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Before you’ve had your first date with a girl,

she won’t feel much of a connection to you.

As unfortunate as it may be, you’re probably
not the only guy texting her.

See, a common mistake most guys make when

they’re texting a girl is that they
mistake responses for attraction. Often
when a guy is getting a response from a
girl, he believes that he’s getting
closer to getting her on a date or to
seducing her.

The exact opposite is true!

The more texts you send before meeting up

with girl means the less of a chance you
have of actually meeting up with her!

You Need to Immediately Establish

Yourself as a Flirt Here is the thing…
the longer you wait to begin flirting
with a woman, the more resistance you are
going to face and the tougher it is going
to be to make the transition from
‘friendly conversation’ to
‘flirtatious conversation.’
In fact, you may never even get a chance
to start flirting… because she might
have already dismissed you as another
boring chump.

You can’t blame women for this… they get

hit on by so many guys that they have to
make a decision pretty quickly whether or
not they want to keep talking to you…

Is “Small Talk” Your Missing Link to

Dating and Seduction Success?

Now you may be really confused as this

probably goes against everything you’ve
been taught by various dating coaches and
pickup artists in the seduction

But hear me out…

I think we can all agree that small talk

is unavoidable, right?

In fact, my constant need to avoid small

talk “at all costs” was seriously
detrimental to my success with women.
But I’m saying… not only should you not
avoid it… but you should EMBRACE IT.

Embrace small talk?

Yes sir.

How Mastering “Small Talk” Can

Transform Your Conversations and Create
Serious Attraction When You’re talking
to Women

Now for the rules of texting girls…

There are some pretty basic rules to follow when you’re

trying to flirt and get a girl to like you over text message.

Rule 1: Be Inconsistent with Your Messages.

Women chase after men that they can’t figure out.

If you always text a girl back right after she messages

you then you become boring and predictable.

However, if you are sporadic, and she is never quite

certain when your next message is going to come she
will find herself waiting for them.

When I first started dating my girlfriend she told me that

she used to constantly check her phone to see if I texted

She couldn’t concentrate at work because she was always

wondering if I had sent her a text message.
That is how to text a girl in a way that captures her
attention and gets her mind glued on you.

Rule 2: Always appear to be having a good time.

It is important that whenever she gets a text message

from you it comes as a welcome message. This means
that you should always seem happy, fun, and upbeat in
your messages to her.

Avoid complaining, seeming bored, tired, or


Instead, act as if whatever you are currently doing is the

most possible fun you could be having.

This will make her associate you with good times.

Rule 3: Keep your messages short and


Don’t make the mistake of trying to write her your life

story over text message. Instead keep the messages
short and to the point. But make them fun.

Make them something she will enjoy getting from you.

You can do this by teasing her, saying funny things, or

just keeping an overall flirtatious humor.

THAT is how to text a girl in a way that keeps the vibe


Rule 4: Use SMS simply to get you in her mind.

Let’s face it, the more a girl thinks about you the more
likely she will be to convince herself that she likes
you. This is why it is great to use messages as a way to
get her into your mind.

This means that you can send random text messages

throughout the week. Each message should
bring positive association with you in her mind.

However, don’t feel the need to respond back when she

writes you back.

Remember, you need to be sporadic with your texts.

This means that you should always be the last one to text.

What to Message Girls.

Because SMS messaging is a fairly new concept, many

of us have never been shown the secrets to texting a girl.

So naturally, most guys surely blow it when it comes

time to craft the perfect message.

Most guys misjudge the reason that a woman seems to

quickly lose interest in them.

One of the biggest reasons a man will lose a woman’s

interest is over the “phone game.”

Texting girls is something that any guy can learn.

But it takes practice, knowledge, and the ability

to recognize what kind of messaging women respond to.
In order to figure out what kind of SMS attract a woman
and keep her liking you, you must first realize what
proper messaging should be used for.

3 Reasons for To Use Your Phone.

Usually, a man will be using his phone for one of three


1. He is trying to make an initial contact after meeting

her out somewhere.
2. He just wants to keep himself in the girl’s mind
until the next time he sees her.
3. He is using texting to escalate his relationship with
the woman to a more playful or sexual level.

Biggest Mistakes You Might Be Making

In a minute, I’m going to talk about how to text girls the

right way… but first, I want to talk about some of the big
mistakes you might be making with your cell phone.

Once you overcome these errors, it will be a lot easier for

you to reach your “phone game” goals.

Blunder #1: Sending a boring message serves no point.

