How To Be Classy

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How To Be Classy

By

Anna Bey

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Chapter 1
Introduction to Being Classy

To women who want to become the best versions of yourselves. This book is for you.

I've always had a belief that everything is possible in life. Over the years, from my
own experience, I've noticed that it's actually true, anything IS possible if you put
your mind to it. This led me to an immense interest in self-transformation, regularly
practicing on myself. I learned by studying others that people can come from all
kinds of background and walks of life, but we all have the same ability to create
change.

Change happens when there is a burning desire to attain a different outcome, and if
you’re reading this book, you might have selected it because you want to understand
better the topic of having “class" and how to achieve it. Maybe you're a person who
has no clue where to start, but you know that you want to step up your game and
become a better version of yourself. Or perhaps you're already half-way, but you got
stuck in your progress, and now you need some fresh ideas to re-invent yourself.
Others, who may not have had a classy past, want to break free from something that's
holding them back and improve their overall image with the help of this book.

Each of our stories will be different, but we all have something in common: we are
aware that there is a classy aspect to life. There are women with a certain poise who
stand out from the crowd and who live life in a way we would like to identify with.

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These women are strong and confident. They have self-respect and impeccable
manners, which gives them significant advantages in life.

Over the years, I’ve gathered valuable information, interviewed tons of classy
women, and decoded the blueprint of what sets them apart from the crowd. I’ve
observed hundreds of cases and examined what they are doing and what makes them
stand out. There are certain things they have in common—some that are obvious and
others that may come as a surprise. My mission has been to gather this information
and present them as tools for you to use on your journey of self-transformation.

We all need to cultivate and reassess ourselves from time to time and see where there
is room for improvement. You might need to work on your self-esteem, and the way
you see yourself, or maybe you need to improve the way you behave. Whatever desire
for change you may have, becoming classy is perhaps the ultimate goal for most
modern women who feel they deserve the very best. The good news is that anyone
can reach this goal. And this book will teach you how.

Being called “classy” may be one of the highest compliments a woman can receive
today. The term describes her overall presence, from how she looks to how she acts
and how she lives her life. We know that she keeps a high standard and that she
respects herself and her surrounding, and this creates her signature trait. Becoming
this woman reaps many benefits. She stands out in the crowd. She earns respect and
admiration while becoming a role model for others.

Classiness has never been more sought after than today, thanks to a society that has
downgraded its standards and people who have lost their manners and
sophistication. If you go back fifty-plus years ago, elegance was the norm. Today it
has become a rarity. Instead, we feed our brains with trash TV, vulgar role models,
and ignorance. With this social education, it’s challenging to nourish the growth of
classiness. We adapt to impolite ways of living and miss out on the positive benefits
that you get from being classy.

Good examples of this are those women who have potential, but their poor tastes and

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lack of social educations sabotage their successes. It’s a shame because they may be
wonderful, but people judge them based on how they present themselves, and most
times people never get past the first impression.

Benefits of becoming a classy woman:

1. Your elegant appearance will make you more attractive.

2. You will make more friends.
3. You will feel better about yourself.
4. Your manners will make you become a very likable person in your community.
5. You will earn more respect from people.
6. You will become more desirable on the “single’s market,” since classy is an
attribute men search for in women.
7. You will feel confident in any social situation, with any person.
8. Your career will benefit from your mature and professional image.
9. You will receive more opportunities.
10. You will receive better treatment from people.
11. You will have higher chances of success.
12. Your life might change for the better.

Some of these benefits may sound strange to you. Why would there be more
opportunities, and why would you suddenly have a higher chance of success?
The reason is simple human psychology. When we meet trustworthy people who look
representable and act accordingly, we tend to like them instinctively. When we like
them, we help them and treat them well.

Working on your classy presence is, therefore, an investment you can make not only
for yourself and your community but also for your future.

What is Classy?

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The definition of having or showing class:

Being elegant, sophisticated, stylish.

Being graceful, refined, tasteful.

Having or reflecting high standards of personal behavior.

Someone with impeccable manners who always consider others.

The character of a refined person with proper etiquette and common courtesy.

Being classy is a lifestyle. It’s an everyday choice. It’s not only the way a person looks
but also a mentality and a way of living.

This book will explain in detail everything you need to know about being a classy
woman, but before we start I will share with you my disclosure:

1. You don’t need to be of a specific social status class to be classy

Being classy has nothing to do with your background or class system in society.
While some may assume that the upper-class is the only “real classy people,” this is
not true and only a matter of misconception. Classy behavior is often in line with the
well-bred upper-class who have similar philosophy in their social educations. But
elegance and sophistication are separate to bloodlines or economic or social statuses
—it’s bound to personal attributes and behavior, which anyone can achieve at any
point in life.

2. There is no universal approach

Once you have finished reading this book, you will have come across a lot of
information that describes the persona of someone classy.

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You might think some of it sounds rigid, stereotypical, or perhaps old-fashioned, but
the truth is that it’s only a generalization of the guidelines of how a classy woman
should be.
The information is to help you align yourself with this energy, not to copy it and
think that you must change your entire self to become some fictional character in a
book. Apply to yourself as much as you feel is You.
Self-transformation is an ongoing journey, and sometimes we need to take things
slow and in small but continuous doses. You don’t need to become an entirely new
person —but you can tweak to become a better version of yourself, and this book
teaches you how you can develop your image to become classier.

3. Your classy barometer will vary

Depending on the social situation and who surrounds you, your classy “barometer”
will be in higher or lower modes. It’s normal behavior. We all switch between our
formal and informal side, depending on if we are with family members or strangers,
for example. How I am with person A, might not be the same as when I am with
person B. Same goes for the surroundings, if it’s somewhere casual or formal, we
naturally tweak our vibration to adapt.
The classy barometer will therefore vary, and it’s completely normal. Sometimes we
just want to put our feet up for a second, and we may do so when we feel it’s
appropriate. Nobody is a robot acting formally 365 days a week; we’re only humans
after all!

What is Classy Coaching?

Anyone interested in self-improvement will probably be familiar with the art of

journaling: scribbling random thoughts, making lists, and setting written goals.
Throughout this book, I will include exercises (“Classy Coaching”) for you to
complete and write down in your journal. If you don’t own one, I suggest getting one,
as it’s a well-known fact that when you write something down, you increase your
chance of success by 42 percent.

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If journaling is not your thing, you can write on some paper or do the exercises
verbally or silently in your mind. I will gather all the tasks at the end of this book for
those who belong to the category of people who prefer reading everything first and
then going back to follow up with the exercise parts. Do what suits you best. Classy
Coaching is additional practice for you to reach clarity and keep yourself aligned with
the path you're taking.

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Classy Coaching #1

Classy role models are great inspirations for anyone, regardless your current level of
classiness. You should study them carefully and reflect on what you can use as
inspiration for your transformational journey.

A) Write down who your classy role models are.

B) Analyze what these role models wear, how they look, how they behave, how they
carry themselves, how they speak, and so on, and try and pinpoint exactly what
makes them appear so classy?

It often resides in the details, and your mission is to discover these traits.

Write down everything you come up with in your journal, and reflect on how you can
incorporate this into yourself and your own life.

Examples of classy celebrities:

Nicole Kidman

Kate Middleton

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Iman

Julia Roberts

Natalie Portman

Julianne Moore

Vanessa Paradis

Audrey Hepburn

Grace Kelly

Kate Winslet

Queen Rania of Jordan

Amal Clooney

Helen Mirren

Cate Blanchett

Naomi Watts

Helen Hunt

Diane Kruger

Ingrid Bergman

Diane Keaton

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Audrey Tautou

Halle Berry

Coco Chanel

Katharine Hepburn

Sophia Loren

Jackie Onassis

Maya Angelou

Charlene, Princess of Monaco

Lauren Bacall

(It’s worth Googling the names you don’t recognize, as all of these stunning women
can add inspiration to your discovery.)

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Chapter 2
Develop a Classy Mindset

It all starts in your mind! Whenever you need to improve yourself, you always need
to begin where all your thoughts and actions get born—it’s inside your head.

No changes to your appearances or behavior will have any effect if your mental self is
totally off. I, therefore, want to start by looking into the mindset of a classy woman,
as that’s where her entire “self” gets created. The power resides in the mind of a
person, and you should take this to your advantage if you are serious about making
changes.

What you believe in is what will define you and shine through you and transmit to
others. If you sharpen your mind to a classy, sophisticated self, it will become so
much easier for the rest of your improvements to follow.

So let’s get to know the classy woman and her mentality.

In previous generations, a woman with class was a woman who was quiet and
adaptable with immense self-control who had to act “pulled together at all times” to
receive respect from the society. This stereotype is passé in our modern world.
Women today have more rights, more freedom, and more confidence to be who they
really are. Having class is not about being a puppet in a man’s world or turning

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yourself into a doormat. A woman with strong ability to compose herself and have
immense self-control may come across as classy, but she easily loses her “self” and
instead becomes a shadow to everyone else.
A classy woman would never go against herself to attain a specific image. She
wouldn’t put on a facade and act in a certain way unless that’s her character. She is
authentic, and her genuine actions put her in the light—where she knows she
belongs. As a result, she is always herself, and that makes her attractive.

Classy is about being the best version of yourself. It’s about becoming refined. The
main principle of becoming classy is based on personal growth, to fine tune your
weaknesses and improving yourself. There is no “one-size-fits-all” concept. A classy
woman does not have a particular personality, which everyone must mimic if they
want to become sophisticated.

One classy woman can be very conservative and quiet, while another is flamboyant
and expressive. Or someone else might have an odd character that is so charming it
becomes her signature trait. People are different, and these differences are to be
embraced!
Being classy is more than portraying an image of being “Miss Perfect.” It’s about
being authentic and honest with who you are without holding back and forcing
yourself to be someone you are not.

But we all know that some personal traits are not to favor, instead, they require a
significant amount of work and self-realization. Nobody is perfect, and we all have
weaknesses we must acknowledge and continuously work on improving. Sometimes
these faults take over a person entirely and create personalities that are flawed by
poor behavior, bad manners, and insecurities that can make the most elegant looking
woman not to appear very classy. In many cases, these women are polished to
perfection with their sophisticated looks but their personalities are totally off, and it
ruins everything!
Your inner self must reflect your outer self if you want to achieve true class. An
improper inside will never create a woman of a high standard. We all have flaws, but
it’s critical to examine yourself and see if your issues ruin your overall personality. It

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can be things like having provocative behavior and being an attention seeker or
drama queen.

Most often women who behave in not-so-classy ways are usually not fully aware of
that themselves. They are trapped in some form of belief and never manage to do any
self-reflection. If they ever come across outer feedback, they may brush it off by
putting their defenses on, thinking people are only jealous and that they are perfect
as they are. Unfortunately, these women will not have much success in their personal
development. Instead, they will get stuck and always remain the same. For change to
happen, a person must develop the ability to be truly honest and always strive for
improving—that means doing constant reality checks and sometimes acknowledge
some painful truths.

Examples of not-so-classy personality traits:

Being…

self-absorbed
paranoid
stingy
aggressive
a mood swinger
jealous
controlling
a liar
flaky
shady
nosy
rude
an ice queen
a drama queen
bitchy
an attention seeker

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desperate
desperate to impress others (trying too hard)
addicted to self-validation
very insecure
a diva
the one who acts superior to everyone
the gossip girl

The list can go on . . .

Anyone who has these elements in their character sends out negative energy that
stains the positive image of a classy image. It’s like wearing a beautiful, white dress
with a large stain on it. Nobody will look at the dress but only look at the horrible
stain. The same goes for a woman’s behavior. Nobody will care if she dresses
immaculately and uses the correct fork at the dinner table if her personality is
terrible. They will only focus on her sour nature.

As we progress through life, some women might not have had a very classy past.
Perhaps they acted trashy or had lousy behavior that negatively labeled them.
Sometimes these women begin to believe in this image to the point, they let it define
themselves and create an illusion that they can never become classy (or be part of a
high-class society). They continue their negative paths for years and years as they
don’t think society would ever accept different versions of them.

Don’t believe this; a woman can change at any point in her life! Most of us have done
things that we have regretted, and we have acted in ways that possibly would make
us embarrassed today, but it’s part of life and our discovery here, to grow and
continuously evolve. A dirty past shall not hinder your values and aspirations of
today because everyone changes. People change all the time. Who you are today is
probably not who you will be in five years. So holding onto an outdated image that is
not for your benefit is not only ridiculous but it’s blocking your future. It’s stopping
the natural course of your evolvement and letting you achieve what you truly deserve.

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Becoming a classy lady is about becoming the best version of yourself. Nobody is
perfect, and nobody is born classy and sophisticated. It’s something we learn over
time by interacting with the world and experiencing trial and error.

It’s never too late to develop a classy mindset because this mindset can take you very
far in life. If you have the mind, you’ll get the rest eventually, but it all starts within
yourself!
Without a classy mindset, you cannot be classy because everything else that belongs
to your overall image (fashion, beauty, behavior, etc.) will be flawed if you transmit
the wrong attitude. So priority one is working on your inner self—get rid of the
garbage that is holding you back, and make room for new, classy attributes to
flourish.

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Classy Coaching #2

This exercise requires you to dismantle all defense mechanisms that you may have
and be completely honest with yourself, even if the truth may hurt.

A) With pure kindness, ask yourself: What are the flaws in your character and
personality?

Take inspiration from the list of suggestions of not-so-classy personalities that I have
provided above and ask your honest self if you have any of these influences and why?

Write them down.

Ask yourself if you have any bad behavior that labels your personality and why you
behave the way you do.

Examples:

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“I forget to say thank you to people because I’m so absentminded, so my personality

comes across as rude”

“I act like I’m the best all the time because I feel so insecure and don’t want people to
see the truth. I know people think of me as an arrogant person or a diva.”

B) Choose someone you feel comfortable opening up to and being vulnerable with.
Ask that person to be entirely honest with you and give you their view on the things
you have written down about yourself in exercise A).

C) Ask this person if he/she has any additional feedback on your personality/
behavior that you might not have listed.

Be open to the feedback without being defensive, even if it may be difficult. This is for
your own gain.

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Classy Attributes

There are some common traits of classy women and their personalities, which is
something you should take into your own account. Let’s look at some admirable
attributes that these graceful women possess that creates the foundation for their
high-levels of class.

• Classy Women Are Positive

We have all met those people who shine brightly with charisma and who have a
charming vibe that makes you instantly like them. That person was probably
someone very positive who was vibrating genuine happiness. But not everyone has
reached that enlightened level or got the personality of being “Little Miss Sunshine.”

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Working on your positive energy is vital to your well-being if you want to become
classy (as classy people don’t spread negative energy).
You will be feeling amazing, and as a result, you will achieve better life quality.
Besides, your good vibrations will transmit to others, making you more likable and
people will automatically be drawn to you. Compare this to someone who is often
complaining, focusing on the negative and bitching about others.
People find this behavior to be burdensome, so they stay away from these types. The
only people who can somewhat tolerate it, are those who indulge in the same kind of
behavior themselves, and these people are never classy. It’s not elegant to spread
negativity; the pinnacle of good manners is to make people around you feel good, and
that’s exactly what being positive will help you achieve.

• Classy Women Are Confident Women

There is a slight difference in meaning between having self-confidence and having

self-esteem, but I will group them this time as both are equally valuable and
fundamental for a woman who keeps a high standard. A classy woman must have the
confidence and be secure in herself, as she won’t come across as mature and
sophisticated if her insecurities come and sabotage for her. It’s important to work on
the self-esteem and to feel worthy. Once you do this, you will be able to project
yourself genuinely by having a high sense of self-worth. Only then will you be able to
transmit the confidence required because you will honestly believe in your self-worth
so you will feel it to the core.

Reaching this stage often requires a lot of work, healing and sometimes help from a
therapist. We can be damaged from things that have happened to us in our pasts that
has left us scarred, creating our insecurities and little self-worth—but it’s never too
late to change that!

You can become fully secure in yourself, and change your life around so that you can
take part of the many advantages self-esteem has to offer. Classy women who are
secure in themselves, take pride in who they are and it gives them this natural
confidence that they give off to the public. A woman who resolves her significant

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insecurity issues will automatically become a woman of high-standard because she

will respect herself and she will know exactly what she deserves in life. If you feel
worthy, you will think that you only deserve the very best, and that’s what classy
women do.

However, I don’t want you to confuse this message by turning into a diva or start
acting superior. It’s not classy to look down on people and think that you are better
than everyone else. That’s just bad manners and inappropriate behavior that doesn’t
belong to a person who is educated and has class. Remember always to stay humble
and love yourself in a healthy and down to earth way.

• Classy Women Respect Themselves and Others

If I could summarize this book in one sentence, it would be this:

“A classy woman is someone who respects herself and her surroundings.” Period.

She knows that she is a woman of value, she puts efforts in caring for herself, but she
genuinely cares about others as well, so she treats everyone always with respect. Her
goodwill earns others respecting her as a result. Nobility shines through when people
have respectful behavior toward others.

Classy women don’t do it just because it’s an image thing. They are genuinely caring
and emphatic people who are educated to understand that the world would not go
around if people were not respecting one and another. They do it because they see
the bigger picture, they are smart enough to look past their own issues and embrace a
bigger and greater cause. This signals their own self-respect because they treat others
how they wish to be treated themselves. There are times in life when drama occurs,
and someone might be acting insulting or disrespectful to you in any way. How you
handle this situation is a test of your real level of class.
Would you respond by giving back the same aggression you received or would you
compose yourself and act calm?

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Classy women stay out of drama, they don’t fight in public, and they avoid negativity
to the most possible extent.
When someone steps on their toes they can put their foot down in a neutral manner
without ever losing their face. They don’t tell people off, and they don’t bother getting
involved. When someone tries to pick a fight with them, they prefer taking a step
back than start defending themselves as they never see the point of any heated
arguments.

If someone bothers them to the point they have to put their foot down, they do it with
a certain finesse. Shouting is déclassé, so they would never raise their voice to get
their point across. Instead, they react with confidence and authority, saying
something in an educated manner that will put that person back in its place.
Sometimes it’s tempting to give in, but classy women know it’s better to walk away
from a bad situation because it will benefit them more than indulging in a riot.

• Classy Women Have Brains

A classy woman is a person with substance; she is a “beauty with brains” as men love
calling it. Perhaps an essential part of the personality of someone who can earn the
title classy is to be smart. You don’t need to be very intellectual, but you need to
somehow stay au jour with the world, but also with your learning. A classy woman
has a brain, and for that reason, she wants always to feed her mind. Let it be what’s
happening in the world, academic studies, hobbies, taking courses, going to
seminars, reading articles, reading books—anything that gives you some new
insights into life.

Have you ever met someone who seems nice and sweet, but who has absolutely
nothing to say?
Her most used phrase is “I don’t know,” and you quickly understand that this
conversation will probably not lead anywhere. It’s not only about how much you
know. Instead, it's important to have your own thoughts and opinions. You may not
want to stay au jour with the political debate in the world, but you can at least create
an opinion about what you think are the current problems in our society.

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People will find you empty and boring if you’re a woman with little substance. You
will not earn the respect a classy woman receives when she shares her views and
observations when engaging in conversation with someone.
Strive to be not only beautiful but also to create an irresistible brain that men will
compliment you for as being “the ultimate ten.”

• Classy Women Are Subtle

Discretion has always been the prime element for people of a high-class, and classy
women have mastered this trait to perfection. It’s the mystery around them that
makes them so intriguing and adds that elegance to their character.

Sophisticated women learn how to be subtle in all areas of life, this makes them come
across as more mature. They are always themselves, but they never give away too
much. You would for instance never hear classy women brag about her achievements
or namedrop which celebrities are part of her friend's list. Discretion is what makes
her shine because if it’s worth talking about, people will say the words for you. Plus,
nothing is more frustrating than types who are too pushy and “in your face.” A classy
woman might carry a lot of self-confidence and power, but she is never a pushover
taking over the show. This is what makes her so successful in social situations
because her educated manners make her very likable.

• Classy Women Are Selective

If a person respects herself on a deeper level, she naturally grows into becoming
someone who is selective. She values herself to the point she would always listen to
her inner voice and ask herself what she really wants. Her well-being, her balance,
her life is important to her, she would never go against herself by making the wrong
choices. She instead takes her time and thinks carefully before getting into
something she later will regret.
Similar to her time. She knows that time is precious and something we will never get
back. For that reason, she is selective with whom she meets and how she invests her

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time. The same goes for the food she eats, clothes she wears, men she dates, and so
on. Being picky is being classy because it’s a sign of self-respect. But being too picky
is destructive, as I mentioned earlier, no extremes are ever beneficial for having
success.

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Classy Coaching #3

Having listed some positive traits of classy women, now is a suitable time to reflect
on what you wish to incorporate into yourself.

A) What personality traits do you wish you could have?

Write them down.

B) What existing traits could appear stronger in your personality or that require
more work to enhance?
Write them down too.

C) Look over your list and reflect on which you think are the most important to
commit to at this stage.
Decide on one or two maximum and write them down as part of your goals.

Examples:

“I want to stop being so negative, and I will focus on positivity as often as I can.”

“I want to stop saying yes to everything all the time, and I will focus on taking my
time and become more selective with my choices.”

Make sure to remind yourself every day of every given situation what you’re working
on. Correct yourself whenever you act according to your old behavior.

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Practice your new behavior as often as possible, as that’s how it will stick eventually.
Don’t give up if it feels difficult in the beginning!

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Chapter 3
Refine Your Classy Behavior

“I’m not ghetto, but I definitely need to grow” is something I once heard someone
say. I think it’s a valid phrase expressing how many feel when they reflect on their
behavior. The mindset and personality of a classy woman may be what breeds the
sophistication in her, but ultimately it’s her behavior that people will judge her upon.
Manners and proper etiquette are what first comes to mind when you think of an
upscale person. But to take yourself to the next level of having class, one has to fine-
tune the smaller details and reflect on how others perceive you.

You see, looks will only take you half the way. The rest is up to the way you behave. A
classy woman should walk the talk. If she dresses like a lady but acts like a tramp, no
clothes in this world will ever save the poor image she is portraying. People might
think she is classy from afar, but once she opens her mouth, they quickly realize they
were mistaken. But bad behavior doesn’t need to be extreme—it can sometimes be
subtle, something only a “trained eye” could spot. And most of us are probably quite
well-behaved, but perhaps we have become a little bit too relaxed in specific areas in
life, having picked up some less classy habits that take our sophisticated selves down
a few notches.

All this can be improved with self-awareness and by having attention to detail, but

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you need to properly put this into your daily practice if you want to improve your
manners and make it stick.

Why do we need to care so much about what other people think?

My answer is simple:
If you wouldn’t care, you would probably never be reading this book in the first place.
Something in you has an interest in how you come across to people. There is nothing
wrong with being conscious about how you interact with others and if they get the
right impression of you.
We are social creatures. We share this planet with billions of people, and we have
developed a highly complex society in which our behavior becomes a method of
communication to one and another.

I think it’s important to care that people have understood you correctly as getting the
right communication across is of benefit to you and the people around. But caring
too much about what people think from an insecure point of view, is a different story
and has nothing to do with what I’m trying to say. Communication is a big part of us,
and we communicate through our image, with our actions and behavior. Of course,
it’s become important in a society in which everything is based on interactions and
built upon social rules. Withdraw yourself from that, and you might as well move to a
deserted island and live by yourself.

The Way You Communicate

Communication is more than just the words we tell someone. It also includes our
actions, how we portray ourselves, our speech, our vocabulary, our body language,
and so on. Learning how to express yourself correctly will upgrade your elegance, as
it’s being attentive to the small details that make a lady appear so tasteful.

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Classy Coaching #4

Let’s reflect on how you talk, take some time and analyze your speech. Be truly
honest with yourself if you want to have best results. Write down your thoughts in
your journal.

How is your pitch when you speak?

How loud are you?

Do you curse?

What about your grammar?

Do you speak with a heavy accent?

Do you over-abuse filler words like “um” or “like”?

Do you speak fast or slow?

How advanced is your vocabulary?

Do you use slang?

Do you mumble?

The easiest way to understand this would be by filming yourself when you talk and
review it.

You can also ask a friend for honest feedback as that can be quite beneficial when a
person has seen you in different types of situations.

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How To Speak Classy

• Keep a moderate volume, as it’s not classy being too loud.

• Keep a medium pitch. You should have normal intonation, avoiding talking
monotonously.
• Keep a reasonable tempo. Fast speakers come across as less serious while very
slow speakers lose attention.
• There is no need to use fancy words and sound intellectual when you can use
standard, correct language that everyone will be able to understand.
• Always speak with good grammar and with proper articulation, avoiding
cursing or using slang.
• Reduce filler words like “um,” “like,” etc. They shouldn’t be in all your
sentences!
• Communicate with grace—express yourself in a confident and uncrushed
manner, make people feel at ease listening to you.
• Have a variation of your pitch, so you keep people’s interest and attention.

You’ll want to put an effort in perfecting your speech, as psychologically people

respect someone more if they have good articulation skills. It can be challenging to
change something that we do without really thinking of, but if you become more and
more aware of your communication, over time, you’ll get used to a more refined way
of talking. Think of it as continuous work in progress. Improvements happen
gradually, especially to something like speech, but with patience, once practiced
regularly, it will stick once and for all, you just need to let it take some time.

Accents are one of the hardest and most popular things to “fix” for people who have
very heavy accents that don’t sound very sophisticated (examples: a thick American
southern drawl or the famous British “cockney” accent). There are many voice
coaches and elocution teachers out there who can help someone who wishes to soften
or change their accent. That is to recommend if you happen to have an accent that is
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instead of not getting past your accent and judge you for that.

