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love-pinkLove is a complex set of emotions, behaviors, and beliefs associated with strong feelings of
affection, protectiveness, warmth, and respect for another person. Love can also be used to apply to
non-human animals, to principles, and to religious beliefs. For example, a person might say he or she
loves his or her dog, loves freedom, or loves God.
WHAT IS LOVE?
Love has been a favored topic of philosophers, poets, writers, and scientists for generations, and
different people and groups have often fought about its definition. While most people agree that love
implies strong feelings of affection, there are many disagreements about its precise meaning, and one
person’s “I love you” might mean something quite different than another’s. Some possible definitions of
love include:
A choice to commit to helping, respecting, and caring for another, such as in marriage or when having a
child.
There has been much debate about whether love is a choice, is something that is permanent or fleeting,
and whether the love between family members and spouses is biologically programmed or culturally
indoctrinated. Love may vary from person to person and culture to culture. Each of the debates about
love may be accurate in some time and some place. For example, in some instances, love may be a
choice while in others it may feel uncontrollable.
Love is something that is cultivated between two people and grows over time, through getting to know
him or her and experiencing life’s many ups and downs together. It involves commitment, time, mutual
trust, and acceptance.
Lust, on the other hand, has to do with the sex-driven sensations that draw people toward one another
initially and is fueled primarily by the urge to procreate. Characterized by sex hormones and idealistic
infatuation, lust blurs our ability to see a person for who he or she truly is and consequently, it may or
may not lead to a long-term relationship.
For instance, Lana is in a committed relationship with Steve and her sexual desire for him is waning. She
loves and cares for him, but she finds herself feeling restless and dissatisfied with their physical
relationship. When she meets Brendan, she experiences instant feelings of attraction and longing. The
chemical messengers in her brain start sending signals to pursue this new man, even though she does
not know anything about him other than how his presence makes her feel physically. Instead of working
to improve intimacy with her current partner, she is overcome by lust for someone new.
The ideal intimate relationship scenario, some might say, involves a balanced combination of love and
lust. After all, lusting after someone is typically an important early phase of a long-term partnership, and
reigniting that initial spark is a practice worth cultivating for committed couples.
Although almost no one can agree on a single definition of love, most people do agree that love plays a
significant role in both physical and psychological well-being. Numerous studies have demonstrated the
benefits of love. Love’s role in mental health is far-reaching, but some examples include:
The fact that babies who are not shown love and affection in the form of frequent holding and cuddling
may be developmentally delayed or ill.
Feeling unloved is strongly correlated with feelings of low self-esteem and depression.
People who both feel loved by others and who report loving other people tend to be happier.
Love can play a role in long-term health, and feeling emotionally connected may help increase
immunity.
References:
Anonymous. (September 2, 2002). How to tell whether it’s love, like or lust. Jet 102.11, 12-14. Retrieved
from http://search.proquest.com.ez.trlib.info/docview/199970680/1833AF113A8E4DCAPQ/3?
accountid=1229
Prinz, J. J. (2007). The emotional construction of morals. Oxford: Oxford University Press.
Wilson, G. D., & McLaughlin, C. (2001). The science of love. London: Fusion Press.
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emmanuel q.
emmanuel q.
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arwin c.
arwin c.
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Theodore
Theodore
Brooke
Brooke
What is love? That’s an age old question we may never find a simple answer to. However, the effort you
made in this post is incredible. I love your writing style, and you really gave some meaningful insight.
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Yogesh
Yogesh
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markjhan
markjhan
Eden
Eden
Love is what u do not what u say .it is a mutual attraction that binds two or more people together
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yogesh
yogesh
yes……
Bright
Bright
jessica
jessica
Me and my boyfriend
sbadreck
sbadreck
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Jo
Jo
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dunno
dunno
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Judy
Judy
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Kailash
Kailash
it is good post.
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Nicetracy
Nicetracy
I Love All U Guys Post.,so Let Lov Lead Since We Knw D Meaning Nw..
