversation seeds serve the purpose of creating a unique bond between you and your target.

A conversation seed should mentally make your target feel as if you have a special relationship with each other that nobody else has. Inside
jokes serve this purpose. You will have something with her that other online daters in pursuit do not have.

How to Effectively Create Conversation S eeds:

Now that you know what a conversation seed is, it is time to show exactly how they are used and how to implement them successfully.

There are a million and one types of

conversation seeds that you can use on women. Your imagination and creativity is the limit. The seeds you use may also vary depending on
the flow of your initial pick-up and where the conversation was led.

**The important part of using a

conversation seed is not what you use, only that you set yourself up with a future conversation that easily allows you to build comfort and
implement
attraction-building principles.

With that said, I will now show you specifically how to use a conversation seed and one that I have successfully used on countless women.

Demonstration of how to use “The Psycho S talker Conversation S eed.”

If you read The REAL Online Game for the REAL Online Dater, you probably know by now that one of the most useful pick-up routines
of all time is the “psycho stalker” routine. This will help us transition perfectly into a
conversation seed.

If you have not read the book, the premise behind this routine is simple:

We initiate a routine about a first date that is spiked with many details about a date we went on in which the female called us dozens of
times, stalked us, practically asked to have our babies, etc.

(Purchase the REAL Online Game for the REAL Online Dater to see how this routine is used in great depth).
Long story short, the purpose of this routine is to not only entertain and generate interest, but it creates demand, builds attraction, and
generates plenty of humor.

Tying this routine to a conversation seed:

When you are at the end of an Instant M essage pick-up (or the final email) – refer back to the psycho stalker routine that you started earlier
in the pick-up and say something along the lines of:

“I guess you can give me your phone number. Just promise you won’t stalk me like every other girl on this site if I call you ;P … ”

This is the conversation seed.

You have planted a seed about her being a potential stalker, which you will eventually refer back to during your future text messages.

(Not only have you initiated the seed but you have also made a statement that is flirty, playful, implies demand, and hits on many attraction
builders)

After planting this seed your target will more than likely joke back and flirt as you wrap up your pick-up.

The important thing to do for this particular seed/routine is to not give her your phone number. Just take her number and leave it at that.

If she asks for your phone number than that is even better. You will simply say:
“I’m not sure I’m ready to trust you yet.”
Or
“I’m going to have to think about that.”
However you choose to end your conversation, wrap it up, and prepare for phase two.
Phase Two – Letting the S eed Grow

We have now planted the conversation seed. In this case, the inside joke that we have established as our conversation seed is that we do not
want her to be yet another one of our psycho stalkers.

We have also playfully established that we are “hesitant to call” as one of our inside jokes.

If the pick-up was through Instant M essaging we are now going to wait anywhere from twenty minutes to an hour before continuing to
phase two. You can wait up to a day but the earlier you re-initiate contact the better. The post text message to an IM pick-up is viewed
more of an extension of the original pick-up.

(If your pick-up is through email you should wait until the next day).

When the time comes we will send a text message that fills the gap and connects the seed you have planted in the online world to
real life.

You will say something along the lines of: (Remember – she never took your phone number)

“Okay Rebecca, here is my number. Just promise you won’t hurt my family…”

(Always include her name. This subconsciously makes a person feel an even deeper connection with you)

Or

“Alright Rebecca. I’m going to let you have my phone number. But please, don’t fall for me the way every other girl does. ;P”

Or

“I’ve thought it over Rebecca and I guess you only seem mildly scary. I’ll take a gamble on giving you my phone number. =P...”
There are tons of different responses you can go with. Just make sure you use attraction builders with whatever response you choose.

Now we have successful initiated the next phase of our pick-up by opening up a text messaging thread, which refers back to our planted
seed.

Let’s take a close look at what we have done so far by opening up the seed with our first text message:

These statements continue off the inside jokes we have previously created. We are forming a unique bond with our targets mentally. She
will now feel mentally as if she knows us much better than she actually does because of this “inside joke.”

The inside joke and unique bond mentally marks as someone that is more important and connected to her than other male online daters
that may be chasing her. We are subconsciously part of a unique circle.

We have a perfectly valid excuse to text our targets. We never gave our phone numbers. We just wanted to provide our phone number –
hence the “purpose” of the text. When she writes back we are merely continuing off of her decision to re-open a conversation.

We have set ourselves up with a seed that will give us easy access to all the attraction building principles we need to use. The routine that
we initially started provides plenty of opportunities to be cocky-funny, show demand, establish interest, etc. The attraction building will
only grow during the time that will now be spent texting. As her attraction for us grows, other men in pursuit will be brushed aside.

Comfort will continue to be built without ever losing an ounce of demand for ourselves. We are not texting so quickly after the online
pick-up because we are losers and desperate. We are merely continuing a joke from a conversation that has just occurred and have a
“purpose” for continuing the conversation since we needed to provide the phone number.