These sort of messages include:

“How you doing?” or

“What”s going on?”

Texts like these DO NOT distinguish you from the
hundreds of other guys that are also messaging the
woman you’re talking to.

Blunder #2: The second big blunder is messaging a girl

too much and too often.

SMS messages should be used in limited doses in order

to create mystery, suspense, and intrigue.

If you are texting women all the time, they will stop
looking forward to your messages.

Blunder#3: The final blunder guys make is they try to

have a conversation over SMS.

Messaging shouldn’t be used as a way to get to know a


Some other big blunders are:

 Always messaging her back too quickly and

appearing needy.
 Trying too hard to get her to like you.
 Letting the woman control the flow of messaging
(ie. Is she always the one to end it??)
 Not getting playful,”flirtatious,” or sexual in
your messages.

Flirting Over the Phone.

Every message you send should have some type of

playfulness and flirtation.
You should always aim to demonstrate a fun side of your
personality every time you are texting her.

During the first few messages you are just trying to

show her that you can be fun and social around girls.

Your texts should always present the impression that you

live a fun and adventurous life.

Stay light and playful, then jump into serious topics, and
then back to being playful and flirtatious.

The technique is to banter with the girl back and forth

and leave the interaction on a high note, by either stop
texting her back, or by finishing it with a message like
“talk later…”

It is also important to display small chunks of your

personality in these messages, and avoid being boring
like the plague.

This means you never make statements like “I’m bored,”

or if she ask what you’re up to texting “Nothing

Instead answer by being interesting, playful, and

intriguing when SMS with a woman.

#1. When You Really Like Her – How To Send Great

Good Night Text Messages
You’re getting the number of some girls, making
everything work right, and you’ve even got a few that
you really like.

You’re talking to more and more of them, and suddenly

you decide that you want to text them.

You want to text them good night text messages.

So firstly, you want to make sure that you’re on good

enough grounds with her emotionally that you can send
her a text message before you go to bed.

If you’re being the guy who’s too needy – hold off.

If it’s something that’s in character and not too needy,

then by all means, go ahead. Send a girl some good night
text messages.

Here are a few you can bounce around until you start
coming up with your own.

Best Good Night Text Messages

1. Good night.

Traditional. Easy.

The kind of thing you’d send to somebody that you care

about – and if you care about the girl, don’t get all fancy.

Don’t try to spike her emotional buying temperature with

something that you’ve spent days thinking about, don’t
try to tickle her fancy with anything that you’ve been
saving up – just wish her good night.
In fact, if there’s a girl that you think could use a good
night on your text message list, wish her good night.

2. Tell her something horrible as a non-sequitor,

then wish her goodnight.

This is one of the more advanced ones.

You tell her something that you’ve noticed in life, that

doesn’t really relate to her going to sleep, then wish her

Sound confusing? It’s not.

Here’s an example that you can go by.

‘Isn’t it weird that people never know the names of 80’s

one-hit wonders? This is my way of telling you



Over and done with, and you can stop worrying about
what else to say to her.

3. Funny Good Night Text Messages

I’m a huge advocate of stupid jokes – they help alleviate

certain situations, even if they’re atrocious, they can still
get a laugh, and everybody likes them.

How many stupid jokes have you heard being told over
the years?
How many times have you laughed at them and found
some enjoyment deep inside yourself, despite knowing
that they’re terrible, terrible jokes?

Probably a lot.

So text her a dumb joke, then tell her goodnight.

One of my favorites?

“Why did Mickey break up with Minnie? Because she

was fucking goofy.”

Also an easy way to see if she’s into you and tries to start
sexually escalating.

4. Sweet Good Night Text Messages

Here’s a sweet text message,

“I’ll never be able to fall asleep if you don’t wish me

good night.”

This one, you have to make sure that you’re not a guy
who she perceives as needy.

Otherwise, you’re harassing her to text message you

back – a situation that would annoy any sane and rational

So you don’t want to be annoying the sane and rational

people in your life, so just back off if you’re the guy who
always is blowing up other people’s phones.

Don’t be that guy.

Women hate it, it comes off as needy, nothing good
comes from being the guy who is blowing up people’s

5. A quiz question, or an interesting fact.

There’s a ton of great websites that you can draw

interesting facts or trivia from, including omgfacts.com.

They list things that you might not’ve thought of, or may
be surprised to learn.

Guess what?

Having knowledge about a certain topic of interest is the

same thing as adding value to someone.

If you know something that’s interesting, pester them

about it.

For instance,

‘I bet you don’t know why pirates wore eye patches on

their heads.’