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Anne
Anne
I know someone who is caring, loving, honest, reliable and committed to whatever she does, more than
anything she is likeable and staunchly protective of those close to her. She volunteers in her community
and people like and respect her, OK so far, yes, good.
Now one day she gets a request for friendship of social media, who is a male just a little younger than
her, normally she would dismiss this straight to the bin, but this time something makes her respond to
this mystery male. Now this is completely out of character for her to do this, she is a woman that has
been happily married for over 40years, why suddenly be tempted to stray from that. But she tells me as
soon as he replied to her, she knew, knew what? I asked.
She said it was weird, she just felt an unusual rush of such intense emotions and the sense of familiarity,
that she felt overwhelmed and shocked by her reaction. She had at this point not seen what he looked
like, so she felt even more confused that these feelings were for some one sight unseen. She told me
she knew it was destiny, and she felt she knew him before, and she said when they continued talking
she felt she’d come home. What I find strange is the male concerned, felt the same about her. So tell me
is it love or is it lust?
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Bindu
Bindu
I am very honest when I love a person but over a time feel.. I really love and care but I don’t feel like I
am loved….
There I found and answer…. We are looking outside what we really are….. ” I AM LOVE”
and in Bible I found a word in 1 John 4-8 God is Love… If God is Love then what is Love… Love is God….
So whatever comes from external with expectations… So we cannot explain its list od the flesh or lust of
money.. Or something else….
Truth is “I AM LOVE” when we look it outside for it, we will lose our energy and time…
What we are in this earth part of a character.. I mean.. Same time we act as Father or mother, child,
husband, colleague, Boss, according to our situation so we do live as an actor everyday… Playing the role
of a husband or wife… Children or brother or sister, friend or colleague… So whatever we feel it’s all
emotions…
LANDALES
LANDALES
There is truly nothing wrong in finding your soulmate/s via social media or otherwise. Looks don’t
matter the soul knows who makes it complete. Your soulmate/s accept you completely and are happy
wen you are happy (whether that means you’re married or with another soulmate).
Convention dictates there can only be one soulmate/kismet out there. But love is exponential
If there is more than one soulmate be truthful with all concerned and if they’re your soulmate they will
accept the other in time and help strengthen everyone’s bond.
OkoAustin
OkoAustin
do love still exist? because I been trying to love but it seems that material things have taking love away
from this new generation rather what we experience now is lust amoung our self. inshot I so much like
this page thank you so much.
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Violet
Violet
LOVE is impossible to define and different for everyone. That sits very well within me.
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Rahninho
Rahninho
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Jennifer
Jennifer
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isaac
isaac
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YUSUF
YUSUF
HI MY DEAR FRIEND
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Sahar
Sahar
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saeid
saeid
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Ahmed T
Ahmed T
Love’s simply an excuse to get hurt.. By it’s sweetness. I love You all_
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biira
biira
love is understandable
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vaibhav k.
vaibhav k.
rasheed
rasheed
love is life
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nomfundo
nomfundo
To me only blibical and love from homes makes sense because from then you’ll be able to pass it on
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Laura
Laura
I agree to me love is family, people I know, people I trust, people who look after me and just the people
around me that care for me!
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Prince
Prince
I agree with this post but i personally think that love is something that drives us and keep us on a the
right path. If we are alone and have no love in our life we may not be as worried and thriving towards
better life as we do when we are concerned about people we love and giving them a good and healthy
life. Love is what comes from inside. Loved this post keep up good writing.
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Brix
Brix
The true meaning of love is when God gave his only son for the forgives of all our sin. He is a God that
dresses himself to become a human so that He will feel what we have have felt from this earthly thing.
Now he sit at the right of His father all He ask is to forgive all those people who had sin with us. Forgive
so that we can meet the true love. Forgive your self before you gave forgiveness to others.
