The Family 11/24/14 Defining the family based on the physical

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What is Liberalism?
Beyond the senses,
-Prioritizing the rights of the individual
What is it that liberalism destroys family and
How will liberalism destroy the notion of
marriage?
marriage and family?

Proponents of divorce they would like to

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so.
Primary objective of family is procreation
They think that by giving the couple who are not
- To have children
happy with their marriages giving them a chance
to contract with their marriages Homosexual – denying the benefit of marriage
because they don’t have the ability to have
Mature relations = relationship is bound to be
children
stronger
Promoting of same sex marriage
Liberalist perspective – right to be happy
What is stopping them?
The love for children
Do they have the right to get married to each
- cannot impose your brand of morality
other?
- You can force someone on what to believe or
Sterile marriages are not valid because they
not
intentionally chose not to fulfill the procreative
- Moral duty of state to protect their right purpose

Morality for the individual and for the state Men – impotency Women – frigidity

Liberalism undermines marriage and family by Sexual act is not being performed
defining terms
Homosexual per se can perform sexual act
Is there a fixed definition of marriage and family? anytime

- the nuclear family – mother father and children Impotence in the beginning is there = no
problem
Different types of family
Hetero – they have the capabilities to perform
-latest homosexual couple with a child =
the sexual act
considered as family
Equality before the law
-Blended family - definition
Somehow and sometime, it was expressed not
-Step families –
in the vow but before the vow per se.

HOOGA SHAKA HOOGA HOOGA HOOGA SHAKA

Functions – will always be changed

Function of a mother and a father and children

What is the essence of marriage?
Only thlen if you fulfill the essence of marriage
can they get married – not talking about validity
and legality but essence
Essence of marriage – two persons become one
flesh and body. To perform this is through
sexual act anatomically physical through a man
and a woman.
Question: how about for the homo couples?
Attraction for them is to get married but they
don’t know the essence of marriage
Both no children – all externalities
Could the essence be fulfilled if you don’t have
the children?
Through the essence, it gives the purpose of
marriage
Could their personal conditions lead them in to
one as two persons
Individual they are capable of performing the
marital act
If you are looking at the marital act in which
procreation can take place,
Between two men – no essence why? Pumping
of sperm but no reception by the egg. Same
goes for the lesbians
Even the act itself cannot be called a marital act
The very essence of marriage is the joining of
two bodies
It’s in the act and not in the consequence
For those who have intended not to, they are
vitiating (to ruin or to spoil) the marital act per
se
37:13 time
Divorce can undermine the institution of
marriage
- it can strengthen the institution of marriage
because it gives the person a second chance to
precisely
As they get older,
Second marriage lasted longer than the first one
They still believe in the institution of marriage
When they were interviewed, why is it that they
agreed of divorce?
- let go of their wives who are not happy with
their relationship
Committed with the institution as they married
again
Not deny the people their chance of happiness
The issue is personal
Persons in the marriage capable of making the
marriage successful
No matter what you sayo
ANG PAGAASAWA AY HINDI PARANG KANIN
PAG NAPAISUNUBO ILULUWA PAG NA PASO
December 1, 2014
Laws create not only mindset but a certain
attitude
Whatever you do, it becomes part of your
system or part of your lifestyle
Defect in consent – marriage is annulment
Divorce makes the marriage stronger?
You get married because you still believe in the
institution
Once you create a law, you create a certain
lifestyle in which it will affect the psyche of the
human person
Why homo marry?- so that they could actually
have access to divorce – dafuq?
How can you divorce when you are not married
Loses divorce is the children in marriage
CONTRIBUTE TO THIS TOTAL “MESS”
Feminist trends
- when it started as a political movement
- having public roles or political positions
They would like to be equal with men
Gender sensitivity training
- mostly directed to men
- in touch with their feminine side
- abel to empathize with women
Insisting on the difference to think that there
are differences between the two sexes
Men and women have different ways and
manners of being
Marxist Ideology
- the essence of man is a working man
Work is synonymous to physical and manual
work = paid labor
Who is not participating to the labor force is not
affecting their nature ergo for women they only
stay at home
Does not take into account the work for home
For Marx work home has no value
The Women’s Emancipation
- woman control over her body
Is it wrong to be part of the work force?
No
But the question is, which one is woman’s
priority? – Workplace? Or Home?
Human sexuality of men and women predispose
us to affix role in the family?
Society expects us to have a predispose role
Role can actually managed
- Both natural and conventional
Men are expected to be breadwinners but also
with the women
“Men brings the dough, woman breaks it and
turns into a bread”
There’s only one unit?
Both of us assumes that kind of role but
assumes it differently
Human sexuality affects the way we perform
the role
Both of them are bringing and breaking the
bread
All of us need affirmation and recommendation
You never thank the mother if there Is food but
complain if the food is bad
We have to appreciate the work in the home
December 11, 2014
Man as a natural institution through the politics
of Aristotle
People need the help of other people
We owe our parents their life, education
There will be no family without the presence of
the family – Family members – a man, a woman
and their children
Aristotle – extended because of the presence of
grandparents
Families make up the villages and association of
the villages make up the state
Aristotle specifies what kind of entertainment Goods of MARRIAGE
of a particular age – education
Fidelity – one man to one woman
Age of 14 – prevented from using indecent
The mere fact tat there is that one man to
language
woman it actually protects the woman
We owe our parents our life, nourishment and
Marriage is favorable for women
education
That woman and men who are married are
The art of household management is the mean
healthier
towards the end
MEN – first if they are married, someone is
We learn how to behave in a social setting
taking care of their health,
The family is to train people through education
Second, they are thinking of their families
(not technical)
actually take better of their health
The 3rs are learned in school
If they are thinking of their children they are
You don’t have to be rich in order to be actually thinking of their health
educated
Psychologically stable if they are married
To be educated is not the same as to be
= when men are called as bachelor they are
illiterate
unreliable
Philippines – fatherlessness – coming from the
fact that most of them are coming from OFWs
Woman – psychologically balanced
Motherlessness – Hong Kong, Middle East
- Male is very protective of the female when the
Father important figure of the family – it exudes
female is actually carrying the fertilized egg
authority
Care of the father is shown by protecting the
FEAR IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM
children’s health
Fear – prevent you from doing stupid things
The presence of the man is enough to make her
Socialism – has taken over sime of the functions balance
that the family has for the person
Physical strength of the man is capable of any
Unfortunately, some states have forgotten the threat to protect the woman
principle of subsidiarity – should not take over
Natural for man to protect the weak. Weak =
the persons who belong
woman. Weak = children
The role of the state – carry out the functions of
the family
Sometimes the children feel like they are
THE FAMILY IS THE SCHOOL FOR CITIZENSHIP
responsible for marital breakdown
CHILDREN SHOULD BE TRAINED ACCORDING TO
THE SPIRIT OF THE CONSTITUTION
It is cheaper sharing the same light
A married man is more responsible given a
position of responsibility
When a man is working, he does not only think
of himself but also his family
With respect to the children, they have all the
protection and the security stability they need if
they are in a 2 parent home
Stable families – children have high
academically standards, and emotionally stable
No broken homes, less crimes, less prison cells,
less tax money going to current crimes
Cause for crimes is poverty
KATALINOHAN SA CRIMINALITY – KASAMAAN
NOT ALWAYS ACORRELATION between crime
and poverty
Are they criminals? Maybe or not some do not
have the funds to hire a lawyer to defend them
If you have healthy citizens, definitely the
country will have productivity
WHAT DO WE VALUE MOST –
FATHER – HAVE A STRONG PATRIARCHAL
STRICT
- domestic peace
WOMAN IS HAPPY, FAMILY IS HAPPY
WOMAN IS FRUSTRATED, FAMILY BECOMES A
MISERY
Women married to foreigners, woman become
submissive
January 5, 2015
Marriage and family as natural institution
His natural inability to take care of himself – he
needs others to survive
Reproduction
Human nature has not changed although many
people has challenged the natural institution
Marriage and family could be defined based on
the dynamics of the personal relationship
Such mentality is rooted to the fact that they
consider human nature is dynamic
Nature is never dynamic.