You will now be in her phone and part of flirting with her in “real life.” This is another mental benefit. Psychologically she will associate
us as being on a similar level to those that are her close friends and family since those are the people she is used to texting with.

If the conversation was through Instant M essaging you allow zero opportunity for yourself to fade from her memory before building
attraction in “real life.”

She may be the first one to initiate a texting conversation with you the next time. M any women see this as a green light to open dialogue
in the future since you have already contacted them once.

By the time you make the first phone call she is now used to you in her life and will almost certainly pick up the phone.

How long should we run with this routine?

As previously discussed, you should be the one to eject first. Keep the texting conversation relatively short. Just a few exchanges back and
forth. Eject while you have her on an emotional high and keep her wanting more.

How many times should I go back to a conversation seed or text per day?

One conversation per day and that is it. If we start texting her throughout the day and keep starting new conversations, we have crossed the
line to looking desperate, and possibly annoying.

So after you are finished running your text messaging thread, either call the next day, or start a new texting conversation the next day.

If you plan on starting a new thread the next day then you should plant a new seed into your texting game. This will set you up perfectly
for next time. There is no limit to how many seeds you can plant. Think of them as building blocks for the future.

Note – If she reinitiates a thread with you that same day then go for it. Two in a day is fine as long as she green lights the second one. If you
do have her reaching our to you first, you should pat yourself on the back. This means your game is on point.

Other Popular Conversation S eed Routines:

Another popular conversation seed that works well is, somewhere along the pick-up I will spike into the conversation:

“Girls usually take me out for dinner.”

This will be done in a playful way and is merely the seed.
When the conversation closes to its end I will tie up the pick-up by going back to this seed.

“Throw me your phone number so that I could let you know when I’m free for you to take me out to dinner this week… =P”

(Note the attraction building principles once again used in this seed)

Flirting will occur, you will receive the phone number if your pick-up went well, and you are once again ready for the next phase.

Later that day (or the next day if the number is received through email) you will text message her something along the lines of:

“I found a list of restaurants that I’ve narrowed it down to. I’ll let you know my decision soon in case you need to make a reservation a few
days in advance ;P…”

There are many possible follow-throughs but you get the idea.
A conversation seed can also be continued a day after you first let it grow.
For example:
If I opened the seed with a text on Wednesday, on Thursday I might write:
“So hungry, I hope you’ve been saving. This may be an expensive date.”

While I don’t recommend waiting more then a day or two to call your target (for reasons that will be explained later in this guide), this is
always an option.

More Conversation S eed Ideas:

 Setting up an inside joke revolving around the fact that she must earn a first date with you.

Setting up an inside joke in which you imply that she is going to have to cook you dinner.

Implying and joking that you will have to fit her into your busy dating schedule.
Etc.
Remember:

There are a million and one ways to use a conversation seed in an effective way. The most important thing to do is to make sure that your
conversation seeds hit on as many different attraction-building principles as you can, and that you will continue to build comfort through
them.

Use these seeds and you will find your comfort escalating dramatically and a much higher frequency of pick-ups, as well as increased built in
attraction when you finally call your target.
Chapter 6 – Text Messaging Mistakes
We have already discussed in great deal why text messages are important and how to use them to our advantage. However, just as we must
know what we should do when text messaging our targets, we must also know what to avoid! If we screw up our text messaging game then
we may accidentally destroy attraction that was already built up. There is nothing worse than losing a potential date that was completely
interested due to self-sabotage!

This chapter provides a full list of textmessaging mistakes that may not only cause your target to lose attraction, but may destroy your first
date chances.

Don’t Ask Too Many Questions:

M any guys make the mistake of continually asking question after question in the text messages they write.

Your text messages should be playful and flirtatious and not sound like you are conducting an interview. You can mix up questions and
statements, but you should mostly be making statements.

Your statements should be interesting enough that they encourage feedback and conversation without having to write in question form.

Asking many questions will lower value and attraction. We don’t want our targets to feel as if they are being interrogated or on an interview.
Responding to questions can feel like homework if over done. So mix it up and make sure you avoid this pitfall.

Using Weak S tatements

In The REAL Online Game for the REAL Online Dater, we talk about the extreme importance of using strong language that alpha males use.
We need to do the same thing with our text messages. Stick to strong statements and avoid language that makes you appear weak.

Example:

Weak text message: If we go out Wednesday we should hit up this spot downtown that I know.

Strong text message: When we go out Wednesday we should hit up this spot downtown that I know.
Words like “if,” ”maybe,” ”hope,” etc. should be eliminated from your texting vocabulary. Replying too fast:

Replying too fast will make you appear weak, desperate, needy, and lacking social value. Remember, you want to mirror your targets
patterns. Replying to fast will take away your upper hand and result in a loss of attraction.