I don’t make the rules of the society, but unfortunately, that’s how we assess one and
another, so it’s up to you if you think it’s something that could benefit you in the long
run if you just would have it fixed. Expanding your vocabulary is also necessary as
using only colloquial language is not very sophisticated. That doesn’t mean you
should speak with fancy words and complicated language, as what’s important is to
talk clearly, so people understand you. The worst is when you meet a person who is
being very pretentious with words, trying too hard to sound intellectual and fails
miserably as it becomes obvious. Avoid that at all costs!
Expand your vocabulary comfortably and naturally by reading well-written books
and create a habit for yourself by googling the meaning of words.
Open a dictionary and browse through on a regular basis to learn new words that
you’ll memorize and include when you speak.

Having Manners in Conversation

Some people have a natural talent for conversation, making people feel at ease while
mastering the art of small-talking about all kinds of matters.
Others may be more introverted who never know what to say and how to say it. A
classy woman is well-spoken and finds a common language with anyone she meets,
regardless social status or background.

What gives a person good conversation skills is, surprisingly, the person’s ability to
listen. And when I say listen, I mean being completely present and focused on
whoever is in front of you. To have adequate, classy behavior you must be fully
concentrated and patient when you are in conversation with someone. Poor manners
like glancing at your watch, yawning, interrupting or taking out your phone is not
acceptable behavior.

Also, what seems to be popular is people doing the opposite of listening, they rather
talk about themselves. They can get carried away in their own never-ending
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passes on the microphone. It’s about reading the situation and feeling people, as you
can easily notice when people are losing their engagement and that’s when it’s time
to let someone else do the talking.

Classy women use their confidence to carry out impersonal small talk with anyone,
and they’ve mastered it to the point they would never come across as rude or
arrogant. It’s important to smile and appear positive, engage in conversation and
express yourself with finesse without saying something you would regret.

Keep this in mind if you’re a person who is very straight-forward, practice thinking
before speaking.
Ask yourself,
“is this really necessary to say? Will the person benefit in some way from me telling
this?”
If the answer is no, save any negative reactions or uncomfortable situations and keep
it for yourself.

Classy women indulge in their own mystery and choose to be silent instead of sharing
too much, and that’s what makes them so graceful.

When there is a need to say something of sensitive nature, words can have too much
of an effect when you say it inappropriately. If you use a positive tone when putting
your foot down, you will minimize your risk of getting involved in arguments because
fighting is not classy.
You don’t want to be the one who has got public feuds, not only because it makes you
look rough, but it’s terrible manners having conflicts at any social events.
You must have the ability to compose yourself, swallow your anger and dismiss a
situation with grace if you want to stay true to the appearance of an elegant woman.

The same goes for gossiping and talking badly about others. It’s an indulging hobby
for the less classy to discuss other people and their lives.
While most of us do it occasionally, it’s not an activity I would encourage, even
though I know it can be hard to resist at times of boredom.

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Spreading negative energy is not only bad for others, but it’s bad for your karma. It
doesn’t look elegant when people satisfy themselves by digging into the dirt of others.
Classy women are not perfect, but they try to keep these activities to a minimum, and
if need be, only with the closest people and never with an acquaintance gossiping
parties. It’s déclassé to speak anything but good about others, especially with people
you don’t know very well.

Talking with Acquaintances

When you mingle at a party or meet people you don’t know very well, it’s good to
follow a few guidelines of what topics to stay away from in order not to offend or
cause yourself regrets:

1. Don’t gossip about other people.

2. Don’t be nosy about someone’s personal life by asking too many questions.
3. Don’t talk about money, how much things cost, how much you or someone
else earns.
4. Never discuss disgusting or very graphic topics.
5. Avoid asking someone about their political opinion or religious view unless
they bring it up themselves.
6. Don’t brag about yourself or anything in your life.
7. Avoid all sexual references or topics.
8. Same goes for anything of your own that is very personal or private that can
make the other person feel awkward.
9. Inappropriate jokes may be funny for a split second, but it usually leaves an
aftertaste of someone’s opinion about you.

How to Carry Yourself

How people perceive a woman partly comes from her posture. Someone who holds
herself highly, moves gracefully and gentle, will always leave a more pleasant
impression than someone who slouches. Majority of the time our inner confidence
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technical bit of your body movements.

What is a classy way of carrying yourself?

• Sit up straight at the table.

• When seated, keep your legs together in an elegant manner.
• Walk in a moderate tempo. Don’t be rushing, running into people, or
clomping around.
• Walk with good posture, have your chest up, and keep your shoulders back.
• Make your neck look long and elegant. Learn from the ballerinas.
• Be gentle with your arms and hand gestures. Don’t gesture to harsh and never
grab things forcefully.
• Have contained but relaxed body movements at all times.
• Have a feminine posture. Avoid putting on sexy movements when you want
male attention, instead focus on your elegance and femininity.

Take examples of the elegant women you see and how they carry themselves with
pride. They move gracefully and with confidence but never with an act of superiority.
Notice their poise, their demure way of holding themselves. They would never be
“too much” or “in your face” with their spirit, and they wouldn’t shy away because of
insecurities.
They are secure in themselves, so they take pride in who they are and show that in a
humble way. People appreciate that. They react to these women positively, and for
that reason classy women always become likable. Their balanced energy allows that
to happen.

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Classy Coaching #5

Your body movements can be an important detail in your overall elegance.

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A) Ask yourself these questions:

How is your posture?

How do you look when you walk?

How do you look when you sit down?

How are your body movements?

When you articulate, how are your gestures?

Do you come across as quick, slow, abrupt, stressed?

Do you have any bad habits like fidgeting or playing with your hair?

You might already have a vague idea of yourself, but in most cases, that information
would not be accurate to the reality as we seldom have the correct awareness of how
we look from the public’s eye.

You could start off by inspecting yourself in a mirror with your posture, walk, etc.

The most efficient way to find out, is by asking a friend if she can film you when
you’re not aware. That’s the only time we can truly see our body movements when
we’re relaxed and not “acting” for a camera.

B) Go back to your list of classy role models who you have taken inspiration from.
Look them up on YouTube and watch clips of them in interviews, movie clips, red
carpet, etc.
Study their speech and body movements carefully.
Learn what they do that makes them so elegant.

Write down a few pointers that you can take inspiration from and start practicing

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Manners

People often confuse manners with etiquette, thinking they are the same thing.
Manners are an overall way of behavior while etiquette is the definition of the
manner (etiquette being the way we apply the manner). Manners simply reflect our
personality led by our behavior.

For example: a person who is considerate and kind, always respecting others is a
person who has good manners. A person who brings the host a gift to her house
party, has good etiquette.

Let’s look into some of the fundamentals of good manners of a classy person. This
information may not be of any news to you because it’s the basics that well already
know. Unfortunately, many of us don’t carry them out to the full, and act “half
mannered” most of the time. The classy way is to be at your best game and walk the
extra mile for people, giving your 100 percent.

Showing Courtesy

True class is more than just the facade of your image. Some have the belief that
they’re entitled to behave arrogant and rude if they are of a certain kind, that acting
superior to someone is what sets them apart from the rest (and makes them better).
This myth should be completely debunked, as courtesy and politeness are what
makes a person classy. It’s how you treat others, the caring for others and respecting
everyone around. Being polite to service people is an excellent example of classy
behavior. Common principles like always saying “please” and “thank you” with
heartfelt meaning, is another.

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Being courteous is about always having people in consideration. It’s something to be

proud of if you care for the feelings of others. If everyone in this society was more
kind to each other, the world would be more in harmony. Politeness doesn’t mean
that you should become a push-over or a doormat, but working with your courtesy on
days when you have little patience with people is what takes you to the upper level of
class. Our politeness gets mostly tested in situations when we have to face the world
in public places. It can sometimes be hard to stay calm when someone is rude to you
or barges in front when you’re queuing. You would do yourself a big favor by not
giving in for a rant of negativity but instead quietly brush it off whenever possible.
Indeed, some situations require action, but this action should always be operated
with grace and finesse.
Practice classy conflict resolution and keep your heated emotions at bay. When you
let your emotional self take over, that’s usually when conflict occurs.

Smile Often

Who can honestly say that they have ever benefited anything in life by being a pain to
people, negative and difficult to please? You may see some divas putting on this
show, but their reputation is often terrible, and they rarely get what they want in life.
Classy women don’t behave in this way because they choose to act with class. They
respect other people and their feelings. They would never be rude, and they would
never get cocky with a princess syndrome. Smart women should understand that it’s
essential to be a positive person who makes people around feel good. A smile should
never be a rare sight but rather something you show off regularly and comfortably.
People are automatically drawn to those with positive energy. They will remember
you, and they will always come to your assistance in life if ever needed.

But it can be hard at times to remain positive and kind when you come across
difficult people who don’t respect you. It doesn’t give you a reason to lose your
classiness because someone is rude. If you have class, you practice in keeping your
etiquette at all times. You cannot lose your face, so put your foot down when
required, but do it with grace. A negative person cannot have power on you so you
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maturity take a step back.

You need to always work on your patience. You will need a lot of it when facing
difficult people or situations, and there will be times when you won’t feel like your
strongest self, but you can’t slip into rudeness. There are times in our lives when we
can't bring ourselves to be positive at all, but this is when your true class is being
tested. You can't act classy only when you feel like. You must live this mentality as a
part of who you are.

Acting negatively because you’re having a bad day is not an excuse. If your classy self
cannot be the usual positive self, try and stay as neutral as possible instead of taking
the risk to act below of your values.

Being Responsible

A woman who has a mature personality, lives an organized life and takes
responsibility—is a woman who is very attractive.
We all know at least one person who is chaotic and lives irresponsibly, who always
needs help. I’m hoping that person is not you, but if it is, think about this:

Having class is about having yourself together and ultimately having your life in
order.

Take full responsibility for your actions. Be a person people can trust, and don’t put
yourself in situations in which someone must come to the rescue. It may sound like
common sense, but consider how often we come across people of this kind.
Being in balance with your life and not blaming your misfortunes on others is the
essence of taking full responsibility, and this should be the basis for how you live
your life every day.

Politeness, Your Winning Element

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social status, including staff, waiters, chauffeurs and other service people that are
there to accommodate you.
Never take peoples kindness for granted and show them respect and appreciation by
acknowledging them and being friendly.
Something as simple as a “Hello—their name—, How are you today?” can take you
very far in life. It helps to spread good energy and makes yourself feel good.

Acting friendly is not about pleasing others, but about being a kind person and feel
happily energized by your actions. It will make others happy as a bonus. Your
politeness will be tested when you’ll get stuck in boring conversations with people
you don’t share many interests with. It happens to us all, and a regular part of our
social life.
Not-so-classy people handle these situations with bluntness and total revelation of
their boredom. They are not shy to signal their frustration of listening to the other
person, and they might even push it to the extent of stop listening altogether. It’s not
nice and it’s important to think about how it would feel if it was the other way
around?

Not every information shared will be of everyone’s interest and people are not mind-
readers to know what makes you tick and what doesn’t. To handle these situations,
you must connect with your patience and politeness. Classy women smile and add
something to the story before quickly excusing themselves without exiting too
abrupt, which is a great example of what good manners is all about.

Punctuality

One of the most disrespectful things people do is arriving late for scheduled
appointments. Five to ten minutes late can be considered as “fine, ” but when we are
talking about fifteen minutes and more, it's very bad manners. The behavior is
ignorant and signaling the person is not valuing the other person’s time. Admittedly,
we all have external circumstances that we have little control over that can delay us.
But there are disorganized people with poor time management, who make it a habit
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uneducated and who doesn’t have her life together.

To summarize manners, it’s all very straightforward and not something we haven’t
heard before. Focus on being a good citizen, a kind person and treat others the way
you wish to be treated yourself. It sounds simple, but out in the harsh reality, it’s easy
to get caught up in the everyday stress, not have enough time or patience to bother
going the extra mile for people with a smile or a thank you. But to those who want to
transform their lives and become a respected woman of certain poise, manners are
extremely important. Be aware, that most of the benefits a classy woman reaps are
thanks to her impeccable manners. It’s the best return on investment a person can
receive because it was made from a good will, and good things do come to good
people, remember karma?

Etiquette

Etiquette is social rules created by society and are followed to show respect to others
but to also fit in social groups. It helps to create a common practice between
individuals, so that people who share similar behavior and values can be more
aligned when dining and interacting with each other, not offending one and another.

Etiquettes are different depending on the culture or group of the society; it’s
important to be aware and adaptive to your circumstances. If you are a classy woman
who spends a lot of time in the upper circles, learning their code of conduct can be
beneficial for you. If you’re new to a group and unsure of their etiquette, always
behave the best you can, and you will adapt as you go by. It might sometimes seem
like snobbery to make so much effort with etiquette, but if you think about sensitive
social situations such as eating together, blending with strangers, etc., it’s for no
reason society has created a code of social conduct. It’s to not step on each other toes
and put each other off that we need these basic guidelines. What's important to keep
in mind, that etiquette is only a definition of the actions of manners. A classy lady
always acts with excellent manners, and she employs certain etiquette depending on
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person cannot escape the importance of etiquette as it adds a touch of sophistication

to a person.
My advice is, therefore: if ever unsure of any rules of etiquette, always act with your
best manners, and nobody will notice if you do something not according to the
rulebook.

I will now go over the essential parts of etiquette that will cover the fundamentals of
dining and being a guest. Because this book is only an overall guidance for achieving
class and not talking specifically about etiquette (it being a vast, detailed topic), I will
only cover the basics that will be more than enough for most classy woman to get by
with.
If you have an interest in studying etiquette on a deeper level with different social
situations in mind, my advice is to buy books specializing in this topic. I will add
some suggestions for books to read in the end credits to those who want to go deeper
on this topic.

Being a Guest

When you are invited somewhere, let it be a dinner party, a private event, a wedding,
etc., your behavior, as a guest, is extremely important.

The host, whether you know that person well or not, has put a lot of time, energy and
efforts (and perhaps also money) in organizing an event that is for pleasure and
entertainment of a group. To show this person respect and your appreciation, you act
with your best manners and etiquette, becoming the perfect guest that the host is
happy to be having around, and will be inviting back in the future. It’s an act of
kindness and having courtesy, just what impeccable manners is all about.
You should, therefore, learn how to be the best guest possible by studying following
principles.

• Make sure you RSVP

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Nothing is ruder than “forgetting” to RSVP when you receive an invite. You save the
host a headache of chasing the people down about whether they are coming or not.
Good etiquette is to respond when you receive the invite. If you are unsure if you can
make it, let the organizer know when you will have a response. Don’t be the one who
takes her time to respond because she first wants to see if anything better comes
along on that day. It’s insulting to the host.

The same goes for asking, “Who is invited” before deciding if you are planning to
come. If you must decline, do it neutrally without explaining yourself. A simple “I’m
afraid I can’t make it this time” is more than enough.

• Don’t cancel last minute

Don’t change your plans last minute unless it’s a life-or-death situation (or you are
ill). Dropping out because you don’t feel like it, you’re too tired, or you have so much
work to do, etc. is bad manners, and people with these excuses should not expect to
be invited back in the future.

• Ask before bringing a guest

Depending on the party, some invites state that you can bring a plus one, and you,
therefore, don’t need to ask beforehand. You just indicate in your RSVP that it will be
you plus one.

Some events are too intimate for extra guests, and you would have to evaluate if it’s
appropriate to ask the host about adding a guest to your invite. At some parties, the
host doesn’t mind ("The more, the merrier”), but you must always ask beforehand
and get permission to bring a friend.

• Don’t come empty-handed

Always bring something small that says, “Thank you for inviting me.”
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If you are invited to a birthday, depending on how well you know the person, you
should always bring a gift, even if it’s something small that doesn’t cost very much.
At weddings, all guests bring gifts, depending on what was requested by the bride
and groom.

• Dress accordingly

On most invites, there will be a dress code (see Chapter 4 for dress code explanation).
On other less formal invites, there might not be anything written, and that’s when
questions about what to wear, arise.

It’s often merely assessed by asking the host how dressy the event will be. Other
times you can figure it out yourself, depending what time and where the party is
hosted. If it’s organized in a restaurant or bar, you can look at pictures on google on
what guests usually are wearing and dress accordingly.

What is important to bear in mind is that you must make some effort with your
clothes, as it shows the host respect and appreciation. If it’s a themed-costume party
and you are attending without a costume, it signals extreme rudeness and pure
ignorance from your end.

• Be fifteen minute late

I am an advocate for being on time, as you noticed earlier in this chapter, but when
you receive an invite either to someone’s house or dinner party, a good rule of thumb
is to arrive fifteen minutes later than what’s stated on the invite.

It’s like being on time, but instead, you are giving the host some room for last-minute
preparations by arriving just after the official time. If you are more than twenty to
thirty minutes late, however, that’s rude, so keep yourself to the fifteen-minute mark
as much as possible.
If you have poor time management skills in general, ignore this advice as it won’t
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• Thank the host

The first thing anyone should do upon arrival is to find the host and thank them for
inviting. If it’s a bigger party, it can be hard finding the host, but you must see that
person before participating in the event.
The same rule goes before leaving. You must always say goodbye, even if it means
making a significant effort finding someone. A simple “Tell X I left and thank her for
having me”, is not appropriate.

• Put your phone on silent mode

Your phone should not be visible or disturb with its noises at any times. You should
also not be texting at the dinner table or taking phone calls while others are present
in the room. If it’s important, check your phone discretely from time to time
(bathroom breaks are made for this), and if you need to take a call, make sure to go
in a room where nobody needs to be disturbed by your talking. Keep your
smartphone activities as silent as possible. This is to implement in any public and
social situations.

• Saying hello

Depending on country and culture, being introduced to someone new can either
include a handshake, kiss on the cheek, or a hug.
As a general rule, it’s a handshake in more formal introductions and kisses on the
cheek if introduced casually between friends. Your handshake should always be solid,
and your kisses on the cheek are often one to two depending on the culture. When
you are being introduced to someone, it’s good to smile, send out a positive vibe, and
try small talking about something to make the person you meet to feel at ease. It
removes the awkward barrier between you and brings an opportunity for networking
and getting to know each other better. Keep in mind that you will always benefit by
being an open and inviting person as it will land great opportunities if you are
genuine and interested in making new connections.

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• Invite wallflowers

When you mingle at parties, you will notice there is always someone on their own as
the wallflower. It’s proper etiquette to include these wallflowers in conversation
whenever possible and be inviting so that nobody feels left out and stays on their own
for long.

• Be interested in people

When you are talking to someone you know or a stranger, you must always act with
full focus and concentration. Be friendly and genuine. Don’t be rude and look around
the room while someone is telling you a story. You should not be doing anything else
at that moment except looking at your counterpart and engage in the conversation.

• Stay drama-free

If you’re depressed, stay home. Don’t bring negative energy into a social setting, and
if you can’t change your mood at least don’t go around and talking about it.

Same goes for having a conflict, resolving one, or bad mouthing someone (especially
if they are attending the party). You show bad manners and disrespect to the host if
you use his/her occasion as an outlet for your personal drama. You might say, “But
she started . . .”
No, in this case there are no excuses. Classy women don’t misbehave in public, and
they never do it at someone’s party.

• Don’t attend a dinner starving

If you’re invited to a dinner, you should never arrive feeling like you are dying from
hunger because you “haven’t eaten anything all day.”

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you need food, and once the food is in front of you, you devour it in a rushed manner.
Have a snack before the event so that you can keep your blood sugar steady for the
next coming hours. If you follow a diet or are a picky eater, eat dinner at home
beforehand as there might not be any food suitable for you.

• Check in with yourself

Throughout the event, check in with yourself from time to time to see if you’re acting
appropriately. Measure how sober you are (and if you feel you’re getting tipsy, stop
drinking immediately).
You don’t want to be the craziest party guest, as it’s not what defines how much fun
you are. Instead, you want to be the most positive, social, and happy self you can be—
your good energy transfers onto others and will make you a memorable and honored
guest to invite back in the future.

• Know when to leave

Spare your host a dilemma of how to kick you (and the others) out by reading the
vibe of the party and know when is the right time to leave.
This is a very good sign of social etiquette. You don’t want to be the last person
leaving or leave offensively early. Find a middle ground and stick to the principle of
“leave the party at its best.”
And like I just mentioned, don’t forget to thank the host for inviting. Send them a
thank you note or email/message the next one to two days to properly thank them for
having you, and don’t forget to mention how much fun you had, even if not entirely
true.

Dining

Your behavior at the dinner table is a crucial part of etiquette. When people share
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there is so much emphasis on flawless behavior when you dine. If you follow these
necessary principles on this list and act with self-awareness, you will be the ideal
dinner companion. Classy women study dinner etiquette and follow it at every meal,
with no exceptions.

Basic Table Etiquette Rules All Classy Ladies Must Follow

Put the napkin on your lap as soon as you sit down (or when the host has put his).

Your bread plate is on the left and water glass is on the right.

Always start by using the outer cutlery first. Small knife for bread and butter, small
cutlery for starters, and chunkier cutlery for the main course.

Hold the cutlery in a comfortable position with your fingertips and don’t grab them
with the entire hand.

Don’t put car keys, mobile phones, or small purses/clutches on the table. Ask for a
separate chair for your purse or consult with the waiter about where you could put it
so it is not in the way.

Don’t take bites straight off a bread roll. Instead, break smaller pieces with your
hands above your bread plate.

There is a designated knife for butter. Use that, and never the ones that are meant for
your starter and main course.

If you want butter, take a chunk and put on your bread plate first. Don’t put butter
straight from the butter holder and onto your bread.

Don’t put your elbows on the table. If you must, one is considered better than putting
both.

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Guests should order their food first and the host last.

Guests should only start eating their food once the host has given the heads up to go
ahead.

You should only start a meal once everyone has received their food.

Never eat straight from serving platters or plates meant for sharing. Put some food
on your own plate and then eat.

Don’t add any salt to your food before trying it.

Don’t put too much food on your plate. Keep it in the middle of the plate, so it doesn’t
look messy when you eat.

Always use both knife and fork while eating. Eating with only your fork is not
considered classy.

Don’t chew with your mouth open.

Take a bite of your food and finish chewing before you cut your next piece. At times,
put your knife and fork to rest in between bites.

Eat slowly and don’t stress.

Don’t speak when you have food in your mouth.

Never take a sip of your drink when you have food in your mouth.

Wipe your mouth before taking a sip from a clear glass.

Don’t make any noises when you chew your food.

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While eating, make sure your cutlery is free of food. There should be no sauce or food
visible.

Never reach across the table to get something, especially if you must lean over
people. Instead ask someone politely to pass it to you.

When you are done with a meal, always put the cutlery in a 10:20 position (top parts
pointing at ten o’clock, while bottom parts are pointing at twenty past).

If you must leave the table, put your napkin on the left-hand side.

If you need to wipe your mouth, use the napkin by pressing gently with the edge.

Don’t pick your teeth after a meal.

Don’t blow a runny nose at the table.

Don’t discuss inappropriate or graphic topics at the dinner table.

Anyone who is late and joins the dinner late should begin eating the course the
guests are eating and not start with the first course (which they may already have
missed).

If you find hair in your food, never make a scene or talk loudly about it. Tell the
waiter discretely.

Don’t complain that your food is cold if you’re dining at someone’s house.

Don’t check your phone while having dinner. Put it on silent and leave it in your
purse.

Never do your makeup, powder your nose, add lipstick or brush your hair while at
the dinner table. Go to the bathroom if you need to freshen up.

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If you need to cough or sneeze, always turn or step away from the table while
covering yourself.

Always thank the waiter when he or she has assisted you.

When you are asking for something, say “May I have . . .” instead of, “Can I have . . .”

Never wave over a waiter or shout to be heard. Always say, “Excuse me . . .” in a
polite manner.

Never forget to thank the host for the dinner even if you didn’t enjoy the food. Smile
and be polite. Remember 100 percent honesty is not always necessary if you didn’t
have a good time.

Drink Etiquette

If you’re choosing the wine, you can ask the sommelier for recommendations. You
can point to the menu in your price range to show your budget. You should never
discuss pricing out loud.

The person choosing the wine is always the person receiving the honor of trying it.
The tasting of the wine is not to see whether you like it or not but a procedure to see
if the wine is up to standard. You can therefore not send it back if your taste buds
don’t agree.

When you go fine dining, the waiter usually pours the wine for you even if the bottle
is standing next to/on the table. You should never be assisting yourself. The same
rule applies for still water, especially if you dine in Michelin-starred restaurants
where it’s almost offensive to be helping yourself.

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never help yourself to the drinks unless they have told you to do so. When possible,
always ask a waiter to pour you a drink as it looks classier than if you do it yourself.

Wine or champagne glasses should always be held by its “leg” and not on the actual
glass leaving fingerprints.

Always drink from the same spot of the glass, so you don’t leave lipstick marks all
over.

If you had a particularly good wine, it’s common to take a picture of the label and
save it for your own future record.

Getting the Bill

Never shout to the waiter that you wish to get the bill. You can make a silent gesture
in the air to catch his attention that you want to pay.

If someone to a meal invites you, the general rule is that the person inviting pays the
bill. This is not set in stone and may differ if you are out with close friends or
attending a more casual meeting.

If you’re out with friends, then try and settle the bill beforehand to avoid lengthy
calculations or conversations of who is going to pay what.
If a man invites you out, 99.9 percent of the times he will pay the bill without the
need for you to pull out your wallet and have a debate about splitting the bill. If you
wish to offer to split the bill with him out of politeness, you can do so, but most often
it’s not necessary. Just make sure to thank him for inviting you for dinner as there is
nothing worse than when a woman take these things for granted (this coming as
feedback from the many men I’ve spoken to).

