Wrong Reasons For Getting2

WRONG REASONS for
GETTING MARRIED
Francis O. Nmeribe
Author of
Foundation for Joyful Relationships
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Wrong
Reasons
For
Getting
Married
Francis O. Nmeribe
Author of

Preface
Our lives are made up of choices. When I
was a little boy growing up in my village, I
overheard my uncle‟s wife one day lament
that she had put her hand inside a pot full of
meat and picked out a bone. She was
referring to her hard luck in marrying my
uncle.
As a growing man, a senior friend of my
decided to marry “so that he would be
considered responsible in society”. In those
days, we were not in any way responsible in
our manner and conduct. Every week he
stole money from his company through
falsification of documents and we spent it
drinking throughout the weekend till
midnight Sunday. So he really had a reason
to put up an act for the appearance of a
responsible man.

Only months into the marriage, the 18 year
old girl he married at age 42, was already
heavily pregnant. We could see that the
pregnancy preceded the wedding ceremony.
The usual problems ensued. I overhead the
mother of the girl lament, “My daughter has
put her hands inside a pot full of meat and
picked bone”, in reference to the quality of
husband she married.
In the heat of the problems that followed this
marriage, my friend told me that he had
married this girl an attempt to dissuade his
younger brother from an adulterous
relationship with the mother of his wife.
Wow! That sounds like a plethora of wrong
reasons for getting married to anybody.
There are quite a number of wrong reasons
for getting married. We would in this small
book review six of such reasons. If you
know any other wrong reasons, add them as
a comment in our website or my blog –
www.successpublishers.com.ng and
http://marryright.wordpress.com.
These wrong reasons fly in the face of the

purpose of the marriage relationship. They
ensure that those involved in them live
„unhappily ever after‟.
There are only two reasons for getting
married that support our desire and need for
happiness. They are:
 Companionship, and
 Procreation
And these reasons need to be applied in that
order – companionship first, then
procreation second. The good Creator
Himself made it clear in the Bible account of
creation when He said: “it is not good for
man to be alone…….let us make a woman –
„an help meet‟ for him…..”

There are right and wrong reasons for
getting married. The worst thing a person
can do to oneself is to marry a wife or
husband for the wrong reason.
If you need help in making important relationship decisions during dating,
courtship and marriage, contact Francis Nmeribe for coaching and guidance
@www.successpublishers.com.ng email: successpublishersng@gmail.com

Wrong Reason Number One
Marrying Out of Sympathy
There are quite a number of wrong reasons
why people marry.
One of the wrong reasons and, perhaps,
among the most prominent of the wrong
reasons is marrying out of sympathy.
There are many scenarios under this
subheading of marrying out of sympathy
that relationship coaches experience in the
course of counseling and coaching. Some of
the most common ones are when the woman
gets pregnant as a result of premarital sex
and getting married to a person just because
one‟s brother or sister jilted that person.
Between these two extremes, are those who
start relationships with girls who are being
maltreated by those they serve. Some men
get involved with the neighborhood maids or
relations of their neighbours who are being
maltreated. Women fall into this kind of
challenge too.
When sympathy forms the basis for a
relationship with the opposite sex, it is like
playing with a keg of gunpowder over a
fireplace. Sympathy is a powerful emotion.
It so overpowering that it becomes difficult
for the parties involved to consider the
critical elements in the foundation for a
joyful relationship such as friendship, power
to understand other people‟s mindset, etc. If
the man is the one sympathizing, he is so
enamored into what he sees as the Good
Samaritan‟s job that he does not consider
what stuff the woman is made off, her
attitudes, desires and mindset. He does not
stop to find out what life purposes she has,
what goals she is focused on and how all
these could jell into his own desires. If it is
the woman that is sympathizing, she goes
through the same emotions and also begins
to think that if she saves the young man, he
would remain loyal to her forever.
Findings, however, have shown that the
truth is far from what these sympathizer-
lovers are thinking. If as a result of your
efforts the captive is set free, he or she will
do what all captives do, “flee”. Fleeing here
may not mean running away from their
sympathizer-lovers in a physical sense,
though that has been known to happen with
people who confess that the only feeling
they had was to escape the environment. In
many instances, the sympathizer-lovers
begin to act as saviours and lordships. This
is usually resisted, first psychologically and
later verbally. And there goes your peace
and comfort.