Taking Too Long To Respond:

Just as we don’t want to reply too fast, don’t reply too slow either. There must be some type of flow to the conversation or she will lose
interest. The only exception to this is when implementing advanced tactics and throwing in one extreme delayed response (Covered in
Chapter 4).

Going In For the Kill Through Texting / Pushing Too Fast For A Date:

Don’t try to plan the date through text messaging. This comes across as weak and cowardly. A real man picks up the phone and calls for a
first date.

On that note, you do not want to try to progress the relationship with the other person too fast through texting. Take it nice and slow. The
purpose is to build some comfort, increase attraction, and then eject. The purpose is not to win the game at that moment.

S howing Negativity – Never show negativity during a text message. Some guys tend to act spiteful or make nasty comments when women
do not respond how they hoped they would. Sometimes an underwhelming response has to do with the female being distracted, busy, or not
paying much attention. Acting negative in a text message will put up a red flag and mark you as someone who is way too intense and over-
bearing to date. Our text messages should only be light, positive, or fun.

Acting Like S he is Your Property

Although you have your targets phone number at this point and odds are more than likely that you will go on a first date, do not treat her as
if she is yours and is committed to going out with you. This will scare her and is a major turn-off.

Your target has not yet been out with you and has no obligation to continue talking to you at any point unless she decides she wants to.

In addition, some guys tend to act as if the female is their girlfriend rather than a potential date. This is another huge turn off.
Remember, she is not your property so never act this way.

Being Too Over Clingy, Needy, and Nice

All three of these things are major attraction killers. Never act in any of these ways through the words you use, and the actions of your
messages (speed, conversations started per day, etc.).

Remember, major attraction builders involve showing alpha male qualities, being in demand, and is if you are used to being surrounded by
women at all times.

In demand men do not act clingy, needy, and overly nice.

Avoid compliments

Compliments are attraction killers. Women want a chase. The second we start making them realize that they have us; they will lose their
interest in us.

If she says something funny, never tell her how funny she is.

If you think she’s “so cute,” keep it to yourself. Women love compliments, but not until they are way past the initial chasing stage of the
relationship.

S ounding Perfect on Every S ingle Message

This may sound like crazy advice but you do not want to be the funniest or most engaging person ever on every single text. The reason for
that is it will come across as if you are trying too hard.

Nobody is brilliant with everything they say. While we do want to keep our potential dates interested, we don’t want to write things that
sound TOO perfect every time. It will look forced, phony, and lower your value.

Vary Your Texts / Do Not Make EVERY Text Message a Joke

M aking jokes is a great way to build attraction. Making jokes in every single text we ever write will raise red flags and is no good. We don’t
want to have the appearance of being a onedimensional clown. Vary up your messages to avoid this stigma and remain a well-rounded
person in your targets eyes.

Do Not Be Overly S exual

Some people confuse being flirtatious with being overly sexual. M aking a sexual comment to someone you have never met can be extremely
high risk and dangerous.

The difference:
A winking face is flirting with a slight sexual undertone.

A sexual comment is offensive and creepy from someone that a woman barely knows.

Be aware of the difference.

Before moving on to the next chapter, take a careful note of everything we have just discussed and program it into your system. The last
thing you want to do is destroy a potential date with faulty text messaging game.

Now that we have fully discussed text messaging in all shapes and forms, it is time to begin our discussion of phone game.
Chapter 7- Phone Game The First Phone Call / How Long to Wait
**Before reading this chapter please note that this is referring to when you should make the first phone call – not the first text message.

**We are also assuming going into this chapter that you have implemented your conversation seeds/text messages already.

If we are going to discuss first calls it is extremely important to understand that there is a huge difference between picking up women
through Instant M essaging and picking up women through email. Both types of pick-ups are effective, yet both dictate different actions.

The Email Pick-Up

When picking up women through email you are afforded a decent amount of time before you must call. If you follow the proper guidelines
for picking up women through email then you have probably done the following:

Sent one email/response a day to keep demand high

Sent between five and eight responses before asking for a phone number.

Picking up women through email takes time. This means that our targets are used to us being a part of their life in some small way for at
least a week.

Due to the fact that we have been in contact for about a week, we have established a decent amount of comfort and can afford to wait two or
three days after the phone number is received before calling.

(Use conversations seeds in the days preceding to your phone call)

When S HOULD you call?

As long as you are building comfort each day through text messaging you can afford to wait. However, I recommend calling much sooner
rather than later.

Why? The competition online is tremendously greater than in real life.

In real life we don’t have 50 other guys trying to cut in on the woman we are interested in every day. Text messaging and using conversation
seeds minimizes the potential of this happening. However, there is no
guarantee. The sooner you call the better your odds are.

When S HOULDN’T you call?

Never call on a Friday or Saturday. You need to keep demand high for yourself or you will lose attraction.