Depending on the country, a tip may or may not be included in the bill. If it’s not
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Not leaving a tip may signal that you were unhappy with the service and it can feel
awkward if you’re planning to come back to this restaurant.
My advice is to tip as often as you can and not be too stingy as you will receive better
service and staff will remember you and give you special treatment in the future.

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Classy Coaching #6

Having good manners and correct social etiquette are the mere basics for a woman
who wants to take herself to the next level. You should, therefore, have a good think
about your current level of mannerism and if you come across as a woman with good
manners and etiquette.

A) How are your manners?

How much effort do you put into your manners on a scale from 1–10 (1 being the
lowest effort, 10 highest effort)?

Where do you see that you could improve your manners?

Give examples and actions points to how you will improve your manners.
Write everything down in your journal and remind yourself daily about what you
wish to improve.

B) Have a think about your etiquette, mainly when you are out dining, invited as a
guest and in other social situations.
After reading my list, is there something you catch yourself doing that is not
considered to be according to etiquette, that you know you shouldn’t?

Write down what it is and try to remember to correct it next time you are out.

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Being Classy Online

If you care about your manners and how you interact with the world, you should
consider the online world as much as the offline one.

Social media channels like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter among others has exploded
since it became our second form of communicating and socializing. While some
people keep themselves off all these channels, nothing says that a classy woman
cannot have a presence online. It’s the twenty-first century, and we live in a modern
world. What’s important to think about is not IF you are on social media, but rather
HOW you use these channels. Having balance is what makes things classy, so a
woman who is online too much and always on her phone checking Facebook, is
rarely seen as classy. But in moderation, a browse here, an update there can be classy
if you don’t become too hooked.

Another thing to keep in mind is the content you are posting and if it’s a fair
representation of yourself. What content do you upload, is it for self-validation
purposes and does it happen that you put up embarrassing things you later regret?
Perhaps, with some content, you don’t even realize that you put yourself in a less
classy light, so here it’s important to ask some of those honest friends you have in
your life for their feedback.

Classy Presence Online

It’s not difficult to stay classy online. All that requires from you is some self-
awareness and a level of maturity; the rest is straightforward.

A classy woman would remind herself that whatever she posts online, she can never
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photo would never become fully deleted, as once we upload something to the
internet, it stays there forever. Anyone who comes across your material can save it
with one click, which should remind people to think twice before posting.

A classy woman is therefore conscious of each post she uploads. The text and the
comments she writes, she must always make sure it’s written with correct grammar
and carry some value to the receiving end. If she must form an opinion, she makes
sure she expresses herself correctly without being misunderstood, and always handle
things maturely if someone doesn’t agree with her.

The pictures she takes if, of herself, she makes sure they all genuinely represent her.
She doesn’t like to stage the photos and pretend that life is picture perfect, instead,
she focuses on capturing a classy moment that is aligned with her classy image.

She would never upload anything half naked or provocative pictures with sexy poses,
not because she is prude, but because she feels it will not send out the correct
message of who she is.

Using the internet for self-validation is not considered classy, and she has learned to
live without these quick fixes. Her life is not about showcasing wealth or portraying
herself in a better status than of what she is. While many people find social media
stimulating for that purpose, showing off their luxurious lifestyles, designer
purchases, fast cars, and so on, the classy crowd chooses to use it modestly.

Guidelines for being classy online

• Always think twice before posting

“Could I show this to my parents or grandparents?”

“Will I be proud of this in five to ten years?”
“Is this really interesting information for people to know?”
“Am I showing a true side of myself?”

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Post content that you feel is aligned with who you are and make sure it puts you in a
representable light. Imagine internet to be your business card. Everything that you
post should be something a future employer or a mother in law could see without you
feeling embarrassed.

• Don’t post when you drink

Avoid using social media or posting under the influence of alcohol. It’s easy to get
carried away and think that something is valid to post when you are tipsy. But most
of the times when we wake up the next morning, the material we posted no longer
holds the same water, and we quickly regret our drunken posts. Be smart and stay
away from your phone when you have had a drink!

• Have a strict classy attitude to your imagery

Photos look classier when you are not half naked in them, when you put on a smile,
when you are appropriately dressed, when you remove any cigarettes or alcohol from
the picture and so on.
Keep party pictures only between you and your close friends to see, share them on
WhatsApp instead of uploading to Facebook/Instagram.

And when you decide to put photos online, make sure they are in good quality, and
everyone looks representable. You don’t want to be that person who uploads a group
photo in which the only one who looks good is yourself, and the rest of your friends
look terrible. Show some courtesy!

• Look natural in photos

Try to come across as being warm and friendly instead of provocative with a dramatic
duck face pout. Learn your good angles and how to have a good posture for
photography. It’s easily done if you practice it a few times and if you want to learn
more, there are many great tutorials on YouTube that could guide you.

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• Don’t be a spammer!

The appropriate frequency to share content in social media is as follows—

Facebook: once a day;
Instagram: one or two times;
Twitter: up to five.

Don’t post too often, it’s not classy, and people will end up unfollowing you! Always
take time to answer anyone who leaves you a comment, it’s classy to be spreading
love and respect.

• Don’t troll

While it can be tempting to share your dose of opinions to someone who annoys the
life out of you, but think twice before acting.
Just because you can be anonymous, doesn’t give you the right to act in a rude way.
Would you behave this way in the real world when you have to face someone?
Everyone behind a screen is a real person with real feelings, and if you don’t like
someone, unfollow them instead of being a hater.

• Stalk discreetly

Cyberstalking is normal in small doses but only if done discreetly.

Don’t be the obvious one who goes liking someone’s old pictures or befriends all the
person’s friends. People will be put off if you’re socially aggressive, even if it’s only
online.

• Use your real name

If you must choose a nickname that will be in the public (email addresses, Facebook
urls, etc.), choose one that will not be embarrassing to you.
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neutral, perhaps your first and last name as that always sounds classier than some
made up name.

• Be selective with your feuds

The internet is a great medium for the freedom of speech, and while I encourage
everyone to raise their voice occasionally, to speak out about the thing that matters—
choose your battles wisely!
Be outspoken, not for the sake of indulging in some exciting drama online, but to
support something of important that you believe in. And do it with style, act classy
even if you’re in a heated discussion with the opportunity to hide behind a screen.

• Be well-spoken

Always write with correct grammar as that’s how you spread your classy image
across. Use emojis when needed, but don't go crazy either!

• Don’t show off

Social media has become the new outlet for bragging. If you feel proud of meeting
someone or being somewhere, show it with genuine humbleness instead of a
pretentious show off. Staged pictures of luxury items are also a trend that has
become incredibly passé. Think of more interesting content to share instead of
sharing only to making people envy your life.

• Respect the privacy of others

Just because you have a social media presence, doesn’t mean everyone does too. Be
cautious of who you tag, mention online, and where you take your photos. Not
everyone wants to be mentioned! If you’re at a private residence, you should always
check if the owner is okay with you taking pictures. Some people are very private,
and you should not take for granted that everyone and everything is on social media
these days.

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Classy Coaching #7

It’s time to inspect and re-evaluate your online presence.

A) Google yourself. What comes up?

Is there anything embarrassing or not in tune with your current persona that you
wish to remove?

Find a way to delete this; it’s easily done if you have access to this material, but
slightly trickier if someone else does. However, it might still be possible, as the only
thing necessary is to try to get in contact with that person over email and ask them if
they can remove it for you.

B) Log into all your social media accounts, and look at your pictures and timelines.
Does the material on your feed represent your true self?
Is some outdated material a misrepresentation of who you are today?

Clean up and delete everything that you feel you cannot associate with and make a
new rule for yourself to think twice from now on before uploading anything online.

C) After your clean up your Google results, websites, blogs, social media sites should
all have a good representation of your classy self.

You must feel that you will be proud of this content in five to ten years, even if your
parents/grandparents/future employer or mother in law would see it. Nothing
should make you feel embarrassed, and you must feel that you can stand for
everything that is posted under your name.

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Chapter 4
Dress Like a Classy Woman

Clothes are what can make it or break on a woman when scanning her, which is why
one of the most significant parts of this transformation is to re-evaluate how aligned
your fashion is with your classy image. I know that most of us are not wealthy. It
takes time for us to build a solid wardrobe we feel happy about, and most of the
times we cannot afford the finest garments that the classy upper-class are wearing.
But I have some good news for you—you don’t have to!

Classy is not about the amounts you spend on your clothes, it’s about your taste and
wearing what works for you. Of course, classy fashion must include certain elegant
traits, but these are easily found in all brands, from high street to designer, if you
train your eye in learning how to spot them.

But why is dressing well of such high importance if you want to be classy?
Having class is all about how you conduct yourself and the image that you portray;
you become your personal brand that tells the world how you think of yourself. If you
don’t value your appearance and ignore taking care of yourself, it signals that you’re
most probably not appreciating yourself enough and have low self-worth. As much as
we dress for others, we dress for ourselves, and we do it mainly to feel good about
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Clothing has the power of creating a feeling and influence what emotions a person is
feeling. This is why fashion always been so powerful and why many have a strong
interest in looking good because when we wear something we love, it changes our
mood and makes us feel amazing.

Classy women take advantage of this phenomenon, and they are always committed to
looking elegant because it improves their well-being and boosts their confidence. It
does require some efforts and work behind to continuously look smart on any given
occasion, but classy women don’t mind making that effort to always look their best
because they see it as a return on investment. This is what makes them appear so at
ease with themselves and confident to blend in at any given situations. Their classy
garments are constantly appreciated by others that makes them look professional
and elegant. People treat them better and the benefits they reap due to their efforts,
are more than you would imagine.
Think about how important a first impression is?
Think about how much we judge each other in our society and that it usually takes us
a few seconds to form an opinion about a person. When you are well-dressed people
often create a better belief about you as a person. They will take you more seriously,
respect you and give you more trust.

As a result, more people will be drawn to you, which will benefit you in your life if
you are looking to network, make new friends or meet a new partner. Endless
possibilities are opening for you when you invest in your appearance! It might all
sound very fake and superficial, but that’s how our subconscious is wired. What is
appealing to our eye and what characteristics we are brought up to think are
trustworthy, that’s how we will form our judgments. I understand some may think
it’s ridiculous and disagree, but it’s worth considering human psychology and study it
if you want to learn how to be on top of your game.

Classy women are exactly that, on top of their game at all times. They are fully
committed to looking their best, and they do it because of they respect themselves,
but also because they know it’s a good trick to use when you want to get what you
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Vulgar Appearance

Vulgarity in apparel has become a growing occurrence in our modern world where
formality is something outdated. People have become too casual and careless with
what they wear, and many trends focus on being provocative and attention seeking.
I don’t wish to sound like someone’s grandparent, but consider how much more
elegant fashion was up to the years of the 60s and prior. There was a focus on having
manners and always being well dressed, resulting in men and women looking classy
and appropriate for any occasion.

I think it’s important to look back at those times and find inspiration for style
because the values back then were very much in line with what having class stands
for.
Unfortunately, our modern society evolved dramatically and lost a lot of the old-
school mentality that was incorporated in fashion.

I do however believe, which is partly why I decided to write this book, is that there is
a significant need for a reminder of classy and all that comes with it. Because in the
end of the day, dressing appropriate and acting in a certain way is a way of showing
respect to yourself but also to others. And that’s a philosophy that will never get
dated.

While I’m a feminist and all for women rights, it makes me saddened to write these
next coming paragraphs, but I will be honest about the reality.
Women do hit the hardest in the society of all the unwritten rules of what is
acceptable and what is not. They fall victims for the attention-seeking fashion, in
which sexuality is being promoted like the norm for how beautiful a woman is. That
results in many (especially younger women) making the wrong choices, becoming
blind to what’s considered classy and instead sabotage for themselves. I’m referring
to the old cliché of showing too much skin and wearing vulgar unflattering clothing,
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In a perfect world, this would not exist. In an ideal world, a woman could wear
whatever she wants, show off her body and nobody will judge her and think she is
“slutty.”
But it’s not how it works in our current world.
Take the world of business as an example, regardless if you are a man or a woman.
You’re not able to dress however you wish if you have a serious corporate job. Think
about all the bankers, lawyers, doctors, etc. who all have a dress code in their
profession. There is a requirement of looking smart so that people find you
trustworthy and so you easily gain respect.

But a woman always has a choice. She can wear whatever she wants and take the
consequences of it. Or she can wear something more covered, yet beautiful clothing
that leaves more to the fantasy and makes men take her seriously.

I respect both choices, but I will promote the latter as this book is about how to
improve yourself and make most out of life and reap the benefits that come as a
result.

So why do so many women want to dress provocatively? Like with everything else in
life, there can be different psychological reasons behind, some of the most common:

They want attention from men, they use sexy clothing to influence someone’s
decision, they want admiration, they want to get all eyes on them and so on.

While it can work in your favor some of the times if your cards are played correctly,
but most often, if you’re not a game player, just an ordinary girl, many people can
build the wrong impression of you. And if you want to be classy, unfortunately,
skimpy clothing will never make you appear sophisticated. It’s a harsh reality we live
in, but with a mature look at it, you’ll understand the sacrifice is not really that much.
In the end of the day, it works for your own benefit to have a timeless, neutral look.
Because with age, you won’t look back on photos and regret all the embarrassing
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being a little bit more conservative is something negative.

The pros of wearing sexy apparel:

1. You’ll receive attention.

2. You can use it as a method to influence the opposite sex.
3. You’ll feel sexy.
4. You’ll save money on clothes as cheap looking dresses are often low-priced in
high-street shops.

The cons of wearing sexy apparel:

1. People will not take you seriously.

2. Men will give you only sexual attention and want you for the wrong reasons.
3. People will talk about your looks behind your back.
4. Your image will say trashy.
5. All focus will be on what you wear, not who you are.
6. You run the risk of nip-slips and other wardrobe malfunctions.
7. You might get mistaken for being an escort or work in the adult industry.
8. You’ll look cheap.
9. You will never come across as classy.
10. As a result, all your networking in the classy world and valuable connections
will be of little use, as women who are too provocative miss out on a lot of
opportunities due to people’s harsh judgment and labeling. If you want to get
ahead, a more serious look will make way for you.

What is vulgar clothing?

Very short mini-dresses

Clothing that is sized too small

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Dresses that are very tight and sexy, showing off both legs and cleavage

A lot of cleavage in general

Stilettos with platform, stripper-inspired heels

See-through apparel through which you can see the underwear

Wearing no underwear

Wearing no bra so that people can see your nipples

Clothing that scream “sex”

Toning down your sex appeal can give you dramatic results. Many women are not
even aware of how they are self-sabotaging and why they are not reaching specific
goals in life. Sometimes it’s so obvious it’s because of their less classy way of
presenting themselves, and it really does harm their image. They are misunderstood
and labeled as something they might be not. Their professionalism is gone, and so is
the elegance and quality you feel you could trust with serious matters.

No matter how old you are, having an elegant and mature look is what you should
incorporate into your wardrobe if you have big dreams and plans for yourself. There
cannot be anything vulgar in your closet, so do a big scan and let go of those pieces
that hinder your way to success, there are better and far more serious opportunities
waiting for you if you do a small fashion makeover.

Classy Way of Dressing

Fashion is made for creating change, and your transformation starts here!
Let's do a little makeover with ourselves, where we shed our less classy skin, and
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together with your unique style, to create the New You. Depending on what type of
clothes you currently have in your wardrobe, you might need a little or a lot of help.
Start by studying these principles and incorporate them into your mindset, to create
a new, more sophisticated fashion style.

• Classy Women Dress with Self-Respect

They leave a bit of mystery behind, and their approach to fashion is all about
sophistication. They would never want to present themselves in the light of a
provocative, sexy, vampy or bombshell girl as they believe it wouldn’t be the fair
definition of who they are. If going entirely conservative is too stale for their
personality, they manage to find a middle ground on which elegance is included, and
they feel attractive without becoming too dull.

• Classy Women Never Show Their Legs and Cleavage At the Same
Time

A little bit of cleavage can look classy if the woman is somewhat covered in other
parts of her body. But if her breasts are large, the general rule is always to tone them
down and never put on display. Wearing more conservative styled clothes is ideal if
the person’s body is curvy and carry a natural sex appeal.

A bit of advice is to avoid short body-con dresses altogether. Exceptions can be made
for certain types of short dresses that signal chicness rather than sex; often these
dresses are more lose in the fitting and have a tasteful modern design.

• Classy Women Dress Feminine Instead of Sexy

A classy woman has the right to feel sexy in her clothes, but instead of being vampy,
she chooses femininity. This can be expressed through various ways without looking
like a sex object. Her curves can be shown, but without looking raunchy. She can
choose a pencil-shaped dress or skirt, instead of opting for the tiny body-con dress.
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fitted than the sexy bodycon dresses.

• Classy Women Always Dress Appropriately

While classy women may differ in their personal styles, what they have all in
common is that they are never seen underdressed.
If invited to an event, they take the dress code seriously as it’s very disrespectful and
rude to the host if not dressed according to what’s written on the invitation. A classy
woman does her research about where she’s going and how people will be dressed
there. If unsure, she never takes any risks and rather overdresses than underdresses,
however in a neutral and sophisticated manner that makes her blend in and work
well in any given situation.

• Classy Women Always Make an Effort with Their Outfits

It’s easy to fall into the “ponytail and juicy couture set” when you’re running a quick
errand around the block, but classy women never leave their house looking like
Britney Spears.

We all know reality does not look like a perfect photoshopped picture on Instagram.
We don’t always have the time to look our best, neither are we groomed to perfection
24/7.
But a classy woman has a level of commitment to how she presents herself to the
outside world. She puts importance to look somewhat representable, even if only
taking the dog out for a quick walk.

From experience, most women are aware that you never know who you might run
into, and you never know who might be watching you. Sometimes I can be driving
and see someone I know taking out the garbage in her pajamas, looking kind of
shabby, probably not even being aware that someone is watching right now.

You’d be surprised how small the universe is and how timing is everything! It’s not
sustainable to be dressed to perfection at all times, but you can have casual clothes

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and outfits that keep a certain standard. Comfortable doesn’t need to look ugly, and
juicy couture sets are not attractive!

Same goes for wearing your gym clothes when you run your errands, when you go
shopping and so on. What happened with this level of comfort? How far is the
modern society taking the term “casual”?
What’s most important is to try and keep a certain standard as much as you possibly
can. Make it a rule not to own anything that makes you look scruffy, and clear out
anything old that looks like rags.

Classy women value and prioritize their appearance, they make an effort, and that’s
how they always stay on top of their game.
Their secret is to dress casual but with style.
Forget sweatpants and UGGs. A classy woman who wears a more relaxed look will
often dress down with high-quality items without any signs of wear and tear. Her
casual clothes might have a pleasant soft fabric, which looks cozy, but comfortable
and smart. Heels are taken off, and instead, she wears a pair of ballerinas or clean
white tennis shoes. She might be wearing jeans or trousers of a loose fit. Her top is a
simple fitted T-shirt in a neutral color like black or white.

But the secret to looking top notch when you’re dressed down, is to be perfectly
groomed as an addition.
Hair is perfectly combed; perhaps it’s in a ponytail on this casual day. Nails are in
order and so is your makeup. If no makeup used, like it’s common on casual days, a
little bit of blusher can be added to remove the paleness and sculpt the face.
Don’t forget that a touch of lipstick, changes everything sometimes, so make it a rule
to always dab a little bit on your lips before leaving your house.

• Classy Women Don’t Flaunt Wealth

A common misbelief is that being classy is equivalent to wearing expensive outfits

and looking like you are rich. Your materialistic possessions become the measure of
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pure nonsense!

Money and class have nothing to do with each other. While there is a particular look
to a person who is classy, this look is never about labels or the amount of wealth that
is put on display. You can wear simple clothes but still, come across as classy if you
dress with exquisite taste and have quality garments.

I want to take the nouveau riche as an example. They seldom carry elegant taste, or
proper education in class, but they are entirely focused on telling the world “Hey, I’m
rich, look at me!” which is what has created their bad reputation. On the contrary,
the people of true high-class never flaunt their wealth, which applies even to the
fashion they wear. They come from well-bred backgrounds in which manners have
been part of their upbringing, and they would be mortified if anyone from their
families would act in a flashy way. It’s considered to be incredibly tacky to wear
anything with logos or attributes that boasts how much money a person has or has
invested in his or her appearance. Designer handbags, diamonds, furs, expensive
clothing, luxurious watches and everything that feels like something a person would
wear to show off, is not classy at all.
For the upper-class, discretion is key, and so is the mentality for anyone who is
classy.

While the middle-class are all into their Chanel bags, Rolexes, and fancy cars, the
upper-class know they have nothing to prove and therefore keep their presentation to
a tasteful minimum.

The glorification of money is vulgar, and only the well-educated people tend to be
aware of this. Discretion is what the ultimate trait of high class is. Nothing else.

So for a woman who is reading this book and perhaps has been thinking about
acquiring status symbols to raise herself to a certain level, my advice to you—don’t
waste your time or your money.
Keep buying quality items, but stop comparing yourself with “the Joneses.” If you
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anything that you see promoted by commercials, celebrities, media, Instagram

accounts, or other glorifying status symbols.

What you need is working on yourself and grow yourself to the next level. You don’t
need any of these “toys of illusion” that I happily call them.
And mind you, I’m not against extravagance what so ever, but I don’t support when
it’s the entire focus of a person because it removes the focus from what is more
important: being classy. Extravagant luxury and classy will never be the same thing.
And it will never be that because classiness is about being subtle, being discreet but
having impeccable taste. Do you see the difference?

So feel free to appreciate the finer things in life, but never let it define you because
that’s when you’re missing the point. Get inspired by the upper-class; they have
understood this because they have the privilege to think about these things. And as a
result, this is what makes them of a high standard, is that they don’t follow the
masses of competing with who has the most money, and they aim for their values of
consideration to others and actions of subtlety.

• Classy Women Choose Quality Over Quantity

One of the great features of the upper-class is that they’re not interested in
consumption. They don’t consume what they don’t need and they stay aware of their
shopping behaviors as being a shopaholic is not something a person should ever be
proud of. They keep their shopping to what’s necessary, and they don’t have much
need of constantly updating their wardrobe as they shop quality over quantity. They
rather receive one item that is extremely well made of the most delicate material,
than three of the same but in different colors and half the quality.
Classy women have adopted this approach and live with fewer items that instead are
of the best quality and make them look “wow.”

• Classy Women Carry Themselves with Elegance

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walks like a stick of wood. You may be pretty, or you might wear an extravagant
outfit, but how you carry it off, is truly what makes it work.

High-level women carry themselves with grace. They move naturally elegantly. They
sit with their backs straight, and when reaching for something, their movements are
careful rather than careless.

When they walk, they walk with pride without looking arrogant. They always keep a
good posture, and whenever wearing heels, they have trained themselves to walk like
a lady.

Carrying yourself with poise comes from practice, but it also comes from a mental
attitude. You must feel at ease with yourself and generate the level of confidence
needed for you to be a natural at your elegant game. Don’t feel intimidated by this
practice, in the beginning, it all starts in your mind, if you believe it, you can do it.

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Classy Coaching #8

A) Research your role models and analyze their fashion. Study what they wear and
what it is that makes it work for them.

B) Use this information as inspiration for your fashion strategy and write down all
the key elements that you want to incorporate into your wardrobe.

If you don’t want to focus on your role models, create an account on Pinterest and do
a mood board with classy outfits.

Pin down every elegant and sophisticated outfit you find that you think could
potentially work for you. Keep these images in mind when you plan your next
purchases and create your fashion strategy.

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Getting a Classy Closet

Now let’s focus on taking your closet to the next level and let go of everything that no
longer serves you.

Depending on where you are in your life, a makeover can be necessary if you haven’t
updated your style in a while. Ladies, really think of the power that lays in clothing
and how crucial it is to get it right. All of you should create a fashion strategy based
on your classy aspirations and keep in mind what would work on you and what
would take you to the next classy level. It’s important to understand that everyone
who keeps a certain standard will not be equally dressed. Women have different
styles, and it’s vital to stay true to your taste. What works for one person, might not
work for the other because our body shapes and skin tones are different and we must
always dress according to that. Understand what’s your problem areas and how to
minimize them and instead focus on enhancing your best areas (with best areas, I’m
not referring to the sexy parts of the body).

Not all women like the same type of clothes, and in order not to for everyone to look
identical to each other, God created taste buds that let people create their own
uniqueness and add their personality to the mix. When you decide to dress classier,
you don’t need to adapt yourself to a uniform. You only need to see if you’re aligned
with the fundamental principles of classy attributes and then make sure your clothes
elevate you to the level you want to position yourself at.

It’s a must to do a wardrobe intervention at least once a year. Let’s do one together in
which I will guide you on the steps of achieving a classy wardrobe.

Step 1: Wardrobe Intervention

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All clothes that don't make you look classy must be immediately rejected from your
wardrobe. It’s a serious business, and it applies especially to the hoarders out there
who hang on to clothes they think they’ll wear one day although they haven’t touched
that garment in months or years!

Do yourself a favor and eliminate everything that can flaw your classy image. You
must be 100 percent honest with yourself, and you must have the courage to stay
critical. Let’s do a wardrobe intervention and make room for a new classier you!

What to get rid of:

Clothes that look washed out or look old or are so old their colors and fits are not the
same anymore

Clothes with holes or stains

Clothes that don’t have a proper fit

Clothes that belong to an outdated trend

Clothes in poor quality and cheap-looking material

Clothes with unflattering patterns or colors

Clothes that have a permanent smell

Glitter and embellished clothes (looks cheap)

Vulgar and raunchy clothing

Take a big bag and throw it away!

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and put it back in the wardrobe.

