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Rachel C. Sykes
Abstract
Older adulthood is often a period of great change; children mature to adulthood, aging parents
require care and ultimately pass away, and working adults retire from traditional working life.
For many, this period is marked not only by change but also by loss of family and friends, and
some individuals may turn to counseling to make sense of these changes and seek new meaning.
This paper discusses these common experiences in older adulthood in detail and proposes that
Existential Therapy may be an appropriate therapeutic approach with this population. It also
reviews some of the core beliefs of Existential Therapy and demonstrates that they are in
Older adults face unique pressures; it is often a time when adults spend time caring for
aging parents, perhaps in addition to raising their own children. Some adults must deal with
changing identity roles, as adult children begin to live independently and require less care. This
can be a time when adults must repurpose their efforts away from childcare to other meaningful
pursuits. Many adults also begin to transition away from the working world into retirement.
Furthermore, sometimes these changes occur in conjunction with existing mental health
challenges. Counseling professionals can provide support to clients with such transitions and
responsibilities. Given the likelihood of experiencing significant life changes in older adulthood,
Existential Therapy may be appropriate to help clients deal with loss and find purpose.
Learning to deal with pressures of caring for aging parents can grow to be a daily or even
full-time responsibility, and carers are often faced with limited assistance from friends and
family. It can become an increasing burden for years—even decades—and often takes an
emotional toll on the caregiver. Watching a parent, a formerly powerful figure, diminish
physically, emotionally, and/or mentally can be a complicated experience. Many adult carers
experience frustration with their aging parent and with the situation itself, which can arouse
feelings of guilt and remorse. Given the often lengthy nature of this responsibility, it is not
surprising to find that many of these caregivers experience higher incidences of depression and
anxiety, particularly when the parent has some form of cognitive impairment (Sohlberg,
Sohlberg, & Peterson, 2014). Further, Townsend et al. (1989) found that caregivers’ perception
of their own caregiving abilities and perceived stress were indicators of depressive symptoms,
suggesting that mental health counseling may be a useful intervention. Even those adult children
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who are less central to their parent’s daily care often experience feelings of guilt (Townsend,
In addition to the practical task-oriented struggles of providing for an elder parent, carers
must also prepare for the inevitable—this parent will ultimately pass away. Preparing for the
experience of parental loss can itself be stressful and grief-inducing. A Danish study found that
family caregivers struggling with high levels of grief prior to the passing of a family member
reported, post-death, high levels of psychological distress and unpreparedness for this passing
Counseling may provide adult carers the skills and support needed to cope with stress and
address depressive feelings. One study of adult daughters found that caregivers who struggled to
cope emotionally were more likely to be depressed than others who employed more effective
emotional mastery (Li, Seltzer, & Greenberg, 1999). These authors also noted that adults with
greater access to social and psychological resources, such as supportive siblings and counseling
Transition to Retirement
Another important change in adult life is the transition into retirement. Individuals effect
their retirement in different ways and for various reasons. Traditionally, when an individual
retired from a work, they shifted from a full-time obligation to full-retirement; retirees are now
often choosing different paths into their later years. Some pre-retirees may choose to reduce the
days or hours worked to offer them more time for personal pursuits, or simply transition to a
more meaningful job, such as volunteer work or teaching. There are some individuals who are
fortunate enough to plan for their retirement upon their own terms, seeking to engage in a time of
leisure and personal pursuits. Many others retire involuntarily, due to job loss, difficulty
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obtaining a job in their older years, or for health reasons. Further, parents with primary child
care responsibilities may have worked inside the home in an unpaid capacity, and, finding their
Many individuals naively look forward to retirement as a time to leave their obligation to
work but often have not defined how to create new meaning in their lives. A 2016 study shows
that some retiring individuals experience a loss of social and financial resources and of their self-
identity (Henning, Lindwall, & Johansson, 2016). Individuals approaching retirement often feel
anxiety due to lack of planning or confidence in their own ability to deal with the retirement
transition (Fretz, Kluge, Ossana, Jones, & Merikangas, 1989). Some of these individuals may
benefit from therapeutic support to define how best to transition to retirement to ease feelings of
Attitudes about retiring can vary among individuals but most will experience a loss of
friends, spouses and abilities that may be difficult to accept. Retirees will need to find new ways
of structuring their time to create meaning through personal activities and socializing. In the
past, many older adults have increased time spent in religious pursuits. However, a 2015 Pew
Research Center publication found that, between 2007 and 2014, the number of religiously
unaffiliated Americans has grown by 6 percentage points while those who identify as Christian
Americans dropped by 8 percentage points. Given the shift in middle class American values
away from religious faith as well as in church attendance and related activities, it is possible that
more older Americans will struggle to find meaning in an increasingly secular society.
