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Child Brides to the Patriarchy: Unveiling the Appropriation of the Missing Girl Child
Author(s): Jennifer Stith
Source: Journal of Feminist Studies in Religion , Vol. 31, No. 1 (Spring 2015), pp. 83-102
Published by: Indiana University Press on behalf of FSR, Inc
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1 Susan Ross, Extravagant Affections: A Feminist Sacramental Theology (New York: Contin-
uum, 2001), 9.
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2 Ibid., 124.
3 Equally important issues to contain and protect include the bodily integrity, self-identity,
and sacred divinity of boys and men, which are affected by initiation into this kyriarchal system. That
is a study for another time.
4 “Child Brides: Stolen Lives,” PBS, October 12, 2007, http://www.pbs.org/now/shows/341/
index.html.
5 “Pregnant Child in Afghanistan: Miriam’s Story,” ABC News, December 6, 2011, http://
abcnews.go.com/Health/pregnant-children-face-risk-death-labor-developing-world/story?id=
15163624.
6 “Child Brides: Stolen Lives.”
7 Cynthia Gorney, “Too Young to Wed: The Secret Lives of Child Brides,” National Geo-
graphic, June 2011, http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2011/06/child-brides/gorney-text.
Against the backdrop of child marriage (fig. 1), this essay will explore the
symbolic marriage of seven-year-old Roman Catholic girls in the first commu-
nion ritual (fig. 2). The “groom” in this instance is another form of a much older
man—patriarchy itself. To accomplish this task, I review and apply essential
elements of a feminist hermeneutics of experience and a feminist sacramental
theology, which will help reveal critical perspectives as they apply to Catholic
girlhood.8 I offer a brief definition of the missing girl child in the patriarchal
religious construct of Catholicism.9 I then note feminist religious scholarship
that has identified Marian devotion as potentially problematic in the lives of
Catholic women, alongside an overview of key ways that patriarchal religious
systems negatively affect women. I also explore the nature of the ritual and de-
tails of the first communion ceremony that are dangerous for a developing girl’s
sense of self-identity. In what follows, I discuss possible long-term implications
of this ritual on girls’ lives and postulate a reason scholars have not yet plumbed
the depths of the ways these issues first affect girls’ lives. The problem of the
“missing girl child” is one of not only patriarchal religious doctrine but also
feminist religious scholarship, and my ultimate goal is to prompt further work
in this area.
8 By using the term feminist, I do not mean to exclude womanist or mujerista perspectives. I
merely wish to acknowledge the embedded sexism within Roman Catholic traditional sacramental
theology as a baseline.
9 Certainly, a study of rituals affecting girlhood could include other religious traditions, in-
cluding Judaism, Buddhism, or Hinduism; this essay specifically aims to examine the Catholic ritual
of first communion, in comparison with the ritual of child marriage within the Islamic faith.
10 Bernard Cooke, Sacraments and Sacramentality, rev. ed. (Mystic, CT: Twenty-Third Publi-
cations, 1994), 33.
11 Ibid.
12 For more, see Ada María Isasi-Díaz, Mujerista Theology: A Theology for the Twenty-First
Century (Maryknoll, NY: Orbis Books, 1996), 62.
13 Ross, Extravagant Affections, 37–40, emphases added.
14 Ibid., 53.
15 Isasi-Díaz, Mujerista Theology, 115.
the ritual’s effects on girls’ minds, bodies, and hearts, in their lived experience.
This means, to use Cooke’s words, attempting to see “what is really going on.”16
To illuminate these arguments, I turn to one of the most clearly visible rituals of
female subjugation, child marriage.
26 Elizabeth Johnson, “The Marian Tradition and the Reality of Women,” in New Catholic
Women, ed. Mary Jo Weaver (San Francisco: Harper & Row, 1985), 85, 103.
27 Ibid.
28 See Mary McClintock Fulkerson, Changing the Subject: Women’s Discourses and Feminist
Theology (Minneapolis, MN: Fortress Press, 1994), 333.