What could be dynamic is the personhood –
existential of the humanness of the human.
Persons are concrete expressions of humanity
and definitely this makes persons existentially
different
PERSON – you are not a human person unless
you exist
The person must be a substance
Other entities do not exist – they are what you
call moral personality
MORAL ENTITY – UNIV OF ASIA AND PACIFIC
Physical Expression is indefinitely in the
structures
Person is applied to entities analogically
The person has intimate contact to the external
world – deep and great because of the persons’
inner life
When the persons’ inner life is rich
Life will only be rich to the extent that you will
live with your own experiences..
Of the process – these are the things what we
have learned but there are things that we
simply try to cover
The better your interaction with the external
world – you know what to take or give
Many don’t because they don’t know
themselves – do not know what to do with their
life.
We are the masters of our fate – this can occur
if and only if we know themselves
You know yourselves, you know the things that
will make you big
Persons reveal themselves to others through
their actions
Actions are external – but remember unless we
perceive what good we try to achieve – this
marks the persons’ character – WITHOUT
REALIZING IT, IT DEFINES US. OUR CHOICES
DEFINE OUR CHARACTER, DETERMINE IN OUR
FUTURE.
A CHOICE OF ONE DEFINITELY PRESUPPOSE
FROM CHOOSING THE OTHER ONE –
contradiction of choices
Young – can experiment on many things
Some of your choices are incompatible with
some of the choices
Persons are DYNAMIC BEINGS – NOT STATIC
DYNAMISM – RESPONSIBLE FOR THE PERSONS
YOU ARE RIGHT NOW WHICH MAY BE NOT THE
SAME PERSON OF THE FUTURE. WHERE IS THE
PERSON WHERE I HAVE FALLEN IN LOVE WITH?
HOLD BACK OR MOVE FORWARD –
MOVE FORWARD WITHOUT LEARNING THE
LESSON
HOLD BACK BUT NEVER BOTHER TO PROCESS
THEY ARE SUFFERING TO COMMITING TO
ANOTHER NO BECAUSE OF THE BAD
EXPERIENCE PER SE BUT THE BAD FEELINGS
GOODNESS AND BADNESS MUST HAVE A
CRITERIA
If your experiences made you bad persons, then
you are bad
“YOU GIVE YOURSELF UNLESS YOU DO NOT
KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GIVING”
Unless you know yourself and you are able to
receive, how we interact with the world is our
function towards the world
Person will never be the same throughout
Change is not abrupt – it is always gradual
What remains constant are your principles that
you hold on to life –
Outlook in life – pananaw sa buhay
You either outlook – your perspective becomes
deeper, broader and greater height
There are things in life you discover them either
useful
Philosophy is a way of life
There are times that you hold on to things that
does work, and let go when don’t
Discover the truth before you judge
 1. Acceptance – if there are things that
you cannot change but accept them
“You can change it if you know what it is to
change.”
Legitimate child – angry with world? Accept it!
Be thankful for your life
Get even with your parents is to surpass them
Accept your personality
HUMAN SEXUALITY – MALE OR FEMALE –
BORN WITH IT
SEXUAL IDENTITY - CHOICE
SEXUAL ORIENTATION – NOT A CHOICE
- ATTRACTION SIMPLY HAPPENS, BODY’S - -
REACTION WITH THE OTHER
Sexual Activity – choice – sexual act –
- Societal expectation of female or male
expression of personhood (follows social
norms)
January 12, 2015
Human beings exist as person – we are
existentially different – essentially the same
Human Sexuality – Being a man or a woman
Man and a woman who must be in the
relationship in order to build a family
We are talking in a natural (natural because it
is understood) way to create a family
Men and women
Different intention – might fight
Different interpretation
Respect each aother as person – you will know
when and how you will show affection
Man – hold the right hand when woman
emotionally shaken
Man emotionally shaken – do not offer sex or
any physical contact as a comfort
Recreational companion – would like to go
golfing
Conversation – girls will always want to talk
Attractive spouse – many qualifications –
attractive – initially FACE, (shape of the body
does not matter)
Honesty and openness – honesty not frankness
Open up your feelings to them, revealing to
them.
- you don’t even know what your emotions are
and possibly you deny them
Domestic support – guy has project – approval
and all kind of backing you could give
Financial Support – wants to have financial
security
Admiration – guys would like to have a good
image outside the home
When they reach home, they let their hair down
Family Commitment – outing, family bonding
Sexual Stimulation and activity
Physical Phenomenon and Deeply emotional
experience
If you see if the person is just an object to be
used –
We need people, we don’t use them but we
love them
Aristotle: love your children
Mom love their children the moment they are
inside their womb
Unrequited love – nagtapat ka, hindi mo
tinapatan – BUSTED
Love? – Love is portrayed as emotion
Love is the most basic of all emotions
Concupiscible appetite – desire
Irasciple – hard to achieve
When a person is inlove,
As a noun it is a state
As a verb – must grew, it is an action never the
status quo
If relationship is not regressing, do not pursue
Objective elemnts and subjective
Subjective – it is where a person undergoes
Ojective – common in all types of love
Love is an attraction to the good
What is that good to which you are attracted
to?
The boy is attracted to the feminine qualities
The girl is attracted to the masculine qualities
Boys are attracted to the face of the girl
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
BOYS WILL FIND THEIR QUALITIES OF A GIRL
THROUGH THEIR MOTHERS DEPENDING ON
THEIR RELATIONSHIP INCLUDING THE FATHER
ONE IN A MILLION
Visit the girl in their homes – if you all hear
praises
We develop our own definition of beauty
January 22, 2015
The need to love and to be loved
They only say the word love, but they don’t
know wat it is and don’t know how to fall
Love is simply an emotion – the love will always
be a full of excitement
How will you experience the phenomenon
called love?