If you received the woman’s phone number on a Wednesday, then call on Thursday, otherwise you will have to bridge the comfort for three
straight days which is very difficult.

If you received the number on a Thursday, wait until Sunday night, but it is more important than ever to use your seeds effectively.

(And remember what we previously discussed– only use them during a Saturday afternoon, never a Saturday night or we will lower our
value)

***You can also fill the gap with another short email instead of text messaging - one of the main benefits of the email pick-up.

The Instant Message Pick-Up

The Instant M essage Pick-Up requires the online dater to call M UCH quicker than the email pick-up.

The reason for this is simple and was briefly mentioned earlier in this guide. No matter how amazing your pick-up was, it was only a 45
minute blip or less on your targets radar. You have not had nearly as long of an imprint on the woman’s life in comparison to if you picked
her up through email.

The conversation seeds help to fix this problem, however, even with a conversation seed we don’t want to wait another few days to call.

The comfort levels through instant messaging are lower than an email pick-up to begin with, and will still fade off at some point even with
the implementation of a conversation seed.

For this reason you should always try to call the next day if the next day is not a Friday or Saturday night.

The Best Day of the Week to Call

The best day of the week to call by far is on a Sunday night. The reason for this is women who have been online dating have probably just
been out on yet another bad date that very weekend. And if they haven’t been out on a bad date, they have probably seen nothing but
happy couples all weekend.

Emotions are high at this point and women are primed to be picked up on Sunday nights. Take advantage of the fact that they just spent the
whole weekend thinking about how desperately want to find that special someone in their life.

In addition, Sunday night is when people are usually the least busy and available for conversation. Your target is most likely winding down
and preparing for a new week. This is a good time to catch her with a free moment to talk.
Chapter 8 – Phone Game Mistakes
In chapter 6 we discussed text-messaging mistakes that must be avoided. Well just as we must be careful with our text messaging game, we
must also know what to avoid in order to run successful phone game.

This chapter will discuss all the common mistakes that the rookie online dater makes, and why you should avoid these potential attraction
killers.

***Note – M any text-messaging mistakes apply to phone game mistakes as well. We will not repeat them for the sake of redundancy.

The Following Are Phone Game Mistakes That You Must Avoid:
S taying on the Phone Too Long

The goal of the phone call is to have an interesting conversation, briefly entertain your date, set the date, and eject while interest is high. We
want to leave at a high point and leave our dates wanting more. Do not make the rookie mistake of talking until your date becomes bored and
conversation must be “reached” for.

Your date should never have the opportunity to start thinking, “I really want to get going soon, is this going to last much longer?”

Keeping it short shows that you are in demand, have other things to do, and are not needy. Clingy, desperate guys, that are in low demand
spend tons of time trying to talk to someone they have never met yet. Not you. You will create the image of having more important things to
do.

Leaving No Mystery

Just as we don’t want to stay on the phone forever to avoid appearing too clingy and in low demand, we also want to keep the conversation
somewhat short in order to not give away all of our mystery.

M ystery is one of the major attraction builders. By keeping a part of ourselves secret and leaving pieces our lives left to the female’s
imagination, we maintain this attraction.

On the flip side, if we spend hours on the phone, we will give up way too much information about ourselves before the first date has even
been set.

Being the S ame as Every Other Guy

The goal is to be interesting and original. If we are the same as every other guy we will fail to generate interest and excitement for the first
date. How to run our phone game in a way that is interesting and builds attraction will be covered in great detail in the next chapter.

S peaking Too Fast

Speaking too fast is a sign that you lackconfidence. It reveals that you are nervous and unsure of the words that are coming out of your
mouth. M en with high confidence keep a measured voice and speak slowly.

Practice slowing down the speed of your voice and make sure that you do not make this mistake when nervous. Controlling your nerves is
easier said than done and takes practice. However, this is important since lack of confidence is an attraction killer.

Keep Your Tone at a Low Pitch

High-pitched voices are another sign that you lack confidence. Keeping a low tone is a turn on for women and an alpha male quality. If you
tend to have a high-pitched voice, the good news is that you can train your voice to go lower. One trick to doing so is by slowing down your
speech. It is almost impossible to speak with a high pitch when talking slower. Try it out and see for yourself!

Asking Too Many Questions

Just as we do not want to ask too many questions in our texting game, the same goes for phone game. Asking too many questions will make
your potential date feel like she is on a job interview. She should be having fun on the phone with you, not feeling under pressure.

S mall Talk on the First Call

You want to try to limit small talk on the first call. Sometimes it happens and there is no way to avoid it. We cannot always control where
the conversation is steered. If you do engage in small talk, try to keep it to a minimum.

Remember what you learned from The REAL Online Game – our goal is to be interesting and unique compared to the rest of the online
daters out there. By bringing the conversation to boring small talk we are no different than all the other boring online daters out there.

So keep the conversation fun, playful and interesting.