Marriage relationship requires that both
parties are open to each other. Open –
meaning that there are no secrets in their
hearts that the other partner would not be
allowed into. Once these secret feelings are
there, it produces reactive communication
instead of responsive communication.
These sympathy missions when it emanates
from the premarital sex pregnancy, the
woman does not fully get happy in the
relationship. This arises from the fact that
as the usual challenges appear in the scene,
instead of the woman finding a good reason
to endure; she only thinks she is in a mess
occasioned by the pregnancy. Some have
confessed that if they did not get pregnant,
there is no way they would end up with the
man they are married to. Instead of seeing
the usual marriage and child rearing
challenges as learning opportunities, they
mortify themselves for getting pregnant.
And some of the time, they blame the man
for putting them in the family way. Some
blame the child that resulted from the
pregnancy. Hatred for a child has been
known to have grown from such situations
creating lasting bitterness.
For the men, having not evaluated the
character, demeanor, temperament of their
spouse before marriage because of the
overpowering influence of the emotion of
sympathy, when the woman shows her real
character, they are usually overwhelmed.
They see themselves as having made terrible
mistakes. They now live the rest of their
lives in regret, withdrawal or wickedness or
under the influence of these three negative
but powerful emotions rolled together.
It is necessary that we have it ingrained in
the tablet of our hearts that the only reasons
good enough for marrying anybody are
companionship and procreation. The
foundational elements for joyful relationship
when established will help in the process of
understanding these right reasons. If while
in a relationship with the opposite sex there
is no opportunity to build friendship and if
an understanding of the basic purpose of
marriage is not clear to both of you, then
there is no other reason why the relationship
should continue beyond the next few hours.
Interestingly, many marriages out there are
based on sympathy.
Young single adults (18-30 years of age)
and single adults (31 years and above)
should not marry anybody for the purpose of
saving face or to save somebody from
suffering. Instead of cornering yourselves to
this quagmire, why not follow the
appropriate dating, courtship and
engagement practices where no sexual
intimacy is included. There is need to
remember that sexual intimacy is only
appropriate in a legal and lawful marriage
contract. You need to remember that the
basic purpose of sexual intimacy is mainly
for procreation and to cement
companionship.
The excitement and pleasure that
accompany sexual intercourse is purposed to
invite people to take the responsibility that
comes with it. Any other use of sexual
intimacy outside legal and lawful matrimony
is a transgression of the law. And law
breakers must bear the full weight of the
law. In most cases, there would be no
external police to arrest you and no external
court to try you and no external prison to
sentence you. But there are internal version
of the police, the court and the prison and a
large farmland where your hard labour

would be performed if you commit this
offence.
What is the way to go?
Here is the way to go. Instead of focusing on
sympathy, those planning to get married
should focus on what matters most – the
purpose of marriage – companionship and
procreation. Remember the good Lord
Himself said of Adam in the scriptures: “it is
not good for man to be alone” (Genesis
2:18), hence He made Eve to keep him
company. Do not forget also that the same
Creator gave them a commandment to
“multiply and replenish the earth” (Genesis
1:28). This is the creator‟s approval for
sexual intimacy in marriage relationship
with the intents and purposes clearly spelt
out, though. Latter-day Saint prophets have
clearly stated that “sex between a man and a
woman in a legal and lawful marriage is
ordained of God”. There are the
foundational elements that must be
established before continuing in the plan for
marriage with someone. These include
friendship, mutual respect, honour, virtue,
integrity, love, etc. Both parties ought to
know and understand these fully. This
knowledge and understanding would bear
relationships as the foundation of a building
bears it. Marrying for any other reason is
like standing the building on its roof. The
book – Foundation For Joyful Relationships
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practiced would guarantee success in
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There is a foundation for the thriving of the marriage relationship. The elements of that
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Wrong Reason Number Two
Marrying For Money
“The love of money is the root of all evil”
This is the second in the series of wrong