While it may be expedient to characterize older adults homogeneously, they have a wide
range of capabilities and needs. Nonetheless, there are some thematic issues that are likely to be
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present in this large group of individuals, including the ability to deal with loss and a desire to
find meaning in life. Older adults are likely to lose friends and family, including spouses, to
death at an increasing rate. Such losses can be expected to result in normal levels distress,
however, these symptoms sometimes become more serious, resulting in clinical levels of
depression. In one study, researchers noted that 10-15% of bereaved individuals experienced
persistent grief and chronic depression (Coifman & Bonanno, 2010). Even the less tragic losses
experienced during this time—those of direct childcare responsibilities and career changes—
Existential Therapy is based on three primary tenets: free will, the search for meaning,
and self-determination (Neukrug, 2018). Practitioners seek to develop an authentic basis with
clients to encourage them to identify problematic beliefs and take responsibility for addressing
them. Ultimately, this therapeutic approach seeks to help clients understand themselves and their
own choices and help them in their search to take responsibility to live more authentically. Some
of the key concepts of existential therapy are closely aligned with the needs of older adults and
offer clients a forward-looking framework by which to view their circumstances and create a
path forward. These related existential concepts include death and non-being, freedom,
When faced with the impending or actual death of a parent, especially in a caregiving
situation, individuals often manifest anxiety as a symptom to avoid acceptance of death. One of
Existential Therapy’s primary concepts is that one’s fear of death is central and anxiety-
provoking, and drives individuals to develop inauthentic ways of living to avoid recognition of
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our ultimate death. This fear can be comprised of multiple aspects, including fear of pain
associated with death, fear of abandonment, and loss of dignity (Garrow & Walker, 2001).
While the loss of friends and family are not exclusive to older individuals, it is more likely that,
as one ages, one’s elders and contemporaries begin to pass on with increasing frequency. The
work of Garrow and Walker (2001) supports the idea that when an individual must deal with a
loss of life, it may trigger fear; they share that “death anxiety” (pp. 77) can manifest when one is
faced with the experience of a death. One of the goals of Existential Therapy is for a client to
face their fate directly so that person can recognize past behaviors intended to avoid the reality of
death and non-being, and ultimately make an informed decision about how to live life in a
Freedom
There are many types of freedom: there is freedom from enslavement and oppression, as
well as economic freedom and psychological freedom (Neukrug, 2018). An Existential therapist
may seek to help clients create a life that includes the freedom to change (Garrow & Walker,
2001). Many individuals feel bound by a self-imposed sense of obligation that prevents them
from making choices to live authentically. Such a person may fail to recognize that this
obligation may be self-imposed and based on some faulty assumptions. For example, a parent of
adult children may choose to work in a hated job due to a self-imposed obligation to earn enough
money to assist his adult children. This therapist would likely challenge such an assumption to
help the client see that it is actually a choice rather than an obligation, and encourage the client to
Responsibility
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individual recognizes that they indeed have the freedom to make choices, they must also accept
that they are responsible for their own happiness. Many mid- to late-life adults must also deal
with physical and cognitive impairments, which may seem limiting. However, from an
existential perspective, these adults may develop the capacity to see that they still have the
freedom and responsibility to determine how they respond to such circumstances. A counselor
could assist the client to feel empowered by such choices and create a new way forward. One
research paper described a case study in which a depressive elderly man reported he could no
longer enjoy ballroom dancing due to worsening health (Laidlaw & Pachana, 2009). Therapy
was able to help him see that, while his circumstances had changed, he could take responsibility
for his own happiness. As such, he chose to participate in specific dances that were less
physically problematic and to participate in a fewer number of dances per outing. This change in
perspective and behavior enabled him to take responsibility for his own well-being, continue his
Isolation
From an existential perspective, one must recognize that there are various types of
isolation, including isolation from one’s social community, isolation from oneself, and existential
isolation (Neukrug, 2018). Existential isolation refers to the recognition that individuals are all
alone in this world and must therefore make peace with being alone (Neukrug, 2018). When a
person retires, they often miss the structure if not the content of their former life, and may
struggle with spending far more time alone. Existential therapy may help clients to recognize
this fear as a mechanism to avoid this sense of isolation, and to learn to accept “aloneness” (pp.