S aying Your Availability First
The rookie online dater will often end the phone call by suggesting a date and saying when he is free first. This is something you never want
to do and will be explained in detail in the next chapter.
Chapter 9 – Phone Game - What do I say?
Congratulations, you have made it to the final stage of the pick-up. If you successfully make it past this point you will find yourself on a
date within the next few days.

As great as this may sound, let’s face it; calling someone that you have never talked to before on the phone can be a little nerve-wracking.
This is why we need to build so much comfort to being with – to make the females less nervous!

But just as it’s nerve-wracking for them, until we have become advanced in the game it can be tough on us as well. Which is why we are
going to treat this aspect of the pick-up like any other aspect of our online dating game. We are going to come into our phone conversations
armed with routines and material that is ready to go.

The following is a four-stage method that will guide you through the entire cycle of the phone call with ease, while generating interest and
building attraction in the process.

Phase 1 - The Intro/Breaking the Ice

The best way to start up a phone conversation is by breaking the ice with something humorous or slightly funny. This will disarm your
potential date and bring things to a relaxing point.

How do we do this?

We can start by using a simple line that works on every phone call no matter how your pickup went down.

The following example between Rebecca and an HSOP (Highly successful online player) is an attraction builder that implies demand,
confidence, creates humor, and breaks the ice:

(Ring Ring)
Rebecca: Hello
HSOP: Hi is Rebecca there?
Rebecca: Yes this is Rebecca…

HSOP: Hey what’s up? It’s that really good looking guy you met on M atch.com the other day..
And cut.

Another option:

M ale: Hey Rebecca. It’s that really cute guy you met on M atch.com the other day…

Rebecca: (Laughs etc.)

M ale: So the reason I’m calling is I got an email from M atch.com saying that your profile has been completely inactive with other members
since you met me. They are kind of blaming me for making you lose interest in the rest of the site and now you have me in trouble…

These are just two examples of openers you can use. You are only limited to your imagination as far as openers you can use, as long as you
use attraction builders within them. The goal is to break the ice.

Phase 2 – Using Your S econd Conversation S eed

Remember early on in this guide when I told you to implement more than one conversation seed in your pick-up?
The reason for this is simple. One
conversation fuse goes into your first text messaging thread; the other goes into your first phone call.

These conversation seeds are just as useful for your first phone calls, and are a great way to immediately ignite the conversation with
something interesting that you both talked about at one point.

For example: Let’s say my conversation seed revolved around the continuing joke of playing around that I am going to let my target take me
out to dinner.

I will transition my phone call in the following manner after the initial icebreaker:

M ale: So anyways, the reason I was calling is, I’m kinda out of food in my house and was wondering when you planned on taking me out to
dinner?

Rebecca: Hahaha excuse me?

M ale: What don’t you know girls take me out to dinner?

And Cut Rebecca will in all likely hood respond with some sort of laughter and follow up. Where will this conversation go form here on? It
can go in many different directions. The point is, it will likely continue to generate interest and laughter.

During this phase you should be using as many attraction builders as you can. Stay confident, cocky-funny, in demand, confident, flirty,
etc.

Also note that this is just one example of a conversation seed that we can go back to. You can choose any conversation seed you want and
all should work equally well if done correctly. It all depends on what you prefer.

Does this have to be a different conversation seed from the one you used through text messaging? No.

If you have not already overdone your first seed, and it is fitting to the conversation, then feel free to continue off your first seed. It all
depends on whether or not you have beaten it to the ground or not. That is why it always helps to have two seeds planted in your initial
pick-up.

Phase 3 – Transition to Online Dating Routines

In phase three we are rounding third base and heading for home. At this point we want to continue to guide the conversation in an interesting
way. The end of stage three should eventually tie directly into planning a first date and flow smoothly.

The best possible way to do this is by using one of your bad date routines, or creepy online dater routines. If you read The REAL Online
Game for the REAL Online Dater you might remember that telling bad date stories is a great way to build attraction and share a common
bond. These stories are always humorous and entertaining if delivered right. You should always be armed with at least three good ones and
now is the perfect time to use one of them.

Example: Let’s just assume I am going back to one of my crazy stalker routines:
Option A: Let her carry the routine

M ale: So how’s online dating going? Are you getting hit on by as many crazies as I am lately?

(Note – I am subtly implying women never stop hitting on me – demand)

Rebecca: Oh M y God Yes (and she tells a story)...

In this option Rebecca has stories to tell and you will joke with her and talk about them. Try to build attraction in the process.

Option B: You carry the routine

M ale: So how’s online dating going? Are you getting hit on by as many crazies as I am lately?

Rebecca: Haha no nothing too crazy lately… How about you?

At this point you will implement one of the routines you came up with when learning The REAL Online Game and build attraction in the
process.

Whatever way the conversation pans out (Option A or B), one thing will be certain, you will be sharing funny stories about creepy online
daters or recent bad dates.