A person has to experience love, if not then
more or less I would say the person is what I
feel pity for. Most of us know how to love but
do we know how to give love?
Many don’t know how to receive love?
What is REAL LOVE?
- St. Thomas – attraction to the good
What is the good to which a person is attracted
to? Relationship end up in a family
- attraction between a man and a woman
Love is like a magnet what pulls people together
- magnets unlike poles attract – attraction must
be between a man and a woman
Homosexual attraction – is something that is
hard to explain – we are biologically and
physiologically man to woman
- homosexual tendencies suffer – you cannot a
give satisfaction of attraction
Love is frustrated – reproductive type of love
(opposing force)
Homosexual couples – children?
Natural tendency to leave something like us like
children
ATTRACTION = normally a man gets a attracted
to the feminine qualities present in the woman
Woman is attracted to the masculine qualities
present in man
Quality – accidents
If there are accidents, you could either lose it or
afford it
A man gets attracted to a beautiful face = if the
love remains at attraction – it is different
They say that when a woman gets more
beautiful with time – she married well
Why? They say that motherhood implenishes
A woman who is pregnant she is in love and
pretty
If a man loves a woman, then the man tries to
make the woman happy
If the woman has deteriorated, stressed with
her husband unless the person is sick
The more na maganda si mama, yumayaman si
papa
Think wallet, he becomes attractive
Relationship – man is blooming and the woman
is not – the woman is not happy… man happy?
Don’t know
Qualities do change – keep in mind, remember
we go beyond the face and we go beyond the
voice – we touch certain qualities the face we
see and voice we hear
Remember, that everything enters to the senses
– common senses unites all the percepts into a
sensible thing to put value into it
You cannot put a precept that you cannot value
to it
Sense impression – impression that you have of
things may be true or not, could be true if it
conforms to reality of what the person is, our
impression can simply be a product of
suggestion and this could be false
What happens when your impression is true?
Okay. If falsee- in trouble – believing that there
is something in that someone that is not there.
Love is self-deceiving,
Girls- ipakilala ang guy sa lalake.. if interested
ang girl
You could also be pretending
- you pretend to possess those qualities
because of the perception of “ideal woman”
- many times you fall in love with the idea that
you have formed of the person but NOT WITH
THE PERSON.. “where is the person I have fallen
inlove with” wala.. not exist
You tend to form the image that you want – if
you’re gf demands something that you are not –
the person hates you
Why would she ask you to change if she loves
you?!
If you think you need to change – you become
the person that this person deserves
Pag nawala yung emotion – wala and aw love?
They simply fall in love because of the conept of
love but not love per se – excitement,
adventure, pleasure
LOVE AS AN ATTRACTION CANNOT BE THE
BASIS OF A STABLE PERMANENT RELATIONSHIP
PEOPLE ONLY FALL IN LOVE WITH A SIDE DISH
AKYAT LIGAW – GO TO THE HOUSE OF THE GIRL
– SHOW YOUR TRUE COLOR – BOYS WILL HAVE
A FOURTH TRAILER – you will whether they will
continue or not..
When you fall in love to the girl, make sure
that you are the person that she truly deserves
Desire – love is unity because there is tendency January 26, 2015
to be possessive of the person you are attracted
Desire- is the one that pulls us towards the
to..
other – desire makes us posses the other
Qualities are present in person but the person is
When you are desiring – need based
not the quality..
- qualities of the person you want – because it is
Need based love – there is something that you
still the relationship of use – UTILITARIAN
think you lack and that person would be able to
RELATIONSHIP
fill in the gap - we are referring to a utilitarian
type of love LOVE MUST TRANSCEND THE LEVEL OF DESIRE
SO THAT IT CAN REACH THE PERSON
They get married simply moved by desire
REACH THAT AFFIRMATION OF THE PERSON –
- having unsatisfactory – they feel like they are
NO LONGER IN LOVE WITH THE QUALITIES
being used and once it is fulfilled you are no
BUTWITH THE PERSON PERSE
longer needed.
ONCE YOU ARE INLOVE OF THE PERSON – YOU
Love on the rebound – self-centered love –
ARE NO LONGER IN LOVE WITH ALL OF THE
need based love – it doesn’t last
GOOD QUALITIES
Some of you think that you are the messiah,
SOMETIMES WITH THE QUALITIES BUT NOT
they think that you are the solution to the
WITH THE PERSON PER SE
problems of this world – “people change
because of love but not because of you” QUALITIES – YOU LOSE THEM JUST LIKE THE
HAIR, COMPLEXION,
But if you change because of love, that love
remains and the person becomes a better ACCIDENTS – ARE BOUND TO CHANGE
person
It is REALISM – once you reach the person you
Relationship makes you a better person – it is are actually in love with the real person
good
PERSON IS DYNAMIC – WE ADOPT A CERTAIN
If the relationship is being criticized, you nad ATTITUDE TOWARDS THE EVENTS THAT
me against the world?! HAPPENED TO US
Your love must not be against the world. THE WAY WE REFLECT, OBSERRVE CHANGES US
FOR THEBETTER OR WORSE DEPENDING ON
Love must be with the world..
WHAT ATTRIBUTE TOWARDS THEM
The people around you makes it possible for
FAILURES –
you to
PERSON WILL TAKE THE GOOD OF THE PERSON
The support of the people around to make your
relationship work IF IT’S A MUTUAL LOVE – THEN YOU CENTERS
WILL BE THE OTHER
The person around you who love you can see
the objectivity – not the marriage counselors - NO LONGER LIVE MY LIFE VICE VERSA- FOR
and therapists EACH OTHER
- THAT HAPPENS NOT BECAUSE OF ITS WAT
YOU WANT BUT THROUGH EFFORT
- YOU CHANGE BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOU
WANT TO CHANGE , IF YOU ARE DEMANDED TO
CHANGE, SOEMTHING IS WRONG ABOUT YOU
GIRLS WANTS BAD BOY BECAUSE THEY THINK
THEY COULD CHANGE THEM – JESUS DIDN’T DO
IT, IKAW PA KAYA?! KAILAN KA BA NAGING
DIYOS?!
Once they are addicted, there is no possibility of
getting out of it…
The person wants to change – LOVE WILL
COMPEL HIM TO CHANGE.
IF YOU KNOW THE PERSON, YOU KNOW WHAT
THE PERSON DESERVES, IF YOU KNOW YOURE
NOT THE ONE, LET IT GO.. YOU CAN STRIVE TO
BE THAT ONE.. IT CAN BUT IT’S IF YOU CAN..
BOTH OF YOU WILL NOT BE HAPPY IN THE
RELATIONSHIP
IF YOU ARE IN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP YOU
SHOULD IMPROVE, IF YOU GOT DETERIORATED,
IT’S NOT RIGHT
BUT IF YOU ARE NOT FLOURISHING SOMETHING
IS WRONG IN THE RELATIONSHIP
LOVE IS THE RIGHT BASIS FOR MARRIAGE –
THE LOVE OF GOODWILL WHEREIN YOU ARE
ACTUALLY THINKING OF THE GOOD OF THE
OTHER WANTING TO ACHIEVE THE GOOD
THAT THE PERON DESERVES – HOW WILL YOU
KNOW WHAT THE OTHER PERSON DESERVES?