171). Yalom (1980) suggests that existential counseling in a group format can be a vehicle that
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provides clients insight into their own behavior, the impact it has on others, and that they must
Meaninglessness
One of this approach’s primary tenets is that we are all born into a world devoid of
meaning or purpose and that many of our behaviors are intended to help us avoid recognition of
life’s absurdity. Neukrug (2018) suggests that while many individuals fear to acknowledge the
meaningless of life, one may instead choose to see it as empowering, move away from old
preconceptions, and take responsibility to create one’s own definition of meaning. Faced with
the death of one’s contemporaries, changing role as parent, or a change to a more retiring
lifestyle, individuals may find that their conceptions about what is important no longer apply.
Finding the courage to identify new ways to create meaning can be a goal of existential therapy.
One study suggests that existential counseling in a group setting can help older adults challenge
their acceptance of societal views on aging and encourage them to find meaning in a way that
Anxiety
or angst, which is experienced when an individual realizes that they are in fact alone in this
world and that life has no inherent purpose, and neurotic anxiety, which is a manifestation of a
person’s resistance to accepting the truth of existential anxiety. While this may appear to be an
avoidance behaviors and are even the underlying cause of illness (Neukrug, 2018). These
avoidance behaviors can be likened to Freud’s defense mechanisms and Adler’s negative
although, contrary to common expectations, one study found that older adults suffer from anxiety
Guilt
Like the existential view on anxiety, the existential therapist would contend that there are
two types of guilt: neurotic or moral guilt, and existential guilt. Neurotic guilt is encountered
when a person fails to act in accordance with their own moral beliefs, and existential guilt relates
to one’s recognition that he or she has failed to live up to one’s own potential. When caring for
one’s aging parents, an adult might feel guilty about their resentment and frustration with this
responsibility. An existentialist might suggest that, in fact, the individual has chosen to care for
their aging parents, and that they have the freedom to choose how to respond to the situation.
This might be a helpful coping skill for a client to address guilty feelings and enable him to
Authenticity
Upon retirement, individuals often find themselves with more time to reflect on life,
which provides them with the opportunity to determine if they have been living in accordance
with their true goals and beliefs. One fosters existential authenticity by living in a meaningful
way. For example, a client may have adopted values and goals that are materialistic, and, upon
retirement, may find herself able to recognize the contradiction between actual and ideal beliefs,
and choose to strip away non-authentic ways of being. An existential therapist would contend
that one is only living authentically when she accepts the meaninglessness of existence and the
inevitability of death, and still chooses to take responsibility to create a meaningful life.
While this approach offers many opportunities to create meaning for older adults, it may
not be appropriate for all. Individuals who lack the capacity or interest to comprehend abstract
concepts such as meaninglessness and death and non-being are likely not good candidates for an
existential approach. Further, individuals who are more comfortable with an external locus of
control may be uncomfortable taking responsibility for their own happiness. While
existentialism may be compatible with some religions such as Buddhism, it may be less effective
with highly religious individuals who believe in more proscriptive views and external sources of
power.
they move from child-rearing and traditional working life to caretaking for parents and
experiencing retirement. During this time, older adults also increasingly experience the personal
loss of family and friends. Existential Therapy emphasizes concepts that align well with these
life changes, such as death and non-being, freedom, responsibility, isolation, meaninglessness,
anxiety, guilt, and authenticity. As such, it may offer a good fit theoretical fit for this large and
growing population.
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