reasons for getting married that we are
discussing. Money is critical to all
development; be they scientific, social,
emotional and even spiritual. However,
marriage, and I mean marriage between a
man and a woman is a fundamental business
to all life‟s endeavours. The only wise
reasons for marriage that I can vouch for are
companionship and procreation and for me,
it should be in that order. The book of
Ecclesiastes in the Bible state that “Two are
better than one; because they have a good
reward for their labour. For if they fall, the
one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him
that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not
another to help him up”.
In modern day scriptures, we learn a new
dimension – the eternal destiny of marriage
relationships. Even at this level, the
ultimate end is the eternal companionship of
a male and a female with potential to rise to
godhood.
It is on these premises that marrying for
money is situated as a wrong reason for
marrying somebody. Marrying for money is
a major challenge to the joy and peace in a
relationship. It is perpetrated by both men
and women. You are familiar with the
phrase “gold digger” label on some women
or men in relationships where one of them is
considered rich and the other poor. Granted
that it is not in all cases that a poor marries
a rich that is gold-digging situation,
however, many people, men and women at
par, have made decisions to marry another
person because he or she is rich.
Experience has shown that this is one of the
greatest mistakes a person could make in a
relationship.
Some of the challenges we have seen
include the fact that riches or a lot of money
is transient. There are no guarantees that the
money would remain with the person. There
is a saying that “a fool and his money are
easily parted”. If the one you married for
his or her money is a fool, and since it is his
or her money that brought you to the
relationship, it then means that you could be
out there a widow or widower with a living
spouse before you could settle down in the
marriage.

In other situations, gold diggers are easily
noted and the gold mine usually starts
behaving like a goldmine owner.
Remember the sufferings that those who
work in gold and diamond or even coal
mines in Zimbabwe, South Africa and
Enugu-Nigeria go through. That is exactly
what would befall the gold digger. No
matter whatever love that has been
proclaimed in the process of contracting that
relationship, it would always wither away
easily and the master-slave relationship
would take over.
There are also cases where the two scenarios
above do not quite apply. But those in the
relationship, especially the one who took the
decision, find out, and sooner than later, that
the money is not what he or she really
needed. The money is not able to be a
caring man or woman with capacity to take
care of the emotional needs of the one.
The pitiable condition of those who marry
someone for this very wrong reason is better
imagined than experienced. Relationship
experts and marriage counselors would tell
you from their experiences that the
emotional trauma and devastation that
follow the realization that the money and
whatever lures it held soon become a
phantom in a painful imagination.
money, those planning to get married should
focus on what matters most – the purpose of
marriage – companionship and procreation.
Remember the good Lord Himself said of
Adam in the scriptures: “it is not good for
man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18), hence He
made Eve to keep him company. Do not
forget also that the same Creator gave them
a commandment to “multiply and replenish
the earth” (Genesis 1:28). This is the
creator‟s approval for sexual intimacy in
marriage relationship with the intents and
purposes clearly spelt out, though. Latter-
day Saint prophets have clearly stated that
“sex between a man and a woman in a legal
and lawful marriage is ordained of God”.
There are foundational elements that must
be established before continuing in the plan
for marriage with someone. These include
like standing the building on its roof.

We all look forward to relationship with the opposite sex with much excitement. And we
ought to, because our lives, progress, joys and blessings depend to a large extent on how we manage
our relationship with the woman and the man we elect to live our lives with. At the back of our minds is
the question of how to do it right. Nevertheless, relationship with the opposite sex has been the major
source of our anxieties, sorrows, pain and anguish. Many people are hungry and thirsty for what is right
– they need direction especially on the issue of relationship between the sexes. The definition of what is
right and how to differentiate what is right from what is wrong has become a very critical issue in our
modern times. This book is timely because it addresses the fundamental problems plaguing our society.
If we all have come to accept the fact that the family is very important to the society – that it is actually
the basic but very important unit of the society where all values are to be inculcated, then, such a unit
more than any other, must be built on a very solid foundation. As dating/courtship relationship should
normally precede marriage relationship, which eventually creates the family unit, then, it makes so
much sense to pay attention to this book which will help to lay that solid foundation for all to achieve
that peaceful and joyful relationship that we all look forward to in life.
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Wrong Reason Number Three
Marrying Because Time Is Against Me
“Nothing is achieved in haste”.
How time flies. Ladies, as young girls, had