UNLESS YOU KNOW THEM PROPERLY.. HOW?
IF YOU DON’T YOURSELF, HOW CAN YOU GIVE
YOURSELF TO THE OTHER.. YOU DO NOT
KNOW HOW TO GIVE..
THE LOVE IS A SELF GIVING LOVE
GUYS INTENTION TO EXPLORE POSSIBILITIES
- IT IS BETTER – BUILT ON FRIENDSHIPS =
Head my above all RULE, not the heart per se
GIVING THE LIFE THE PERSON TRULY DESERVES
– GIVING THE LIFE SHE IS ENJOYING RIGHT
NOW
WHY DO YOU HAVE FRIENDS?
YOU ARE HAVING FRIENDS FOR THE SAKE OF
PLEASURE
IN FACT, YOU ENJOY BEING WITH THEM
HOW DO YOU KNOW YOUR FRIENDS WITH
THEM?
FRIENDSHIP - TRUST IS BEING EARNED AND
LATER ON GIVE IT
WHEN DOES THE PERSON EARN YOUR TRUST?
FRIENDSHP DEVELOPS OVER TIME
TIME IS AN IMPORTANT ELEMENT FOR
FRIENDSHIP
WHY DOES FRIENDS MAKE LIFE BEARABLE?
January 29, 2015
Why is friendship the most important basis for
interpersonal relationship?
February 19 – no class
MOVIE – PARENTAL GUIDANCE – PICK OUT
IMPORTANT ELEMTNS THAT ARE RELEVANT TO
OUR LECTURE
- PARENTING THAT HAPPENED THERE..
WHAT IS THE BASIS OF FRIENDSHIP?
- the GOOD
BASIS OF FRIENDSHIP IS A SHARED GOOD
types of friendship that being
- Utilitarian – OLDER PEOPLE
Perfect – what is being shared is the mutual
wishing the good of the other for the others
sake
- reciprocity is involved
- equal in virtue
- it is only present among virtuous people
- virtuous friendship
- how will you know if it is the good for the
person? The good that this person deserves?
FAMILIARITY BRIDGE CONTENT? WHAT KIND OF
FAMILIARITY?
DOES DISTANCE AFFECT FRIENDSHIP?
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT KIND OF GOOD
THIS PERSON DESERVES?
IF YOU GIVE THE SAME THING AS YOU ALSO
DESERVES?
Mirror each other’s traits
SHARING THE SAME EXPERIENCE AND HAVING
THE SAME MIND ON THAT THE SAME
EXPERIENCE
Only the experiences that bond people
together. IDEA NO.. EXPERIENCES YES BUT
ONLY IF YOU HAVE THE SAME IDEA ABOUT
THAT EXPERIENCE
IF BOTH YOU SUFFERED THROUH THAT
EXPERIENCE, YOU SUFFER AT THE SAME TIME..
BOTH OF YOU LAUGH, BUT OF YOU SUFFER
FRIENDSHIP IS FORGED – SYMPATHY – HAVING
THE SAME FEELING
DO they have to have the same mind? What
binds people is to have a common good.
In marriage, what you unites you is a common
good
COMMON GOOD HERE IS AS THE GOOD THAT
IS HELD BY BOTH OF YOU
HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT THE SAME
EXPERIENCE IS SIGNIFICANT TO THE BOTH OF
YOU?
- Converse  NO FRIENDSHIP DEVELOPS
WITHOUT A CONVERSATION
- REVEALING OF THE SELF (conversation)
- There is a mutuality taking place – you reveal
to each other yourselves
- In principle could even predict your reactions,
because they know more or less what you’re
going to react
Through time, if you’re talking of the same
person, there is a similarity through the
reaction of the person
WHAT IS CONSTANT IN THE PERSON?
- people change
SHARE CONFIDENCES
For you to trust, you must experience ones
loyalty
Living the same values and virtues
PERFECT FRIENDSHIP TENDS TO BE EXCLUSIVE –
YOU CANNOT HAVE A PERFECT FRIENDSHIP
AGAD AGAD
THERE IS ONLY ONE PERFECT FRIENDSHIP =
BESTFRIEND – ONLY 1
WHEN HE OR SHE IS MY SOULMATE – YOUR
SOULMATES ARE YOU FRIENDS, VERY GOOD
BASIS BECAUSE THERE IS A KNOWLEDGE
BETWEEN YOU AND HIM..
FOR A GIRL AND A BOY TO HAVE A PERFECT
FRIENDSHIP – IT MUST NEED TIME TO DEVELOP
IT
THE TRUST IS ALREADY THERE WHEN THERE IS
FIRENDSHIP AND UNIT IS ALREADY FORGED –
LOVE OF GOODWILL IS ALREADY THERE
FRIENDZONE- HOW DO YOU TRANSCEND
FROM FRIENDS TO LOVERS
Imperfect friendship – NO RECIPROCITY
INVOLVED
- If they are not alike virtues
Pleasure – young people are only joined in
friendship because of pleasure
February 2, 2015
Perfect friendship – between two and exclusive
When friends are interested with each other,
this is the person I will spend the rest of my life
with
Clear intention is voiced out if proposed if the
relationship will bring to the next level
COURTSHIP PERIOD BEGINS
COURTSHIP – is undertaken with a clear view to
marriage- unless the person is prepared to take
to the net level then it is useless to spend your
time to an exclusive friendship if it is not
heading nowhere
Relationship – emotional investment
Since the view is already for marriage then a
clearer and a deeper knowledge of the person is
needed – you have to know the person right in
his or her own environment
YOU HAVE TO SEE THIS PERONS AS YOUR
FUTURE FATHER OR MOTHER OF THE CHILDREN
Traditional type – know the family first in a
particular setting
You must have a critical mind – look at the
family’s customs and traditions
Friend caring girl – look at the garden, if things
are messy then a preview of a fourth coming
attractions
Looking at the future – LOOK AT THE MOM –
body in the future is the body of the mom
If right now she is cute, loveably and petite,
perhaps in the future she is still like that in a
different proportion
FUTURE WILL LOOK LIKE – LOOK AT THE FATHER
FATHER – HAVING A BEER BELLY – NOW YOU
KNOW
COURTSHIP – it is the man that makes the
Proposing to marriage – carrying the burden of
the marriage
When a proposal is accepted – you’re proposing
to be wife, mother – when you accept – you
accept him to be your future husband and
father.
Please make sure that things are clear?