Classy women are not hoarders, they don’t collect low quality clothing, and they
would never hang on to something that doesn’t serve them anymore. Don’t be too
attached to materialistic things, especially if they are not doing you any favors. Give
it away to charity, support a good cause by recycling clothes you’ll probably never
wear anyway and make someone else happy with your stuff. And if you have things
that are old and malfunctioned, throw those away as they are not in any usable
condition.

You might have beautiful pieces in your wardrobe that supports your classy image
and look great on you, but they may be faulty in some way. Whatever is fixable, keep
it only if you’re going to repair it!
Take it to the tailor to make a poorly fitted item look tailor-made, let the tailor also
mend any holes that can be fixed.

Stained, smelly or dirty clothes should be discussed with the dry clean if they can
clean it up for you, so it looks brand new again. Clothes with washed out colors can
easily be recolored at home if you buy a home dye kit (if you don’t know where to buy
it, look on eBay/Amazon).

Step 2: Plan Your Closet

Once you’ve done an excellent job of cleaning out everything that is holding your
classy image back, it’s time to look ahead and into the future.

What items are remaining in your closet?

All the remaining items are in colors and patterns that suit you.

All clothes have a proper fit and look great on your body.

All clothes look fresh, clean, and almost new.

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All clothes are made of a quality material that will last.

All clothes keep a certain standard and look classy.

Most of the clothes enhance your best physical attributes and disguise the parts you
like less.

You have a right amount of versatile clothes that you can mix and match for many
possible combinations.

You have a sufficient base of classic pieces that will never run out of fashion.

You should now only have clothes that will make you look nothing but your best
sophisticated self.

Classy clothing is, therefore, your new base to work with and you are now re-
structuring your wardrobe but also your overall style.

Don’t worry if what’s remaining in the wardrobe looks very little to the eye. Classy
women are not shy to wear their clothes repeatedly, so you don’t need to worry if
you’ll be wearing specific items too frequently. Plus, with time, you will expand your
wardrobe, and new, classy pieces will enter, just have a little bit of patience in the
beginning, good things come to those who wait.

The focus now is to develop a fashion strategy for you as we are working on
upgrading your look. You will need to become very selective from now on with all
your purchases and what you decide to wear. Your closet must keep a certain
standard, and you will have to refrain yourself from any form of impulse shopping.
Take some time to get to know your new closet and understand what you need and
don’t need.

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that you already have. You will become surprised how many new outfits you will get
out of your fitting! Now when you start shopping, you will be mentally prepared for
not making any mistakes, of not buying stuff that won’t serve you and you will only
buy things you need.

Step 3: Shopping Time

The most important rule in your fashion strategy is: No more shopping on impulse or
coming home with clothes you’re not 100 percent sure about!

It’s time for you to train your selective eye and take your time in deciding whether
you are going to buy something or not. You must be thoughtful as your shopping is
about buying items you’re investing in, regardless if they cost $10 or $1,000.

Quality, fine materials, and a good fit is the mindset behind your classy strategy.
Consume less, but consume wisely.

Have you noticed that sometimes when you go and buy something, you feel content
but not overly excited about it? But other times we find something in a shop, we try it
on, and it looks so great on us, we feel like we have just hit the lottery! You
immediately know you’re buying this item regardless of the price and you go home
like an excited child, looking forward to the day when you’re finally going to wear it.
That’s how you should be shopping from now; your new philosophy is only to buy
clothes you genuinely fall in love with. Everything else; don’t bother (unless it’s a
necessary basic item and basics don’t always makes us jump head over heels).

What to shop for:

Clothes that make you feel “wow”

Clothes that you feel 100 percent sure about

High-quality materials

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Basic items in neutral colors (black, white, gray, beige, pastels)

Classic, timeless pieces that will never go out of style

Tops and bottoms as you will be able to mix and match and create more outfits than
if you focused your shopping only on dresses

Clothes that enhance your body shape and hide the less favorable parts

Clothes you know you look good in and make you look better, not worse

Clothes with a proper fit

Clothes that give you a signature look

Clothes with colors that suit you and go well with your skin tone

Clothes with great construction and attention to detail

Must-have items in a classy wardrobe:

The little black dress

Well-made basic items lite plain T-shirts, tops, etc.

Black trousers, formal/casual

Blazer

Jeans with a good fit and color (blue or darker, no strange “wash out prints”)

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Summer dresses in light colors and material

Shirts, formal/casual, oversized/fitted

Blouses, formal/casual

Tops of all kinds

Evening attire like dresses, trousers, tops, jumpsuits that can be worn for more
formal occasions

Pumps and strappy heels in black and in your skin color

Long dress, day/evening

Beachwear like tunics, cover-ups, swimsuits, hats, sunglasses, beach bags

Pure fabrics like 100 percent Silk, 100 percent cashmere, 100 percent cotton, 100
percent linen items

Trench coat

Black evening coat

Leisure jacket

Active wear

Accessories like scarves, hats, sunglasses, belts, gloves, etc.

http://JetsetBabe.com is my community in which I gather the best fashion

inspirations from classy women to showcase their sense of style and inspire others on
what to wear. Have a look if you want to gain more insight on how sophisticated

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women look.

In the planning of your fashion strategy, you should keep in mind your unique taste
and wear things you love. An old trick in the classy book is also to develop a signature
look for something that makes you look your best. Karl Lagerfeld has his black suits
and black sunglasses, Coco Chanel was rocking her famous timeless tweed suits.
What makes you look your best that could become your trademark?
It can be a type of garment, fabric, a color, a style, anything really! When you find
your signature look, you can wear it every day as that’s what signature styles are
about. It’s affordable because you are always recycling it, but it also adds plenty of
class and style to your overall look.
But do bear in mind that whatever works for someone else, might not work for you.
We are all different, with different looks and shapes so style is something that
becomes so personal, which is why there isn’t one classy style that everyone should
wear. Instead, everyone should develop a sophisticated look that works for them.

Classy Fashion Etiquette

To be of high-standard, a classy woman must apply certain manners to her fashion.

While being appropriately dressed is mainly for your benefit, we always must
acknowledge others when getting dressed if you care about not offending or
embarrassing yourself.

1. You should never wear white to a wedding.

2. You should only wear black or navy to a funeral.
3. Evening gowns should only be worn in the evenings and never during the day
regardless if it’s a festive occasion. For such daytime events, a cocktail dress is
more appropriate.
4. It’s terrible etiquette to ignore the dress code of a party.
5. The same goes if it’s a themed party and guests are expected to wear a
costume (and you decide not to).
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otherwise look shabby.

7. Your underwear, bra straps, or body parts should never be exposed.
8. Always wear nude-colored underwear under light, sheer clothing.
9. Wearing attention-seeking clothes is poor etiquette.
10. Same goes for being covered in logos and letting the world know how much
you spend on clothing.
11. See-through materials should all be avoided; the same goes for creative
constructions on dresses that show off too much skin.
12. Hats are only accepted for daytime outfits and should be stowed away after 6
p.m. They are never worn in the evening.

Dress According to Dress Code

Being invited to a wedding, party, or any type of social event, there may sometimes
be written a dress code that is of importance to follow.

Here are the most common dress codes:

• “White tie” or “full evening dress”

The most formal of all dress codes in which women wear their most extravagant
gowns. Think very formal events, conservative weddings, etc. Shoes must have a
closed toe, like a pump and you cannot wear sandals.

• “Black tie,” “formal,” or “evening dress”

The second most formal. You can wear a cocktail dress if it’s very luxurious, although
a majority would wear a full-length dress. Black tie is the most common dress code
for charity fundraisers, movie premieres, and weddings.

• “Cocktail” or “semi-formal”

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A dressed up occasion without being formal enough to require wearing a gown. A

classy cocktail dress, elegant trousers, or a skirt would be appropriate for this
occasion.

• “Smart casual”

Slightly more formal than “casual.” Wearing trousers (not jeans) or dress in a relaxed
and dressed-down manner.

• “Casual”

This usually means no need to wear anything fancy. You should still dress up, but
keep it to light materials, or nothing formal-looking or pompous. Jeans or trousers
are typical wear for a lady when the invitation says "casual."

Handbags

Handbags for women are what watches are for men. A delightful item that showcases
the status of the person, all defined by its value and appearance. We obsess about
them, and when we wear them, we can feel like a million dollars. For this reason, you
will most probably not agree with what I’m about to say about your best friend. You
might not like it, but I think it’s important to pinpoint the reality of how far this
extremely expensive obsession has gone just so that we can feel a sense of belonging
in the wealthy western world. Let’s talk about:

The Designer Handbag

I’ve touched already on the topic of how showcasing logos is tacky and how
discretion is what is the ultimate trait of “class” is. Most of us “common western
people” don’t understand this, as we’ve got used to a society in where every other
middle-class woman has a Louis Vuitton or Chanel bag. Or even Birkin!

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Getting a bag like Chanel or Hermés feels to the average woman like something
extraordinary because of the value of the bags. Ranging from 3,000–7,000 £$ and
up, walking down the street with a classic Chanel flap bag or Birkin feels like a major
statement:

The honest thoughts and feelings of the bag holder can be:

“My bag is expensive.”

“I belong to a certain group of people who afford bags like this.”

“I’m rich.”

“I have money.”

“I’m a high-standard girl who affords this lifestyle.”

“My bag is so classy because it’s expensive.”

“I am classy because I own this bag.”

Yes, I know it all sounds ridiculous when you lay it out like that because these
thoughts are usually hiding in our subconscious and we tell ourselves we like the bag
for other reasons than the obvious ones.

Nobody would ever buy Chanel or Birkin bags if it weren't for the reputation or
branding behind. If they would cost only 100 £$€, we wouldn’t see so much of them
around.
Let’s be honest, the quality of the bags and design has nothing to do with their
popularity. There are many bags out there with quality just as good, with amazing
designs, but are not as popular because they don’t carry the same price tag or
branding behind.

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Classy women would never buy a handbag because it’s of a brand. They purchase
high-quality bags, from the finest leather and most delicate making process, bags
that will last them a lifetime and neutral enough not to make any financial
statements.
They instead invest their money in discretion and sophistication because it goes well
with their values of not being in peoples face with how much they spend on their
bags.
Women who obsess about owning a designer handbag to feel that she “fits in” a
particular group of people, should think again about what’s important. This will
never define your class or make you that classy woman that is so sought after.
You’d be wiser to invest your hard-earned money in something that is elegant yet
simple and of the highest quality possible. Something that you will wear for years
and years and be an educated and elegant woman with taste. If it has a famous
designer behind it, that’s fine, but it’s not portrayed in an obvious way, and you’re
not wearing the bag to impress other people.

A true classy woman does not try to impress anyone. She lives for herself and her
values and doesn’t need to brag or seek attention from others.

There is a reason why I’m advocating the issue of our societies obsession with
designer handbags. It’s going too far. They are priced in such high numbers that the
average people need savings to buy them. It goes to the extremes that women who
don’t afford these bags themselves, would take on desperate actions to acquire one!
I've heard stories how sometimes girls sleep with men that promise to gift them a
bag, how some buy fake bags and others who steal them from parties and nightclubs!
Do you see how crazy our reality is?! This is how far our fixation with "keeping up
with the Joneses's" has taken us, and it's not healthy!

The obsession of having a status symbol to define your value, is everywhere today in
the western society. It’s like the famous saying:

“We buy things we don’t need, with money we don’t own, to impress people we don’t
like.”

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It’s the perfect definition of this generation and our modern world. Look at
Instagram as a great example, in which everything is staged to look so perfect and
successful, and every second person appears to live a lifestyle of a millionaire. It’s not
classy! No "in-your-face" behavior is to admire. Focus on looking classy instead of
looking rich, that will take you further than you think.

Classy Handbag Checklist

1. She doesn’t let the world know the value of her handbag.
2. She doesn’t shop handbags because she needs to have a particular designer.
3. She doesn’t buy fake bags.
4. She doesn’t buy bags as an investment. She invests her money in other things
like art, stocks, gold, and jewelry.
5. She doesn’t buy bags from cheap-looking material and poorly made
engineering.
6. She buys bags because she will be using them, not to collect them for show in
her wardrobe.

Ladylike Footwear

Women love their bags, but they also love their shoes. We have an array of outfits to
match, heel sizes to consider and different models for different occasions. It’s normal
for women to have a wide selection of footwear, although it’s never classy being a
hoarder of items. Classy women wear shoes of a sturdy quality, that will last them
many walks without breaking. They seek out shoemakers that do their shoes by hand
and design in a classical way, leaving an essence of chicness behind.
They often choose models like pumps, slingbacks on a medium heel, ballerina flats,
strappy sandals, and wedges.
Classy women keep themselves to what’s traditional, as they know fashion fades and
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like black and nude, with the occasional white or pastels.

Shoes they avoid:

1. Very high stiletto heels

2. Thick platform heels
3. Footwear “made-in-China” style that is made from cheap materials and poor
construction
4. Temporary trends and “it shoes” that will soon be yesterday’s news
5. Shoes that drag too much attention with colors, prints, embellishment, etc.
6. Heels in casual settings, and casual shoes in formal settings

Taking Care of Your Items is Classy

I would like to point out the importance of taking care of the things that you own
because an elegant woman must always look neat - and to look neat, your clothes
have to look almost like new! You need to handle all of your items with care,
regardless if they are expensive or not, because it will show on the item if you are
careless. It will make you look scruffy and downgrade your overall appearance.

Classy women are careful with their things because they want them to last them a
lifetime. They invest in quality and quality can be ruined if the person is not
attentive. The more delicate the materials, the more specialized care is required to
maintain the look of these items. Shoes and bags are such things that need delicate
handling, as once they start looking worn out, they will not be going to look classy
anymore. Same goes for clothing, as ratty clothes with holes or stains is a no-no for
anyone who wants to come across as a sophisticated lady.

Rules for classy women:

1. Their wardrobes are not stuffed or overcrowded with items, as that damages
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2. When bags are not in use, they are inside their dust bags, preferably with
something inside (like newspapers, towels, etc.) to hold their shape.
3. Footwear goes in their boxes or dust bags, and boots need something that will
hold them up.
4. All jewelry and watches are in special-made boxes with velvet interior to
protect them from damage.
5. Everything that has been worn and does not require washing goes back in
their places in the wardrobe, never laying around the room.
6. Clothes that are not in use (due to season or similar) are stored in separate
storage bags that protect them.
7. Storage bags that you put on hanged clothing are great investments and
should also be used for delicate garments.
8. Shoes should be immediately cleaned after you’ve been out. Remove any
smudge marks that you may have picked up.
9. Keep up with regular maintenance of your items, like taking shoes to the shoe
repair, clothes to the tailor, etc., whenever something has broken is vital to
keep your things long lasting.

Details: Jewelry and Watches

Classy women follow a subtle approach to life and use good taste when wearing
jewelry. You would rarely see them wearing diamonds in daylight and oversized
watches, as the look with “in your face” type of jewelry is tacky.

Tasteful watches, pearls, and elegant-looking jewelry are what classy women prefer
when adding that extra detail to their outfit.

The common misconception of appearing of a high standard is that you must look
very expensive. You will often see a middle-class woman with a Rolex watch on her
wrist, one or several “Love” Cartier bracelets, diamonds (maybe a massive
engagement ring and a bracelet) and if there is space something from the brand “Van
cleef and arpels.”

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This doesn’t make her classy, as true class is not a definition from the materialistic
possessions, but instead a modest mannerism in which the person doesn’t need to
showcase a wealthy image. Women with class do end up looking “expensive” or of a
high standard, but never because they cover themselves in diamonds. Instead, their
high-end image comes from their classic style and neatly put together fashion, in
combination with proper behavior and the way they carry themselves. A Rolex watch
and Cartier bracelet cannot give a woman what true elegance can. For that reason,
classy women are mindful of how they accessorize themselves.

Remember the famous saying by Audrey Hepburn:

“It’s tacky to wear diamonds before you are forty.”

It's worth thinking about it. Perhaps to be most proud of your diamonds is when you
are married and know that the diamonds you are wearing are either gifts from your
family or your husband. Wearing jewelry that you got gifted in previous relationships
feels tacky. A woman, who is single and wear diamonds of previous lovers,
boyfriends and so on, sends out the wrong impression and it's not classy!
Always be subtle even when it’s tempting to wear the most extravagant pieces you
own. Discretion is the door to elegance; flaunting is rarely the case.

Jewelry

A married woman often wears a wedding band, and the actual engagement ring
might only be worn on special occasions if it’s very expensive or bulky (all depends
on the size of the diamonds).

In daylight, classy women are often seen wearing pearls and discreet jewelry, never
wearing diamonds as it’s considered to be left for the evening.

After dark, they can go bolder with jewelry and diamonds, but never too much or to
the point that they get confused with someone of the nouveau riche.

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Women who wear watches often go for the smaller and thinner versions, as anything
bulky and masculine takes their elegance away. Those watches encrusted with
diamonds and bling are always avoided, instead, they settle for something more
classic like a Cartier or Patek Philippe. A rule of etiquette at formal evening events, is
never to wear a watch, as it’s not considered to be appropriate and seldom goes
together with formal wear.

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Classy Coaching #9

Develop a fashion strategy after you have done your wardrobe intervention.

A) Make a list of items that are lacking in your wardrobe.

B) Make a mood board that describes your new, signature look. If you don’t want to
make a mood board, make a list in your journal defining the traits of your style.

C) Decide on rules to follow when you go shopping.

What colors will you be shopping now?

What style in garments?
What items will you need to stop buying or stop wearing to be aligned with your
strategy?

Follow these rules at all times whenever you make any purchases. Take your time to
decide before buying.

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Chapter 5
Groom Yourself to Look Classy

Have you ever met these women who look so picture perfect in reality that when you
stand next to them, you feel like the ugliest, dullest person on the planet (even if you
had made an effort to look cute)? You feel like these women belong on the cover of
Vogue while you wouldn’t even qualify for Plain Jane Magazine. All these feelings
have nothing to do with low self-esteem, but rather you have a harsh reality check
when you compare your looks to someone of exceptionally high standard.

If this has ever happened to you, you have probably just come across a very classy
woman, the top-level standard that I’m referring to in this book. These women are so
on top of their game that they make any average women feel intimidated by them.
But I’m not saying that these classy women are better in any way, they just have
better grooming and better taste, and that’s their secret to looking so extremely
polished.

But anyone can achieve this with the right methods and practice, which is why this
chapter will focus on how to elevate your beauty regime so that you can take your
looks to their level.

Now some may think it’s not the actual grooming, but that some people are lucky

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with their genetics, scoring good-looking features, which is why they appear to be so
attractive. Having a beautiful face will give any person a great advantage in life, but
it’s not the entire truth to why many of these women look so striking to the rest of us.

They have made themselves to look of a high standard because they have invested a
lot in their appearance! They take their maintenance extremely serious, they don’t
cheat on their beauty regime, they live healthy, they have impeccable taste, and
together they apply it all with optimal styling. Simply they know how to polish
themselves to look like perfection, and they don’t mind putting in the work and effort
that is required.

With today’s technology and advanced beauty sector, anything is now possible. As
seen on TV shows, the ugly duckling can turn into a bombshell with just the right
methods and the right amount of work. But with the dedication, knowledge and a bit
of money, anyone who wasn’t born with the best-looking features can transform
herself into becoming an absolute stunner. And I’m not only making references to
severe methods like plastic surgery!
Fitness, diet, beauty treatments, stylists, makeup and all that jazz that we are so
familiar with, can play a big part in our makeover but we don’t always use it to our
advantage. Anyone can look classy regardless of how pretty their face is because all
that is required is an adequate taste and time investing in yourself. You can spend a
lot of money on your transformation, but if you have bad taste or go to the wrong
professionals, nothing will ever make you look high standard, no matter how hard
you try!

Remember:

Be very careful with the professionals who you let near your looks. Be very selective,
and ask yourself some questions before you book an appointment:

Are they qualified for their job?

Do they have a proven track record of happy customers?
Can you see examples of their work?

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Sometimes it’s better to spend a little bit more money on someone with a high
reputation because you know that you run a lower risk of being disappointed. Go to
clinics and salons on referral as much as possible because recommendations from
friends (with good taste) is something that will often result in finding the right
professional.

Train your eye to understand what is good taste and what is bad taste, what works for
you and what doesn’t. Most women who fail miserably with their beauty choices are
the ones who “get blind” and can’t see the mistakes they are making due to their lack
of taste. If you have no clue in this department, at least have some self-awareness
and consult with the professionals because they often know their labor better than
you and what would work for your looks.

Experimenting too much with your looks can become a dangerous and expensive
story, same goes for following every beauty trend that comes out. While I encourage
people to try different looks, it’s important to stick to something that you discover
works well on you. That look, let it be a hairstyle, makeup, etc. can become your
signature trait and always make you look your best.

Beauty is expensive, and for most of us, we will have to cut some corners and “do it
ourselves.” In a later chapter I will go over beauty on a budget in detail, but be aware
that some treatments should never be done at home and always best left to the hands
of professionals. It’s not worth saving that extra money if the result is flawed so
always keep a smart mind over stingy.

Lastly, believe that you can achieve that high-standard look if you are serious about
your efforts and put in the required work. Sometimes it requires a little bit of practice
and trials and errors before you get it right, but if you don’t give up and study the
secrets behind the trade, you will have success! Read beauty blogs, watch YouTube
tutorials and don’t be shy about asking polished people their beauty secrets because
you will never know what you can learn from them.

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Skin

Have you noticed how classy people tend to have good skin (including the men!),
sometimes so flawless it makes them look nearly photoshopped in real life?

Classy women spend many efforts on their skin making sure it’s acne free, hydrated
and treated for anti-aging. They know that what they do today, will have an effect
tomorrow and for that reason, they never go to sleep with makeup or ignore they
daily skin treatment. But they are also educated to know that perfect skin origin from
their diet and lifestyle choices.

A stressed person with poor eating habits will never have glowing skin no matter how
much money she puts into her skin products. Nutritious food, getting enough sleep
and avoiding damaging elements like drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, sugar, etc. are the
basics for anyone who wants to take care of their beauty canvas.

Skin is the foundation of a person’s overall appearance. Men look at the skin a lot
when they decide whether they find a woman attractive or not because it’s a sign of
the health of a person. If you look healthy, you have a great base to work with when it
comes to the rest of your appearance, but If the basics are off, no styling will help you
achieve that picture-perfect appearance.

Acne

Most of us have or had some form of issues with acne. Let it be an occasional pimple
when you receive your period or full-blown outbreaks because of hormones. You
must treat your acne if it’s persistent and creates a problem for you. You don’t need
to look like a teenager who’ve hit puberty to seek out help, in fact, don’t ever let your
acne go that far! If you do, you might risk your skin of getting scars from all your
breakouts, which will ruin your face forever!

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got worse the older I got. It was powerful enough to ruin my appearance, no matter
how well I dressed or took care of myself—the acne was always there and could be
seen in all my attempts to cover it up. I felt intimidated being out in daylight because
only at night could I get away with my bad skin as people noticed it much less thanks
to reduced lighting.

Most of the acne was on my cheeks, so when I started getting scars I told myself I’ve
had enough! I wasn’t going to let this acne ruin my entire face, and I was tired of not
being relaxed about my skin anymore. I went to see my doctor so that I could receive
a referral to a specialist in acne. There was a bit of a waiting list, but eventually, I got
my appointment and got prescribed an acne treatment widely known as Accutane or
Rocatane. It’s a very powerful medication that causes heavy effects.

The first month was difficult because the medication dries your body out so you get
weak nails, itchy scalp, and dry mouth. After a month, the side effects lessen and you
get used to it all. But you’re not allowed to drink any alcohol during this six-month
treatment as it’s very heavy on the liver. Each month I had to see my doctor for a
checkup and test my blood to see that everything was okay.

Six months later, I can say this was the best investment I’ve ever done in my life! I
was entirely acne free, and my acne never returned. My skin was finally perfect, with
zero breakouts! I could stop putting so much makeup on and stay worrying about my
imperfections, it felt so liberating!

The procedure might seem extreme for some, and I don’t recommend doing this
treatment if your acne is minimal. But if it doesn’t seem to go away, and you did like
me, tried everything out there without any results, consult with a doctor about taking
medication. This medicine is extreme, and if it doesn’t feel right for you, another
option can be to seek out a naturopath who can help you with alternative medicine.
It’s often hormone or diet related, so it can be of value to understand your outbreaks
on a deeper level and where they originated.
Seeking out the right professional help is a must if you suffer from acne because
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dramatically!

Skincare Routine

Your skin regime is fundamental and should consist of daily cleansing (morning and
night), regular masks, and mini facials at home. This should be combined with
quality skin products selected to your skin type by a professional dermatologist who
has made a bespoke analysis of your skin. No treatments in the world will fix your
skin if you don't bother to take care of it daily. Your skin is the base to your face.
Without a good base, you cannot make the rest work in your favor!

1. Always remove your makeup before bedtime (make sure everything is gone,
do double cleansing if necessary).
2. Do not wear makeup unless you must. Let your skin breath as much possible.
This will strengthen the quality of your skin surface and aid the cells in
regeneration. The more often you go makeup free, the less makeup you will
need to cover up any skin defects.
3. Make it a habit to regularly do mini facials at home, so it becomes part of your
routine. Once a week is usually enough.
4. Water intake is key for hydrated skin and cleansing out your toxins.
5. Eat a plant-based diet and as much raw food as possible. People who eat
uncooked and pesticide-free fruits and vegetables reverse the raging and
appearance of their skin dramatically. Diet is underestimated these days when
we have an overload of products, but think about where all these rejuvenating
cells in your skin get their material from. Is it from the products you apply to
your skin or the food you eat?

