Irreconcilable differences

Many bonds of matrimony between husbands and wives are often terminated not due to death of
either spouse but on the ground of irreconcilable differences. Every day, couples who once promised
to love and support each other in sickness and in health end up getting divorced just because they
find themselves incompatible with each other due to unavoidable differences. Divorce has a
significant effect not only on the couple and their properties but on the lives of their children. Being
a part of a broken family massively breaks the hearts and affects the psychological and social well-
being of children. Unlike some other problems which can be solved through conciliations, divorce is
an irreconcilable situation where individuals involved find no other way but to cope and live with it.

Irreconcilable differences, what it means

In American law courts, “irreconcilable differences” is a ground for dissolving marriage through no-
fault divorce. This means parties do not have to show fault on the part of the other spouse to
constitute ground for marriage dissolution.

Any difference between the spouses which they deem irreconcilable or unchangeable can be
covered by the term “irreconcilable difference”. As long as this ground is provided for, US courts
acquire jurisdiction and decide the case in favor of divorce.

Reasons ranging from simple couple fights to serious, incurable and destructive personality disorders
can constitute “irreconcilable differences” as a ground for marriage dissolution. Since there is no
need to prove any wrong-doing on the part of the other spouse, a lot of couples go to court to file
for divorce. However, many do not recognize the devastating effects of doing such not only to them
but also to their children.

“Irreconcilable differences” as a ground for divorce has been under controversy for several decades.
The term is too broad in its sense to the point that acquiring divorce now becomes as easy as eating
a pie. However, as long as such measure is allowed under the law, there is nothing citizens can do
but to abide by it.

Coping with the effects of divorce

No matter how difficult it may seem, parents and children belonging to a broken home must deal
with the situation and continue living. Here are some effective ways on how to cope with divorce
and living in a broken home:

1. Understand “Irreconcilable differences”

In most cases, divorced parents lie and tell their children that they are not getting separated just to
save the child from extreme emotional pain. However, this is not the right way to deal with divorce.

As a divorced parent, you have to point out the fact and not keep on denying it. Your child may feel
hurt at first but eventually, they will learn to deal with the situation of your “irreconcilable
differences” with your partner. Hiding the facts from them does not protect them at all. Doing this
will only make the pain greater.
As a child, you must understand that some things in the world are not for eternity. The
“irreconcilable differences” of your parents may not bring good to the family if they continue living
together. Although marriage dissolution through “Irreconcilable differences” breaks the family, you
must put in mind that it may be for the greater good. Also, you should keep in mind that their
“Irreconcilable differences” is not because of your fault. The situation is something out of your
control and you must deal with it.

2. Talk to someone

Whenever you feel lonely because of the divorce due to “Irreconcilable differences”, you must talk
to someone and share your burden. Unloading your burden will keep you sane even through this
complicated situation. Do not keep everything to yourself and release your hurts to someone.

3. Continue with your regular activities

Do not let divorce hold you back. Even when it may affect all the aspects of your life, you must
continue each day with your regular activities. You may feel bad for a couple of days and avoid
conversations with other individuals but you should remember to move on. Continue living your life
and put in mind that things will work out good only when you work them out positively.

“Irreconcilable differences” are difficult to deal with. If you are on the edge of deciding on whether
to file for divorce or not on this ground, you must think twice and remember how difficult it will be
to live with the after-effects of such move.