dreams of rosy relationships with the
opposite sex culminating in love, marriage,
joyful sexual experiences, childbirth and
family life. Most of these dreams are really
virtuous. Some have dreamed of not having
any premarital sex and for those beautiful
experiences of entering into their married
life a virgin and the first night of sexual
intimacy with their husbands on their
honeymoon. For many these dreams come
true. For many more, these dreams end up
as a mirage. They do not just end up not
realizing the dream of a virgin marriage;
they come to the point where marriage
would seem untenable.
As these girls grow into womanhood 18
years and about, they are either lured by
over-bearing and patronizing men who
confuse them with lots of gifts or fake
affections, which take away their virginity
and let them know afterwards that it was just
a game. Or sometimes, peer pressure
impress upon them that virginity is not a big
deal after all. These young and growing
women either get confused or decide to play
the game. One mistake and another, they
lose their focus, their grace and the dream of
a virgin bride vanishes. Then the
opportunity to even marry in their prime
also vanishes as one blunder follows
another. Before they are able to see what is
coming, they are in their thirties.

Some got involved in academic pursuits and
made decisions that meant that marriage
must wait. Others pursued career paths or
professions that took many years to reach
the point of settling down. In places like
Nigeria, industrial action by the academic
staff and student and political unrests may
mean that academic calendars get disrupted
for several years.
For many a man, especially in the third
world countries, they may want to make it
big first before thinking of getting married.
In some cultures, the men would still be
struggling until they are forty or more before
discovering that the time is far spent.
At this point, they become desperate. They
want the marriage thing to happen now. In
this state of mind, the appropriate reasons
for marriage are not considered as important
as being married is. In this situation, the
foundation for joyful relationship, a
condition precedent, is no longer a
consideration.
Many a lady has in response to the situation,
pushed the men to engage in premarital sex
with them with a view to making them
decide fast. This booty-giving usually
backfires. But when they work and make
the man decide, either because the woman is
pregnant or other reasons, you have a
marriage that is entered into for the wrong
reason. The attendant challenge with
marriage under these circumstances is that
the foundation for the relationship to be
joyful is not there. It is not laid, in the first
place. This is the time when you have
marriage of „strange bedfellows‟ outside
political philosophy.

In most cases, it is better that someone stay
single than to get involved in this type of
relationships.
Some of the challenges faced by men are
that when they finally wake up to get
married, there is nobody within their age
group available. They end up marrying
someone in a different generation with them.
The generation gap is usually a difficult
issue to manage. While the man is probably
interested in highlife music, the woman is
interested in rap music. While the woman is
relating with younger generation and finds it
hard to accommodate the friends and
associates of the man, the man is having a
hard time accepting the woman‟s friends
also.
One such man whose case came to the
limelight had within the first few weeks of
the marriage indicated that the marriage
would not work because of how he
interpreted the wife‟s behaviour. And it did
not work.
the fact that time is running out, those
planning to get married should focus on
what matters most – the purpose of marriage
– companionship and procreation.
purposes clearly spelt out, though. Latter-
day Saint prophets have clearly stated that
“sex between a man and a woman in a legal
and lawful marriage is ordained of God”.
There are foundational elements that must
be established before continuing in the plan
for marriage with someone. These include
like standing a building on its roof.

Wrong Reason Number Four
Marrying For Physical Attraction
“All that glitters is not gold”
Physical attraction is quite important in any

relationship. One young man once said that
he is prepared to suffer any hell in the hands
of his wife, provided she is a beauty to walk
the road with and make others jealous.
There is a popular saying that “the eye must
first eat of any delicacy before the mouth”.
These are various ways used to express the
feelings people have in their hearts about the
place of physical beauty or attraction,
especially the relationship of the sexes.