29 Frances Kissling, “Roman Catholic Fundamentalism: What’s Sex (and Power) Got to Do
with It?” in Religious Fundamentalisms and the Human Rights of Women, ed. Courtney W. How-
land (New York: St. Martin’s Press, 1999), 200.
thing to do in the circumstances,” while it “does not see how its own actions re-
order and reinterpret . . . [those] circumstances” in ways that may not be intend-
ed.”30 Similarly, Joseph Martos investigates the purpose and power of Catholic
rituals, highlighting their transitional nature—how they “change the way people
perceive themselves in relation to God, themselves, and others.” He describes:
Typically, symbolic gestures signal what is happening during each phase
of the ritual: first, individuals are physically removed from their previous
social environment, “and/or signs of their status within it are removed
or covered over; second, the candidates are taken to a place apart . . . or
are given special instructions that prepare them for their new role, and/
or they are ritually processed into persons with a new status; and third,
they are received into their new social environment . . . given signs of
their new status, and/or their new role is recognized and approved by
the larger group.”31
30 Catherine Bell, Ritual Theory Ritual Practice (New York: Oxford University Press, 1992),
quoted in David Power, Sacrament: The Language of God’s Giving (New York: Crossroad, 1999), 24,
emphasis added.
31 Joseph Martos, The Sacraments: An Interdisciplinary and Interactive Study (Wilmington,
DE: Michael Glazier, Inc., 2009), 45–46.
32 Cooke, Sacraments and Sacramentality, 158.
33 Daly, Beyond God the Father, 48.
34 Cooke, Sacraments and Sacramentality, 7–8.
Recall the photos of child marriage offered in figure 1, and see here (fig. 3)
additional elements illustrating the confusion on girls’ part. In “Too Young to
Wed: The Secret Life of Child Brides,” National Geographic reporter Cynthia
Gorney tells the story of Shoba, a seventeen-year-old Yemeni girl who was mar-
ried at age eight. “Picture the occasion,” Gorney describes, “a group ceremony,
a dozen village girls, great excitement in a place of great poverty.” “Beautiful
new clothes,” Shoba recalled, smiling bitterly. “I didn’t know the meaning of
marriage. I was very happy.”40 Shoba’s happiness did not last, yet the illusion of
child marriage as a blessed event endures. While the illusion may be even more
difficult to recognize, the same is true of first communion.
The ceremony to initiate children in First Holy Communion is often ap-
proached with great joy by Catholic families, who carefully select suits and ties
for boys and white dresses and veils for girls. Usually the event is marked by
family celebrations, commemorating this day when children become able to
receive the body of Christ as the Eucharist.41 Professional photographers take
pictures of the group, often a second-grade class, as well as each child with the
presiding priest.
Contemporary understandings of “Eucharist” contain multiple meanings,
including not just “receiving communion” (the host that is Christ) but also “cel-
ebrating communion” with other Church members, viewed as “members of the
body of Christ.” A modern understanding that the “presence of God” is more
of a living presence in the lives of the individuals comprising the community of
celebration still warrants critical review.42 For when we look at the “presence of
God” that is being communally celebrated with a feminist sacramental theology
and feminist hermeneutics of experience,43 we can learn quite a lot about the
formative power and embodied character of the relationships to self, other, the
world, and God ritualized into girls’ lives through first communion. Their “child
marriage to patriarchy” becomes unmistakably clear.
Many Catholic parents view first communion as a sweet occasion, lovingly
dressing their seven-year-old daughter in her dress and veil.44 Likely, they envi-
sion the day she will pick out another white dress, for the sacrament of marriage.