Facial Treatments

Depending on your skin type and problem area, your need for treatments will vary.
Some women must go more frequently while others only need to go when necessary.
If you are struggling with specific complexion issues, then professional treatments
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to advise what treatments you should do as it is very individual. This is why I advise
anyone who wants to improve the quality of their skin to consult with a
dermatologist who can offer you a valid opinion after doing a consultation with you.

Some of the many treatments to consider:

• Classic facial with steam, extraction, and exfoliation

• Dermabrasion and microdermabrasion
• Chemical peeling (TCA being the strongest one)
• Laser skin resurfacing (Fraxel laser being a popular method to treat scars)
• Bespoke facial treatments with in-depth analysis of your skin
• Facial massage treatments
• Hydrating treatments
• Acid treatments (glycolic, fruit acid)
• Mesotherapy
• Caci firming and lifting treatments
• Revitalizing treatments
• Ultrasound therapy
• Oxygen therapy

Products that should be included in your regime:

1. Cleanser
2. Toner
3. Makeup remover
4. Day moisturizer
5. Night moisturizer
6. Serum
7. Eye cream
8. Hydrating mask
9. Deep cleansing mask
10. Other products that might be essential for your problem areas

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It might sound overwhelming, but it’s worth the investment. If you revert your skin
to look like back in the days when it had its prime, you will receive the ultimate glow
and radiance that you have been missing out on all this time. Flawless skin is
possible to achieve if you follow the correct diet and apply the right methods. But it’s
all up to your dedication and if you’re serious about polishing yourself to perfection
because it does require work! Classy women are very serious about their skin, which
is why their looks appear better and above everyone else.

Tanning and Self-tan

To tan or to fake tan? Or to not tan at all? That’s the question.

What’s best?

It depends on your preference and skin tone. Classy women can be pale or have a tan,
it’s up to personal taste and how much they want to damage the skin. It’s beautiful to
be bronzed, but too much tan is not considered very classy. When the skin has turned
so dark, making it look like leather skin—that’s when the classiness is gone.

It’s important always to be aware of the damaging aspects of sunlight, and therefore
it’s a must to wear SPF every day.
The sun heavily ages the skin, so wearing SPF 30 on sunny days is advised.
Sunbathing is okay if done in small doses, never exposing the skin for too much
intense sunlight and taking the risk of getting burned. A beautiful bronzed color is
just enough in summer, while in winter, occasional applications of fake tan might do
the trick if you are feeling pale. The fake tan color shall however always be discreet,
with a good scrub before and only one layer of color, so you never take the risk of
turning orange.

But if you belong to those ladies who prefer a pale, natural color, you will save your
skin from stress for many years ahead. For some women, color to their skin does not
work in their favor, so they stay away from any tans whatsoever. For this reason, it’s
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kept in moderation, it is considered classy.

Eyebrows

Believe it or not, the secret behind the looks of these high-standard women is not
only their great skin but also their eyebrows!

There is an art in making perfectly groomed brows, those who master it end up
looking ultra clean. Good eyebrows sculpt a person’s face, make the eyes look more
intense and add a character. When they are groomed with such attention to detail,
they look flawless on a person, making the rest of the face appear equally perfect. If
your eyebrows don’t hold this standard, there will always be something in your
appearance that doesn’t feel 100 percent right, people might not be able to pinpoint
what it is, but your overall look will suffer when brows are not perfect.

Perfect Eyebrows

The shape should be perfectly suited to your facial structure.

They are threaded once a week.

Hair length of the brows should be trimmed.

They are tinted if necessary.

If you have gaps, use a little brow pencil or powder to fill them in.

No strong pencil drawing on your brows.

The result should look natural and perfectly groomed.

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enhance their structure and make them look more polished.

We can sometimes get lazy and ignore the importance of eyebrow maintenance
because we think it’s such a small detail in our face, that it doesn’t carry much value
and therefore needs as much of attention. This is where most go wrong because
eyebrows are more important than you think, and they do require your weekly care,
either with the help of a professional or if you prefer doing it yourself. If your
eyebrows are problematic, it can be worth getting a Microblading tattoo (3-D, 6-D)
done, which is something I recommended, but only if you go to someone who will
create a natural looking result.

Eyelash Extensions

Professional eyelash extensions become a lifesaver for women who want to keep their
appearance easy to maintain while always looking flawless. The hassle-free life of
never using mascara and waking up with perfect lashes, is a dream come true. You
receive a different depth to your eyes, and with correct application, lashes can be very
sculpting for the eye, enhance or improve the natural eye shape in a woman.

Some women have their own lashes in good quality, and unless they need extensions
for a specific reason, I would not advise since they already have a functioning base to
work with. But if your own lashes are short, thin or not give you the desired shape to
your eye, discovering the world of eyelash extensions can be worth it.

The secret is finding a qualified lash technician because this is something you cannot
do DIY! It’s a monthly commitment and can come pricey as you will have to go every
three to four weeks for a touch-up.

There are different ways of applying eyelash extensions, the most common ones are
the natural set (one on one) or volume/Russian volume (several lashes on one). What
you choose depends on what result you want. My favorite method is using volume
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on one method, but will also give you a natural looking result. Find a technician that
has a good track record of happy customers and a portfolio with pictures you can see
before you book your appointment.

Teeth and Smile

A healthy and beautiful smile signals a sense of class while bad teeth says the
opposite. One of the most essential things to do is to invest in the appearance and
hygiene of your mouth.

If you have crooked or yellow teeth, bad breath or other issues, you must put it on
your priority list to resolve. It might cost you, as dental care is expensive, but it’s
worth it. It’s an investment in yourself and your future. If you’re in the dating scene,
you might be putting potential partners off, as bad teeth are something challenging
to get past for anyone. Some people have genetically beautiful white teeth, and to
those, I want to say, “Congratulations, you may want to skip this chapter!” For the
rest, keep on reading . . .

Regular Visits to the Dentist

I’m not a dentist, but I do want to advise everyone to take their dental health
seriously. It’s an investment for your older days as much as your current days. Go
regularly for checkups and cleaning. Depending on how your dentist advises you, a
cleaning shall be done every three to six months, while checkup is okay once a year.
The cleaning is very important to remember. It’s more important than your regular
facials and body treatments. A proper clean of your teeth is essential for the hygiene
of the mouth and fresh breath! If you are beautiful but your breath stink, your beauty
holds no power if people want to take a step away from you.

Teeth Whitening

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perfectly white shade, not too much just crisp and clean. It turns out, these people
always had teeth of this color, no whitening methods involved.

Fortunately, with today’s technology, even people with less advantage in the genetic
lottery, can have a beautiful Colgate smile. But it will cost you, and it might be
painful. There are two options available for you—do it at home or do it at the dentist.

If you choose to whiten your teeth at home, it’s often a seven- to fourteen-day
process in which you gradually whiten your teeth, making this a less painful
experience. During this time, you are advised not to eat or drink anything that can
stain your teeth, like tea, coffee, turmeric, tomato sauce, Coca-Cola, etc. The
whitening gel can be bought at your dentist or in regular shops, just look out for a
peroxide level that is effective and suitable for you. Some claim that the product you
buy at the dentist is more efficient, while others say it’s not true, you can find equally
good—if not better—in drugstores.

One thing that is good to have, which is what the dentist creates for you, is the rubber
shield that is specially adapted to your teeth. If you use it together with your
whitening gel, it’s the most efficient way to bleach your teeth at home as it properly
covers them. Whitening your teeth at the dentist is a painful but sometimes a more
efficient way of achieving that Hollywood smile. The most popular methods are
Zoom and laser whitening. Depending on the peroxide levels, it will whiten your
teeth with a few shades. In some countries like the United States, the most effective
whitening solution of high peroxide is legal, while in countries like the United
Kingdom it’s not. It is damaging for the teeth, but you’ll be able to get that white
result in one visit. It will hurt, often for several days after, but if your teeth are quite
stained, this could be the only way to get the result you want.

Problematic Teeth

If your teeth are crooked or not perfectly aligned, you should take into consideration
of sorting that out first. Solutions are usually braces (metal or Invisalign) or veneers/
porcelain crowns depending on your problem area. This must be consulted with a

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dentist, and you should get advice from more than one as different dentist have
different expertise. All solutions will cost you, but it’s something you should
prioritize. If you are ready to invest in your classy image, then teeth should be on top
of everything.

If your teeth are healthy and not damaged, ruining them with veneers or crowns is a
bad idea. You should opt for braces to correct a misalignment even if that requires a
long wait to see results. However, if your orthodontist thinks that braces will not be a
suitable option, go for the veneers/crowns. Just be aware that they are not made for a
lifetime, and you’ll have to change them after x amount of years. Consult your dentist
for more details.

Nails

Manicures are standard procedures in the beauty regime of a woman.

People pay more attention to hands and nails than you think. While it seems like our
fingers are barely noticeable, as we gesticulate with our hands our keep them in front
of us, people always notice the status of your nails. Especially men.

Most men have a habit of automatically inspecting the woman hands. I’ve heard
many of my male friends slagging women off because they didn’t take care of their
nails. You cannot be a woman on a top-notch level who doesn’t take care of such
important details like regular manicures and pedicures. Some people think natural,
polish-free nails to be the best, as it’s clean-cut and conservative. Unless you work in
a restaurant, I wouldn’t advise going au natural. I know that I’m the advocate for
natural beauty, but when we’re talking nails, going completely bare is not very
elegant.

Worse is of course to have flaky nail polish, bitten nails or long acrylics with nail art.
The general rule for classy fingers is to go for manicures every week, and pedicure
every second week. You might get away with it longer if you’re using gel, but keep
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they cannot be too long as that’s when they’re starting to look tacky.

Short nails are very chic, and today many glamorous women decide to wear them
short with a bright red or French manicure and look extremely tasteful.

A Classy Manicure and Pedicure

1. Classy women don’t wear all kinds of colors in their nail polish. They stick to
neutral shades like beige, pink, French manicure style, bright red and
burgundy red.
2. The tip of the French manicure must be a very thin line. Avoid anything thick,
as it would make your hands look like of a porn star.
3. Avoid decorating nails with embellishments, drawings, or patterns. It only
looks tacky.
4. Match the color of your feet to your hands.
5. If your nails are strong and healthy, keep it simple by only applying nail
polish. If your nails often break, consider making them stronger with Shellac/
gel.
6. Classy women on a budget can do their nails at home if practiced properly and
you have the correct knowledge of how to do a perfect manicure. Equipment
for Shellac nails can easily be bought and used at home for a fraction of the
price of what it would cost to go to the salon repeatedly.

Makeup

The face of an elegant woman is rarely plastered with heavy makeup and different
colors. Instead, it’s subtle, concealed to the eye even though you know that it’s there.
Women who apply makeup in a less classy way do it because they think it will make
them look better the more they apply. Covering up their flaws with loads of product
is a great example! It never changes for the better, instead, it makes them look older
and vulgar.
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we discuss makeup. The classy makeup look is to look like you have no makeup,
that’s how natural it should be.

The countering trends with loads of highlighters, popping colors, glitter, and shine is
not part of the “Grace Kelly” and “Audrey Hepburn” looks that sophisticated women
strive for. If you want to look high-end, you should have a mature look, and mature
ladies never go over the top.

Enough should be smoothen your complexion with a light foundation, concealer or

powder. You could gently define your eyebrows and put some mascara on the lashes
(unless you do lash extensions). To add some color to your face, you can apply a
blusher/bronzer and dab a little bit of lipstick onto your lips.

Voila! Makeup should not be more than what’s needed! The trick is to master all
blending and application techniques to the point you do your makeup like a pro, so it
doesn’t look like you are wearing anything.

For evening wear, eyeshadows and lipsticks are fine if they are tasteful and not too
much.

Makeup Dos and Don’ts

We can all agree that bad makeup will make any woman look less attractive. Poor
technique, too many applications, and uneven tones will sabotage the woman’s
appearance regardless of her efforts in perfecting her look. A common mistake is to
apply makeup in a room with poor lighting, and later step out in daylight only to see
that your makeup looks like a mess.

Makeup must look discreet even in the brightest sunshine in which the very fine
details of your face will get exposed. For this reason, classy women wear subtle
makeup in daylight and in the evenings, it’s okay to add a bit more glamour to the
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Not everyone has a talent for applying makeup like a professional. Your skills are
what can sometimes the determine how polished your face looks like, as women who
are clueless with their tools can destroy the art on a beautiful canvas. It’s vital to
learn some basic techniques of correct application if you’re someone who
incorporates makeup into your daily routine. Surely, it’s normal that by practice you
learn, but getting professional advice will often accelerate your results.

In department stores, you can often go to the makeup counters and get an hour with
their makeup artist who will explain how you should apply your makeup. Some
purchases will have to be made to get this one on one consultation, but it’s well worth
it. If you want to properly master makeup and make it work to your absolute
advantage, consider taking a course or a workshop in the city that you live in.

There is also much information online, like on YouTube and various beauty blogs, if
you have the patience to sit and learn by yourself. The significant bits to learn are the
different techniques of application and how to choose your correct colors for your
skin tone.

On special events or big nights out, perhaps if you’re going to be photographed a lot,
it can be worth to hire a professional makeup artist who will come to your home and
do your makeup.

Common makeup mistakes:

Applying too much bronzer or blusher or not blending correctly, leaving you streaks
on the face

Choosing foundation in the wrong color; going too dark or too light or sometimes
selecting the wrong shade so that you look pink or yellow in daylight

Creating obvious highlights; when highlights don’t appear natural and instead looks
like streaks of gold color

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Shaky or too thick eyeliner that doesn’t look good; sometimes black can look very
harsh around the eyes, but going lighter like trying a dark brown can be a better
option

Having colorful eyeshadows and glitter; makeup can be fun and experimental, but it
rarely looks elegant when done in a funky way

Having over-refined eyebrows; the color of the eyebrows should not be much
different from your own, and going too dark and filling them with a pencil can make
them look too harsh and unnatural

Having lumpy lashes after too many applications of mascara

Forgetting the neck; applying foundation and powders only on your face and
forgetting the neck and behind the ears will be noticed from another angle than the
one you’re used to seeing yourself.

As a rule, having a “no makeup” look is the key to looking classy. But I’m aware that
people express their unique styles in different forms with makeup being one of the
ways. If you have a style with makeup of a more flamboyant style, it doesn’t mean
that you by default are looking less elegant. Each case can be different, and perhaps a
funky style works well on you because you have made it to become your signature
look. In cases like that, I’m not against wearing something more bolder and colorful,
but I believe it needs the correct style and good application for it to work.

Hair

A good blow dry is the secret behind a woman who has taken her looks to the next
level. Her hair is always in prime condition whenever she leaves her house even
though it’s a big investment that requires both time, money and effort. Healthy hair
signals attractiveness, but it also seals the deal for your overall appearance. If your
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takes a big amount of space on a person.

If you don’t have the time to make your hair look neat, you should consult with a
hairdresser of creating a look that is easy to care for, and you can receive beautiful
hair with minimum efforts—if you have a hair type that allows you to do that . . .

Bad Hair

Not everyone is born with thick, luscious hair that grows long and shiny with
minimal efforts. Most of us have some form of issues with our hair, whether it’s too
thin or too thick, very damaged, dry, frizzy—you name it!

Regular visits to the hairdresser are therefore essential to keep up with the problem
areas of your hair. The worst is women with bad taste that ruin their hair with colors
or styles that don’t look good on them. Bad hair can be fixed, but bad taste will kill
everything you have going for you!

Getting the Hairstyle Right

A woman’s femininity lays in her hair, and having a long mane is what most women
desire, and men get attracted to. But which hairstyle is considered the classiest?

Most women opt for long hair, whether it’s their own or done with quality extensions.
It can look classy if it’s always kept in in prime condition and not being too long.
Longer than your bust and it’s not as elegant anymore.

Shorter hairstyles, on the other hand, can look very chic and conservative, but it
makes a woman look older than she is. If cut very short, men often don’t find it as
attractive as with longer hair. But the benefit is that it’s usually easier to style and
maintain.

The decision is therefore bound to your preference and choice. If unsure, a safe bet is
to keep your hair somewhere in the middle, think just below shoulder length, that

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always looks classy on anyone.

What’s important is to choose a style that will be right for your face shape. If for
example, you have a round face then you know that bangs never will suit you but
make you look rounder in your face. Have a word with your hairdresser who can help
you determinate your face shape and consult which hairstyle would make you look
more elegant that you can commit to maintaining. Once you have chosen a style that
suits you perfectly, a good idea is to stick to it for years to come, as it will look like
you have never aged. But for that to work, the hairstyle should be of a classic trim
and look timeless like it’s never going out of style.

Getting the Hair Color Right

Classy hair color is always natural looking and never experimental. A classy woman
has a classic beauty in which artificial colors don’t belong. The same goes for ombre
coloring or obvious highlights. You must go to a professional colorist if you’re
planning to change your hair color, but even professionals can’t always be trusted.
I’ve had many friends who go to salons and get their hair ruined, so it’s crucial you do
careful research about where to go before you let somebody do anything to your hair.
The hairdresser must be familiar with your type of hair and what coloring method is
best to use on you.

When it comes to the right color, professionals always say the same thing—never
color more than three shades darker or lighter your own natural color. In my
opinion, if you want to have lighter hair, doing highlights in various lighter shades is
what will give you the most natural look, instead of coloring your head in one tone.

You must decide your hair color based on the tone of your skin. My theory is that
your natural hair color is what works best because nature makes it always a point to
match your skin tone.

Hair Extensions

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If your hair is short, thin or too damaged to grow longer than a length, getting long
hair with hair extensions might be your only solution. While “extensions” cling
wrongly in most people’s ears, they can rescue your bad hair if the extensions are of a
high standard. Extensions get a bad reputation only when women buy of cheaper
quality and don’t do a good job with the maintenance.

How to make your extensions look natural:

Go to a hairdresser who is an expert and can make sure you don’t damage your own
hair with the extensions that you put in.

Choose the best hair quality and hair thickness that is like your own.

Choose the correct hair color, so it matches your own and looks identical to yours.

Choose a method for putting the extensions in. Your hairdresser can advise you on
your hair type and what would work best. I use keratin, while my friend has weft hair
and another one swears by micro rings and tape configuration. It all depends on
what’s your preferred choice.

Regular maintenance is key to keeping your extensions fresh looking: gentle washes,
treatments, blow-dries, and changing the hair every recommended X number of
months depending on the hair you’re getting. I remove my extensions every three
months and put in new, fresh hair, and I never wait longer than that even if I could
wait another month as it damages my own hair and can create problems.

Hair Treatments

Depending on what hair problem one may have, some women need to go more
frequently than others to do treatments. If a woman wants to keep a high standard
and look perfectly groomed, the hair should be in excellent condition—shiny, bouncy,
silky and smooth.

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How to keep it this way?

Maintenance and regular hair care.

It can become an expensive story, but you can do as much as possible yourself, like
applying hair masks at home once or twice a week.

Two of my favorite hair treatments to do at the salon are Olaplaex and Keratin
treatment. Your focus should be on removing any form of frizz and to always have
shiny, healthy-looking hair. Doing anti-frizz treatments can help anyone who doesn’t
always have time for regular blow-dries at the salon.

If you’re a savvy woman, who loves mastering new skills, learning how to do perfect
blow-dry should be put on your to-do list. It may be tricky to reach, especially with
long hair, but it will save you a lot of money than running to the salon each time. You
must have some patience, as blow-drying is a time-consuming process if you want to
get it right.

But the secret to classy hair is for it to be perfectly blow-dried, the entire classy
population rely on their hair stylists to achieve it, so you would do yourself a big
favor if you study some tutorials on YouTube and practice doing blow-dries like a
pro.

Hair Variations

• Even classy girls have bad hair days, and that’s when they use hats or put their
hair up.
• Dry shampoo will forever be your best friend when you don’t have the time to
wash it.
• Head scarfs can look very classy if tied correctly and the color goes well with
your skin tone.
• Are you blessed with a beautiful long neck? Tie your hair up like a ballerina
and show it off.
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bought to put your hair up in many ways. Go exploring, as you might discover
something that creates a new hairstyle that only requires a few minutes of
labor.

Cosmetic Procedures

One of the things that have become so extremely common today is plastic surgery
and injections. It would be ignorant to say that no classy women are getting some
form of help along the way to tweak something in her look. Many do, even if it’s
something small or subtle like applying Botox. Today it’s not a big deal, and for that
reason, I will speak very relaxed and openly about it, as before it used to be a very
taboo topic. The reputation of surgery and injections is due to bad practice and
women who become blind and overdo it.

Tweaking your looks artificially is fine only if you:

1. Go to a respected surgeon or dermatologist.
2. Create only subtle changes.
3. Don’t become “blind” to your appearance and get carried away with the
procedures.

The classy look is all about resembling a natural beauty. You should look fresh,
polished, groomed, beautiful and clean cut. This image does not hold enormous lips
that are so enlarged they can barely drink from a straw. Or a nose that belongs to
Michael Jackson. Or a face so stiff it has lost all its expressions.

There are many things to be aware of when you’re in the game of plastic surgery. The
common mistake is to become blind to your looks and think that you need to have
breasts in a double D cup size, when your natural is only an A cup.

You need to have good taste and be careful with your decisions, especially when you
select the professionals that will do the work on you. Avoid any surgeons or
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appearance; often they are just trying to make more money from you. Find somebody
you can trust, who is 100 percent honest with you and tells you what will work for
you and what won’t.

Today it’s so common to tweak one thing and another, but don’t go and do a
procedure just because “everyone else is doing it.” You might not need anything, as
natural, untouched beauty is still (and will probably be forever) the ultimate
statement to a classy lady. Being a woman in the classy world without procedures is
nowadays a rarity. I know many men who strongly dislike surgeries or fillers and
cannot date women who have had something obvious done to themselves.

For this reason, don’t do anything to your face or body unless you have been wanting
to change it for a very long time and know that, that small adjusting will elevate your
overall look. If there is something that bothers you, try first to change it with diet, a
new hairstyle, some makeup or anything else that can help enhance or conceal your
less desired area. Then try fillers or Botox if that doesn’t work. Lastly turn to surgery
if there is really no way out.

If you’re going to proceed, don’t be the one who does procedures on a shoestring. If
it’s one department you should never be stingy, it’s the department of cosmetic
surgery. Often, the more someone charges, the more of a proven track record he/
she’s got. Professionals with the right education and reputation and experience, will
charge extra.

I have a good example of two girls I know who both did their nose jobs at the same
time. One paid 5,000 euro and got a nose that is “okay looking” while the one who
paid the double got a nose everyone is praising her for. It doesn’t mean spending the
highest will always guarantee you a great result, but it will elevate your chances and
minimize the risk of someone ruining your appearance. Skip therefore all those
tempting Groupon deals and bargain clinics abroad. Do your research, ask people for
recommendations and see before and after pictures of the doctor’s clients. Be
cautious with who you let near yourself with tools that will forever change your look.

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Classy checklist to cosmetic procedures:

If you’re applying Botox, you still need to be able to have some level of facial
expressions.

If enhancing your breasts, make them look natural and in an adequate size that suits
you and blends with your body.

If enhancing your lips, a subtle added volume so that your lips can still articulate in a
normal relaxed manner.

If adding fillers to your face, there is a fine line that is easy to cross when it becomes
too much. Often the face starts looking too plump (almost swollen), cheekbones that
points out too much or chins that are over-defined.

Rhinoplasty is one of the most common procedures, and the desired result should be
a refined version of your natural nose, instead of opting for a nose that looks like it
had surgery done. (A nose looking so perfectly artificial, a doll nose).

Butt implants are not classy whatsoever, and no Kim Kardashian trend will ever be
seen with the sophisticated high-end women.

Whatever that has been done to your face must look so natural that nobody would
notice it’s due to cosmetic surgery.

Fragrance

There is more to the body than just great appearance. Have you ever heard the
science behind how we choose our partners?

Biologically speaking we mate with the ones that appeal to us most by this person’s
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attracting us, but scientifically it’s not by chance. Every one of us has some form
pheromones that we get drawn to, and this is the reason behind the massive perfume
industry. The importance of a fragrance should not get neglected because it does
hold an important power over people. If you want to make your presence more
memorable, spend some time into finding a fragrance that will become your
signature smell. A classy woman should smell of sophistication, so try to move away
from the mass-market perfumes when you are choosing your scent.

I realized the power of perfumes after being young and introduced to many classy
people, and their scent always intrigued me. They looked like million dollars, but
they also smelled alike.
They smell of extravagance, leaving a sense of luxury behind that is far away from
any mainstream eau the toilette. Wealthy people choose quality perfumes over
mainstream ones, and explore niche fragrances. Someone classy would use a 100
percent perfume, from a respected brand that is well known to the perfume
enthusiasts rather than the general masses.
The advantage of wearing 100 percent perfumes is that they are longer lasting and
more intense. You don’t need to spray a lot on you to have people sense it. Once
people start asking about the smell and where it’s from, it’s usually a good sign that
you’re on the right track. It’s all about leaving a statement and making people
mesmerized. Your fragrance will play a big role in your classy branding so pick your
smell with care.

When you choose a scent, you’ll have to choose it because of your liking but also
because the way it would represent you. Go for something that feels elegant and
sophisticated - and don’t be shy spending three-zeros on a bottle as it will last you up
to a year! A high-quality perfume should never be sprayed more than three times, so
if you spray one to two times per use (once a day), a bottle should last you longer
than several eau de toilettes.

Brand Suggestions

Creed, Roja Dove Haute, Clive Christian, Boadicea, Frederic Malle, Kilian, The

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Merchant of Vénice, Floris, Henry Jacques, Xerjoff, Montale, Lady Caron, Bouquet
Ideale, Penhaligon, Les senteurs, Osmonde Jayne, Le Labo, Serge Lutens, etc.