- does the person love to have children
Same way blend of so my things – relationship
becomes exclusive
CULTURUAL BARRIER – this is the main problem
of all
CHINESE WOMEN ARE RAISED DIFFERENT THAN
OF THE FILIPINAS
COURTSHIP – IT DOES NOT NECESSARY MEAN
THAT YOU CANNOT GO OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS
REALTIOSHIP ONLY BECOMES EXCLUSIVE
WHEN YO UARE ALREADY ENGAGED IN WHICH
YOU HAVE ACCEPTED EACH OTHER AS
HUSBAND AND WIFE – BUT IT DOES NOT
NECESSARILY MEAN THAT IT WILL LAST
FOREVER SINCE BECAUSE AT THE START OF THE
ENGAGEMENT TILL THE WEDDING THEY ARE
STILL HESITANT OF BEING READY FOR THE
RELATIONSHIP OR NOT.. WHAT EVER HAPPENS
LOWER DOWN YOUR EXPECTATIONS – STUDIES
WILL SHOW THAT THE GREATEST MARRIAGE
WRECKE IS MEDDLING RELATIVES
HE OR SHE CAN NEVER LOVE MY DAUGHTER
MORE THAN I COULD OR SON..
PART OF THE CONVO WHERE WILL YOU SIDE
- IT IS UNFAIR IF YOU LEAVE YOUR FUTURE
WIFE FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR FAMILY
“THERE CANT BE TWO QUEENS IN THE SAME
KINGDOM”
WHAT IF ONLY CHILD: DAPAT TANGGAP MO NA
YUNG KUNG DUN TLGA KAYO BECAUSE IT IS
UNFAIR TO SAY TO RENOUNCE YOUR PARENTS
SINCE THEY ARE THE ONLY ONES LEFT
LIVING ON YOUR OWN – WHERE DO YOU
SPEND CHRISTMAS
FRIENDS – IT IS EASY TO CONFINED WITH THE
BESTFRIEND THAN OF THE OTHERS
FINANCES – EVEN IF ITS MATERIAL – YOU
SHOULD SUPPORT EACH OTHER – HOW IS THAT
MONEY BUDGET IN A PROPORTION
MARRIAGES ARE BROKEN BECAUSE THEY ARE
NOT OF THE SAME PAGE OF PREFERENCE
MARRIAGE ALSO A PATH TO HOLINESS – for a
catholic it is a sacrament – one must know why
you are getting married – wag magpapakasal
see to it na ready at may pera kayo for this
person… mahal pa magpakasal,, mahal pa
magpaannul
MARRIAGE BREAKS UP – 5 YEARS – STILL
ADJUSTING
No such thing as perfect marriage – it only
occurs in heaven
Marriage breakdown because they talk but
don’t communicate – WHAT IS IT THAT THEY
COMMUNICATE? –
February 5, 2015
Real partnership – is an exercise of the I
though..
Remember that love the person for what they
are
Always take two to tangle
There is trouble both of you have to blame, if
success both have to be accredited
Two separate lives will be infused to one…
EQUAL AND TOTAL SHARING = NOT 50 / 50
BOTH OF BURDENS AS WELL AS JOYS AND
SORROW
1. ADAPTABILITY – when you are boy and
girlfriend
- Adjust to each other’s quirks,
You do not go to a marriage being a changed
person
Be the person you are
If you are too young, the trouble is a trouble
and you have to face things accordingly
WHAT WIL IRRITATE PEROSONS ARE THE SMALL
THINGS – LIKE WHEN YOU PRESS A COLGATE
TOOTHPASTE – others want up other want
down
Irritation
Many times you tend to forget the worth, the
person would like to be appreciated
You have to adapt to whatever the person is
Husband found forgiveness but she could not
forgive herself
It’s also her to blame why the husband
IT’S ALSO IMPORTANT WHAT KIND OF LIFE YOU
ARE GOING INTO
YOU HAVE TO HAVE ADJUSTMENTS SINCE procreation.. prudence – must be intact with
BECAUSE YOU COME FROM DIFFERENT women
CULTURAL EDUCATIONAL UPBRINGING
If after one year of normal marital relationship
TIP OF THE ICEBERG – COURTSHIP and you don’t conceive children = consult the
doctor at once when you can still be helped – at
AS YOU GROW YOU SEE MORE
once because right now marrying age has
SOME PEOPLE WIL CHANGE AS THEY GO INTO A grown older and older than before..
NEW CULTURE OR LIFE..
NOW IT IS NORMAL FOR A PERSON TO WALK
LAUGH AT THE THINGS THAT IRRITATE YOU DOWN THE AISLE WITH THE AGE OF 35
INSTEAD OF ARGUING ABOUT IT
WE ARE PREGNANT – CORRESPONSIBLE
2. Virtuous - THIS PERSON MUST ALSO BE
THERE ARE NO SUCH THING AS CRAVINGS
VIRTUOUS IN THE SENSE THAT YOU
HAVE TO BE LOYAL TO YOUR WORD.. BOYS: WHEN WOMAN IS ON HER FIRST
TRIMESTER – SHE DOESN’T FEEL WELL SO
IN MARRIAGE THERE WILL ALWAYS BE LOYALTY
EVERYTIME SHE FEELS SICK – SEE TO HERSELF
AND IN LOYALTY THERE WILL ALWAYS BE
AS UGLY – HORMONAL
JUSTICE
IF YOU DON’T PAY ATTENTION TO HER – YOU
Once the female starts to think of herself – THE
ARE ENDANGERING THE FUTURE CHILD
MARRIAGE STARTS TO BREAK
BLOOD VESSELS CONSTRAINT LESS BLOOD GO
COMMITMENT WILL MAKE IT WORK.. NO BODY
TO BABY – different figure or face structure of
ELSE WILL MAKE IT WORK FOR YOU
the baby
EVEN IF YOU ARE MARRIAGE – IT DOES NOT
REASON WHY – MEN YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE
MEAN THAT YOU WILL BE LIVING NATURALLY
YOU KNOW WHAT THEY WANT BECAUSE THEY
AND EFFORTLESSLY MARRIED LIFE
SIMPLY WANT TO BE ASSURED THAT THEY ARE
PAG DALAWA NA KAYO IBA NA USAPAN DYAN. PRIORITIZED IN YOUR LIFE – SHE THINKS SHE IS
UGLY AND SOMETIMES DIFFERENT
3. IT TAKES MATURITY – MATURITY
MEANS THE ABILITY TAKE CARE OF A Men will work overtime ergo they will have less
PERSON’S LIFE time for their wife
4. YOU NEED TOTAL COMMITMENT –
February 9, 2015
PRENUP – MENTALITY OF IT – YOU ARE
- prepare emotionally and financially – three
EXPECTING THIS MARRIAGE TO FAIL
doctors in attendance – obe, ped, cardio
Pinakasal dahil sa pera
CHILD IS THERE – NEW JOURNEY BEGINS
5. EFFORT - do whatever it takes to
It will be a challenge to decide who will wake up
sustain the marriage
when the baby cries
Once you are married.. you’re priority is no
INFANCY – TERRIBLE 2 AND 3 = time that time
longer your mother, father, brother or sister but
asserts his “identity” and independence – boy is
it is your own family which is the result of
not there – boy will imiate the mom instead of
the father
Also GENDER ORIENTATION – insisit who’s the
boss – if you just allow them and throws a
tantrum – he will get what he wants
- don’t spill the water
- AGE OF DISCOVERY
WALLS OF THE HOUSE IS AN INFINITY WHITE
BOARD = KNOWING THAT THE CHILREN ARE
THE FUTURE ARTISTS
More colorful – more attractive –the more that
they will be inclined to do it
NEXT IS SENDING THEM TO SCHOOL: CRITERIA
1. Education is the task of the parents –
you cannot delegate that to the school
a. Parents are not competent
enough to deliver unless they
are prepared enough to do it
b. Teachable moments – child
learns by imitation
c. Parents teach what a human
beings do and should do
i. Pay attention to the
needs of the body first
– potty training
otherwise he will think
of the house as a big
potty
ii. Teach them how to
eat, in the beginning
spoon-feed them
literally – because they
do not know how to
process, know how to
chew and combine
iii. Children only pick up
what is interesting to
them – rice not colored
they will not get it
THE BRIGHET THE COLOR IS – THE PROPENSITY
FOR THE CHILD TO PICK IT UP IS BIGGER
LEARN TO SPEAK IF YOU IMITATE WHAT YOUR
PARENTS ARE DOING.
