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Nikhil Tambe
Nathaniel Hagemaster
ENG 2322
11 October 2019
Review of Literature
It is really well said by Moltmann that death is not just the medical fact of someone’s
end, but the death of a person as an event of his or her whole life that should be dealt with. We
can suppress our thoughts about our own death and act as if we are leading a life where we will
not face death. But life and death are not just a biological phenomenon, they are fundamental
If one is afraid of death, they tend to be less open towards life. A person would withdraw
their interest in life in order to not be overwhelmed by the pain and the sorrow. That results in
holding back, closing up and shutting other people out. This is clearly seen in Collateral Beauty,
where Howard just stops taking a single interest in his life after his daughter, Olivia’s death. He
loses interest up to the extent where even his marriage does not survive her death.
It is true that everyone deals with the death of a loved one differently. But a person’s life
does not stop after a loved one’s death. I cannot comment on how horrible and powerless one
feels when they lose a child. But I have dealt with the death of loved ones. While the journey of
grief was not that of an easy one, my life could not just come to an abrupt stop. I had to learn to
let go and move on and believe that the loved one is in a better place. Hazel portrayed this
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process of moving on from a loved one’s death really well in The Fault in our Stars, when Gus
dies.
In a study conducted with parents who lost a child to cancer, 55% of the mothers and
15% of the fathers became teary eyed during the interview but still continued with it. The
fathers’ interviews were on an average longer than that of the mothers. All of them said that
talking about their grief and their deceased child was helpful (Barrera, et al. 503). This would
lead to believe that while fathers do not like to talk about their loss as much as mothers do, they
still have a lot to say. In Collateral Beauty, Howard Inlet does not like to talk about his dead
daughter, Olivia. Instead, he does not talk about anything. Talking about his daughter’s death
would have helped him a lot and would have probably saved his marriage, his agency and
Even though studies show that women suffer from depression more than men do, my
belief is that those numbers don’t tell the actual truth. In fact, those studies show more women to
suffer from depression than men, because men are simply not ready to admit it and talk about it.
On the other hand, in The Fault in our Stars, Hazel’s father talks about how life will be after
Hazel passes away and I feel that because he is ready to talk about it, Hazel’s death won’t
In the same study, about a third of parents felt that their partner had become distant, was
either grieving too much or too little (Barrera, et al. 506). In Collateral Beauty, Howard becomes
distant after his daughter’s death and that becomes a driving wedge between him and his wife,
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Marjorie and they end up in getting a divorce. In The Fault in our Stars, Hazel’s parents support
each other throughout the whole process of Hazel’s deteriorating life. But the difference between
Howard and Hazel’s parents is that Howard’s life after his daughter’s death is shown while in
Hazel’s case, they are shown talking about how it will be after she dies and not how they were
Barbara Ehrenreich, an American political activist came across extreme positive thinking
when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. People in support groups would say that positive
thinking would make the immune systems stronger and would hence, increase the chances of
recovery (Radlett 186-187). In The Fault in our Stars, Hazel hates the type of positive thinking
that her parents and support groups show because she thinks that doing so is not affecting her
cancer in any way. In fact, according to her, this will just make her death even more painful for
the people around her. But on the other hand, Gus still does everything happily. According to
him, he wants to do everything and be happy before he dies. In Collateral Beauty, Howard Inlet
did not take his daughter’s death in a positive manner. He didn’t see it as an end to her suffering
The authors accurately say that cancer is a sign that there are uncertainties in modern
medicine and because of these uncertainties, that belief that positive thinking or the right attitude
will help cure cancer is appealing as it provides a sense of control over something, that in reality,
is not controllable. Because of this belief, positive thinking has become kind of a cultural
expectation and social norm for cancer patients (Ruthig, et al. 1244). One could say that the main
reason that relatives, doctors, and sometimes patients themselves, support this positive thinking,
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is because they do not want to deal with the worst-case scenarios which could be emotionally
Suppression of negative thoughts and emotions has proven to actually increase the
accessibility to thoughts of feeling inadequate and can harm, instead of benefit, the patient’s
health. Plus, failure to recover from cancer will result in blaming that patient for not trying hard
enough with the positive thinking (Ruthig, et al. 1245-1246). At this point, does it not seem more
sensible to actually talk about their cancer with the patient himself/herself? This will help the
patient as well as the relatives deal with the concept of death better and also eventually, deal with
their death.
While Barbara Ehrenreich disagrees with positive thinking, and so do Ruthig, Holfeld,
and Hanson, I think it actually might help. Positive thinking would have helped Howard see that
Olivia (his daughter) was not suffering any more. In the end, Gus’ happy, go-lucky personality
helped Hazel deal with his death more easily and with happiness. While Gus didn’t die in the
same happy state that he was always in, his being happy during his remission days had a positive
effect on the people around him. Gus had the fear of fading away into oblivion; of being
forgotten after he died. While it cannot be said for sure, it can be argued that his personality
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross designed the five stages of grief for death. They were denial,
anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. In a book written by two hospice nurses, they have
talked about trying to understand and participate fully in the events of drying, families and
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friends can gain comfort as well as knowledge about what that experience of dying is like. This
will help them in feeling at peace after that friend or relative passes away (Hazarika 115).
In Collateral Beauty, Howard was at a junction where he was going through three of the
five stages of grief at the same time. He went through denial, anger, depression at the same time.
Because of this, he was never able to go on to the final stage of acceptance. People try to move
on through the five stages too quickly and then end up not accepting properly that the person is
dead and is not coming back. And that is where I think Hazel handled Gus’ approaching death
better than Howard dealt with Olivia’s. So, in the end she was able to still live the remainder of
Conclusion
Boyraz, Horne, and Waits found that people who perceived death as a natural part of life
reported higher levels of well-being and meaning in life. This seems to point towards the
direction that people’s attitude towards death affects their judgement and well-being.
Additionally, having a positive attitude towards death will also help in the grieving process
(Boyraz, et al. 2). That can be seen in how Hazel deals with Gus’ death in The Fault in our Stars.
Positive thinking would actually help dying people deal with that concept of their own
death in an easy manner. Plus, it will also help the people around that person to cope with the
idea that the person is going to die. Ali, Osmany, Khan, and Mishra said that the ways in which
people cope with cancer may have a profound influence on their immediate and long-term
psychological, social, and physical health (Ali, et al. 682). If Howard in Collateral Beauty had
dealt with Olivia’s death like Hazel did with Gus’ in The Fault in our Stars, his social,
professional and home life would not have been so negatively affected.
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