If they respond positively, tease them. Tell them that

you’ll be able to tell them more in the morning.

It’ll infuriate them, as they’ll be invested in you all night,

and be waiting to get an answer in the morning.

Pretty cool, right?

Creates all sort of investment headed back towards you.

Good kinds of investment.

6. Think of how many people are all looking at the
same sky right now. And we’re two of them.

This one’s a bit poetic.

If you’ve got a girl that you feel strongly about or makes

you feel poetic, what you want to do is express that
instead of holding it inside.

Holding it in never makes for an interesting story or a

good emotional release – if you want to know what’d be
the best idea for any course of action, go for the fun

But these are all just ones that we’ve come up with – the
beautiful thing about social interaction is that every
person’s will be different, everyone’s will have nuances
that other people won’t have – so it’s the most important
to figure out your own good night text messages to send
to your girls.

#2. Women Love A Sense Of Humor – Show Her With

These Text Message Jokes

One of the best things that you can do to get better with
girls is get yourself a nice sense of humor.

A lot of material glosses over this fact, instead talking

about how you’re going to break rapport with someone
and do all these magical things to win them over when
you could instead be using humor and getting essentially
the same results or better.

That is not to say that you should turn into some kind of
dancing monkey, but as they say in ‘Sex in the City’,
sometimes girls want to be with the guys that make them

If you don’t have a bit of humor in your courting process,

pick-ups, sarges, whatever you want to call them –
you’re doing it wrong and could be doing it much, much

So here are some fun text message jokes to send

someone whenever you want to get a little bit of
emotional investment out of them.

Some of my favorite text message jokes

1. Why did Mickey break up with Minnie? Because

Minnie was fucking Goofy.
I like this one.

Not only is it a goofy joke to send, a funny text message

joke, you could very, very easily move from talking
about how stupid the jokes you send to people are to
talking about sexual escalation – cartoon characters
going at it, who was the hottest cartoon character, all
these things are conversations that’ll spike her emotional
interest and get you gossiping together – cementing your
bond and making you that much closer to your goal of
getting her to like you.

2. What do you do when you come across a tiger in

the jungle? Wipe him off and apologize.

This is a gross one. Sometimes people don’t get it, and

you can quickly turn that conversation in the direction of
sexual escalation as well.

Some people get it, and love it – as girls are more partial
to sex and dick jokes than a lot of other people. More
partial than you think.

So don’t be afraid of sending them dirty jokes. Which’ll

be important for the next few items on the list.

3. How does Lady Gaga like her meat?


Most girls like Lady Gaga.

MOST girls.

Granted, this might not be the most timely of punchlines,

but for the next few years that Lady Gaga is relevant, it
might be of some use to you to milk this before she’s
relegated back to an apartment in New York, releasing
increasingly preachy message albums that sell incredibly
well, but are far too annoying.

If you can communicate sounds via text, too, you’re

4. When does Sean Connery like to hit his balls?

Everybody has done a terrible Sean Connery impression.

This makes fun of terrible Sean Connery impressions –

the likes of which reportedly drove him off the set of The
League of Extraordinary Gentlemen.

Also, if she visualizes Sean Connery hitting his balls, she

may become rabid with desire. Maybe? Not really. It’s
more of a goofy image.

5. What does Snoop Dogg put on his whites?


If she likes gangsta rap or knows the cultural icon that

Snoop Dizzle is, she might get a good laugh out of it.

If you have to explain who Snoop Dogg is, you should

run far, far away, and not text that girl ever again.

You can do better than date a person who has no idea

about musical culture for the last twenty years or so.

6. What’s Snoop Dogg’s favorite kind of weather?


Another Snoop Dogg joke.

You can’t hate the man.

He’s intrinsically hilarious and given his intrinsically

hilarious state, you can’t help but transfer that through
jokes about the man.
Again, if she’s not privy to knowing about how Snoop
Dogg talks, there’s an easy solution to that. Invite her
over to watch Snoop Dogg music videos on your

Then you have a date, you can educate her, all because
she didn’t get your stupid jokes.

7. Haha, I made you look at your phone.

This one is probably the most infantile, but it’ll

occasionally get a great response.

If it doesn’t get a great response, know that we warned

you that it was probably the most infantile.

Again, you’ve been warned. Know which people to use

infantile humor with, and which people you should use
high-brow humor with.

Basically, if you don’t know your audience, it’s going to

make it much harder to communicate with them in a
hilarious way.

