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Question:
Having read the different theories about love which attempt to define this emotion, how would
you define it? Do you think there is value in these theories or do they simply attempt to make the
idea of love too clinical or intellectual and therefore take away the enjoyment and spontaneity?
To define love, for me, would be entirely different from someone else’s perspective. I
believe it is harder, for me, to break down the barrier to fully define it because of what happened
to me with one of my exs. I lack the physical aspect because of fear of what was taken advantage
of without me really knowing what was going on and the lack of understanding. For that reason,
I am not as physical with my boyfriend as I am with my girlfriend because it is “safer” for me. I
am more emotional and more grounding with him than I am with her, and I think that goes
together. To build something that someone else destroyed is wholesome and meaningful. Love,
to me, is being able to express yourself through the five love languages and be able to mold
yourself to their needs to make it full and to see their smile everyday.
Love is different for everyone because there are limits that everyone has at some point,
whether they are sexual or emotional. Love is a double standard where someone has to give and
take, it is not just the male buys dinner, or the female wears a thin dress to impress the guy/girl
she is with. I have seen, or heard, men talk about not wanting to buy tampons or not wanting to
buy flowers in the fear of their friends thinking that they are whipped and they are on a leash
with their girlfriend or boyfriend or anything under this umbrella of love. I do not even know
how often I perched to my boyfriend regarding the different love languages that I have read and
heard of because everyone receives love differently. Acts of service, gifts, affirmations, touch or
time together. I think those needs to be mentioned because the way I receive love is entirely
different from what my boyfriend or girlfriend does and to understand that, makes it easier for
me to make sure that they feel loved and cared for. But there are moments that the relationship
itself will be 80-20 or 50-50 or 75-25 because of emotions and feelings outside of the
relationship.
(PEA), a chemical correlate of amphetamine, which may result in a giddy feeling similar to an
amphetamine high." (Knox & Milstein, 2017, p. 138.) To look at love as a logical response is a
harder aspect than just being there to feel it and be there for that person. Yes, when in love
different chemicals are released when a person is in love or even having an orgasm, but until it is
felt is an entirely different experience than punching numbers in a calculator and trying to make
sense of it. I do not believe that it takes the enjoyment out of being in love, there is not a harm in
understanding what is going through your body, I think it would mean more to feel it, rather than
analyze it.
Knox, D., & Milstein, S. (2017). Human Sexuality: Making Informed Decisions (5th ed.) [with