(If you don’t have a real one, make one up that incorporates all attraction-building principles).
These stories lead perfectly into the final stage:

Phase Four – Date Closing

Phase three not only provides lots of entertainment, but leads us perfectly into the final phase – planning the date.

Un-experienced online daters will have a decent phone conversation, but then there is an awkward switch to the moment where a date is
asked for. By telling bad date stories we are already on the subject of going out on dates and now have a perfect lead in.

Examples of how to Date Close:

1. Alright well, I guess we can go out on a date, just promise me your not going to stalk me like all of the other women out there.

2. Well nothing could be worse then all these stories I’m hearing from you. I guess I’ll let you take me out…

3. So your not creepy like all the other people that are hitting on me right? Should I be scared to go out with you?
4. So all the other girls seemed normal on the phone also. How do I know its safe to go out on a date with you?

There are tons of ways to do this. Use one of the above or create your own version. Note how each of the above statements once again
continues to use attraction builders. In addition, some of them force the girl to qualify herself to you, which will put you in demand. By
taking command in this way, you are in control and she is giving reasons why she should be good enough for you.
You should also make sure to deliver these lines in the proper way. Your tone should be playful and flirty as well as showing high
confidence.

Advanced Tactics for Planning the First Date

When planning the first date you want to go about planning it in a way that doesn’t risk a loss of demand and value. In the previous chapter
I briefly mentioned that an HSOP should never say his availability for a first date before the female does. Let’s take a look why.

Let’s say you ask your target out by saying:

“So what are you doing Friday night?”
and she responds:
“Oh I’m busy Friday.”

Now we have already lowered our value by being turned down for our first request. This leaves us in an awkward position where we have to
purpose the question yet again. The next step is to say,

“Oh okay. Are you free Saturday?”

Now we run the risk of her being busy on Saturday as well. If this is the case then now we are really in a hole. We have no choice but to ask
when she is free and to ask her out one more time! Talk about appearing as if you have nothing going on in your life! Your value is
completely screwed! This is an attraction killer.

What you should always do is ask your date out in this manner:
“So what is your schedule looking like? We should meet up sometime soon…”

Now it is in her court to tell you when she is free. We run zero risk on asking her out on a day where she already has plans. On top of that,
we can take this advanced tactic to an even higher life.

If we find out when she is free by asking her out in this manner, she will likely mention more then one day that she is free. As an advanced
online dater, we will purposely pretend we are busy on the first night she mentions, and offer to go out with her the second night.

This makes us appear to have a lot going on in our lives, as well as being a guy that does not need to jump at every chance to go out with a
female.

No Answer – Voicemail or No Voicemail

A lot of guys often wonder if they should leave a voicemail or not if their target does not pick up the phone.

The answer to this question is no for a couple of reasons.

1. Some women feel uncomfortable calling back. Even if they want to call back they will not return the first call. They will wait and hope
you call again.

2. We always want to try calling twice in case she was busy or missed our call. We can either wait a few hours or call back the next day if
she does not pick up.

Unfortunately, if we leave a message and she does not call back, now we can’t call back without lowering our value in their eyes. We have
rendered ourselves powerless by leaving a message. The ball is officially in their court and we just have to wait.

3. If she still does not pick up after the second call we can attempt one last contact through text messaging.

M aybe she was busy. M aybe she missed your call twice and felt uncomfortable calling back.

Regardless, a clever text message can re-open a potentially closed door. However, a voicemail will not have the power to re-open a closed
door.

Final thoughts:

Phone conversations are spontaneous and unpredictable. No conversation will ever flow exactly how you intended. The idea behind these
principles is to use them as a guide, stick to the principles behind them as best as you can, and generate as much continued interest and
attraction as possible.

If things take an unexpected turn, just go with it. If you can bring it back naturally, bring it back. If not, don’t. The important thing is that
you achieve that first date smoothly while keeping interest at a high.
Chapter 10 – Getting to the Second Date
The first date is over and you decide you want to have a second date. You start to ponder the question that millions of guys have asked,
theorized, and agonized over forever.

“How long should I wait to call?”

M any will argue that calling to soon will make you look desperate.

Waiting too long will make you seem uninterested or runs the risk of potentially losing your target to another male.

So what do we do? Before I answer this question, let’s take a brief look at the factors we are dealing with.

Online Dating versus Real Life Dating

It is always important to remember that online dating and real life dating are two completely different animals. We can’t necessarily follow
the same principles for online dating then we would in real life because the stakes are different.
If go on a date with a woman we met in “real life,” even if she is beautiful, odds are she is not going to be hit on by many guys the following
week, if any. M en just simply to not approach women that often in real life out of fear and approach anxiety.