8. Why can’t Smokey the Bear’s wife get pregnant?

Because when she’s in heat, he beats her with a

Hey — violence against lovers. Not necessarily the best

thing to mention when texting somebody you like, but it
usually gets a laugh regardless.

As you can see, any joke that’s structures with a short

two-lines is perfect to send via text message.
Text message jokes will spike any person’s mood, and
it’s a great way to communicate with people you like.

#3. You Like Each Other – Here Are 6 Perfectly

Sweet Text Messages to Send

Now, before we run down a list of sweet text messages

that you can send someone, here’s something that you
have to consider.

A lot of women aren’t comfortable with someone being

overtly sweet without any form of investment back at

So if you’re sending messages to a woman without any

cues or inclination on her part that she’s into you – guess
what? You’re doing game wrong.

If you’re spilling your heart out to someone and she’s not

into it – you’re probably never going to talk to her again.
Learn social cues and learn them well, my friend.

That being said – here are some cute text messages you
can send to someone who deserves sweet text messages.

Sweet Text Messages

1. Just wanted to tell you, I was thinking of you.

I think that when you have a really good connection with

someone, it helps to know that you’re thinking about
Provided that you’re not texting them constantly about
how you’re thinking about them.

It helps if you’re detached, but the minute that you want

to show a little bit of sweetness, it helps if you let them
know. This is the most direct way of doing it.

If you want to make it funnier, tell her this after

something that wouldn’t particularly remind someone of

Like, ‘I finally saw My Little Pony.’ It’ll break up the

sweetness of the text message. You know – to keep her

2. Send her a picture of some flowers.

I’m a giant proponent of this one.

The thing about technology is that it can be used to either

expedite interactions and make them more eventful, or
make things more terrible and cold.

How would you like to use it?

Personally, I’d want to use our newfound powers for

good instead of evil, so I like doing things like taking
pictures of lovely things and sending them to people who
want to get sweet text messages.

If they’re deserving.

So, one of the sweetest things you can do is go to your

local flower market, take a picture of the goods there,
and send them to the ladies you feel like being sweet to.
It’s a creative way to send sweet text messages.

3. Send her a picture of some dessert or something

you’re cooking.

There’s something about actual physical pictures instead

of words that helps build up emotional investment in a

It’s the same thing as matte backdrops and animatronics

instead of CGI.

CGI is soulless and doesn’t look right – text messages

are the same. They require the least amount of
investment to write and make.

Now, something you’ve cooked, on the other hand, takes

a while to make – and women are always into someone
that can demonstrate a lot of male paternal investment –
that thing that makes women think you’d be good with
babies… it attracts her to you.

So send her a picture of anything that you’ve worked on,

including dessert, cooking, something. And offer her

4. If she sends you a picture of herself, compliment

her on it.

First off, if a girl is sending you pictures of herself, it’s a

definite sign that she’s interested.

And oftentimes, it’s a chance for you to say something

sweet other than, ‘Aww lawd, girl, show me them titties.’
So compliment her on the way she looks.

Unless you feel like she’s shooting for investment just by

sending you a picture – in which case you make her work
for the compliment.

But in any case – it’s a sweet thing to tell a woman she’s

looking good. Especially when you need it.

5. Let’s go out and do something!

What’s the sweetest thing in the world? Not staring at

your phone all day.

Going out, enjoying life, and doing it with someone you

want to be with – for that day, for that week, however
you want to do it.

You can do a lot more in person than you can via text or
through technology – we live in a time period where
sometimes technology can be the easy way out, but you
want to be good in person.

You want to be able to seduce women when you actually

see them.

6. Miss ya.

Realistically, we miss human contact whenever we don’t

get it.

Because we’re so caught up in technology and social

networking, we oftentimes forget that there are people
outside, in real life, who are waiting to meet up with us if
you give them a chance.
So instead of missing them, as you could send with this
sweet text message – what you could do is use that as an
impetus to meet up with them.

There’s nothing sweeter than actual human contact.

So send out some sweet text messages, and before long,

you’ll be able to understand when to give good
investment, and when to limit it.

#4. Cute Texts to Send a Girl Which Will Grab Her


Let’s think of a hypothetical scenario. You’ve got a


You’ve got an interested party that you’re texting on this

smartphone, someone of the opposite sex that you’ve
been successfully interacting with thus far.

You want to take it up a notch and fire her some cute

texts that’ll spark the interaction to the next plateau so
you can capitalize off of all your positive momentum, but
are freezing up.

You have no idea what consists of a cute text, how to go

about grabbing her attention and what’s in the realm of
propriety for someone that you just met.