The garments that symbolize purity, chastity, and obedience to God, however,
also serve to cloak complex realities. Teresa Delgado examines Catholic expe-
riences within Latin American and US Latino culture, in which Catholicism is
deeply embedded. Her insights can be extended to the majority of traditional
Catholic structures consisting of church and often school, families, and commu-
nities—parish life that is pervaded with Catholic doctrine.45
In “This is My Body . . . Given for You: Theological Anthropology Latina/
mente,” Delgado examines the Catholic meaning traditionally ascribed to
“woman” and how it can both distort identities and serve as a “source of re-
newal.”46 In this construct of Catholic female identity, into which girls are sac-
ramentally and socially initiated, Delgado points to two key problems within
the classical understanding of theological anthropology as being responsible for
serious distortions of the identities of girls and women. First is the hierarchical
ordering of male/female relationships, resulting in the idealization of the male
hero, which she calls machismo. The second, which she calls marianismo, is the
idealization of the obedient woman reflected in the Virgin Mary, as the ideal
form of God’s grace in women. The idea is that women’s humanity is actualized
by submitting to male authority—in Mary’s words at the Annunciation, “Let it
be done to me according to thy will.”47
48 Ibid.
49 The ritual also impacts boys, though not investigated here.
50 Cooke, Sacraments and Sacramentality, 158.
adults who have done the same.51 In terms of spiritual authority, all people can
attain equal status, the interdependence of one with the whole held in delicate
balance, as opposed to an infallible kyriarchy. A “presence of God” that would
call for a “new way of life”52 would be one that insisted on all God’s people being
equally positioned “at the table.”
By contrast, according to Martos’s framework, in first communion, girls
are “removed” from their status as whole human beings and “covered over”
with the stain of original sin (begun in baptism and reinforced covertly through
first communion apparel of white veils and dresses).53 As Johnson and Jantzen
would contend, girls then accept and internalize their distance from divinity in
being made to worship a male God image.54 The Church gives them “special
instruction” in the tenets of Catholic patriarchy and their subordinate female
status to prepare for their new role, and they are then “received into their new
environment . . . approved by the larger group.”55 To make the approval even
more confusing and convincing, loving family members and godparents joy-
ously celebrate this event with cake, punch, and presents. The question re-
mains: What roles are we celebrating for Catholic girls through the ritual of
first communion? And in so doing, what are we seeing and, perhaps even more
important, not seeing?
the community, “who maintain final authority for women.” Disturbingly, the
young women caught in this familial-religious matrix largely don’t recognize
this subordination. Delgado references religious scholar Eleazar Fernandez’s
concept of “disembodied knowing” to describe this phenomenon, in which one
does not or is not able to take into account certain principles and norms that
affect one’s mind and body.57 The cause of disembodied knowing in the lives of
these girls is simple: their selves and bodies are not valued as their own. They
are valued as virgins, brides, and mothers—roles that serve the needs of the
Church.
Precisely because Catholic girls are shaped almost exclusively for the ser-
vice of others, there may be little time in which they are not thinking of their
self-worth as externally defined. Such thinking sets them up to be targets of
victimization of all sorts. As Delgado argues, the reason it is so vital to recog-
nize the ways that ideologies like machismo and marianismo affect the lives of
girls and women and their communities is the difficult and dangerous outcomes
these ideologies perpetuate: namely, violence to girls and women.58 Review the
photo of a young girl’s first communion (figs. 2 and 4), revealing the virginal
child bride, emulating Mary. Delgado outlines explicitly the dangers of this nar-
row model. Teaching girls that submissiveness to male authority is “holy” makes
them prime targets for male domination and abuse, which they are ill prepared
to identify, understand, or rebuke.
Patriarchal culture is encoded with violence. Celebrating selfless ideals
for girls, rather than autonomy and agency, can have lifelong consequences
to themselves and their future families. When these girls become mothers, it
may be much more difficult for them to instill a sense of self-identity within
their children, because they have never been encouraged to develop their own.
While this dynamic may vary, the metaphor of child marriage being harmful
to girls by making them mothers too early and affecting the health of their
children must be considered in relation to Catholicism here.59 Interpersonal
violence becomes embodied trauma, with enduring consequences to wellness
and relationships. One way Catholicism, via first communion, may participate
in this process is by co-opting girls’ personhood and power through celebratory
ritual.
