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being defiled through their marriages to unbelievers. Paul’s response is that,
to the contrary, the unbelieving spouse is sanctified through the marriage to
a Christian.
We also see in 1 Pet 3:1-2 that Peter mentions marriages to unbeliev-
ers. Notable here is that he instructs wives to submit to their unbelieving
husbands, indicating that marriages to an unbeliever should follow a similar
pattern to marriages between believers.
It does happen to be the case that both of these passages addressing the
topic of marriage to unbelievers do not specifically address new marriages –
they only address people who are already married. However, to attempt to
conclude based on this that new marriages are forbidden is stretching the
plain meaning of the text beyond the breaking point in an attempt to find
something that’s just not there. Isn’t it exactly this kind of legalism we are
supposed to be free of?
None of this means that marrying an unbeliever is easy or something
you specifically should seek out. But I have seen truly tragic situations
where a young man or woman was essentially commanded to leave his or her
betrothed, and it’s unnecessary and contrary to scripture. I have also seen
multiple times people saved through the influence of a spouse - although I
must be clear that you cannot count on this happening.
It may surprise you to learn that the early Christians had no religious
ceremony for marriage. This is because marriage was not considered a specif-
ically religious institution. Of course, it was religious in that it was created
by God and reflected the relationship of Christ with His church. But this
was true also of marriages between unbelievers. For Christians who think a
marriage is not valid unless performed by a pastor or other clergy, simply
look at some of the scripture discussed above to see that, in fact, marriages
are perfectly valid even when none of the participants are believers! Until
the 1500s in Europe, the church considered a simple declaration between a
couple to be enough to initiate a marriage, even if no witnesses were pressent.
The church only gradually asserted control over marriage, exactly as it only
gradually began to engage in many other practices contrary to scripture.
The idea that we are forbidden to marry unbelievers is reasonable, natu-
ral, and completely wrong. I encourage you to consider what I have written
and read scripture with an open mind and the guidance of the Spirit.