Or you might want to send cute texts to a girl that you’re

already halfway seeing or in a relationship with.
The medium of text isn’t limited in any way – you can
steer interactions the way you want to, once you actually
know how to use it.

Here are some easy ways to do that.

1. Send her cute jokes.

The medium of text is paced out so that you send a text,

she sends a response, and generally you’re not going to
be writing novel-length dissertations.

They’re going to be short, fun, and flirty.

So with abbreviated jokes, such as knock-knock ones or

things similar in structure, you’ll not only have an easy
tool to brighten someone’s day, it’ll keep the energy
moving forward.

You always want to be moving forward in an interaction,

never having that awkward lull. Fun little jokes.

They make any conversation better when you’re

face-to-face with someone, why wouldn’t they make
them better via text?

2. Pictures are flexible and easy.

There are some tactics that PUAs circulate and use like a
charm, over and over again, other ones that are lesser

Here’s one of the ones that is currently under the radar –

your phone, provided that it’s a smartphone, and not an
ancient candybar, is capable of taking pictures.
You’re not going to take pictures of anything lewd,
though, instead, simply take a picture of a food item you
may have cooked, something interesting you saw, a bit of
flowers that you saw on sale in a flower shop, and offer
her some.

It’ll be enough to get the conversation stimulated – all

with the stunning ease of technology.

Much easier than carrying a notepad in your pocket to

scrawl down cute notes, eh?

3. Notepad is your friend in loud clubs.

While admittedly, it’s not an SMS, it has to do with cute


One of the biggest issues guys have starting out in this is

that they don’t know how to talk to girls in a venue
whwere the music is fary too loud.

That can easily be fixed.

Whip out your smartphone, if the girl is showing enough

compliance to you, and open up the notepad application,
or any other app used to take down text notes.

What’s the purpose of it?

So you two can have a conversation in the crowded club

without having to shout or actually have a conversation.

Personally, I’ve known many people who have

implemented this simplistic fix into their bag of tricks
and gotten a lot of results because of it.
You have to make sure your text game is good, though.

If it’s shoddy, and you write like you’re leaving a

message on a friend’s ancient MySpace wall, filled with
emoticons and textspeak, she may be much less likely to
respond positively.

4. Seed future events that you can take her on.

Yes. That’s right.

There’s no easier way to get somebody thinking about

something than just mentioning it outright – but if you
get someone’s number, there should always be a purpose
behind it.

There should always be a reason why you’re doing it –

hence, you text her when you see something interesting
and drop the idea the two of you should go to it.

If she responds positively, you have a date set up, if she

doesn’t respond well to it, oh well. You can try it on the
next girl that you meet.

But I guarantee that the act of her seeing that you’re

going around town to engage in activities that are fun,
coupled with you mentioning them to her will be enough
to get her interested.

5. Exaggerated roleplay.

One of the basic tenets of humor is comedic

One thing a lot of PUAs like doing when they text people,
inventing fantastical situations or taking something the
girl just said and blowing it out of proportion.

If she play along, that’s a bit of compliance building

momentum forward for you.

Keep in mind, no rules are written in stone.

If you want to experiment with what’ll work the best

with your personality and situation – you’re going to
have to experiment.

Thankfully, you have the time and willpower to do just


#5. Try These Romantic Text Messages To Send

Your Girlfriend

You’re in a happy relationship. So first off,


You are doing the thing that the media sells most of us
on being one of the pinnacles of existence – found
someone special to share your life with.

You don’t have to troll around the bars looking for a

woman, you’ve got one to come home to.

Or, you’re juggling several girlfriends and you want to

find sweet things to text them to keep them off your back
and finding out about each other.
Whatever the case may be, you want to text sweet things
to people that you know.

So good on you. You’re a good spirit.

Here are some sweet text messages to send to your

girlfriend, a special someone you’re in a

1 Pictures of Flowers.

I’m dead serious. You know what one of your phones’

functions is? It can take pictures.

A lot of pictures – of whatever it is that you want to take

pictures of.

So something that you can do that’s the simplest thing in

the world to spike a woman’s emotional investment is go
to a flower market, and take pictures of all the flowers

It’s cheap and you can send them to whoever you want at
any time, with NO CHARGE.

There’s no charge for sending text flowers. Real flowers,

they charge you for those.

You’ll get points for creativity, and that’s never bad

when you’re in a relationship with somebody.

Creativity is what’ll keep things fresh and moving.

2. ‘Want some dessert?’

