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Therese Dimapilis
Mrs. Pylant
SOCI 2301
18 August 2010
We recall being tucked into bed as a child, mad with excitement as our mommies and
daddies pulled out our favorite story book, and the last thing we hear before drifting off into
dream world is: and they lived happily ever after. Happily ever after? Who lives happily ever
after? Simba and Nala, Pocahontas and John Smith, Aladdin and Jasmine, Belle and the Beast;
Since childhood, we have been taught at the earliest age imaginable that happiness will
inevitably be attained through marriage. Not money, love, or success, just marriage. Even more
so, we’ve been encouraged by our parents on countless occasions that in order to be content with
your life you must go to school, finish school, find the man or woman of your dreams, then
marry them and have kids. What if one chooses not to be married? Is the cycle of life over or
does life go on? The answer is yes, and there are three reasons qualifying marriage as an
The first reason is that marriage is viewed, by many people, as a threat to an individual’s
autonomy. For many centuries women were economically dependent on their husbands. But after
the industrial revolution more women began to enter the workforce. Greater educational
opportunities also opened up certain previously inaccessible jobs to women, enabling more of
them to become financially independent (Brown Reference 35). Women have fought a long and
almost voiceless battle against their oppressors, beginning with the notion that a woman was
better seen not heard. It wasn’t until almost half a century ago that women were given even the
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slightest consideration, but today, it is evident that women have made their share of contributions
in education, business, and economy, just to mention a few. As both women and men continue to
delve in the workforce and in all aspects of life, there seems to be no need to be tied down by an
institution, such as marriage, to govern patterns of living. For some, marriage is just an obstacle
that keeps a person from attaining the full potential of his or her career and lifestyle; therefore
The second reason is that being married is expensive. Liz Davidson lists in an article on
Forbes.com that there are five types of expenses that should be considered when a couple is
married: day to day expenses, major purchases, investments, taxes, and gifts for each other. The
list is self explanatory, married couples have more to worry about when it comes to expenses
especially since married partners generally consolidate their finances (Williams 173). Making a
small salary doesn’t help with being married, either, even if both spouses had a steady flow of a
small income. Also, studies have shown that the hardest [tax] penalties hit low-income earners
(Davidson - online). The five types of expenses might apply to a single person, as well, except
on a much lesser scale. The mentality that ‘two is better than one’ will not behoove a couple in a
Finally, a marriage is unnecessary for the simple fact that almost all emotional, physical,
parental, and financial attributes of a marriage are still possible for an unmarried couple. Think
about each one separately. When dealing with emotion, love is usually what drives most people
to get married. What people don’t understand is that you can love someone and not have to
marry them. Love should not be limited to the traditional matrimonial celebration; if it was then
there would be no need for ‘boyfriends’ and ‘girlfriends’. When a couple thinks the only way of
physically being together is by getting married, then they have overlooked a myriad of other
options. Cohabitation, for one thing, should be the first on the list. In fact, cohabitation might just
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solve all the woes and sorrows of being away from the person of your dreams. With cohabitation,
there is less pressure for commitment, so the individuals in the relationship keep their autonomy,
while fulfilling other needs such as the company of your loved one, great sex, and a warm bed to
sleep on at night. Most couples also think that the only way to have children is by getting
married. Despite religious beliefs, let’s be realistic: A person does not have to be married to bear
children. Chances are we know someone, who knows someone, who knows a friend who has had
There you have it, three reasons why marriage is an unnecessary part of life. An
individual need not limit his or her ambitions and way of life to the confines of a marriage,
otherwise happiness will not result. In the same light, an individual should not have to worry
not it will be enough for two. Lastly, almost everything done in a marriage can be matched in a
simple cohabitational relationship, so there should be no cause for alarm! Marriage plagues the
minds of everyone, whether it’s deciding to get married or not, it will forever be a tug-of-war
Works Cited
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The Brown Reference Group plc. Family and Society. Danbury: Grolier, 2003.
Williams, Brian K, Stacey C. Sawyer and Carl M. Wahlstrom. Marriages, Families, and
Intimate Relationships. Boston: Publisher's Design and Production Services, Inc.,
2009.