A lot of people have fallen for the physical
attraction trap in their relationship only to
wake up on the other side to see that they
have been „holding the tail of a gecko‟, an
expression indicating that one has no
substance in his or her possession.
Physical attraction and all that is connected
with it is the most transient of all elements
in human relationships. In one hand, it
usually does not last beyond a few months in
a marriage relationship. The feeling it
excites is easily overwhelmed by the
demands of marriage that very few see it
after only a few months of marriage. On the
other hand, it is easily destroyed after one or
two pregnancies for the women. For the
men, lack of money easily erodes whatever
physical attraction a man brings to a
relationship.

Lots of people have been known confessing
after a divorce or other major marriage
challenges, suddenly realizing how pretty or
handsome their spouse or ex-spouse is. This
meant that physical attraction was not able
to sustain the relationship during the period
of hardship or other relationship problems
that always arise.
Physical attraction is a good garnishing for
all relationships. However, it remains a
garnishing and nothing more. It can be
compared to the roof of a building. A
building does not stand on its roof. It stands
on its foundation.
The brain is the most important sex organ in
the human being. With this in view, the real
value of physical attraction in a relationship
further diminishes. Instead of physical
attraction, can we try mental attraction? We
can use our brain to create and improve our
attractiveness and how attractive a person
appears to us.
physical attraction, those planning to get
married should focus on what matters most
– the purpose of marriage – companionship
and procreation. Remember the good Lord
ordained of God”. There are foundational
elements that must be established before
continuing in the plan for marriage with
someone. These include friendship, mutual
respect, honour, virtue, integrity, love, etc.
Both parties ought to know and understand
these fully. This knowledge and
understanding would bear relationships as
the foundation of a building bears it.
Marrying for any other reason is like
standing the building on its roof.

Wrong Reason Number Five
Marrying For Sexual Prowess
“Sexual intimacy in marriage is a mere garnishing”
You would be amazed to know how many

marriages are contracted just because the
man or woman is so hot in bed. If the
statistics reported by some surveyed
counselors and relationship coaches are
anything to go by, then the figure would
alarm you. As alarming as the figures
would appear, it is more alarming to learn
how fast those marriages crash and the pain
and sorrow that trail both the crashed ones
and those that are still hanging on. My
father taught me that had I known said,
“even if given a hundred bags of money, he
would still come at last”. Nowhere is this
proverb more fitting than in the case of
marriage contracted because of the sexual
prowess of either of the partners.
Many women have lamented – „the way he
made love to me made me think he loves
and cares for me‟. Men have often been
heard saying – „she is so hot, she devoured
me like she would not let me go out of her
life. All these have come as those involved,
men and women, are licking their wounds,
wondering aloud what befell them in the
misadventure of their marriage decision
influenced heavily by the sometimes
uncanny sexual prowess of those they got
involved with.
Sexuality is an ingrained natural trait
embedded in the brain of every human
being. Sexual prowess can be developed by
practice. Just like the power of numeracy,
this can be attained, enhanced and improved
over time by everybody no matter their
status, experience or lack of it and their state
in life.
Most men, when they consider marriage, the
only thing that seems to be on their mind is
to be able to have access to unlimited sex.
During the initial relationship with the
woman in their radar, the most important
consideration for them is how she would
happen in bed. For this, they look for things
akin to physical attraction, her curves and
several other things than what matters.
When they meet with this woman, they
shoot the aura of masculine sexual
invincibility.
For many women, when they think that they
are in love, they are actually lusting after the
imagined sexual prowess of this really
macho looking man. They are easily
influenced by the aura of masculinity and
their own imagination of how hot a sexual
encounter it could produce. When this is the
barometer for deciding who to marry, then
the relationship is already doomed to failure.
Ongoing research is indicating that the
longest lasting value of a sexual intercourse
session is for a period of one hour. The
average is actually less than twenty minutes.
sexual prowess, those planning to get
married should focus on what matters most
– the purpose of marriage – companionship
and procreation. Remember the good Lord
ordained of God”. There are foundational
elements that must be established before
continuing in the plan for marriage with
someone. Both parties ought to know and
understand these fully. This knowledge and
understanding would bear relationships as
the foundation of a building bears it.
Marrying for any other reason is like
standing the building on its roof.