Examining a photo of a first communion ceremony (fig. 2), from the
view of feminist sacramental theology prioritizing issues of gender, body,
symbology, and justice, we can see the enactment of our concerns. Delgado
explains, “The priest takes on the symbolic manifestation of Jesus as priest,
57 Ibid.
58 Ibid.
59 Ruth Gaffney-Rhys, “International Law to Combat Child Marriage,” International Journal
of Human Rights 15, no. 3 (March 2011): 359–73, 362.
prophet, and king”60—obviously, girls do not. Young girls receiving the sac-
rament engage in a ritual in which their salvation is offered by a divine inter-
mediary, and both positions, priest and divine being, they can never experi-
ence on their own. The symbols of male priest/Christ figure and child bride
likely do much to create and reinforce the internalized associations attached
to these roles and the dynamics of patriarchal power at play—both seen and
unseen.61
The patriarchal construct for girls is also observable (fig. 4) when viewed
with boys. Wearing suits and ties, boys at first communion are dressed as in-
dependent adult men, who could clearly become husbands, fathers, priests, or
professionals.62 In contrast, dressing girls as brides reinforces their value within
the private sphere only, internalizing their dependency on marriage and moth-
erhood, while they, themselves are still children. The ritual of first communion
thus offers boys a step forward in the hierarchy of the Church, while girls step
to the side and backward.63 First communion is, ultimately, ritualized patriarchy
and patriarchy ritualized—early and effectively—in the lives of children and the
adults they eventually become.
As Archbishop Tutu said about child marriage, Catholicism promotes the
male control of female selfhood “because . . . men allow it.” He notes: “Fathers,
village chiefs, religious leaders, decision-makers—most are male . . . we need to
enlist the support of all the men who know this is wrong, and work together to
persuade all those who don’t.”64 Certainly, as long as no one challenges Catholic
patriarchy, the narrow realities it produces through ritual will remain unseen,
thus continuing to be unchangeable. The call for justice outlined in this paper is
to all Catholic people—to reevaluate what is celebrated as “sacred.”
Undoubtedly, social activists like the Elders, working to stop child marriage
globally, see the “soul-destroying” and life-altering aspects of child marriage.
Driscoll’s theory suggests such activists are shamed into seeing it by the very
shamed-filled gaze of the child brides themselves. It is this “seeing” of the child
bride’s return gaze, and the empathy that recognizes the embodied gendered
inscriptions of power beneath it, that I suggest is also needed in examining girls’
experiences of first communion. What does the girl child demurely dressed in
white see, and what does that tell her about her place in the world? Unfortu-
nately, religious structural violence is embedded into all the systems surround-
ing her, so adult hindsight often presents the only clear view. Feminist scholar-
ship, therefore, seems to warrant such retrospective analysis.68
While feminist theologians and scholars of religion have explored the ways
patriarchal religious symbolics affect the lives of women, few have examined
the impact these religious structures make upon girls. Driscoll’s theory may
indicate why. To what extent are we feminist scholars, if we were raised in the
Catholic or other patriarchal tradition, sites of this patriarchal shame, as well as
spectators?69 Could one possible component of the “missing girl child” problem
be that harm to women is easier to look at than the ways religious symbolics first
affect girls?70 Recalling Cooke’s words, for women, “waking up” in patriarchal
religious systems often involves acknowledging, in order to heal, deep wounds
acquired within the very institution we are taught not to question. The silences
around Catholic women’s experiences, particularly their experiences as girls,
are significant. We must “unveil” the Catholic girl’s position of overlooked dis-
empowerment and attempt to pave the way for new understanding and fuller
flourishing.
This paper has highlighted overlooked issues affecting Catholic girlhood, but
is in no way comprehensive. More interdisciplinary scholarship is needed to
explore the full impacts of patriarchal religious systems on girls’ lives, in order
to envision ways to transform harmful rituals, texts, symbols, and systems for
the flourishing of girls, their families, and communities. Catholicism, through
rituals like first communion, has kept the girl child hidden, subjugated, and
silenced for far too long. It is time that those within patriarchal religious tra-
ditions like the Catholic Church, as well as feminist religious scholars studying
these structures, identify this appropriation of girls’ self-identity, bodily integ-
rity, and sacred divinity—and work to set the girl child free.