Tattoos and Piercings

The world has progressed since the modest era of our grandparents, and putting ink
on your skin has become the ultimate trend of our generation. Unfortunately, it does
not apply to the image of high class, as tattoos and piercings are still considered to be
more tacky than elegant.

So can a girl truly be classy if she has tattoos? It depends on several things.

How many tattoos does she have?

Are they big or small?
Where are they placed?
Are they very visible?

If it’s one small tattoo, hidden, and very discreet, you can get away with it. Any
tattoos that are bigger and bolder, however, will ruin the appearance of a classy
woman.

The same goes for piercings. It’s only acceptable to have your ears pierced.
Everything else is considered tacky, including the belly button.

Remove your tattoos with laser or never get one in the first place! A lot of people,
including celebrities, are turning to dermatologists for tattoo removal as the inking
trend starts to fade. More and more people are understanding the tacky aspect of
body ink, while in smaller cities and suburbs, tattoos are still popular. The classy
crowd, however, keeps their body clean from clutter.

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Classy Coaching #10

The people in your life who you can trust and whos’ opinions you value, ask them for
feedback about your overall beauty.

A) From a scale of 1–10 (10 being top notch, 1 being not at all) ask how polished your
overall presence appears to them?

B) Ask, “If there were something you would advise me to improve on in my

appearance, what would that be?”

Trustworthy people can be great judges if they give you an objective truth.

We don’t always know ourselves of what works on us because we never see ourselves
three-dimensionally like an outsider does.

This exercise, however, requires your defenses be down so that you can get the most
out of the feedback and perhaps get some ideas of areas in which there is room for
improvement.

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Chapter 6
Get a Classy Body

I want to dedicate this chapter to those who know that they need to work on their
bodies and create a healthier lifestyle for themselves. You might be struggling with
weight loss, or seeing results from your training, whether you are at the first stage of
your journey of transformation or you have had many years but with little results.
Some of you might feel so overwhelmed by all the information in this book, that you
feel ready to throw in the towel and give up on all your classy aspirations. You might
think this change is impossible to achieve because the road seems too far and your
circumstances making it too challenging.

The works of transformation are tough. But they are never impossible. If they were
impossible, there would never be so many success stories in the world, just look at all
the “before/after” pictures of real people online. Those pictures could not happen if
there weren't any dedication behind. Something in these people “clicked,” which
made them consistently change their lifestyle for the better and never give up on
reaching their goals.

Losing weight or toning your body is a full-time commitment that doesn’t happen
overnight. It’s hard. Perhaps one of the hardest things to transform in this entire
book. It’s especially difficult because it requires a serious lifestyle change. And

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changing habits has never been easy for humans as we are constructed in the
complete opposite way.

But this is when you should start thinking about what will a beautiful, and healthy
body do for you and how badly do you want it? Change seems to happen only when
people want something badly enough. If they crave it to the point they would do
anything for it, this is when magic start to happen, and a person will be guaranteed
success.

“Do I really need to have a perfect body to be classy? “

No of course you don’t. Not all classy women have bodies of a supermodel.

But there must be some form of attractiveness in your overall shape, regardless if you
are slim, athletic or curvy. You care about your image, so you should also care for
your body. Nothing says trashier than a person who neglects herself, her physique
and lives a life of a slacker. It’s not elegant, and it doesn’t send out the right vibe of
you as a person. Classy women respect themselves, and they treat themselves with
ultimate care. This is why you see all these women being so extremely health
conscious, prioritizing having a diet and exercise regime in their daily life. It’s not so
much a quick fix to lose weight, but more focus on achieving a sustainable, balanced
lifestyle.
When you train and eat right, you nurture yourself and your well-being. Bad habits
are not only obstacles for weight loss, but it’s also what brings us sickness and
decreases our productivity levels. When your goal is to live a harmonious life in
balance, having a healthy lifestyle is essential because it sets the environment for
everything else.

If you want to stay on top of your game and achieving your life goals, balance is what
will fuel your way forward. It’s hard having your life together, when you thrive off
pizza and alcohol and never exercise your body. Your mental self becomes sluggish
and lazy and sabotages your path for success.

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"I’m stuck! I’ve tried so many times to get in shape, but I’ve never managed!"

You must want it badly enough, and you must be ready to handle the consequences.
You must be fully committed and dedicated to the point you are willing to make
sacrifices in your life. You must be consistent and ready to make a lifestyle change.
You must feel inspired to live with this decision every day and healthy living must
become a part of your philosophy. On days when you feel like giving up, you must
force yourself to hang in there no matter how hard it feels.

The formula for success is as simple: You can never give up. As soon as you give up,
it’s game over and all your efforts were for nothing. But if you manage to hang in
there, hold on even in times when it feels unbearable, that’s when change is
happening. After a while, your healthy lifestyle will feel easier because you will get
used to it. And once you get used to it, that’s when you will start seeing the first
positive results, and healthy living will start feeling like something normal. But it
takes time, and sometimes it can take months before you see any change. The
question is, can you withstand that long? If the answer is yes, your chance of success
is already halfway there.

Classy Training

Training is part of a healthy lifestyle, but you don’t need to be a slave in the gym and
go 7 days a week. As a general practice, two-three times a week is good for
maintenance of the body, while four-five times are for creating more significant
changes in your physique.

If you are planning to lose weight, you should be careful with any form of exercise
that triggers your appetite, cardio being a common one. Many do the mistake of
focusing on cardio when they want to burn fat, but instead, they end up seeing little
results due to them becoming hungrier, and they eat more in a day. While cardio is
healthy and pleasant for the mind of having a rush of endorphins in the body, classy
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crave less food and not taking the risk of putting on weight.

Some ideas on how you can train:

Power walks on an empty stomach

Light jogging
Pilates reform
Yoga
Barre classes
Hiking
Sports
Moderate intensity of weight lifting
Functional training
Ballet
Dance
Kickboxing

Those who don’t enjoy group training or gym facilities, participating in a sport as
your form of exercise could be an idea. Classy sports are usually tennis, skiing,
horseback riding, polo, ballet or golf, but anything else that triggers your mind is
worth exploring. Being part of a sport have extra advantages as it’s a great way to
meet people and expanding your social circle. Plus, it can turn into a passion or
hobby of yours, making you feel incredibly motivated with low risk of dropping out.

The point of training is that it must feel sustainable for you. It cannot feel like a chore
because you will only withstand it an X amount of time and later give up. Punishing
yourself daily is not what will give your life quality, but neither will ignoring training
completely. Choose therefore something that energizes you, that makes you feel
happy and inspired. You train for your inner balance and to keep your body active, so
be gentle with yourself and choose something that you know will be fulfilling to you.

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Classy Eating Habits

The reality is that exercise will never be the reason for your weight loss because diet
is the real secret to body transformation. If you are not in your desired shape, it’s as
simple as: You are eating too much and not of the right type of foods. Our modern
society has created us to become overeaters, which promotes us to eat three to six
times a day! That’s crazy! Humans are not supposed to eat this much, and with our
sedentary lifestyles, the excess energy gets stored as fat on our bodies. Going on the
treadmill once a day will most probably not do much to your slim down, but eating
less and having portion control, will, on the other hand, create miracles!

I do understand that diet is a very sensitive topic as we have people who get eating
disorders as a result. I must, therefore, file a disclaimer as I’m not a doctor and I am
not telling you what you should do. That is up to you and the doctor you consult, and
you are responsible for how far you push your body.

As provocative as this may sound, humans are not made for eating this much. It’s
something that we have created in recent history for cultural reasons rather than for
survival reasons. Before the industrial era, when food wasn’t easily accessible to
everyone, humans never used to eat the amounts we eat today. Sometimes we ate
once a day, sometimes none. It all depended on the accessibility and what we could
gather. This is where the famous fasting and intermitted fasting concept originated.
It’s an important study to learn if you want to improve your health, but also if you
want to improve your physique.

I won’t go into too much detail, but I would strongly recommend reading more about
it as it can transform your life and yourself to a level you never thought would be
possible. It not only makes you feel great, but it will also make you look great, and
I’m a big advocate for anything that helps people heal their health problems without
any pharmaceutical treatments. The idea of “eating whatever you want” has become
an outdated concept. We are moving ahead in our research for disease and studies
are showing that the reason why humans get problems with their health, is due the
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poisoning ourselves with food that the society has decided is the norm to consume.
Everywhere we go, we are brainwashed with propaganda, like commercials for junk
food. The supermarkets are containing mostly processed food, and if you want to buy
something to eat on the go, you’ll rarely find anything healthy.

Classy people are very food conscious, but they are also well educated. They know
that instead of complaining about something like global warming, they can stop
contributing to it by not eating meat (animal agriculture is the number one reason to
the global warming issue).

They would never go to a fast food place like McDonalds or KFC because they take
responsibility for their health and they know that there is zero nutritional value in
the food you get from these places.
They know that they must choose organic, high-quality produce as often as possible,
so they rather spend a little bit more on the quality but eat less of it than going for
something that can potentially harm them.

Adapting to a healthy lifestyle is not difficult if you understand why you must do it.
Most people struggle with keeping themselves to a diet because their mind is mostly
focused on weight loss or other reasons that will not be motivating enough in the
long run. Instead of looking at it temporarily, one must come to a deeper
understanding of nutrition. What you feed your organs should become the primary
motivation as that as a result feeds your overall health and well-being. People who
neglect their food habits end up shortening their lives.

But classy women also think about the impact food does on their looks, as diet has a
direct link to the skin of a person. You must nurture yourself with the correct
nutrition if you want your skin to clear up, remove those dark circles and get this
vibrant, healthy glow on your face. If you eat a plant-based diet, preferably a raw
vegan, you will achieve these benefits.

I recommend watching a non-profit documentary called “What the health” that

explains everything in detail that you must know about health and nutrition. It will

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make you understand why animal products should be banned from your diet and
how much harm it’s causing to your health and appearance.

What classy people avoid:

Sugar
Gluten
Diary
Meat
Processed foods
Saturated Fats

What classy people eat:

Organic and pesticide-free fruits

Organic and pesticide-free vegetables
Grains, nuts, and seeds
Raw food
Raw vegetable juices
Superfoods

If you start educating yourself on health and nutrition, the lifestyle change will
become so much easier for you to achieve and sustain. It will become the driving
force behind quitting all the bad habits, and you will be selective with what you feed
yourself. Ultimately, it will be the inspiration for you to leave your bad habits behind
and live a healthier and happier life, and a beautiful body will result automatically as
a nice bonus!

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A) Analyze your healthy lifestyle. Answer following questions and write the answer in
your journal.

How healthy is your overall lifestyle?

Where could you improve? Is it training, diet, or both?

What are realistic lifestyle changes that feel inspiring and motivating for you?

B) Keep a food diary for two weeks and analyze how much food you are eating.

How much of this food is processed?

How often do you eat something “bad”?

How much is plant-based food part of your intake?

Do your eating habits look healthy?

How are your portion sizes?

Reflect on your answers and let them guide you toward a healthier lifestyle. Write
down some action steps that you commit to in your everyday life.

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Chapter 7
Create a Classy Lifestyle

Anyone can live a classy lifestyle if they decide to. Your background or financial
status has no impact whether you can refine your life to become more elegant or not.
You always start in small, manageable steps, and work your way up until you have
reached a level that you desire. Life is structured in a way that some might get a head
start, but the possibilities are always open for anyone to create a life they want to live.
This means if you want to live a luxurious, comfortable and classy life, you need to
take a decision and simply go for it. But a decision alone will never be enough as
actions must also be made.

Change happens when there is a burning desire for achieving a different outcome,
but most people never get that far. Instead, they let blockages hinder their journey,
with “fear” being the most common one. They talk themselves out of taking actions,
by coming up with excuses or blaming on others. It’s a fact that humans are wired
psychologically to be afraid of things, to protect ourselves from being in unsafe
territories. An ancient survival mechanism that unfortunately gets carried over to the
not so dangerous modern way of living.

Taking the first realistic action steps is what anyone who wants to live a classier must
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you are a novice who is clueless about anything that has to do with an elegant form of
living. This chapter will go over the necessary basics and maybe give some ideas on
how to progress to a different form of life. Not everyone should live under these
parameters, but I will guide you for inspiration about where you can make changes if
you want to make your everyday classier.

Education

Education will always be important, and it’s classy to finish your tuition and get some
form of degree. If you study to a profession, you will feel secure in life knowing that
you will always be able to take care of yourself. Not having an education will make
you take the risk of getting stuck at low paying jobs, while an education guarantees
higher paid salaries depending on your profession.

Some manage to advance to well-paid positions without the need of university and
degrees, but that often involves years of climbing the corporate ladder, starting from
the bottom and working their way up. To be classy, you don’t need to have boarding
schools or Ivy league education in your past, but you must have some form of
ambitions. Whatever path in life you decide to take, it’s good to be aware of what
consequences some choices may bring.

Career

People are different, and so is their view on career. Some are high achievers while
others have a more laid-back approach to life.

There is no right and wrong, but it’s important to do something that gives you
meaning in life. If running a business or becoming a CEO gives you meaning, go for
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Whatever you feel is your mission in life, acknowledge that. Don’t be afraid of
dreaming big or going against the norm, what you do in life is nobody else business
but yours. And everything is possible and achievable if you put your mind to it. A
career or path in life should feel fulfilling and rewarding. It should stimulate your
personal growth and hopefully contribute somehow to the society. Whether it’s, you
are raising kids, working for a company or creating a business that will help people in
some way. The possibilities are endless and classy women are never afraid of
thinking big.

Social Education/ Being Street Smart

Learn about life. Go exploring! Step outside your comfort zone and see the world!
Life can sometimes become a monotonous path, in a protective bubble that never
bursts. Getting socially educated is one of the greatest schools in life, same goes for
traveling and discovering new cultures.

When you discover the world, you learn so much about life, about the planet and
about ourselves. Classy women have an extensive knowledge of life, they know what's
going on in the world because they read the news and engage in interesting
conversations that teach them things.

Always stay au jour with politics, culture and recent events. You will need this
information for interactions with other classy people, and your richness in social
education will, therefore, come handy.

Hobbies

If you ever feel uninspired and ask yourself, “What am I doing with my life?” then
look at your everyday activities.

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Life feels empty when we don’t incorporate things that genuinely nurtures our soul.
Hobbies are so important, it’s the elixir to the meaning in life. It gets you going and
keeps you growing, besides being a form of entertainment.

Some people have plenty of hobbies, while others have none and find it difficult to
find anything that catches their interest. I believe it’s important to try all kinds of
things that trigger your attention so that you are always discovering because when
you least expect it, you’ll fall in love with something and your new hobby is born.

Some ideas for hobbies to try:

For the mind: reading books, studying, crosswords, languages, chess, computing,
marketing, meditation, music, poker, astrology, New age spirituality, blogging

For creativity: photography, arts, theater, acting, film, dancing, writing,

scrapbooking, playing an instrument, singing, acrobatics, drawing, painting, sewing,
interior design, gardening, fashion, pottery, sculpting, making your own jewelry, do
it yourself (DIY), music production

For movement: sports of any kind, team sports, water sports, winter sports,
extreme sports, ballet, salsa, hiking, nature walks, marathon running, fitness, yoga,
horseback riding, polo, swimming, cycling, surfing, travel, urban exploration,
gymnastics, cheerleading, martial arts, climbing, golf, lacrosse, tennis, volleyball,
bowling, billiards, dart, table tennis

Other: collecting, volunteering, spirituality, cooking, baking, recipe creation,

gaming, pets, wine tasting, dining, shopping

The list can go on. If you feel you need more inspiration, google “List of hobbies and
interests” and you might come across something for you to explore further.

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1. You stimulate yourself and your learning.

2. You have something to turn to when you are bored.
3. You get a break from “everyday life.”
4. Your hobby might introduce you to new people and enrich your social life.
5. Your hobby might introduce you to potential partners.
6. You might be able to make a living off your hobby and leave your day job.
7. Your hobby fills you with purpose and genuine happiness.

Social Life

Depending on the character of a person, social life may or may not be necessary to
you. Some people are very introverted and have small social circles, while others
know everyone and everything in town. Whatever you feel is right for you, it’s
important to reflect on how happy your social circle makes you.

Ask yourself some questions:

Do the people you have in your life give or take energy from you?
Do you genuinely like them?
Do you spend time with them for the right reasons?
Do you have enough time for all your friends?
Do you feel you don’t have enough friends?
Do you want to update your social circle?

We all grow older; we change, our life takes different paths, and so on. It’s part of life
to have different people for separate chapters of your life.

A classy way of living is to embrace change and always evolve. With time, you also
understand what truly matters to you and quality becomes more worth over quantity.
Family and close relationships become the most precious things in your social life,
and the rest will only be secondary.

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Networking

Many have the belief that a classy woman is a well-connected one, who knows
everyone worth knowing and is a popular person with an endless friends list. While
some women are truly like that, nothing says that this type of social approach is a
must for a person if she wants to live a classy lifestyle.

You can live an upscale life even as an introvert, so I would like to debunk the myth
of networking as being a must. If your personality is all about making new friends
and you love talking to people, networking can be a useful tool for you to use if you
want to take your lifestyle a step further. What we all know, is that the more people
you know, the more opportunities tend to come your way.

You never know where the right connections can take you—they can invite you to
events, introduce you to other interesting people, they can help you when you need
something, they can open doors that otherwise would have been closed for you.

The benefits are many, but it’s also hard work to keep up and maintain all
connections. Just because you know a lot of people, doesn’t mean that relationships
will nurture itself. You always must put in time and effort in staying in contact and
seeing people from time to time. Some people find it to be too time and energy
consuming, which is why they prefer having a smaller circle of friends that they can
make time for.

Nightlife

Some people think that good girls are the ones who always stay at home and never go
out, I believe that’s a total myth that doesn’t belong in our modern world.

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just enjoy themselves. The key is always to stay classy when you do it and never go
overboard with too many nights out in a week.

You want to make room for other important things in your life, like career, social life,
healthy living, and so on. Going on benders half the week is not very classy, and
should be avoided if you want to have balance in your life. Focus on being social and
mix up your evening activities, they don’t need to always be about getting drunk as
there are other things you can do at night that is equally as stimulating. If you find
that the nightlife becomes a disruption in your everyday life, for instance, you find it
hard not to go out too often, and you end up drinking too much, consider taking a
break.

Sometimes taking some time out from groups of people that often negatively
influences our choices, or try other forms of entertainment can re-balance and bring
you valuable insights. Never become that woman who can’t get enough of partying
and who is always out, she is not living a classy lifestyle, unless the partying is what
pays her bills.

Drinking Habits

Classy women may indulge in some evening fun, but they keep it stylish with a
moderate alcoholic intake. If possible, they don’t drink at all, as alcohol has many
negative side effects, affecting the health and productivity levels for instance.

It’s never elegant seeing a wasted woman who can barely stand on her legs and make
an embarrassment out of herself in front of other people. A classy woman keeps this
in the back of her mind whenever she drinks. A person who wants to be taken
seriously cannot behave in whatever way possible, and blaming it on alcohol will
never be a valid excuse. People don’t forget, especially those who kept themselves
sober at the occasion. If you surround yourselves in upscale venues where it’s less
appropriate to misbehave, they will remember you even more. Think about how it
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that gets plastered to a maximum whenever she’s out. Every time you go out,
particularly in high-end places, you should think about how you represent yourself.
The circle is small, people often know each other, and you cannot be classy five days
a week and the rest of the times let loose and act trashy.

Friends might find it embarrassing to be seen with you, and they might get tired of
being your caretaker. Even if you’re a responsible drinker, you might have the
occasional slip that makes you wake up with regrets and anxiety the following day.
We’ve all been there, and to most of us, sadly it will happen again.

The way to avoid this is to stop drinking altogether, which is what many are starting
to do. Women who don’t drink are incredibly classy in my opinion, as it requires a
strong mind for that. Knowing when you’re out with your friends, that you’ll wake up
headache free the next day and that you won’t do anything embarrassing tonight, is a
pleasant re-assurance worth gold to those who cannot trust themselves under the
influence of alcohol.

Drink with Care

If you’re a social drinker, who is not ready to take the step of cutting alcohol entirely
out of your life, start drinking with care. Make sure you count your drinks whenever
you’re out, and don’t overindulge to the point you lose track of how many spirits
you’ve had. Have a rule to drink one or two drinks only, and drink them very slowly.
Usually around drink two or three is when people start to feel the alcohol and
become tipsy, the point is to avoid reaching that stage. You want to be in control as
once you start getting under the influence, it’s easy to become impulsive and drink
more than what you have planned from the start.

If the night is long and you know, two drinks won’t get you far, drink alcohol-free
cocktails (mocktails) in between and bottles of water. As a rule, whenever you drink
one alcoholic drink, have one glass of water before moving on to round two. Make
sure you stay hydrated and that you never drink on an empty stomach as the risk of
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the alcohol.

Sometimes there are special events like weddings, birthdays, and so on in which we
are in celebration mode, and the party goes on all night. It’s okay to drink more than
two drinks occasionally and hit the level of being tipsy, but the key is never to get
wasted, even if you drink more than usual. Being drunk is never classy regardless of
the celebration.

What is classy to drink?

Preferably nothing, but if you’re going to have something then here are some ideas
for classy drinks.
Number one is, of course, Champagne, an alternative to it is Prosecco being the
Italian version and more affordable.

Wine can become a culture on its own, as many have wine tasting as their hobby and
enjoy discovering the various domains where wine is created. I would recommend
anyone who has an interest or just would like to get a better understanding of wine to
take a beginner’s course where a sommelier would explain the basics. You’ll get an
opportunity to taste and understand various wines and learn how they are different
to each other. Most affluent people have necessary wine tasting skills, and wine often
becomes a conversational topic among the wealthy. My advice is to learn which types
of wines are your favorites, perhaps taking a photo of each wine bottle you enjoyed so
you memorize this way.

Cocktails can be classy options, but if you’re watching your diet and sugar intake, it’s
a no-go (unless you only drink one as a treat). An alternative is vodka with soda
water or gin with slim tonic, these drinks have the least calories. Regardless of what
spirits you like, try not to drink beer, as it’s not very classy neither for men or
women.

Nightlife can carry great opportunities for social interactions for anyone who wants
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fine not to go out so much if that’s not your thing. It’s common after a certain age to
“calm down” and go out less, but if you’re still in your prime years with loads of
energy to be out and about at night, I think you should go for it—if you keep a certain
level of sophistication to it!

It’s very easy for women to fall under the label of being “unserious girls who only
parties all the time” because in our society it’s socially more acceptable for men to be
out most days of the week than it is for women. But if you are a social butterfly who
simply cannot stay home more than a few days a week, diversify your evening
activities, so they don’t only revolve around nightclubs and bars. Try and focus on
dinners with a casual drink after. If your social circle gives you access to upscale
events and private members’ clubs, these are great alternatives that rarely turn out
into any hardcore nights.

When it comes to bar hopping, club hopping and ending up at after parties; you’re
starting to think of a less classy soiree. I would say after parties are the worst, keep
them to a minimum, if none! Nothing exciting ever happens there, as it’s usually a
load of drunk or high people doing nothing but talking, drinking and smoking. Some
may do the occasional dancing. And stumbling home in daylight in the morning, with
your clothes of last night, is the trashiest thing ever. The looks you get from regular
people doing their morning duties is the ultimate walk of shame. Classy women have
a curfew, and they never do the walk of shame.

Why You Should Be Selective With Your Late Nights Out:

1. It’s easy to end up drinking more than your allowance of one to two drinks.
2. You’re messing up your sleeping cycle the longer you stay up at night. Classy
women don’t spend the next day half of it asleep!
3. While bars can be acceptable depending on its reputation, most clubs and
after parties attract people who might not have serious intentions of becoming
“true friends” with you neither start a relationship. Going to these places is
often a waste of time if done regularly because you will not end up networking
with high-quality contacts or find your future husband or best friends.

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4. Drinking and staying out late will make you less productive the next day.
Some even get extremely lazy, getting nothing done, ending up with a wasted
day on the couch.
5. Being labeled as “the party girl” is of negative aspect if you want to be seen
classy. Your reputation takes a hit, and you might lose some of the benefits
that having a good reputation would otherwise have given you.

Having said this, focus your energy on a wide range of activities. If being out at night
is your thing, keep it as classy as possible. The people you hang out with, the places
you visit and the frequency of them all play an important role in the way people see
you. Play your cards right, classy women are classy because they have a brain and
understand what’s appropriate and what’s not.

Cigarettes

Since we’re on the topic of bad habits at night, cigarettes should be mentioned. I’m
an ex-smoker, so I have plenty to say on this topic: do not smoke. It’s trashy to
smoke! You ruin your entire image of being a classy woman when you stand outside a
bar, inhaling toxic fumes. During my smoking days, I remember once being at a
restaurant dining outdoors. A beautiful woman was sitting a few tables away, and I
couldn’t help but watching her. In the beginning, when she arrived, I was stunned by
her looks. She looked so classy, with a fantastic outfit and looked groomed to
perfection. She was truly elegant, and I was amazed by her fashion. When she sat
down, she immediately brought a packet of cigarettes to the table. It looked out of
place, and I was surprised by how a classy woman like her could be a smoker. It just
didn’t feel right with her overall image.

As the night progressed, I discovered that she was a chain smoker. She would light a
new cigarette every fifteen minutes, and after a while, I changed my opinion about
her. The initial image I had of her in my head, of this extravagant, perfect woman,
was long gone. She was no longer classy in my opinion, and it was all thanks to those
cigarettes! They ruined everything about her, and it was at that point I began to think
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I conducted a good self-evaluation and discovered I was not classy from a spectator's
point of view, and it motivated me to quit for good. Since then, I have never lit a
cigarette and am not planning to, as I’m forever put off. If I ever start craving again, I
will think of that woman and my not-so-classy smoking days and say no to myself.
Classy women don’t smoke! Period.