We all look forward to relationship with the opposite sex with much excitement. And
we ought to, because our lives, progress, joys and blessings depend to a large extent on how we manage
source of our anxieties, sorrows, pain and anguish. Many people are hungry and thirsty for what is right
– they need direction especially on the issue of relationship between the sexes. The definition of what is
right and how to differentiate what is right from what is wrong has become a very critical issue in our
modern times. This book is timely because it addresses the fundamental problems plaguing our society.
more than any other, must be built on a very solid foundation. As dating/courtship relationship should
normally precede marriage relationship, which eventually creates the family unit, then, it makes so
much sense to pay attention to this book which will help to lay that solid foundation for all to achieve
that peaceful and joyful relationship that we all look forward to in life.
Purchase
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Wrong Reason Number Six
Marrying Because Of A Family Name
Years ago, I lived in the Police barracks at

Onitsha. There was this young man from
Sapele residing with his mother and a
stepfather close to my apartment. Anytime
he notices Ibo boys around his sisters, he
warns them not mess around with the Ibo
boys, because, as soon as they are ready to
marry, their mother would bring a girl for
them and tell them to marry her because she
is the daughter of Mr. Okonkwo. He would
then get into a story of how the mothers
would try to entice their sons to marry this
girl because she is Okonkwo‟s daughter. Do
you not remember Mazi Okonkwo who has
lots of large farm lands, palm plantation, the
first person to ride a Whitehorse bicycle in
the village, she asks? Mazi Okonkwo has a
lot of money. This girl‟s mother is a well
behaved woman. She is leader of the women
in our Church.
It was so funny then and we had good laugh.
In these modern times, the parameters are
still the same except that you hear such
things as “that guy‟s/girl‟s father is the
Minister of Education, the Commissioner for
Information, the Managing Director of this
company and the Chairman of the other
company or Bank. You hear things like, her
mother is a relation of the Emir or the Obi or
the Oba or the Amanyanabo of one place or
the other. His father is a business magnet
based at Aba, Onitsha, Ibadan, Kano or
Lagos, etc. Two of his or her brothers live
in the United States of America. His or her
family name opens closed doors.
Nothing can be more absurd than basing a
decision to marry someone on the above
grounds or any other like it. The truth,
however, is that many marriages were
contracted in the past and are contracted
today and would be contracted tomorrow on
these flimsy bases. Sad as this may appear,
it is, undeniably the fact.
One classic example of international flavour
where marrying a family instead of your
spouse produced a catastrophic disaster is in
the marriage between Prince Charles and
Lady Diana. Prince Charles was in love
with Camilla but the Queen did not know
her family. So she vehemently opposed the
plan and then ensured that Prince Charles
married Diana who is the daughter of a loyal
military officer in the Royal Courts. The
rest of the story is well known to all of us.
The ruins produced by that marriage is still
remembered annually. Prince Charles is
now married to Camilla after the disastrous
outing with Princess Diana.
Some years back, a transportation magnet
that I worked for in the Eastern parts had his
daughter marry the son of a money-powerful
merchant in the same city. The marriage
which was arranged to ensure that the two
young people do not bring in someone from
a poor or unknown family more than for the
benefit of the two young people lasted for
only six months. This is in spite of the fact
that there were cars and houses given as
gifts from both families. The great
entrepreneurial family names did not help
the marriage but instead ruined it.
While the above real life scenarios are at the
big time level with a lot of wealth and fame
and name behind them all, there are several
localized incidents of marrying because of a
family name around the world today in the
small villages and towns. The result is
exactly the same.
One of the challenges faced by those
marrying because of a family name is that a
lady who chose to marry a man because of
his family name most times wake up to find
that she is sharing her beautiful life with
black sheep of the family. Some of the time,
the poor guy is a good soul, but the usually
overbearing power of the head of the family
robs the lady of an opportunity to have a
husband in the real sense as everything the
man has to do is to be cleared with the larger
family. Sometimes, the man end up with the
little brat of the family who has grown up to
know and feel or know nothing except that
the family money and name is talking and
have to be listened to and waited upon.
Some of the ladies never learned anything
about relationships and how to build a home.
Their parents‟ family lives, more often than
not, are nothing to write home about and
that is all she knows.
Marrying because of a family name is akin
to marrying for money. He or she usually
considers the other person as a gold digger.
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