However, online is a different story. You may have a successful date but that doesn’t change the fact that this woman will go home and have
tons of guys just waiting to hit on her and steal her away from you. With each day that passes she may be getting hit on by upwards of 20
to 50 guys. The more beautiful the woman, the more she will be hit on!

This means that if we wait too long to contact our dates, a few things may happen.

She may assume you are not going to call and accept the advances of another guy.

She may still like you but become more intrigued by a new pursuer.

As time passes by she may lose the feelings and emotional highs that she felt on your date.

For all these reasons you must treat your call for a second date much differently than you would if you were dating women that you met in
“real life” situations.

Now that you are aware of the importance of contacting a woman sooner than later, it is time to discuss just how long you should wait.

Making the Call

If you decide that you are going to let a phone call be your first form of contact (even though I always recommend texting first) then it is
highly recommended that you call the next day, if not two days later.

“But won’t that make me look desperate? Haven’t you been teaching us forever that keeping yourself in demand is extremely important?”

While it is true that you need to stay in demand, online dating has different circumstances and we must adapt to them.

As stated before, online dating is a different animal with a different set of rules. If we have been doing everything right, starting with the
pick-up, right through the text messaging, to the phone call, through our first date, she already knows we are not desperate and are in
demand! If she doesn’t than somewhere along the way we have slipped up.

Secondly, and perhaps more

importantly; waiting two or more days to call has become completely cliché. Talk to any female and they laugh at the fact that guys wait
two days to call because they don’t want to look desperate. It has come to be so common that you will only look like every other guy out
there by doing this, which is never our goal.

These days, calling the next day is a “money” thing to do. It will help you to stand out from the rest of the guys out there that appear to be
trying too hard to impress.

Do you have to call the next day? Nope.

Do you have to call the day after? M aybe not.
But I certainly don’t recommend waiting any longer.
Using Text Messages

Text M essages are once again a great way to keep comfort high and continue building attraction between you and your date as she waits for
your next phone call. They also increase the amount of time you can afford to wait before you make your call since they will keep you both
in contact.

How to Use Text Messages After A First Date

Let’s start with what you should never do:
 Never say, “I had a great time.”
Never say, “That was really fun, we should do it again sometime.”
Never say, “That was great, hope you had a good time.”
What’s the common theme here? Never say anything that puts you in low demand here.

Remember, a tremendous attraction builder is making yourself into someone women want to chase. No matter how great your first date
went, the game is not over.

You need to maintain the image that you are someone that still needs to be chased and continue this image until you are completely passed
the “in pursuit” stage of your relationship (which is at least 5 or 6 dates).

What should you do?

What you want to use is what I call, flashback texts.
What are Flashback Texts?

A flashback text is a text that will flash your date back to a high point of your date or a humorous situation that occurred on your date.

The Purposes of a Flashback Text:

They provide a “reason” for you to be texting her. You are writing to continue building upon the good time you had on your first date,
not because you are “fishing to see if she is still interested” It keeps the demand high.

It keeps the conversation exciting and interesting. You are building upon positive and fun memories and things that you already know
made her happy.

You are mentally bringing her back to a time where she was at an emotional high. This builds attraction and keeps future interest high. It
keeps her feeling the same emotional highs as when she was with you.

You are once again staying an active part of her life even though the date is over. You are not just a date that has come and gone, you are
part of her life.

Flashback texts afford you more time between how long you have to wait before you make your next phone call. If you don’t have time
to call for a couple of days they are very useful.

Warnings With the Flashback Text:

Do not over-due it. We may have built up a good deal of comfort and interest at this point but we still have to remain a prize that needs to
be chased. Follow the same rules as all other aspects of texting game.

Keep the conversations from running on forever. We want to increase the conversation to a slightly longer length than we kept it before
our first date, but we do not want to be too available.

Increasing the frequency to more than one conversation thread per day is okay at this point, but tread carefully. Again, we must not be
too available.

Continue to eject first from the

conversation and leave when interest is still high. Do not do this in a rude way. Just try to end things while you are still at a high-energy
point.

If you follow all of these rules you should have an easy transition from the first to second date. That is, as long as your first date went well!
In order for any of this advice to work we must first master the art of being a successful dater!
Chapter 11 - Pre-Packaged Texts that Qualify and Build Attraction
All of the advice in this guide will help you to succeed with your phone/texting game. In addition, it is always good to be original and come
up with your own material.

As the popularity of The REAL Online Game increases, eventually girls will tend to hear the same lines over and over again.

However, until you become good at creating your own attraction building text messages, this chapter is full of some canned texts that you
could use on any potential date.

20 Canned Text Messages For Any Future Date:

***I highly recommend adding some type of smiley face to the end of every single one of these text messages to establish a playful and
flirty tone

*** Use these with discretion. Different types of texts suit different personalities. Always use conversation seeds before going to any of the
below material.
1. “So how are you going to impress me on our first date?”