Women are perpetually hungry. Because they’re
perpetually on diets that are purportedly going to help
them get everything they want in life – better jobs, better
lives, and better men.

It’s one of the easiest things to internalize, that skinny is

good and big is bad.

Consequently, they’re constantly hungry for food that’s


Ice cream, frozen yogurt, chocolate covered red-velvet

twinkies – women love dessert.

But they can never have it when they want it.

So when you’re out and happen to run into a good

dessert, take a picture. Send it to her. Offer her some.
Chances are you’re going to get a positive response.

The best part about this text?

You can send it out en masse, same with the flower text.

Especially if you’ve got several girls that you want to

emotionally charge and keep tabs on.

It’s a perfect sweet text message to send your girlfriend.

3. ‘Good morning. You should have the most

amazing day you can possibly have.’

Send it out in the morning.

In fact, when you’re saying ‘good morning’ back and
forth to someone, it’s virtually impossible for them not to
form some sort of emotional connection and bond with

You’re starting out the day with them.

It’s an amazing thing – the more time you spend with

someone, the more they bond to you emotionally.

Wonder why cast-mates in movies eventually wind up

hooking up with each other?

They’re put in emotionally pressured situations and

spend long hours together.

You can simulate that kind of emotional connection with

little messages in the morning or at night – it’s the easiest
way to build something up special.

4. Pictures or things you notice throughout the day.

People like knowing that they’re being remembered

throughout the day and the duration of the relationship.

Because that’s what relationships are – a mutual

exchange of emotional investment for the benefit of both

Did you notice something goofy during the day?

Let her know about it.

Did you run into the craziest person today at Jamba Juice
or find some event happening around town that she
might be interested in?

Let her know.

It’s wonderful when you’re reminded that someone’s

thinking about you – possibly the sweetest thing that you
can do.

5. A meet up.

Text messages are good and all, but you know what’s the
sweetest thing you can possibly do for your girlfriend?

Go out with her.

Take in some culture.

Go to an event and let her accompany you – it’d be the

best time both of you have.

Text messages are a good form of communicating, but

here’s the funny thing about them – they’re not exactly

Which would you rather have, a woman texting you her

naughty bits, or meeting up with them in person to show
them to you?

Personally, I’d much rather have the second one, and

unless you’re afraid of real, live women, so would you.

What’s romantic to one person can be completely

unromantic to the next.
One man’s meat is another man’s poison – so the best
thing that you can do is see what your girlfriend finds
romantic, and make sure that you’re doing more of that
throughout the day.

And let her know you’re thinking about her – it’s the best
thing to build up a stable relationship.

#6. 4 Proven Steps To Get Her Interested – Even

Desperate To Text You Back

So you’ve got a girl’s number?


You’ve got an interested party on the other end?


You’ve got the wherewithal and ambition to push the

interaction forward to a place where both of you want to


So you’re ready to make the first move, put yourself on

the line, throw down for the things that you care about or
the developing relationship that might be happening
because you are in contact with this new person.
But you have no idea how to get her to text back.Like
most things, though, you don’t have to fear, because the
internet was built as a compendium, a resource to help
people who want information but don’t quite know how
to get to the spot they’re trying to get to.

We at TSB mag are part of that compendium, so this is

the definitive guide as to how to get a girl to text you

4 Steps to Get Her to Text You Back

When you’re talking about people texting back, you’re

essentially talking about preventing flaking.

Flaking is anything that’d happen inan interaction to stall

the forward momentum, so you want to meet up with a
girl, she’s not showing, you try to initiate a text
conversation, she’s not biting, she avoids talking to you
when she sees you out on the street, is heard cursing your
name under her breath.

Those type of things would all be consider flaking. The

very basest form of not flaking is returning the text
messages you send out.

Ideally, you’ll be texting her to continue the interaction,

shoot for a meet-up, that kind of thing, but if she never
responds, you’re toast. Here are some easy ways to cut
down on text flaking.

1. When you get her number the first time, have a

really, really good interaction.
The funny thing about people is, usually they don’t flake
when the stakes are high and they have something to

If you had a really good first interaction with a woman,

then she’s going to want to see you again. It’s as simple
as that.

If she wasn’t sure about you, and decided she wasn’t

going to chase you and suddenly, you’re blowing up her
phone – that’s a different matter entirely.

So in order to make sure that you have the easiest time

possible getting her to text back, make sure the first
interaction goes seamless.

Get her number based off of an event that the two of you
would enjoy going to, make sure that there’s some
unfinished threads in your conversation that you can
wrap up later, and generally pace the interaction into
seeing her again.