Travel

The world is filled with beautiful and exciting destinations to explore, and of course,
we all love traveling. When you get involved in the jet-set world, travel becomes
somehow more accessible as it’s part of the social culture.
Classy women travel as often as her life allows her to. If she is in a relationship, her
man might take her to beautiful places around the world, while the single woman
often goes on vacation with her friends. The high-end world is filled with jet-setters
that are always traveling and seeking out trendy hot spots.
Classy women are more laid-back in their approach of being where the “it people”
are. She will avoid the crowded gatherings like Cannes film festival or Formula 1
Grand Prix as her preference is something more culturally enriched or relaxing with
less of a party crowd. Occasionally she makes a trip to places like Mykonos and St
Tropez, but she keeps the visits short and balanced. An outing here and there is fun
when you’re on holiday, but partying non-stop for weeks is not her thing. Instead,
she likes to mix things up on her vacation, like going to museums, doing hikes,
exploring, doing excursions and indulge in late night dinners.

Popular destinations for the jet-setters:

All year

Europe: London, Paris, Milan, Rome, Barcelona, Madrid, Zurich, Geneva, Monaco

Rest of the world: Moscow, Las Vegas, New York, Miami LA

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Summer

France: Cannes, St Tropez, Antibes, Cap Ferrat, Eze, Corsica, Biarritz, Burgundy,
Bordeaux, Aix au province

Italy: Porto Cervo, Capri, Amalfi coast, Sicily, Tuscany, San Remo, Lake como,
Venice, Portofino, Puglia, Forte dei marmi

Spain: Ibiza, Marbella

Greece: Mykonos, Santorini

Rest of Europe: Montenegro, Croatia, Portugal

Winter

Skiing destinations: Gstaad, Courchevel, St Moritz, Aspen, Chamonix, Verbier,

Cortina, Megève, Zermatt,

Sunny destinations: Tulum (new years and beginning of January is usually a

trendy time to go), Bahamas, Bora Bora, Seychelles, Hawaii, Bali, Maldives, Dubai, St
Barths, Cape Town, Phuket

Classy women enjoy the jet-set hotspots, but they also visit less-developed countries
and places that are more exotic to the westerners. That’s where they get their broad
understanding of people and how the real-world functions. My advice is to people to
mix their travel destinations up as much as possible, five star holidays are great, but
being protected in a bubble of luxury resorts is not how one is exploring different
cultures. Going from time to time on simpler trips on which you live more rustic and
see the world from a more authentic point of view can be incredibly enriching and
enjoyable.

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Living in Balance

There is no point working on yourself and your self-transformation if you ignore the
essential parts of living a life in balance and harmony. Having that peace within
yourself is what will make you a functioning person who will succeed at anything you
put your mind to. If you follow a destructive path on which you’re overworked,
always stressed, eat unhealthy, and never sleep enough, I don’t see where you will get
the strength to work on yourself. It all starts with the fundamental parts like sleep,
food, exercise, and so on.

While I know that life cannot always be 100 percent balanced, you should at least
strive for a minimum of 75 percent balance in which the basics are being met. How
you feel inside is how people will see you from the outside, when you are calm and
grounded that’s when you feel like you are in control of your life.

Create a list for yourself with valuable points that create balance for you. Make a
rule to follow this list daily:

1. Getting enough sleep

2. Exercising regularly
3. Having a healthy diet
4. Having enough amount of purpose-filled activity in life in which she feels
productive
5. Having quality time with loved ones (family, friends, partner)
6. Having fun and excitement in life (hobbies, activities that makes you happy)
7. Living a clutter-free and organized life (in which everything is running
smooth)
8. Practice spirituality (religion, meditation, yoga—this is only optional but
recommended)
9. Your personalized solutions for feeling at peace; examples include being in
nature, going for walks, meditating, listening to music, expressing creativity,
helping others, being around animals (anything that makes you grounded and

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feel balance), etc.

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Classy Coaching #12

Think about your current lifestyle. Ask yourself some questions that you answer in
your journal.

A) What does your current lifestyle say about you? How content are you with it?

B) How balanced do you feel in your everyday life? Make a list of necessary points for
you to include, so you feel in harmony with yourself. Use my list as inspiration if you
want and add whatever you think is vital to you.

C) Create some action points of how you can practice those things that bring balance
to your life. Create new rules if necessary, remember to follow up on your action
points.

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Dating and Relationships

The advantage of being a high standard single woman, is that you will not last long
on the single’s market because men have a thing for classy women! They adore them,
and the word “classy” is on top of their mind when they are looking for a girlfriend.
Men fear trashy girls as the woman often becomes a representation of the man. If his
lifestyle is at a high-end level, having an extraordinary career and his social circle is
within the wealthy crowd, it’s a no-go for him to be dating a woman who is below the
standards of his surroundings.

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You would be surprised how many pet peeves men have with regards to female
attributes and behavior. They may think us women are picky when we choose our
boyfriends, but in my experience, men are far more. Don’t get fooled by their genetics
of being simple creatures, when it comes to women they have a list of requirements
and that list is all about being classy! If you are single and looking to meet somebody,
I will assure you that your popularity will rise if you take your classy image a step
further.

For reproductive purposes, men are biologically wired to be more visual than
women. This is why there is such pressure on women with regards to beauty and
always looking good. But it’s not always about how beautiful a woman can be, but
more about how well she looks after herself. Have you ever noticed that men don’t
always pick the “prettiest face” as their girlfriend? Being so visual, you assume that’s
the only thing they would be looking for in a woman—her looks. For men, there are
more important visual attributes to a woman than just her face. An important visual
component that some women who try very hard with their appearance forget, is
quality over quantity. Instead of doing “more is more” of everything they have the
power of changing (surgery, injections, extensions, nails, clothing, etc.) the classier
approach that men love is a woman who looks exceptionally well-groomed and well-
dressed.

But to be well-groomed and well-dressed, you need to have the correct taste, and you
need to be classy!

Men love when women look flawless yet natural. They don't like women who ruined
their looks by using too many fillers or by having bad taste. They might meet her for
a short period, have some fun together but eventually ditch her and move on in their
search. They want a woman they can be proud of, a woman who is of a high standard.
If you have a well-groomed facade, it will take you far, so see this as one of your
biggest investments in yourself.
Those days when cash is tight because beauty costs a lot of money and you’re
thinking of cutting corners, don’t cut the corners that are most visible. Tell yourself
that it’s an investment in yourself and perhaps even your future. Stay true to your

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beauty regime and put the efforts in your appearance because like this you will reap
many benefits in your dating life.

But your looks mean nothing if your behavior is wrong. In my experience, more often
do I hear from men how they end up rejecting beautiful women due to her having
bad manners and poor attitude. I have seen these women with my own eyes.
Imagine having a gorgeous model look-alike in front of you. Everything about her
screams perfection—until she opens her mouth and talks like a truck driver. It’s
about your manners, etiquette, and personality. It’s essential that you study this
carefully, as it’s just as important as your looks.

Your presentation may take you far, but what’s inside of you as a person is what hits
the nail in its place. If you’re a single girl who is looking for love, make yourself the
best version of yourself, inward and outward. Inner soul-searching is a major
investment you can do for your future.

Think of it this way. For you to have a happy relationship with another man, all your
inner garbage needs to be under some form of control—if not entirely figured out.
Your issues and insecurities act as destructive obstacles for any man that you will
meet. Work on your inner self as much as on your looks. Fix those insecurities,
strengthen your self-esteem and heal those painful memories from the past. If you
can do this, you won’t be running any risks of sabotaging your next relationships and
perhaps this way you will get that “happily ever after.”

Dating mindset

Classy women don’t chase men. They also don’t sit on their thrones and wait for
Prince Charming to come along. They live a balanced life, in which attention is evenly
spread between work, family, friends, and hobbies. Somewhere between all that, they
stay open to the opportunity of meeting someone special—preferably a natural
encounter through friends or hobbies, something that at first can build a foundation
for friendship and trust. They stay open by having a warm and friendly attitude to
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drawn to women of this kind.

It’s easier to meet someone when you make people feel good around you rather than
intimidated. The impression you leave on people becomes your business card to the
world. This is how people will remember you and how they will speak of you when
you’re not around. Make sure they say good things because rumors tend to spread
fast. If you’re classy and admirable, you don’t need much self-promotion in the
dating world. You’ll become a magnet attracting men to you because of your positive
reputation and energy. Nurture that, and you’ll nurture your way to a happy
relationship.

Desperate actions such as hunting for men in bars and clubs often leads to
disappointment. Surely, you have the rare lucky cases of couples meeting in these
circumstances, but after the years of research, I can say not many people are scoring
luck this way. Most people seem to be complaining how the clear majority is not
being serious and the troubles of finding something sustainable. It’s not a myth, it’s
because nightlife tends to attract a more playground mentality than an opportunity
to settle down. A classy woman will therefore not waste her time. She will go out and
have fun with her friends, but she will not be looking for anything. In fact, she won’t
be looking at all. Instead, she’ll take the opportunity to network, make new friends
and connections for any purposes. Expanding your social network is hugely
beneficial for all fields of life. You never know who may be your next best friend, your
asset in business or introducing you to your future husband. Classy women know
that a fruitful network is worth gold, so they nurture it best they can. Dating is,
therefore, a very spontaneous matter. It comes in a natural format, never forced.

Texting

The code for classy texts is simple—be your classy self and don’t play any games. It
might work on some men but if you want to attract a good man into your life, this
cliché behavior is extremely easy to see through, and men respect you more if you
don’t take half a day to answer his message.

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You should of course not go to another extreme of being too available. But if you
become a high-standard woman, you will have a life and things to do, so you won’t
need to play any games because naturally, you will be busy with living your life! Be
genuine and authentic, men don’t find that as often these days, and they will respect
you this way.

Also, text using correct language. Proper grammar with correctly spelled words will
gain you respect in today’s “luv,” “cya,” “lofl” world. Emojis can be used just don’t
overdo it, one here and there won’t hurt, but if you want to keep it safe then use
none. And as a general “I will annoy nobody”-rule, don’t send more than three
messages after each other. Try to keep it to one maximum two if possible. Have you
ever heard your phone chime ten times because someone is writing you a message in
ten separate messages? Don’t be that person. It’s annoying for everyone!

Classy First Dates

The classy woman will often get approached and invited out for dates. She is a
desirable catch on the single’s market because of her vibe and positive spirit. So how
to proceed? Should the classy woman explore everyone who invites her out to be fair
and not miss out on a hidden gem, or should she be cautious and hard to date? The
answer is neither!

A classy woman is aware of her time. It’s precious and limited. It cannot be wasted
on whoever. Some women constantly go out on dates, just for the sake of not being
alone or because they want to dine in restaurants free of charge—that’s not a very
classy approach.
Classy women are selective; they have a life, and limited time, they cannot spend it,
however. They let their intuition guide them on who seems to be a potential
candidate. It’s also important not to slag people off immediately just because the
attraction has not yet sparked. Sometimes these things evolve with time and not
discovered at first sight.

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but don’t overdo it. Learn to listen to your instinct of who might be worth exploring
further, and who’s not. You’ll get the hang of it after a while.

And what about online dating?

In today’s digital world it would be unfair to reject something so common as online

dating. Of course, it’s not a forum that is highly desirable to meet someone from
because there are many disadvantages to it. But one of the great advantages of online
dating is that it expands your circle of connections. You will, however, come across as
the usual time wasters, but with a correct analysis of their profile and messages, you
will learn the trick of weeding them out. With some patience, you can come across
great catches online, so don’t slag online dating off before giving it an honest shot.

On the day of your date, a few things to keep in mind:

Dress appropriately and classy, but don’t overdo it by appearing too formal and
conservative. You still want to look like a woman, so wear something feminine yet
stylish. A black, fitted dress that finishes below the knees can be a good option with
some chic heels (avoid stilettos as they come across as vampy).

Men all complain about the same thing: women who arrive late to the date. Five-ten
minutes is acceptable, but you would be surprised how many women come thirty to
forty minutes late like it’s a normal thing to do. It’s very disrespectful to the other
person, and frankly, it puts the woman in a very negative light. Time management is
key for any classy person. You must know how long you need to get ready and should
learn to calculate it correctly without causing delay.

We’ve already spoken about how rude it is to be on your phone during social
situations, but it’s even worse if you are on a date! Switch off your phone and leave
picture-taking for another occasion.

Don’t get drunk on your first date, because you don’t want to say or do something
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the alcohol lifting your spirits, that’s when you know you need to drink water.

Order food wisely—something that is easy to eat and digest. Avoid eating raw onion
or garlic that will make you smell.

Don’t forget to thank your date for dinner. It puts men off when women take dinner
for granted.

Go home alone—a no-brainer advice to anyone who wants to keep things classy.

After the date, who should message first? I would say it’s the man to do so if he is a
gentleman. But if there is a situation in which you feel you want to message first (for
example, you forgot to thank him for dinner), I think it’s fine to do so if you have
something else to say besides, “Hi, how are you?”

Being classy is essential if you’re in the dating scene and want to find a good man to
settle down with. Men will respect you, and they will treat you better when you are
elegant. You won’t be needing to play games with them because it will be enough to
be yourself, that will open more doors for you and this way you will build more
meaningful relationships. But you must work on yourself to be ready for that step,
take care of everything that’s holding you back and become your absolute best self.
The universe will reward you as a result.

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Classy Coaching #13

Regardless if you are single or in a relationship, think about why it has never worked
out with previous partners.

A) Look at those times when you can admit that the fault was yours.

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What was it with your behavior that sabotaged the relationship?

Write everything down that comes to your mind.

B) Do you see a link between these issues to something more profound in you? Are
there any unresolved wounds that you know need healing?

C) For you to not sabotage any future or current relationships, think about how you
can resolve this issue.

Do you need the help of a therapist? Could other solutions help you move on? Take
actions.

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Chapter 8
Develop a Classy Image

Throughout this book, I have been touching on the topic of being aware of your
image and reputation. Some think it’s ridiculous to care about what people think of
them, others have understood the value of playing the game right. If you present
yourself well, you will end up reaping much more benefits than if you ignore your
image and let people make all kinds of assumptions about you. Unfortunately, some
of these assumptions may sabotage your success, which is why you should consider
your image if you want to act smart. You become your own brand. You are the
walking advert for yourself. Wherever you go, whatever you do, that will leave an
impression on people, and they will judge you upon everything you do.
It’s part of human nature and how we assess one and another! If you want to come
across as classy, you must act like your classy self and let people see that side of you
as often as possible. Thinking you are something may not always transmit, as it’s
your actions that play out the loudest.

I’m not saying that you need to become self-conscious and paranoid about every
action you take. Always be relaxed, but remind yourself from time to time if you are
behaving according to your values. If you do, there isn’t any effort you must take to
maintain an image, it comes for free as a bonus.

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Just practice your classiness, and people will always get the right judgment of you if
you remember that you are not playing a role, you are just being yourself, but your
classy self.

Achieve a Good Reputation

Having a good reputation is not very difficult or require much effort if you always
appear with good manners and behave well around others. Being genuine and kind is
what will make people see the best in you, so if you want a good reputation, all you
need to do is to live up to your standards!

Sometimes that’s not enough, and there will be people who might spread negativity
about you. What is important to always keep in mind is that you will never be able to
please everyone and have a spotless reputation, as there will still be haters in this
world. You can only do your part, and the rest is out of your control.

To achieve a good reputation, you must always stay true to your core values. It will be
authentic and will give people an honest picture of who you are. If you want to
influence your reputation somehow, you should consider doing the following:

1. Follow the fundamental rules of having class (have manners, be kind, etc.).
2. Surround yourself with others who have class and a good reputation.
3. Dress appropriately and look well-groomed when you are in social
surroundings.
4. Never fight, make a scene, get wasted, act embarrassingly in public, etc.
5. Never give people anything to gossip about.
6. If you have skeletons in your closet, make sure nobody finds them.
7. Be cautious of who you share intimate or sensitive information.
8. Be cautious of how you portray yourself online.
9. Always treat others with respect and kindness.
10. Always be genuine.

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Help when you can. Always be friendly and polite. Take a positive approach and
smile often. Make sure always to act classy and never leave anything for people to
gossip about. Respect yourself.

It’s not very difficult for a woman who is genuinely classy to achieve a good
reputation. In fact, it will come naturally because of her adequate behavior. Sure,
there will always be people who will project their insecurities and jealousy of you no
matter how well you behave, and find faults, but those people are not of importance
and should be ignored. What you care about is that you're truly a good person and a
majority will acknowledge that.

You don’t need to become Little Miss Perfect who portrays herself as being a saint,
No, I’m talking about sending out good karma and have appropriate behavior. Treat
your surroundings with respect and positivity and your good deeds will get rewarded.
What goes around comes around, that’s the rule of reputation.

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Classy Coaching #14

Work on developing your image to ensure you communicate the right message.

A) Answer these questions:

“What should be the first thing people think about you when they meet you?”

“How do you want to make them feel in your presence when you meet?”

Examples:

“I want them to think that I’m nice and make them feel comfortable around me.”

“I want to appear professional and make them feel that they can trust me.”

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Write down in your journal and reflect on what attributes of yourself you should tune
into when meeting new people.

B) What do you want people to say of you when you are not around?

What overall impression do you want to leave? How do you want to be remembered?

Write down your thoughts and think if there is anything in your current behavior
that’s blocking you from achieving these things.

What could you improve? Act on it.

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Chapter 9
How to Be Classy on a Budget

You might be ready and motivated to begin your transformational journey to

becoming classy, but you have one small problem: finances.

Like with anything in life, doing a makeover and upgrading your lifestyle comes with
a price tag, but it doesn’t necessarily need to break the bank if you are smart about it.
Living classy can be done on a budget if you learn how to use your resources wisely
even when cash is tight. You need to learn what is worth investing in and where you
should cut corners but also discover everything that is free!
Many parts of being classy don't cost a penny. Developing your classy mindset and
having a classy behavior is all free of charge! So is the work you can do on your inner
self to become the best version of yourself. This practice doesn’t require any financial
investments, only your discipline.

If money doesn’t allow you to do a dramatic makeover tomorrow, progressing slowly

toward this goal can be your solution. If you have patience, you can divide your
transformation into several parts, spreading them out over a longer period. You can,
therefore, take your time and save up for each part that requires funding, without the
stress of having to do it all in one go. In fact, that’s how most people go about it as it’s
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What you will need money for might be individual. Most of the times it’s related to
beauty and fashion, in which we cannot get away with doing it ourselves. But all of
this is doable if you have some form of income. You don’t need to have a well-paid
job, but you need to have a regular paycheck. This chapter is written with those in
mind who come from simpler backgrounds but who want to elevate their self and live
a classier life. Anything is possible for anyone out there, if you put your mind to it
and act smart!

Fashion

Classy women always look incredibly immaculate and well put together, which is why
they transmit this high level of standard that we find inspiring. We have learned in
previous chapters that being classy is not about wearing flashy, trendy clothing with
logos. Instead, the classy woman’s focus is more on simple, timeless pieces of high
quality.

This tells you two things:

1. You don’t need to take your money and spend them all on brands.
2. You don’t need to save up a fortune to buy a designer handbag or statement
jewelry and watches.

For many, they will save a fortune if they apply this attitude! Most women, even with
a lower income background, rather save up for months to achieve one statement
piece that they think will elevate their look to become classy.
Don’t waste your hard-earned money on this illusion, be wise and invest them on
other things that will give you more return on investment.

Which is why you should be doing this:

1. You train your eye to understand what materials are of good quality, even
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2. You practice your good taste. Your eye starts recognizing what looks cheap
and what looks classy.
3. You shop only timeless pieces as they are reusable for many years ahead,
instead of buying trendy items that will only last you one season.
4. Your shopping attitude is to shop less often, but to invest in quality, and
slowly build a solid wardrobe that will last you forever.
5. Applying this practice and you will see how you will upgrade your look to the
next level, without the need of wearing famous designer brands and spend a
fortune.

Fashion Budget Tips

• Classic and Timeless Chic

You want to own clothes that will never run out of style and instead will serve you
many years ahead. You will feel good about spending a little bit extra on these pieces
because you know you will get your money’s worth. Examples of clothes worth
investing in: a simple, classic black coat, pumps (without a platform), the little black
dress, leather handbags, black trousers, etc.
Items like trousers, skirts, tops, blouses, shirts are always worth investing in as you
get more usage of them because you can mix and match to create more outfits from
them.

• Neutral Fashion

Anything that is of neutral fashion or has a neutral color is worth your spending.
These items will often become very reusable as people would seldom notice if you
wear them frequently. Whatever drag too much attention, let’s say a pattern or a
design, should be bought with care and only if you really fall in love with the
garment. When finances are tight you must be strategic and buy things, you can wear
many times in a month instead of something you can only wear once every few
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fashion will not make you look plain, if you make sure the garments that you wear
look expensive on you with high-quality and good fit.

• Learn the Materials

Regardless of where you shop, budget or not, you must always learn to spot the
materials and read the labels on each garment. When you go high street, there will be
a lot of polyester around, which is a material to be skeptical to, unless it’s made in a
way that doesn’t look cheap to the eye.

100 percent Silk or 100 percent cashmere will be impossible to find in budget shops,
but you can find knock-off mixes that resemble these if you go shopping in stores like
Zara. Sometimes you find combinations of materials like rayon, viscose, spandex,
and polyamide in both the cheaper and more expensive stores, which look durable
that will last you many washes ahead.
Learn what fabrics will last and what looks high-quality to the eye. Practice this when
you go shopping and always read the labels!

• High-Street Shopping

I would recommend anyone to include pieces from the high street into your shopping
routine because there are many great things you can find there that doesn’t cost a lot!
With the right taste and attention for detail, you can dress entirely in high-street
brands and look like an upscale woman.

At times, you can find garments of the same material as in the more expensive shops
and get away buying something almost identical for a fraction of the cost. The
benefits are many, and you should always make it a rule to do regular visits to your
favorite shops as they change stock more frequently than designer shops. What is
available today might be gone tomorrow, so it’s important to be alert and never miss
out on a good opportunity.

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it’s affordable, doesn’t mean you should make exceptions to your fashion strategy
and buy things that you are not 100 percent about. Remember what we spoke about
in the chapter of doing a wardrobe intervention.

When you shop cheaper items, you will only make it worth your shopping if you treat
them with the same care as your more expensive pieces. High-street clothing often
has less quality in its construction or material, which is why you might get less usage
from your items if you don’t take good care of them. Use hand wash as much as
possible, and in machine always in low temperatures using a wash bag. Dry clean can
be worth if it’s a garment you love!

• Mid-Range Shopping

High-street shopping may be a great budget alternative, but when you want to buy
something of quality, your best option would be the mid-range boutiques. Many
great brands are made in France or Italy, that produce beautiful clothes without
going so steep as the luxury design prices. This is where you should aim to spend
most of your money because it will be the best investment regarding price, quality,
and usage.

• Second-Hand Shopping

You would be surprised how many great bargain items you can find if you go
shopping in second-hand shops with some patience and dedication to look. If you
don’t like wearing something pre-owned, you can also find garments that are brand
new with tags, which got donated from shops or people who never ended up wearing
it. But if you are okay with recycling someone’s treasures, you can find pieces that
nobody else has!

Depending on the city where you live, the quality of second-hand shops may vary. Big
cities often have many charity and vintage shops worth exploring, while if you’re in a
small town, it can be more challenging. That’s when you should get online to
websites like eBay or Vestiarie collective, where you can make great bargains of pre-

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owned items. Make it a habit to check your stores in person or online, regularly, as
everything that is good, tends to sell fast, so never miss out on your future favorite
item!

• Tailoring

If you know how to sew and alter clothes, your skills can come handy when you buy
cheaper items that don’t have the correct fit on you. The secret to looking classy is the
fit of your clothes. Your garments should be correctly altered to your body, making
what you wear look of highest quality.

If you don’t have these skills, finding an affordable tailor can be worth the
investment. You can make a $30 shirt look like $300 with only an investment of let’s
say $40—that’s $70 in total versus $300. Well worth the investment if it’s something
you will be using forever.

If you shop second hand, altering your clothes can come very handy, as most of the
times you miss out on bargains just because it’s not in your size. But not with the
help from your tailor who can make clothes that are too big, fit perfectly on you.

• Selling Unused Clothes

Always try and sell on eBay as much as possible the things you don’t wear in your
wardrobe. This will give you the funds you need to invest in your classy appearance,
but also a budget to work with to buy things you will use.

When you buy clothes from mid-range brands (or higher), you always have a better
chance of re-selling without losing much in price. This is why many women do
something called “dress recycling.” They buy a dress, wear it a few times, once they
have been photographed in it, they sell the dress and for the money buy a new dress.
It becomes like a recycling program in which little money get lost if the practice is
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• Dress for Hire

Depending on your lifestyle and social circle, there can be times in your life when you
should wear a gown for a special occasion, for example, a wedding or black tie event.
The dress code is always long dress, but it’s not worth going buying one brand new,
as you rarely would use this garment more than once.

This is when services of dress hire come handy because, for a fraction of the price,
you can hire a fantastic designer gown for the occasion, looking fabulous while not
spending much.

• Solution for Statement Pieces

As previously mentioned, being classy doesn’t require you to have any status symbols
like designer handbags or jewelry and watches. If you still want to own a beautiful
watch or a beautiful piece of jewelry, an affordable solution is buying this pre-owned.
But don't make this a priority as wearing nothing on your wrists is equally fine.