2. “What makes you different from all the other girls who have tried to win me over?”
3. “So how do I know you’re not crazy like all the other girls out there?”

4. “I just freed up my schedule for you. I hope you are ready, it’s very rare to get a one on one meeting with me.”

5. “I mean, you seem alright. But I’m still not impressed just yet…”

6. “So are you like all those other girls that have more personality behind a cell phone than in real life?”

7. “I’m going to warn you in advance before we continue talking, I’m not easy…”

8. “I’m going to warn you in advance before we continue talking, I’m an easy drunk. So no taking advantage of me when we go out one
day…”

9. “I’m going to need to know one talent that separates you from all the other girls…”
10. “(Insert Online Dating Site Here) called me. They want to know why you stopped all activity since talking to me. Please explain
yourself because they won’t leave me alone and are threatening to cancel my
membership.”

11. “Please don’t give out my phone number. I’ve had to change it seven times already from girls becoming obsessed with me…”

12. “Be careful talking to me. It can be very addictive…”

13. “Please text the numbers 1 if you find me attractive, 2 if you find my drop dead sexy, and 3 if you can not wait to put your hands on
me. Please type anything but 1, 2, or 3, if you passion is beyond anything that is listed in 1,2, or 3.”

(When she rights back “words” run with the joke that she must have passion beyond anything.

14. “I’m not sure what’s more addictive, text messaging or me.”

15. “Please keep the language clean. I may be incredibly sexy but I don’t want to be treated like a piece of meat.”
16. “You have five minutes to impress me if you wish to continue talking. Starting Now. Go!”

17. “So where are you taking me out for dinner?”

18. “So what are you cooking me for dinner?”

19. “I’m getting awfully hungry. Have you been saving up to take me out to dinner? I may order a lot…”

20. “So I hope your don’t look as bad as your typing does…”

These are 20 messages that may help get you started. However, I highly recommend using your own material since every personality is
different. Feel out your date and create texts that incorporate attraction building principles suited towards your targets personality.
Chapter 12 – Pre-Packaged Phone Conversations
Pre-Packaged phone conversations should stick to what was discussed in chapter 9,
“Phone Game – What do I Say?”

We mainly want to stick to running with our conversation seeds, and than progress to bad date/creepy online dating stories.

If you need ideas for stories, here are ideas that will entertain with relative ease.
My Date Looked Nothing Like her Pictures.

Create a story in which you went out with a woman who looked absolutely nothing like her pictures. You can take this to whatever extent
you want to take it.

M aybe she was 100 pounds heavier?

M aybe she was just awful looking compared to her pictures?

Whatever you go with, come up with an elaborate story that incorporates a lot of humor. This may take some time and will require some
effort (or you can use the version that is discussed in The REAL Online Game for the REAL Online Dater).

The important part of this story is that it encourages opinion at the end:
“What would you have done?”

Girls love to give their opinions, which makes this a great story to tell. On top of that you will have her laughing and engaged if you told
your story well.

Create a Bad / Crazy Date S tory

M ake up a story about a horrible date you went on earlier in the week. The story should be slightly outrageous, yet still believable.

The important part about this story is you spike it with details that show you are in demand and women can’t get enough of you. Use as
many attraction builders as possible. Also, add plenty of humor.

M y recommendation for this bad date story is running a psycho stalker routine. However, this topic this is limited to your imagination. You
probably even have some bad date stories of your own. Just exaggerate them to make them more interesting.

The Cougar that Won’t Leave You Alone

Tell a story about a crazy cougar that just won’t stop hitting on you and is offering you money, possessions etc. And don’t just make this
woman out to be some crack head looking woman. Pretend she is actually smoking hot!

This will not only hit on attraction building principles, but will transition into opinion baiting as well. She will be dying to throw her two
cents as to what you should do! You can also throw the ball back in her court by asking what she would do!

Just make sure you prepare and come up with some nice specifics to really make the story come alive. Don’t over exaggerate or you will be
marked as a liar which is not good!

The Married Woman

This routine involves telling a story about a woman you met that turned out to be married. Not only did she turn out to be married, but she
also asked me if I was interested in joining her and her husband in the bedroom!
If this routine doesn’t get your phone call jumping I don’t know what will. Just remember to tell it in a very believable way and use great
delivery.
Chapter 13 - Phone Game Graduation
Congratulations. You have successfully made it through your second edition of The REAL Online Game. I hope that what you have learned
in this book will help you as much as it has helped me and countless others. M y goal is to help everyone find true happiness through online
dating, whether that happiness is found looking for a hook-up, a date, or a long lasting relationship.

Remember that the key to success is practice, practice, and more practice. The goal is not to process this entire guide in one sitting. It should
be referenced back to many times and absorbed over many readings. Every time you read this manual and run your game, you will become
more advanced and your knowledge will increase.

I wish you all the best of luck and look forward to building new ideas together in the future!
Joshua Pompey