2. Once you have her number and start texting — end

with a question.

Most things that people text girls don’t end in questions.

Most things people text girls don’t always get a reply

from the party intended – oftentimes because they don’t
end in a question.

The whole point of that is to build up a mini-compliance

ladder so you can start getting more and more
compliance from a person, eventually leading to a

If you don’t text a question, you are allowing the

interaction to partially die right away.

So don’t do that to yourself. Don’t shoot yourself in the

foot or cut yourself off at the knees even before the
interaction starts.

You owe it to yourself not to.

3. Keep the interaction light and flirty.

People are much more inclined to keep a conversation

going, via text, in person, or anywhere, if the tone of it is
non-threatening and contributes to an overall sense of
well-being and fun.

If you can do that, even in short bursts like text messages,

doing it in person is going to be much easier for you.

So, keep it flirty.

You’re much more likely to respond to someone who

brings you good news or fun times, and women are no

Don’t go overtly sexual, don’t be bringing up topics that

are hard to comprehend, keep it simple and sweet.

4. Don’t be too needy.

I’ve heard instances of guys blowing up women’s phones

to the tune of over 30 times a day.
That’s ridiculous.

The easiest way to get a girl to text you is to appear like

you’re already doing better things, and then they’ll
emotionally invest and chase you.

It’s an old cliché, but people generally want things that

they can’t have.

If you come off too needy via text, you’re giving her
reasons not to respond instead of good reasons to see

And you don’t want to be doing that.

Fortunately, people usually reciprocate, so unless you

had an entirely terrible interaction that is next to not
recoverable, you’re solid.

That’s how to get her to text back.

#7. Creating Fun Flirty Messages – The Three

Guidelines to Text Flirting

Three Guidelines to Text Flirting…

1. Every Message Should Offer Something

Look in your phone ‘sent’ texts and see how many times
you sent a girl a message like “what’s up?” or “How you

Now erase those messages, and vow to yourself from

now on when your texting a girl you will never send
these dull, personality-less messages. You need to
employ SMS flirting.

These messages do nothing to highlight any of your

unique, fun, and playful personality, and they totally put
the woman on the spot to keep the texting going.

You’re handing her control.

And since a sexy girl is probably getting hundreds of

these messages from different guys every week… they
begin to repel the woman.

Every text you send must offer some value to the woman
getting it.

It must also include elements of your unique style.

A much more playful and fun message to text a girl

would be “Stop thinking about me!:)” or “You just
popped in my head and I just wanted to say hi”

These messages don’t force her to keep

the conversation going…. But they make her want to
message you back.

And they get her text flirting you.

Remember, every message should offer value.

2. Keep it Short, Flirty, and Fun

Texting girls is not the way to really get to know a

Instead, think of it is an chance to give a girl a “sneak
peak” look at what you’re like as a guy.

Show her a “movie trailer” version of your sense of

humor, interests, and personality.

And flirt, A LOT.

When you’re texting a girl use the same flirtatious tone

you would when you’re with her. This means tease, neg
her, and get her smiling.

Make her laugh.

Make her crave getting a sms message from you.

If you’ve just met a girl at a club and you plan on

sending her a message the following day…forget
messages like “Hey, it’s Chris, it was good meeting you
last night. What are you up to?”

Instead, start the conversation off with something playful

and flirtatious, that gives her a “sneak preview” of your
unique personality.

So a much more appealing sms for sending a woman

would be

“Do you speak text?” (credit Sinn) Or

“Is it too soon for casual text? I mean, I just met you.
Maybe we should wait!”
I’m sure you can see how interesting and fun it would
be for her to get one of those messages as opposed to the
first type?


Have you sent a woman a text and she didn’t message

you back for a few hours?

What went through your mind the entire time you were
awaiting her response?

You probably couldn’t stop thinking about HER.

You must build intrigue and mystery when messaging

women. It creates the roller coaster effect in your texts.

You want to be spontaneous, vague, and always


So if you are usually texting a woman back a few

minutes after she messages you… every third or fourth
time wait thirty to ninety minutes to return her
sms. Sometimes wait till the next day.

This gives her the chance to think about you in her

head. It lets her experience the pleasure
of eagerly anticipating your next message.

This is probably the most important concepts to

remember when using your mobile phone to flirt.

What should you Message Women?

During your first few of exchanges you’re not trying to
set up a get together.

As I mentioned earlier, you are just looking to display to

her that you’re a flirty and fun guy.

