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Chances are, if you're asking "Is God against premarital sex?" you're either looking for
an excuse to engage in premarital sex or you are hoping for a reason to NOT feel guilty
because you already have.
The good news is: You CARE what God thinks. Even better news is: He cares what you
do.
Is God against premarital sex? In the Bible, premarital sex is lumped in with other
"fornication" or "sexual immorality." The short answer is: God is very much against it.
It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality (1
Thessalonians 4:3).
The Apostle Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians that we, as Christians, have invited Jesus
Christ to live inside us. So any sexual sin we commit also stains our great Savior who,
through the Holy Spirit, wants only to unite us with God.
The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body
(1 Corinthians 6:13).
"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he
who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple
of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your
own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body" (1 Corinthians
6:18-20).
In addition to breaking our fellowship with God, there are plenty of common-sense
reasons to avoid premarital sex. It can result in guilt and shame, AIDS or other sexually
transmitted diseases, and unwanted pregnancies which may then tempt us to consider
abortion.
What about those who say premarital sex is OK because God gave us our appetite for
sex and therefore it must be good?
We should remember that God gave us all sorts of appetites, but our sinful nature
makes it possible for us to turn even the best of appetites into gluttony.
The theologian C.S. Lewis made this point by looking at our society's obsession with
nudity as evidenced by "strip-tease" clubs. "Suppose you came to a country where you
could fill a theatre by simply bringing a covered plate onto the stage and then slowly
lifting the cover so as to let everyone see, just before the lights went out, that it
contained a mutton chop or a bit of bacon. Should you not think that in that country,
something had gone wrong with the appetite for food?" Lewis wrote in the book Mere
Christianity.
Or look at how strange it would be if we pursued food the way some of us pursue
promiscuous sex. We would purchase a steak or a succulent lobster, admire it, cut off
one juicy bite, chew it up, then spit it out, and toss the rest in the trash. Then we would
order something new and different to taste.
We would be silly to forget that food has something far more valuable to offer than the
flavor. It offers nutrition - without which we would die.
The commitment of marriage is what adds the nutritional value to otherwise frivolous
relationships. It offers each partner opportunities for refinement and sanctification as
they work through the problems that they would simply flee in an uncommitted pairing.
We should also remember that when we resist the temptation to engage in premarital
sex or other sexual immorality, we are storing up favor with God, as we see in James
1:2-3:
"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you
know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance."
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 couple opens up emotionally to each other through the marriage act, which solidifies
In checking a source on sex before marriage in the adolescent health care section, it was
interesting to note the sex before marriage topic followed the teen suicide topic. It is
unclear if the editors of THE ILLUSTRATED MANUAL OF NURSING PRACTICES were
considering any related concerns between the two subjects. Along with the emotional
bonding of sexual relationships, this article will bluntly discuss STDs (Sexually
Transmitted Diseases).
AIDS is the foremost STD everyone is quite aware of, which is spread by the HIV (virus).
It isn't a pleasant sight to watch someone die of AIDS. Most of the world's AIDS patients
die alone. Those who willingly have unsafe sexual practices including sex before
marriage, run a greater risk of contacting the disease. Besides the horrible physical
symptoms of AIDS, it also causes much pain, degradation, anger, and depression. Take a
few moments to count the cost of being sexually active before marriage. Is it worth the
few moments of pleasure?
Many STDs are present without symptoms until the disease is far advanced. Treatment
becomes difficult in diagnosis and control, because partners must be listed with the
medical community to be alerted of the STDs that are being transmitted by sexual
partners. A short list of STDs is gonorrhea, syphilis, genital herpes, genital warts,
trichomoniasis, and urethritis (usually caused by Chlamydia), which poses serious
problems in the system of the kidneys. Lack of control of STDs leads thousands of
women to develop secondary infections in the pelvic region, which in turn causes a high
percentage rate of infertility. Should a woman become pregnant, she will pass the
disease or blindness caused by the disease on to her baby. Young people can help
prevent the spread of these debilitating, incurable, and sometimes fatal diseases by
saving themselves for their spouse in marriage. These diseases can be transmitted by
sexual activities currently believed to be safe, such as oral/anal sex or clitoral
stimulation. These diseases have a higher rate of infection than AIDS.
God created the sex act for a man and woman within a marriage. Besides being
pleasurable, sex is meant to be a spiritual experience that extends past the marriage
bed into the everyday life of a married couple. It is not just setting up house together.
The sex act locks the couple together in the purpose that God has set before them. The
the continuing unity of the couple in living their lives for God. God intended for sex to
help couples work out indifferences between them, along with the need to procreate.
Rarely does a premarital sexual relationship stay together long enough to make it to
marriage vows. People engaging in this activity will experience the heart rending
emotional upset that comes with breaking up. And when people experience multiple
breakups, it numbs them to a marriage commitment of "until death do us part." They
have conditioned themselves to run, instead of working out the problems that arises
within marriages. Divorce statistics are higher when the couple engaged in premarital
sex or lived together before deciding to marry.
The teenage years constitute a normal rise and fall of emotional hormones. Adding
sexual activity to their curriculum compounds this process of becoming fully adjusted
young adults with properly balanced emotions, physique, and spirituality. Peer pressure
to have sex before marriage creates a need to make decisions pertaining to problem
solving. Statistic rates are high in being emotionally/physically/sexually abused within
their premarital sex relationships. Without a good family support system in place, a teen
could easily make unwise problem solving decisions and slump into a state of
depression that would cause the teen to consider suicide. If you or your child is
struggling with sexual addiction, consult a local Christian counselor or a leader in your
church.
When people choose to participate in premarital sexual activity, they will take virus,
fungi, bacteria, yeast, spores, or parasitic contamination into the marriage bed once
they decide to commit to one partner. Saving oneself for marriage keeps the marriage
bed pure from the attack of the germ world.