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Step A
Read each statement, determine whether the statement applies to you Most Often (M),
Sometimes (S), or Least Often (L) and circle the applicable letter number combination.
1 Situation: When I am really angry at someone, I usually feel M=2 S=1 L=0
anxious or confused about what to say
2 When I am really angry at someone, I usually think, that I should not M=2 S=1 L=0
express my anger directly.
3 When I am really angry at someone, I usually behave by not saying M=2 S=1 L=0
anything to the person so as not to hurt the person’s feelings
4 Situation: When someone is really angry at me, I usually feel M=2 S=1 L=0
confused and afraid or the need to avoid the person.
5 When someone is really angry at me, I usually think that I am M=2 S=1 L=0
probably at fault or that the person does not like me.
6 When someone is really angry at me, I usually behave by backing M=2 S=1 L=0
off, apologizing or not really saying what I feel.
8. When I communicate with an authority person, I usually think that I M=2 S=1 L=0
really shouldn’t bother the person or take up too much time.
9. When I communicate with an “authority” person. I usually behave M=2 S=1 L=0
apologetically and awkwardly toward the person
10 Situation: When a person makes an important request of me, I M=2 S=1 L=0
usually feel uncomfortable saying either ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to the request.
11 When a person makes an important request of me, I usually feel M=2 S=1 L=0
nervous or anxious about refusing the request
12. When a person makes an important request of me, I usually behave M=2 S=1 L=0
in the way the person wants to refuse and apologize for my response.
13. Situation: When I make an important request of a person, I usually M=2 S=1 L=0
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feel anxious or reluctant about approaching the person
14. When I make an important request of a person, I usually think that I M=2 S=1 L=0
really should not be imposing on or bothering the person.
15. When I make an important request of a person, I usually behave M=2 S=1 L=0
hesitantly or awkwardly while making the request.
16 Situations: When I am around a new group of people, I usually feel M=2 S=1 L=0
anxious or confused about how to start a conversation.
17 When I am around a new group of people, I usually think that they M=2 S=1 L=0
are more relaxed than I am or that I don’t have much say.
18 When I am around a new group of people, I usually behave M=2 S=1 L=0
cautiously and wait until someone comes to talk to me
Stop and add your score (Max. score = 36) TOTAL SCORE
Step B
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LOW STRENGTHEN HIGH
A low score on Deference is You currently identify the A high score on Deference
positive. This means that you Anxiety Management skill as indicates a potential problem
are claiming Anxiety one that is at an average level area. You can benefit from
Management as a current of development. You can learning and improving the
strength. Continue to find ways improve this skill and make it Anxiety Management skill.
to refine and enhance the a strength. Work through the lesson to
Anxiety Management skill fully develop the important
interpersonal communication
and relationship skill of
Anxiety Management.
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Step C
Exercise
How you communicate depends on the situation. Use the following guide to learn the
process of changing your communication style. Describe a recent incident or situation
where you deferred to someone else.
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What are your feelings about your nonassertive behavior in this situation
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Exercise
Complete the following exercise and use it as you develop the Anxiety Management
emotional skill into an intentional habit.
A EXPLORE How do you think, and behave when you use this skill?
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Cognitive Focus. Managing Anxiety so that I can say what I really think and feel
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Action Focus. Choosing assertion when in stressful situations
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