SO YOU HAVE TO SPEAK TO YOUR CHILDREN
IN ORDER FOR THEM TO KNOW HOW TO
SPEAK
DISTIGUISH IF IT IS A CHILD FRIENDLY HOUSE
POST PARTUM DEPRESSION – due to hormones
- kung naghihingi ng attention kahit OA
pagbigyan niyo na….
A CHILD WILL LEARN HOW TO LIVE HOW YOU
TEACH THEM HOW TO LIVE
Addressed the needs of the body
Human being should – entails living in a
community setting
Social living is taught at home
If the child, if one lang ,the burden of forming
him how to share will be only you.. nagiisa lang
ibigay lahat – he doesn’t know how to share
- pag nagkaanak ka.. you have no cousins..
Walang immediate relatives
YOU NEED A WIDE CIRCLE OF FRIENDS –
CHILDREN AN APENDAGE TO ONES LIFE
NO SENSE OF OWNERSHIP BUT KNOW WHAT
INTERESTS THEM
GIVE THEM LITTLE BY LITTLE RESPONSIBILTIES
1. PICK UP TOYS AFTER PLAYING – HE OR
SHE WILL THINK THAT THE YAYA WILL
PICK UP THE THINGS AFTER THEIR
DOWN PLAYING
2. As they grow older – fix beds
3. Move from personal to social –
throwing garbages outside at night
4. Punishment is better because they will
know that if they do not perform their
 responsibilities they will not know the
consequences
5. LEARN HOW TO LIVE – REASON WHY
MANY MANY PARENTS – MAKE SURE
THAT THEIR CHILDREN WILL LEARN
HOW TO LIVE ON THEIR OWN IN
ABROADS
6. EDUCATION IN FREEDOM – does not
necessarily mean how to administer it
but rather – training your children to
choose the best among the possible
options – freedom determination to the
good – what is presented to us is good
but choose the best one – the choice is
what represent is their parents and the
choice that they make is because of the
training of the school
a. This will always depend the
attitude towards life
7. School that sponsors the value – what is
that you want what your children needs
to learn
a. Look at the vision-mission –
personal lives of the teachers
Homeschooling – popular now in the Philippines
- hindi pwede homeschooling and both of you
are working
Sometimes you do not know what the school is
making you
You don’t know that the children is
Single sex or Co-educational sex?
Boys tried better in a single sex school? Why?
Because the develpemtn of boys is slower than
girls
Boys would hardly express their thoughts, their
dev will be staffled, ACCORDING TO STUDIES –
IT IS BETTER IF THEY ARE PUT IN A ALL BOYS
SCHOOL
Not conscious with the boys around –
CO-EDUCTAIONAL FOR ECONOMIC REASONS
Before the inclusive schools – 25 students per
section now is 45
Most of business schools going up to 20
People think in the value of education
Choices of freedom – the administering of
freedom –explain to the children why it is good
for them
As they grow older, you allow them to make the
choice but make sure that you are around to
guide them and catch the fall out – expect them
to make mistakes and allow them to do so –
catch the fall out
If the matter is not a matter of life and death –
allow them – make sure you give very clear
criteria for the choice of the possible options –
the child will not have any guide in making a
choice
Kahit po yung mapapangasawa – ay dapat
sinasabihan ng anak – do you think you haave
any idea what to look for the qualities of the
future husbands
To whom you seek advice – DON’T ASK ADVICES
FROM YOUR FRIENDS BECAUSE THEY ARE BLIND
AS YOU ARE
WHAT IF YOUR PARENTS ARE NOT AROUND?
GODMOTHER ARE THERE BECAUSE IF THE
PARENTS ARE NOT AROUND THEY MUST BE
THERE
PROBLEM IS THAT THEY CHOSE GODPARENTS
IN TERMS OF SOCIO-POLITICAL AND ECONOMIC
instead of moral values
You will find either your teacher or mentors as a
sounding board
They must also know their consequence for
every act they will perform
Last – training in love for love- the child is not
born knowing how to love, he learns how to
love by seeing love – the person has to be
taught how to love
The emotional love experience anytime, but the
real love has to be learned
CONCEPT MAP – TEACHING FAITH
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Education – education for love for life, love for
life, freedom for freedom
Love has to be taught
Love as the commitment of the will to the good
of the person is soemthign that is taught, it
doesn’t come spontaneously among people
PEOPLE MUST KNOW HOW TO GIVE AND
CHILDREN KNOW HOW TO RECEIVES
A PERSON WHO RECEIVES IN LIFE IS A PERSON
WHO NEVER GROWS UP
MARRIAGE IS THERE TO SATSIFY THEIR WIMS,
CAPRISES AND NEEDS
YOU MARRY BECAUSE YOU KEEP YOURSELF
YOU CANNOT EDUCATE IN LIFE UNLESS YOU
KNOW HOW TO LOVE
LIFE FOR LIFE –DONE OUT OF LOVE
DON’T TEACH CHILDREN TO KNOW HOW TO
EARN TO LIVE
YOU TEACH SIMPLY BECAUSE YIOU KNOW THAT
IF THEY KNOW HOW TO WORK THEY WONT BE
ABLE TO LIVE
YOU WILL NOT BE AROUND LONGER
THE PARENTS PROVIDE FOR THE CHILDREN’S
FUTURE. – FUTURE THAT IS UNKNOWN-
FUTURE THAT IS UNKNOWN TO
PARENTS WHO INVEST IN A BUSINESS THINKING
HAT THE CHILD WILL INHERENT BUT NOT
CONSIDERING THE FACT THAT THEY ARE NOT
CHILDREN MUST HAVE SPRIRITUAL CHARACTER
WHICH IS NEEDED FOR THE FUTURE
IT DOES NOT NECESSARILY MEAN YOU HAVE TO
SAY YES EVERYTIME
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN WHAT THEY WANT
AND NEED
YOU HAVE TO HAVE A DISCERNING MIND,