Well-made handbags of most exceptional quality should always be on your shopping

list, but get them from leather makers instead of the big designer houses. You will
spend $300–500 on a well-made, high-quality bag instead of $2,000 because of a
designer hype and branding behind.

Do some research in finding retailers who sell handmade bags from Italy, France and
other places well known for their luxury leather craftsmanship. On your next holiday
in Europe, make it a point to seek out these stores as it’s easier to buy a bag when you
can see it in person and touch the quality of it.

• Where to Spend

When funds are limited, and you need many different items to your wardrobe, you
need to be strategic in where you spend a little extra, and where you can afford to cut
corners.

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Items like coats, jackets, handbags, footwear, suits are areas in which you should
have a bigger budget for as it’s harder to come across these items being more
affordable that keep the quality of being high standard. It’s also worth spending on
all essential items, like tops and bottoms that are made from 100 percent quality
material. A cashmere cardigan will, for example, last you forever, and buying one in a
neutral color will be a well worth investment as you will get many wearings out of it.

Beauty Budget Tips

Fashion requires a financial investment, but beauty can be easier to cut corners if you
do things yourself.

Before the existence of any modern technologies that we have today, women have
been DIY-ing for hundreds of years when it comes to their beauty. Your grandma can
surely share a lot of tricks with you that she used in the old days, as there are many
homemade natural remedies out there, which can work in your favor.
What they are, is not something I will discover, as I want to share with you the
important understanding of what to spend money on in beauty, and where to cut
corners. If you are interested in homemade beauty tricks, there is plenty of
information online, do a google or YouTube search for those tutorials.

Skin

Good skin comes from genetics, a diet mainly of fruits and vegetables, and personal
maintenance. While skincare brands claim you must own everything in their line to
achieve a result, I don’t believe that. I’ve spoken to dermatologists who say that the
most important thing to invest money in is a high-quality moisturizer. The rest are
only extras.
I personally only use face wash and one moisturizer for day and night. It works for
me and my skin. I’ve tried the whole lot with day cream, eye cream, toner, face wash,
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because I used more products.

This may not work for everyone because some people with problem areas require
products that do help them. But if you need to be on a budget and cut corners, have a
look in your beauty cabinet if there is anything in there that you could live without.

Re-evaluate the brands you’re using and if you’re using expensive brands. Be aware
that most of the times you pay for the marketing behind a name, look at La Prairie
and La Mer. Very expensive brands, I’ve tried both and can’t say they’re better than
some of the cheaper brands. If you’re open to natural skincare, opting for unknown
brands can often be more affordable as there is less marketing behind, but they still
do great work on your skin.

A meticulous skincare routine is vital for anyone on a budget as it will reduce the
need for doing additional skin treatments if you don’t cheat with your daily
maintenance.

Facials and masks are very popular to do at salons, but you can do them at home if
you learn the following:

1. Face steam
2. Exfoliation
3. Face mask

When it comes to skin, you can cut corners if you don’t have big problem areas. If
you have something that requires special care (like removing acne scars with Fraxel
laser), then you have no choice of not spending that money. But be creative of what
you can do at home and what makes sense to cut out from your routine. Put on
priority what is most important for you to spend your finances at this current stage.

Eyebrows

Anyone can do their eyebrows at home. You might not be able to thread them, but
you could do waxing or tweezing to shape them. All you need is a good portable

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mirror and different types of lightning. The trick is to sit in at least two to three
different lights (maybe one in your bathroom, one by a window, another outside on a
balcony). Like that you spot every single hair that should go and with the right
amount of patience, you can eliminate them all, just like they do at the salon.

You must also cut the length of the brows if the hairs have grown too long. Do it
sparingly as you don’t want to cut too much and get bare patches. If you’re clueless
about the shaping of the eyebrows, look at some tutorials online or get those
eyebrow-shaping molds that you will find in most beauty stores.

Those women who need to tint their brows, can do it themselves at home every two
weeks, with a popular brand like Refectocil.

Lashes

With lashes, you don’t need to spend much money if you keep them natural. For
times when you want to have a more dramatic look, buying reusable fake lashes can
be a solution, if you make sure they look subtle, and you learn how to apply them
correctly. It doesn’t look classy when it’s obvious a woman has used fake lashes so do
it with good taste.

Teeth

Teeth whitening is something anyone can achieve at home. There are many kits out
there with gels that you apply on your teeth and keep for an hour or so. My dentist
told me that you could only really achieve white results if you sleep with this gel on
your teeth, for fourteen days nonstop. However, she pointed out that this fourteen-
day treatment should only be done one to two times a year and not more often as it’s
harsh on the tooth if you’re using a peroxide gel.
Other methods like using soda or charcoal do not work from my review.

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Nails are a great area to save a lot of money if you learn how to do it yourself.
Frankly, it’s so easy that anyone can learn! All you need to do is to buy all the
equipment and polish for your disposal, which is easily done on Amazon or eBay. If
you like Shellac/gel nails, this equipment is also available for purchase and doesn’t
cost more than $200 in total, but you will get your money’s worth!
Watch YouTube tutorials or google step by step manuals on how to do manicures,
pedicures, and methods for correct applications. If you do gel nails, it can be worth
studying in detail the right process, so that you also can achieve salon quality but
from your own home.
The beauty of doing your nails yourself, is that it saves you so much money and time,
when you don’t need always to be dependent on booking appointments.

Makeup

Makeup products don’t need to be pricey, and you won’t require large quantities if
you apply the natural makeup look. You can find loads of great makeup with cheaper
brands: bronzers, blushers, mascaras, pencils, eyeshadows, lipsticks are items that
you can get away by purchasing from the more affordable lines.

Anything for your complexion, like foundation, concealer, powder, primer could be
worth spending a little bit more on, as the more expensive ranges often have a better
formula that gives you a natural looking result without going “cakey” on your skin.
But there are exceptions to this rule so try you must use trial and error for this
discovery.

Hair

Depending on your hair type, you may or may not be in strong need of regular
professional hair care. I’m talking about those women who must go on regular blow
dry’s otherwise their looks like a mess. It can be worth learning blow dry yourself,
but it will require time and patience. Hair is something that can sometimes be done
DIY if you have the right knowledge and products. All of it can be bought and
practiced, but the question is more, “What route is more convenient for you to take?”

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If you don’t afford hairdressers and treatments, you must do the learning curve and
do it yourself. Sometimes women help each other with cut, color, and styling—but
don’t do that unless you trust what your friend is doing.
Hair masks and moisturizing treatments are something everyone should do at home,
as it’s a quick an inexpensive way to nurture your hair and add some shine to it.

Cosmetic Procedures

This should always get your top dollars, as cutting corners with cosmetic procedures
can sometimes ruin your face for the rest of your life. Never purchase any offers on
discount sites lite Groupon for surgeries or filler/Botox treatments. You take a
massive risk that is not worth taking, as these risks sometimes are irreversible. If you
want to use discount offers, use them for other beauty treatments that are safer, than
on something that is permanent.

Fragrance

If your budget is tight, then don’t prioritize spending a lot of money on your
fragrance at this stage. You can find scents that smell elegant within the mass market
perfumes and still come across as classy.

Lifestyle Budget Tips

Depending on where you live, what you do and how you socialize, your lifestyle may
vary in price. Most of us who enjoy the finer things in life, understand that living a
classy, high-end life does come with a hefty price tag. As this book is a guide on how
to live a classier life, you can find ways on how to take part in the good life without
being wealthy yourself.

Being a woman has its advantages. Anyone can enter the jet-set life and discover that
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and networking skills right. Some may frown upon this, while others use it to their
advantage. Classy women don’t indulge in free-loading, but they would potentially
accept an invitation for any travel or events, if it’s from someone they know well. It’s
common for women to get gifts, trips, nights out, financial assistance, and so on
covered by male admirers, but classy women keep this to a minimum.

Where to cut corners

Exercising can cost a lot of money if you visit the most expensive facilities or have a
personal trainer. Exercise can cost nothing if you decide to make your own training
schedule, train outdoors or at home. What requires though is strong discipline and
dedication! Power walking, jogging, yoga, Pilates on a mat, body weight training—all
can be done free of charge by yourself.

Quality food products cost money, and it’s hard to be on a budget if you want to feed
yourself wholesome and organic food. I wouldn’t cut corners in the diet department
as it has a direct effect on your health and appearance making it harm you as a result.
However, if you start controlling your portion sizes and eat less frequently, you will
even it out as you will buy less quantities of your food.

Classy women are educated and thanks to the internet, anyone can get education for
free these days, all thanks to Google and YouTube. Many websites offer free courses,
Coursera being one of them, where you can study university-level courses online.
Today, the possibilities have become endless for us, and learning something new
opens immense power for us to advance in our lives and careers. Don’t
underestimate this opportunity!

Your hobbies and interest can be expensive if you participate in many activities.
Choose one that you fully commit to and allow yourself to spend on it with good
conscious, as hobbies are something that is vital to a person’s well-being.

Being a social butterfly can sometimes break the bank as your meeting with your
girlfriends not always come cheap! You can change this by keeping your expensive

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lunches and dinners for special occasions Instead meet your friends in more low-cost
environments, like taking a power walk together or meeting at a park or someone’s
house for coffee.

Nightlife cost money, especially if you must buy your own drinks. An excellent way to
spend less is to go out less, or only go out in male company.

Travelling is expensive, especially if you want to do it the luxury way. Unless

traveling with a boyfriend or someone who is fine to pay for your expenses, a classy
woman on a shoestring will have to take cheaper forms of travel. Economy class and
budget airlines together with an Airbnb are great options if you want to see the world
at a smaller cost. Classy women are not obsessive when it comes what facilities they
visit. They often prefer anything luxurious as the service would be better, but they
also enjoy more low key places that are not very fancy. If you are on a budget, you
might not afford always going to expensive places, which is why mixing it up with
more affordable alternatives can be worth thinking about.

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Classy Coaching #15

Take control of your finances and set a goal to be more selective with your spending.

A) Open your internet bank and study your bank statements on how you spend your
money.

Check the last six months and what the total is for each month.

B) Create an excel sheet and put categories like rent, bills, transport, food, clothing,
beauty, lifestyle, etc. in separate tabs and calculate how much you spend on each.

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could cut corners.

Can you do your own nails?

Do you need always to buy designer clothing?
Have your nights out become too expensive?

Create some action points or guidelines for yourself to follow so that you limit your
spending.

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Chapter 10
Now Your Classy Journey Begins

Working on yourself and your goals in life can be difficult. But when you finally start
reaping the benefits, you’ll understand it was worth all that hard work. Life feels
great when we realize that we are evolving for the better—when we close one chapter
and start on a fresh, clean one, knowing that we have every possibility ahead of us.

This is what the journey to a classy transformation is all about—shedding an old skin
and growing a new one, classier one. You can become the new you, perhaps one that
you never thought possible.

It’s a milestone. It’s an accomplishment. It’s evidence that tells you anything in life is
achievable if you set your mind to it.

Becoming classy teaches you something more than just fashion and etiquette.
It opens the door to a life in which you are in control of your destiny, in which you set
your standards, and in which you get closer to your dreams.

You are no longer stuck in a rut because you are doing something to progress. You
are not standing still, but you are moving toward upgrading your life. Becoming the
best version of yourself is what makes all this happen. It’s what creates your dream

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life.

This is why I wanted to write this book, to inspire you to take some action, even if it’s
something small. It’s not a practice to become “Miss Perfect,” to put on a facade, only
to impress people. I promote self-transformation not so that you can please others
but so that you can clear out anything that’s holding you back from getting what you
want from life.
I want you to adopt whichever classy parts you feel is right for you, which ones are
true to your values, what ones you feel you are ready to change.

You might not agree with everything in this book, and the point is not for you to
become a puppet in a show. Like I always say, stay true to yourself. Focus on being
your best, classy self because only then will you discover how life will bring you great
advantages—advantages that will help you achieve your goals and take you to the
next level.

However, remember to be patient.

Changes do not happen overnight. The lasting changes are the ones that develop
gradually. So focus on improving what you feel is doable right now. Do one thing
every day that you know will benefit you tomorrow. Take it step by step, little by
little.

With time, you will get close enough to your goals, knowing that you have made it.
Always keep this day in your mind and let it be your drive. Let it fuel your
transformation and be the engine behind your efforts. When we want something
badly enough, we achieve it. Put your focus on that day when you will celebrate your
success, and do me one favor:
Write to me, and send me a picture of your happy self.
I want to know that you did it, and I want to share the happiness with you.

Until then, put everything into practice and start your journey of transitioning into
becoming classier. If you need more motivation along the way, join the http://
JetsetBabe.com community and my YouTube channel http://youtube.com/

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jetsetbabe in which I discuss all the topics around classy lifestyle and self-
improvement.

I want to thank you for coming this far in this book, and I hope you will take away
inspiration to your new, classier self. I will be waiting for your message post
transformation, so don’t forget to stay in touch! Until then, much love, and enjoy
your new, classier life!

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Chapter 11
Your Chapter

Classy Coaching #16

This chapter is all yours, and it’s unwritten.

The last exercise of my “Classy Coaching” is for you to be the writer of this chapter.

What will happen for you next?

What are your action steps toward achieving the life you want to live?

What will you do today that will benefit you tomorrow?

What one thing will you commit to creating change?

This chapter is yours:

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End Credits

I may be preaching about transformation, but I’m also on a never-ending journey of

self-improvement myself.
This book has been one important milestone for me, as I never thought I would be
able to write it. I decided to challenge myself and put what I teach into practice,
which is why I never gave up even during the toughest days. It was tempting to throw
in the towel many times, but my hunger for accomplishing my goals didn’t let me
give in, and this experience has taught me so much.

I want to, therefore, thank the group of people in my life who has been by my side
during this project and supported when I needed it the most. My close circle of
friends, and of course my family.
Special thanks to J, my big love. Without your support and belief in me, I would have
never finished this book. Thank you for everything you do for me.

To those who want to read more on this topic of classy living, the following are book
recommendations you might find useful for your transformational journey:

Blaikie’s Guide to Modern Manners by Thomas Blaikie

Very Classy by Derek Blasberg

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Lessons from Madame Chic by Jennifer L. Scott

Refinement of Manner by Melanie Jarrell

How to Meet the Rich for Business, Friendship, or Romance by Ginie Sayles

Emily Post’s Etiquette

Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway by Susan Jeffers

The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

This book was written on request from my many readers in the JetsetBabe
community. I will be posting a lot of information and real-life examples of classy
women to take inspiration from, so if you are not already a reader - make sure to
check out my work and keep fueling your classy journey!

Daily updates: http://jetsetbabe.com

Youtube: http://youtube.com/jetsetbabe

Instagram: http://instagram.com/jetsetbabe

Facebook: http://facebook.com/jetsetbabe

My personal facebook: http://facebook.com/annabey11

I look forwarding to connecting with you. You can also write to me directly on
anna@jetsetbabe.com and share with me your thoughts or feedback.

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All Classy Coaching Exercises

As promised, here are all the Classy Coaching exercises that I created for you in the
book, in one compilation.

Classy Coaching #1

Classy role models are great inspirations for anyone, regardless your current level of
classiness.
You should study them carefully and reflect on what you can use as inspiration for
your transformational journey.

1) Write down who your classy role models are.

2) Analyze what these role models wear, how they look, how they behave, how they
carry themselves, how they speak, and so on, and try and pinpoint exactly what
makes them appear so classy?

It often resides in the details, and your mission is to discover these traits.

Write down everything you come up with in your journal, and reflect on how you can
incorporate this into your own life.

Examples of classy celebrities:

Nicole Kidman
Kate Middleton
Iman
Julia Roberts
Natalie Portman

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Julianne Moore
Vanessa Paradis
Audrey Hepburn
Grace Kelly
Kate Winslet
Queen Rania of Jordan
Amal Clooney
Helen Mirren
Cate Blanchett
Naomi Watts
Helen Hunt
Diane Kruger
Ingrid Bergman
Diane Keaton
Audrey Tautou
Halle Berry
Coco Chanel
Katharine Hepburn
Sophia Loren
Jackie Onassis
Maya Angelou
Charlene, Princess of Monaco
Lauren Bacall

(It’s worth Googling the names you don’t recognize, as these stunning women can
add inspiration to your discovery.)

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Classy Coaching #2

This exercise requires you to dismantle all defense mechanisms that you may have
and be completely honest with yourself, even if the truth may hurt.

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A) What are the flaws in your character and personality?

Take inspiration from the list of suggestions of not-so-classy personalities that I have
provided above and ask your honest self if you have any of these influences and why?
Write them down.

Ask yourself if you have any bad behavior that labels your personality and why you
behave the way you do.

Examples:

“I forget to say thank you to people because I’m so absentminded, so my personality

comes across as rude”

“I act like I’m the best all the time because I feel so insecure and don’t want people to
see the truth. I know people think of me as an arrogant person or a diva.”

B) Accept help from someone you feel comfortable opening up to and being
vulnerable with.
Ask that person to be entirely honest with you and give you their view on the things
you have written down about yourself.

C) Ask this person if he/she has any additional feedback on your personality/
behavior that you might not have listed.
Be open to the feedback without being defensive, even if it may be difficult. This is for
your own gain.

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Classy Coaching #3

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on what you wish to incorporate into yourself.

A) What personality traits do you wish you could have?

Write them down.

B) What existing traits could appear stronger in your personality or that require
more work to enhance?
Write them down too.

C) Look over your list and reflect on which you think are the most important to
commit to at this stage.
Decide on one or two maximum and write them down as part of your goals.

Examples:

“I want to stop being so negative, and I will focus on positivity as often as I can.”

“I want to stop saying yes to everything all the time, and I will focus on taking my
time and become more selective with my choices.”

Make sure to remind yourself every day of every given situation what you are
working on. Correct yourself whenever you act according to your old behavior.
Practice your new behavior as often as possible, as that’s how it will stick eventually.
Don’t give up if it feels difficult in the beginning!

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Classy Coaching #4

Let’s reflect on how you talk, take some time and analyze your speech. Be truly
honest with yourself if you want to have best results. Write down your thoughts in
your journal.

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How is your pitch when you speak?

How loud are you?

Do you curse?

What about your grammar?

Do you speak with a heavy accent?

Do you over-abuse filler words like “um” or “like”?

Do you speak fast or slow?

How advanced is your vocabulary?

Do you use slang?

Do you mumble?

The easiest way to understand this would be by filming yourself when you talk and
review it.

You can also ask a friend for honest feedback as that can be quite beneficial when a
person has seen you in different types of situations.

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Classy Coaching #5

Your body movements can be an important detail in your overall elegance.

A) Ask yourself these questions:

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How is your posture?

How do you look when you walk?

How do you look when you sit down?

How are your body movements?

When you articulate, how are your gestures?

Do you come across as quick, slow, abrupt, stressed?

Do you have any bad habits like fidgeting or playing with your hair?

You might already have a vague idea of yourself, but in most cases, that information
would not be accurate to the reality as we seldom have the correct awareness of how
we look from the public’s eye.

You could start off by inspecting yourself in a mirror with your posture, walk, etc.

The most efficient way to find out, is by asking a friend if she can film you when
you’re not aware. That’s the only time we can truly see our body movements when
we’re relaxed and not “acting” for a camera.

B) Go back to your list of classy role models who you have taken inspiration from.
Look them up on YouTube and watch clips of them in interviews, movie clips, red
carpet, etc.
Study their speech and body movements carefully.
Learn what they do that makes them so elegant.

Write down a few pointers that you can take inspiration from and start practicing
implementing these traits to yourself.

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Classy Coaching #6

Having good manners and correct social etiquette are the mere basics for a woman
who wants to take herself to the next level. You should, therefore, have a good think
about your current level of mannerism and if you come across as a woman with good
manners and etiquette.

A) How are your manners?

How much effort do you put into your manners on a scale from 1–10 (1 being the
lowest effort, 10 highest effort)?

Where do you see that you could improve your manners?

Give examples and actions points to how you will improve your manners.
Write everything down in your journal and remind yourself daily about what you
wish to improve.

B) Have a think about your etiquette, mainly when you are out dining, invited as a
guest and in other social situations.
After reading my list, is there something you catch yourself doing that is not
considered to be according to etiquette, that you know you shouldn’t?

Write down what it is and try to remember to correct it next time you are out.

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Classy Coaching #7

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It’s time to inspect and re-evaluate your online presence.

A) Google yourself. What comes up?

Is there anything embarrassing or not in tune with your current persona that you
wish to remove?

Find a way to delete this; it’s easily done if you have access to this material, but
slightly trickier if someone else does. However, it might still be possible, as the only
thing necessary is to try to get in contact with that person over email and ask them if
they can remove it for you.

B) Log into all your social media accounts, and look at your pictures and timelines.
Does the material on your feed represent your true self?
Is some outdated material a misrepresentation of who you are today?

Clean up and delete everything that you feel you cannot associate with and make a
new rule for yourself to think twice from now on before uploading anything online.

C) After your clean up your Google results, websites, blogs, social media sites should
all have a good representation of your classy self.

You must feel that you will be proud of this content in five to ten years, even if your
parents/grandparents/future employer or mother in law would see it. Nothing
should make you feel embarrassed, and you must feel that you can stand for
everything that is posted under your name.

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Classy Coaching #8

A) Research your role models and analyze their fashion. Study what they wear and
what it is that makes it work for them.

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B) Use this information as inspiration to your fashion strategy and write down all the
key elements that you want to incorporate into your wardrobe.

If you don’t want to focus on your role models, create an account on Pinterest and do
a mood board with classy outfits.

Pin down every elegant and sophisticated outfit you find that you think could
potentially work for you. Keep these images in mind when you plan your next
purchases and create your fashion strategy.

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Classy Coaching #9

Develop a fashion strategy after you have done your wardrobe intervention.

A) Make a list of items that are lacking in your wardrobe.

B) Make a mood board that describes your new, signature look. If you don’t want to
make a mood board, make a list in your journal defining the traits of your style.

C) Decide on rules to follow when you go shopping.

What colors will you be shopping now?

What style in garments?
What items will you need to stop buying or stop wearing to be aligned with your
strategy?

Follow these rules at all times whenever you make any purchases. Take your time to
decide before buying.

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Classy Coaching #10

The people in your life who you can trust and whos’ opinions you value, ask them for
feedback about your overall beauty.

A) From a scale of 1–10 (10 being top notch, 1 being not at all) ask how polished your
overall presence appears to them?

B) Ask, “If there were something you would advise me to improve on in my

appearance, what would that be?”

Trustworthy people can be great judges if they give you an objective truth.

We don’t always know ourselves of what works for us because we never see ourselves
three-dimensionally like an outsider does.

This exercise, however, requires your defenses be down so that you can get the most
out of the feedback and perhaps get some ideas of areas in which there is room for
improvement.

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Classy Coaching #11

A) Analyze your healthy lifestyle. Answer following questions and write the answer in
your journal.

How healthy is your overall lifestyle?

Where could you improve? Is it training, diet, or both?

What are realistic lifestyle changes that feel inspiring and motivating for you?

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B) Keep a food diary for two weeks and analyze how much food you are eating.

How much of this food is processed?

How often do you eat something “bad”?

How much is plant-based food part of your intake?

Do your eating habits look healthy?

How are your portion sizes?

Reflect on your answers and let them guide you toward a healthier lifestyle. Write
down some action steps that you commit to in your everyday life.

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Classy Coaching #12

Think about your current lifestyle. Ask yourself some questions that you answer in
your journal.

A) What does your current lifestyle say about you? How content are you with it?

B) How balanced do you feel in your everyday life? Make a list of necessary points for
you to include, so you feel in harmony with yourself. Use my list as inspiration if you
want and add whatever you think is vital to you.

C) Create some action points of how you can practice those things that bring balance
to your life. Create new rules if necessary, remember to follow up on your action
points.

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Classy Coaching #13

Regardless if you are single or in a relationship, think about why it has never worked
out with previous partners.

A) Look at those times when you can admit that the fault was yours.

What was it with your behavior that sabotaged the relationship?

Write everything down that comes to your mind.

B) Do you see a link between these issues to something more profound in you? Are
there any unresolved wounds that you know need healing?

C) For you to not sabotage any future or current relationships, think about how you
can resolve this issue.

Do you need the help of a therapist? Could other solutions help you move on? Take
actions.

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Classy Coaching #14

Work on developing your image to ensure you communicate the right message.

A) Answer these questions:

“What should be the first thing people think of you when they meet you?”

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“How do you want to make them feel in your presence when you meet?”

Examples:

“I want them to think that I’m nice and make them feel comfortable around me.”

“I want to appear professional and make them feel that they can trust me.”

Write down in your journal and reflect on what attributes of yourself you should tune
into when meeting new people.

B) What do you want people to say about you when you are not around?

What overall impression do you want to leave? How do you want to be remembered?

Write down your thoughts and think if there is anything in your current behavior
that’s blocking you from achieving these things.

What could you improve? Act on it.

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Classy Coaching #15

Take control of your finances and set a goal to be more selective with your spending.

A) Open your internet bank and study your bank statements on how you spend your
money.

Check the last six months and what the total is for each month.

B) Create an excel sheet and put categories like rent, bills, transport, food, clothing,
beauty, lifestyle, etc. in separate tabs and calculate how much you spend on each.

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C) Think about if you can minimize your spending somewhere. Think where you
could cut corners.

Can you do your own nails?

Do you need always to buy designer clothing?
Have your nights out become too expensive?

Create some action points or guidelines for yourself to follow so that you limit your
spending.

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Classy Coaching #16

This chapter is all yours, and it’s unwritten.

The last exercise of my “Classy Coaching” is for you to be the writer of this chapter.

What will happen for you next?

What are your action steps toward achieving the life you want to live?

What will you do today that will benefit you tomorrow?

What one thing will you commit to creating change?

This chapter is yours:

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