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sophist
sophist
Love is what u do not what u say. It is a mutual attraction that unites two people together. There is a
major difference between love and lust. Nowadays people are considering love on the basis of attractive
looks, money, bank balance. If Love marriages are based on these criteria than people bind themselves
officially for lust and when it’s over they separate.
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Winter
Winter
Love is the deepest part of life, no one can reach its end. It’s the subject of the life we live.
Love is like light formed out of darkness brighten everything in every little opportunity.
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Rahul
Rahul
love is …………
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Pronamika
Pronamika
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Wil
Wil
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Wil
Wil
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angel
angel
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VARUN
VARUN
Awesome Article.
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muhammad u.
muhammad u.
It is true but love have a large pain for follower. and i am in thin pain.
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mule
mule
Krishnendu D
Krishnendu D
This article is very nice… good explain what is love? Good website
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Geaniece M
Geaniece M
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Jarvis
Jarvis
The difference between love and lust.. hmmm wow interesting I just hope I get help cause I really need
to stop lusting over people
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Pop
Pop
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Kf
Kf
Love is about how much you can sacrifice for others. Can you sacrifice your favourite tv show to
accompany your partner to go shopping etc? If someone can sacrifice their life for their loved ones, that
is ultimate true love.
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Soubhagya Behera
Soubhagya Behera
It is helpful.
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ajay
ajay
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Rohan
Rohan
It’s just a chemical reaction that compels animals to procreate from science point of view just like the
article I mentioned states but well, people can define their own meaning of love
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Tesfaye
Tesfaye
what is love?
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mery
mery
Love is the deepest part of life, no one can reach its end. It’s the subject of the life we live.
Love is like light formed out of darkness brighten everything in every little opportunity.
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https://modto.ir/
https://modto.ir/
Giving love.
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rocky
rocky
February 5th, 2020 at 7:30 PM
Thanks sir share this information. I really helpful this article. I read full content. Thanks you so much..
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Alicia
Alicia
I believe that love is a choice. I am currently going through a divorce. I was recently questioned about
whether or not I really ever loved my husband. After giving the question some thought, I came to the
conclusion that love is a choice. It begins as lust, as you said, and grows through mutual respect and
trust. As long as my husband was good to me, and I him, it was an easy choice. But as years went by, my
husband became abusive. First, he lost my trust, then my respect, and at the end, I stopped making the
choice to love him and I left. I don’t think this means that I never loved him, I did, and I do still care
about him in the sense that I wish no harm on him. I think there are a lot of preconceived notions that
begin at a young age that are cultivated from fairy tales that love IS a fairy tale.
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sandip
sandip
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Paige
Paige
There is this boy, he recently broke up with his girlfriend (3 months ago) and he told me he just wanted
time, and I respect that. But one day he took me on a date and he kissed me. So naturally I went home
and asked if we were dating and he said no. I just want to know if that kiss actually meant something to
him or if I was just something for him to do.
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puspa
puspa
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CHRISTIANA
CHRISTIANA
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Swarsattie
Swarsattie
“Love and Love in an ideal intimate relationship scenario is a balanced combination?” All in one. Thank
you for sharing this article with the world including me. I learned some deep meaningful insight of what
love is and how to I identify the difference between love and lust. I read all the others comments and I
learned plenty too. Thank you guys so much! I needed this.
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Rambido
Rambido
April 26th, 2020 at 6:41 AM
Love is long suffering (more than patience), it is kind, love does not envy, love does not boast, nor puffed
up with pride, does not act unseemly, has no self interest (an important test!), is not provoked, does not
impute harm. Love DOES rejoice with the truth, bears all, believes all, hopes all, endures all. Love never
fails. Love is a decision we make, not something we fall into or out of.
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Muhindo A. M.
Muhindo A. M.
Aaron
I have learnt that there is true love and false love and in any case true love is better because it heals and
the opposite is vice- versa. And besides good therapy is the best because it covers all other types of love
since it works on the premise of the well-being of humans and other creation in the universe.
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Mobie
Mobie
it’s great.
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