So you’re initial couple texts should be sent to show this

side of your personality… and also, to see if she is a girl
that you have any sort of rapport with.

Remember, the point of using your phone is to flirt,

create a little rapport, and get her thinking about you.

You’re objective is to get her to feel like she is missing

out by not being with you.

Avoid answering several of the questions she asks.

Keep your messages short and sometimes

mysterious, but exploding with personality.

So, if you’re just texting to keep in touch with a girl you

could send a message like:

“I just bought the most fly pair of sneakers ever for $12.
I’m pumped”

Something else should do is assume rapport. This means

that you jump right into texting her without explaining
every aspect of your life.

“My kitten is ridiculous”

So when sending a girl a message for the first time you

can send something like:
“Hey what’s up dork?”

Sometimes, getting the girl isn’t the most important


Sometimes that’s only one of the things that’ll make you

the happiest, and you need to participate in the principle
of self-amusement.

That dictates that you have the best time doing the silliest
things and not worrying about the rules and the
principles that govern the realm of pick-up artistry.
Sometimes you just want to be silly.

The problem is – a lot of people don’t know how to be

silly and a lot of people are unsure about how to be

Most people who look for information about this kind of

thing aren’t very good at anticipating and picking up on
social cues – so here’s some hilarious things you can text

Some funny text messages to send.

1. Hilarious pictures.

Smartphones can do a variety of things – from locating

the nearest location of shoes and working as a GPS, to
acting as Ocarinas if you blow in the right area of them.

The other magical thing they can do is save every text

message you’ve ever gotten and send pictures back and
forth between parties.
Which can either lead to awkward pictures of body parts
being exchanged.

Or – hilarious pictures.

There’s a compendium of hilarious pictures that you can

just download at any time and save onto your phone – so
take the time to do that.

How many girls do you know who hate receiving

pictures of cats? The same amount who hate happiness
and ice cream. As in, none.

So get pictures of memes, funny captioned things, make

your own if you have to – for any response that might
encounter. It’s just one of a myriad of funny text
messages you can send.

2. Jokes.

You might’ve noticed, but jokes are short enough to be

told via text message.

Additionally, the communication is short enough that

people don’t get bored with jokes – even with really
short and stupid ones.

In fact, the shortest and stupidest jokes you can muster

usually get SOME kind of reaction via text – just make
sure you’re on good enough ground with the person that
they don’t care that you’re texting them stupid jokes.

Knock knock jokes, stupid short two-liners, anything that

you have that’s been called back before – all these are
possibilities of funny text messages that you can send to
the army of women that you’re trying to seduce.

If you can make a woman laugh, then chances are you’re

going to be able to get her to do what you want.

3. ‘Made you look.’

If she gets it, chances are she’s got a good sense of


If she doesn’t, explain to her that you made her look at

her cell phone, and never contact her again, because she
isn’t quick on the uptake.

We kid.

But it’s one of many stupid and funny text messages you
can send to a girl.

If you can’t joke around with a pretty lady, what can you
possibly hope for?

Getting a funnier lady.

That’s the only thing that you can possibly hope for.

4. ‘Help, my apartment is being invaded by Smurfs.

How do I kill them?’

This text message does a variety of things – first, you’ll

be able to see if she’s got a knowledge of 80’s cartoons
that were invented overseas.
Or if she’s seen the recent movie starring Neil Patrick

More importantly, you can send this message out en

masse, and you’ll be able to see what responses you get
and be able to capitalize off of those responses or if none
of your friends actually know what to do with Smurfs.

Some schools of pick-up call it ‘Zombie Texting’, where

you text old phone numbers that haven’t been responding
anymore and see which ones respond.

If one responds, you can invite them out again and

capitalize off of it – if they don’t, it’s just another funny
text message that you’ve learned how to send. Pretty cool,

5. ‘I saw an eagle fighting a shark today and thought

of you.’

Again, something that you can easily text people en

masse to see who’ll respond and what’s going on in your
social circle.

If you get responses back, they’ll be asking questions

like, ‘What?’ ‘Really?’ ‘What’s that mean?’ or people
with good senses of humor will be like, ‘Awwwww.’

Just another zombie text you can send to people to be

goofy and try to brighten their day up.

These are just suggestions, bear in mind.

A lot of humor is based off the individual, and if your
demeanor is drier than a sherry, you’re not going to
sound right saying lines that somebody else has invented.

Which is why it’s so important for you to get out and

practice being funny on your own, instead of taking

You have the power inside you, now utilize it!