TEMPERED WITH LOVE
LOVE THAT IS SOLELY REASON WITHOUT A
CORRESPONDING SHOW OF AFFECTION IS
DEADLY
BECAUSE A CHILD WHO IS TOLD NO BUT NEVER
FROUGHT THE COMPELLING REASON AND
AFFECTION WITH THAT NO WILL ALWAYS FELL
BITTER ABOUT THAT NO
WHEN SAID NO, THEIR SELF-ESTEEM WILL BE
HURT AND MAY NOT RECOVER
CHILDREN WILL STRONGER RISILIENCE
AFFECTION IS SHOWN BY – BEING MAD
PARENTS WHO KNOW THEIR CHILDREN WELL
WILL KNOW HOW TO DELIVER WHAT THE
CHILDREN DESERVES
EVERY CHILD IS AN EXPERIMENT – THEY
CANNOT APPLY THE SAME RULES WITH THE
FRIST TO THE SECOND ONE
PARENTS NEVER ADJUST
PARENTING THAT HAVE BEEN LEARNED
THROUGH WHAT THEY HAVE BEEN TAUGHT BY
THEIR OWN PARENTS
PARENTS RIGHT NOW ARE FACING A DIFFERENT
WORLD – THEY NEED TO LEARN HOW TO
BECOME PARENTS
A LOT OF BOOKS ABOUT PARENTING ARE ON
THE SHEVES STARTING FROM ZERO
EACH ONE IS A CASE STUDY –
HUMAN PERSON IS DYNAMIC – RESPONDS TO
STIMULI AND REACTS AND CHANGES TO WHAT
HE OR SHE IS FACING
CHALLENGE IN A PERSON LIFE CAN CHANGE
THE PERSON FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE
THERE COULD BE
FACED WITH A RESPONSIBILITY – A PERSON
COULD EITHER PARALYZED, DEPRESSED OR
WALK OUT
DEPRESSION – cannot reach the demand that
was given – depression is the defense
mechanism
PARALYZED – DO NOT KNOW IF TO MOVE
FORWARD OR BACKWARD – STATUS QUO ALL
THE TIME
IF PEOPLE ARE PROBLEMATIC – DID NOT DO
ANYTHING
RIGHT PERSON – SHARES YOUR IDEALS
EDUCATION IN THE FAITH – HOLINESS –
TO HAVE THAT LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH
GOD THE FATHER – CHRISTIAN PERSPECTIVE
REACH GOD – SACRAMENT AND PRAYERS
PRACTICE OF VIRTUES
PREMORIAL DUTY OF THE PARENTS TO TEACH
THE CHILDREN THAT DISTIGUISHING MAN
FROM PRIEST
Only human beings are able to pray and only
ones capable of dialoguing with God
FAMILY HOME – ALL JOYS, SADNESS, ETC
HOUSE NOT HOME
HOUSE – CONSTRUCTION
HOME – WHERE THE FAMILY IS
- WHERE YOU COULD BE YOURSELF
- LET YOUR HAIR DOWN,
HOME – CHARATERIZED THE WARMTH WHEN
HE OR SHE COMES IN – MADE POSSIBLE BY THE
PEOPLE WHO LIVE THERE AND CARE FOR ONE
ANOTHER
TO BE A FAMILY REQURIES TO CONVERT TO BE
WHAT YOU WANT IT TO BE
FAMILY VISIONING – WHAT KIND OF FAMILY DO
YOU WANT TO BE
INSTILL A FAMILY CULTURE
WHAT KIND OF WAY OF LIFE WOULD THIS
FAMILY WILL HAVE
INTRODUCE FAMILY TRADITIONS – IN THIS
FAMILY – DEFINITION
SPENDING YOUR BIRTHDAY WITH YOUR
FRIENDS THAN FAMILY? = ALREADY ENOUGH
REASON THAT YOU DON’T APPRECIATE FAMILY
AT THIS POINT, YOU SHOULD REALLY KNOW
WHAT A FAMILY SHOULD BE
After obtaining a college degree, marriage is
simply an option – this is beginning the problem
MEN DO NOT GET OUT OF THEIR MATTERS
ALONE
THEY REALIZE THE FACT THAT THEY ARE
CAPABLE OF SOMETHING MORE
It could kill a family if you are different from
each other
Know what the family is based between hsband
and wife
PARENTS ARE UNITED- there is nothing that will
stop or destroy the family
DON’T THINK THAT INDIFFERENCE AND LOVE
DOES NOT HAPPEN OVER TIME
Education – the way out of poverty
THERE WILL ALWAYS BE A CYCLE OF POVERTY –
COVERAGE – FRIENDSHIP, EVERYTHING FROM
CHAPTER 9 - 16
February 23, 2015
From the historical perspective among those in
the upper class – they marry for love not for
political and economic consideratios In practice
– in every marriage there is a corresponding
dowry
Modern contemporary – ideas of merchant
family
Persons who make up the relationship are the
ones who can determine what kind of family
they should have.
Notion of love – for as along as they love one
another – for as long as they love something –
no authority on earth should deny me the right
You need institutions – creates a certain type of
stability – gives people a sense of security
The persons in that particular relationship must
be able to define the realitionship but not
redefining the institution per se
The institution has its own ends or mission
- persons who actually form part of tat
insitutiotn in principle should abide by the ends
of the insitutions
They don’t want to abide by the needs of the
institution so they create their own ends
WHY DO MARRIAGES FAIL?
Anthropological root in the problem
MAN HAVING LOST THES SENSE AND THE
MEANING OF HIS LIFE LOOKS ONLY TO
IMMEDIATE SELF-GRATIFIFCATION
UNFORTUNATELY, BUSINESSMEN PRAY ON
HUMAN WITNESSES.
RH BILL HELP THE POOR? 15 BIL subsidies all the
pill and condom to help the poor??
Where would I spend the money –
February 26, 2015
Most relkgion, marriage is a right of passage
from boyhood to manhood
Many are aware that RELIGION AS the
institution of the family is protecting their very
owns society’s preservation
IT IS THOURHGH THE FAMILY THAT THE VALUES
OF THE MFILY ARE TRNSIMITTED
WHEN SOMETHING HAPPNES TO THE YOUTH –
THE ONES ARE BLAMED ARE THE PARENTS
There will only be to the good of the children if
there is a commitment of the members
THE COMMITMENT TO THE GOOD OF THE
MEMERS IS FOUNDED ALSO IN THE
COMMITMENT ON THE INSTITUTIONS ITSLEF
YOU ARE NOT INTO THE ABSTRACT REALITY
IF MEMBERS ARE NOT COMMITTED YOU KNOW
WHAT’S GOING TO HAPPEN
MEDIA AS THE BIGGEST EDUCATOR TO MASS
Why is it that commitment to the institution has
waned?
They think that marriage must be a faction of
individual or personal choices
A CERTAIN MINDSET IS BASED ON A
PARTICULAR IDEAOLOGY with the collapse of
the soviet union – what is good an what is
persistent
AN INDIVIDUALISTIC VIEW OF HUMANITY
What they insist is the uniqueness of the person
THAT MINDSET IS FUELED BY TECHNOLOGY
REINVENT MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE
- bring it back to its original role
WHAT’S MATTER’S MOST IS THE INDIVIDUALS
HAPPINESS
WITH PERSONLISM THIS TIME
YOU GET FED UP TO BE SHARING THIGNS GIN
IT WILL NEVE HPPEN SIMULTANEOUSLY
MAKE THIGNS TO MAKE LOVE EVERYBODY TO
LOVE EVERYBODY
NO FAULT DIVORCE – for as long as the person
doesn’t like anymore, respective for the other’s
feelings
WE HAVE ACTUALLY MADE A REDUCED MIND
INTO A THING
THE PERSON INVOLVED IN THE PROCESS
WITHOUT HIM OR HER REALIZING IT ALSO HAS
THE MEAN OF SELF WORTH
Making a references taking anothjer person as
an object
Not committed, the relationship will fall
We have discussed before that the basis of any
human relationship – TRUST – born of
appreciteion of the other and the fate on the
other person will actually fulfill his or her
commitment
IF A PERSON REACHES THAT TRUST, WHAT DO
WE DO WITH THAT PERSON?
If you mistrust, it also reflects your incapacity to
trust. YOUR TRUST TO YOURSELF IS IN
QUESTION
With Divorce, what do you except for the
society with full of mistrust
IS IT NAIVITY? TRUSTING THE PERSON DESPITE
THE FACT.
Does it justify you in the whole of humanity
DISTINGUISH – THE PERSONAL TO THE
INSTITUTION – THE FAULT OF ONE IS NOT THE
FAULT OF THE MANY
March 5, 2015
Schedule – March 19, 2015
Homosexual behavior – is a choice
Gay debate issue – the real honest to goodness
A test of fight against nature
People right now are thinking even sexuality is a
choice
If persons think along this line, remember
something is shifting below precisely those
anchor you have in which human beings have to
maintain to their sanity.
A person will have to live his life
The sun rises at exactly at a certain time,
science could predict things, there such thing a
fixed things in life.
Not the physicial nature but the nature itself
also the nature of human beings – ESSENCE
That sense of security is what eanbles people to
project towards the future
Persons always aspire for something better and
greater – experience
What happens if not?
You begin to atrify
Grapes become a raisin
Life beings to shirnk
You become worse than before
Law of nature that we always we aspire for
something higher, greater.
Its unnatural if you simply say hangang 3 lang
ang grade
TRANSCENDENCE – we made lives better for
others for those who will succeed as
Progress will have to continue unchecked
There is always an aspiration for people to be
better and greater.
What happens when a society begins to
retrogress?
Notion of Marxism – a dispute between the
proletariat and the bourgeoisie
Changing mindset, or attitude takes generations
THE RH LAW IS A DISGUISED FOR ABORTION
SOCIETY THAT UNDERMINES THE FAMILY
UNDERMINES ITS OWN EXISTENCE
Why? Because you are destroying the very cell
that makes up the society
Once you destroy the family, you destroy the
person, you destroy the society
UNDERMINE THE INSTITUTION WHERE IT WAS
FOUNDED WHICH IS MARRIAGE
Marriage - 2 beings are in love
That word has been abused and misused
IT HAS ONLY BEEN MADE SYNOMOUS TO
EMOTIONAL ASPECT TO IT
What has remained is the concupiscible aspect
but not the irascible
Marriage and family life has its concupisible and
irascible moments
But person who have had a good family life – no
matter how difficult it is, they will do it all over
again, persons who know how to love self-
annihilation
People who’s meaning for his own life has been
lost, does not want to go on living, falling manly
in love,
YOU DON’T DIE FOR AN INSTITUTION
YOU DON’T LIVE FOR SOMETHING BUT FOR
SOMEONE
YOU STRIVE FOR SOMETHING IN VIEW OF
SOMEONE
I LVOE WITH SOMEONE – ALLEVIATING AND
ELAVATING
PERSON IS MAKING SACRIFICES
Has great capacity for
COEFFECIENT AND EXPANSION. GREAT
CAPACITY FOR WORK
IF YOU ARE INLOVE, AND you have to capacity
for work
Only in love with being in love..
WHEN A PERSON IS INLOVE, how to improve
the person they love
You don’t blame people, why they abandon
their families in which THEY WOULD LIKE TO
GIVE THEM BETTER THAT THEY CANNOT
Is it avoidance? Yes it may pride but at the same
time for wishing good for something. No matter
how much they try they don’t succeed. They
succeed in the wrong way. Few families who are
successful financially and in family life.
A man could marry someone below his class
A woman most often than not, would not.
If you happen to fall for someone who is
below your class
What kind of love – self-sacrificing love
Not a bed of roses. It has it’s ups and down,
joys and travails. You need a little sense of
humor.
LEARNING HOW TO LOVE AND HOW TO
TRANSLATE THAT IDEA OF LOVE TO
CONCRETE THINGS
Love has to be translated into concrete
deeds
For the other to realize what love is another
thing
LOVE MAKES THE OTHER PERSON SUFFER
WHAT WILL BECOME OF YOU IS YOUR OWN
CHOICE on how you will build the family.
WHAT YOU CAN CHANGE IS YOUR FUTURE..
ACCEPT THE THIGNS YOU CANNOT ACCEPT
We have not learned to value life, because
the end of marriage has been distorted,
people have seen marriage as a “meal
ticket” ergo we have to share the meal in
which it will be smaller than ever.
RESPOECT FOR LIFE IS A CONSEQUENCE OF
LOVE. A CHILD IS CONCEIVED AND BORN IN
PRINCIPLE OUT OF LOVE.
CONTRACEPTION, ABORTION, AND
UTANASIA – THAT SOCIETY HAS
FORGOTTEN TO LOVE

How much of that knowledge should you PERSON HAS CEASE TO LOVE.
have?
YOU DO NOT KNOW IN YOUR LIFE IF
POLITICAL RELATIONSHIPS SOMEONE NEEDS YOU OR DEPENDS ON
YOU.
MARRIAGE ARE NOT FOR LOVE BUT FOR
POLITICAL ARRANGEMENT That value for life you have right now, they
are equating life
Love are among the peasants
ENOUGH KNOWLEDGE TO KNOW IF THE
Importance of love, why are marriages
PERSON IS THE ONE YOU WANT TO LIVE
political in nature before peace to extend
WITH
kingdoms
Observe the person – character,
MARRIAGES ARE ARRANGED
unfortunately for men is the face value,
It is only in this century that royals succumb woman cash value.
to intermarriages
ROYALTY OF ENGLAND – The Prince married
a commoner = he is marrying for love
WHAT WIL HAPPENS TO YOUR FAMILY WILL
DEPEND ON YOU

March 9, 2015